How My Fiancé Pulled Off My Surprise Proposal, With My Agent Lauren! [The Wedding Rewind]

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1:43What is up? I'm Grace Beverly and welcome back to Working Hard, the podcast-shaped guidebook on how to improve your own life and achieve what you actually dreamed of doing. Because life's too short for boring podcasts and bad advice.

1:57hello hello if you are listening to this or watching this it means I am married and I had my wedding this weekend um obviously as I'm actually recording this I haven't had the wedding yet but if I can imagine what I would say this morning it would be something along the lines of this was the best day of my life and the best weekend of my life and I am probably quite hung over but I'm sure I had a great time but this is all to say that I am now off on my honeymoon for a couple of weeks but we have you covered with some great episodes so do not worry everything has been prepared in advance but for now I thought it would be fun and very timely to leave you with the very chaotic story of how I got engaged it is a story I retold for my agent who played a big role in the proposal itself it is important that you know before this episode that this is the only one we've ever recorded where we'd been on the gnts and I personally would say I think you can tell but it felt appropriate but enjoy the episode I oh my god I probably won't have posted about my wedding yet so stay tuned I will see you there probably over on Instagram who knows only time will tell so for now let me leave you with a real favorite of mine from the archives and I will see you very very soon

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4:22i'm not going to tell you what gnt i'm drinking because they haven't paid for it but if you'd like to see your gnt in this environment contact lauren

4:34today is the day this is lauren by the way everyone and we're going to be doing a q a but also mainly I want the inside scoop from Lauren on the full proposal planning because all I know about this is a that I was proposed to b that you were heavily involved and c I've read through all of your messages with the man in question I really wanted to you know see the excitement from all sides I wanted to see the planning Lauren is here to tell the whole story of how it went about, how it happened, the ups, the downs, the good, the bad, the ugly. So I want to start from like right at the beginning. In July, we were having a meeting at my house and I was like, I have a feeling he's going to look at rings because he was being so suspicious about this stupid little MOT.

5:23And the week before as well, I was like, what did you do today? Yeah. He was like, I had a meeting. What was the meeting? And he like stuttered before it, which sent my spidey senses out of control. As we know, they're quite active. And then I'd seen you the week after and then I was suspicious about this MOT anyway hilariously actually turns out just that he had an m.o.t but my spidey senses were clearly aware because of other reasons because it has become very apparent that I'm actually psychic okay sure yeah I want to hear like what was the beginning of this from your side like what was the first thing you heard okay so we're at your house it's the beginning of July and you say to me Lauren I think he's gonna have a question and I was like really you don't seem like the uh So you don't have to stay tight.

6:05I was like, oh my God, like, this is crazy. Like, how do you feel? Like, had that conversation. I left the house. We moved on. I forgot. The conversation ever happened. And now we got on with our lives, whatever. Cut to sort of mid to end July. I get a text. And I look down and you know that feeling when it feels like your heart literally drops out of your asshole? Yeah. That's what happened. And I was like, and then I was like, okay, fine. He essentially says, hi, Lauren. I hope you had a good weekend. Not sure if she told you that we were looking at rings a few weeks ago. Please don't tell her I've contacted you.

6:39But I'm thinking of ideas to pop the question. Wanted to ask you. He essentially says to me, what about if we did it as a brand trip? Which is a really good idea because, you know, the industry you work in, we speak to a lot of different brands. A lot of these trips are happening. However, I think one thing that he just didn't really like fully think about or perhaps just wasn't aware of was like the level of detail in which goes into all of these trips. and also the level of detail that I pull together to give to you. So it's not just kind of like a, oh, Grace, you're going on a trip and you go, great.

7:09And we move on. Also not really in my personality kind of realm. No. And also you don't really go on many trips. No. Very rare. Yeah. So it's not as if it's like a daily. Two trips before. He says to me, do you think she'll buy it if it's a beauty brand deal? And I take her to dinner at Eman in Greece and maybe it's a brand dinner. She'll dress up, one night stay, blah, blah, blah, blah. have to say would have loved to go to the amman in greece you would have loved to go there but that is grace and her fiance's are you french special place so i was like no no no she'll immediately know yeah you'll immediately know however something that i was thinking about in terms of this whole situation was that we had been speaking for a while now with armani beauty yeah gorgeous brand gorgeous girls who work there shout out to katherine i thought the only way that i am going to get grace to go on a brand trip is if it's a brand that she loves and is like really wants to work with really it could be like a really amazing collaboration you know a brand that will go all out so we settled on armani being the brand of choice like more as well with armani it's more likely to be somewhere luxury so the brand had to emulate the vibe yeah okay that's what we were going for he then goes what about hotel de cap and i was like slay he says slay he says sophia rishi yeah yeah yeah however over summer luxury brands take over hotels so like for example in mykonos they had a big thing um with louis vuitton there's like jacquemus did like lake homo like there's various different things i'm then like thinking oh no dior took over Hotel Decap or they had like a section in like the health club or something that was Dior.

8:54He told me the dates and we realized that the Dior pop-up would have finished by then. So we were like, right, let's go ahead. This is the vibe. Obviously Armani matches Hotel Decap, very similar energy. And we thought, yes, this is it. The thing is as well, this wasn't a huge jump for me to be like, oh, Grace, a brand that we've never spoken to before is going to take you away because we'd already been speaking to Armani and we were very excitingly worked with them on the Barbie premiere. they sponsored your look so like this wasn't a jump and um I actually was meeting Armani already and then in that meeting I was like hey by the way just like a quick one before we pay the bill Grace to get engaged and I said it's all true and they were down so that's great one thing that I did say to him something else that Grace will ask me is who else is going and what did she ask you So I said this on the 25th of July.

9:45I was like, she is going to ask me who else is going. Because whenever we're working with a brand, whether it's in like a social context or whether it's a speaking event or whether it's whatever it is, Grace gets a full intense brief of everything that's going on. And I was like, this brief has got holes in it. And she's going to smell a rat. The rat will be... She's going to be looking for that cheese. Do rats even eat cheese? Yes. Sure. She's going to be looking for that garbage.

10:20He's like, oh, we could just say they're keeping it quiet. And I'm like, no, not going to go down, but don't worry. I'll deal with that when it comes to it. So he sends me this big message of all these different things that we need to think about. And I'm like, yeah, yeah, yeah. Got it covered. All good. Then he says, I also bought the diamond yesterday. Slow. So I ignore this huge paragraph. and go oh my god can i see he's literally sent you half a page worth of fun stuff i need to go

10:51and guys i can't believe you saw this ring before me i mean not even the ring it's diamond it's just a diamond but also the diamond is on like one of those kind of like holding bands like i don't really know what it's called like a prong it's like it's like a it's just one they put it if anyone else's explore page is filled with engagement rings it's the ones where you can't see the prongs but it's just like held up yeah so it's just it essentially looks like a round piece of gold with the diamond on top and guys i mean we've all seen the diamond what the actual fuck i just shit myself i'm like what the fuck is this this is insane the week goes by we crack on and then a coincidence happens where another creator who goes by the name of molly may why did you say that it's like it's a show name he goes by the name of jay-z it rhymes with fiance it's folly may has a very similar experience so she was invited by her management team to go on a brand trip tommy's there with the baby it's all great it's lovely but i'm like oh no the one's done it yeah so I'm like shit I think we might need to think of a plan B because again I just don't know if it will go down well if Grace sees this first of all sees that Molly May has done the same thing and then is like oh no Link I just like start stressing and I'm like I don't think this is quite right so he goes fuck off and then I think we stick with the plan and I'm like a decisive man how long did that oh no wait that's three hours later look at the time stamps oh okay okay so oh yeah oh my god so I go okay fine we're carrying on the level of detail that when we do a brief and give it to grace or give it to any talent is intense like there's a lot in there um and so if i was to just send over it's it's just it needs to be perfection right but obviously i need to get those dates in your diary because he needs to book the fights so i'm just like hey had my breakfast with amani went really well yeah that was also what threw me off so much when i got spidey senses yeah because i was like when I searched that because I was searching like keywords like Armani obviously in Slack.

13:00Marriage. Like proposal diamonds. Big rock. And I was searching ones and I saw that one and I hadn't seen or even thought about that since the beginning and I was like oh that's like a good week or so before I even got like the offer of the trip. And so I was like and I knew you were actually having a meeting with Catherine and so I was like oh for fuck's sake I literally sent it to my sister who was by the way in on it he was playing us off because i didn't know by that was in on it we're just over here you know different bits right so she was in on it in order to help choose the ring so so she chose well she did chose well so i think he got the diamond and then because he designed the ring then with a jeweler he wanted like her opinion on it she came around to my house one evening and we were just like having an evening in like watching the kardashis as we do and she goes what type of ring do you like and i the rat is not spelt the rat is minding its own business i'm minding my own business no rat has been spelt she's just like playing dumb like oh how many carrots is this like what type of thing is this and i'm like oh it's this one it's this one it's this one and then she's like oh i'm on the site where you can design them and she starts designing her own then she starts going like oh should I get this or this and so we design this whole ring together she then sends a screenshot to him and she goes we just designed this ring and he's like what the fuck like have you like told her and she's like oh no no no he's like what the fuck he then has this but even funnier later on when he'd got the ring when he first bought it home she was at mine when he came back from work one day and I wasn't there and they couldn't work out if the cctv has sound and so they were like miming this whole time being like sorry if you're on audio yeah like do you want this and but then they so he goes up to get the ring which is hidden in his fucking sock drawer sorry men are so unimaginative i could have gone up to borrow some socks but it was there for two months so did you not borrow any socks in two months well i have my own dressing room sorry my likeability scale down so he goes up and gets the ring and then so not only are they miming this whole thing but he wants to show her the ring to be like do you think she'll like it and the only ccdb blind spot in the whole house is in my dog's crate like my puppy's crate so he makes her get into the crate to see the ring and they're literally there in the crate like curled up like a little puppy anyway I thought that was absolutely hilarious but I've just found the message so on the 1st of October bearing in mind the trip was like the 8th so having thought having spidey sensed earlier like about like a month earlier and then said to Violet and she'd played it so well like I was like we were literally at my mum's hen do and I like grabbed her and I was like I'm getting suspicions about this Armani trip I just thought about it and then I thought it really could be like everything's in place but I just have a feeling and I talked about in my TikTok how like one night when we were away I literally woke up at 4am and I just knew like as in I woke up and I was like it's the Armani trip I was like it's the Armani trip he's gonna propose like as in like I just knew it was in my brain my brain was filled I'd convinced myself just because of that strong feeling I've never had such a strong feeling before anyway so I sent her a text going because I then searched obviously search Armani in Slack and was like going through everything like the invites like everything or actually we didn't have the invites at that stage yeah important and so I go on the 1st of October I go it's definitely not the Armani trip ha ha ha boo as in it is Armani and then sorry Armani and then I sent a screenshot of your message which is saying I went for coffee today with a girl from Armani beauty and they've got loads of exciting plans coming up one of them was a trip to south of France in october would you be keen and i was like a light smattering of detail there yeah really good very thought out really good because that's actually what threw me off on the 25th of july and i go yes oh my god exciting and then i go to violet i go just found this message from before so it's defo legit yeah and she goes ha ha ha boo and then goes well i mean still a very exciting trip still sleigh bells literally still great and she goes send dresses when they arrive or the ones you pick and i go yeah i'm annoyed though laughing emojis really wanted that and then she goes surely just means you'll be surprised another time though not that he's doing it and then goes fair but don't be annoyed at him i love this she's there typing away like and then goes worst case you wait until new year sorry am i all right me worst case going through so much trouble at this time i go don't worry i won't don't be annoyed at him so coming back to this side.

17:51I give my really light smashing of detail because I was like, we need to just get that date locked in so we can book it. He can do the flights, whatever. You. Yes. Oh my God, exciting. And then I send that to him. He sends back a load of explanation marks. He's like, when can you send the invite? Meantime, I'm over here like dying. I'm like, oh my God, she said, yeah. So this actually means that she's going, because in my head, I was like, maybe she'll say no. Would be so pleasant. Maybe she'll say no. And we have to do all this. oh my god it would be so livid if i found out later that like that was the plan i've turned down yeah we're actually my proposal no sorry no sorry no sorry yeah literally so i'm like okay great it looks like we're doing this i will not i'm not going to send this now because it's the 26th of july if she's not going to october i won't i wouldn't send it now yeah because i wouldn't get the you want it's too it's too early brands wouldn't send it that far in advance like some brands are very last minute some brands aren't just saying but some are so i was like this is it's too much it's too early but she's keen so I would just go ahead and book it like she's not going to change her mind now and then he's like did you say it was going to be a Sunday and I said no I just said beginning of October so just allude to any day it doesn't matter what it is on the 16th of August he goes hey I've just booked the flights but I haven't booked her frequent flyer number please remember this for the future when uh we get to the end okay also just just for the record we have formulas for the way that we deal with everything we do and the reason we do is because it's just easier to work that way we like structure we're a very structured team and everything must work like clockwork so we have formulas for everything like there is a tick list for every type of thing like for a brand trip i would want x amount of things including like the frequent flyer number added like all of this i'm sorry i want my points and that's totally fair i'm not saying i'm not saying no no no agree but this is why we do things this way and so this is where it all just goes a little well not no just remember this so he says i booked the flights but i haven't put her frequent fly number have you told her you're booking the flights i misread this message and i say hey yes she knows it's those flights so good to add the number so what i think he thought was like i don't want to book the flights because you'll get a notification if your number is added and i'm like no no you go ahead add the number remember that for the future switch to Armani they're going to send product and then I'm like we also really need to think about how soon you're going to do on arrival as if there's no one from Armani to say welcome to Hotel De Cap you're going to be like the fuck is going on here and then I do like a little update end of September I'm like Armani is sending G some bits to arrive at her house with an exciting message for the 8th but then Armani kind of sent me a template of their typical invitations and letters that they kind of do for different trips which i completed and filled in with the help of my gorgeous associate assistant live and we essentially created this itinerary for whilst you were at hotel de cap with armani

20:55so this was what grace was due to be doing this is what grace did not do this is what grace was you to be doing so 8th of october arrival at hotel de cap eden rock 4 p.m glam 4 30 very quick crossover so drinks reception was at 6 p.m so i'm being and ahring about whether to do two hours glam which we usually do two to three hours actually for full hair and makeup but we just did an hour and a half makeup because i thought you might want to do some sleigh pics at the end you know whatever so drinks reception after glam at 6 p.m and then a dinner at 7 p.m roll on the next day where we came up with a two-day itinerary for this entire trip a leisurely breakfast 9 to 11 a.m gorgeous because i thought you know what no rushing yeah thank you like a 9 30 yeah sit down like just like and you might want to explore it's a gorgeous hotel you might want to just like browse your surroundings and then at 11 30 we had a product walkthrough with so the content i was saying to live i was like live we need to find someone who would be there because this is like a huge event like yes Armani is a luxury brand yes Hotel Decap is a very bougie luxury hotel but like you couldn't just send anyone to go there and do something like it wouldn't just be like a like a marketing assistant or like you know an assistant of assistant you need like the top dog who's going to be there to like present it because it's still a big event yeah often it's like a VP or it's like a yeah because Grace was under the impression that she was there for a new launch right yeah so it was like a big event so I'm trawling LinkedIn looking for the appropriate person to be there and who does she stumble upon i stumble upon i know i even know her name off the top of my head veronique good to you got a shout out to veronique because you saved my life you came through and i think she is like the top top top dog at amani beauty and i was like right she's gonna and also i remember i was like this is fucking great because she didn't have a linkedin profile picture gorgeous and i was like so could is she even real i mean i imagine she is yeah but she might not have even existed me searching very neat go to here armani news and clicking on the news and latest thing so but she was there but she didn't have a profile picture and i was like she's kind of like subtle but not subtle i was like this is the gal this is her um so we have a product walkthrough at 11 30 bm then at 1 p.m we have farewells from Armani Beauty and free time you have a late checkout of 3 30 which is quite late looking also what really threw no but that was good because that threw me off because I thought if he had planned it I don't know how he would sway a 3 30 p.m checkout yeah like that's ridiculous you have to basically make sure the next guest arrives way late like in that evening to be able to get all the room cleaned in time yeah so it makes so I was yeah I was like how would like a brand could do that because they could book out loads of rooms and therefore they have enough sway that like they paid enough money for okay good yeah so i was like no because then i even go after he proposed i was like i did think i was like how i was like how the fuck did you sway such a late checkout he was like oh no we're checking out at 12 i'm afraid we're off our paid time is done and i was like okay sorry so this was all designed in this gorgeous Armani template.

24:14It was a stunning letter. Grace received it. It was in the room or printed on like bougie ass paper. It was like thick. Like not that like A4. No, but this again, noted, noted, printed on like sparkling, nice, gorgeous paper, filmy paper. As I said, could be the choice of Giorgio himself. At this stage, I then get looped in with the hotel and we are going back and forth, me in this hotel, back and forth, back and forth. That team are elite. and like you'd expect it's hotel de cart but they are the best group of people ever so much so that on the day of i had emailed them so many times with like can i just check can i just get just just reminder just reminder please don't remind it but the um the concierge was like email me back and he didn't even say hi lauren he just put lauren i have a very skilled team here we know what we're doing please be assured down essentially saying fuck off stop fucking emailing me and i I was like, you know what?

25:12Fair. So I gave the hotel loads of pointers. The room was already with product. The letter was printed out. They sent me pictures of the flowers. I was like, no, I don't want the flowers there. Put them there. We had a few pics going back and forth of what the room looked like. I was like, perfection. They are so good to have done this. They were amazing. I mean, not to mention you are so good to have done this. They were amazing. But also like the fact that they were sending photos, they're like, you've booked for one night, fuck off. Yeah. They're literally like, please, please just shut the fuck up.

25:36We really have very important people sitting here. Yeah, yeah, yeah. But I mean, they were great. all of them are amazing and then i was like just to triple check um 6 p.m drinks reception that's when you're gonna do it and he's like yeah yeah that's when i'm gonna do it and then he says wait does she know not to post anything because obviously he starts tagging armani someone from armani might reply being like yeah being like what are you doing here and then i was like no i'm not they wouldn't really not worried i was like a brand doesn't mind tags they would they love tags first second of all i don't think they'd reply and third of all i can just log in and delete it.

26:08I was like, I'm not really, I'm really not concerned. Lauren's censoring my content. Yeah, literally. The market's uncertain. Revenue's tied and hiring on hold. That's why results driven companies are using Upwork to keep work moving. Go to Upwork.com today and start hiring proven freelance talent fast. No bulky overhead, no rigid long-term contracts, just the right expert right when you need them. Work smarter and faster with Upwork. Go to Upwork. Now and find your freelance expert. That's U-P-W-O-R-K dot com. Post a job for free and get started today. Is it time to reimagine your future? The right business skills may make a difference in your career.

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27:19So this is where we go off the phone because this is where it starts getting a little bit off piste. Cut to the Friday before the Sunday. We'd had a really nice day doing podcasts all day. I was just in a great jolly mood and I knew it was coming and I was like, oh, this is going to be great. Like no hiccups. It had all gone quite smoothly. Like you'd been asking a few questions, but I was like, meh, not worried. Fine. All fine. All day. And this is, she should have 100 % been doing this because it is her job. Grace's gorgeous assistant. Who is also called Grace. So for the purpose of this chat, we're going to call her Gracie, which we do call her Gracie anyway.

27:54She's asking me consistently all day, what the car details, what the car details. Because for every trip, every event, every deal, every whatever the hell it is, there's a car booked. Door to door. door-to-door and return journey you've got the time you've got the reference you've got the number plate it's a thing I'm messaging him and I'm like what's the car sitch he either texts me this or he called me and he said oh I've told Grace I'm driving so he as in as in you'd had a prior conversation to say he was driving you to the airport so I'm like oh okay so then all day Gracie is saying Lauren what's the car details what's the car details what's the car details so I go okay I think he's driving I think he's going to drive him to the airport so Gracie takes this information as she should and goes hey Grace Lauren said he's driving so Grace obviously fucking is like what I then get a message from Gracie going is he proposing to Grace this weekend me and him made the exact decision two weeks prior to this happening not to tell Grace's new assistant and it was a quite a big decision because obviously grace's assistant knows everything about her life organizes a lot is very involved in everything both personal and work but at this stage she was quite new she's only been with grace for a few weeks or a few months at this stage and i didn't know whether she would crack under pressure of her boss looking her in the eye and being like tell me like that's like that is quite intense you make me sound so nice no but no but I mean like like it takes a lot like especially if you're new to an employer and they're literally in your face not in your face like aggressive but they're like looking you in the eye and they're saying am I being praised to this again like it takes a lot for someone to be like no yeah yeah to lie up front to lie and lie in a way that's not like just lie yeah she would have definitely done it but we wouldn't have known what like as in yeah yeah we wouldn't have known then because obviously yeah that was like a month in or something so I was like I don't not that I don't trust her I was like I just don't know if she'll crumble yeah yeah um so we made a decision and also we just it already felt like too many cooks were in the broth swimming around you know so like I knew my live knew Armani knew this makeup artist you know it was just like a lot of people and I was like I just think I just want to keep it like as tight as possible so Gracie did not know so I'm hopscading jumping to Soho meet my friend and I get this text from Gracie going is he proposing to grace this weekend and when I tell you my head just was bell clean off my heart shot on my ass my hands start shaking I'm sweating also Lauren is the least stressed person I know like you're very high functioning uh like everyone in our team is like very chaotic very workaholic but also like very we thrive in high stress situations like that is our bag including you yeah for you to have had this type of reaction i have never seen you like that it was like my heart was like pumping out of my chest i'm like outside up my destination text my friend like i'll be 20 minutes my hands are shaking like i can't even type my thumbs are like going and i was like oh my god it's the car i love how she was ballsy enough just to ask you that she didn't tell me obviously she didn't tell she was asking so then i instead of replying to her i called her and i was like why have you just asked me that where are you and she was like oh i'm not we're like we're not me and grace aren't together and i was like why have you just asked me that and she was like gracie had just said to grace lauren said he's driving so you'd obviously been like in what world for any of my like work stuff would lauren speak to him so you're then you start spiraling i do start spiraling it's like 6 30 on a friday night the office building is dark and i look up and i go i'm getting suspicious there's some strange things going on and i need to talk to you about them and obviously they're like sorry yeah she's having a meltdown like this is the end this is the end for grace anyway and i just like took them through every single like random little thing because i was like i woke up at 4 30 a.m and i just knew like it was in my head and now this has happened but gracie was then bought into the fold but she obviously didn't tell me like she held fast so i call gracie and i'm like why would you just ask me that and she's like oh well because grace is like asking me these things and then and then she said about the car and like obviously freaking out and i was like okay i need to tell you yes it's happening she starts screaming down the phone and i'm like you need to keep it together i was like you really this is all like i was literally like if you fuck up this now it's all on you no i wasn't like that jesus um and i was like right you just need to we need to say the right things we need it's fine should i tell her to get her nails done i was like don't you fucking dare tell her to get her nails done if you say to her now go get your nails done the rat is going to be popping out like coming out of his little hole and then i then call him and i'm like grace you just said to grace that you're you're driving grace to the airport obviously I wouldn't know that because we don't speak technically about Grace's work stuff why would I know that and he's like actually I think he started laughing I was like you're insane yeah he's he just like started laughing he was like no I'll be fine and I was like in like busy Friday night so like freaking the fuck out and I was like he's like oh I'll be fine I went well and he went no no and then he went no no I told Grace I told her and I was like right okay so I get off and call Gracie back and I'm like okay just like be chill figure out a way to say he's already told you this like we've already had this conversation like it's the thing and she's like okay okay Saturday rolls around I wake up 9 a.m text from Grace hi can you send me my boarding pass and I was like gee it's not 24 hours before the flight yet the brand will send it me once they've checked you in I was like I messaged him hey just so you know you need to send me the boarding pass do not send it to gracie send it to me and then i will send it back to gracie and then gracie will send it to you like that's it all that's how it would work like the brand would check you in or they'd give me the the reference number gracie would sort it out but in this case i was like let's keep it with the brand the brand the brand me um no the brand is him yeah so he checks you both in and sends me these boarding passes and when i typically send boarding passes to talent or assistants or whoever I send the wallet version so it's like the one that sits in your wallet and it's kind of like a little square and it's got your name and your seat number and it's got like a barcode on it I don't send like a big a4 printout he sends me two a4 printouts and I'm like looking at them and I'm like I wouldn't send this but like not major like I probably can get away with this I'm just staring at them both and then I realize number one the reference number is on there and I was like we can't have the reference number on there like grace cannot have access to this number because like probably most people because i would definitely do this she's gonna log into ba type that reference number in and find out who booked that flight and in which case i would never he booked it and in hindsight i wish i'd booked it i just wish i'd booked it but anyway then i noticed he's put his frequent fire number on his ticket and i was like oh god so here i am about to send these two boarding passes to gracie to then to give to grace and not only do i have the booking reference on that i can't give to grace but they have his frequent find number and grace's isn't on there and i'm like fuck's doesn't care about my abios honestly and i was like fuck me like what the fuck am i gonna do so i speaking to gracie i'm like we cannot send them like this like and we're there like scribbling out the like like going on instagram stories getting the white pen out and scribbling it out and re-downloading it to phone and i was like hmm and then i'm like you know what gal i would never send them like this like i'm gonna log into the ba and get the boarding passes like how i would usually send them and then we don't have any issues with the frequent flyer and we'd have any issues with the booking reference little did i know that when you go into ba and download your boarding pass to your wallet if you've inputted your frequent flyer number your level of frequent flyer changes the color of the boarding pass i was like you are fucking kidding me so i get these wallet boarding passes back here his is like bronze and grace's is like white plain normal boarding pass and i was like fuck fuck my life so then i log back in right right well obviously i need to add grace's thing so grace's then turns bronze i'm like right i need to take his off can i fucking take his off no i can't i'm trying i'm like trying to remove it so his goes back through because why would i have you want the phone to be a customer service why would i have his frequent flyer number to change to make you know what's interesting is i would have searched it yeah and then when i got to the airport my boarding pass wouldn't scan the entire time so i make the exact because i cannot change his boarding pass back from bronze and i'm like right i cannot send this so go back to the original a4 printouts send those with all the shit edited out send those and i'm like enjoy your day I cannot deal with this anymore.

37:08And I'm also, he's asking me so much if I've got the confirmation. He's obviously asking me because he knows if he accidentally opens his app or God forbid his fucking wallet, his fucking bronze boarding pass is going to pop up and I'm going to be like, how did you get that? And then I'm going to, the rat's going to be all the way out. And so I'm like, he's going, have you got the confirmation? Have you got the confirmation? This interestingly does not set off my little ratty alarm bells because I, he's such a weirdo about the airport anyway. he literally has a plastic wallet that he travels with so this i'm like this is normal behavior same with him driving he would rather drive than take a brand paid for car because he likes to be in like he likes to have booked like the valley parking i mean it's attractive in a man it really is we only marry airport dads exactly i'm like right just send these like fucking a4 printouts i'd never send like go so great they go to gracie grace sends them to grace we all move on with our day apparently the hotel were great they were like oh you're here for the Armani event so got there immediately they came over like you're here for the event right like um oh new secret product gonna be like really good and I'm like the only thing that set off my alarm bells my ratty rats yeah was the fact that they asked for a card for incidentals and I was like a brand would never do that because they block booked the room they've obviously got their card on all of it and so I was like why would you need a card and obviously it's not his business trip so obviously he doesn't go to put his card down he's like I can put my card down I'm like no it's my trip yeah like yeah yeah so I give them my card and it sends a notification to my phone being like a thousand pounds taken for incidentals and I was like all right I'm Arnie I'm stingy but also they were like we've upgraded your room and I was like that's weird to say because if it was a brand you just tell them that that was the room you know like it's not them paying they'd be like and they were like we've upgraded your room and I was like oh amazing but if it was a brand they just wouldn't say that you know they'd be like to the brand we've upgraded all your rooms yeah because they'd the brand would want you to think that they booked you that room yeah sorry too much going on in here i mean it's true and so yeah and i got that another thing i thought i was like why haven't they put armani stickers on the mirrors because i was like for all the selfies i know no literally i hate myself i was literally like it would be on all my selfies then you know what though i was actually thinking i was like do i do dressing now oh i would have loved proposal dressing gowns oh my god not him his bills going up and you're like i need monogrammed dressing gown with armani they're actually armani dressing gown he would have been like why didn't i choose fucking primark off-brand having the makeup done she's like watertight she's like yes i flew out with my friend she's also a makeup artist she's doing one of the girls makeups now and i was like do you know who she's doing and she's like i don't know she's like a french influencer or something and i was like oh yeah i was like everyone's international yeah literally and then she was like but then she goes she goes like i think there's quite a few uk people here as well absolutely no and then she was like but it's a very global event it's very global event i've obviously got the itinerary but it doesn't say specifically where we're meant to be it goes like dinner or like drinks and so i was like babe will you check where we're meant to be yeah will you just run on down to the beach and just check where we're meant to be he's like oh does it not say and i'm and i'm like no and then he obviously starts like frantically messaging everyone like has anyone said that she's meant to be like somewhere specific because obviously he doesn't want to say something else and he goes into the bathroom to the fucking toilet phone.

40:32Casual. Casual. But he like picks up the other one and he's like, okay, not working. Very good actor. Very good actor. Wow. He was like, what's the fuck? He was like, what's wrong with this? And then he goes like, is there another one through here in the bathroom? And he's on the phone and he goes, and he goes, and he goes, and he's like, bing. They're like, hello? Hello? Do you need us to say hello? Can we help? um goes into the bathroom and he goes like hey so we're here for the armani event could you we've got drinks at 6 p.m on our thing but it doesn't say where to go and fake person on the phone's like obviously yeah exactly like oh hello sir he's like okay so then we go down to the end will it be obvious then or is there going to be someone there and then he's like this man i know and then he's like okay okay thank you bye and it hangs up and then i'm getting ready and i'm like not sure on my outfit and i like keep trying to check and then there's this one dress i want to wear with like long sleeves and then he's like no no no you should wear this one you should wear this one it's because the fucking one the sleeves went down to like the floor like that was the whole thing he was like you literally wouldn't i would have just been it would have been like no ring anywhere like literally me with my like dementor arms or like pulling them back and so and then so he's like okay we should go it's nearly six and not being funny i have been to drinks before an influencer event if it's drinks before the dinner everyone will arrive 45 minutes late so this is what i thought yeah like as in i'm always that would like and i'm not necessarily like an early person but i'll always be there and be like i could have taken an extra 15 20 minutes and so i was like oh it's fine it's fine just like trying to get ready and i'd like wanted to film like a get ready with me and like all of this is why we put drinks in because we didn't want you to go straight to dinner exactly and so he but so he's like we should we should go it's it's past six it's past six cut to me in my flat in london being like it's time it's time and it got so much point that i just hold my phone i was like it's time it's time then i was like i had to put take my phone off out of my hand put it on charge in my bedroom and come i put it on loud and then went and sat back in the living room because i was like i can't even look at the time anymore i was like it should be happening it's happening and so the makeup artist as well trying to stay on brand she's like i'm sure it'll be fine yeah no you're so right influencers are always late and so she's like it'll be fine it'll be fine and he's like no no we should go now obviously he's got a photographer in a bush waiting for the perfect light like literally like hiding he's on the end of that toilet and so i'm like okay like listening to this make potter's being like take your time and he's literally like where's your go where's your go where's your go so we're like walking down and then there's like the gravel and we're walking down the side like the path on the side of the gravel and he's like could you he was like why don't you walk into the middle for a like photo yeah he only takes like five because obviously he then comes in with suspicious yeah whoa whoa you know that's how we do it literally need at least 200 and so like he goes to take these photos and then i'm literally like he goes to like show me and i'm like back away like because i want more and i'm like looking at them and i'm like yeah they're nice can i get some more and then he was like yes but i just wanted to talk to you for a second and i was like just take my photos bro yeah i mean but at this stage i've been like so everyone in the hotel was so convincing that like i hadn't actually texted my friends for like the last hour because i was like you just need to calm down because i didn't even want to be this stressed about it was only because i couldn't work it out if i knew for sure i wouldn't have dug like if i knew for sure i would just be like not looking not looking it's because i could not work out there was so much for and like then my spidey senses and so i was just like i can't do this so like walk down then he's like talking to me and i'm like oh you want to just take a photo like it'll be really nice would you have for my work and I'm like I don't need to take a photo and then he's literally like telling me how much he loves me and I'm like did you have a photo?

44:17Not by these pics doesn't look like it yeah and then he obviously gets out on the end and then he'd be really good and then you saw the ring and you were like no and then I literally go go on then sure go on then if I have to sounds good no I literally go but we'll get the pics no I oh my god you have to look at the photos if you haven't seen them it was the fact that I burst out crying and then just said for so long goes it's fucking huge and then he goes you have to put it on

44:45and then i do and the rest is history that's the story guys oh i'm sweating and then my phone starts ringing at 7 30 p.m and i'm like x-rays god i wasn't expecting that on a brand trip yeah actually when i was telling one of my friends what I thought it was. He was like, no, he wouldn't do that. Never do that. That's the big old story. Oh, thank you so much. You're okay. You're fine. I honestly did love it. Although I will say, I texted my close girls group chat after it all happened. I was like, no. Just in case anyone's respective partners are thinking about doing this anytime soon. I need at least a 12 month break before I do this again.

45:27Yes. Because I will, I will be the one that gets asked. But after that, she is doing a paid service. Yes. my link's in the bio oh thank you you're welcome i loved it apart from that friday yeah of hell that that like two hours was exactly two hours out of four months of planning only two hours of that will help so really in the grand scheme of things peace piss oh gorgeous well thank you so much you're amazing you're a manager in a million thank you agreed agreed

46:01Thank you.

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