MaxOut Your Life: Lessons on Youth and Success

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1:49This is The Ed Myron Show. Before we get into the show, I just want to say one thing to you. You know that all of my content is free. I put out hundreds and hundreds. It's now thousands of hours of content for free. But every once in a while, I do something where you can participate with me one-on-one or in a group. And so I've only done this one other time in my entire career, and it sold out in about 10 minutes. But this year, if you're watching this before 2025, I'm recording this in 2024, on December 12th, I'm doing an event, a group event in my home. Very intimate event, less than 30 people to spend a day with me.

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3:03MaxOut2025.com. Welcome back to the show, everybody. So grateful that you've joined me this week, and I think this one's going to be one you remember for a very long time. I hope actually forever. I want to share a conversation I had or a question I was asked recently at an event, and then I just decided when I was answering that question, I'm going to build a podcast around this question. I was at a conference, I was speaking, and a young man, it was a VIP room, so it was just the players, and he got in there with his mom. I think his mom paid his way into the room. And everyone got to ask me a question.

3:33And when it got to this young man, he said, Mr. Milet, I'm 20 years old, you're 53 years old, and I know you've made hundreds of millions of dollars. What advice would you give to your 20-year-old self, or what thoughts do you have about being 20 years old? and I said, what a great question. And I said, here's the first thing. The first thing is this, I would give you all of my hundreds of millions of dollars and all of my houses if I could go back and be 20 years old again. That's the first thing you should know. You're only as young and as healthy as you're ever going to be right now. This is the best time of your life.

4:07And the room like gasped. I said, let me be very clear. I would give you all of my money, all of my homes, if I could go back and be 20 years old again and be young again. And I said, so why I tell you that is you're as young and as healthy as you are now in your life. And that goes for all of you at any age, 10 years from now, can you imagine being able to go back and be third? Now, knowing what I know, I think I could rebuild that wealth and get it back and more, but I would do many things differently if I could go back young man, everybody listening to me, this is the best time of your life.

4:45I don't care if you're in a low financially, this is the best time of your life. You're never going to be this young ever again, ever. And I said, so I'd give it all to you if I could go back and be 20 years old again, knowing what I know now, life is awesome. Life is meant to be lived. And I said, let me give you some of the things that I want to share with you, just sort of some wisdom for maxing out your life. I was 15. And one of the things that I loved about the program that my dad was in, they have this saying, and it says this, God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference.

5:25Let me say it to you again. God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference. And I said, if I could go back to 20 years old again, now that I'm 53, I wish I would have understood that more. I wish I would have allowed God to give me peace about things I couldn't control. I tried to control too many things in my life that I couldn't control. I tried to control other people. I tried to control results. I tried to control relationships. I tried to control outcomes all of the time. And because I gave so much of my energy and my focus to things I can't control, how someone's going to react to me, whether someone likes me or not.

6:07I spent most of my life trying to control things I cannot control, and I should have given those things over to God, and I should have surrendered them. It would have given me more peace. I said, hey, man, the reason I look so old at 53 years old is I have not lived with enough peace because I'm a control freak. Now, most successful people are control freaks. It's the thing that gets them to acquire stuff, money, houses, cars, big businesses, and it's the very thing that keeps them unhappy. Let me say it to you again. Most people that are control freaks are externally successful. They are. They're really good because they're just always on.

6:45And so that obsession with always being on contributes to their ability to be focused, deliver in the moment, always be ready, and they end up accumulating a lot of money or a success or a life that they never dreamed of. And when they're in that life, they don't enjoy it at all. And the reason they don't enjoy it at all is because they are constantly focusing, looking at things, thinking about things, giving energy to things they cannot control. So if I could go back, man, to being 20 years old, I would give myself the gift of not trying to control the things I couldn't. However, the same amount of courage to change the things I can because I nailed that one in my life.

7:22I've always shown courage to change the things I can because I'm laser focused on those things and I don't dissipate my energy or my emotions on the things I can't. I arrived too many times to the things I could change, not with my A game because I had depleted myself worrying, fretting, stressing, spending time on the things I couldn't. This may be one of the most important sentences of all life. And pray for the wisdom to know the difference when I see them. Now that at 53 years old, I'm pretty clear now at the things that I can control and I can't. And I told him I'd have been wealthier, more successful, had I been able to be more aware and focused and pinpoint on the things I could control and surrendered this idea that I can control everything in my life.

8:09I said it's brought me a lot of great success. I've changed a lot of other people's lives. I brought abundance and peace and joy and contribution to lots of other people's lives at the expense of my own, at the expense of my own. And so if I could go back, I would change that. God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change. I mean, accept them. Just accept them and the courage to change the things I can't and some form of wisdom to know the difference. And I told him, I said, I just sort of pray about that wisdom. It becomes pretty obvious in life. You cannot control other people.

8:51You can't control how people feel about you. You can't even control outcomes. But I can control my own activity. I can't control my own attitude. I can't control my own fitness for the most part. I can't control my prayer. I can control those things. And when you laser in on the things you can control, I can control my own growth. I can control the things I'm responsible for. life becomes much more simple and you become a high impact person. Why does that matter? I said to him, I said, the older I get, the more I firmly believe most things are energy in life. Not just how we feel, but the energy we put into something.

9:31Highest energy usually wins. Highest vibrational frequency attracts. Truth is the highest vibrational frequency. I have learned in my life that if I can put myself in a position where I am vibrating at the highest possible frequency, I'm the most effective in all the areas of my life. With my family, with my business, with my money, with my body, with my faith. I have to protect my peace and my focus so that I am my best, which means I'm vibrating at the highest possible frequency most of the time. What contributes to that? Hydration, fitness, clarity, focus, wisdom, that when I am involved in something, I'm fully present.

10:09I'm not focused on the thing I can't control. I can't control what's going on outside of the room I'm in. I can't control, to some extent, how I behave in the room I'm in. And so I actually believe more and more, and I'm going to write more and more about this, that each person's individual success is that they are at their own personal level, vibrating at their own personal highest vibrational frequency. And the way you do that is the quote above. That's how you do it. So I would protect my vibrational frequency and I would work on constantly feeding my own vibrational frequency so that I'm at my best at any given moment.

10:41You show me somebody who's a good golfer and the difference between them and the person who wins major championships, It's that person who wins major championships, controls the things they can, surrenders the things they can't. And when they have to come up with that big shot, they're at their high vibrational frequency, hit the best shot they have ever hit in their life in that moment. And the other person doesn't. You show me someone that wins a bunch of Super Bowls, I'll show you somebody that when it matters the most, they're vibrating at the highest possible frequency. They throw the best pass, make the best decision in the most important moment.

11:11And the person who's just good but not the best, they are not vibrating at their highest frequency because they became depleted in the battle leading up to that point, focus on things they can't control. So I'd protect my vibrational frequency and I'd walk into every meeting, everything I do, every encounter with my children trying to be at my highest possible frequency.

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13:11maxout2025.com. If you're watching this before December 12th, 2024, you might have a chance to come to my home and spend a day with me. But I can tell you this, as much as that's important, you're going to get your standards long-term. Set high standards. Don't let other people set your standards and don't compare your standards to other people. Set your own. That's what I would tell you. Set your own standards. The next thing is this, and I've said this many times, but I want to at least share this today because I gave the young man this advice and I'm going to give it to you. You will never exceed your identity in your life.

13:41You will never get more in any area than you believe you deserve or whatever I call your thermostat setting. Okay. The most powerful force I believe in the world is to be consistent with your identity. Your identity is the thoughts, beliefs, and concepts you hold to be the most true about yourself. So like in the studio right now, it's about 75 degrees. I frankly wish it was a little cooler, but it's about 75 degrees in here right now. And I can tell you that it's about 90 degrees outside here in Florida. But what's happening externally does not dictate the temperature of this room. What dictates the temperature of this room is the thermostat setting because it turns the air conditioner on and cools it down and regulates it to what it's set at, just like our lives.

14:22It's not the external conditions of our lives that dictate our lives. It's our internal thermostat setting. Now, by the way, if it was 40 degrees outside and really, really cold, this thing would turn the heater on and heat it to 75 degrees. That's how life works. And so you have multiple thermostat settings in your life. And by the way, there's all kinds of people writing books and on the internet right now, stealing my content on this, which is fine. But here's the thing. If you're a 75 degree or let's say financially, and that's what you believe you're worth. And all of a sudden you start to have a business that's growing at 80, 90, a hundred, you've saved some money, you've saved some money.

14:54Eventually at some point you will subconsciously turn the air conditioners on of your life, young man, and cool your life back down to what you believe you deserve. It will seem coincidental. The stock market changed, interest rates changed, supply chain, blah, blah, blah. It's none of that stuff ever. It's the unconscious thermostat setting, cooling your life back down for you to get your identity. Same thing's true. If you ever go, oh my gosh, I'm not going to eat. We're going broke. I'm losing this. You find a way to turn the heater on and get it back to what you believe you deserve. Same thing in love.

15:20You ever meet that friend of yours who's like, oh, it's the best relationship, but they keep going through these different relationships, same person in a different body. You finally see them, but they've only got a 75 degree love thermostat. They're in love. They're making out at the dinner table. It's unbelievable. You see them in a year. What happened to Dave? What happened to Sarah? Oh, we broke up. It didn't work out. No, you turn the air conditioner on subconsciously cooled your life back down to what you believe. You ever see somebody with 75 degree fitness in their life? And all of a sudden, man, they've lost weight.

15:45They lost 10 pounds. They're getting fit. They're at 85, 90, 100, 120 degrees. And then you run into them in a year and they gained all the weight back plus five pounds. What they do, they turn the air conditioner onto their life, got it back to what they believe they deserve. Why? Because we always get our thermostat setting. We always get it in our life. We always get our identity. So the key thing is to change your identity. How do you do that? Number one way you do it, I preach the trilogy of it. Faith. If you come from a God that has you in the palm of his hand, you ought to be winning because his DNA runs through you.

16:14Faith, focus on your intentions. And the third, associations. Get around people in that particular area who run at 150 degrees and they will heat you up somewhere between them and you. So if you're a 75 degree of money, all of a sudden your primary five or eight people are 150 degrees worth of wealth and abundance and money making. Over time, you will be heated up to somewhere around 100 to 150 degrees. All of a sudden, your five best friends eat chicken and broccoli at lunch and rice and drink a bunch of water and train five, six days a week and take great walks. There is no way if you're around them three years from now that you've not heated yourself up somewhere around 100, 150 degrees.

16:53So it's associations. That's the next thing I would tell myself to max out my life. Give me another thing, man. I would always give myself a physical challenge. I believe almost everything starts with our temple, which is our body. You've got to get yourself in shape. I've got to be honest with you. I've been doing that most of my life. Not only would I want to get in shape and be fit, but I would want to be creating a challenge. It's always a challenge. Always be challenged. Get a physical challenge, whether you're doing CrossFit or you're going to do Ironman or you're going to do run or you're going to compete for what your bench press is or you're going to compete on your body fat.

17:23Something giving yourself constantly a challenge. Don't just work out to work out. Create a challenge, even if it's personal. Like, hey, I want to get more flexible and I'm going to be able to get my leg over this or I'm going to curl this much or leg press that much or do this Ironman or be able to do cardio at this level. Whatever it is, I want this body fat, this weight. Always have a challenge in your life. And that's the next thing. not just a physical challenge. I believe a happy person is a challenged person, young man. And so always have a challenge, whether that's something in your life that you're constantly chasing.

17:56You can learn to be happy in the moment. Don't get me wrong, but you should be in pursuit of something in your life. That's why God gave you more days. If all we were supposed to be was present, which is what you hear on social media all the time, and you should be, but if all you're supposed to be is present, then what's the point of having another day? That other day is to be challenged, to grow, to get better, to contribute, to feel better, to change other people's lives. So I want you to always have a physical challenge and always have an overall life challenge, which leads me to the next point of maxing out your life.

18:24You should be competing. You were born to compete. You were born to win. Always have something that you're challenged by and compete for it. Nothing wrong with keeping score. People that don't keep score in life don't know whether they're winning or losing and can't get recognition when they are. And I don't care. you say, I'm not a competitive person. Sure you are. Compete with yourself. Everybody's competitive. You were born to compete. I would always compete. And I said, the next thing is this, learn to give. You show me somebody who's giving, I will show you somebody who's happy. Let me say it to you again.

18:59You show me somebody who's giving their time, their money, their love, their wisdom, their information. Maybe just give people your presence. Just sit with people in their moments. Giving people are happy people. I would go back at 20 years old and I would give more. The next thing, pursue your faith sooner. Begin to pursue your faith. What do you really believe? I think a lot of people think, once I get the money thing handled, once I get this, then I'm really going to focus on my spirituality, my faith, my Christianity, whatever it might be. In my case, my Christianity. I would have focused on my faith sooner.

19:41The next thing is awareness. I would have become more aware of myself, more self-aware. I love self-aware people, aware of their strengths, aware of their weaknesses, aware of their idiosyncrasies, aware of their patterns, aware of their trauma, aware of their gifts, aware of their gifts. you show me somebody aware of their giftedness, aware of their faith. Just self-aware people are happy and successful and attractive people. Un-self-aware people you all know are not people that you want to be around. So if we could go back up again, I'll just read to you some of the things that I thought were really, really important.

20:19Let's just go through them quickly. Number one, the absolute serenity to accept the things I can't change. The courage to change the things I can, the wisdom to know the difference. Number two, protecting and growing my vibrational frequency. Number three, I'd be focused on my standards. Number four, I would do everything I can in the world to adjust my thermostat setting called my identity. Number five, the main way I would do that is I would seek out people in my life that are associations that are living. I would get around the right people. People are the catalyst to change other human beings' lives.

20:50Next thing is I would always have some sort of physical challenge and train as an athlete till the day I die. And then I would have a life challenge as well. Always be going for something that leads you to the next thing, which is to compete. Be a competitor. Compete against other people. Compete against your standard. Compete against your benchmark. Compete against history or compete against yourself. The next thing is just decide in life you're going to be a giver. Giving people. If you feel helpless, get helpful. You will no longer feel helpless. Be a giver. Give to other people. You will always be happy when you give, especially in the moment of the gift.

21:24I would focus on your faith sooner. and the last thing is I'd become more aware, aware of the world, aware of myself, especially self-awareness. And I think that's contributing to your vibrational frequency as well.

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22:06In addition to awareness, if I could go back to 20 years old again, I'd have laughed more. I wouldn't have taken myself so seriously. I gotta be honest with you. When you begin to take yourself really seriously, your life gets very serious. So I would have more humor, more laughter. I mean, belly laughter. Get around people that make you laugh. But everyone says, hey, all your associations need to make you better. You better have that one person that just makes you laugh. Not everybody around you has to make you better. You got to have that one person or that group that makes you laugh. They don't take you seriously.

22:36You don't take yourself seriously. When things don't go well, you have the ability to make light of it, knowing it's a speed bump in the road of life. And humor is such a key thing in life. Now that I, I'd say when I got into my 40s, I just started laughing way more. I should have laughed way more when I was younger, not taking myself so seriously. I got to tell you, way more laughter, way more humor. Laugh at yourself. Be self-deprecating and do not judge other people. And here's the biggie. Outwork everyone. Just outwork everyone. I know everyone says you got to work smarter, not harder. Yeah, whatever.