The Manifestation Queen: The 7 steps to manifest and live your dream life - Roxie Nafousi

0:00Manifesting is using the power of your mind to change and create the reality you experience. Can anyone manifest? Yes, absolutely anyone and everyone. Should everyone manifest? Yes, everybody should. Because manifesting is about becoming the best version of yourself that you can be. And everybody should do that. Roxy Nafauzy is an expert in manifestation, world-renowned self-development coach, entrepreneur, and two-time Sunday Times best-selling author. Hailed by many as the manifesting queen, her debut book, Manifest, Seven Steps to Living Your Best Life, has sold millions of copies worldwide and was followed by books Manifest, Dive Deeper, and Manifest for Kids, and has just launched her first perfume collection, Alia, designed to boost confidence and elevate the energy of the wearer.

0:45Manifesting isn't just about attracting things into your life. It's about stepping into the most empowered version of yourself that you can be. I had no career path, no idea what I wanted to do with my life. I was completely lost. My dad was incredibly cold and unemotional. My mom suffered from quite very severe mental health issues. And so there was a very unstable upbringing at home. I felt so unworthy, so unlovable, so not enough for the world. That is what led me to... Do you resent your parents? Really, actually, what I realized is it had to come from within and from changing the way that I thought, what I believed and changing my behavior.

1:36The big secret of manifesting is that we only attract what we subconsciously believe we are worthy of receiving. The only thing standing in our way is us, our insecurities, limiting beliefs and feelings of low self-worth. If you're looking back at the younger Voxie, the Voxie that felt lost if she was here with us, what would you tell her?

2:07Roxy, how would you explain in simple terms who you are and what you okay i my name's roxy i am a mother a friend a sister a daughter an auntie and many things professionally i am a speaker uh an author um a coach a podcast host essentially i suppose what I just say is I am many things. And I think what I, I'm always trying to encourage and something that I'm focusing on now is allowing other people to realize that they are many things too. And it's really easy for us to find, to define ourselves in one way by, often by our career, by we find an identity with what we do, but actually all of us are wonderfully multifaceted.

3:03So yeah, that's who I am. I agree. And I find it refreshing for once, especially living in a city like London, that you started by describing yourself through an emotional lens. And then you led on into the more logical aspects of your life. Yeah. The professional aspects. It's interesting because when you live in London or in cities like New York, when you ask someone, and probably the first question they ask you is, hi, what's your name? What is it that you do? Yeah. Right. And it's like, is that really what's going to give you the most information about myself? so thank you for that i think it's very refreshing and unusual to hear now you're recognized as one of the leading voices in manifestation globally but certain in the uk and some people know you as the manifestation queen now for those who haven't followed your work what equips you to be a subject matter expert in this field such an interesting question i've not been asked that before.

4:01It's funny because you don't get a degree in manifestation. You know, I didn't go study it at school. I don't have a master's in it. All I really have is life experience and life experience paired with a deep passion for learning. And I wanted to learn everything I could to transform my own life. And I paired that passion for learning with a deep desire to help other people and to use what I had been through to make the lives of others better, to be of service. And when I combined both of those things, I think I found my purpose. And there was something in the way that I presented it to others that resonated.

4:55And so it enabled me to spread my message further and wider. So yeah. I want to deep dive into those early years. Who were you before becoming the Manifestation Queen?

5:14well where do i start how far back do i go when i was 28 27 just about to turn 28 it was in may 2018 and i was definitely i was at rock bottom and at that point in my life i had been addicted to cocaine and alcohol for a decade um and i had never known what it was like to be happy up until that point. I mean, I really cannot say that I'd ever experienced prolonged feelings of joy. And I was definitely suffering from depression, I would say from about 12. But there was not this awareness around mental health. So I didn't know at the time. But in hindsight, in looking back, absolutely, that's what it was.

6:01I had no career path, no idea what I wanted to do with my life. I was completely lost. And above all, I just hated myself. I felt so unworthy, so unlovable, so not enough for the world. And it was horrible. Like, being in my own mind was not a nice place to be. and it was only when I discovered manifestation that I was able to essentially just take some control back and to create a sense of agency in my life and realize I think that I was responsible for my happiness and it took me from this victim mentality into somebody that was able to actually take responsibility and that's when everything changed.

6:49What led you to that victim mentality and making those poor choices of consuming drugs. Because I personally believe that how our parents educate us, right? Unfortunately, our parents are not perfect, right? And they may miss some important things that can lead us into making not the best choices for our life. And some of them could be in relation to drugs. And unfortunately, I have some friends that fall under that category or into a depression. How was growing up at home for you? Yeah, I mean, I definitely think most things stem from my childhood. And I think even people who think they had a really great childhood.

7:32And I thought for a long time, I was one of those people because I went to a private school. I had a sort of privileged upbringing in that sense. but actually emotionally it was there was no way I was going to end up with any kind of self-worth um my dad was uh incredibly cold and unemotional um I think probably was it is on the spectrum or was um so there was no emotional connection at all no I love yous no nothing and he was so hard on us to be better, to perform better, to get good grades. He was obsessed with education. So there was this kind of coldness here. And then my mom, you know, suffered from quite very severe mental health issues.

8:24And so there was a very unstable upbringing at home. There was no safe emotional safety whatsoever, which only now I can see how damaging that is for a child when they're starting to form their attachments and feelings in the world. But on top of that, I was very different to everyone else that I grew up with because I was Iraqi. I came from a very Muslim family. And so I both didn't feel safe at home, but I also didn't feel safe with my peers because I was horrifically bullied. And I just felt very other. And I was lonely. I I was really lonely a lot of the time. I don't remember ever being given chances to play as a kid.

9:10I was on my own and my brothers and sisters were much older than me. My parents didn't play. I didn't have friends. It was just very lonely. And I don't think my story is particularly dissimilar to a lot of other people's. So it's definitely not a sub-story or anything like that. I don't even think it was the worst thing in the world. I just think it didn't set me up to find any kind of self-worth. And there were lots of other things that happened along the way as well. But I would say that is what led me to finding peace and solace in drinking and drugs because it was just an escape and a way for me to have this like false sense of confidence.

9:54You were trying to escape your reality. Do you resent your parents? Not at all. You know, I think my mom, I really feel for her and she definitely just did the best she could. And my dad, he passed away last year and in his later years, he completely changed. changed. It was, I don't know if it was, you know, the hormones or from his surgeries or what, but he was so soft and so proud of me. Like he was the proudest person in the world. I mean, he took my books everywhere with him, even on his, you know, basically as he was dying, was telling the doctors about my books. He couldn't go anywhere without, and he is, was an incredible businessman and had the most, you know, he was definitely, his lack of emotion was nothing personal.

10:50It's just who he was. He came from absolutely nothing. I mean, he grew up in like proper poverty. He was the smartest man I've ever met and was teaching me about quantum physics from when I was five years old, which as a five-year-old is not what I wanted to talk about. But now what I realize is he is the one that instilled in me my business acumen, the way that I think, my mindset. Like he made me who I am. And I think that I am so grateful for all the, they built a lot of resilience in me, even if they didn't know it or intend it. But I'm so pleased for that. Like at the moment, I feel I'm juggling a lot of things, as most people are.

11:35And what I feel really proud of is my resilience to it. And I wouldn't have built that if I hadn't gone through what I had. This is also very refreshing to listen to because I have some friends, which I will not name their names because they will stop talking to me. but they do come from privileged backgrounds and they have developed some insecurities due to very similar experiences to you. So successful parents, successful dad, perhaps very disciplined, very demanding, not always at home, so they lack that emotional love and care and that build certain levels of insecurity within them. And if you talk to them right now, they're grown up adults, not all of them but many of them I feel like they are escaping

12:28responsibility by blaming everything on their parents so to the bigger questions like I am this in this way because my parents did this to me or I didn't get that job because my parents built me in this way but it's I think very powerful and also liberating to forgive and also to be grateful to our parents because I'll open up I don't think I've opened up about this before maybe just in one other episode but I don't have a relationship with my dad whatsoever and we haven't spoken for the last probably 11 years so let's say I lost contact with him when I was 18 years old in a moment in which I would imagine any young man would really need a father figure absolutely and for for a number of years I did resent him but then it really liberated me to understand him, to forgive him, not necessarily forget, but to forgive him.

13:19And also try to embrace the good things that he embedded within me. Again, going back to what you were saying, resilience, a hundred percent. My father broke me psychologically so many times that that has built a level of resilience that I don't think I would have gotten just by myself. So I think we We live and we learn. And since we only live once, we might as well live thinking about the positive aspects that life brought us because that will definitely help us live happier in the present and make better choices for the future. It's a lot easier to just blame someone and accept the way that you are.

13:55It takes a lot more conscious effort and it requires you to let go of your ego as well to be able to say, okay, this happened. but it's actually my choice to decide how that impacts me. And I think it's a harder road to go down because it might require you to do some healing, to go to therapy, to talk about it, to own your own shit, essentially. But the word you use, liberating, is the exact way to describe it. That's what it brings you. What I also find fascinating is that for people to drive meaningful change in their lives, they need to hit rock bottom. It's like, look, you're driving and you're seeing one kilometer away that you're going to crash.

14:41And people around you, your co-pilot and the passengers behind you, they're telling you, hey, Roxy or hey, Alberto, you're going to crash. You're going to crash. And you're like, I don't care. I don't care. That's fine. And you can see the world coming closer to you. And until you hit that wall, you won't change your mentality to drive slower or be more careful, be less reckless. and I feel like a lot of people in life, they need to hit that rock bottom in order for them to change their lives. And I feel like in a way that also happened to you. Can you describe to me that rock bottom moment and how you rose from it?

15:15Yeah, I think you're right. I think, you know, when you hit rock bottom, you're kind of forced to evaluate your life and look at what needs to change. Because I think when you hit rock bottom, you almost realize that the only person that can get you out of that is you. I think until you hit rock bottom, you can still look to other things or other people to save you. But when you're at the bottom of that hole, there's no one else around and you have to find a way to climb up. And so I think that's the kind of like beauty of rock bottoms is you're forced to take responsibility and that's it, I think.

15:56And I think for me, when I hit rock bottom, I had tried to give up drugs so many times. I hadn't. And there was always someone or something like, poor me, like it's because this happened to me or because I'm going through this or people treat me this way. But at that point, after trying everything else I could to find a way out, whether that was going on a yoga retreat or whatever, all these kind of things, Really, actually, what I realized is it had to come from within and from changing the way that I thought, what I was thinking about, what I believed, and changing my behavior. I completely agree with you.

16:45I'll give you, I'll open up about a different example of myself. So I used to smoke cigarettes and I think I quit in 2016. And since then I didn't smoke a cigarette. but I maybe a couple of years later I started to vape especially started to vape because the first few months in when vaping came out we didn't have the knowledge that we have today of how addictive it is and and also the negative consequences of vaping we were told that they were harmless yeah and I started vaping and then at some point I was thinking I don't want to be vaping because you know more information started to come out and then a few of my friends that were telling me It's going to give you this type of cancer and da, da, da, da.

17:23But again, these are external reinforcements. And I think change can only come from within. So I remember that my rock bottom, it's not cocaine, but it was vaping. It's still an addiction. It was seeing myself on a freaking Tuesday afternoon, like, or like after lunch, just like vaping. And then my vaping ran out and I couldn't find another vape. And I had such an important meeting. I'm going to tell you, it was quite important for me at the time. and I actually pretended that I had another important meeting to tell that meeting that I cannot make it right now. Can we push it to get a fucking vape?

17:59Are you like a business that has costed me sweat, blood and tears to build? And my friends and my family, they know that it's costed me a big part of myself just for a freaking vape. And I was like, fuck this, fuck that. I'm moving on. And that was my rock bottom, right? And nobody had to tell me. I was like, I'm not doing it only for health reasons or for wellness purposes, but because I don't want to feel like I'm a slave to this. Yes, absolutely. That's a great example of it. And thanks for sharing that. When did you first discover manifestation? So I heard it first on a podcast in May 2018.

18:38So I had, people were not talking about manifesting then. Like nobody knew what it was. Nobody was talking about it. I mean, very few people. Some people had obviously read The Secret and they knew about the law of attraction. But back in 2018, I had never heard the word manifesting before. And so, yeah, I listened to this podcast that my friend recommended at a point where I was sort of really not in a good place. And a few weeks later, on the 7th of June 2018, a man named Wade messaged me on a dating app. and every year to the day on the 7th of June 2019 our baby boy wolf was born and yeah you know every single area of my life changed very uh very rapidly but very consistently and uh yeah it's been kind of a magical journey since you you look very happy like you just had a very beautiful smile when you were describing this yeah I have some friends that they are a bit skeptic when it comes to manifestation.

19:43I guess like with anything, right? But in their case, I asked them, so what do you think about manifestation? And most of them, they tell me, I think it's just wishful thinking. It's almost like if you're writing a letter to Santa Claus, and let's see what happens. How would you define manifestation? So manifesting is using the power of your mind to change and create the reality you experience. And I understand why there is so much skepticism about it, because I think there's, because now it's blown up and it's become this big trend again. There's lots of misinformation. So it gets devalued when people talk about it because they just say, oh, I'm manifesting this, I'm manifesting that without knowing what the term really means.

20:23And manifestation is not a passive experience. It's not just about sitting, waiting, wishing. That really is impossible. You can't think your way to success or change. Manifesting really is a self-development practice. it's a way of living and it's about changing the way that you think changing what you believe about yourself and the world and then it's about taking aligned action to help you get there and it's really rooted yes some of it is rooted in spirituality but also in science neuroscience psychology wisdom and when you look at all the great thinkers and speakers if you back if you go back centuries, you will realize that all of them are talking about the power of your mind and the way that it can impact your life.

21:09And some of them will use the term manifestation, but many of them won't. You know, they might talk about the power of your subconscious or, you know, whatever it is, but they're all talking about the same idea, which is that our minds have this powerful impact on our reality. But is it more a tool or a belief that just shifts your mind on the right direction to start working towards your goals? Or is it more similar to the law of attraction? Well, what I developed was a seven-step process to manifestation. And this seven-step process really explains manifesting in its entirety. And this is what the Orange book, Manifest Seven Steps to Living Your Best Life and my blue book, Manifest Dive Deeper, Teach People.

21:59And these books have, not to blow my own trumpet, but they have sold a million copies around the world in 122 countries in only three years. And I only share that because it works. These seven steps work. And if they didn't work, they wouldn't have sold that many copies. It's because people are experiencing it. They're so excited. They're telling their friends. So the seven steps are like very, very top line. Number one is be clear in your vision. So really this is about knowing what you want, setting clear goals, and most importantly, knowing who you want to become. Because manifesting isn't just about attracting things into your life.

22:42It's about stepping into the most empowered version of yourself that you can be. And in being the most empowered version of yourself, you make change happen. So you need to know where you want to go. Step two is removing fear and doubt. It's understanding that the only thing standing in our way is us, our insecurities, limiting beliefs, and feelings of low self-worth. And so removing fear and doubt is really this, this is where the self-development and healing comes in. And it requires you to understand what's holding you back, work on processing any old wounds, traumas, changing the way that you talk to yourself, rewiring your subconscious beliefs so that you can truly understand that you are worthy of the things that you desire.

23:27Because the big secret of manifesting is that we only attract what we subconsciously believe we are worthy of receiving. Step three is align your behavior. This is about showing up as the person you want to become, taking action, stepping outside your comfort zone, essentially doing all the things you know you need to do to get to where you want to go. Step four is overcome tests. This is about how you change your perspective on challenges, obstacles, rejection, and essentially persist through them. Step five is about embracing gratitude. Gratitude has a high vibrational frequency. And it's all about, yes, knowing.

24:04Well, I call it the manifesting sweet spot. What do you mean by high vibrational frequency? So the universe is made up of energy. And quantum physics tells us that the only thing that differentiates, say, us and our thoughts and emotions from the ceiling or the sky or whatever is the density and frequency of the vibration of the atoms. Now, you have things that operate at a high vibrational frequency and you have things that operate at a low vibrational frequency. Now, the law of attraction states that like attracts like. Now, let me be clear, that is not scientifically proven, but anecdotally, we all know it to be true.

24:43When we operate at a high vibrational frequency by sinking into emotions such as love, peace, contentment, joy, gratitude, we seem to attract good things back to us that match that frequency. So when you're in a really good mood, those are the days where you're driving to work and all the lights are green. You finally sign off with that client. You get a text from someone you were hoping to hear from. But on the days where you're operating at a low vibrational frequency, perhaps you're full of anger, resentment, guilt, fear, sadness, worry. Those are the days you miss your train. Your Uber cancels on you three times.

25:17You forget your phone at home, whatever. And so that's the kind of law of attraction part of manifesting. And what you see is that it's really only just a small part of it. but it is an important part. Our vibration does matter. And gratitude can help constantly shift you into this high vibrational frequency. My mom used to say the statement in Arabic, which literally translates as, for every thanks you give, you get a thousand in return. And it sums this up perfectly. It really puts us in this abundant mindset. And for me, I call it the manifesting sweet spot, which is knowing what you want whilst being entirely grateful for all that you already have.

25:54And this for me is where you build a happy life because happiness is not something that you reach at the end of the journey. And I think that there's this misconception that once we manifest our goals, then we'll be happy. But what I'm trying to constantly remind people is that reaching your goals will never make you happy. And we know this. we've reached enough goals to know that the feeling of happiness we experienced was very fleeting until we made a new goal for ourselves and actually what builds happiness is appreciation for the here and now now i've been saying this for some time and just last week i started reading a book called the molecule of more which is all about dopamine and it literally explained this in chemical terms and i was like i love when i've thought of something and then i find the evidence for it afterwards.

26:46I'm like, phew. So what it is, is that I've been saying for a long time that goals are really important. Goals are important because they keep us motivated. They give us momentum. They give us something to look forward to. And that's why for me, manifesting is so important. We need to feel like we're constantly, we can align ourselves with what it, or firstly, recognize what do I actually want from life? What do I want to make me happy? And how can I find the motivation to move towards it? Now, the reason setting goals is so important is because it releases a lot of dopamine. Dopamine really is all about future reality.

27:19So we only experience release dopamine when we're thinking about something in the future. So when you're thinking about when you're shopping and you're thinking, this is how I'm going to look and feel in this outfit I buy, the drive of dopamine is because it's creating this future fantasy, let's call it. So it's the same when we have goals. We're creating a fantasy in our mind of what might happen when we reach that goal. And that's great because dopamine gives us feelings of excitement and motivation, which are really important feelings for us to have. And we need them to keep moving forward, to feel alive, to make things happen.

27:56But to actually experience joy, that doesn't come from the dopamine. Joy comes from serotonin and oxytocin, which is an ability to be present in the here and now. They're called here and now chemicals. And so when I heard this, I was like, oh my God, this is exactly what I'm talking about. Use dopamine to drive you forward. So have those goals, but use appreciation of the here and now to actually create those feelings of joy and happiness. So gratitude for me is such an important step of my seven-step guide to manifesting. Step six is then turn envy into inspiration, which is, you know, envy comes from a scarcity mindset, you have something and that might mean less for me.

28:39And it keeps us stuck. And actually envy is something that we can use. We can use it to show us either what needs healing or what we desire in our lives. And then we can turn that envy with a really simple mindset shift into inspiration, allowing other people's success to show you what's possible. And then step seven is trust in the universe. And for me, the universe is energy. For some people, it might be God, it might be a spiritual realm but trust is the kind of the gold dust of all of this trust is your ability to surrender to the journey to trust that things are happening the way that they're supposed to and it keeps you from going into that very that deep obsession and desperation that can actually i think hinder your process process and so that trust is like it's when you're able to look at a goal but not be emotionally attached to the outcome so for me if I have a goal I don't think I'll be happy when I think I can't wait to get there and I'll be proud when but I'm going to find happiness now yeah oh hey there's so much to unpack yeah no I'm downloading I really liked all of them let me go one by one so the first one I really liked all of them but um the first one that really grabbed my attention and I think is spot on from a society perspective and also from a scientific point of view is that I think it's in relation to what your mom translated from Arabic and your step number five, which is the ability to find not necessarily only joy, because I think people confuse joy with happiness, but happiness within the moment and also with future purpose.

30:16Because right now we live in a society that tells us that once I achieve this, I will be happy once I get that, everything will make sense. Once I get there, I will be enough, right? And then you get to those situations and then you just push your happiness to a different limit and you're constantly chasing that. And then at some point you're like, holy crap, like my time in life, it's over. And I never lived a present moment in which I was happy. So what the fifth step, but also your mom's Arabic quote, what I really like from both is that it gives you the balance and the equilibrium of thought, which is because I think like sometimes if, and I have friends that they only live in the moment, which is I find they have an insane ability to do that.

31:02But I think they're overly doing that, which then they become complacent about life and they're not building their future. And then I have others that they're only thinking about the future. But this is about finding the sweet spot. So I'm going to be happy here and now, but also I'm going to be purposeful because if you don't have future plans, it's quite challenging. to have purpose in life. So I think this is a good spot. And then the second one where I would like for you to unpack it further is how we can shift and channel envy into something that is meaningful. Because I feel like that's only natural.

31:40And especially in this day and age, we live in a world in which we're constantly comparing ourselves, society is comparing us. So whether it's in the workforce, right? When you're trying to get the job, you're being compared to others, whether you are a corporate worker or an actor. Then once you get that job or that role, again, you're being compared in social media and your social settings. You're constantly being compared women for different reasons, men for other reasons. And I feel like it's just exhausting. So how can we turn all that into something that is meaningful? Yeah. So I actually, in my fourth book, which is A Confidence, Eight Steps to Knowing Your Worth, one of my full steps is break free from comparison.

32:17And I would just say on the confidence book that with my seven steps to manifesting, step two, remove fear and doubt, is often the hardest for people. It takes the most work to kind of like actually believe you're worthy. And so I wrote the confidence book to really address that. And so there's like eight full steps on how to build confidence. And I honestly think it's probably my best book. Like I really love it. But I love this step on Break Free from comparison. and turn envy into inspiration is one of them but I'll talk about a few of the other tools that people can use because I think firstly it's recognized that comparative thoughts are like natural like we're supposed to have them because it's how we can measure things so for example we compare how we feel today to compare how we felt yesterday to get a gauge of like how well we feel or we might compare prices on a lunch menu like comparative thoughts are really natural and so we have to be able to make sure that we're becoming aware of when these comparative thoughts are kind of harming us and when when they're actually benefiting us now as humans we do two things we have upward comparison and downward comparison so upward comparison is when we tend to look at people that we perceive as better than us and when we are suffering from lower self-worth or we have an insecurity in a particular area of our life we have more tendency to do that and we sort of glorify people that we perceive to be better than us and that can exacerbate feelings of low self-worth.

33:42On the other hand, downward comparison is actually quite healthy for us. A downward comparison isn't about looking down on people, but it's about recognizing how much further we are along than perhaps some other people. And we can feel grateful for what we have because we recognize that not everyone has those privileges. Now, a healthy level of comparison is where you have a little bit of both. So it's good for us to compare ourselves sometimes to people that we perceive as better than us, because that can drive us. It can drive us to do better or to learn from them or to be better. And it keeps us humble.

34:18But we also need to have some downward comparison. And so there's a few little tools in the book that I suggest to help you with this. So one, I use this analogy of imagine you're in a traffic jam. And when you're in a traffic jam, if you're looking ahead at all the traffic ahead of you, You can feel frustrated. Oh, God, I've got so long to go. Look at all those people in front of me. But imagine that in that moment, you looked in your rearview mirror and you saw all the traffic behind you. And in that moment, you could be like, well, look how further along I am. And then you can actually feel a sense of happiness and peace that you're exactly where you're meant to be.

34:54And so I think some of it is just simply a perspective shift. Is yes, maybe I'm not quite where I want to be yet, but look how much further I am. And sometimes it's not even about comparing yourself to other people, but comparing yourself to where you are. There's a quote that I love, which is, remember the thing that you wish for the things you had now. Sorry, remember the time you wish for the things you have now, which I absolutely love. And then there's another tool that I use, which is considering what you don't know. So we, every single one of us has our own challenges, traumas, troubles, insecurities.

35:34And we walk around life, I think, so ignorant to other people's challenges. And it's so easy to assume that we are the only ones suffering. But actually suffering is like a universal experience. We've all suffered and we all have our own baggage. that most people are not open about. They don't want to share it with other people. They're putting on a mask because they don't want to be judged or they don't want to burden other people or they feel shame around it, whatever it is. And so we see some one person's success, something within them that we envy or we have envy about, and we wish we could be like them.

36:14But what we have to remember is consider what you don't know. Consider all the shit that's underneath that they're carrying, the weights that they're carrying that we can't see. And I encourage you to ask one question. Would you trade, when you have this moment of like, oh, I wish I had what they had, ask yourself, would I trade my entire life for theirs? And the answer is going to be always no. because if you want to take that one aspect of success that they have that you're envious of, you've got to take all the other stuff with it and you don't know what that is. And are you sure you want to take on all those burdens?

36:52And I think it's, it's so like, I remember I was on Instagram literally last night and I saw this model had posted this amazing post. She's got chronic Crohn's disease and she posts like the picture she posted and it was like what you saw And then it's like what you didn't see. And honestly, it made me feel such deep sort of like compassion for her and what she'd been through. And also just like, wow, God, you just don't know what people are going through. Like you really don't. And so I think just recognizing those perspective shifts can be really helpful. I'm trying to think of a particular use case or a type of person that would definitely benefit from this.

37:35but then I'm also thinking about their lives so usually people that would need to follow your work they live a complex multi-layered life because they're building up stress and that also includes comparing yourself to others now perhaps maybe this person it could be a mom or a dad in their mid-30s or late 30s and they're juggling across multiple things their job keeping their relationship of life, giving their kids a good education. So they don't have a lot of time. And if you give them a ton of instructions to follow, they are going to feel overwhelmed because they just don't know where to start.

38:13So if you were to choose one step or one of your seven principles that you think would give a person the biggest return or would bring you the biggest benefit, which one would it be? Gratitude. Gratitude. Without doubt. I have a gratitude exercise in my first book, the Orange Book. And it's one that I can, if you just did this one exercise, you would change your life without doubt. So what I ask people to do is every night before bed to write down in chronological order all the good things that happen in the day. And I want you to think like the smaller the better. So this morning I might put, I woke up and I saw a really nice view outside.

39:00I it wasn't raining so I could walk my son to the school bus I had a cup of coffee which I really enjoyed um my team and me were all in the office this morning and we were listening we had good music playing in the background um I got to have I had a really big problem come in with a future project I'm doing that before would have really stressed me out but actually I was really solution based instead of problem focused. And I was proud of that. So you start writing down all these little moments. So they can be big moments. They can be tiny moments. What you realize is that each and every day is filled with beautiful moments, ordinary moments, things that otherwise are just going completely unnoticed.

39:42And you might have a bad hour at work and think, oh God, I had such a rubbish day. But actually when you do this exercise, you realize how many great moments there are in each and every day. And this trains your mind to focus on the good in your life. It cultivates this attitude of gratitude, which will totally change your experience of the world and how you perceive it. And so for me, I can guarantee that if somebody does this and they start to develop this attitude of gratitude, you will see more good in your life and you will attract more good into it. A hundred percent. I can definitely relate to that.

40:16My fiance started a ritual at home every night before we go to bed. She asks me, what are three things that you're grateful for? And it's interesting because you just sleep happier because you sleep with a positive mindset now my question to you would be in your your technique should we be writing down what we're grateful for on the go during the day or at the end of the day so for this exercise specifically at the end of the day yeah because it forces you to remember all these things and then you're like oh yeah i forgot that and that and that and you're like oh what a great day do you do this every day i do it as much as i can yeah but for me now like i've developed such an attitude of gratitude that i'm constantly in a state of gratitude and i express it a lot i mean the science tells us especially from a neuroscience perspective that even an adult brain is neuroplastic and we can develop new neurological paths to rebuild how our brain thinks and processes different things.

41:22So basically your ability to learn new things and change and adapt. How long did it take you for you to be grateful in this particular case, for that to become almost muscle memory? God, I honestly don't know, but I think I've been annoyingly positive for a long time now. It really, yeah. And I wasn't, And I was so negative. I would complain all the time. And look, I'm still always growing and changing, and I love working on myself. I have a genuine desire to understand myself better and be a better person all the time. But I just am so grateful to have this mindset now. I think change can happen quickly.

42:09I don't think it needs to take years. I think you start with a decision, which is that I want to change. You commit. And within weeks, you will see a shift 100%. And why do you think manifestation doesn't work for some people? Either because they don't believe they're worthy of it. And so they haven't done the healing required. You can't escape the healing part of it. Some people think I'll do everything else, but I'm not going to work on what's going on inside. And if we don't work on what's going on inside, it will come out somewhere along the line and it will stop you from having what you want.

42:44Because if we are wounded by our past, which most of us are, it will really impact everything because it changes how you perceive the world. And so that's the number one reason people don't succeed in manifesting. The second reason is because they've become too obsessed. so they have this emotional attachment i'll be happy when i'll be enough when and that obsession become is desperation and desperation comes from fear and doubt and then it is like you hold you grip too tightly to the goal and then it doesn't flow the energetically the way it's supposed to interesting i can completely understand both on on the first point yeah addressing the root cause i think it's profoundly important because what are you going to fix if you don't know what needs to be fixed and then on the second point I think for some people it's also very important um again I'm not going to mention uh friends but like some friends from from let's say countries that are perceived to be more logical like Germany you need to give them a formula for them to follow right so it's almost like a mathematical formula oh my god maybe that's why this book does so well in Germany because it's a seven-step formula there you go

44:03So you need to tell them 2 plus 2 equals 4, meaning if you do A, B, C, and D, this is going to be your result. And I feel like if you don't feel the result sometimes immediately, because I would imagine that manifestation is not an exact mathematical science. So perhaps everyone can feel it in a different way and you can understand the benefits at different stages and in different forms. But if they don't see that immediate result, you're just going to be like, well, I'm just going to go and try something else and let this go. Yeah. But I think you do feel, the thing I get the most, the feedback I get the most is that when people are, as soon as they start reading this book, something shifts.

44:44like I literally just had a text yesterday from someone who is has been extremely successful their whole lives like unbelievably so uh who found themselves in a tricky situation and just messaged me I'll read it to you here it said finished manifesting today and I swear it's all already starting to fall into place I feel so lucky I discovered your book but it's like it's immediate it like do you know what i mean it's it's because it's about your decision it's about your choice and i think it's about i i just say this all the time but change getting to the point where you want to change is the part that takes a long time once you've made the decision everything else can happen very quickly can anyone manifest yes absolutely anyone and everyone and should everyone manifest.

45:41Yes, everybody should. Because manifesting is about becoming the best version of yourself that you can be. And everybody should do that. And what are the biggest misconceptions about manifestation that you would like to address? I think probably the ones we mentioned earlier about sort of that it's not wishful thinking and that it's not a ritual. It's not something you do for 20 minutes at night. This is, it's a way of living. You live and breathe the seven steps. I like that. Yeah. I like that. I can, for example, relate to that when it comes to working out and going to the gym. Some people feel like they just need to go to the gym right before the summer so they look better when they're in the beach, but it's a lifestyle at the end of the day.

46:20So you need to embed it into your everyday life and progress until your last day. Yeah, absolutely.

46:33You have helped millions of people change their lives through manifestation. What has been the greatest lesson you've learned about yourself during this journey? Oh, so many. You know, I've learned a lot of lessons. I think the thing I've worked on the most over the last few years has been how reactive I am. So I used to be very reactive. I was so wounded. Like snappy. Yeah, like things would piss me off easily, you know, especially at work. People, I'm extremely efficient and have very high standards for myself. And I think then I had really high standards for everybody around me at work. And so if something wasn't done right, it would frustrate me, like it would actually really annoy me.

47:27and I felt like it was really unhealthy and I would get really worked up when things went wrong and I really wanted to address that and actually what I realized is that irritability and that snappiness was actually coming from trauma unresolved you know it was like a symptom of that so everything was I was constantly I was if you don't resolve your trauma and your wounds You have all these emotions bubbling at the surface, ready to come out at any time. And so doing work on myself, taking responsibility for my reactions has been life-changing because it means that now when things happen, rather than reacting, I respond.

48:14And that for me has been so incredible. And I feel so much more measured and grounded and considered in the way that I behave and respond. And that makes me feel so much more empowered in myself because I don't feel like I can just be a victim of anything that's happening around me. Instead, I can feel like I have a stronger foundation to work from. I can a billion percent relate to that. So I am a very disciplined person, both in my personal life and my professional life. And I really struggled with exactly what you were mentioning for many years because I would basically measure everyone else according to my self-discipline.

49:01So this could be, again, in my personal life, whether it comes to my wellness routine or in the professional life to the standards that I wanted to achieve because I'm an ambitious person and I had very ambitious goals. I still have them, but they're right now perhaps a bit softer. and that would really also impact my thoughts. That would bring me some negative thoughts about a person that maybe I love also. Not necessarily only a work colleague, but a person that I love. And for me, what liberated me from that was really understanding that you cannot control anyone. Like not even the closest person in your life.

49:42I'm not a father, but I can imagine that you cannot even control your kids and you can only control yourself. And that is enough. And you should put all your effort in trying to control yourself rather than your environment, because that's going to backfire you almost in every single case. That really, really, really, really helped me. And that also actually not only helped me there, but it's fascinating to see how many other aspects of my life improved because of that. Yeah, absolutely. When you're going through a moment in which, because I think moments of doubt and anyone can relate to them, right?

50:17Even the most confident person on planet Earth has those moments. Of course. When your vision of where you want to be, of who you want to be, is a bit blurry, it's not as strong. How do you take care of yourself those days? um just take it back to basics really in terms of being outside spending time meditating doing a sound bath anything that can regulate my nervous system uh being present with my kid you know i think it's just i take i really take wellness very seriously you know i love feeling well um and so I think that yeah just the basics I think and for me it's always perspective shifts so I'm constantly aware of my thought processes so if something's frustrating me or upsetting me um or I'm having a down day I will constantly challenge myself to look at things from a new perspective and it does help and um there's a thing I say which is that up to being optimistic doesn't mean feeling happy every day.

51:30It's knowing that even on the dark days, better days are coming. And so for me, if I'm having a down moment or I've had a rejection or something hasn't gone right, I'm just feeling low. It doesn't set me back. I know something good is on the other side. So it's just a case of like, let this pass, wait it out. It'll all be okay. And it always is. I like that. Usually when we feel like that is because in our mind, things are overly complex. So I guess the solution to something complex is simplicity. Yeah. And back to those basics, I really like that. I think that's very powerful. So that's a reactive approach to a bad moment.

52:09Now, what are some reactive things or initiatives that you do every day in order to minimize those down times? I'm obsessed with supplements. Taking a lot of supplements, but they really work for me. like wow basically it's like preparing myself mentally physically emotionally so i usually start my day with like positive affirmations so as soon as i wake up i'll just say today it's going to be an incredible day i'm excited for the opportunities ahead uh it takes me five seconds i take my supplements uh with my electrolytes in the morning oh god okay magnesium omega-3 with the Q10, B-complex, an amazing prebiotic I started taking called Epetomy, which I'm definitely saying wrong, but it's been amazing.

53:04And, okay, I've started this new, it's Nuchido, do this very specific NAD supplement, but it's NAD, but I had the scientist on my podcast, and she explained why this one works, and I am telling you, it has de-aged me. Like, I feel so... So. Physically or biomarkers? Well, I'm actually doing my glycogen age test again to see if it has. So I'll let you know. Because I took NAD, but through the pen. Yeah, no. She explains why it doesn't work. Because I don't know about you, but I'd taken them before and the drip, and it did nothing for me. I took the drip, and it did work for me. Really? It didn't for me.

53:42But anyway, I've taken these tablets, whatever. My energy, I'm like, so, so just feel amazing. You take them every day. Yeah, every day. Interesting. And what happens if you're off them? Have you tried it? No, because I've just finished three months, and then I had a few days off and then went back on. It's been amazing. Anyway, so my supplements, having good sleep, so my aura ring has been amazing for me. I didn't realize how badly I slept. I wasn't having any deep sleep, but I've done a few tweaks and things like that, and now I sleep really well. So sleep for me is how I know I'll feel my best the next day.

54:17Gratitude practices, of course, and meditation. so for me if I meditate my capacity for stress is much higher I love that I feel like perhaps if anyone should spend their time money and energy because those are the three resources that we have into any practice if you need to choose a reactive approach versus a proactive it should always be proactive that's I think it's applicable in any aspect of life whether it's your personal life or whether it's your professional life.

54:56A lot of people, when it comes to manifestation, they say that the universe sometimes is testing you. When do we know if the universe is testing us? I think that any challenge we face on the way to our goals is a test. And the test is there. And a challenge can come as a form of rejection, an obstacle, whatever it is but the test is there I think is from the universe to ask us how worthy do you really think you are of having this thing and it's testing your resilience your passion your self-worth your motivation and I also think that tests are there to help us grow and evolve so that when we receive the thing we want we're ready for it and so yeah I love tests I love I've overcome tests from the universe so my step four is my favorite step of all the steps I think step five about gratitude is the one that like if you only did one thing step four is my favorite because it is what gives you the ability to flow through the ups and downs of life with much greater ease do you journal um i only do my daily journal so i have a manifest daily journal where i have like five prompts in the morning and the five in the evening including my gratitude journal but um that that's what i have for now i go through phases well i used to i mean i kept a diary from when i was 12 till 20 like every night um now if i'm going through a period i will but I haven't recently because do you find that useful yeah I think there's so oh my god there's countless benefits it's like worry dumping so like letting down your worries at night letting down your thoughts I think there's so much science behind the power of journaling as well it's more that sometimes I just don't have time I want to watch Netflix and what about vision boards I feel like everyone these days has a vision board yeah so I do vision boards at the beginning of every year okay i think they're absolutely incredible i think that uh a lot of those who don't know what's a vision board vision board is just a representation of what you want your life to look like that year in your case that year for example and but what i see a lot of people doing is they create mood boards so it's just lots of pretty pictures and it's nice to have but that's not a vision board the vision board needs clarity so my vision board is only bullet points i don't even use any pictures i just put in bullet points all my really specific goals and that for me is um that works beautifully for me interesting um my fiance she did a vision board a few months ago so she came from a dinner with her friends one of her friends houses and she was like i did a vision board baby and i looked at it and i was terrified because it looked like a projection on what i need to accomplish for the both of us so There was this mega mansion, like a 10-carat ring, you know.

58:00I was like, is this a vision board for myself or for you? So I'm calling out my fiancé, so you should listen to this particular part. Make it realistic, make it about yourself, and it should be on bullet points. Make it by yourself. I've seen a picture later about it, but let me tell you, it was terrifying. I was like, I don't have minutes of the day to generate this much. That's very funny.

58:29So for people that struggle with consistency, because I think a lot of people can struggle with consistency for whatever reason, aside from gratitude, which I think probably is the strongest and simplest thing that we can do on a daily basis, what is one thing that they can do every day that would make a big difference? I think people should choose what they think they can stick to every day because it doesn't actually matter what you do. It matters that you're consistent with it. And that's what builds self-worth through self-trust. If you say you're going to do something and you don't do it, you are lowering your ability to trust in yourself.

59:01You're reducing your self-respect and self-discipline. It's more important to me, not what you do, but that you stick to it. So think of something that you could do to start your day or end your day that you can do every day and stick with that. And then allow that to build momentum for yourself and then add more things. Oh, that makes so much sense. Because if you would have said something that perhaps is not applicable to everyone's life because of their work or because they're committing or whatever it's just irrelevant but you're making it tailored to the person makes no more sense now what is one belief or practice about manifestation that you held over many years but you no longer believe in today I think I probably did believe in the beginning that if I reached my goals I would be happy and I think in the beginning when I discovered manifestation I had all these so much ambition in my career.

59:53And I thought when I get all these things, it's going to be incredible. And actually what happened was a year after Manifest came out, I mean, it had gone, I had completed that vision board and some, I mean, it was beyond my wildest dreams. 2022 was like an explosion. Everything happened so fast. And by 2023, I had basically a breakdown. And I think I was so burned out and I I was so, I had done everything on the outside, but I hadn't done the healing enough, enough of the healing. And so actually I was still really struggling with self-loathing and my anxiety had actually gone through the roof.

1:00:34It was so tough. And I think that that's when I realized, ah, like, okay, I can have all these things that doesn't instantly mean I'm going to suddenly be happy. And so it shifted the way I looked at goals and manifestation. Interesting. Thank you for sharing that. I think that's so powerful. I feel like people believe that once they've accomplished something that they've always wanted, life will just be good forever. Yeah. And you won't struggle. But I believe that we're always going to struggle because it's a matter of perspective. And I also believe that it's fine to say that you're struggling and that you're stressed or overworked or about to burn out because unfortunately we We live right now in a society, particularly in cities, cosmopolitan cities like London, in which if someone asks you, how are you doing?

1:01:26And if you don't say something like, oh, I'm super busy or working so much. If you say, I'm actually fine. Somebody might think, well, you're not doing enough. Then, you know, no, I'm actually, you know, I'm just good. It's so true. So I think we need more honesty from people like yourself, where A, you're saying that you can struggle with things even when through the lenses of society you're a successful woman and then number two even if you're a successful woman which in my opinion i think you are from various perspectives you will still struggle like anybody else because it's a matter of perspective what is the struggle maybe for you today was not a struggle for you three years ago but it's still a struggle I have some friends that they've shared with me because once my fiance showed me her vision board I was fascinated about vision boards I wanted to see what other like how the vision boards of some of my friends look like yeah because it gives you a glimpse you know it opens a little window of who they are right in a way that they may be never shared with you and a lot of them especially people that friends that are not in a relationship they want to date someone how can manifestation influence the way we approach a relationship or dating in general well you can absolutely use the seven steps to manifesting to help you find a partner and you just use it exactly as the seven steps are so first it's getting clarity on what you're looking for.

1:03:01But I think this is really important because I think what I really challenge people to do is not just look for things. Okay. This is, this is the thing is when we are looking for a partner, often what we're looking for is someone to make us feel a certain way and like to make us feel perhaps validated. So for example, when I had low self-worth, I wanted a man who was successful or wealthy or any of these things or cool or respected or powerful. And the reason I wanted someone like that wasn't because of anything other than I thought if I could be with someone like that, it might mean that I was worth more and other people might perceive me as better because I had this person as my partner.

1:03:47And so I was trying to look for someone to fill something within me. And I wasn't really looking for what mattered, which was in a relationship, I want to meet someone who makes me laugh, who I feel myself with, who I can learn from and be inspired by. And that's not to say I don't want to meet someone successful. I do. But the reason I want to meet someone who's successful isn't because I want to feel better about myself. It's because I want someone who really inspires me. I love the idea of being able to learn something new from my partner and vice versa. I love the idea of being with someone I'm just so at ease with who can understand my busy schedule as well.

1:04:27So I started to shift what I was looking for. And that's what I encourage people to do is really be honest with yourself about if you are a man listening to this and you just think, oh, I just want someone really hot, right? Why? Because you want to feel better about yourself because you're with someone else. It's not to say we shouldn't want to be attracted to someone. Of course we should. But if that is your only criteria, I think you need to ask yourself a few questions. And I think it's really important to think about how do we want to feel with the person we are with and how do we want to feel about ourselves within that person.

1:05:03So it's how you want to feel in the relationship, but also how that person makes you feel about yourself. What side of yourself do they bring out? So you might want someone that brings out the playful side of you, the nurturing side of you, the inquisitive, curious side of you, adventurous side of you. So it's looking at all of those things as well. And then of course, considering that you want to meet someone who shares the same values as you, who wants the same things as you too. So being clear in your vision is really important. And the reason, another reason it's so important is because it will help you determine red flags and set clearer boundaries.

1:05:39If you know what you're really looking for, you're not just going to settle for something or accept poor behavior when you actually know. For example, let's say you're really clear that you want to meet someone and you want to have a family and you want that person to want a family as well. If you're on date three with someone and they very clearly tell you, I'm not looking to have kids, I don't want to settle down, perhaps I already have kids, then you can use your vision board or your step one as a really clear guide of when to walk away. So I think, yeah, step one's really important. And then step two, you believe you're worthy of unconditional love.

1:06:15You work on the healing. You take aligned action by maybe setting up a dating profile or allowing your friends to set you up or going to more in-person events. You overcome tests from the universe by not letting rejection kind of deflate you or deter you. You're able to also stop settling for less than you deserve and create space for what you want to come into your life. So not just constantly texting your ex for the sake of it. you embrace gratitude for the life you already have you turn envy into inspiration and then you have this trust and faith so you can absolutely apply the seven steps to dating I really like this because I was expecting that the answer to this would be more emotional rather than logical because it's more in relation to manifestation but the answer was was pretty logical I personally if you like dating these days is a insecurity incubating exercise so you're you're putting yourself out there and if you don't know yourself very well you're just going to be attracted to the impossibles to things that are challenging because if I tell you right now Roxy don't think about strawberries you're going to think about strawberries so if you're dating someone that perhaps lives in another country and you're a little bit attracted to that person but the fact that here she lives in another country makes things so much harder.

1:07:34You're going to want that challenge in most cases, right? Especially I think I feel like men fall under that category, but I also have some female friends that they do that. And ultimately it's not your rational brain making that decision. It's your emotional, insecure brain. And what you're saying is before you date anyone, you need to understand who is it that you really are. And then based on that knowledge, you can then define who is it that you're looking for because I feel like through social media through Hollywood I feel like also Hollywood or even Disney right because maybe maybe in my generation or your generation we had no social media when we were kids but for example Disney really changed my perception of beauty for one and also of a happy relationship right so if you look at I don't know I don't know any any Disney movie my perception of beauty back then initially when I started dating was someone that would look like a princess, right?

1:08:30And there are so many different types of beauty, but we were exposed to that. So that really influences us. And it took me a while to understand that root cause as a problem. And then also, right, if I asked any of my friends, maybe not now, but years ago, who is it that you're looking for in our relationship? They would give me a list that actually looked like my fiance's vision board. Like, it's just too perfect. Like, anyone would like that, right? Like, that vision board is applicable to anyone. And that list of attributes for, in this case, for a woman would be applicable to anyone. Beautiful, caring, loving, loyal, intelligent.

1:09:03I'll be like, okay, where is she? Where do I sign this contract, right? And then ultimately, I try to ask myself. So myself as Alberto, right? Not as whoever else is the other person. As myself, who do I really want? And who actually clicks with me? Because at the end of the day, it's a puzzle that it needs to blend. And you shouldn't shape who you are too much and also not shape the other person. because I feel like sometimes we're trying to do that. A lot of people are unfortunately going through insecure moments, particularly I feel like there's a very clear use case that I see in women that are in between, they're in their early 30s and they feel like they need to date someone because they need to have kids because they're going to meet their train.

1:09:45What would you tell them so they can build confidence regardless to what society is telling them? Because society tells us you need to have kids at a certain age and maybe for women it's different than for men right so that's going to add unnecessary pressure that will make you maybe make the wrong choices oh look it's hard because i think the that biological clock is a real thing and i think it's there's a they you can't on i don't want to undermine the genuine like fear that it brings out in people in that age. And I really do have compassion for it because I think when people want to start a family and there is this kind of biological clock that ticks unconsciously, that gives us that kind of pressure and desire at that age.

1:10:33I think that my best advice would be that I would love these women to just keep coming back to their power, to come back to trust in the universe, come back to faith, Look for inspiring stories of other women who've suddenly met someone out of nowhere. And, you know, look for those like amazing love stories that can inspire us that it is absolutely possible. And I do believe there is someone for everyone. But, yeah, I really, I would hate for somebody to settle out of that pressure and time pressure because you also don't want to have a child with someone that doesn't make you feel respected and loved.

1:11:16because I don't know if the outcome of that is going to be the best one. But I also want to answer it delicately because I do understand that pressure is a very real thing. And I feel very, you know, I'm single now and dating is very, very different for me because I already have a child and I do feel very grateful that I don't have that pressure to meet someone and start a family. And I can appreciate that it's probably an easier experience in that case for me. Thank you. We're entering now the final part of this beautiful conversation, and it's actually my favorite part because we get to be as real as we can and embracing the emotional aspect of ourselves.

1:12:02So if you're looking back at the younger Roxy, the Roxy that felt lost, if she was here with us, what would you tell her? oh i think i would probably just give her a big hug and tell her that i think i just wish she knew that she was enough as she was and that she was lovable and that she was a good person and uh things are all going to be all right in the end fascinating how much just love can help us and cure us yes we discussed this briefly earlier but our parents unfortunately can make some mistakes without them knowing that will shape our brains and our personalities into making some wrong choices what will what are you doing differently or what will you do differently with your son in comparison to how your parents raised you well i shower him with love i have cultivate, helping him to cultivate an attitude of gratitude.

1:13:16So by expressing it myself around him all the time and always encouraging him to find joy in things. This morning, the first thing he said when he opened the curtains, he said, oh, the light on the trees is so wonderful he's so cute six and uh he's and i validate and help him to express all his emotions because if we don't express them and his children we don't know how they they get trapped and so i'm constantly encouraging him to identify how he feels and express it safely i never get angry with him i never shut him down uh he brings out the most patient soft nurturing side of me, which I love.

1:14:02And yeah, you know, it's amazing for him. He's able to express, you know, I'm feeling worried about this or I'm feeling nervous or I feel angry, you know, and he can express it. And I just think, God, I'm so thrilled he can do that. I think a lot of people, we do so many things in life, right? We become parents, We choose whatever jobs or businesses or podcasts for this matter, aiming to the same thing, right? And every culture, every religion defines it in a different way. But ultimately, we all try to land into the same place, which is happiness. How would you define happiness?

1:14:46Happiness is an ability to enjoy life's simple pleasures and ordinary moments. Right. Are you happy? Yes, so happy. So happy, honestly. I'm so good.

1:15:04And I think because I spent so much of my life unhappy, I feel so grateful every day that I can wake up and be just excited for the day ahead. You know? I used to just want to sleep all the time. I didn't want to wake up because I had to face life. And now I wake up and I'm like, yes, I can't wait for tomorrow. or today you know go to sleep wake excited for the next day it's amazing beautiful if you had to compress all your knowledge into one essential piece of advice that we must implement into our daily lives what would it be

1:15:45probably just reminding people of the secret of manifesting which is that you can only manifest what you subconsciously believe you are worthy of receiving.

1:15:57Thank you. Thank you. Thank you for coming, but thank you for sharing all your knowledge. I mean, it was very eye-opening in so many ways. And after discussing for I don't know how long, two hours, I already feel liberated. And I think this is such a powerful tool. And I really like the word you just mentioned, which is secret. I think this is a secret to a lot of people. So I also thank you for being the gatekeeper to open the gates for everyone else to be able to address this topic, to understand this secret and to apply it in a way that is simple for everyone to follow. so thank you and for anyone that wants to learn more about manifestation and roxy's amazing amazing work we will leave a link on the episode description for you to follow to buy her two books and keep following her work thank you so much thank you