Redefining the Financial Game ft. Manuel Soto | Coffeez for Closers with Joe Shalaby

30 May 2025 · 54 min

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Coffeez for Closers - Episode: Redefining the Financial Game ft. Manuel Soto

Podcast Overview Host: Joseph Shalaby, Broker and CEO of E Mortgage Capital Inc.

Guest

Manuel Soto, "The Financial Architect" and Broker-Owner of TFA Insurance Advisors Description: In this episode, Soto shares his journey from being a top-producing agent to leading a significant insurance and financial services firm. The discussion covers wealth-building strategies, scaling businesses in saturated markets, and the importance of changing one's approach to achieve different results.

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Key Themes and Discussions

  1. The Journey and Philosophy of Manuel Soto
  2. Background: Soto’s early life was characterized by a strong drive and a personal mantra: “Change what you’re doing to change what you’re getting.”
  3. Transformation: Transitioned from a top-producing agent into a multi-location franchise CEO, emphasizing the need for a shift in mindset and business practices.
  1. Growth Strategies in a Saturated Market
  2. Multiplication vs. Addition: Soto emphasizes multiplying efforts through public speaking and social media rather than simply adding new clients or leads.
  3. Public Speaking: Engages audiences to promote services, with significant reach through social media platforms (minimum 50,000 views per video).
  4. Lead Generation: Advocates for a diversified marketing strategy, including social media, voicemail blasts, and seminars.
  1. Financial Wisdom and Mistakes
  2. Key Principles: Soto outlines his acronym LITR (Liquidity, Interest Rate, Tax Advantage, Risk) as a framework for financial planning and real estate management.
  3. Common Mistakes: Highlights the pitfalls of failing to save early, misunderstanding financial products, and neglecting to do due diligence with investment advisors.
  1. The Impact of Artificial Intelligence
  2. AI in Finance: Discusses the potential for AI to revolutionize financial advisory roles but emphasizes the irreplaceable value of human relations and personalized services in financial planning.
  3. Future Strategies: Encourages financial professionals to adapt and integrate AI tools into their practice.
  1. Mindset and Client Relationships
  2. Mindset Shift: Talks about the importance of mindset in achieving financial success, influenced by surrounding oneself with high-identity individuals.
  3. Building Trust: Emphasizes the need for strong relationships in financial advising, pointing out that trust is crucial for client retention and satisfaction.
  1. Teaching Financial Literacy to the Next Generation
  2. Parenting Approach: Soto shares his practices for instilling independence and financial literacy in his children, including hands-on projects and teaching them business principles.
  3. Lessons in Grit: Encourages his children to experience failure and learn the value of work.
  1. Goals and Aspirations
  2. Personal Goal: Strives for happiness and fulfillment beyond societal expectations.
  3. Family Goal: Aims to strengthen financial literacy discussions with his children regularly.
  4. Business Goal: Plans to expand TFA Insurance Advisors to 400 offices within five years.

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Key Takeaways

  • Change is Essential: To achieve different results, one must be willing to change their approaches and mindset.
  • Relationships Matter: Building strong, trust-based relationships is fundamental to success in financial advising and business growth.
  • Continuous Learning: Ongoing education and personal development are necessary for success in any field, especially in finance.
  • Embrace Technology: Integrating AI and modern marketing strategies is essential for remaining competitive in the financial landscape.

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Conclusion In this episode, Joseph Shalaby and Manuel Soto provide valuable insights into the evolution of financial services, the importance of adaptability, and the need for a robust mindset in achieving personal and professional success. Their discussion emphasizes actionable strategies for thriving in a competitive market while highlighting the significant role of relationships in the financial industry.

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0:00Before he was the CEO of TFA Insurance Advisors. Before he trained thousands of agents, before he was known as the financial architect, Manuel Soto was just a hungry kid with a mantra. Change what you're doing to change what you're getting. From top producing agent to multi-location franchise CEO, Manny's not just designing financial plans, he's building a movement. In this episode, we talk business structures, legacy, and why the financial world needs more builders and fewer salesmen. From blue-collar hustle to whiteboard strategy, from crisis to clarity, welcome to Coffees. You've got about 230 agents now?

0:45Last time I checked, we had 223. That was about close to a month ago, so we're probably at close to 250 at this point. So we're aggressively starting to scale. A couple different insurance carriers, VPs of insurance carriers have told me once you go over 200, it's a beast of its own. That's it. You're not going to recognize some of the people inside of your company. Yeah, we're at that level. We've got 870 loan officers. I've heard. Unfortunately, I don't know 750 of them. I've heard. But they know me. They better know you. Yeah, so that's good. And I try to be as relatable, but yeah, it does get confusing once you're over a few hundred.

1:27So what are some of your growth strategies right now? I just got done speaking a couple hours ago at a real estate group. You know, we don't do real estate. We don't do mortgages. We don't do taxes. So a lot of these mortgage and real estate companies and tax firms, they asked me to come speak to their agents and help them with sales and growth and scaling and sales skills, etc. So one of the big growth strategies that we have right now is multiplication, not addition. And multiplication, we all know, public speaking, social media, YouTube, I mean, everything that's geared towards IT or talking to crowds of people instead of one plus one, I want to multiply.

2:08So public speaking is a big deal. Yeah, that's one thing I've found. It's like what's allowing us to scale rapidly is just like I can echo my voice on social media. Any video I put out gets 50 ,000 views minimum. That's awesome. On one platform. Then I put them on 10 platforms. That's what I'm talking about. That's multiplication. So I can get any message out pretty quickly, which makes things a lot easier, especially when you're able to multiply that way. And then how about are you doing any seminars? Are you doing anything directly for financial strategists to come on board or just work in the relationships?

2:45Instagram right now is my best platform. When I teach these sales strategies, one sales strategy is three to ones. So I tell every salesperson they have to be on Instagram. They have to. And if they post three personal posts and one business every day on their story, they're bound to get something. It's jab, jab, hook. Gary Vaynerchuk said it the best. and then they post one on their feed. So if they're not on social media, they're closing the doors to that aspect of business. That's just not smart at all. So that's a no-brainer. Yeah. Yeah, it's imperative to be on social. I mean, that's your open sign.

3:24Yeah, well, it's free, free 99. I mean, whatever salesperson out there that says that social media just isn't me, I mean respectfully you're just not wanting to acclimate to the social media platform who does not like free marketing that just does not make any sense you'd rather pay for leads you'd rather go door knock you'd rather go beat the street come on let's let's acclimate to social media it's here to stay yeah so say I like to I like for my still strategy I like to tell everybody you have to have multiple strategies in place one of them social media the other one's lead buys The other one is voicemail blast.

4:05The other one is text message blast. The other one is buying Google ad space. I'm doing so much when it comes to marketing. I'm everywhere. I'm on every social platform. I'm on every audio, visual, written platform, blog platform, you name it. I'm on it. I believe the same. And you asked a good question. We do senior seminars too, and we pay for butts in seats. So normally when, I don't know, those of you that are seniors or you're north of 50, 55, and you get these coupons in the mail saying, hey, dinner on us at Fleming's or Ruth's Chris or Mastro's, we send out flyers like that. So it'll cost us anywhere between$7 ,000 to$10 ,000 per night to put butts in seats.

4:51But if you have 35 to 50 butts in seats, you're going to make 5 to 10x on that dinner seminar. Anytime, all day. Yeah. So, I mean, being a financial strategist, you know, and people, I got this question on my podcast yesterday because I don't have mortgages. You know, so it's like, how does a mortgage guy have no mortgages? Like, I just don't want any debt, you know, like cyclical of market been hit too many times. But like for you being a financial strategist, like what's one big financial mistake that you think taught you the most? Funny that you say that and you led into it with having no mortgage.

5:27I mean, I'm a big believer in not paying off your mortgage. And the reason why is because I have an acronym called LITR, L-I-T-R, that is really a full explanation. Well, you didn't go through the mortgage crash and lose everything. I did. Oh, I did. Oh, you did? Oh, I did. Yeah. So L stands for liquidity. I've been doing financial planning for 23 years, and I've made all the mistakes that every single household makes. So L stands for liquidity. Your mortgage, if you have equity inside of it, it's truly not liquid. It's only liquid if you have it in cash or if you have a sideline account. So liquidity is a major.

6:04Number two is I, interest rate. People that have a 3 % mortgage right now, they're never refinancing that bad boy. They would be dumb to do so, and they're holding on to sell their property even though they're broke. I is interest rate. That's a biggie. So if I'm borrowing money from a bank or a credit card at 20%, why would I do that and pay off my 3 % mortgage? You never want to send more money to principal. T is tax advantage. That's the biggest tax deduction that you have. Oprah Winfrey still has a damn mortgage, and she could pay it off any time she wants to. She thinks I'm broke. Tax advantage is a major.

6:40But the biggest one to me is R, risk. So we live in California. I know the big one's never going to happen here in California, but if and when it does and we have a paid off house or we have mad equity inside of our properties, there's a lot of risk there. So if I have 600 grand of equity inside of my house and an earthquake happens and my foundation is cracked, I'm thinking to myself, damn, the lender's not going to help me now because they're going to – they're like, hey, you got 600 of equity. I'd love to have your property and fix the foundation. We need earthquake insurance. And if you want to research it, all you have to do is go through the big old, what was it, hurricane in Florida, the other hurricane, Hurricane Katrina in Louisiana, and just ask some of the people that paid off their properties that saw their house float down into the ocean.

7:30It sucks. So one of the big financial mistakes is doing that. Another one is not saving money early. So many people say, you know what, once the Honda's paid off, then I'm going to start saving and investing. Once little Johnny goes to college, then I'm going to start saving and investing. People never plan to fail. They just fail to plan. So starting early is so, so important. And then lastly is, of course, the big no-no, which is not doing a due diligence when it comes to investing, period. There's a lot of investment advisors. I own a fiduciary firm, a registered investment advisory company.

8:05People pay us 1.6 % on fees, 1 % on fees. when I can get a better rate of return, historically speaking, from the S &P 500, which is you can go to Vanguard and get an S &P fund, SPX fund, for 25 basis points. So that's a nugget. I just saved lots of people here millions of dollars just on that one thing alone. So I'm a mouthful, bro. I love it, man. I mean, listen, you're like – I think your industry is probably more saturated than my industry. Everyone calls themselves a financial guru. How do you distinguish the financial guru between the financial architect's methodology? Actually, I don't know if this is current, but years ago when I did do the due diligence, I think the real estate industry and the mortgage industry was more saturated than the financial planning industry.

8:59It's just that you and I, we're from Orange County. So here in Orange County, there's a lot of fiduciaries. There's a lot of financial advisors. a lot of mortgage guys a lot of real estate guys yeah because this is i mean it's like the hub yeah i mean uh i have an office in chenille hills it's one of our 27 offices that we have and in chenille hills if you do research uh the average median household income is 111 000 here in corona del mar it's 200 000 corona del mar yeah i don't know that only makes 200 grand that's that's because they're business owners and they deduct it and their agi and how do they How do they afford a house that's$1 ,800 a square foot?

9:39Absolutely. Absolutely correct. So there's a lot of old money. There's a lot of old median household income. The wealth transfer is over$80 trillion. There's so many attractive things that are happening right now. We're knee deep in the thick of this, so it excites me. It gets me all pumped up. But what separates us from the competition is me personally is relationships. I mean, I don't know if you guys have seen or know or not. When I met Joe, it was like Man Crush Friday, man. The guy's a great speaker. He's very influential. He's got great energy. So I wanted to connect with him just as much as he wanted to connect with me because he's a high-identity guy.

10:22So for me, it's relationship building. People want to be friends with the people that they trust and respect with their money, obviously. That's number one. But number two is we're full service. So if they go to – I'm not going to say any names, but Primerica only has like one product or they got one investment, and they're overpriced. And they're – I might get in trouble for this. Their fees are super high. So if you get a term insurance policy with Primerica, they're 30 % more pricey than any product that I have. So we're the footlocker of financial services. We got a bunch of choices. I got AIG.

10:56I got Prudential. I got Pacific Life, Fidelity and Guarantee. where a Primerica has one company, one product, and that's your only choice. So that's a big difference. New York Life, I mean, all these direct lenders, you would call them in the mortgage field, we're the broker and the direct lender together. That's what makes us different. So, I mean, it's very similar models. And we actually call ourselves a hybrid broker-banker. We are a hybrid broker. All the big moneymakers are exactly what you just said. Have you guys offered the service directly under the financial architects that you guys have your own products?

11:33Even better. We don't have our standalone. This is the financial architect's insurance policy. But we have direct relationships with all these insurance carriers and investment firms. So if, let's say, I talk to you, and hypothetically, let's say you have diabetes type 2 and your A1C sugar levels are at 7.2. They're escalated. I'm not going to put you with LSW. I'm going to put you with AIG or Forrester's because they will underwrite your deal a lot better. Once I get a decline, I've now screwed you from getting life insurance for the next year at least. So it's little underwriting things like that that make a big difference that a lot of specialty guys just don't know about it.

12:19So it's things like that that are like these are all underhanded softball pitches, dude. So things like that that will make us different. Yeah. We actually do lend. That's why we lend our own. Through your own bank, right? Yeah. E-mortgage capital, we have our own warehouse lines. We write the notes. They pay it back. We sell it off. But what is the hybrid approach? Is it underwriting guidelines? Is it flexibility with underwriting? It's underwriting, number one. That's the biggest challenge normally because there's some insurance policies up to$3 million. It's simplified issue. So you don't have to take blood, urine, step on a scale, blood pressure, nothing.

13:06It's simplified issue. So if I'm outside looking in and I'm talking to the client, the client goes, hey, man, I haven't seen a doctor in seven years. I probably want to go simplified issue because I want to make sure that they get insurance when they check their MIB, Medical Information Bureau. So the underwriting is number one. Number two is product menu. Price matters to a lot of people. So if they get a term policy, for example, I'm shopping it with 80 different insurance carriers to get you the cheapest, most affordable rate based on your height and weight, etc. etc. Another one is cost, internal fees.

13:43So if you get a permanent policy like a whole life or index life or universal life, there's internal fees inside of the plan, very similar to mortgages. The difference is you show your fees. We don't. So you almost have to be a smart consumer and say, how much am I paying for fees? I know I'm giving you a thousand bucks a month for my whole life. how much of that is going towards fees and a sharp salesman or a little bit of a special salesman is not even disclosing that they're like a thousand bucks a month write the check okay awesome you know you're writing checks and you have no idea what the internal fees are as far as investment goes investments are easy way easier than insurance investments it's more like relationship built well i got a guy at morgan stanley i got a guy at Merrill.

14:31Okay, what are the costs? What's the cost that they're charging you based on your assets under management? They're charging me, I don't know. Okay, I'll beat your costs and I'll put you in the same asset allocation that they are. So that's what makes it a lot different. It's a mouthful, dude. I mean, it's so much. I've been doing this 23 years and I'm still learning. It's just like our space too. I'm always learning. I'm always like, something new is coming out, especially with AI. How are you guys using AI in your space right now? AI is here to stay. It's kind of like social media. If you don't acclimate to the new stuff, you're going to get eaten alive.

15:10I know some wholesale companies that we used to do business with, and they're like, we're old school. We're kind of family-based. And I'm like smiling at them and saying, man, I got to cut real quick because AI is going to take over this space sooner than later. AI can do due diligence on products. AI can literally manufacture plans. But what makes financial planning special, because I heard that tax advisors are in danger right now, because AI may be coming out with an app where I download my PDF and the computer, the AI specialist, does my taxes. So they have no room for error on the human side.

15:50Financial planning is different. We're a moving target. So let's say you tell me, I got$2 ,000 to invest. Where should I put it? I'm asking more questions like, well, what's important to you? Is little Johnny going to college? When are they going to college? And what's your height and weight? What's your health status? Are you worried about long-term care? Does mom and dad need an in-home nurse? I'm asking more questions that change over the length of time over 20 and 30 years. So AI in that strategy can only help with underwriting specifics, but they can also help with general questions of a new advisor as well.

16:30So we use that inside of our – well, the back end of our chassis. Now everybody talks about financial freedom. What's that word financial freedom mean to you? um because you'd like you're you you tabooed me with no i i thought financial freedom was being debt free so like man financial freedom means something different to you yeah i mean again dude whenever i'm sitting down with a client i'm more asking about them and what's in their world because you for example you may believe in i want to be debt free whereas other people they're like I want to use my credit or I want to use my company as a conduit to getting more ROI on some money, on debt.

17:19So if I could borrow money from a bank at 3 % and I could make 8 % on it, I'm making a 5 % arbitrage. It's different. So that's why my job is to really get into their world. I like not having debt, Manny. Now, based on that, what is financial independence to you? And then I would go through something called a FIN. A FIN is an acronym that stands for Financial Independence Number. So the way that you figure out a FIN is you ask the potential client, what is your monthly desired goal? And they go, what do you mean? Well, to live on. Let's say you retire tomorrow. What's your monthly goal? Well, that's a moving target with inflation.

17:59How are you going to factor in a 23 % inflation rate? So there's an old formula that accounts for inflation, whether it goes to 8 or whether it goes to 3. Yeah, but it never counted for 20. I completely agree, and it's something that, again, is going to be a moving target, and I'm interested to see what goes down. Whether the Fed raises or lowers interest rates or whether unemployment goes up or down, it's going to be interesting. We may even go through stagflation, which is a big danger right now. Yeah, I've mentioned stagflation on some of my videos. stagflation is the worst possible possible thing you can go through they talk about deflation being danger nah man it's stagflation that's going to be super dangerous so let's say in that the fin you asked me that question let's say the client goes i can live on 20 grand a month to pay all my bills and i want you to take into account inflation there's a formula called the rule of 200 so you take the$20 ,000 monthly, you multiply it by 200, which is$4 million.

19:01That's going to be their FIN, their financial independence number. That means that by definition, whether they're 56, 66, or 71, once they hit$4 million through an annuity, you can pay and get paid through principal and regular payments. You can get paid the$20 ,000 a month like clockwork. So it's an old formula. Sounds like alimony. Yeah, that'll be another conversation big time. Alimony. It sounds like child support alimony. Damn, that's heavy. That's funny. No, but I like that financial independence number because that's kind of like how a lot of us kind of create our retirement models. What do you think the average fin is for someone right now?

19:50If the average husband and wife make$80 ,000 a year, which is a mind blower to you because you're in a top-notch area here, but the average husband and wife in L.A. County make, I think,$87 ,000 a year. So you would just factor in$87 ,000 a year, take the monthly, which let's say is about$7 ,000 a month, multiplied by$200 ,000. It's$1.4 million. That's crazy. It's$87 ,000 when the average home to buy in L.A. is like$2.5 million, which puts the average mortgage payment around like$18 ,000. Don't get me started on that. There's literally, I think, 13%, 12 % of Californians that can buy right now.

20:33And if you're sitting in that 12%, half of them don't believe they should buy. They think it's a dumb decision right now, currently. Yeah. Now, I don't want to go and be controversial. Yeah, I do. So if 6 % are looking to buy and they can qualify, that's the reason why the mortgage industry is down right now. I mean, it's like, what, 70%, 75 % down, the real estate industry as a whole. And unfortunately, you can't pay the bills like that. California has runaway inflation, in my opinion. I think California has just run wrong. Obviously, it's a liberal state. I won't get political too much, but there needs to be something to save more business owners because business owners create jobs.

21:17They create more paying jobs if the economy is doing well. But unfortunately, economically, we're at a standstill right now because of that. Affordability is wild. And I normally ask people that tell me that real estate is going to double in the next seven years or five years, my dad. and I said, Dad, please explain how does that make sense when husband and wife still at L.A. County make$87 ,000 a year? Oh, man, it's just going to. Okay, explain to me mathematically how that even makes sense. It can't. So either all the rich guys move to California or we have some type of economic shakeup that's going to be forcing us to be more affordable.

22:00Well, we're seeing all the rich people from L.A. move to Newport Beach and that's because of the fires. The fires. I was about to say that. And what's happened as a result of that is Newport Beach has gone up like 50%. And Newport Beach, Orange County in general, they're a red city, a red county. They're conservative. The vast majority are conservative and they're mostly business owners. I can see why. I get it, but I won't get that political. um now you you've emphasized like always creating additional income streams what's an unconventional strategy you you recommend that has yielded you and others you know surprising results i mean as a business owner you know this joe is leverage um i can take 100 % of my own efforts and go to work and kill it, or I can take 1 % of 100 people's efforts and get the same type of outcome.

23:03So I think leverage, leveraging businesses, leveraging ownership. For me, I own a franchise. So it's a Kindle, like a McDonald's, like a Jack in the Box, like a Subway. So TFA is a franchise. I sell the franchise model. So if there's a real estate group and they're down 70 % and I own a financial planning firm, I put TFA inside of their already successful business model. It's like having an extra, like an escrow company within their company already and, uh, offering mortgage protection, offering living trusts. There's only two things that get you out of being broke. It's making more money or saving more money only two.

23:47So if I work a job and I'm making$62 ,000 a year, I literally have no opportunity to make more money. So the real opportunity is having the opportunity. So if let's say they pick up a side hustle, they do Uber Eats, they Uber, they go work for the financial architects and sell one living trust and make an extra$400,$500 within that model. That's a great side hustle. Again, you can only get out of trouble when you make more or you save more money. Another thing is re-budgeting. People never look at their apps. I'm even guilty of this, bro. I got apps on my phone that I didn't even know I downloaded.

24:28And it's costing me money every single month. And I don't pay attention to that. Again, people never plan to fail. They just fail to plan. And they're just not paying attention. Edison bills, again, re-budgeting, looking at their cars, looking at their taxes. Some people go to their tax advisor for 18 years and they never check their tax advisor. This guy or gal is a human just like you are. And if they're making mistakes or they're being lazy with your taxes, it's time to replace them. So these are just some small things, making more or saving more money that can help a regular consumer. I love that.

25:03And I mean, it's just the obvious that helps the regular consumers. But it takes To your Fanning your fire bro It takes a podcaster It takes someone in public Publication Sharing these types of things So that the listeners go Damn man he's right I gotta take some action And that's the thing Normally to make a sale You've done sales for years dude Normally you gotta touch that person Five to eight times It's more now. Is it really? Yeah. That blows my mind. It's more around 30 touch points. Oh, my gosh. Yeah, we got 30 touch points before we get a conversion. Man, get it going. And it's going to get worse because society is more ADD.

25:49They're busier than ever. Yeah. They don't answer phones. They stopped answering phone calls. Now they don't answer text messages. Yeah. Now they don't answer voicemails. So it's like how many times can one be reminded before they actually make a response? Right. wild wild 30 that blows my mind dude like for me i'm all action like even even uh again i did a i did a sales presentation a couple hours ago and i'm like hey when you guys get out of bed the alarm goes off you got to tell your mind immediately time to go man no snooze button you're wasting an hour just by pressing snooze it's time to get up go take a walk for 15 minutes do something to shake yourself up and what i find is that people are just so fixated on these habits um one of my best sayings is the chains of habit are too light to be felt until they're too heavy to be broken we all just have bad habits man and shaking out of those habits are so important to regular people that you know influencers like you need to go hey man this is this is the direction that we're going let's go and they get motivated by your action your energy your enthusiasm and your excitement to go and and push towards that direction so it's awesome yeah it just takes you know a few more million of me and we'll have a great society there we go shit i'm on board um how do you address people who are skeptic you know you're you're the skeptics from your clients who are weary of financial planning due to all the misinformation, their past experiences, all the sales mumbo-jumbo, all the BS that they're fed all the time.

27:30Those are like financial planners are almost borderline taboo. Again, like that mortgage broker taboo that we had in 08. Yeah. Financial planning. Yeah. I have to get behind it, actually. I think... You're like, yeah, you're right. You're right. I hate to say it this way, but rookie advisors are going to get you in more trouble than anything else. Because think about it for a second. Let's say I'm a rookie, and this was me 23 years ago. You're like, hey, just do a whole life. Exactly. No, I was telling them to do a VUL, and that VUL was really expensive at that time. When I first got in the industry in 2003, that was a pricey vehicle to get involved into.

28:07I should have just bought a cheap term policy and invest the difference in a Roth IRA. Seven, eight out of ten people in the United States should get a term policy and invest the difference in a mutual fund or stock portfolio. The rest should be looking at more of a permanent chassis. Or if you're worried about long-term care, let's say you're 80, 82 years old, and you're like, man, I don't want to bug my friends or my family to come take care of me when I just had a stroke. That's more of a permanent chassis inside of that plan. So financial planning, again, is a moving target. But advisors, I mean, if I had to put a fraction on it, bro, God, I feel bad if you're even saying this.

28:48Nine out of ten of us just suck. They don't do their due diligence. They take their broker's word for it, and the broker's there trying to make as much money as he or she can. And they need to go do more due diligence and homework. And I mean, I didn't go to college for a year and go, man, I'm just going to act like I got a degree after four years. That's what I find financial planners doing is they're not well read. They don't know economics. They don't. I mean, I look at the S &P 500 every single day. Like I'm on it. I have my ear to the ground. And I'm not even servicing clients anymore unless their net worth is over three, four million dollars.

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29:27So take me, for example. I'm up there when it comes to good advisors. But, dude, I have 220-plus agents. If I had to throw a rock at them, I think like 180, I wouldn't want designing my plans, unfortunately. And I say that as transparently as possible because even my advisors, they need to go get their ass more well-read. They need to do the research. They need to go to more trainings than anybody else. and once they've gotten to that point then that's when they should be doing more financial planning so right now we're more like take a senior advisor with you in the field and these new advisors they're like they're they're cheap they don't want to share commissions so instead they're the wild wild west and they're like no man i'm gonna go see if i can get as much commission as possible off this client so you're right bro i hate to say it but you're right the the industry as a whole Skeptics are real.

30:27Skeptics have a reason to be skeptical. Yeah. And my personal opinion is go with someone that has good reviews. I always Google anything. I'll Google it. I'll look on Yelp. I'll see if the reviews are right. And if the reviews are right, I look at their complaints. And then I go, if the complaints are right, more than likely this guy or gal knows what the hell they're talking about. I vet it. Yeah, good advice. In your journey, what's a pivotal moment for you that challenged your philosophy, and how did you adapt to that? Man, what you just said, that really hits home, I got to tell you. And I feel bad for even saying this, but I think the first two years of me being in this career, I was winging it.

31:14I had no idea. I was just throwing crap up against the wall. And that was challenging for me because I thought I had done my first year. I think I did a little over 200 ,000 in target premium second year, a little over 200 ,000. And I, I, I don't, I don't think I did the right thing for a lot of clients. So I feel bad in saying so, but that's been my biggest challenge because I reacted like we're talking about. It didn't take me 30 tries. I reacted as proactive as possible saying, I need to change what I'm doing to change what I'm getting. So I started reading more books. I started analyzing more plans.

31:53I started looking at the stock market a little bit more in detail and the lack thereof. I started looking at freaking politics a little bit differently. And it made me a little bit better advisor slowly, one year by one year, et cetera, et cetera. And, you know, now you have this great conversation, like all the questions you're asking me, just so you guys know. We didn't script this out. He didn't like, hey, man, I'm going to ask this question. I already know how to respond to it because I'm very well read. I'm very prepared when it comes to it. So I love the questions, by the way. Love it. Love it.

32:24Yeah. This is a good one because you've got a great mindset. But what role do you think mindset has to play in financial success? I think that's a learned skill. So I'm big on mindset now, but that was a result of being around high-identity people. I mean, damn, bro, the guy that recruited me in business was Ed Milet. He's one of the best speakers in the world. Ever, yeah. I mean, I love Ed Milet. One of my good friends is Patrick BitDavid. I still talk to him on a regular basis, and they have strong mindsets. Everyone at some point in time is going to quit in business. I mean, my best friend since the seventh grade, he owns several franchises.

33:05He's worth lots of money, but he's very humble about it. These are all my associations, and I think your mindset is really indicative of your associations and the lack thereof. That's where it starts. The secondary thing is even if you don't have that great association, I could have grown up in Kansas. But if I read more or I listen to podcasts and YouTubes more, it's like I'm literally in the room with them. And now I can adopt their beliefs because belief drives everything. If I believe I can do something significant, I'm going to. If I don't, I'm not. My belief starts with that. But how do you gain belief?

33:53You gain it by association. You gain it by the books, the YouTubes, and the podcasts that you listen to. So having a mindset, I think, is inherent and indicative of all of the great publication that you're involved into. One of my best leadership books is by John Maxwell. If he writes it, I read it. So 21 Irrefutable Laws of Leadership, that was authored more than, I think, 20 years ago. And it still holds true today. Law of the Lid, you know, you want to be around people that are tens, not fours. If you're around five different fours, you're going to become a four, even if you're a seven. So the Law of the Lid is super important.

34:31all those different books man I can go on for three hours about mindset mindset is the absolute pinnacle of something that you want to get a hold of yeah absolutely I mean it's imperative if you're an entrepreneur now do you have a story that comes to mind where a client like resisted your advice and the outcome of that resistance dude I'll tell you the most recent. And I know he doesn't mind that I say this because he's literally told me that I was right. In 2000, I'm going to guess, 13, I had a guy that I sold life insurance to. And he was making, at that time, about$300 ,000 a year. He got a little term policy, 30-year term.

35:24it cost him like$140 a month. The reason why was because he was out of shape. He had diabetes. He had high blood pressure. Physically, he was challenged. And he says, I'll pay$100 a month. It was like a budgeted. It's like, dude, this isn't a mortgage. Like, you know, your family needs$2 million of coverage since you make 300 grand a year. The factor was you need$2 million. And he goes, nah, it's too expensive. So I follow up being a great salesperson at that time, because I think I'm a horrible salesperson now. But I followed up, followed up, followed up. In 2017-18, I told him, dude, you're in better shape now.

36:02You should get another$1 ,000 ,000,$2 ,000 ,000 of life insurance. And he goes, nah, man, it's too expensive. I'm not dying. No bullshit. Three weeks ago, he text messages me and says, hey, bro, I have stage 4 cancer. My doctor says I got about three months to live. I don't believe him I believe in God I'm doing all these things my this my that his wife called me five days ago and said he had turned for I'm getting goosebumps talking about he had turned for the worse and I need to know how to apply for his life insurance when it goes down because we're putting him in hospice now so dude I could tell you it's really sad when it comes because think about it for a second we're we're blowing and going we're doing all these different great business things and a defining moment paradigm shift happens like that you look back and you think about all the great all the other things that you could have taken place this is a guy i'm not saying his name but this is a guy that's filing bankruptcy chapter 11 right now his wife told me he didn't even tell me that and he's going through financial hardships and it literally took him, I think it was like four months, to go through financial shambles because he's going through this physical challenge.

37:24He's only going to get a quarter million dollars in life insurance and they owe way more than a quarter million dollars that she's going to be getting. So she was very appreciative. She was very kind. She cried on the phone. And I felt bad. And I obviously think back, I take a step back and I think, what could I have done differently? Could I have marketed differently? Could I have had one of my agents reach out more? That's the most recent story, dude. Like my cousin had a stroke four years ago and the same thing happened. I said, man, what an idiot. Here I am. I'm doing great. And I didn't even reach out to my cousin for a policy.

37:58So, yeah, that's been the most right now. That's tip of the skull. And it has me kind of circling. I mean, I've paid about a half dozen life insurance policy death claims. but this one got me for whatever reason I think because his wife called me I think that's what got me so he's got kids he loves his kids anyways it was bad it's always tough it sucks that's a tough thing to deal with couple last questions looking ahead what innovations or shifts in the financial industry are you most excited about and how are you preparing your clients for them um yeah i gotta change my state man um physiology change yeah i just feel so bad about this guy's family dude like uh like i'm i'm a recovering people pleaser so instead of me pleasing everybody and trying to jockey for a position on on how i can help these different people it just it shakes me up a little bit.

39:10What was your question again? What does the future of the financial industry look like to you? I think it has a lot to do with AI. The future of the financial industry has a lot to do with AI. If I'm in an industry that is potentially going to be taken over by AI, I want to research as much as possible about AI. I'm always researching some up and coming things. I'm always researching what could be making more money at that time. I'm always like ear to the ground when it comes to things like this. So I think AI is going to have a big difference in it. But as far as advisory stuff, I don't believe it will take over the insurance industry.

39:58Maybe the investment industry would be affected most. And even then, seniors right now, they're baby boomers so they're not really on the ai stuff but the ex-geners and the millennials you better be ready because they're going to be the ones that come to you and go what's your ai strategy and you better be prepared to answer that instead of well we're a mom and pop shop we're not really concerned about that um i want to get concerned about that because that is the future yeah it's the same thing when loan officers come to me it's like i ask them what's what's your strategy for building your personal brand they're like i don't have a personal brand like done you're gonna be out of business and you got your days are like maybe 500 days left in the business yep you know like you got you got days left yeah what are you gonna do these days you know dude if i was one of your loan officers i would appreciate that question because all you're doing is you're trying to help them out to get better so for me um it throws them off and i'm like guys like you know right now the only place ai can reason is based off the information has online If you don't have a brand online, how is it going to give you any data?

41:05A hundred percent. A hundred percent. But that's the difference between haters and congratulators. I mean, I hate to put it in two different categories like that, but let's say you're an employee, like a loan officer of yours, and you ask that question. A hater goes, I don't need an identity, bro. You feed me leads anyways. That's somebody that's comfortable in the zoo. A congratulator is like, man, I never thought about that. I appreciate that question, dude. what's your opinion? I mean, they're talking to a millionaire that's somebody that's literally sitting there talking to them, trying to make them better.

41:39If they see the alternative, that's just really dumb on their part. And they need to go to book camp, at least when it comes to self-development. So the congratulator normally is more action oriented. But I think that's awesome, dude it's a it's it you know it's the reality you know it's just the world we're in everyone wanted ai everyone wanted things easy sadly ai now requires you to have a brand and if you want ai you got to have a brand what do they say um ubi universal basic income i think that that is a real thing i think that ai is going to put a lot of people out of business a lot of employees are going to be unemployed and i believe that unemployment will skyrocket and at that point the government will have to enforce some type of ubi and just so the listeners understand what ubi is universal basic income is like a child support check it's kind of like um a government check that says hey we know that you can't get a job we feel bad for you so we're going to give you 1200 bucks a month like communism it is it is sounds like our socialism whatever you want to whatever you want to call it but you know how it goes dude whenever whenever government cannot come up with a solution send you a check unfortunately um society says well i need money i i count on you so you need to send me some money socialized health care same thing i mean people believe in socialized health care for me personally i don't want to i don't want to pay for the guy that weighs 350 pounds, eats cheeseburgers every day because he's lazy.

43:19There's always exceptions to the rule, of course. So for socialized healthcare, it's the same thing. It's like, why am I paying$1 ,000 a month for my health insurance when my insurance cost should be $300? Well, it's because we're putting in a pool of other people that need healthcare. Well, I shouldn't be responsible for them. I go to the gym three times a week. I'm in the sauna. I'm not eating horrible food like that. So, you know, my thoughts are a little bit different, but I'm a little controversial though. Pivoting a little, you know, you have four kids and you've been fortunate enough to not grow up in poverty and to grow up in poverty.

43:56Yeah. Now, your kids are adverse to that. What are you doing right now to teach your kids the same level of grit and that winner mindset? Good question. dude um how'd you know i i grew up poor that's you did some research huh every ceo pretty much that's true on that side nobody has come to me and said i grew up rich yeah i mean i grew up a latchkey kid my mom was on food stamps i was a little bit embarrassed when i go to the the market with my mom because back then they didn't have ebt cards it was like a food stamp like you cut it up and I never wanted that for my kids. I never wanted them to be given anything by me.

44:37I have two older boys. They're 28 and 25 and I taught them how to doorknock when they were 13 and 15. So I gave them a script and I said, the script, I'm paraphrasing of course, in an effort for my dad to teach us the value of money, he has asked us to doorknock and wash cars for the neighborhood or do yard work. Which of the two would best interest you? And my kids got badass at communicating and doing alternative choice and then isolating the objection. So my son, Manny, who's 25, he went to the Navy. His CO, for five years he was at the Navy, his CO would call on Manny to go and communicate about multiple things because Manny was great at communication.

45:20My son, Dominic, is a badass. I mean, he communicates with people and he asks why. That's his best question. And he's not afraid to ask why. And this is all because of, as a parent, a single parent, I taught them the value of learning communication and the value of asking questions and not being a little bitch. Those are my two sons. Now, my daughter, who's 16 and a half, she's, like, going through it right now because I'm teaching her how to public speak. So she has 10 vocabulary words that she needs to do, and she needs to create it in a paragraph. She needs to put it in a paragraph, and she needs to publicly speak in front of two people at least.

45:57So she's done five so far. I pay her 50 bucks each time and she wanted to go to summer camp this year. And I said, well, you're a little, you're a little short. Well, dad, mom said that. Well, mom, mom reached out to me and said, you make all this money, but you're not what? And I love her mom. I love my daughter's mom. I think we co-parent terrific, but I have different values than just giving kids stuff. I'm not going to do that. They need to earn it. And I'm a firm believer that if we create great kids, we'll foster independence the right way, and they will ultimately be terrific adults, and we will change society.

46:34But what's unfortunate is that people don't take parenting seriously. They make a kid and plop it out, and then they're on Instagram, and they're like, okay, I'll just Uber Eats You something. No, man, I don't want to be from that factory. I want to create players. I want to create leaders. I want to create badasses. So these are just some basic things that I do to work on their mindset. I like that. I'm going to have to take that script. Done. I'm going to have my kid doing that this summer. I mean, he's 10, but I'm all about breeding them young. My bro. When Manny was 13 and Dominic was 15 at the time, I remember them coming home the first day.

47:11They're sweaty. It was in the summer. And I started a shirt brand for them called The Hills. you know Beverly Hills, Agora Hills all the hills oriented things are upper class right so they went out and they had shirts on said the hills people never quitters never win winners never quit you know the hills right and when they first came back the first day they go dad they walk in they go we're going to be millionaires I go what happened dad like the fifth door we knocked man this lady comes out she says I love your idea there's no kids out there they're doing this I'm prepared to write you a check for$5 ,000 I want a website I want this I want that I go that's what's up me home this let's go and then it goes all right what's next dad I go you better do a business plan bro go to YouTube figure out what a business plan is all about so they literally go to YouTube for everything what YouTube is the second largest search engine in the world behind Google and YouTube isn't even in different countries that's a pretty large you know search engine so So they literally go to YouTube every single time they need to learn something.

48:16I go, YouTube it. When you exhaust all the information, come to me and ask me the question. And they literally did not ask me any questions because they are independent and they answer it on their own. They got the five grand? No, they never got the five grand. So I got to teach them failure too. Yeah. I love that. A couple last questions. For sure. Goals. What's a personal goal you have for yourself, a family goal you have for the family, and a business goal that you have for the financial architects? Yes. Personal goal for myself has always been the same thing. I know this off the tip of my head because I constantly think about this is happiness.

48:49So many people are, my opinion, they're dictated by other people's timelines. So I don't know how old you are, but let's say you're 40 years old and you think everyone else in society says you need to be married. You need to have a white picket fence. You need to live life this way. You need to believe in God and go to church every Sunday. You're living other people's dreams, not your own. And I think that happiness is created by living truly in your own dream, your own steps to freedom. I mean, the journey through life is bliss. It's not the destination in my opinion. So I want to be happy. I live happy every single day.

49:39Here on the podcast, I'm having a great time. I'm going to leave. I'm going to probably go to the beach, chill out, get my little sandals on. That's my personal goal on a daily basis, just to be happy. So whatever comes along that space, terrific. On the family side, I'm real heavy on my kids. Like right now my daughter is 16 and a half and I need to show her the proper example. So I try and spend as much time with her as possible. When I'm around her, I try not to be on my phone even though I'm guilty of being on my phone a lot because of, you know, the business that we run. But my daughter, I want to spend as much time as possible and I want to show her a good example.

50:16She has a great stepdad. Leo is an incredible stepdad. I think that I thank God every day for him. I even text him randomly and go, hey, man, thanks so much for being a great dad to my daughter. And I get goosebumps talking about that because I care about my daughter so much. My two older boys, you know, they're on their own paths right now. I step in with them. But a personal goal of mine with all of them has been every quarter at least to be on a Zoom and talk about their financial goals. Because if you do research, people that are moneyed up live in their 90s. That's wild to me. so when people say money isn't everything last time i checked they live longer than everyone else they have less stress less cortisol than everyone else and they give back to society a lot more than everybody else contrary to what they may believe so my family goal would be that to get my kids closer together to talk about finances matter of fact i'm going to make that action step once a month just because of this conversation i love that and then business goal uh we will have 400 offices within the next five years we've already plugged out a plan for that um i don't even think it's a big plan anymore i said it two years ago and now i'm thinking damn 400 i'm really like low-balling it dude so 400 offices in the next five years should be somewhat simple uh because we have the winning recipe that makes sense and we have the systems in place to make it go so you asked some really good questions bro you did that on your own or your staff does no these are this is i do this this is what i'll do yeah last question go for it when you're in front of the pearly gates what do you think god's gonna tell you in my opinion god's gonna say manny you ran with the big dogs man 90 of your life was on point and you did the right thing all the time there's some deficiencies but i think overall you're a good guy and granted you could have done better but welcome to heaven let's go there you go manny i love it i love i hope that all your goals if people want to find you how do they connect with you so my instagram channel is money business manny that's probably the best handle to take advantage of i have a youtube channel called the financial architects uh we don't have a million followers yet but it's really not for views it's for publication and it's easy to grab a video and send it to a client and that way they get an educational course within that youtube uh so they can find me there on the financial architects on youtube and you can just google manny soto the financial architects and a lot of publication will come up i look forward to our conversation and i look forward to knowing joe at least in the next 50 years let's go manny soto a legend make sure you connect with him manny hope you hit all your goals god bless you god bless your kid god bless your family let's keep winning baby love it thank you so much

53:33Thank you.

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In this episode of Coffeez for Closers, we sit down with Manuel Soto—aka "The Financial Architect"—a powerhouse in the insurance and financial services industry. From top-producing agent to broker-owner of TFA Insurance Advisors, Manny’s journey is all about reinvention, results, and real impact.

We talk about what it really takes to scale in a saturated market, how he’s trained thousands of agents through a needs-based planning approach, and why most people fail at wealth building simply because they never change what they’re doing. His motto? “Change what you’re doing to change what you’re getting.”

Whether you're building your book of business or redefining what success looks like, Manny drops gems that’ll shift how you think about money, legacy, and leadership.

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