9 Mindset Shifts to Escape the Achievement Trap | Ed Mylett

23:13LeAnn Rimes:I've like, I've never done, I had never done that. Like I love this man. This is a good man. I've never would stop. I was just doing life. And then this idea of like getting alone with myself and being quiet and like just being with my breathing and these were so difficult for me. And when they were difficult for me, I thought, well, maybe that's because it would be so valuable for me if I could do it. And so for me, forms of meditation have helped me a lot. Sometimes like actually writing for me can be a form of meditation. So what's worked for you? Like if you were to share with someone who says, I got anxiety, I got worry, I got fear, I got anger.

23:51LeAnn Rimes:What has actually worked most of the time? Yeah, I mean, I think that piece of creativity is super important. I mean, we're all creative beings. That is our nature. And I think until we nurture that nature and find a way of doing that. And I think what's so interesting, too, is we are all so unique. Like what works for one person will not work for the next person possibly. And, you know, it's just you have to find your own path with it. So I dip in and out of things all the time. Meditation is pretty much a non-negotiable for me, even if it's five minutes. during the day. I just need to sit, breathe.

24:27LeAnn Rimes:Um, and you know, I'll take in an inhale and like, and do it like double time, uh, double longer XL that usually will help my anxiety a little bit. Um, but yeah, I mean, I've really gotten into recently, um, working a lot with my physical body, like balancing my hormones. Like I've, I kind of went from the beginning meditation and breathing to now like going running the gamut of pretty much everything you can think of,

24:52Ed Mylett:Me too.

24:53LeAnn Rimes:But, you know, physical, mental, spiritual, like emotional, it's all important. You can't leave one out. You really can't. Writing, I think, you know, has been such a big thing for me also. Creating. And I, yeah, it's interesting that you just said, because something clicked for me, is you said that, you know, we get projected upon, like the things we're good at, things we're not good at. I think leaning into the things I've been told I wasn't good at. Like I, I, I don't like to dance. Like it really, I do not like to move my body. And there was, I think that also has to do with, um, old, uh, religious programming too.

25:32LeAnn Rimes:Um, but it's, I had this whole thing around, someone told me one time that I was a better singer than I was a dancer and I stopped dancing. and which by the way like I might have been a fine dancer but if you're gonna tell me a better singer I mean I'm like I'm I was exceptionally good at singing so I like I couldn't dance that well too um but yeah I felt like I just stopped doing it and so for me finding what those places are that feel really uncomfortable and even if it's for me putting one song on and like moving my body freely is in when I do that, I'll ball, like I'll ball and I'll have so much joy at the same time.

26:13LeAnn Rimes:And then I'll stop. I'm like, okay, if that's, that's kind of my threshold of how I, but how I lean into those things. But I feel like it's finding those places for people that are scary and walking into them and they don't have, you don't have to just, you know, run and jump off the cliff. Like just dipping a toe into things to expand who we believe ourselves to be. Yeah. Like it just, it opens our lives up in every other aspect, not just that one little space, but in every other aspect of our life starts to change. You're so right. That's where I want to go to. You're like doing the interview for me, but like I tied up my identity into everything outside of me all of my life.

26:59LeAnn Rimes:So like if I made money or I got a muscle or whatever it was, it was my identity was always tied to the external. Man, it worked for me for a long time. Yeah, it does. It works. It works. But it like when I got wealthy or whatever, like I it never was quite what I thought it would be when I would get there. And I think it was because I had I had tied it to the external instead of like like I I just love this work. I love doing this work. So you had to have had your identity completely tied up in being famous or being a singer. And did you, have you unpacked that at all? Like someone, listen, your identity could be that, and stay with me, your identity could be that you're a mother.

27:41LeAnn Rimes:Well, someday, by the way, someday you'll be an empty nester. And then what? Right. So, so it could be anything out there, but did you, you must have had a lot of that. It's still tied up. And to a certain extent around my voice, I went through this few days the other day where I was thinking like, what could I live without? and when i really yeah like could i live without my voice and that was one big one where i was like i don't want to but if i had to i guess i would have to and i just looked up at the sky i was like don't do that so you know this is not an invitation let's not prove it to test that theory right but i you know i there was like my wedding it was interesting things like my wedding ring like was really it's really important to me and yeah it's a random little things that i was like powerful question yeah it was and it was like okay well maybe that's because of how important like relationships i was told how important relationships were at a certain age you know like well how are these things how are why why are the the few things that i wouldn't really want to let go of why are they so important so i went through that for a moment and my my voice is definitely one of those weird things when you're born into this world with something like that and you know as you get older like things shift and change and I know that I'm not gonna be doing this my whole life you know I mean who knows but I mean I I at some point I I feel like I want a different experience that's been the new thing for me too is that that whole term different experience um especially when shifting things it's like oh I want a different experience what's a different experience look like so it's been something I've been playing with and I know for me like I will want a different experience one day than being on the road yeah so and I don't know I mean I've I've had moments like look COVID you know gave us an opportunity to kind of untangle from all of those things that we were attached to and I did for a moment and I was I was okay with it I was okay with it I think look I you know I just released an album I um I haven't I don't even look at charts anymore.

29:51LeAnn Rimes:I don't know what it did. I really don't. And maybe part of that's self-preservation. And also part of it, though, is not the reason I do it anymore. The reason I do it is to connect with people and help them shift or help them question. And it's really, yeah, it's so interesting how my reason for doing things has shifted. Changed. It really has. What would someone listen to this and they just said, hey, I'm curious to hear. I saw you on a stage. I don't remember whose event it was. It was Louis's. Oh, yeah. It was Louis's. I swear I met you. Yeah. Yeah. And I had to go up after you, I think. You did?

30:29LeAnn Rimes:I think I had to go up after you. I was like, I'm not, I rarely have ever had that feeling in my life. I don't want to go up after that because the room was so moved. I just thought, she's going to be doing this too. Like, meaning this, meaning like leveraging this gift she has, but it was much more like direct approach. It wasn't like just enjoy my work. There was a message, spoken message, some chanting with it. I'm just curious. I'm surprised you haven't gone further down that road. It's something I want to do. Yeah, well, maybe today's the beginning. Yeah, no, right? It is. It's funny when you asked me to come on here, that's what I thought about.

31:06LeAnn Rimes:And I remember you saying to me, you came up after and you were like, you've never done this before? Right. Because I had such a, I was going through this whole thing with Louis. I'm like, I don't speak. I speak during my shows, but like this is, you're asking me to give a speech. and he's like just come do it for like 10 minutes and then you can sing and then we'll have a chat I'm like cool I can do that but it did get me this bug of this is another way for me to share yes and connect with people and when you asked me to do this it made me think of that I'm like you know what I need to do that I've been speaking for 30 years one time ever I went I would really prefer not to go up right now after that person and it was you I'm serious and it's not because you can sing better than me I think that's kind of a given I was like no something just happened in the room right now that I'm not so sure I can match or do anything better than.

31:51LeAnn Rimes:And I, I'm dead serious when I say that to you. And it's the heart. It's the heart. I mean, I think that I was so open. I mean, I walked up on stage and just started bawling because it was, I was conquering. And that's what I talked about. I was, I'll cry now. I was conquering a huge fear. Yeah. And I know that that's also the reason why I haven't done more of it. But I, the reason as I'm crying, the reason I know I need to. Which is rather remarkable that you of all people were uncomfortable getting up in front of a group. But the lesson in it, the reason I bring it up is the lesson. I made a post Saturday about this.

32:23LeAnn Rimes:Like, start a new hobby. You said a new experience. That's the pathway to bliss, everybody. That's the pathway. Is to do something new that you feel ill-prepared for. That's a bit scary. But maybe you have some potential proclivity for it. Like, I shouldn't decide that right now I'm going to start doing 360 windmill dunks. it's just not a lot of dudes that are my build that are doing that right now so it's got to be something that you have some proclivity for but create a new experience like even if you're great at something to your point like you're you're the best at what you do but do you want that to be the entire experience of your life yeah right like that's the juice of life and so what I was so proud of you not even knowing you that day and then to watch you just go wow but I remember thinking this is probably something she's going to do a lot of and then really you haven't very much since that time.

33:11LeAnn Rimes:No, I haven't since then. Well, but also COVID happened along those lines too. But it is something that I've, I just had this huge meeting the other day with my team and I'm like, that is, that is on the docket of things to walk into. I did. Well, you just got introduced to a couple million more people. So it's really good. I did, I did a chant record during, during the middle of COVID because I felt like people just, people needed it, which was something new for me. I've never kind of branched out and did that. And then I think that kind of, you know, that informed this new record. And I'm also working, I'm working on a chant too at the moment.

33:48LeAnn Rimes:So I'm wanting to create this whole like sound experience for people. You guys, when she does this, it's unreal. It's unreal. She did it that day. It's unreal. That was a great conversation. And if you want to hear the full interview, be sure to follow the Ed Milet show on Apple and Spotify. Links are in the show notes. Here's an excerpt I did with our next guest. So you know how when you're doing something that's good for you and then you stop doing it, all of a sudden you feel, what the heck changed? So here's what happened to me. I've been feeling great for like a year and a half. It's because I've been on IM8.

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35:55LeAnn Rimes:This is Rob Dyrdek. And this is a guy who at 16 years old dropped out of high school. He founded a professional skateboarding league. He's been a professional skateboarder. He's got 21 Guinness World Records. He's a media stud. He's a rock star in the entrepreneurial space. He's a branding master. But most importantly for me, this is a guy who's a tremendous husband and a great father. And we're going to pick his brain about how he's accomplished all of those things here today. So thank you for being here, brother.

36:22Ed Mylett:Thanks for having me. I've seen the in video now to experience what it's actually like to be here live. It's so much more beautiful and remarkable than I could ever imagine. Thank you, man. I appreciate that. So, let's

36:35LeAnn Rimes:be honest, man. You've had a pretty interesting life so far.

36:38Ed Mylett:I have.

36:38LeAnn Rimes:I certainly have. I like

36:40Ed Mylett:to say I've lived a lot of lifetimes already. Do you feel that way? I do, yeah. What do you mean when you say that? Look, you want to be a professional athlete. You have this obsession and pursuit and you achieve that like then you take that and now like i want to i want to expand this and be uh take this into television and then you go and live this entire television life uh all these different businesses and different things you go from athlete to stunt guy to business guy to father to husband you know so uh each one of those is a is a pretty pretty significant chunk of life that's completely different than i am today i want to figure out

37:17LeAnn Rimes:how you did that and I know the audience does too because they see this guy on TV obviously I think arguably you're the face of MTV you know from by the way what's interesting about that too is for multiple generations too yeah here I am at my age you're the face and then my kids you're still the face for them and so the career's just been unbelievable and I'm fascinated by you because when I saw you on TV I kind of had this picture of who you were which I think is probably accurate to some extent but then there's these multiple layers of you like there are all people yeah and So what I try to do on the show is get to those other layers.

37:47LeAnn Rimes:And so let's just start out. How does a dude who drops out of high school at 16, okay? So there's a lot of people watching this who, you know, don't have advanced degrees but want to go win in their life. Or maybe they're a parent and they've got a child who's struggling in school. Did you drop out because things weren't going well in school? Did you drop out because of the whole skateboarding thing? I'm just curious.

38:05Ed Mylett:Yeah, look, you know, I dropped out because I just was a professional skateboarder, right? Right. Like and I, you know, one year in my junior year, I got straight A's for the semester just to show them like, look, it's not even hard for me. It's not even a matter of if I need to do it. This is my dream. This is my passion. I achieved it. I'm now a professional skateboarder. There's no, you know, in that year, in between that year, I had went to my first pro contest in Munster, Germany and got fourth place in the world championships. and all my signature product had launched that year. And, you know, I was like, I don't need to go to school.

38:45Ed Mylett:It's just not in my path. I'm not going to go to college. I'm not going to, I'm going to move to California and be a professional skateboarder. And so even though I don't fully remember this, my mom tells me the story of going in and them all trying to tell me I have to go to school. Like principals, counselors, everyone, all one room. And I just like convinced, sold everybody on like, and they were like, you want to know what? He probably doesn't. We should probably just let him go.

39:08LeAnn Rimes:You're already marketing and closing people.

39:10Ed Mylett:Yeah, and so, you know, it was really the beginning of just let him, he's going to pursue whatever he's going to do on his own. And you've got to just sort of let him do it. And that's sort of the process that allowed me to get out of school. And I still had to go and take a night class, so I got enough credits to get a diploma. Got your GED or your diploma, okay. Is there a difference between a GED and a diploma? Yeah, I think that with the diplomas, you still had enough credits to graduate, where a GED would be, I believe, not a formidable or a complete formal diploma. Yeah.

39:47LeAnn Rimes:So how do you get there? How do you get from, you're 16, you drop out. Were you making enough money at the time that you could move to California, or what happened?

39:55Ed Mylett:Here's the thing. In December of 1991, I sold one board and got a check for$2. Okay. And I needed that$2, you know, because that was all the money I made that month. And I actually broke that up into quarters and went and bought a bunch of sodas that were at a quarter Dr. Pepper machine. But, you know, I think, you know, even in that era, I would track all my finances. Right. I would say back then when I was 16, I'm a bra. I got to treat myself as a business. And, you know, I, you know, I would got$400 check one month and a 600. And then it was all scattered in that one devastating December where it was like$2.

40:33Ed Mylett:and in the spring, you know, the company was growing and was ultimately like, hey, if you move to California right now, we'll guarantee you$1 ,000 a month. And I was like, you, what?

40:48LeAnn Rimes:What?

40:49Ed Mylett:Out of here, man. I felt like I hit the lottery. Like, it was just like, what? Me and a buddy of mine who was also about to turn pro, like jumped in our Honda Civics and shot across the country to begin our professional skateboarding career in San Diego. That's crazy, man.

41:07LeAnn Rimes:So you get there. I'm just curious as this is happening, because people listen to this because I look at you, I think some people look at you as the TV guy. I look at you as the entrepreneur guy. And what's awesome about you is there's so many different marketplaces out there that see different versions of you. Some of you see the athlete. Some of them see the branding guy with whether, by the way, the multiple brands you built from alcohol to apparel to you know the the food business that you and i are a part of now all these multiple brands and then there's obviously the tv show there's the producer there's there's just all these layers to you did you see all this like you're 18 did you were you already kind of like a business savvy guy or were you a skater professional skater dude and that was it no i mean i was business i was raised by entrepreneurs right you got to understand even the company that

41:51Ed Mylett:I turned pro for was guys that I knew since I was 12 that moved back from California who started the alien workshop the company I turned pro with with my entrepreneur mentor who lived in Dayton Ohio at the time they all formed that company together and then there was a couple other guys with them that started other multiple companies that I was a part of this is all that I watched at 14 15 so in my mind this is just what i was supposed to do so even though i i treated myself as a business and you know was watching my finances and all this stuff i started my first soup to nuts built my first like pure brand at 18 right where as soon as i got to california i did a partnership with a big manufacturing and distribution company uh and started orion trucks I was reading a book at the time called the Orion prophecy, you know, I was super into conspiracies and aliens and I was in my teens and like I was like, man, like we should name it Orion.

42:52Ed Mylett:I hand drew the logo was like the star with an O around it. I put together You know five of them literally the most accomplished top-level pros in the world which then went and got two guys a piece in Orion trucks when it came out was the literally the the dream team of skateboarding that I had built for this accessory and I did all of that for 0.5 % of sales.

43:21LeAnn Rimes:So you have it kind of going. Like you got this entrepreneurial fever. You got the skateboarding thing going. And then there's like kind of this time. I just want everyone to hear this because as an entrepreneur and as a man, as a person, I should say, there's just false starts in life. Like you get going and then you don't. You make progress and then you regress. And then I don't think you're ever prepared for every moment. Like you weren't prepared for the 0.5. You didn't know to negotiate the right percentage or any of those things. But right around 24, there's another kind of like defining time for you at least one of them doesn't doesn't your team come to you and go hey look we think you're kind of toast now so what tell them about that

43:54Ed Mylett:look and in in that gap now i've found huge success right now i've helped launch the dc footwear brand and and moved to california and now become a superstar in skateboarding and all this stuff's going and and but i it wasn't fulfilling me right oddly enough like the pressure of of being in the streets and being a pro skateboarder just wasn't like like my angst to want to do bigger things in business and do other things besides skateboarding became incredibly problematic i was launching all these different businesses that i didn't know anything about the industry's record labels and and retail stores and all this stuff with this newfound money that i had helped develop by creating dc shoes and all the royalty money i was making at this time getting hammered on life lessons with taxes you know when you first make big money starting all types of dummy companies all over the country trying to like put my money in different places nevada corpse and whatnot

44:53Ed Mylett:and i equate it to this i lost my way and along losing my way i lost the belief in myself right and and when you're have had success your whole life where you were a young kid you played soccer you became a top soccer player you decided to pick up karate you become an amazing taekwondo fighter uh you pick up skateboarding you path straight to professionalism but you're everything first companies everything you do you're doing like so when you grow up with a deep self-belief and everything you do uh works thus building this deep foundation that anything you put your mind to you can achieve it's a much more dramatic loss yeah when that drifts from you right because belief becomes a part of your identity right which is connected to your ability to achieve which since that's what you've been doing your whole life you don't know any other way so when that dips from you it's a much more painful more dramatic thing i think a lot of you know big athletes like when what attends they struggle man or the ones that were chosen ones from from junior high all the way and they get into their third or fourth year in the league and get hurt or like now you don't even understand how to like manage your identity because it's had this trajectory for so long 100 right and it was compounded when uh dc basically told me they thought my best years were behind me and that this would be the last contract you know and I think that was and I can I can say it in hindsight and telling the story so many different times of like really knowing like now it was like you lost the belief in yourself and at the time I sought out a I was looking for a hypnotherapist right like just to hypnotize me uh to be a better skateboarder right I was like hunting all these things right and uh i found dr george pratt at la jolla scripts and what he did was this technique that was he wrote a book called hyper success and he basically uh did this hypnotherapy to just give your um inner cell your subconscious the belief that it was meant to have great success and whether it was the moment in time it was like being at the pit whatever it was but at that sort of uh 24 years like it was that moment of like no you've got to take control of of all of this and from that point on i told them at the time i said you know i don't and at the end of this contract i'll be a completely different person and then i rededicated my life to like skateboarding and and you know took all all the way back to like top 10 in the world again and then like all the signature products and all the filming and image and brand and everything just exploded basically from that point straight into television you know four or five years later.

48:02LeAnn Rimes:Usually when I interview somebody you know they've accomplished something in their sport and we talk about that or they've accomplished something in business and we talk about that. The complexity of what you've done I wonder and it's probably even a good thing that you don't always just step back and go wow right but the complexity of and how many times you've remade yourself because that lesson at 24, that lesson at 16, I think there was another lesson when you're preparing yourself, we're going to talk about later, for finding someone like Brianna, that whole thing. See, I had this really weird thing happen.

48:31LeAnn Rimes:I'll tell you, when Max was six years old, I was at this car wash and this really nice guy I'd see there all the time on Saturday, the old guy. Turns out he's about my age now, but at the time he was old to me. And just at a nice sense, he says to me, he goes, hey, enjoy the six-year-old because when he turns seven, the six-year-old's gone forever. And when he turns seven, or when he turns eight, the seven-year-old's gone forever. And you've got little kids, you know, man, they just keep becoming these different versions of themselves. And I remember saying back to the guy without trying to be disrespectful, I said back to him, I said, so when did that stop for you?

49:01LeAnn Rimes:And he just stared at me kind of blankly. And he goes, I don't know. And I said, you should figure that out. And what I respect about you is that you have not settled. The 18-year-old version wasn't the same at 24. The 24-year-old man doesn't even resemble the 43 year old or the 44 year old or the 24 year old right just it shifts all the time i respect that about you so that happens and then you go on from there we can't document your whole life let me say this to that too right because i think i've heard you

49:29Ed Mylett:say before about how you're you're in pursuit of the vision of of you know something to the effect of you're pursuing the vision of the man that you you expect yourself to become right something to that effect. And I, I, I would say when I finally shifted to that, that in that pursuit of that individual, I also knew that that individual was slowly changing with the experience that I was having pursuing it. Right. And it's not that it it's this, you're pursuing something that's not attainable. It's with experience and knowledge and understanding of yourself, because you're on the journey just to master you that the more you begin to master you the more that ideal version of you begins to evolve too so you're in this sort of relentless pursuit that's clear that i think at some point it becomes fully optimized the fully optimized version of yourself is who you will catch up with like that won't forever be elusive and oh my gosh that's right And I think because we're so similar in that sort of idea, it's the moment I realized that growth is actually one of your key attributes.

50:43Ed Mylett:Like embrace it and enjoy what you're able to achieve, but know that that's not part of your makeup. Like the relentless pursuit is actually your makeup. Oh my gosh, brother. And that changed, it allows me to not, very difficult to look back and reflect because I mean, I just enjoy the pursuit so much. You know what I mean?

51:07LeAnn Rimes:Me too. I've heard you say about this too. You make me feel really good because although we're a little bit different personality wise, you're probably the most similar person to me that I've met maybe ever. And just that, it's even harder to describe, but we're both just so obsessed with this pursuit of growth and change and experiences in life. And one of the things I struggle with is my memory. Yeah. And I know you do. So a lot. I know.

51:33Ed Mylett:The gift and the curse.

51:35LeAnn Rimes:It's a gift and the curse. I think maybe one of the gifts of it is I don't remember all my failures that just hold me back and I keep telling all these old stories. But I really do have a hard time remembering things. In fact, when I get interviewed, the great gift for me when I'm interviewed is it forces some recall of memories I didn't have before. You have that too, right? What do you think that is? 100%.

51:52Ed Mylett:I don't know, but just talking it out, thinking about it with somebody else that experiences it, I think it's more gift than curse. Now, it comes back to haunt you when you're trying to remember the details on certain things. And it jams you up. Where it jams me up at this state is I'm taking in and learning so much at a high level, and then it pushes out stuff that I could really use again when I want to use it for another situation, if you will, especially in business. But I also, it's also made me super conscious of stuff that I really want to know that I want to remember and never forget that I tell myself that as I get there, right?

52:35LeAnn Rimes:Meaning when a major moment happens, you have to go home.

52:37Ed Mylett:In the engagement, getting wedding, children, like a moment with children. Like when I really, even just recently taking the helicopter to Catalina to celebrate my three-year anniversary, like I kept telling myself as it were flying over the city and look at the ocean, like don't, like just feel this. Like remember this, look at this, remember this. So it's like I have to practice that and those lock in, right?

53:06LeAnn Rimes:That's why, you guys, if I started to try to list for you the amount of moments that he can't remember, but also that have been amazing in his life, some of you, you just would literally, it is what he said earlier, it's many, many, many, many, many, many, many lives, right? So I want to touch on some of them where there's lessons, but I just, I'm going to spend most of my time in your brain and in your heart. But you go all the way from, let's be honest, you go from Robin Big, you got Ridiculousness, right? You got all of the moments that happened on all of these shows too, right? Fantasy Factory, like all of these different things.

53:39LeAnn Rimes:It's just, it's bananas. And so, I'm going to -

53:42Ed Mylett:And keep in mind, Fantasy Factory was basically a moment generator. You know what I mean? From getting attacked by a shark to jockeying a horse for a race to like flipping a car for a Super Bowl commercial, breaking a world record, jumping a car backwards. It's like getting towed into a giant wave and almost dying. Like all these crazy, crazy, crazy highlight reel that no human being on the planet Earth has. Correct. Right. Is.

54:07LeAnn Rimes:Did you just hear what he said, by the way? Just, just slow that down just a second. Okay. A mauled by a tiger, bit attacked by a shark. You kissed a bear on the lips. I kissed a bear. Right. And then.

54:16Ed Mylett:It's an easier one.

54:17LeAnn Rimes:So let me just stay on that just for a second. Because like those are once in a lifetime moments you've had over and over and over again. Right. So stay on that just, meanwhile, kicking ass in business. Meanwhile, founding a skateboarding, it's just like you make me feel small, which is awesome, right? And keep in mind too, they are fully intertwined.

54:38Ed Mylett:What do you mean? How is that? I'm negotiating a deal, a five year, like multi-million dollar mega deal with Nike, right before, like I gotta hang up the phone and break a world record for jumping a car, ramp to ramp, 90 feet backwards, right? for a giant Chevy integration deal that Chevy's going to do a deal for being a part of our league while launching a complete new company. It's like you're taking phone calls in between this sort of chaos and sort of all aspects of your life. That was a six or seven year run of doing all this insanity while doing all of your business and normal stuff inside it.

55:17LeAnn Rimes:So that's maxing out these different areas. The pun is intended, right? But like, so there are people out here who use the complexity of their lives as an excuse not to succeed in any one of them right so oh god i'm a dad and i've got my business and i got my you know soccer league or whatever it is how did you do that so if you were to say here's one of the reasons how i can compartmentalize and win in

55:36Ed Mylett:different areas what would be one of the keys just sheer drive and and relentless pursuit of success now the problem with that was is here you are you know someone that can do anything you you end up you have the ability to do anything so you end up doing everything then you end up kind of standing for nothing right so you end up meaning so much to so many different people you you're not even sure what you stand for like are is your passion business do you want to do stunts are you a tv guy like do you want to be the commissioner of your league do you like skateboard like what is like i had to stop and realize that because my hope was if i just kept doing all this stuff one of them would show me the way right so and as someone that's so driven and whose gift is execution the moment you decide to do something you're gonna do it I'm gonna do a cartoon in a toy line like okay I got a cartoon on Nickelodeon and a toy line in Walmart I got attacked by a shark to launch it I'm gonna do a new television show I got this I've read an article with Vinnie DeBone I'm gonna do this clip video show it's gonna be the biggest thing ever did like like you end up doing all of these things and you basically behind that there's 20 of them that aren't working that you're putting that same energy of running into the wall with right and and furthermore it's not leading anywhere since you're hoping one will determine what your future is right and i stopped and and yes i i would look at myself as this highly conditioned stress athlete where you could you could put yourself under the deepest pressure and and you know take on 50 or 60 things at a time and operate smooth and happy and But it wasn't until I looked deep within myself and decided, what type of life do you actually want?

57:39LeAnn Rimes:It's easier to do when you're sort of in the midst of failure externally. But you did it in the midst of success.

57:44Ed Mylett:And so this is what it does, right? When I finally transition to the next level or the fully designed version, which I'm on my way, I would say I'm exactly two and one half years into. Then I'll speak about it and it'll be what I'm known for and what we talk about. Because since I'm in the middle of transitioning in it, when you look at my body of work, it is so all over the place. It's so hard to land on what it is because the stunt aspect is really interesting. you know what i mean and being a professional athlete and then like oh you jump up and and oh now you're doing all these businesses we're partners together and this super innovative amazing brand like like oh but then no you're still uh shooting nine episodes of television a week you know what i mean and like you're still uh you know entering your uh 12th 13th and 14th season on on ridiculousness putting you at 10 years and 25 seasons and 500 episodes of television on MTV, like it's hard to put down like what does he really, what would he be known for when really you would know me primarily for MTV if you know business or you've had a conversation then you're like, okay, this guy's like tuned in.

59:07Ed Mylett:But my goal is to be known for the life that I created, the life that I lived and the way that I systematized it and built it that ultimately people could replicate in their own lives in the future.

59:23LeAnn Rimes:Yeah, the example is gonna be bananas. I actually admire the diversity of your success. It makes a lot of fun. I mean it's like brother come on.

59:32Ed Mylett:I mean and I'll tell you another moment too man when I after I got attacked by that shark. Yeah. Because I'm like this is so dumb. This isn't even this isn't even gonna be good like why am I doing this? That's every stunt.

59:46Ed Mylett:Every afterwards like no one in the world but I remember swimming up off of the looking down on the on that boat and stopping as I was swimming up and there's like 50 sharks swimming around telling myself just look and soak this into your mind because you will never be back right you know and and I have that uh to go along with the great photo of that like shark on my arm you know what I mean like but that

1:00:16LeAnn Rimes:For all the achievers, though, and for me, I just want you to know something. You mention it, but I've got to be honest with you. It's one of the things you're supposed to say to me. I don't think I personally, and I'm an achiever and I enjoy my life, and people come to me for advice on how to live better, but I think I could do a better job of telling myself, hey, man, stop what you've said, the flight to Catalina, the shark thing. Stop. I think achievers have to do that once they're all. Stop. Appreciate this moment for a second, man. it's not coming back again you know and I you and I are talking about your kids at their ages and you know it made me think that I appreciate all those moments when they were two when they were infants when they were three when they were eight and ten and I didn't you know and I wish I could

1:00:59Ed Mylett:go back in those moments again think about it too though you think about how optimized you are as a man today versus when they were born true right and and the lucky thing for me is I I had evolved to a place where being super efficient and using my energy for what I'm only passionate about and having clear goals and vision for life is the foundation that I started with for the family. So I've never missed a pediatrician appointment. I've rarely I've never missed waking them up very rarely when I'm gone or putting them to bed. Right. And that's by design. That's by moving out of a fantasy factory in downtown and living in Hollywood to a home in Beverly Hills and an office in Beverly Hills and being super close as you're developing this life and creating a plan for how I use my time and my schedule.

1:01:56Ed Mylett:You know what I mean? Everything is systematized around full balance. I take my first meeting at 11 a.m., my last one at 5. It never changes. I don't compromise my schedule and my time with my family and wife in my pursuit, right? I fit it inside it, you know?

1:02:15LeAnn Rimes:Whoa. So say something about that. So we're going to, I want to get into this life thing now, because I love the word about optimizing your life. Since the second we talked, the first time we talked was going to be five minutes, it was turned into a little long phone call. We actually together talked about these things. Like these very topics are what you and I discussed when we first connected. Of all those stunts you had though, I'm just curious, because it leads to life. We're going to go into life stuff now. So you had to deal with the tiger chasing you down and mauling you that to me even for me i don't know why that's even scarier than the shark thing for me seeing that sucker run after you dude like they're trained i don't give a crap sharks in

1:02:53Ed Mylett:the ocean but he was biting my neck and they kept saying put it down put it down because i was the it oh you know what i mean like i'm like is this guy supposed to be doing this like dude they're a

1:03:05LeAnn Rimes:millimeter away from some artery like dude there's just come on man that's i'll say the scariest

1:03:09Ed Mylett:thing of all of them was jockeying a horse for a race. Like that was the scariest of all of them because the car stuff, you're in a cage, like you're covered in the mesh here, trained tiger. Like when you're on the back of a horse going 40 miles an hour, like if you, when you can barely, if you get shot off that thing, you're basically in a, like a car wreck with no car, right? Like that was the scariest thing. Are you hearing what we're saying to each other right now? Like,

1:03:36LeAnn Rimes:You know, it was scarier than getting bit by a shark. It wasn't the tiger. It was riding the horse. But then for me.

1:03:41Ed Mylett:It feels good to be able to say it. You know what I mean? It must feel good. It's like, I don't think about it so often. But then just even talking about, comparing them and thinking about it. And the fact that I own that as a highlight reel forever. It's on real, brother. It makes me happy. Yeah.

1:03:54LeAnn Rimes:And it's also like, hey, man. Look, being on TV all that long for some people would be scary. Staying at the top that long can be scary. You know, not wanting to fall off the totem pole you've climbed up. The flagpole. All those things. But I want to ask you about one of the stunts you did, because I think, at least for me, it would cause me to do a little reflection. So of all of them you did, the one that captured my heart the most was the one where Laird drags you on the, I think it's Laird, on the Sea-Doo into riding the wave. Yeah. Okay. And so you ride this wave and you crash and you thought you were going to die.

1:04:26Ed Mylett:Yeah.

1:04:27LeAnn Rimes:Of all of them, is that the one that you were the most sure you were going to die in the middle of? I'm curious.

1:04:31Ed Mylett:No, I mean, it's the only time in my life that I was dying.

1:04:33LeAnn Rimes:So tell me about what happened there and what it did to you.

1:04:37Ed Mylett:I'm... And you know, the trippiest thing about it, too, is like it was pouring rain. And I swear the moment I stepped in the water to do it, it stopped raining in a rainbow, went right over it. Right. And I'm like, what's what? Like, it was freaky enough. We're like, what is going on? Like, it was just this freaky sort of moment in time. So it like already had this like weird tone. And if you can imagine, like, and then, like, some of the local Hawaiian guys were, like, asked where I was doing, getting towed in. And they were like, ooh, it's real sharky out there, right? Sharky? Yeah. Was this after the shark thing or before?

1:05:15Ed Mylett:Like, this is way after. Okay. It doesn't, when you're doing, like, you know, getting a Bahamas reef shark with a metal thing, like, it's super controlled. Trold. When you're laying on your back in the deep ocean and all you can think of is, like, shark coming up from underneath to get you. I didn't even, I wasn't worried about what was going to happen in that wave. I just wanted to get up so that I don't get attacked by a shark, right? And if you can imagine this, you know, I've grinded a 20-stair handrail and flipped a car ramp to ramp and done all these crazy stunts. And you face them. You face the danger.

1:05:51Ed Mylett:On getting towed into a giant wave, it's behind you. So, like, you, like, I'd never surfed before. It was literally the only time I'd ever surfed in my life. You had never surfed before. Never surfed before. And it was like the first wave I ever surfed was like 18 feet, right? Dude. So it's the most peaceful, amazing, like, you know, cause you can't see it. And like, you're like, whoa, you know what I mean? Like, what do we, and then it's like a house crashes on you and you don't like, you can feel something coming. You can start to hear it and then just wham. And now you're in like this fight, everything in you to just get to the surface, right?

1:06:27Ed Mylett:So, you know, it's really weird management of emotions and experiences as it's related to when you get into kill mode for stunts, right? Because you have to shift into a mindset of like where you basically, you get to a deeply calm place because you literally, nothing else matters. and you understand that for this moment in time, you have to put everything you have into making sure that you do everything for this to work. It's a different level of mindset, right? Because your life is on the line for this moment. And it's so much easier when you're facing it and you go, go, go, go, go. And in this one, so as I did it and fought back up and then I want to get out of the water.

1:07:19Ed Mylett:I want to get back up, you know, all this. It wasn't as bad, right? So it was like, it was like, okay, it got up pretty good. Like that didn't, you know, it's still water, you know, I got spun around, but it wasn't too bad. Okay, let's, let's try to get a bigger one, right? Like, so you get into that zone. And now the problem was I got a bigger one and one right behind it. So not only did I get annihilated, but then as I was Like trying to find the surface, another one came down, and now I'm so deep and have no idea where the surface is. And, you know, believe it or not, this is a viciously vivid memory.

1:08:02Ed Mylett:Just out of death. Wasn't trying to, hey, you've got to remember this. You've got to die here. You want to remember this. You remember to hold on to this one. You know what I mean? No, no. This is like, you've like, like eyes open, spinning. it was just all white and I just remember kept trying to push to what I thought was the surface and I kept going nowhere and the light kept changing and I kept trying to find what I think was the surface and it all kept looking the same regardless of where I went and I was could not no more breath no more breath no more breath like as far as you can hold as far as you can hold as far as you can hold as far you can if you can't you can't you can't you can't and right as I like had to like pass out to take the breath like I popped right up and then he come flying and he was so freaked out right because it's all fun and games you're Laird Hamilton you're gnarly you literally don't even have the gene like to even be scared of like water you're like literally Aquaman so you're like of course you could do it Rob like he just looks at me he's like you're a stunt guy you can do this stuff easy he thought I died for sure and he just we are done he ripped me out of that threw me on the back we are done like he was so freaked out you know and you know of course we made that whole episode we wrote that episode around testing your man level yeah and we had decided i had reached it yeah you reached it and that's bananas the joke was like man you don't you don't want to get to the edge your man level because you really you really lose some layers your man level if layers got to give you mouth to mouth oh my god yeah right like right but yeah that that i think if people rewound that and they were listening to your description what

1:09:38LeAnn Rimes:it was like during that time. Some people feel like their life's in that place right now, man. Like they're just, everything looks the same. They can't get out of it. They can't get out of it. And really what you eventually, you just kind of surrendered. Right. And then thank God you popped up. I, that's my favorite story, by the way, of all the stunts is to think that you, that was the one where you thought you were dead. I mean, that's, it's insane. I want to ask you a couple of things you said, because I think that they're worthy of covering. You said earlier about your habits and routines and your rituals.

1:10:05LeAnn Rimes:And I've heard you talk about how that actually creates freedom for you. People usually think the reverse. They're like, hey, if I have all these rituals and habits and I've got no real freedom in my life, you would say that that's completely opposite, right? Yeah.

1:10:16Ed Mylett:Well, look, people call it habits, rituals. I think it's systems, right? The more systematized, the less you have to think of, the more freedom you have to think about other things. Like when you're optimized, you know you feel the best when you're the best version of yourself so the more like it is a machine and systematized for you to do it uh and it's based around you it's based around what are the things that ultimately help you and you can you can actually do you know and i would equate meditation to it okay everybody will tell you meditation is is great meditation for me is impossible okay you can't quiet yourself for me can't quiet myself I'll never be able to get there.

1:11:04Ed Mylett:It is, you know, even if it's great for the mindset, but I knew that eventually I needed to, right? And I eventually found a meditation machine, right? So what it now allows me to do is meditate every single day at five in the morning. I couldn't do it if I was just gonna sit there and try to quiet, but when I jump into my soma dome, which is basically like a giant egg with lights and sound and guided meditation, it now has become an essential part of my life because I needed to find something like that because that's what I needed to actually apply that to an habit. You found your system to meditate.

1:11:48Ed Mylett:And so for me, if you can imagine you're up in the morning at 5 in the morning, irregardless of how you feel, you're going to feel a lot of different ways when you wake up. and I go into that machine for mindset only. It is like I just think about everything I want to achieve and how it looks when it happens and every single layer and level and you pop out of that thing and you're just in a different energy, right?

1:12:14LeAnn Rimes:Very short intermission here, folks. I'm glad you're enjoying the show so far. Don't forget to follow the show on Apple and Spotify. We have all the links in our show notes. You'll never miss an episode that way. Now on with the show. Welcome back to the show, everybody. So grateful you've decided to join me again here this week. And this week, I have a question for you. Do you play hurt? Because I think playing hurt is one of the invisible skills of all the great ones. And if you think back in your lifetime, the people that you've been the most emotional about when you've watched them perform in sports or life in business, they were overcoming some pain they were in currently at the time.

1:12:48LeAnn Rimes:Typically in sports, it's some type of an injury that they have. And so I ask you, can you play hurt? because I think that's the great separator in life and in business is that the great ones are able to perform even when they're not at their best, even when they're hurt, even when they're wounded, even when they're down. And average ordinary people succumb to the injury, succumb to the pain, the down cycle in their life. You know, I really believe the separator in life is not what you do on the days where you're feeling great. You're feeling healthy. You're feeling emotionally strong. Everything's going your way.

1:13:22LeAnn Rimes:Everybody performs well on those days. It's what do you do on the days that you don't feel that way? In sports, especially the greatest moments of my lifetime in sports. We'll talk about them in a minute. I've been watching athletes perform under pain, under injury, under hurt. And in business, in life, you know, we're not on television. And so sometimes we don't realize that's the separator. The difference between winning and losing in life and sports is so small. It's almost too scary to talk about. One of the things that worries me is I have to be candid with you. I think everybody can help someone.

1:13:52LeAnn Rimes:But one of the things that's happened in the business space, the entrepreneurial space, is there's just so many people that are giving advice and information that have never built a business, that have never accomplished anything other than telling you how to accomplish something. And so oftentimes I hear their messages and I'll commiserate with other people that I know that have actually done something in their life. And like, can you believe that they teach this stuff and that people are believing this? I worry sometimes that you don't get told the truth about what it really takes to win and that so many of you are listening to so many different voices, many of which aren't qualified to help you in the area that you're looking for help.

1:14:25LeAnn Rimes:And I say that with respect because I think everyone can help somebody. But by and large, if I want to get fit and in shape, I want my trainer to be fit and in shape. If I want to become wealthy and build a big business, I want to listen to someone who's wealthy that's built a big business. If I want to become happier and more influential and more passionate in my life, I want to listen to someone who's done that. And so I know that one of the separators from the people that I know that have become mega successful in their lives is their ability to play when they don't have their A game, their ability to win and step up and sometimes play better.

1:14:57LeAnn Rimes:And so ask yourself this question. The last year on days when you were down or not even feeling physically well, you had the flu or cough or, you know, you had an injury that you hurt yourself and your knee or your back was hurting or someone had hurt your feelings the day before, or maybe a week or two before the day before you lost an account or didn't get a sale you thought you were going to get, or something's going on with your kids? How did you perform those days? Because that's the separator in life. And so we're so moved often by the people we see when they do this. I'll give you an example.

1:15:28LeAnn Rimes:I was recently moved by a young man, and I'm sure this will get back to him, and he might be surprised that I saw this, but a young man named Cade Ballou. And he's a college baseball player at Auburn University. I played college baseball. He's a lefty. I was a lefty. And so I took note of this young man but the reason I saw him wasn't because he played college baseball or because he played at Auburn he's a much better college player than I was by the way but the reason I saw him is that his mother had died and the day that his mother had passed away he still played in the game that night and I guess evidently went to the coach and says you know mom would want me to play tonight this young man under tremendous pain just lost his mother can you imagine just hours before he said I think mom wants me to play and this young man steps up to the plate I believe it was his third at bat, guess what he did?

1:16:17LeAnn Rimes:You know it. He had a home run.

1:16:22LeAnn Rimes:Mother of Auburn baseball outfielder, Kate Ballew. Stacy passed away this morning after a battle with cancer. Our hearts and Auburn baseball are with the Ballew family during this time.

1:16:43LeAnn Rimes:It's deep, it's gone! He hit it out of here! You know, some things just transcend the human experience and how sports can bring everybody together, and that's one of them. One of the most inspiring things I've ever seen in 32 years of coaching was Kade Blue getting a home run.

1:17:10Ed Mylett:First try, I got that ball. That's it.

1:17:16LeAnn Rimes:First one of the season. Hadn't hit a home run on all the good days. But he had a home run on that day to honor his mom when he was under tremendous pain. Where many people would have said, hey, hey, Kade, we wouldn't blame you at all, man. Sit out the game. sit out the weekend you know that's okay and by the way that would have been okay you know heal up a little bit you know there's so much this stuff in personal about healing and all that stuff and by the way i think you can take action and still win while you're healing and sometimes the winning can be the healing instead of just sitting around and machinating in your thoughts and trying to evaluate yourself all the time get up and do something right and i say that out of love.

1:17:54LeAnn Rimes:I would say this if you were my children. I talk to the audience as if they're an extension of my family. I also don't say these things sitting on some high horse because I've made the mistakes of not taking action on the days when I was down or hurting. I've sat out games when I was an athlete when maybe I could have played. And now in life, you know, as I got older, I realized that's the separator. And so Cade Ballou, man, congratulations, brother. Way to honor your mom. Just want you to know I saw it. And now you've moved millions of people through our audience here today. On the day he was probably hurting the most in his life, he stepped up and hit his first home run of the season.

1:18:27LeAnn Rimes:I have to imagine that inspired his teammates. I have to imagine that his mom's very proud of him. The rest of his family is very proud of him. By the way, would we have been proud had Cade hit a home run? Sure. Would I be mentioning a guy at Auburn who hit his first home run of the year on my podcast to millions of people if he wasn't hurt? No. And so what I'm saying is some of your greatest accomplishments, your greatest story, we've all heard the saying that your test can become your testimony. Your mess can become your message, but it's true. In fact, oftentimes this adversity is a gift. It's an opening to get something for your pain.

1:19:05LeAnn Rimes:I've always said that I don't believe God's going to give you pain without a gift on the other side of it. That if you look for the gift of the pain you're going through, that all pain is temporary. And if you can survive the temporary, whatever the pain is you're going through mental, physical, emotional, spiritual. If you'll survive the temporary, but while you're surviving and getting through it, look for the gift, look for the miracle. He's going to give you something. He's going to give you a new friend, a new relationship, a new insight, a new thought, a new talent, a new ability, a new innovation, a new whole new life oftentimes, a new reference, a new whatever.

1:19:38LeAnn Rimes:It comes your way through pain. And so this is the people that we admire in life. Think about in your sports life. Think about Michael Jordan. Of all the championships that Michael Jordan won, it was winning the 1997 NBA Finals, the flu game, where most people wouldn't have played. He had 104 degree fever. No one thought he was even going to show up and play that night. And somehow he comes through and wins the NBA title playing with the flu. Right? I mean, we remember this. It's iconic. Now, he won a lot of championships, but that's the clip that you see the most. Why? Because he played hurt.

1:20:12LeAnn Rimes:He played hurt. It's Tiger Woods of all the majors that he won. He won the 2008 U.S. Open, they tell us, on basically a broken leg. Are you kidding me? These are the stories of legends. These are the stories that are what icons do. And you have a chance when you're going through this down day, these are the days where maybe you're going through it today, and you're like, man, I needed this today, brother, or send this to somebody who needs it. My gosh, this is actually an opening for me. This is where I separate. This is my separation season. because almost, you know, it's, I almost get off in my mind on these days because I'm like, I know nobody's working as hard as I am.

1:20:47LeAnn Rimes:Not after how bad yesterday was not after how bad I'm hurting. Not after that let down, most people are licking their wounds and staying down. And there's all this stuff as well. Maybe you should stay down for a while. Evaluate what happened. Learn the lesson. Yeah, maybe, or maybe you should get your ass up and go back to battling, go back to fighting, go back to winning, get in motion again. I think you could heal, learn, and take action at the same time. Tiger Woods winning that U.S. Open on a broken leg, they tell us. Kirk Gibson in the 88 World Series hitting a home run coming off the bench.

1:21:18LeAnn Rimes:He was so injured, he couldn't play. He didn't play the game, and he didn't play at all after this home run. He had one at bat, limps up to the plate. He couldn't play a position, so they put him into pinch hit. He gets up there, two strikes. Dennis Eckersley, bam, hits a home run over the right field fence to win the World Series game. one of the most if not the most iconic home run in the history of baseball one of them why because he had a home run in the world series no because he had a home run hurt in the world by the way i was at that game funny anecdote my dad wanted to leave that game the inning before we got up to leave and we ran into my t-ball little league coach in the we were in the bleachers at dodger stadium and my t-ball coach says you don't leave world series games early mr might that.

1:22:03LeAnn Rimes:My dad went, all right. We walked back to our seats. True story. Sat down in the next inning. Maybe the most famous home run in the history of baseball was hit by Kirk Gibson, but we remember it because he played hurt. If you're really old like me, it was a year before I was born, but I heard about it all my uproar. Willis Reed for the Knicks coming out and inspiring his team to win. You know, when I speak, I walk out on stage to Thunderstruck by ACDC. Everyone thinks that's because he's such an ACDC fan. Well, I am a fan of that band, but that's not why I walk out. I walk out to ACDC when I speak because my favorite fighter of all time is Arturo Thunder Gotti.

1:22:39LeAnn Rimes:He came into the ring to Thunderstruck. My favorite fighter of all time, Gotti. Why? Because he was the best fighter of all time. Arturo was not the greatest fighter of all time. If you don't know him, go watch his clips. I don't care if you're a boxing fan, female, male, go watch Arturo, guys, because the shots he would take and keep coming. His fights with Mickey Ward. I mean, I'm just going to tell you, like inspired me to want to be somebody. If you think about the movies, it's Rocky Balboa. It's how he came back from being hurt. Cut me Mick, right? It's those are the things that move us. The greatest of all time, Muhammad Ali and how he beat George Foreman and would come back from being hurt.

1:23:14LeAnn Rimes:The wonderful Cary Scruggs. Most of you don't know this. One of the greatest clips of all time. Cary Scruggs, 1996 gymnast ends up basically winning the gold on a torn ankle. And I remember watching that and crying, literally crying when she won. I wonder, by the way, why do we cry when we see somebody accomplish something great and overcome something amazing? Whether someone heals from cancer and they come back and they live, or an athlete that overcomes an injury like Precious Carrie Scruggs did in the Olympics, and just the world cried watching her go through this pain and went. I submit that we cry when we see these great acts of courage because we know that exists within us and we're not using it.

1:24:03LeAnn Rimes:We're not even crying out of happiness. There's a part of it's like, why can't I do that? I have the same capacity. I'm also a human being. I want to be proud of me. I want to overcome my pain. you know the story that you're going through right now or have gone through it's only inspiring if you win it's only inspiring if there's a fairy tale there's only it's only inspiring if there's a lesson if there's a pot of gold at the end of the rainbow and so you got to play hurt and sometimes i'll be honest with you i think we exaggerate the pain we go through we make it a bigger deal than it really is you know i've had people cancel because well i've got a cough or I've got the flu.

1:24:42LeAnn Rimes:Heck, this is a Zoom call. I'm doing this today. My producer will tell you, I'm sitting here today. I've got at least two teeth that I need a root canal on today. I've got something wrong with my jaw where I can't really open my mouth to eat. It's enough that I can talk, right? And I've got the flu. But no one asked me to run a marathon today. They asked me to do six Zooms. I'm sitting in a chair. What's the difference between sitting on the couch and doing nothing and sitting here and helping change the world. And I'm not bragging about me. Heck, I'll just tell you this. I played this whole year hurt.

1:25:15LeAnn Rimes:I haven't been on social media in a year. I've had issues with my heart. I've had a back issue. That's just very significant. I've had surgery on my back. I've got it. I played hurt all year. It's one of the best years I've ever had. Now, has it been the biggest growth year? No, but I played hurt. Dion Sanders, coach prime was on my podcast a few weeks ago. His agent and my agent, Constance Schwartz was also on some of the most popular shows we've ever had. And Coach Prime's this legendary coach now at Colorado. But what a lot of people don't know is Coach Prime played the entire Major League baseball season and NFL football season at the same time, multiple years in a row.

1:25:51LeAnn Rimes:You imagine playing, imagine how hard it is to get to the NFL. Imagine how hard it is to get to MLB. He got to both and played both and some days would play a Major League baseball game and an NFL football game in the same day. Imagine that. And guess what? One year he did it with a bronchial infection, walking pneumonia, basically for the entire year. Imagine that you got a bronchial infection, almost borderline walking pneumonia for a year. And he plays a full NFL football season and major league baseball season and went to the post season in baseball. But some people can't get on a zoom because they've got a cough or their tummy hurts, right?

1:26:33LeAnn Rimes:But you want to be a millionaire. You want to be one of the great ones ever. But any chance you're hurt a little bit down, I'm just being honest with you. Maybe this isn't the message everybody wants to hear, but it's the message everybody needs to hear. The separator is what you do on the days you're hurting. This man played an entire football season, entire baseball season, both with a condition that most people would cancel their Zooms for. Can you imagine? and so it's about how many punches you can absorb. Remember this, your breaking point is God's building point. Just when you're ready to break, just when you think you've got too much, if you'll push to that next level, that's when God starts to build.

1:27:10LeAnn Rimes:That's when he starts to break through. That's when the growing happens, but we don't take advantage of these opportunities. I'm almost to the point in my life where I believe adversity is a gift. I can't tell you that every time bad things happen like today, I didn't want to wake up with my jaw. I didn't want all that stuff. It's just like a year of stuff in my physical being. I've had issues personally and socially. It's been a tough year, you know? I'm not saying I would wish that. Same time, I've learned a lot about myself. I've learned how much, to be honest with you, I love what I do and how much I care about you all.

1:27:42LeAnn Rimes:Because a long time ago, financially, I didn't need to do this. And I kind of always thought in my life, when I got very, very wealthy, I probably wouldn't work like I work still. But then when I got here, I fell in love over my lifetime with people and making a difference and serving them. Almost like I feel like it's my home and it's my calling. It doesn't feel like that much work to me. And so who am I to be, you know, telling you to do all these things? And so when I'm not feeling great, I don't. And so I'm really convinced that your breaking point is God's building point. I'll tell you another story of a guy you probably haven't heard of unless you live in Australia.

1:28:17LeAnn Rimes:I've been reading about this guy for a few years now. 1983, it started one of the world's toughest ultramarathons. 540-mile trek from Sydney to Melbourne. I want you to imagine this. Some of the top runners in the world are running in this race. And a farmer shows up. True story. Dressed in overalls and like galoshes over his boots is what they say. I'm just telling you what they tell you. And so people are like, who's this farmer? This guy's got overalls on. There's this combination of runners, but some of them are the best in the world. 540 miles. And so reporters ask who he was. He replies, his name's Cliff Young.

1:28:52LeAnn Rimes:Oh, by the way, Cliff is 61 years old. Sheep farmer. Picture this. A marathon's 20-something miles. Guess what? Five days, 15 hours, and four minutes later, he won. He finished first in this race. Grueling race. He beat the next closest competitor by about 10 hours. he becomes this australian national hero total icon of ultramarathon running you know example of determination perseverance but what he's really an example of is pushing through pain pushing through pain you know he won the race he slept less now there's some legends that say he didn't sleep at all evidently that's not true but he just slept less he didn't know how much sleep was really required of him.

1:29:41LeAnn Rimes:And all the training of chasing sheep on his farm is what equipped him for the race. So all these other guys were just running their normal race. This dude's chasing sheep for years and years and years around his farm. Some days having to run days at a time. He was totally built for this. And so when the actual race comes along, he dominated because he'd pushed through pain for years and years and years and years. The actual race was nothing. And so I believe when you push through pain over and over and over again, it starts to not affect you like it once did. But if you avoid pain, if you shrink to it all the time, if you give in constantly, it weakens you.

1:30:21LeAnn Rimes:Remember this, when you've gone through a difficult, painful, mental experience, a bad day yesterday, physical, spiritual, maybe it's in your relationship, maybe you're just losing confidence. This is an opportunity to either strengthen you or weaken you. And how you respond means everything. I'm pretty sure Cliff at 61 years old in overalls didn't have all of the pedigree to be the guy to win that race, nevermind by 10 hours. But what he had done is trained himself to sleep less than most people. What he had done is trained himself to push through pain over and over and over. This wasn't something he trained for.

1:30:55LeAnn Rimes:It was his daily life. And it becomes this national icon. Isn't that an incredible story? It's just incredible. So can you push through pain until you find your truth? I think of so many of my female friends and they'll tell me the greatest experience of their life is having children, yet they'll tell me the most physically painful experience of their life for many of them was childbirth itself. And so for that unbelievably painful experience, you get the greatest gift of your life. Isn't that amazing? If you really look back at your life, man, you've come a long way. and if you look back, most lessons learned, most gains were made during your flu game, during your broken leg round.

1:31:40LeAnn Rimes:Most of your great experience of your life were the painful ones. In some odd way, it's God's gift to us because when you go through the real pain of life, I believe it draws you closer to God. At least in my case, I had to conclude, I can't do this on my own. I need you. Lord, please help me. And so ironically, sometimes pain is one of the great gifts we can have to strengthen our faith, but it also strengthens our resolve. There's also something that happens in us where we develop grit and toughness and resiliency and a relentless pursuit that our conditions aren't the thing that determines our behavior.

1:32:21LeAnn Rimes:Conditions and behavior can be separate. The Bible says in 1 Peter 5 10, and the God of all grace who called you to his eternal glory in Christ, after you have suffered a little while, will himself restore you and make you strong, firm, and steadfast. Life can be heavy. There are moments when the weight of the trials we go through, it feels unbearable. Pain can linger. Sometimes prayers seem unanswered. And oftentimes we wonder whether we're ever going to feel whole again. But take heart because your suffering is not the end of the story. Remember this. God sees every tear, every struggle, every weary side, and he's promised that after you've endured for a while, he'll step in and restore you.

1:33:03LeAnn Rimes:You got to endure for a while usually. And he steps in, strengthens you. He'll make you unshakable over time. Your pain is temporary. All pain is temporary. The only thing that's permanent is our souls, but God's grace is eternal. Whatever your faith beliefs are. Just know that. And what feels like brokenness now, it's simply the ground where he's planting something new for you. Just remember that. His hands are holding onto you all the time. They're rebuilding you. The storm you're facing right now, it's not going to destroy you because you're going to get up. You're going to persevere and you're going to fight.

1:33:36LeAnn Rimes:One way or the other, you're going to get through it. One way or the other, you'll get through this day. Remember this, one day at a time, one meeting at a time. My book, The Power of One More, I tell you this because I I believe it to be true. You don't need to decide to never quit. You just need to decide right now I'm getting up. Right now I'll make one more call. Right now I'll do one more workout. Right now I'll read one more book. Right now I'll go one more day. Right now one more. Just do one more. It's such a powerful concept. If you've not read The Power of One More, go get it. By the way, I should say this to you.

1:34:06LeAnn Rimes:You should be on my email list. Everything I send you is going to be free. If you go to edmylet.com, you just put your email there. I think it says join here or follow here at the top, whatever. Go to edmilett.com and be in there. And by the way, let God's grace carry you and trust that he'll bring you through. But you got to step up and be resilient. Remember this, by the way, the best ability is availability. You got to be available. The great ones like Deion Sanders during that season, the best ability was he was available. So many people just aren't available. They miss too many hours. They miss too many meetings.

1:34:37LeAnn Rimes:They miss too much stuff. They allow too many things in their conditions to affect their behavior. The great ones do not do this. and that's why habits matter rituals matter routines matter because when we're down when we're under pressure when we're hurting we resort to habit mode because our brain kind of checks out if your habits to get up and fight if your habits to get up and do it anyway if your habit is to show up and give it your best regardless of how you feel then that will be your default setting but if your habit has always been and it's been mine in the past yeah i gotta rest a little bit I got to evaluate this.

1:35:15LeAnn Rimes:You know, I'm really hurting right now. They got to take a breather because that's what everybody does, but everybody's not successful. There's this whole thing in the world. Now everybody wants to be successful. Everybody wants to build a big company. Everybody wants a great body. Everybody wants a great relationship. Everybody wants a bunch of money, but nobody's willing to do the work on the hard days. They want to do the work on the good days, man. I just listened to a great Instagram video, Yo, man, I'm fired up. Yes, someone said yesterday. Here we go. But what happens when three no's in a row, somebody quits on you, somebody hurts you, and you're feeling physically ill?

1:35:50LeAnn Rimes:Can you get up those days? Can you push through? Can you do what winners do? And when you do what winners do, you get what winners get. You get what Jordan gets. You get what Kerry Scruggs gets. You get what Tiger Woods gets. There's a great story. Kobe Bryant tears his Achilles tendon, but they need him to make the free throw. Just stay in the game to win. they're like Kobe you tore your Achilles it's okay bro he will show you the clip he walks out on the court and makes two free throws with a torn Achilles tendon that's why he's Kobe that's why he was Jordan that's why he's Tiger that's why she was Serena that's why Carrie Scruggs is Carrie Scruggs and I promise you if you went through the lives of these people you admire they played hurt they found a way they built that muscle it's the separator I tell my kids this all the time.

1:36:39LeAnn Rimes:Max, when he golfs, you know, and he said to me, dad, I don't have my swing. Hey, Max, it's the days you don't have your swing. Hang in, shoot a decent score today. Go work on your swing on the range after. Come back tomorrow with your A game, but you got to score with your B game or your D game. This is the separator and let God's grace carry you through. We all go through pain in our lives. We all do. It's part of life. It's like if you're not in pain right now, you're probably going to be soon. So why not have a blueprint, a mindset, a habit, a way of being that says, oh, I see what's going on here, devil.

1:37:16LeAnn Rimes:Okay. I'm stepping up. I'm getting more faithful. I'm taking more action. I'm coming back stronger. I'm built for this. And by the way, I know some of you listening go, I've just never been that way. That's okay. Neither were these people until they started to be that way. No one's born like that. What happens is they all hit a wall at one point and said, I'm tired of running. I'm tired of quitting. I'm tired of giving in when I'm hurt. I'm tired of backing up. I'm going to stop. At some point, Kobe Bryant said, I'm going to stop backing up. I'm going to stop making excuses. I'm going to stop quitting.

1:37:48LeAnn Rimes:I'm going to stop flinching. And I'm going to step into this. At some point I did, and I'm not acquitting myself with those people, but I know what it's like to give into an injury. I know what it's like to lay down too long when I'm down. I know many years ago, even at the prime of my health and fitness, I didn't work like I do now. And I'm probably in the worst physical condition I've been in in decades, probably actually certainly ever. Yet I think I've been delivering the best content of my life. Most athletes will tell you, by the way, any of you that played sports, my dad used to tell me this when I play sick, most athletes, most business people play better hurt, especially you got a little bit of a fever running, everything kind of slows down a little bit.

1:38:33LeAnn Rimes:It causes you to focus a little bit deeper and a little bit more. You kind of have to move out all the noise and stay in the moment because that's all you have energy for. A lot of times you're better. And here's the truth. None of that's real pain. I was thinking about real pain this morning. I woke up, had a lot on my mind and I was still fuzzy from waking up. And I thought, I'll call dad. And it wasn't for about 10 minutes until I got up and started to move around. I remembered I can't call my dad. My dad's been passed away now for three years. I don't have any of you has ever lost somebody, but every once in a while you forget.

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1:39:13LeAnn Rimes:a great moment. You think you'll call them or you have a dream that's so real when they're in it. And I woke up this morning and for about 10 minutes, I was planning on calling my dad this morning. And then I realized I can't. You don't know real pain until you crave a conversation with someone that's no longer with us. That's some pain. And then I had to decide today. Don't feel real good. Wish I could call my dad and I can't. That hurts. I think I'll honor him with what I do today. I could have chose a different decision. Yeah. I worked real hard. I've got a little bit of money. It'd be okay if I kick the curb, can down the curb a little bit.

1:39:57LeAnn Rimes:Did this tomorrow. I don't want to do that. Fact, what my producer will tell you is I texted him about two hours ago. I said, let's do one more today too. So we're actually doing more today. He probably wondered why he's learning right now. I decided to do more today because it's one of those days. I'm not going to meet my normal standard. I'm going to do one more. So real pain is that stuff. And if you have that in your life where you can't call someone because they're not here anymore, honor them and make them proud of you with what you do on the days you're hurting.

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