Why Some People Succeed Faster—And How You Can Too

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1:37This is The Ed Myron Show. All right, welcome back to the show, everybody. So grateful you decided to join me again here this week. And I have some special stuff for you. I've been asked a lot, what are some of the things on peak performance when you work with, you know, elite performers? I've been blessed that over the last 30 years, I've worked with some of the top athletes in the world, CEOs, political figures, and entertainers as well. And what are some of the things that you work with with them that you could teach us on the show and also that you've learned from them through friendships and coaching them?

2:12So I'm going to just share two this week with you because I think they're major. And even if you think you're familiar with these two topics hang in there with me this week because i'm going to reinforce it On a much deeper level and explain to you that there's levels to this game of success and frankly of life So the two things we're gonna cover this week is repetitions Doing more repetitions. Okay, and number two seems uncorrelated But we're actually going to talk about deadlines and having deadlines in your life It's two of the biggest things that I work on with the top performers Behind the scenes that I coach and so we're gonna get into this week before I do it My team keeps telling me to remind you all of this, that to get on my email list, if you go to edmylet.com, and I think it says join here, just put your email in there.

2:54I have nothing to sell you. There's not going to be a funnel you're going to fall into. I just want to be able to communicate with you regularly. We're going to start sending out a newsletter about the shows that come out before they come out, and you'll get early access. So go to edmylet.com and submit your email there, and you'll be grateful that you did. Okay, now let's get into it. So this whole success thing, the difference between winning and losing is so small, it's almost too scary to talk about. It truly is. And the reason that people don't talk about it too much is they don't really know what it is.

3:22There's a lot of people, unfortunately, that are now in the coaching business or personal development that have really never won themselves outside of telling you how to win. And so a lot of their information, when I listen to it or the successful people that I coach listen to are like, what are they talking about? And so I want to give you two things that I know definitively work and and this is from my own life and from the lives of the people that I work with And in a minute i'm gonna give you a treat This has been such a passionate topic for me And so fresh on my mind as I was preparing for today's show yesterday I was working doing some other recording for something else working and this concept came up to me And I recorded it out in my backyard looking at the ocean And i'm going to throw to that clip in a minute It's about seven minutes long because as I was doing it in the moment the area of that moment you're like hey i'm going to do this right now because i know later it won't be as good or as fresh and so i recorded something for all of you yesterday that's going to be a part of today's podcast and so if you're on youtube it'd be cool you'll get a chance to see a different view there's an ocean in the background if you're on audio that's okay too it's going to be still the same information that the people on youtube are going to get and um but here we go so number one thing is repetitions i think most people don't really have a concept of how many practice repetitions it takes to get great at something.

4:33And in the clip I'm going to show you in a minute, you're going to understand exactly what I'm talking about, why reps matter. And there are levels to this stuff. Let me give you an example of things that would probably blow your mind. I think you all probably know who Steph Curry is. Steph is going to be a Hall of Fame, probably top 10 NBA player of all time. Some people think he's the best player of all time, but he certainly knows the best shooter of all time in the history of the NBA. Went to Davidson College. This is not a guy that went to a big time school. He was not heavily recruited. And even out of college, he was small, so a lot of people wasn't sure whether or not he was going to make a great NBA player.

5:04And his dad, Dale Curry, was an NBA player. And even with having that pedigree, people doubted this kid. Now he's the greatest shooter, and it's not even arguable, of all time in the history of the NBA. But why is that? Because a lot of guys in the NBA are great shooters. A lot of them have a talent for it. A lot of them practice a lot too, right? Practice and doing repetitions. You don't get to the NBA with a lot of repetitions. But even in the NBA, there are levels to this game. Listen to this. To this day, Steph Curry takes 500 practice shots a day. 500. That's 3 ,500 a week, 14 ,000 a month, 168 ,000 practice shots a year, and now it's almost 2.8 million practice shots in his career.

5:49Think about that just for a second. Now, wouldn't it be easy for Steph Curry to go, I already know how to shoot. I've already made a lot of shots in my life. What's the point of me doing more and more of this it's monotonous i'm already good at it It's just routine and that's what you think with your sales presentation That's what you think with your phone calls. That's what you think about everything in your life And too many of you have set a standard for yourself. That's just as good as you already are But steph curry knows that the more and more he does this reflexively then he can operate under pressure Then he can operate when he's fatigued.

6:18It's one thing to shoot shots I was listening to his video of another great shooter named ray allen and he said man I didn't just jump and shoot because in a normal game I'm running up and down the floor because I watch a lot of guys do practice shots they barely get their feet off the floor an inch or two I take a full shot jump just as high on my practice shot as I do on a game shot because I'm going to be that much higher off the ground when I shoot so a lot of guys practice they make their 100 practice shots but it's not at full speed it's not under the same amount of pressure Steph Curry does 500 a day and he's already the greatest.

6:51He's already made millions of shots and he keeps doing more of it because there's levels to greatness. Just get this straight. Greatness always rises to the top. If you feel under-recognized right now, under-appreciated at your job, just realize this. If you're great, they eventually find you. Success eventually finds you. If you want to be a millionaire in whatever your business is, you have to be outstanding at it. You can't be just the best person in your office or in your town. you got to be the best in the industry. And the best is not more talented. The best does more reps, repetitions. Tiger Woods was known to hit around a thousand golf balls per day in his prime.

7:30He was obsessed with practicing. He would practice over 10 hours a day on the practice range. He would practice up to 10 hours a day. And he was already Tiger Woods. Think about this just for a second, a thousand shots a day. He'd say a thousand contacts a day. He was already Tiger Woods. He'd already won all these golf tournaments. He was already known as the one or two best players in the world, but there's levels to this game. That's how he dominated. See, it's one thing to win for a year or two years, but to dominate for a decade. Do you know that I know a lot of people that were successful in business for a year or two or three that are now broke or that used to be wealthy and not anymore because when they got to a decent level, they stopped refining their game.

8:12They stopped doing the reps. Listen to me, please. Most of you that even have some momentum right now, you take for granted the game. Do you have any reps and hours I put in to do a podcast like this? I'm going to talk about it when the video comes back to me. I've done thousands of hours on camera, thousands of hours on stage, and I still practice and practice and practice because I know there's levels to this game. Let me tell you a fascinating story. About four years ago, a very, I'll just tell you, Adele bought a home where I lived and she lived kind of across the fairway at this golf course from me.

8:47And I didn't know that she had bought the house. And I woke up one night, it was like two o 'clock in the morning and I'm hearing all this music. It was blaring across the fairway into my backyard and I was really upset. I'm like, I got to sleep, right? So I go into the backyard and I listened for a few minutes and then it was not great music. It was karaoke. And I'm like, I'm not going to listen to this for the next two or three hours. I got to sleep. And so I actually got dressed and I started to drive over to her house, not knowing that it was her house yet. Cause she had just moved in. In fact, it was her birthday.

9:18And, um, all of a sudden the music changed and like a voice of an angel started singing. I mean, like of an angel and it was Adele. And I start listening to this and I stop, I go, I'm about to get a 30 minute concert from Adele in my own backyard. It was the coolest thing ever. And I just listened to this beautiful voice and I was so glad I didn't go over and ask him to stop. And the next morning at breakfast, I saw her there and I said, I just got to tell you something. I was almost in your backyard. She goes, well, actually one of the other neighbors did come over. And I said, it was just so great to hear your voice.

9:54And I said, I'm just curious, like, how often do you practice? Let me tell you what she told me. I wanted to make sure I wrote this down. She said, well, I'm about to do a Vegas residency soon. And me and my team will put in over 2 ,400 hours of reps and practice before we have the first show. And she said, I'll probably sing the average song there. I wrote it down here. At least 100 hours each, probably. she's already Adele she's already refining her craft because she knows under pressure when the crowd's bigger she's not feeling well or she's tired she still wants to be at her best see most people just have a standard of I want to get pretty good and then on their good day they're good but how are you on your bad day how are you when you're sick how are you when you're tired how are you when you're stressed how are you when you've had a fight with your spouse how are you when it's a really big appointment or an important one.

10:47And so I don't know, Tiger Woods does it, Steph Curry does it, Adele does it. You could argue these are three of the goats of all time in their industry, and I could keep naming people for you if you want. But hopefully that sets the stage for repetitions. Whatever you think is enough, it's not. You got to do more. And I address more in this video. I'm going to throw it to the video in my backyard I recorded yesterday because I can't do it this well again. So here we go. Listen to this. So this week we're going to talk about two things, repetition and deadlines. And these have been two things in my career that have become benchmarks of success that are kind of secrets.

11:21I was speaking this weekend in Dallas for a friend of mine, Kent Klogeer. And in the green room, there were several people in there, very complimentary that I was their best speaker they've seen in their life and nice things. And the guy said to me, he said, hey man, like, you know, and I've watched you, I've come to this group this particular group that I spoke to I've spoken to them about every three years he brings me in and it's a different message over the three years actually completely different six years ago three years ago and then this year and he said like he goes like I just feel like you're getting better and better which is a great compliment to hear I just you know love hearing that um I don't know if it's true or not but I love hearing it and I said well one of the things man is I'm crazy about getting my reps in my repetition one of the reasons I do speak so much is it keeps me sharp and I keep getting better.

12:07You do something enough times over and over and over again. If you're smart, you're learning from each experience. You're taking notes, what worked, what didn't, what setup didn't work, what conclusion didn't, how can I tie it down different? Maybe it's the sequencing. Maybe something I think is going to work on stage doesn't work at all. But I said, I only know this because I've done hundreds, if not thousands of reps on stage. And the reason that I still speak, people say to me often, like, why do you still travel so much and speak? I'm paid when I do it, but it's certainly not something that I need to be doing.

12:34I really do it, A, because it's not work to me and I feel like I'm making a difference when I do it and I'm having a sense of contribution. The second reason is, and I talk oftentimes about this with a lot of my comedian friends, I don't want to lose my edge. I want to keep expanding and keep growing. And the more speaking I do, the better I get as long as I'm taking lessons every time I do it. Well, this is true for you in your craft. You've got to do more reps, not only because you're going to have a higher propensity of getting more accounts, more clients, more whatever, but you're going to get better.

13:04Most people aren't doing enough reps at whatever their chosen craft is. My son asks me all the time in golf, dad, what do you think I'm not doing that I need to? More reps, more reps, more reps. And I know people will tell you often in personal development, well, more isn't always better. Well, that's probably true to some extent in some things, but overall more is better. And it's not just better because you're putting more are out there with more chances to win, but you are getting better. And anybody that you've ever seen in your life, if you watch them over one year, three years, five years, they get better.

13:35You got to get great. The people that get wealthy in this world, they get great at what they do. Whatever they do, they're great. And so you got to do more reps. I want to challenge you this week, more contacts, more calls, more Zooms, more whatever it is that you do. And then from each experience deduce what worked, what didn't and expand and improve from it. This is really important. Like I think many of you have seen me speak on stage, for example, and you think, man, this is like, you know, if you think I'm decent at it, my gosh, like he just walks out there and does it. Well, I don't, I've just walked out there and done it thousands of times.

14:10And when I do it, I am, I reflect afterwards. I have some introspection. What, what did I enjoy about it? What didn't I enjoy? There are things that I regularly think, oh, the crowd's going to I love this one. And then they don't, or it doesn't hit or the sequence is wrong. My stand-up friends, when you watch a stand-up special on like Netflix, for example, or, you know, Amazon, my friends have put those specials on, whether it's Sebastian Maniscalco or Jeff Foxworthy or Nikki Glaser or Whitney Cummings or whatever, Nate Bergazzi, whatever comedian you see, you understand they've been doing that routine for several years before they film a special.

14:45Oftentimes it's usually about two years in between specials and they start with new content. two years. They've told every one of those jokes with a different pause, a different nuance, a different setup to get it so dialed in. And these are the best in the world and they won't record it for two years. Sometimes Rogan just went, I think four years in between specials and that, and it's only for an hour of content. They want to get the reps in the reps in the reps in under different conditions, different circumstances, like small crowds, big crowds. and in your case, friendly clients, not so friendly clients, like over and over and over, then you get great.

15:22Then it's almost automatic and then you become more impactful. So more reps at whatever you do. The second thing is deadlines. I'm kind of a psycho about it and not enough people have deadlines on what they want to get done. For example, I'm, you, many of you know, I'm developing the houses on my Island. And one of the mistakes I made is I did not give them a deadline on when they were going to be finished. So they're just getting done whenever they do. And not only is it taking longer than it needs to take, they're missing the rhythm of success. Successful people have a pace, an urgency, a speed to them that's unnoticed by the naked eye, but it's critical.

15:52And the only way that you find that pace is if everything has a deadline. So if you're going to make 10 contacts today, by what time? Not just 10 contacts. Don't lollygag the 10 throughout the day. By what time? If you've got a money goal for the month, by what date? If you've got a weight loss goal, by what date, what specific amount of weight? about everything I have has a deadline to it. This video that I'm recording right now, I had a deadline set for when it had to be recorded by for me and it's moved me toward, you know what started to happen? I knew the deadline was coming. My mind started working on what I wanted to say.

16:24I started processing the information sooner. I knew it was coming. And so I've worked on this like three or four times over the last three or four days, as opposed to, Oh, I'll just wing it. Let me knock out a video. So deadlines create urgency. they create the right pace, but they also trigger your subconscious mind, particularly your unconscious mind, starts to go to work on whatever it is you're going to do when a deadline's attached to it. And it doesn't do that if there's no deadline. So let's just say, for example, I had a presentation I wanted to have completed by. If I don't set a deadline to it, it does not go into the unconscious file to start working on it.

16:56But when I go, I have to have that presentation ready by Thursday at 3 p.m. This clock starts ticking in your unconscious. And now you begin to create all and pull from all the resources of your unconscious and subconscious mind to start working on that presentation, even though you may not have consciously started working on it, because there's a deadline attached, the big parts of your brain go to work on something. Isn't that powerful? A lot of data tells us this lately. By simply attaching a deadline, your subconscious and unconscious mind starts to go to work on making that thing great, even though you haven't consciously worked on it.

17:32And you rob yourself from all the benefits of memory, of cadence, of pulling those files up, of references, all the power of your spirit and your being. You rob yourself of all of that simply because there's no deadline attached because it doesn't move the file up in your subconscious mind to go to work on it. I don't exactly understand how that works, but I know that it does. You know that it does too. You ever have to get up really early in the morning beyond your normal time? You realize that isn't it more difficult to sleep those nights because your mind's like, I got to get up at four. I got to get up at four.

18:01It's going to work on getting up, which isn't good for your sleep because there's a deadline set on it. The deadline makes you more productive, gives you the speed and urgency that you need to get something done. So now you're in the rhythm and pace of success. But that's the, that's the other part. The invisible part is your mind's going to work on making it great, even though you consciously have them. All right, everybody, repetitions and deadline this week. All right. So there you have it. So listen, I wanted to play that for you because I wanted you to have some understanding. And the other thing about repetitions and then I'm going to talk about the mind because I use some terms there subconscious and unconscious mind and I want to make some distinctions for you about those two things because they are slightly different in my opinion but one thing about reps just like for this podcast for example you guys you know I could mail in these podcasts when I do them and I think my producer will tell you that you know most people have a producer that writes everything for them and I write every one of these shows all of the content you're seeing here today did not come from a producer.

18:55It came from me. I don't have somebody write my scripts. When I have someone come on the podcast, I do have a producer do a cursory review, but I try my best every time to put two to three hours into every single podcast, sometimes five and seven hours when I'm interviewing somebody. I'll watch other interviews of theirs. I'll read the book if I have the time to do it. You know, I've been a guest on hundreds of podcasts and it's blown me away over the years, the discrepancy and preparation level. And so I think when you see somebody do something, whether they're speaking on stage or they're great at sales or they close, well, you know, they're persuasive or a podcast like this, you think, well, they're probably pretty natural at it.

19:35Well, yeah, there's three stages of progress in life. I've covered this on a podcast a long time ago, but the three stages are the awkward stage. Awkward is where you just knew it's something and you're terrible at it, right? You're just not any good at it because you're new at it. And when you do enough enough repetitions, you move from awkward to what I call mechanical. And it's kind of where you kind of know the words, you know, the structure, it's pretty darn good, but it's still kind of, you know, hit and miss. It looks a little machinist. It looks a little rehearsed. It doesn't seem what is step three, the natural stage.

20:06And the natural stage is it just looks like these people were born to do it. It's easy for them. They roll out of bed and it's a cakewalk. And then there's levels to natural. See, a great high school shooter looks pretty natural when you go to high school. him. Well, that kid's the best kid. Then when you go to Division I college, that's the best kid. And then when you go to the NBA, they can all have a natural shot, and then there's Steph Curry. And I know from golf, having a son who's a professional golfer, you go to an average golf tournament, you can find the two or three kids who look a little bit awkward.

20:32Or maybe they have a mechanical golf swing. And then there's the two or three that are natural. And you go, that's a natural. Well, no, you just got more reps. And more productive reps, more correct reps. And then even from there, then there's Tiger Woods. And that's a whole different level from the best of all time. And so these reps matter. I just want to challenge you to be doing more of it. By the way, it makes you more comfortable. It takes away your nervousness. You operate well under pressure. We always operate reflexively to our habits under pressure. And if you haven't practiced, what's incredible to me is that people just lose the stomach for it.

21:04And here's why it's boring. It's monotonous unless you're trying to learn.

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22:35What worked? What didn't work? what did I forget to say? How did I miss that moment? Man, I talked right over the applause or I hesitated there. And I go into this mode where most speakers, just so you know, when they walk off stage, if you wonder what they're actually doing, they're asking the mic, they're asking the AV people, did I do okay? When they go back to the green room, did I do all right? When a singer walks off stage and they seem so confident, they killed it. Was I okay tonight? They immediately become insecure. My standup comedian friends, almost every single one of they're done, bro, I messed the third joke up.

23:05Can you believe, man, was it all right? Did they catch it? So everyone looks confident up there. Right when they get back, the great ones are in self-reflection. They're in awareness. They audit the performance. They learn from it. They get better. I'm so addicted to that that I've been speaking on stage for 30 years. I've been fortunate that I've been picked the number one speaker in the world now three of the last four years. And I don't, that's all a matter of opinion. It's nice to be acknowledged for it, but I certainly don't feel like it. If you knew how much beating of myself up I do, when every podcast is done, the first thing I say to my producer is, was that okay?