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Podcast Summary: The Ed Mylett Show - "Life After Death" with Tyler Henry
Overview In this episode of The Ed Mylett Show, Ed Mylett interviews Tyler Henry, a renowned clairvoyant medium known for his ability to communicate with the deceased. The conversation touches on profound themes surrounding loss, grief, mindfulness, intuition, and the afterlife, providing listeners with comfort and insights into their own experiences of grief and connection with loved ones who have passed.
Key Concepts Explored
Tyler Henry’s Gift
- Clairvoyant Mediumship: Tyler expresses that being a medium comes with the pressure of being a public figure, where people often seek readings or validation of their experiences.
- Authenticity and Pressure: Tyler reflects on the challenge of proving his authenticity while dealing with the sensitivity required in mediumship.
Grief and Regret
- Understanding Regret: Tyler shares insights from his readings, emphasizing that regret often accompanies loss and can stem from fear of not having said or done enough.
- Grieving as a Lifelong Process: He views grief as an ongoing relationship rather than a condition to be resolved or closed, encouraging listeners to embrace the evolving nature of their grief.
The Nature of Life and Death
- Life Beyond the Physical: Tyler discusses the relationship between our existence and what happens after death, suggesting it is more about intention and mindset rather than the circumstances of passing.
- Mindfulness and Presence: Tyler stresses the importance of being present in our lives, using mindfulness practices to foster deeper connections and appreciation for the moment.
Intuition vs. Fear
- Differentiating Intuition: Tyler explains how intuition can feel like a repeated nudge without strong emotions, contrasting it with fear, which can be rooted in trauma.
- Cultivating Intuition: He encourages individuals to trust their inner guidance and develop their intuitive abilities through mindfulness and self-awareness.
Personal Reflections and Experiences
- Experiences of Loss: Ed shares his emotional journey with grief, particularly after losing his father, and how those experiences shaped his understanding of life and connections.
- Confronting Mortality: Tyler recounts his own health challenges, reflecting on the clarity they brought to his life about the importance of living fully and meaningfully.
Practical Takeaways
- Embrace Mindfulness: Develop daily practices to remain present and attentive to the simple joys of life.
- Understand Grief: Recognize grief as a natural and ongoing relationship with those we've lost, allowing space for healing.
- Trust Your Intuition: Differentiate between fear and intuition by observing recurring thoughts or feelings that do not evoke strong emotions.
- Seek Connection: Engage with communities or support systems to alleviate the isolating feelings of grief.
Tyler’s Work and Offerings
- Book: Tyler has authored a book titled *Here and Hereafter: How Wisdom from the Departed Can Transform Your Life Now*, which further explores his insights and experiences.
- Live Readings: Tyler conducts live group readings across the country, allowing people to witness his process and connect with their loved ones.
Conclusion Tyler Henry provides a compelling perspective on life, death, and the connections we maintain with those who have passed. His insights on grief, intuition, and the importance of living fully resonate deeply, offering listeners comfort during difficult times and encouraging them to nurture their inner selves.
Listeners are encouraged to reflect on their relationships and consider how they can honor the memories of loved ones while embracing the present moment.
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Transcript
Automatic transcript. May contain errors.0:04This is the Ed Milet Show. Welcome back, everybody. This young man sitting across from me, I have wanted to talk to for years. And he's just a gentle soul, a kind spirit. But he does have some gifts that I've never seen in another person before. And I'm really interested in unpacking his understanding of those gifts. and just maybe some of the gifts we all have laying dormant within us that maybe he's just uncovered a little more deeply than we have. And so he has a Netflix series out right now streaming called Life After Death with Tyler Henry, which would make sense because sitting in front of me is Tyler Henry.
0:50Not even Life After Death, just Tyler Henry, which is probably good. We're all kicking. We're here. We're present. It's so glad to be on. Thank you for having me. I'm thrilled you're here, brother. I'm so thrilled you're here. Okay. Let's get into this. Let's start. First thing I want to know, is there a pressure on you? Like everywhere you go, not only do people want you to read them, but is there, is he real? Sure. Do you have that thing? Like when you meet people, almost a thing like I, because I think in every human, like if you're in any type of a public person, you something you want to make sure people believe you're authentic and real.
1:19But my gosh, with you, that's got to be everywhere you go. People are kind of, is it real? Is it not real? Absolutely. You know, it's kind of different being a public figure in the spiritual realm because it's not really like being an actor or singer where when people recognize you, they love your work, they, you know, kind of connect on a more creative level. But when people see me in public, I find that I kind of almost represent to some connection with a loved one. And that representation puts a lot of pressure. You know, people come and they're asking me what I'm getting around them when I'm at the supermarket.
1:47And I've learned, you know, how to kind of navigate those situations with sensitivity and handle it accordingly. There have been times where I've spontaneously shared something with someone. And while it's interesting, it takes a lot of energy. And there's a time and a place for reading. So I find I prefer people reach out to me versus walking up to people. Is there just a weight to it, Tyler, just being you? Absolutely. There's also a levity. And that's one thing that I think people find surprising around the subject of mediumship. They think of it as this thing that's dark and sad and spooky and involving ghosts.
2:20But if anything, my life and what I've learned as a result of these messages has given me a deeper appreciation for life, a deeper awareness of how to live fully and meaningfully, and to really prevent future regret. That's been the greatest gift these awarenesses have given me, to say it now while I have the chance. Do you have any insight about that regret? Like if people that you've dealt with either that are here or in the thereafter, like some of the telltale signs of regret, is it somebody who let fear rule their entire life and they left this place not fulfilling their potential? Is it the way they treated one another when they were here?
2:56Like, what's the source do you think of regret for a lot of people? Well, you know, it's multifaceted. It kind of depends on the context of, you know, personal regret of the person who passes or even the regret we feel when someone passes as far as how maybe we could have handled things better. I always tell people when it comes to the loss of a loved one that regret is kind of par for the course. Even if you know your loved one is going to pass, even if there's time to prepare. So often we just wish there had been more time to say more, to do more. So even under the best of circumstances, I think regret is very often prevalent in people's grief.
3:27And I think this speaks to the importance of doing everything we can to try to mitigate that in the here and the now with those who are alive. By the way, I want to make sure everyone else knows this. He has this book, Here and Hereafter, How Wisdom from the Departed Can Transform Your Life Now. and I got a chance to go through that. Yeah, and maybe I'm strange. I think about death a lot. It actually causes me, I think anyone that's followed my work knows I do and honestly I find that it causes me to be more present now because I'm so grateful for being here. I think knowing that's eminent, that reminder causes me to live more fully now.
4:04You must spend a lot of your time on that topic because it's something you're connecting to all the time Or do you not even believe in the concept of death necessarily? Well, no, I definitely believe in the concept of death. And I believe that with the grief process, it's normal and natural, even if you have a spirituality, to grieve that physical absence. And I think it's important. So as a spiritual person, I still grieve. I still cry when I've lost loved ones or pets. But I think it's just changed how I honor them. I have learned to not define those who we've lost by their death. We owe it to them to remember them for who they were, for what they represented, for their passions, for their purpose, for the value they gave to us.
4:45And I think when we can take that and introduce that into a world that will never get the chance to physically meet that person because they've passed them, it gives them almost a second life through our actions and through how we kind of choose to carry them on. It's amazing how God works, whatever you believe. Yeah. I think you know that I have a deep faith. So just yesterday, I have a new TV show that I'm doing. It's not out yet, so I can't get into all the details of it, but it's a show where I help people and their families. And anyway, the family that I was with yesterday, it's three sons and a mother, and their father took his own life about eight years ago.
5:23And there's just been tremendous grief, tremendous trauma. And I almost wish I had met you the day before, you know, to maybe bring them a little bit more comfort. But I was curious, do you believe the way in which someone passes impacts where they go or where they are or how they communicate from where they've gone compared to, say, a peaceful passing? Yeah, I think it really all boils down to intention. I think the basis of all spirituality is intent. So when we talk about situations where people have passed under circumstances that were perhaps particularly tragic, I've had those people come through clear as day, perfectly fine.
6:04And then equally, I've had situations where someone goes through a long progression of cancer over eight months, and they pass and everybody expects it, but they come through a little bit more aware, I guess, of some of the things they would have done differently. So to answer that, I would say it's less about what gets someone over there. It's more about our mindset that we have before we get over there. And very often in cases with mental health, I think it's so important to not villainize mental health. And, you know, the brain is part of the body. And so often people come who have taken their own lives.
6:36And, you know, when that comes through, there's just such a clarity of understanding that the brain is just part of the body, that the brain can get sick just like any other organ. And that in essence, we are, I think, so much more even than obviously our bodies, but even our brains. They kind of view it as almost like a radio and consciousness is the channel. And if the radio is broken, you're not going to get a clear signal with the channel. So it seems to kind of almost reflect that analogy with the brain that we're more even than than that. I had someone on my show that he tried to take his own life.
7:06He actually jumped off the Golden Gate Bridge. Yes, I'm familiar with that one. Yes. And I've asked. He corrected me in the show. And he said this term mental health may be a little dangerous. He said it's really brain health. Brain health. And if we begin to look at it more that way, I actually shared that with this family yesterday. Mental health is almost like, you know, someone's a tortured soul or something like that. But to some extent, it can be chemical. It can be a brain health issue. Absolutely. Yes. I got to ask you this because I'm just curious about it. Are you afraid to die? I still look both ways when I cross the street.
7:43And I still encourage people to stop at red lights. There's so much that I don't know. I love that about you. The unknown, I think, scares everybody a little bit. But what I can say is what I have seen, the glimpses that I've been given, have given me deep comfort to know that when I do go, though I don't claim to know what happens in its entirety when we pass, I know that I won't be alone. And that gives me a peace. It could bring me to tears. That knowingness that not only will I not be alone, but none of us will ever truly be alone. And I know in life how often people feel alone in their grief.
8:17And I think nobody understands. But when people come through, they seem to acknowledge more of a reunion. And being with loved ones even when they maybe didn't even necessarily feel them. You're making me cry. Sorry. Yeah. Yeah. Just thinking about my dad had a tough life and didn't allow himself to feel the bliss he was entitled to when he was here. You know, so many people live their lives like that. He just didn't give himself the gift of the bliss he could have had when he was here most of the time, some of the time, but not not often enough. And one of the things that comforted me when he passed is knowing that he gets the gift of that now.
8:59and that means the world to me. You're getting to me, brother, already way too early. That's important. I want to put this in. We're going to weave this in when I ask you this question because it's mind-blowing to me. But you've done a lot of readings. You've read friends of mine. Yes. And I've told you some of them were skeptics going in. And then the other thing I should tell you too that I think would make you feel good and make my audience feel good, prior to having you on, and I had John Edward on as well, I actually asked some of my most faith-based friends, some of them pastors, Some of them, some of the most famous pastors in the world.
9:29And I won't remain, they'll remain nameless. But I said, hey, am I, you think this is okay? And I was surprised to a person and like, I'd really be interested to hear more. Yeah. Wow. And I'm open and maybe would help clearly define some of the things I do or don't believe. And so I was a little bit surprised by that. It wasn't, oh, it's blasphemy. It's this or that. And I thought how wonderful that was. the validation of your work of all the things I've seen you do and I want people to see this clip so we will weave it in in the audio in the video here but was a reading you did with Alan Thicke and it's giving me chills right now but Alan Thicke if you guys don't know is a very very well-known actor his son's the famous Robin Thicke and I'll let the clip play as we're doing this but as you're reading him I could see the discomfort on your face almost like I've got to share this with them.
10:16And you essentially warned this man while he was here. Your face is changing as I say it, about his heart and about his blood pressure. When it comes to like a family and a gene perspective, it's possible that within your family, there might be multiple men who end up at a later age dealing with blood pressure issues, but also deal with either a heart murmur or heart arrhythmia. But I feel like I have to kind of go to heart and this kind of correlates with blood pressure. So just kind of keep that in mind. And he sort of said, there's no history of that in my family. No history of heart disease in the family.
10:49And lo and behold, he passed of an exactly related issue to what you had warned him about during the reading. What was that experience like for you when it was coming through to you? And what's it like for you now knowing it was confirmed? At the time, it was just insistent. I had this loved one coming through for him who had clearly died with what I think was in essence the same problem that he later passed of. and this woman was coming through and encouraging him to go to this doctor to go get this checked and he laughed and he said oh thanks dr tyler and at the time i thought you know i gave it my best shot i for two minutes straight was just going on about you need to get your heart checked and get your heart checked and get your heart checked and so there's only so much i could do and just being the messenger but when i got the news i remember we were driving down the road and i just broke down thinking about his wife who i knew i had to meet again and it was so beautiful because because we made a connection shortly after he passed, and I went to Santa Barbara where his widow was.
11:45And when I was there with her, the only message that I came through that morning was I was seeing Sunnyside eggs, eggs Sunnyside up when I'd woken up that morning. I didn't know what that meant, but I went to see Tanya, and as we were walking, I just said, you know, Alan just wants you to know, Sunnyside eggs, the sun's coming out. I don't know what this means. And she said that when she received the news that Alan had died, she was alone. And she said she said out loud, oh, my God, Alan, the sun in my life has gone out. And by giving that one message, that one symbol of sunny side eggs, it was his way, I think, of saying, you know what?
12:23The sun is going to come out again. Oh, my gosh. So it is the power of a single image, power of a single message. Is that how it comes through to you? Is some sort of an image that you're not sure what it means? But what do you see or feel? I'm curious when this is. By the way, that's remarkable. The entire part of it of you, I could see everyone that's seeing or hearing the clip, you probably don't want to be delivering bad news. You want to be delivering your loved one misses you and this is all sunny and rosy and you've got this thing you have to impart. But that's just remarkable. What is happening when you're getting this, we'll call it advanced intuition for the sake of discussion right now.
12:59Is that a fair thing to say? Absolutely. Yeah. Inner tuition. We all have it. But I think when I do reading, really, it's multifaceted. I say my sixth sense kind of uses the other five senses to communicate. So very often I'll get a physical sensation that corresponds with how someone passed. Other times I'll hear what sounds like a song stuck in my head, but it'll be a name. Other times I'll feel as if I'm having memories, but I know they're not mine. And then I realize, okay, this is someone else's memory. And that's when I relay it, that's usually where you get the really crazy specific stuff.
13:27So it basically uses my mind and body as almost like a canvas to paint the picture. But I wanted to kind of go back to your earlier point about faith. One of the most beautiful things about this work for me and what I hope to impart in these readings with others is to create a catalyst where people can see the value of faith in their life. And not only that, get to a place of faith into trust. My work in growing up in a faith-based community showed me and told me to have faith in something I couldn't see. In a God that I wanted to meet but looked around. Maybe not too soon. Right, exactly. But the trust that these validations have given me, the knowingness that love continues on, that the bonds we create in this realm don't die, has validated my faith through trust in such a way, through firsthand experience.
14:19That's made me, I think, faithful on a whole other level that I can't even convey. It's beyond blind faith. And that for me is, I think, the greatest form. Let's unpack that. What do you mean when you say trust? How has that been developed and what has caused you to have that trust? I want to understand that. Firsthand experience. You know, it's one thing to believe in an afterlife, to believe in a certain afterlife and a certain frame of reference as to how we view theology. But it's another thing altogether to sit with someone and have, you know, the message of the sun's going to come out again for you someday and things like that that are so touching.
14:54But to me, I think, if anything, validate a higher power. It validates that we're not alone. It validates that consciousness is a lot more complex than we realize. And for me, it's kind of an anti-materialist framework, which aligns perfectly with faith and religion. Anti-materialist meaning it's not about accumulations in your life? Well, so materialism is kind of the antithesis of spirituality. It's the idea that everything is physical. There are people who are materialists who essentially believe that this is all there is. When we die, that's it. Boy, your face changes even when you say that.
15:25Yeah. Yeah. I mean, and I get it because I think it's a very easy place to live in. The idea of this is all there is. And that's comforting for some people. Not me, though. And I get it. But a lot of people do. A lot of skeptics, cynics, you know, just would find an afterlife frightening. And I get it. I get it. The unknown is scary and everyone responds differently.
15:52so dr drew my friend who's been on the show yes you were booked i said give me the scoop give me the scoop right and uh he tells me i'll mess this up you can fix it for me but just i'll set the stage for it he said i had him read a very skeptical person he says he hooked you up to i think an ekg and some sort of brain monitor of some type yes and he said it was sort of unbelievable was going on in his brain that you had, correct me if I'm wrong, but you had some hyperactivity going on in the brain that was incredibly hyperactivity, but you were almost also simultaneously in a sleep state. And the reason I ask you about what that feels like is I almost feel like that's a high performance state in general.
16:34Meaning if you take a great athlete and they're in the batter's box, they've got to execute. They're in a hyperactive state, but the more calm and flow state they can find themselves in, they can perform. If I want to go out on the stage where I speak in front of 30 ,000, 40 ,000 people and I walk out, I want to be in a hyperactive brain state where I'm functioning on every cylinder I possibly can. But at the same time, I've slowed things down and I'm as calm as I possibly can. So it feels to me not that dissimilar from high performance and everything else. Do you sense that happening in you? Were you surprised by that reading?
17:08And what does that actually feel like when you're doing it? I love that you said flow state because I'm a big fan of Taoism and some of the philosophy there. And there's really something to be said about those activities that we do that make time feel like it doesn't exist. Whether it's dancing, interviewing, doing a reading, painting a picture, those activities that immerse us, I think, are really great indicators of our purpose and where we can find greater meaning. So in my life, I found that my readings are very much like an active daydream. I get into a state where I'm both very much awake, but very much kind of creating and opening up a place of a deep inner world where I'll see symbology, get feelings and have to kind of discern between what's in front of me and what's coming through.
17:52Did it scare you the first time, Tyler? How old were you when it happened? Did it go, oh, my gosh, what's happening? I had my first premonition of my grandmother's death when I was 10 years old in April of 2006. But as time went on, these moments of knowingness, as I called them, would happen increasingly. And it was very frightening. I had a lot less control before I would scribble over my readings. And so they would come to me at random. I would have times of choking, kidney pain. My mom would rush me to the emergency room one time. There were several moments where I was having a lot of medical problems that were very mysterious.
18:25And they didn't really understand why. And I've often attributed it to, you know, kind of being a conduit and being that canvas that information gets painted on. Why do you think you sweat so much sometimes? I think there's some deep metabolic process happening. And I'm looking into more scientific research as far as being tested to try to kind of get an understanding of what's going on in the physical body. But it's very clear it is a byproduct of something going on. You know, people think, could it be the lights, you know, when you're sitting with the person, you get those hot lights. But I encourage people to look at that and think, like, the client's not sweating.
18:58So why am I? And, yeah, it absolutely is. And did it happen to you prior to the lights being on? Yeah, absolutely. OK, so it's definitely not the lights. Yeah. Definitively, it's not. Yeah. Do we all have a level of this in us? And if we do, how do we begin to reveal more of it to ourselves? Yeah. So I love the word intuition because it breaks down to inner tuition or inner knowledge. We don't really think about the origins of that word, but it's a beautiful thing because it is an inner compass that I believe we all possess to some degree or another. Our ability to trust it, I think, is where we can see variations in accuracy.
19:36Some people are very staunch in what they believe and what they think and are what we call thick-boundaried people. And that can be very difficult for those types of people to kind of integrate intuitive experiences. You have people who are more thin-boundaried people. People who are more go with the flow and kind of live life by the seat of their pants. And those people often have more intuitive experiences. So part of it is allowing it. There is some really interesting research into thick and thin-boundaried people within antithopology that I think relates to psychic abilities. For sure. Okay.
20:06I'm going to confess something because I've wanted to talk about this with you. And it's a little bit of a risk for me, but I'm going to do it anyway. Do it. I'm a Christian. Yeah.
20:18but I've had some senses of I can't explain it I'm not sure what it is but what I would best be able to define is maybe a past life or a regression or that I've been here previously I'll see something from a previous time in a movie and it'll make me more emotional than I can possibly describe that seems to have no point of reference to me in this experience here. I feel guilty when I have them because it doesn't necessarily coincide. And I've shared this with friends of mine that are devout in whatever their faith is. I've got great friends that have every faith. And I said, this is something that I meet somebody sometimes, like in your case, that the word I would use is, this is an old soul in a young person's body.
21:06I feel like I'm a bit of an old soul, but what does that really mean? And so I worked through this. It's not caused me to doubt my faith in any way. It's caused me to wonder if that's part of my faith that's just not been explained or that I misunderstand it or that. You know what I'm saying? So I'm just curious. We're all working through our faith as a relationship with this next place or in my case, Jesus, a higher power in your life, whatever it is. It's a relationship. And I really feel like these things can ebb and flow through life. There's certain experiences like, God, what are you doing to me right now?
21:37Why would you let this happen? Sure. And that doubt and those questions can cause it to strengthen. Yeah. Do you have those doubts in your own viewpoints? And do you believe possibly that there's been a previous existence for your spirit or soul in a different body? I would say on the subject of doubt, doubt is a beautiful thing. I think when faith is true, it can be under scrutiny. And I think that's the greatest value, I think, of true faith is being able to question it objectively and still believe it. So do I. It's actually made mine stronger in my case, but I'm curious with you. I feel absolutely the same way.
22:17No, it's huge. Look at you really pondering that. I love it. The second part of your question, though, because I'm curious more about the fear or the aspect of reincarnation, because I find that to be very fascinating. I think there's a certain idea around reincarnation that people live and then they die and then they're reborn and then they live and they die. I think it's a little bit more complicated than that. My belief is that we exist even before we're born. So that's a separate incarnation. And then we're born. And this is our incarnation, our physical one. And even when we pass, I think if you think of it as if you exist outside your body, well, that's a different incarnation too.
22:55So I don't just view incarnations as physical ones, right? Actually, Scripture tells us that we were made in the image of likeness and the Lord knew us before we were here. There you go. Right. And that's an incarnation. So my belief is in a collective consciousness. We're working through something. We are. I love it. I believe that we are all essentially mirrors of one another. In essence, I believe we all are like single drops of water. And when we pass, we realize we're a big ocean of consciousness interconnected to what I believe to be a higher power, if not that higher power. And so I find that in these readings, you know, I don't put too much weight on reincarnation because I believe that though there may be past lives or past incarnations of existence beyond just this one, it's really more about right now that matters most.
23:39It is. I was with my dad when he took his last breath. Wow. And have you ever had that experience? Have you been with someone when they passed? Not in the exact moment. Okay. So I was with my dad when it happened. And after it happened, it was going to be, this is detailed, but there was about an hour and a half window where it was just going to be until the hearse arrived. We were in his home. And I don't think my sisters or my mom are real comfortable being in the room with him. So I kind of was blessed with that time to be in the room with him. And I've wanted to ask you about this. And I've asked several friends about it.
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24:18So I wanted to be in the room with him. And about five minutes into that experience, I realized I was not in the room with my dad anymore. And so what was in that room was my dad's body. What was in that room was my dad's accumulations. We were in his house. His car was in the driveway. But that wasn't my dad. my dad's achievements were still surrounding him. That really wasn't my dad. My dad's problems probably were still existing, but my dad wasn't his problems. And so it dawned on to me in those moments, that's not who my dad is. My dad's gone in this physical room. And so who was he? And it dawned on me, my dad was a spirit and an energy and a life force.
25:04And you can't take those things with you, but you do leave something behind. And what my dad left behind were the people in that next room where my sisters and my mom and me and that spirit to some sense is another carnation. Another reincarnation of it is in us and lives on. And it's, I've had this deep sense that he was gone, that my dad does continue to live in this way through his children, through his contributions, through the difference he made, through the energy and difference he made in other people's lives. My father does continue to live, but my dad was in his body, his accumulations, his possessions, his awards, his problems.
25:45That's not who he was. And I had this deep sense in that moment. Wow. And what an eye-opening experience to have. So often people, even in the hospice realm, report very much getting a sense of as they see people transition, the moment where you very much realize there's a life there and then it's just a vessel. And it's incredible to have that realization, but also speaks to the fact that I think we are all spirits, all souls with an ego. And our ego, I define it as our beliefs around ourselves and the world around us. And so those beliefs often influence our achievements, things we do, what motivates us in life.
26:20But we realize we are so much more than our ego, that we are a soul, a soul that made a difference. And it sounds like this incredible man. You do. You write a lot about that ego in the book. Yes. And you have a very small one. Oh, I think I you know what? I don't. I don't think so. I think I'm I. The thing is, I think ego is something to not be destroyed. I think ego is something to be enhanced with self-awareness. So we talk about having a big ego as we think of like people being narcissistic or self-absorbed. Right. A little bit of a different version of ego here. I think, if anything, egos are the frameworks of how we respond to the world around us, how we process information, what we integrate as belief, what we reject as not true.
27:07So all those things inform our personalities and how we navigate the world. They process that when they die. When I say that, and by the way, I like that clarification. Yeah. There's a huge level of humility to you. Thank you. And to me, usually a great deal of humility and the way that I define it is the lack of ego. It's more spiritual. It's more an openness to learn and experience and receive as opposed to a dogmatic viewpoint of what you just said of this is the world. This is what I believe. This is accurate. I'm right. You're wrong. Whatever. I'm left. You're right. I'm blue. You're red.
27:46All that stuff that just defines the world today. And I see that with you. And it causes me to be comfortable. Do you think the reduction of that, which I just described, opens up the space for more intuition in somebody? Absolutely. Openness from a consciousness perspective, I think, creates an environment that's conducive to creativity. And I believe there's a direct relationship between creativity, the subconscious, and the psychic abilities and connections with loved ones. You write a lot in the book about mindfulness. Yes. So I want to unpack that a little bit. It's not new to me. No. But it's growing with me.
28:21And I was, I don't know, I was surprised that that's what you wrote about. It helped connect dots for me to your work better. Thank you. But in that sense, talk a little bit, because you actually used the term flow state in the book. So what is your definition of mindfulness and how do you practice it? For me, my definition of mindfulness is the ability to be present or mindful of the present. And I think so often with the beeps and the buzzes of our phones, our schedules, we are constantly distracted. And I think now more than ever with TikTok and media, our attention spans are about seven seconds before we scroll.
28:58It's so true. And so that has created a huge problem for people who do want to be more intuitive. The process of becoming more intuitive requires one to be able to have extended attention, to be able to bring awareness to oneself versus the stream of consciousness around oneself. So in essence, I kind of view myself as almost like a rock on a stream and my thoughts are the stream, but I am the rock. That's beautiful. So there you go. You try to be the observer of your thoughts. And that is a huge distance that you can create that I think allows for us to take a necessary beat to be mindful, to not be defined by our emotions and to know how to respond and not necessarily just react.
29:42Does that mean that you are not your thoughts? Absolutely. You are not your thoughts. This is huge because I think most people, two things, they believe they are their thoughts and they also believe everything they think. Oh no. Yeah. And I have found to not believe everything I think because a lot of that is patterning. It's imprinting that's been done in places when I was defenseless and I was younger and my thoughts will lie to me. And so I'm really interested in your opinion about that because I don't believe I'm my thoughts and I actually don't believe a lot of the things that I think anymore at 52 years old.
30:13Whereas at 30, I believe, he's thumbs upping me, you guys. I believed almost everything I thought at 30 and I bought into every negative fear-based, anger-based thought I had. I bought it immediately. And that's when your thoughts begin to rule your life. So what do you see about that? Yeah, no, it's definitely fascinating to see how when it comes to just the nature of habits, of patterns, how they very often can get us into structures and rigidity that sometimes can impede experiences outside of what we're expecting. So to speak to that openness, it just is so important, I think, generally to be willing to be creative, to be open, to be present.
30:53And we can only really notice those things when we are in a state to notice them.
31:01You speak on that noticing thing, something you do that's interesting. I've followed your social media content more lately. You just post a lot of beautiful stuff. Thanks. I like beauty. I like beauty. You do, but it looks to me like you're looking for it, meaning like maybe this seems simple to you because you do it, but I don't think it is in this day and age where we're, oh, my gosh, what did Biden or Trump do today? Or, you know, did I get enough likes on my social or this problem I've got to stop and notice the beautiful things around us, the beautiful people, the beautiful things that have been, the beautiful rocks.
31:34Yes. There's got to be a reason why you're posting this and showing it, because you could just post a reading every single day of the week if you wanted to, right? So do you intentionally cause yourself to stop and notice the beautiful things in your life because maybe at one point you didn't, or you got too busy, or you're trying to send that message to people? You know, it's hard not to stop and smell the roses when you have so many people come through who've passed, who I think on some level see the value of our ability to stop and smell the roses even more than we could possibly realize here.
32:08They seem to value that more than we really even do. So I don't want to say they envy us, but they almost seem to come through with a, oh, if they only knew how lucky they are to be able to see a sunset, to watch a sunrise, to smell a flower. And that understanding, I have the chills, but it has given me a value in the simple things. Absolutely. It's one of my favorite things anyone's ever said on the show. And one of the cool things is it's amazing how, like you talked about your dad, you know, the small things, big and small material objects, things, accomplishments, achievements. The little things become the big things when people pass.
32:47And I think it's a really beautiful sentiment. The little moments. Give me an example. You know, I think of with my own grandmother, I remember at the time I wish that I had been a bigger part of her life. I was only 10, but I remember she had given me this piece of advice that I kind of blew off. She said, Tyler, not everybody deserves to know you, everything about you the first time they meet you. And that was my grandma's way of trying to protect me as a very oversharing little boy. And at the time I did not really put much weight into it. But as I've grown older, as I now have lived without her in my physical life, those words ring in my mind sometimes.
33:21Words that didn't have much meaning back then, a small thing became a big thing. And it took years for me to see that. And it took her passing for me to get there. But that made her life even more meaningful through her death. Boy, I have that. As I've gotten older, I think about my grandparents, too. And they've been gone a long time. And I'm like, I wish I would have just sat and talked with Grammy more. Yeah. Ask about their childhood. And I wish I would have asked about their early experiences, their marriages when they were young and ornery. And, you know, it's so me, too. I really do. By the way, this is so good for I'm just so grateful that we're just having this discussion of two friends that millions of people get to listen in on.
34:02And maybe it just for today, you know, changes their perspective. I want to ask you about grief. You write about it in the book. Yeah. I said to this family yesterday, I say, one of the things about grief is it's, and this is not my saying, so I don't take credit for it, but that grief is an indicator that love is greater than death. But there are people that, boy, that grief is lasting a long time. And it is, maybe their distraction, if we want to call it that, isn't social media likes or Netflix or that. But they're just consumed with this grief of they could be grieving someone's passing. They could be grieving the end of a relationship with someone who's still alive.
34:39They could be grieving a previous time in their life that they want to go back to somehow. And they're constantly comparing this time in their life to a previous time in their life. And that causes them to grieve to some extent. And let's just be honest. On the spinning earth right now, you may possibly be the all-time grief expert. So what would you say to people that are just struggling with some form of that grief? I think viewing grief as a work in progress is very important. When I started this work, I used to think of grief as something that had to be resolved, something that could have closure.
35:14And the older I've gotten, the more I've not resonated with the phrase closure, because I think grief is a lifelong relationship. I liken grief to a comma more than a period. It's ongoing. And I love that you talked about grief in its many facets. You know, there is the loss of a loved one, but there's also loss of relationships, losses of jobs, losses of pets. And that alone is something, almost weight, that we have to carry. And some people carry it differently. I think there's something to be said about different people having different or varying degrees of pain tolerance. And it's true physically, but it's also true emotionally.
35:51And there are some people who can navigate grief and be extremely resilient. I've had clients who've lost children, some more than one child, and have gone on to seemingly live fulfilling lives and create meaning through that grief. And then there are others who are just seemingly stuck. And it's why I put such an emphasis on grief counseling, brain health awareness, community. Grief is a deeply isolating emotion. And I think knowing that there are others who can relate can sometimes at the very least satiate that loneliness. Yes. There's something I see in you that I really admire, and it's not the stuff that I have noticed through your work.
36:32It's actually being in your presence. Thank you. Your emotions are right here. Yeah. The edge is the wrong word, but they're right on the surface ready to be revealed at any given time. Thank you. And I love that. I think that's a beautiful thing because that's the richness of life, giving ourselves the gift of the depth of an emotion, the dimension of the emotion. I see that in you. You can cry on a dime. You can laugh on a dime. You can feel on a dime. And I think maybe it's just something for you to think about even when you leave here. But it's very prevalent with you. And as I become an older man, I've allowed that to move to the forefront for me.
37:15I think I was taught as a young person, and I don't think this is gender specific at all, to almost suppress, don't cry, don't cry. Don't cry. Little boys and little girls, especially little boys, but little boys and little girls are told that all the time. Don't cry. And the more I've allowed myself to feel those emotions, the joyous cry and the sad cry, I found that the other ones are magnified. Oh, yes. You become more of a well-rounded individual when you allow yourself to feel. Is that something that you know about yourself? Have you always been this way or is that something you're allowing?
37:47I feel like it's a gift to feel things. Yeah, it definitely has been a work in progress. You know, I mean, I definitely am 27 now and I was a silly teenager and a silly kid in his early 20s and made mistakes and just like everybody else. But it certainly is giving me that awareness and that perspective, which I think has been valuable. So I've been reading a lot about birth trauma. So that there's some work now that says when the birth process is traumatic, that potentially maybe that has an impact on the infant and the child and their personality or fears or anxieties when they're young and maybe throughout their life.
38:23there's some work that's been done about when they're in their mother's womb, the mother's emotions impacting the child, right? And if the mother was going through a stressful, traumatic time, that potentially those emotions are imprinted into the child. I actually really believe that. There's a lot of emotional imprinting that we get once we're out of our mother's womb as a child, but I think there can be some in the womb as well. I'm wondering about the other side of it. When someone passes in a more traumatic or dramatic way, do you sense a difference in their spirit or energy or soul on the other side than when someone has passed, say, peacefully?
39:02Sure. So it definitely, I find, has had a lot to do with intention. I've had people come through who passed away in car accidents or tragically out of nowhere at an early age, and they come through hunky-dory, completely fine. And they, I mean, acknowledge self-awareness, that they went through a process, yada, yada. Then I've other times fed people who've passed of cancer and knew they were going to die for eight months. Their family was around them and they come through. And sometimes they are the ones who actually have a little bit more of an awareness of that they didn't say what they needed to say and maybe weren't very nice or very friendly.
39:33So it's, I think, less of what gets us over there. It's more about our intention as we are transitioning and also the life we lived before we passed. How do you mean that? The life they lived before? Meaning if they lived a well-lived life and they couldn't people well? That's the thing. I think a well-lived life cannot be harmed by death. And it was a sentiment I expressed in my first book. But I think there's just something to be said about some people live a full life in 20 years and others live to be 90 and didn't really ever live at all. So as far as how that's reflected in readings, it's worth so much more than how we pass.
40:06Wow. It's more important how we lived. Absolutely. Okay. Okay. You got me right there. Energy. What does the energy feel like when someone wants to come through for you? Say you had read me today. And I was expecting my dad to come through. Because I've watched this with you. Let's say I was expecting my dad to come through. And you're like, I'm feeling like it's an older female figure. Let's just assume that. Is this like a knocking on your energy level? Like, what are you feeling? Because the reason I ask it isn't so much that I want, you know, to be able to do a reading. because I'm not going to be able to do that probably.
40:42But I want to know, how do I feel my intuition's knocking compared to fear knocking? Sure, absolutely. So should I do this? Should I give this speech or start this business? And I'm like, is this my fear knocking or is this my intuition knocking to some extent? So I'm wondering what it feels like. It's the age-old question of how do we discern between intuition and fear, right? And trauma and intuition. Hypervigilance is often a big problem for people and they often conflate hypervigilance with intuition. You know, if we've been traumatized in the same way over and over again, and we're inclined to kind of see that potential trauma in future situations, and that can be a big problem.
41:17So I would say, you know, discernment is really essential. But the more we can develop our inner worlds, the more we have an awareness of our fears, our traumas, you know, kind of the more maybe the shadow, as they call it. I think that's a very valuable thing because it gives us insight to when intuition actually does rise to the surface. Very often, and I have to be careful about generalities because intuition speaks differently to different people. But I find for me, you know, when I do a reading, I'll get a welling and it'll kind of just like feel like it's at my core. It comes up. I scribble.
41:47I do a reading. But for the average person, one thing to look out for is things that come through repeatedly without much emotion. So we kind of have this misidentification of intuition as being a gut feeling. While it can manifest as a feeling very often, particularly in men, it'll come through as just kind of a repeated inclination. Like, why am I thinking this? I can't get this out of my head. Maybe you might not be scared, might not be excited, might not really have a feeling, but it's a repeated kind of nudge. And that for me is, I think, sometimes a signifier. But knowing your trauma is the most important thing.
42:21And if you find that intuition is coming through around something related to trauma, I'm more inclined to think it's trauma than intuition. Gotcha. Speaking of trauma, you're 18, you have brain surgery. Yeah. And I don't think a lot of people probably know that about you. Right. But this man had brain surgery. And then during COVID, as I understand it, you had another pretty close call where you had a lung collapse. Yes. Right. Before the pandemic broke out, I was dealing with a respiratory failure and a bunch of complications. And it was it was really an eight month recovery period as the world was in lockdown.
42:54So what did that make you feel? So you're getting, you're staring at this potential body not functioning anymore thing that happened to my dad. Just has happened in his 70s. What was, I'm curious what your experience was with that. Cathartic. Cathartic? Yes. Of all the words you would use. Reflective. I felt like I was almost kind of doing my little life review before I'd even transitioned. I found myself sitting there on the hospital bed thinking, particularly with the brain surgery when I was 18. You know, if I live, if I survive this, I can't waste time doing things that I know aren't right for me.
43:28If I can get out of this hospital bed, I know that I'm going to live in a way where I realize time is of the essence. Because this brain cyst I have, I still have it. It's in my brain. And it's something that— Wait, currently? Currently. It was not able to be removed fully. So it came back and has grown and increased in size. And I may deal with another brain surgery. In my lifetime, I may deal with several, but to have almost what feels like a ticking time bomb inside you, I don't mean to laugh, but in essence, what it is, it just makes it immensely clear how we have to appreciate every day, every day.
44:05Because while I know that I could die at any moment, a lot of people don't. Right. I'm just curious. Random. Not in any of my notes. Just hit me. Yeah. Have you done any research or looked into the pineal gland at all? Oh, yeah. So there's a couple different areas that various scientists are looking at. Dr. Gary Nolan out of Stanford is looking into two parts of the brain, separate from the pineal gland, that he thinks could relate. The codiment and the putamen, which is quite a word. I'll Google both of them. Yeah, codet, putamen. Those two areas in his research have found to indicate some abnormalities in the brain on certain people.
44:40He, I don't want to speak on his behalf, but believes that genetics could perhaps be a component to why certain people think. You said yes on the pineal gland. I've just done some research about that that says there may be some intuitive property to that part of us. Well, it does regulate aspects of sleep as far as I understand. Yes, that's right. If we talk about the sleep, the study and the abnormalities with Dr. Drew, there's very clearly a connection. My brain went into a sleep state. Pineal gland relates to regulation of sleep states. So there's clearly a relationship. You believe there are signs in life?
45:09I do. I believe in meaningful coincidences. I don't believe everything's a sign. I don't believe every coincidence is a sign. If you're looking too much for a sign, are you getting a little odd? You know what I mean? It impedes it, absolutely. If everything's a sign, then nothing's a sign. Wow. Wow. And I tell people when it comes to signs, we all want a sign, right? But the way to tell that something is, even if you don't understand what the sign's trying to tell you, is the instance generally will be a meaningful coincidence, but it has to be meaningful. It'll evoke, whatever's happening, a feeling inside that's uncanny.
45:42And you may not understand what that feeling is, but you'll feel it well to the surface. And you might find yourself thinking, could that be a loved one? And you might rationalize it, disregard it, whatever. But those are oftentimes the indicators that there's something more. Mine are really small. I never had the need. I just tell you, I didn't. My dad passed. It wasn't like, hey, knock on the door from the other side. I need to know. I didn't have any of that. I've not ever. I haven't had. I'll just share this with my audience because they all know my lives really well. and you can hear it too.
46:13So I haven't had any need for that.
46:18I did have an experience like about four or five months ago and I was awake and it was just a quick flash. It wasn't some long drawn out dream. I just want to know if you could help explain this to me or if this makes any sense to you. This is what happened. I'm not daily looking for a sign from my dad. But I'm a deep believer in my faith, and I'm very comfortable with where I think my dad is. But anyway, it's the middle of the day, Tyler. And I had gotten out of my car. I walked into my house. I got into my office. I was about to do some work. And I looked at my computer screen, and I hadn't had anything to drink.
46:56I don't take substances, so it wasn't one of those things. And with my eyes open, though, I saw this person just walking towards me very slowly. Wow. And my dad had a particular walk. You know, you just know your dad's walk, right? Yeah. And he got closer and pretty close. And then I could make out who it was. And it was my dad. And all he did, Todd, is he got his hand on one of his hips and he just waved. He just waved. Wow. It was just a wave. Yes. And then my dad was a gentle, just a quiet soul. Yeah. And then he just, kind of like my dad would wave when he'd come to a game of mine or something.
47:36Yeah. And then he just turned around and walked away into the distance again. But it was almost just like, hey, kid, I'm here. I'm here. It was a deep... I mean, I wept. I've never said this out loud. I don't even think I've told my family what I just told you because it just seemed so nonsensical to me in the moment, yet completely and totally real for me. Absolutely. Am I crazy? No. You know, I tell people all the time, there's a famous theologian by the name of James. Oh, shoot. William James, I think is his name. Might got his name wrong. But a famous theologian that basically in the early 1900s defined four qualities of a mystical experience.
48:22Ineffability, meaning mystical experiences are usually beyond words. Noetic, meaning the mystical experience usually sends one on a path of self-discovery or understanding. Passive, meaning usually the mystical experience is immersive. so we can't really focus on anything else other than the guy walking towards you. But what's most interesting is the fourth quality is transient, meaning mystical experiences are very fast. They don't usually last for a very long time. And I think all of your, what you've described kind of ticks every box, right? You did describe it, but I can guarantee you can't convey the feeling it gave, right?
48:56It was transient, sent you down a lifelong path of knowledge and was completely immersive. So absolutely. Very, very, very, very real to me. Yes. Very real. I just wanted to share that with everybody. I've never said that out loud ever. So you've had this run on this planet that's a little bit different than most people's. Yes. Right? And it's what a blessing. At the same time, there's a bit of a burden that probably comes with it as well, being you, which I asked you about earlier. But based on all of this you've been able to download, have you come up with any daily practices that give you comfort, that increase your intuition, that allow you to deal with the anxiety or stress that comes with you?
49:40In other words, Tyler Henry have some daily practices, including mindfulness, whatever it might be, that makes his life richer and better. Sure. So to answer your question, I think it's good to understand as a medium and I believe all spiritual work in general is what I call very anti-structural. It's kind of creative, airy fairy, you know, kind of very, very much fluid and in line with like creativity and the subjective. Right. When I'm not in that state, it's important that I do things to implement structure to kind of act as an antithesis to the anti-structure that I deal with at work. So the way that I implement structure is through ritual or routine.
50:20Now, for me, that's prayer, but that's also waking up at a certain time of day, typically brushing my teeth in a certain order. I'm a little OCD. And I know it sounds kind of funny, but by doing certain things, even eating the same foods, I'm able to create a certain degree of structure, reliability, certainty that allows me to kind of, when things are uncertain, be able to exist in that space with the knowingness that I'm going to come home and have these routines and structures that allow for a soft place to fall, that allow me to reinvigorate and feel a sense of stability. Wow. So we all can do that, right?
50:57We all can have rituals, routines. They don't necessarily have to be spiritual, but prayer is a beautiful ritual that can kind of help us have deeper introspection. I'm so grateful you said that. Yeah. That's big in my space in the self-help world, but it's not necessarily something I thought that you were going to say. Yeah. I'm really, really grateful to hear that. Absolutely. No, the concept of thoughts and prayers gets a bad rap because people are like, oh, thoughts and prayers. But thoughts and prayers have a lot more value than I think people give credit for. They have the most value to me, especially prayers.
51:26Yes. So, all right. Last question for you. First off, I've enjoyed this thoroughly. One thing Tyler is not short of is demand for his services. So what I'm about to, he's about to tell you some of the things he's got going on. I want you to be able to do that. But let me be really honest with you guys. I know literally in my friend circle, probably 80 people who are just, they would love to get a reading from you. They would love to be in your presence. You know this, right? And by the way, you've read many of my friends. I texted Nikki Glaser yesterday, too. I love her. I'm like, hey, what's the scoop?
52:01I kind of do that stuff. Love her. You've got some stuff coming up I want to make sure people know about. So one is they should get your book, number one. They should be following you on social media. But you've also got something you've got at the Grove in Anaheim coming up and some other things we should let them know. Depending on when they listen to this. They could be listening to this in 2025 still. Absolutely. Let's give them that. Yeah. So I do tour the country. I do group readings. And it's really a fun time. You get to see the process live and in person. I'm going to be in November going to both Minnesota and Anaheim.
52:29And then early December, I will be in Anaheim as well. Where do they go to figure that out? Do they go to your website or do they go to social? Thetylerhenrymedium.com is the best way to kind of get tour dates. I don't usually refer to myself in third person, so don't worry. It's kind of weird. But the domain was taken of Tyler Henry Medium. All right. But that's going to be the best way. I also have a service called The Collective where I meet with people virtually. And we meet twice a month for group readings. I do virtual group giveaways. and I'm able to connect with people all across the world from the comfort of their own bedroom.
52:58And they tune in, wear their pajamas, and get readings. You're a totally beautiful soul. Oh, thank you so much. Last question. Yes. Unfair to ask you it because no human being should be required to answer this question, but I just want your perspective on it. Someone runs into you at a Starbucks and says, you don't have to read me, but you've obviously downloaded this divine wisdom that you've been gifted to be able to tap into in a way that not everybody has been fortunate enough to uncover that gift yet that they may have within them. Yes. The meaning of life is? To live fully. To live fully.
53:32To live fully. The fullest expression of yourself as well, right? Absolutely. And that means doing the inner work and the outer work. We did a lot of that today. We really did. I feel like we covered some beautiful territory. I hope this encourages people to think deeper, to maybe consider ideas that they hadn't before and to never stop trying to be more of yourself. Yeah, you're an important person in this world, and I pray for you because I know what it's like in my little small way to want to make a difference in people's lives and the gift and blessing that comes with that. I also know to some extent I can tell you that I understand the pressure and the burden that comes with that as well and wanting to live up to everybody's expectations, and I rely on those habits and rituals and routines, particularly prayer, to give myself the same piece that allows me to give the gift.
54:23And any of you listening to this today, just reflect on some of the things that we've covered. And there's something we covered today for each of you that applies to you. Not everything we covered today applies to all of you, but something we covered applies to you. And that's why your work is just so beautiful and remarkable. And thank you for giving us all, just maybe a little bit of comfort into what this life means and what it'll mean when our bodies no longer are the vessel that we're utilizing for our spirits here. So thank you. Thank you. It's been an amazing conversation. I'm so thankful.
54:54I can't wait to do it again. Yeah, me too. I really can't wait to do it. I'm probably going to get in line and do one of these readings too. We're going to probably have to do that. I would love that. I would love that. Everybody, God bless you. You know what? I don't have to say this today. Share the episode, but I think you probably already have. At some point in the interview, you press the share button and I'm grateful that you all do that. It's the fastest growing show on the planet because you guys share it. And because I get these incredible people that for whatever reason are willing to sit a few feet across from me and share their insights, routines, tactics, strategies, and in today's case with Tyler, their wisdom and their heart with you.
55:29Thank you, everybody. God bless you. This is the Ed Milad Show.
55:41We'll be right back.
From the publisher
What would you give to have ONE MORE CONVERSATION with people who have passed from this world? Is it even possible?
This week, you’re going to meet a young man who uses his REMARKABLE GIFT to help people HEAL and find COMFORT AND CLOSURE from the pain associated with losing a loved one.
TYLER HENRY has become one of the most well-known CLAIRVOYANT MEDIUMS in the world.
You might've seen Tyler on shows like "LIFE AFTER DEATH WITH TYLER HENRY" and "HOLLYWOOD MEDIUM" where he sits down with the likes of Jim Parson, Megan Fox, Crissy Metz and his chilling session with the late Alan Thick where he warns him about his heart health just months before his heart-related death.
In this episode we discuss:
Dealing with regret and loss
Why grieving isn't just necessary but crucial
The raw power of genuine intent
Harnessing intuition to receive unseen messages.
The intriguing link between metabolic processes and Tyler's sessions
Old souls, past lives and reincarnation (it's not what you think)
Embracing mindfulness in our fast-paced world
Accepting grief as an ever-evolving journey
The fine line between gut feelings and fear
Tyler offers a fresh perspective that might just reshape how you view your own journey, especially during trying times.
No matter what you believe, this episode will deepen your understanding of life, death and the unknown.
