Why Energy Is the Secret Weapon of High Achievers

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1:37This is The Ed Myron Show. All right, welcome back to the show, everybody. Very grateful you decided to join me again this week, and I know that this week's going to help you again very much in your life. What I'm going to talk about this week is some of the invisible things that successful people do that the unsuccessful or the average and ordinary don't do. And oftentimes it's invisible. You can't really see it if you're not knowing to look for it. It's not taught in success classes and personal development, certainly isn't taught in school. And if you don't have somebody like me tell you about this, you'll miss it.

2:09And so here's one of the things that I know to be true after 54 years now, almost on this earth, the successful people and success in general, There is a pace to it that most people don't understand. There's a cadence and a rhythm to success Oftentimes you can have all the tools have all the words to say know all the strategies and the tactics And it's just missing still and I believe that's an energy thing I think energy is the highest form of influence in the world and when you're around a real winner Person who really moves things in life moves the needle You know just seems that their will ends up happening They're just in this concert with god in some way that you're like wow They just got it going or they make you feel a certain way It's energy and there's a pace and a rhythm to successful people.

2:56Some people don't have enough of it You know, they're just they don't bring energy to the table They just they lack it they most people are even oblivious to the fact that they're bringing any energy So that's one person that's most people then there's the other ones who try too hard. You know, I mean They just buzz too quickly. They're too close up. They're too fast They're too much energy and it's almost like they've read too many books on bringing energy to the table And so I want to talk today about this because you need to remember this you're always making people feel something People respond to what they feel.

3:27It's not what they hear or see. That's like 10 15 percent of it It's what they feel If think about yourself when you meet somebody new you get a feeling don't you like oh, I really like this person They're trustworthy. They're kind I Or I want to be around them again other people you meet you. I don't know exactly what it is But i'm not comfortable with them or sometimes you're like, ooh Something about their energy Right, so you're feeling it all the time You're feeling it even when you check out at the grocery store with the checker you're feeling their energy for a second now I think Very successful people have more energy sensitivity than others and so I will just tell you like it for me.

4:08I'm always feeling energy around people Are they happy? Are they sad? I'm kind of weird like that. Like even a flight attendant, I'll just kind of watch them walk by and I'll think, where's their energy today? Not what they're saying, because they're supposed to say, hey, welcome to Delta Airlines or welcome to the restaurant. They say the right things. I don't listen to what people say. I listen to them like they're a silent movie. I don't listen. I watch. I feel. And so remember this, energy is influence. And typically speaking, the person with the highest energy wins. Energy, vibrational frequency, etc is influence now we could get into physics i've talked about this on the show before that literally it moves matter okay but we're going to talk about it in general today with you really be conscious of your energy going forward if you wanted to change your life the number one gift i would give you assuming you already have faith is your energetic connection to other people and the energy that you put out and your consciousness of it it'd be the number one thing I would give you more than any tactic strategy, cold plunge, thought process, mindset, breathing technique, visualization tactic, you name all the stuff.

5:15It would be an energy shift. And then ask yourself this in terms of feeling energy is your default state to let your energy be fed and fueled by things that happen in your life, or is it to be weakened and let it get weakened and reduced? And I know there's a lot of content out there in personal development that says, Hey, you're basically great as you are. You don't need to change at all. Really? Is that why you came to this content? Because you want to be validated for where you are? You know, a lot of content creators, and I'm, I believe everybody can help somebody, but they do this because they don't really have any tactics or strategies that could help you.

5:51And what they want is likes and they want you to like them. And so the easiest thing to say to somebody, and I think it's cruel, who's come to say, I want help, is go, oh, you don't need any help. You're just great the way you are. Well, there's a difference between love and liking ourselves. And you wouldn't say that to your children who you love. If they brought home D's and you knew they were capable of A's, you would challenge them to do better. You wouldn't just tell them you're great as you are, keep getting D's, unless that was their capacity. And oftentimes, I believe leaders and content creators in general appease people because they truly don't believe in them.

6:29Well, I don't have that. I believe in you. I believe you can do better. I believe you can be happier. And so do you. And so there's also the other notion out there right now. It's like, hey, just let everything roll off your back. You think Michael Jordan let things roll off his back? You think any great people just said, hey, whatever. Heck no. They use it as fuel. And so what i'm asking you to begin with there's different types of fuel and energy we're going to talk about is your fuel When things happen to you that aren't good. Does it fuel you? Add fuel make you stronger or does it take it away from you?

7:06So that is not true that it's we don't need to change and it's not true that everything should just roll off your back And you know that and you know it And so in fact, I don't know anybody successful that operates that way. Not one single person What I know is the successful people are constantly looking for more fuel. Oh, yeah, you don't think I can do it? Let me show you you want to talk bad about me. Let me prove you the other way Keep saying keep bringing it keep talking because eventually you're going to be watching right? Michael jordan played his butt off every night and he was constantly looking to get slighted He'd make up stories tom brady Won seven super bowls and this guy was still talking about being a six-round draft pick when he was 43 years old Constantly looking for a reason to get inspired A reason to be fueled Coaches put press clippings up all the time Do you think I don't care where your political Affections lie Whether you're like an Obama person or a Trump person You think those people weren't looking for fuel?

8:01You think they just let it all roll off their back? You think they thought they were great as they were? Heck no They wanted to fight They wanted fuel in their lives I can tell you in my own life You think I can't do something that fuels me I I remember when I started in business everyone talking bad Even my family even my dad going hey, why don't you just get a real job? And he did it because he loved me. I'm like i'm gonna prove it I want to use things as fuel And so I want to tell you you can either play the victim mentality Where you're weak and everything that happens to you takes from you Right, and that's too many of you and I love you Man when someone talks bad it takes from you you got to use it as fuel When when negative things happen or a client quits or someone on your you know, many people i've had in my business go Hey, man, I just don't think we're gonna make it i'm out.

8:49I'm like, really? Okay Well in the beginning that stuff used to demoralize me then fine. I'm like, you know what? Okay, you think we can't make it well watch when we do And you know what I love seeing those people now It's awesome. I love the naysayers Right. I love people who talk smack in the beginning. They ain't talking anymore Right, you got to use stuff as fuel Don't let people that you're watching convince you that you can't get better and you can't grow. It's okay to take a few things where you go, hey, I want it bad. I'm going to use this as leverage. Trust me. I know I've had them on my show.

9:27I've coached a lot of them. Top athletes, top CEOs, top politicians, right? Top financial people. They use things as fuel. They actually look for it. You want to offend me? I'm glad to be offended, right? You want to underestimate me? Here's the one thing about you. I can promise you because I love you I'm talking to you like a brother, aren't I right? This is the truth and you know it Hey People are underestimated you for a long time Haven't they they don't know how damn strong you could be Now the last thing you can do right now is underestimate yourself Don't you let anybody tell you that you can't grow That it's okay.

10:07Just the way you are You know better. That's why you came to the content in the first place There's a part of you all your life that said I want to be somebody I want to do something great with my life. I know there's more in me. I know I can be happier I know I can help more people. I know I can grow. I know I can contribute. I may not know how but I know I can I'm, not satisfied with where I am. I love me But I want to grow and get better I don't really think you can love yourself unless you know yourself and I don't think you can know yourself if you're not truly being yourself And so I like hearing stuff like that or you can just hear this eat this old big old cake of bs that Everyone's feeding you all the time So you you're listening You can listen to people that have theories or you can listen to people that have built something Right I don't even know what some of these folks that have built and and some people have built things They can't even tell you how they did it.

10:55But do you think michael jordan let things roll off his back? How about elon musk? How about joe rogan dwayne johnson? Serena williams martha stewart barbara corkran These people are competitors. Life is competitive. Business is competitive. There's levels to this game. You got to get a little bit competitive. You say, well, I'm just not that competitive. That's a lie. Yes, you are. You're at least competitive with yourself. See, it comes down to you're going to go through. Jesus Christ. Listen, guess what? He believes so deeply in what he was going for, which is salvation for you, that he was willing to die for it.

11:31Romans 12 verse 2 says, this verse says, do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Whether you're a Christian or not, you got to renew your mind. You got to start to look at adversity as fuel, setbacks as energy. And then guess what else? We live in a world that's constantly trying to shape us into something we're not. It's easy to get caught up in societal pressures and lose sight of ourselves. Romans 12 verse 2 encourages us to break free from these patterns. that we're not a victim, that I'm not going to be average and ordinary, that this life is not just for the people from the right side of the tracks, that I'm going to have setbacks.

12:10That doesn't mean it's not worth it. Your setback can be a setup for your comeback. And I won't be quoting scripture to you all the time, but Proverbs 16 verse three says these words, commit to the Lord and whatever you do, and he'll establish your plans. Partner up with God, get fired up and excited about your life. If he's with you, nobody can be against you, but you got to compete. Listen, successful people want it more. They get fueled more. They want to get after it. They want to be somebody and they want to prove the doubters wrong. Okay. The doubters are wrong about you. Not right. The people who are telling you that you can't grow or, Hey, it's all right.

12:52whatever happened no it's not and you know it's not might feel good to hear that crap but you know darn well you're supposed to step up and do something great with your life any slight larry bird michael jordan kobe bryant barack obama donald trump elon musk heck take any great mom out there listen to me on this any great you moms any great moms what happens when some kids bullying your kid at school or some teachers not being fair to your kid do you just go yeah it's all right what do you do you protect that baby of yours i remember when we had kids when they were little man someone messed with our kids you didn't want to mess with mama you did not want to mess with a mama protecting her baby and you dads out there especially you dads with little girls What if some teenage boy decided he was going to break your daughter's heart?

13:50Huh? You're there to protect. And you know darn well. It's not okay. It's not okay. Life is about resisting adversity. Not accepting it. Life is about resisting it. Life's about stepping up and pushing through obstacles. And seeing how great you can get on the other side. It's using it as leverage. courage now knowing most people are going to go the other way they're going to let it beat them down they're going to begin to believe it let me say the other thing to you when you're a competitor here's some things you need to know you got to talk faster you got to move faster you got to pick up the pace one thing i'm always telling people when they're around me man pick up the pace pick it up gotta be faster faster speed speed matters speed to market speed to execution like i think you learn a lot about somebody but they're not in too big of a hurry because that can be off-putting too, but most people's default speed, they're in too, they're not in a big enough hurry.

14:45Their meetings are too slow. They walk too slow. They think too slow. They process too slow. Not at the top, man. Not at the top. I know a lot of you're saying, Hey, Ed, your content lately, you've been intense. I am intense. Cause I want you to win. I don't know how long I'm going to be doing this, right? I don't know how long I'm going to do it, but I know this. I'm going to tell you the truth. I've won. I've watched a lot of other people win. I've coached a lot of winners. I've had a lot of them on my show. There's a through line. They're in a bigger hurry. They compete. They bring big energy.

15:15They look for leverage. It's okay. They will find reasons to push through. They protect. They fight for their dreams. By the way, you can do all this and be a nice person. You can do all this and smile. Some of the most competitive people I know, I'm thinking of a few of the ladies I know in business, boy, some of the nightest people I know, they want to kick your butt. man they want to win so bad they do it with a smile man whoo thinking of a few of them right now you don't want to mess with them you gotta pick up the pace you gotta get in a bigger hurry there's a rhythm to this thing you ever watch you ever go to a wedding i'm probably that guy by the way that i'm about to describe if you ever go to a wedding you're like hey man this dude's got some moves you know i'm saying that guy at the wedding but he's totally off rhythm you know the dude somehow he's been watching enough youtube videos he's figured some stuff, but he's just off rhythm.

16:10He's dancing to the lyrics, not the beat. You know what I'm talking about? That's most people in personal development. They've learned the steps. They're just not in rhythm. They're not on beat. It's not quite fast enough. It's not quite what it needs to be. When I meet people immediately, I feel their energy. Don't you? And I can tell whether they're a winner pretty quickly. Most people aren't conscious of the energy they bring. They're conscious of the word they're going to say. They're conscious of the clothes they're wearing. They're conscious of their hairstyle. And yet they're oblivious to the energy part.

16:46Do you have a successful energy? Do you have a presence about you, a quiet confidence about you? If you say, I don't have those things, Ed, here's what I would challenge you to do. Model somebody who does. There's nothing wrong. I'm not saying copy model. I have modeled many people in my life until the style and nuance became my own. You know, and then I focus on the fact that I'm doing good. Philippians 4.13, I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me. But I love Galatians 6.9, last scripture I'll give you, I promise you. And let us not grow weary of doing good, for in due season we will reap if we do not give up.

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18:20Don't grow weary of doing good work. Remember this competition drives innovation. If you take competition out of the marketplace. There's no innovation. So competition is a good thing. This is what successful people understand. They want to compete. They want to be recognized. They want a scoreboard. And some of you say, I don't want, you want a scoreboard in your life. When this thing's over, you know, darn well, when this life is over of yours, you want to go, man, I did it, man. I won. I became everything I could be. I saw it all that I could see. I helped everybody that I could. I've got the most rich memories of my life.

18:51I felt the emotions I wanted. I got out of this life what I wanted. And ironically, here's another step for the successful people. Let me just say this to you. You got to have a huge sense of urgency. It's got to be urgent, right? It's there. It's just more urgent for the ones we got to do it now, right? Get around the successful people. They got an unreasonable standard. They're just unreasonable. They're demanding. And, and yet at the same time, they have this amazing ability for delayed gratification. When they make a bunch of money, they don't spend it when they start to get a little bit of success They don't celebrate prematurely They delay the gratification part Because it wasn't about the gratification.

19:32It was about the process. It was about the cause it was about the good work You have to have this ability to be in a huge hurry yet delay the gratification. Don't spend the money you make Right. Don't give away your gains too early It's it's something I watch all the time. It's like people slow down. They're in real estate They close seven sales. They go take a three-week vacation. It's like, no, you got momentum. This is where you pour it on. Have a sense of urgency. Compete. Delay the gratification part. Everybody sees everything on social media and Instagram. It's all about the celebration.

20:04It's all about, that's not the real stuff. The real stuff is in the grind. The real stuff is in the doing. The real stuff is awesome. Delay the gratification. Run up the score a little bit. The pace is faster. You just can't slow down. it's like it's like doing an extra set it's like just do one more you know a lot of people rationalize well i could do it tomorrow yeah i had a good workout so i'm done well i'm not i remember one time i'll never forget this i was at the gym and as much bigger there was a young guy in front of me we were both doing shrugs and i had you know decent sized traps at the time but this dude's traps made me look ridiculous he just huge dude young kid too probably like 20 years younger than me.

20:45And I said to him, I'll never forget this. I've only been embarrassed in the gym a few times, but I was embarrassed. And I said to him, he was doing his shrugs, real heavy shrugs. I was trying to do the same way to see him to look cool. And, uh, I said, Hey man, let me ask you a question, man. Your traps look awesome. So do your lats, by the way, from doing your back. I said, I said, uh, how many, how many of those do you do? He goes, what? I said that those sets you're doing? How many are you doing? And he looked at me like almost disgusted. And he goes, until I can't. I said, what? He goes, until I can't.

21:21I go, here I am doing eight. I did my eight, but I could have done 14. How many parts of our life are we that way where we just do what we said we just do the eight but i wasn't even tired after eight i just checked the box i could have easily done 10 12 14 and the way he looked at me like and i thought i got out of the gym day like that's why his traps look like his and that's why mine look like me right and that's actually the beginning of when i established my theory of the power of one more when i think i'm done i do one more rep when i think i'm done i do one more minute on the treadmill when i think i'm done i make one more contact on a day like today when i think i'm done i make one more piece of content and so it's time that you stop doing this thing where you negotiate with yourself it's dangerous to negotiate once you've made a plan i've seen kobe bryant talk about this once you make a plan for how you're going to train do the plan don't negotiate well i hurt my shoulder well do the plan or more see successful people don't negotiate it's almost like a, I know this because I've had it.

22:30I grew up on welfare when I was a little boy for a little while. And so I know what a poverty mindset is like. And I know what a non one is. I know what a success mindset is. And I know what one isn't because I've had both. I'm certainly not a guru. And I could tell you when I was poor, I was always negotiating the price. I never got what I wanted when I walked in a store. I'd look at price tags. What's it going to cost? What's it going to cost? What's it going to cost? What's it going to cost? We've all walked in a store like that. What's it going to cost? I didn't go in the store and scan for the thing I wanted.

23:00I was obsessed with what the cost was. So many people are obsessed with the cost. What's this going to cost me? Time away from this. What if I get out of balance? What's the expense? What's the cost? What's the pain? The highest level operators in life, they don't negotiate the cost. They negotiate the worth. will this be worth it will it be worth it and because they look at what it's worth they don't negotiate with themselves and because they don't negotiate with themselves they get the best of the best out of life if you're going to constantly be in negotiation with the price tag in life you're always going to get the bargain basement stuff on clearance you do not want to live a clearance life i got a deal i cheated the game you know you do that i bought this thing i cheated the game.

23:51You can't cheat the game. There's no cheating the game. And when you begin to negotiate in the gym, yeah, I did a good workout. I'll come back and hit it next week or tomorrow. Or you know what? I ate pretty good. I deserve this. Or you know, you know, this or that, or I could do it then or my bad or that. You're negotiating. Once you commit to doing something, it's like signing a contract with yourself. That's the process. And don't start talking to yourself. Don't start looking at it. Don't evaluate. Once you start that negotiation, you're toast. I think maybe if you decided to know right now, I'm going to go to a faster pace.

24:25I am going to not let everything roll off my back. I am not going to accept myself as I am. I'm going to grow. I am going to set a higher standard. The winners also set a higher standard. See, my standard was eight. His standard was until he couldn't do anymore. Most people's standard is, I'm going to set out to do this and then negotiate it down. The standard I recommend is I'm going to do this plus one more. The champion set a higher standard and you know it. They also have crazy high expectations of other people. They're unreasonable. People that are around them all the time. This person's demanding.

24:59Yeah, they are because they know what you're capable of. I want a leader around me who is so, their expectations are so high of me. They're even higher than I have of myself. That's someone who believes in you. If you have somebody in your life with crazy high expectations of you. That means they believe in you. Man, I worry when I've had leaders or coaches in my life that don't have high expectations. It's like, you don't think I'm capable? Most people are like, oh, this is such an easy place to work. My trainer's so cool. You know, we talk about X and Y. I don't want a trainer that's cool. I want a trainer that pushes me to where I almost don't think I can do something, but he or she knows I can, pushes me to the next level.

25:36If I have a coach, I want that coach to have huge expectations of me. And here's why. The people that live great lives are unreasonable people. They have unreasonable energy. That's who they are. Unreasonable people change the world. Reasonable people work for them. Watch them. Applaud for them. And stand around wondering how those people got so lucky. they didn't get lucky. Let me tell you what they did. They brought their energy. They found the right energy. Let me tell you what else they did. They were faster. Let me tell you what else they did. They competed. Let me tell you what else they did.

26:25They found fuel in the things that you should find fuel in. They did. Let me tell you what else they did. They didn't accept themselves as they were. They wanted to grow. They knew God lived within them and they were capable of more. They were competitors, both with other people and themselves. They were not people who negotiated with themselves. They set a higher standard. They had crazy high expectations and they were unreasonable because they're going to get to this end of this life anyway. Remember this weird, rich, normal, poor, and I ain't talking about just money, rich in experience, rich in memories, rich in emotions, rich in relationships, rich in spirituality, rich in faith, weird, rich, normal, poor.