How to Achieve Anything You Want in Life with Marie Forleo (Re-release) #628

15:46Marie Forleo:When I first shared this idea on a platform outside of my own, it was with Oprah. And she had a one day event called Super Soul Sessions. And I was one of nine speakers. And so I talked about everything was figureoutable for the first time. And after that talk went out into the interwebs universe, I started getting letters from people who heard the phrase and started using it. And one letter came from a woman named Jen. And Jen said this, Marie, I really loved your Oprah talk. This was an idea that my mom had been trying to teach me. In fact, we loved it so much. We sat down and watched it together.

16:17Marie Forleo:And then suddenly everything changed. My beautiful mom, who's like my best friend, was diagnosed with pancreatic cancer. And suddenly nothing seemed figureoutable. She said, but when I took a step back and looked more deeply, here's what I figured out. I could figure out how to get nursing care for my mom who lived in a rural area. I could figure out how to find foods that she could actually tolerate. And this was the big one for Jen. She said, I could figure out how to get medical equipment so my mom could spend her last days and in fact, her last five weeks on earth exactly where she wanted to be, which was in her own home.

16:54Marie Forleo:So Jen said, you know, I can say without a doubt that everything really is figureoutable. And thank you for sharing this tiny phrase that made such a big difference in these two women's lives. They're from New Zealand. And I share that to say that this phrase is simple, but it can help us in our most challenging days. And then in terms of privilege or advantage, if we want to have that conversation, like I'm very clear as a white woman born in the United States, I've won what Warren Buffett calls the ovarian lottery, meaning by no effort of my own, I was born into a family and into a country that I had a roof over my head.

17:28Marie Forleo:I had food on the table and I had access to education and health care, which are things that millions of people still don't have access to. So in that regard, I understand my place in this world. And here's what else is true. In this book, I tell stories of other humans that are far more compelling and diverse than my own. So for anyone listening, I would just say this to you, that I respect you and I respect and appreciate our differences. and while I don't know the specific details of your history or your hardship, here's what I do know. You as a human being, your power is immense and your potential is limitless and you have what it takes within you right now to transform or transcend any challenge that you face.

18:14Marie Forleo:That's my belief. That's what I'm standing by. That's what we talk about in the book and we have so many examples that embody that truth.

18:21Dr. Rangan Chatterjee:Yeah, it really is inspiring and I would absolutely echo that. there are some really amazing stories in the book about people who are using this philosophy, if you will, to get them through life and make significant change. And, you know, I've been a practicing doctor now for nearly 20 years. And one thing I have seen with people time and time again is when people feel that they've got no agency over what happens to them, they've got no control over their illness or, you know, how things are going to progress in their health, it's very disempowering. It's very demoralizing. And I found that often the best thing I can give people, A, is to listen to them without judgment, but B, is to help them understand what they can control and the things that they can do.

19:07Dr. Rangan Chatterjee:And I see a real similarity in your philosophy because what you're saying, I think, in this book, one of the clear messages is that there is no problem out there that cannot be overcome. And you very openly say at one point, maybe I can't prove this to you with scientific papers, but actually it's so beautifully written. And it's this whole idea that actually, but whether I can prove it to you or not, here are some examples. This is what I truly believe. And if you don't believe me and you don't want to follow this, well, what kind of life do you live without this? Yes.

19:45Marie Forleo:And I will say this. So I love that you brought this up because for anyone who's skeptical or cynical, first of all, I welcome that because we should think critically about whatever we're consuming and whatever idea or philosophy we might want to experiment with. You know, when I was writing the book, I actually went to brunch with a few friends and one of my friends brought her 10-year-old son. And they were asking me, Marie, what are you working on next? What's your next project? And I said, I'm working on a book. What's the title? I said, everything is figureoutable. And the 10-year-old said, no, it's not.

20:11Marie Forleo:Nope. No, it's not. And I said, oh, this is awesome because I will meet more of this when I meet more people out in the world. Tell me more. What's not figureoutable? And he said, well, we human beings can't grow working wings out of our back and fly away. And I said, well, that may be true as of this moment in time. However, you know that we human beings can indeed fly. And he was like, oh, I guess you're right. He's like, well, I can't bring my dog back from the dead. And I said, well, that may be true at this moment. However, scientists are working on cryogenics and there have been people that have been cloning their dogs.

20:47Marie Forleo:And he was like, oh, I guess you're right. So a few more conversations like that inspired me to actually create a little set of rules, a mental container, if you will, which allows us to use this phrase and philosophy for its intended purpose, which is to help us reawaken our own power and strength and agency, and then use that power and strength to change our lives and create meaningful change around us. So here are the three rules of the figureoutable philosophy. Ready?

21:12Dr. Rangan Chatterjee:Yeah.

21:12Marie Forleo:Rule number one, all problems or dreams are figureoutable. Rule number two, if a problem isn't figureoutable, it isn't a problem, it's a fact of life. Death, gravity, certain laws of nature. Rule number three, you may not care enough to solve this particular problem or reach this particular dream, and that's okay. Find something you do care deeply about and go back to rule number one. You know, when I was working on the book, I love including great inspiring quotes. And I found one.

21:47Dr. Rangan Chatterjee:There are a ton of inspiring quotes in this book. There's like 70.

21:51Marie Forleo:I think we counted it up. And we've researched all of them. You know, they are true. They are who said, you know, whoever we said, said them, actually said them. And there's one from a British quantum theorist named David Deutsch. He wrote this phenomenal book called The Beginning of Infinity. It's a mind bender. He has this great quote, which says, everything that is not forbidden by the laws of nature is achievable given the right knowledge. And here's what I would say, because after having conversations about the book, especially from a scientific perspective, I do want to share this. Just because something hasn't been figured out as of now doesn't mean that intrinsically or scientifically it's not figureoutable, just that it hasn't been figured out yet.

22:30Marie Forleo:So for example, 100 years ago, having a human being walk on the moon, right, hadn't been figured out yet. Fast forward to 1969 and we human beings collectively figured that out. I'm sure you have tons of examples from the world of medicine.

22:45Dr. Rangan Chatterjee:Yeah, loads. Endless. But the one that comes to my head is I remember my parents are immigrants from India to the UK. And I remember as a kid, like whenever my parents want to speak to their parents in Calcutta in India, it'd be this big event. Like, you know, in India, they would know what time to be at the phone box. You know, we would know what time we were calling. Everyone would be ready for this big sort of weekly phone call or two weekly phone call. And now anyone's got an iPhone and can go and FaceTime someone. So even in the space of what, 15 years, communication has dramatically changed, right?

23:23Marie Forleo:That's right. So anything that hasn't been figured out yet, and that's why this becomes so fun and exciting. And if we think about it, even in a broader sense, you know, for anyone to say, well, no, not everything is figureoutable. We would never have any advances in science or in medicine or the humanities or arts or sports or anything. So again, coming back to your point, it's like, you don't have to necessarily take my word for it or a quantum theorist word or anyone's word, but I would invite people to try it before you deny it. Try it before you deny it. Just experiment, play and see if this phrase and philosophy doesn't help you become more creative, more action oriented and find solutions to the things that are really troubling you.

24:03Dr. Rangan Chatterjee:Yeah, Marie, I would just say to people listening, whatever you're trying to achieve in your life at the moment, I genuinely think that by adopting the philosophy in your book, you're going to feel more optimistic. You're going to feel that you've got a framework. You're going to feel as though actually you can achieve it. There are steps that you can take to get there.

24:23Marie Forleo:That's right. And it's probably not going to happen overnight. And the other thing I want to share about this idea, this isn't about being a Pollyanna. It's not about sugarcoating reality. And it's certainly not about a quick fix. That is for sure. The more challenging our challenges, the problem is or the dream is, it's going to take time and it's going to take hard work and you might fall on your face and you might scrape your knees. We all do. And that's okay. But ultimately, you are going to find a way to transform or transcend any challenge you face.

24:50Dr. Rangan Chatterjee:For sure. Now, on the subject of these amazing quotes, and I've circled so many of them, the one I thought I'd love to talk about is this whole idea about perfectionism.

25:01Marie Forleo:Yes.

25:01Dr. Rangan Chatterjee:Now, this is something many of us struggle from. I certainly... Hand raised. Yeah, absolutely. And I'd like to say, I'd like to admit that I am a former perfectionist. It's something I've worked really hard on to sort of, you know, just stamp out of me bit by bit. And I feel that even this podcast, I guess, was a lesson in not being a perfectionist. You know, when I started it, I had an idea, I had a concept. I didn't have a logo. I didn't have the proper equipment. I didn't, you know, and it just, I thought, oh, forget it. If I wait for all of those things to happen and have the perfect logo and everything, it's never going to get off the ground.

25:36Dr. Rangan Chatterjee:Let's just start. And it's exploded in popularity without even wasting for perfectionism. So I think it is something that holds a lot of us back, particularly in this era of social media. and we can maybe touch on that and why that might be. But the quotes that I love is, I don't know who said it. I'm sure you may remember off the top of your head, but it's perfectionism is self abuse of the highest order.

25:59Marie Forleo:Yes. I don't know, but we do have it in the book and we can certainly look it up. But isn't that a great quote?

26:03Dr. Rangan Chatterjee:Oh man. You feel it, right? I just sat there thinking about it for a few minutes, really trying to reflect on it. So you do feel it. Why do you think perfectionism is what many of us strive for? And why did you keep that quote in the book?

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28:22Marie Forleo:Well, first of all, I think that many of us have high standards, you know, and we want to get things right. I think sometimes it comes from somewhat of a good place of wanting to do our very best, of wanting to put out an amazing product. But I think where high standards are healthy, where perfectionism is not, I think it bleeds over into a form of self-abuse and the fear that we're not good enough and that we will never be good enough. And that usually is connected to some form of comparison, of comparing ourselves to other people, perhaps to people we admire, to people that we see on social media, to some ideal we also have in our head of who we should be, who we think we should be, the quote unquote perfect version.

29:06Marie Forleo:And that's where it bleeds over into a really self-destructive and painful place. You know, perfectionism can keep us spinning our wheels, but in the extreme versions of it, it's actually tied to some pretty serious mental health issues and eating disorders. There was a study done that we talk about in the book where the folks who, there was a group of folks who had taken their own lives and researchers went and interviewed their family and friends. And over half of those interviews, they described the person who is no longer with us as a perfectionist. And so we know in the extreme, that's where it can go.

29:39Marie Forleo:And I think the fix is one, to understand that you don't have to be that way forever. And two, it's a simple mantra that can make a huge difference. And it goes like this. We strive for progress, not perfection. You know, perfection is a thing that I don't think can ever be achieved. And again, here's what's awesome about what we talk about in the book and what we're suggesting right now. You can still have high standards. You can absolutely go for excellence. But when you focus on progress, not perfection, the quality of your work increases because you're actually producing more. And the metric through which you're measuring yourself is not did I get this perfectly right, is did I put something out there?

30:17Marie Forleo:Did I learn? Did I grow? Am I taking any step forward, even if it's just a little? And here's what's cool. Progress doesn't always look like a straight line going up. Sometimes when you make a flop or you fail or you fall down and scrape your knees, that's also progress because there was some type of growth in there. There was some opportunity to gain experience or to learn what not to do, which also moves you ahead. Yeah.

30:42Dr. Rangan Chatterjee:I mean, it's got so much relevance to whatever people are trying to change. I know people do your, it's B school, isn't it? Yeah.

30:53Marie Forleo:Online business school for modern entrepreneurs who want to make money and make a difference. Yeah.

30:56Dr. Rangan Chatterjee:But the same principles, what excites me is the same principles apply to any change in life, right? They're universal truths.

31:05Marie Forleo:Of course, especially if we think about it in terms of our health. We don't necessarily have to eat perfectly every single day, most humans can't. You don't have to necessarily, you know, I'm a big proponent of meditation. It has radically changed my life. I don't meditate every single day. I'm not perfect at that, but I still get the benefits from it because I'm consistent enough to see it. And I'm always striving for a little bit more growth. And so I can be kind to myself in that respect. And anything that I am looking to expand in terms of my skillset, my ability to be accomplished in a certain area, I'm always just looking for progress, not perfection, even as it relates to this book.

31:42Marie Forleo:I could hear the voice in my mind when I was first starting to craft the book and write it. I was like, oh, this is crap. No one's going to want to read this. I could hear that perfectionist's voice. Why isn't it just pouring out of me? And I had to keep coming back to the same mantra. I use all of these tips every single day of going, no, Marie, just write this paragraph today. And this is the first, forgive my French, but shitty first draft. And it'll get better as you refine it and as you edit it. And that is the truth. So I think just progress, not perfection. If you repeat that to yourself often, you will find the perfectionism melting away and find your place in a really exciting state of continual growth and expansion.

32:18Dr. Rangan Chatterjee:Yeah, for sure. When on the subjects of growth, you talk about fixed mindset versus a growth mindset.

32:25Marie Forleo:Yes, Carol Dweck's work. Love it.

32:27Dr. Rangan Chatterjee:So I think mindset, when people are trying to make change, mindset is clearly very important. and I just wonder if you could expand a little bit on why you think it's so important to have the right mindset and if people don't have the right mindsets, can they change it?

32:43Marie Forleo:Yeah, well, first of all, let's just give a huge shout out to the book Mindset and Carol Dweck's work and if you haven't read that, I really recommend it for everyone. I think it's just such a transformative concept. We mentioned that in the Progress Not Perfection chapter because it is so good. So, you know, a fixed mindset, just for folks that aren't familiar, is when you believe that whatever talents, abilities, strengths, or skills that you were born with, that's it. Like you've either got it or you don't. And no amount of hard work, no amount of effort, no amount of training is gonna make you better.

33:16Marie Forleo:It's just, again, you've either got it or you don't. And it's a very toxic mindset. It's a very limiting mindset. You kind of operate from this place of scarcity, from competition. It's just a lot of toxic behavior, thinking, and outcomes. A growth mindset, on the other hand, is when you understand that whatever you were born with in terms of talents, gifts, abilities, or skills, that's just a starting block. And you can absolutely grow and improve and become better over time through effort and through dedication and through failure. So you actually embrace challenges. You don't shy away from them.

33:52Marie Forleo:You look for opportunities to kind of test your skills and maybe even scrape your knees because you know, I'm going to learn something and that's how I'm going to grow. So that's really kind of the core difference between a fixed mindset and a growth mindset. And so I think when it comes to learning anything new or changing our lives, 80 to 90 percent of the game is mindset. Because if you don't believe that it's possible to change, you won't. If you do believe that it's possible to change, that's again, 80 to 90 percent of it. the mechanics of any change, of regaining your health, of starting a business, of getting a relationship back on track, of feeling better in your day-to-day life, I don't think the how-tos, quite honestly, are that complicated.

34:34Marie Forleo:They're usually not. In some rare instances, absolutely, yes, there are some things that, again, as a society and collectively, we still have a lot to figure out. But making some profound changes in your personal life on a day-to-day basis, we know what to do. You just have to believe that it's possible and then have the follow-up and the follow-through to see it happen.

34:53Dr. Rangan Chatterjee:Yeah, for sure. Has the internet and this social media world in which we live in, I wonder how much, in many ways, it's been empowering to see what is possible. Sure. But I think on the flip side, it's probably made things like perfectionism and the toxicity of comparison. And you talk about this fixed mindset where you operate from a place of jealousy and competition. In some ways, it's made it worse, I think. And do you think that this, let's say you'd release this book 30 years ago, pre-internet, of course, the tips and tools would have been just as valid, I'm sure. But do you think there's something incredibly powerful about it today in the 21st century, in the era of technology, when every day we can see what our friends and what people around us are achieving amazing things our daily life can never ever live up to the highlights of someone else's Instagram reel.

35:51Marie Forleo:Yeah. Well, so let's talk about comparison for a moment because I think comparison is creative kryptonite. You are never going to come out feeling good when you compare yourself to others. It's always a losing proposition. So that's one thing to recognize. You know, when I was in college, I was a party girl and I liked to party a lot and I used to Go to the bar and drink this awful liqueur. It was called goldschlager. It was Flavored like cinnamon and it had these gold flakes inside terrible stuff And I remember just drinking way too much of it one night and just completely thrown up in the bush And the reason I say that is because you know having a goldschlager hangover was horrible You just felt so sick for days These days people do shots of compare schlager online on their Instagram feed or floating around the internet or wherever it is that they kind of consume all of that comparison and doing shots of comparison.

36:43Marie Forleo:And then for days, if not weeks, they're off their game. They're not really creating. They're not rooted in their own gifts and talents and the difference that they want to make. They're like trying to bounce off what someone else does and thinking through their own life in terms of how they're measuring up or not with people around them, which again, completely takes you off track. So I think that it's important to recognize how you feel after you engage with your phone, whether you do it through blogs, social media, whatever your kind of poison is that you like to go to. And then I would invite people to just stop.

37:16Marie Forleo:You don't have to pick up your phone. You don't have to scroll through the social feeds. And if you find yourself being lost in a compare schlager hangover, you have the ability to end it. You really, really do. I would say that choose some people that really help you to feel inspired and then most importantly, spend the vast majority of time creating, not consuming. It's actually one of the things we talk about in the book and I've shared this with people. One of the best habits you can build is to create before you consume. So rather than wake up in the morning and scroll your feeds or take in your email or look at the news, create a stronger mind through meditation or start writing the next chapter of your book or get a workout in, like create a stronger body rather than just consuming passively the work of others.

38:02Marie Forleo:And if you just build that habit in, anytime you're going to go to consume something, is there anything you'd like to create first? And if the answer is yes, do that. And you'll see before you know it, the ratio will shift where you're creating a lot more than you're consuming. And then comparison becomes a thing of the past. Like I'm too busy right now to be really honest with you. This is something I've seen from this whole book process. The periods in my career where I have either felt like crap or I've gotten a little bit off track is probably because I wasn't busy enough. and I'm spending a little bit too much time looking at what other people are doing.

38:34Marie Forleo:The past, I would say, my goodness, 18 months or so has been all, so all-consuming when it comes to this book and the promotion and the Beyonce TED Talk block party thing and now the tour. I have no time to compare myself to others. And guess what? I don't, I, there's more than enough to go around. So I bless everybody and their success, but I am so fulfilled and happy because I'm doing what I'm meant to be doing and I'm not consuming the work of others.

39:00Dr. Rangan Chatterjee:Yeah, I guess the flip side is a budding author may look at you and go, wow, she's written an incredible book. She's hit number one on the New York Times bestseller list. She's on this global tour. What is the point of me trying to write a book when actually Marie's done it all? She's said everything that I would have said.

39:16Marie Forleo:Let's talk about that. Yes.

39:17Dr. Rangan Chatterjee:I think that's because I really appreciate you sharing your story. I think that's amazing. You are busy. You're living your dream. You're living your purpose, right? But what about the person who's watching you who isn't and they're getting fatigued by and it's actually putting them off?

39:32Marie Forleo:Yeah, absolutely. So two things there. One, the only way that I got here was because I've worked my butt off on creating for the last two decades. So I absolutely, first of all, I'm a lifelong learner. So I'm always reading books and I am consuming things, but I've more recently gotten the ratio right. Does that make sense? So there's a lot more creation than there is consumption. And then you don't feel that comparison nearly as much. You just get inspired by people, which further fuels your work. So it's a healthy cycle. So that's number one. Number two, whenever anyone says like, what do I have to offer?

40:05Marie Forleo:Everything's been said before. Everything's been done before. All of these other people who are so much more experienced or accomplished, they've already got it in the back. There's no room for me. Here's what I would say to you. Think back to Oprah in her early days. What if she said to herself, you know, this Phil Donahue guy who's got all the these talk shows. He's really got it covered. There's really no room for me. There's no, why should I do this? He's already done it all. Or think about, let's say, Beyonce, right? Can you imagine her just going and looking out in the music landscape and going, you know what?

40:33Marie Forleo:There's already enough pop stars. There's just all the world ever needs. Why am I going to sing my songs and dance my dances and add my voice to it? It's all been done before. Or I think about this in a really small and acute way. So I love eggplant Parmesan and I have a particular restaurant in New York City. It's a tiny mom and pop kind of shop. It's called Peperosso. And I often think about like, can you imagine when whoever started Peperosso, they started it and they were kind of unsure. They said, you know, it's New York City. There's enough Italian restaurants. There's more than enough eggplant parm.

41:05Marie Forleo:We don't need to add our eggplant parm to the mix. I would have missed out on so much eggplant parm goodness if they didn't add their voice and their creation to it. And what people don't realize is that when you have a dream or a gift, a product, a service, a message that you want to create and share with others, if you don't actually bring that thing to life and do everything in your power to share it, you are stealing from those who need you most. Why? Because there never has been and there never will be another you. Your genius is unique and your DNA is unrepeatable. And if you don't do everything you can to follow those dreams and to share your gifts with others, the world will have lost something truly irreplaceable, which is you.

41:46Dr. Rangan Chatterjee:Yeah. I mean, it's such a powerful message, Marie. And I really hope people are listening to that. And because I do know a lot of people feel that way. I've probably felt that way at various times in my life. Absolutely.

41:57Marie Forleo:Can I share one more thing about this? And it's a quick story. So on this lines of it's all been said or done before. I remember when Josh and I first got together. First of all, I used to eat like crap. You know, I was just, I was working all of these part-time jobs as bartending, waiting tables, teaching, trying to get my coaching practice off the ground. And Josh would go away to work on a television or film and he would come back to our apartment and my trash can would be filled with like empty cans of, you know, macaroni and cheese and Chef Boyardee and, you know, potato bag chips and, you know, all this kind of crap.

42:29Marie Forleo:And he's like, Marie, you know, we should start juicing. And he'd try and turn me on to all these supplements. And how about more vegetables? And I was like, whatever, man, you know, I don't have time for that. It's too expensive. It's too gross. Like I was just making all the excuses. is. So cut to a few years later, I met who is now my best friend in the whole world, a woman named Chris Carr. She's an amazing wellness icon. She's a cancer thriver. She has all these New York Times bestselling books. And anyway, when Chris and I became friends, she started introducing me to grain juice and to all of these supplements.

43:00Marie Forleo:And she gave me all these recipes for smoothies, yada, yada, yada. So one day I come home and I tell Josh, I'm like, hey, Josh, I'm like, you should see all these supplements that my new friend just recommended. She wrote all these New York Times bestsellers, and here's the juicer we should get, and here's the salads we should start making. Like, we should have done this years ago. Understandably, Josh had a facepalm moment. He's like, what are you talking about? I've been trying to tell you the same exact thing for years. But here's the point. No matter how many times something has been said or done before, sometimes it takes that one person in their voice at the right time for it to actually make a difference.

43:37Marie Forleo:and you who's listening right now, you are that someone for someone out there. So it doesn't matter how many times things have been said before. The world needs your voice.

43:50Dr. Rangan Chatterjee:Yeah, I love that. And there's 7 billion people at least in the world.

43:54Marie Forleo:And growing every day.

43:55Dr. Rangan Chatterjee:And growing. And clearly many of us are in need of help in a whole variety of different ways, whether it's work, whether it's health. So our voice is important to someone. That's right. And unless you put it out there, you're never going to find out who needs to hear that message. So in many ways, you're almost saying, I don't want to put words in your mouth, but I guess in many ways, it's an obligation on us in some ways.

44:17Marie Forleo:A fun obligation. A fun obligation, exactly. An opportunity to make a difference.

44:21Dr. Rangan Chatterjee:Yeah, for sure. And who doesn't want that, right?

44:23Marie Forleo:100%.

44:24Dr. Rangan Chatterjee:You just said in that story that you were talking about, you and Josh, in the early days, you said you were making excuses.

44:30Marie Forleo:Yes.

44:31Dr. Rangan Chatterjee:And you have dedicated a whole chapter to excuses. And I really like it. And what I think that does, but frankly, what I think the whole book does is it helps us all reframe the stories we tell ourselves. And I'm not saying this with any judgment. I also tell myself a lot of stories.

44:50Marie Forleo:Yes, I do too.

44:52Dr. Rangan Chatterjee:And if as humans, we have to, I guess the question is, what story do you want to tell yourself? Is the story you're telling yourself going to get you to where you want to get to. And so I wonder if we could dive into that excuses chapter and talk about stories and talk about excuses and how we can reframe them.

45:10Marie Forleo:Yeah, 100%. So from the onset, I think the eliminate excuses chapter is one of my favorites. It's one of the most powerful because there's so much freedom that is in that chapter. So all of us make excuses. I make excuses. You make excuses. Everyone listening makes excuses from time to time. So this is nothing to feel bad about. This is not about berating ourselves. There's no need to feel shame. It's just how it is. Now, the way to break free from excuses and the best way that I've found is to get really clear on two little words that can make a profound difference. It's understanding the distinction between can't and won't.

45:45Marie Forleo:Can't and won't. So, so many of us, again, I will raise my hand to this, have said something like this throughout the course of our lives. You know, I would really love to get stronger again and really get back to the gym and really use my body, but I can't because I'm too busy with working the kids. Or I would really love to take that design class. I think it could open up a whole new career, but I can't take it. It's too expensive. Can't afford it. Or, you know, I would really love to start that new nonprofit project. I have all of these ideas for how to make a difference, but I can't get started because I don't know how.

46:17Marie Forleo:Have you ever said anything like that to yourself before? A version of that. I certainly have. But here's what's true. 99 % of the time, not 100, but 99 % of the time, when we human beings say that we can't do something, can't is a euphemism for won't. And what does won't mean? Won't means that we don't really want to, that we don't wanna work that hard, we don't wanna make the sacrifice, we don't wanna be inconvenienced, we don't wanna take the risk, or we don't wanna move around our other priorities in order to slot this thing in. And for anyone who might be resistant and saying, wait, you don't know me, you don't know my life, I'd say just hang on for a second.

46:54Marie Forleo:If you consider how this idea might be true, even just a portion of the time, I promise you will break free from so much of the self-deceptive crap that can hold all of us back. And I would invite people to ask yourself, has there ever been a time in your life when initially you said, oh, I can't because I don't have the money or I can't because I don't have the time or I don't have the resources to do something. Then you came across an opportunity or a situation that was so important to you that you busted right through your excuses and you found that money or you found that time or you moved heaven and earth and you made something happen that initially seems so far beyond your capabilities.

47:32Marie Forleo:Have you ever done that?

47:33Dr. Rangan Chatterjee:A hundred percent.

47:34Marie Forleo:Me too. So many times. So that is proof positive for ourselves that it really, most of the time, isn't can't, it's won't. And here's why the distinction and the use of language is so important. Because when we humans use the word can't, we start to feel powerless and helpless as though our life is not our choice, how we're spending our time, how we're spending our energy. It's as though we're victims. and that is not a beautiful or powerful place to create change from. It's almost impossible. Learned helplessness, right? We know this from psychology. On the other side, when we use the word won't or we just say, you know what?

48:13Marie Forleo:I don't want that right now. That's not my priority. I'm not willing to work that hard for this. I don't want this bad enough. When we just say that truth, even to ourselves, we feel empowered. We feel at choice. We feel like we have agency, that we're in charge of how we're spending our time, our energy, and our money. And from that place, all miracles are possible. So I would invite anyone listening, if you wanna play with this idea for yourself, the next time you catch yourself saying or thinking, I can't because I don't have the time or the money or the whatever, try replacing it with won't or I don't want to and see if that feels more true.

48:52Marie Forleo:And in that space, there's a lot of miracles that can happen.

48:57Dr. Rangan Chatterjee:Yeah, for sure. And I really want to echo that the language we use to describe our life, to describe various situations is so, so important. You know, a very subtle shift, like you just mentioned, can bring a completely different meaning. And actually the language we use day in, day out, that sort of permeates into our brain and our being and how we define ourself comes from that language.

49:19Marie Forleo:That's right. And I just want to give people an example again, because if anyone is skeptical, they're like, what are you talking about? Let me tell you guys this. So I know in my lifetime, if God willing, I'm on the planet long enough, I have a goal of speaking fluent Italian. I think the language is beautiful. I visit the country often, but I don't speak it. And I know that at this stage and season of my life, it's not that important to me. So it's not that I can't learn Italian because I'm so busy on book tour or I'm so busy with my business. That's not the truth. The truth is I don't want it bad enough.

49:49Marie Forleo:You know how I know that? Because after I get done doing my work for the day, even if I've had a 10 or 12 hour day and I have, let's say, a half hour left. Sometimes, you know what I do with that half hour? I sit with Josh and I watch a fun show on Netflix or I read a book or I play with my dog. I'm not actually picking up my phone and learning new phrases in Italian because it's not that important to me right now. And I'm not beating myself up about that, but it gives me massive freedom. So I don't have a conversation in my own mind going, oh, you really could be learning Italian, but you can't because you don't have the time.

50:21Marie Forleo:That's bullshit. I don't want it bad enough. Everything I do want bad enough, I'm actively working on. Yeah.

50:26Dr. Rangan Chatterjee:And I think that's a great message, isn't it? For people. It's like, what have you said in your own life that you want to change? Do you really want to change that? Is it really a priority for you at this moment in time? Maybe it is, maybe it isn't. Maybe if you can use some of these tips to make you feel maybe differently, but maybe actually, you know what? You're a busy mom at the moment and you've got two kids to bring up.

50:48Marie Forleo:And that's your priority. and it should be. And then you can release the guilt, not to cut you off, but you can release that feeling that you're not winning at life because guess what? You are winning at life and you're being the best mom possible. And if you can find that self-compassion for yourself, ironically, more energy and time and freedom opens up and who knows what's possible from there.

51:07Dr. Rangan Chatterjee:Yeah. And just to echo your previous point, when you're feeling like that and you are busy and you're doing an amazing job bringing up your children, sometimes actually the whole social media comparison trap can be even more problematic then because you're comparing, you know, what do they say? You're comparing your sort of page one to someone else's final chapter. You know, you're at a different point in your life and it's not fair on yourself to compare yourself with other people who are on a different journey. Everyone's on a different journey.

51:35Marie Forleo:Every single person, every single person on this earth is on their own unique adventure. And again, catch it. The moment you compare, you lose. The moment you compare, you lose. So as much as possible, enjoy your own life and bless other people wherever they're at. Honor their success, their challenges. Be there, be there with compassion. But most importantly, stay rooted in your own path.

51:59Dr. Rangan Chatterjee:Yeah. And Marie, you mentioned there are 70 brilliant quotes in your book. I've got to say, your quote that I'm going to be posting and attributing to you is, comparison is creative kryptonite. I love it. It just speaks to me on so many levels that you probably won't even realize because it has been, you know, there are just so many things I can relate that to at various points in my life. So thank you for that. I think it's an amazing phrase. Marie, they often say that authors write the books that they need to write for themselves.

52:29Marie Forleo:Oh, yeah.

52:29Dr. Rangan Chatterjee:And I want to sort of, I want to just push a little bit on this and see, you've obviously had a lot of experiences in your life. You've applied these principles that you're now teaching the rest of the world through the book on yourself, which is, you know, you've shared ups and downs in your life, which I think is great because it's, it sort of takes away that feeling where people think, oh, Marie's got it all figured out. Not at all. As you were writing it with all your knowledge, and I appreciate you've interviewed some of the most successful and influential people on the planet on MarieTV.

53:02Dr. Rangan Chatterjee:As you were writing it, I don't know, have you started to apply any of the tools? You know, have you started to look at any of the tools in a fresh way and start to apply them in your own life in a way that you possibly weren't doing before you sat down to write the book?

53:17Marie Forleo:Well, here's what's awesome about this book is that I feel like any big project is there to teach you a lesson. So I kind of had this intuitive sense. I was like, oh, I know this is going to be a tough one. You know, I've been teaching about business for 10 years. I started off teaching only about personal development. And when you write a book about a big idea, especially a big, simple idea, we talked about that. The phrase is very simple, right? But simple doesn't necessarily mean easy. And so for me, part of the challenge was actually figuring out what to put in, what not to put in, and how to communicate what is not a linear journey in a way that it was comprehensible and that made sense, especially to people who have never been familiar with my work.

53:59Marie Forleo:So I struggled a lot. There was so much fear and self-doubt and crying in the corner. And I thought, isn't this awesome? I 100 % believe that everything is figureoutable. I know that in my bones to be true. Yet, I am having trouble figuring out how to write the book. Everything is figureoutable. So there were all of these meta lessons. Am I good enough to write this? Do I even know what I'm doing? Is anyone going to even want to hear this? Haven't they all heard this before? So every single thing that I write about, I was also having that experience simultaneously. Does that make sense?

54:33Dr. Rangan Chatterjee:A hundred percent.

54:34Marie Forleo:So the book was like kicking my butt, which was, it made me laugh and cry at the same time. Cause I'm like, this is actually quite perfect. And I -

54:42Dr. Rangan Chatterjee:It's almost like a magnifying glass. That's right. Anything you think you've figured out, it's like, hold on, we're going to ramp this up now. That's right. Have you really figured it out? Yes.

54:48Marie Forleo:But, but here's what I love about this. This is an ongoing practice. So my position, you know, I am no sage from the stage. I'm a guide on the side. Everything that we talk about in the book I use every single day. So I still practice progress, not perfection. I'm still starting before I'm ready. I am still figuring things out day in and day out. So for me, this is a very active living practice that I will tell you, I'll be doing all of this stuff until my last day on earth.

55:15Dr. Rangan Chatterjee:For sure. And when you decide actually that it is the time in your life to learn Italian, as at some point, no doubt you will, you're going to have to use these principles. That's right.

55:23Marie Forleo:That's right. They always, it's like a circular, beautiful process that keeps coming up anytime you grow and embrace a new adventure?

55:32Dr. Rangan Chatterjee:Two big themes in your book for me, or these sort of, I don't know if you'd call them rules or not, but these two sort of things you keep talking about are one, you are not a failure and two, you are not broken.

55:45Marie Forleo:Yes.

55:46Dr. Rangan Chatterjee:And I think it's such powerful messaging for people. I see this in my clinic as a doctor all the time, you know, People may often not say that, but they often feel like that. And it often keeps them locked in a cycle where they can't change because they don't believe actually that they deserve change or that actually change is available to them. So why is it you're so passionate about these two ideas?

56:13Marie Forleo:Because I think they're incredibly transformative on a really fundamental level.

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58:26Marie Forleo:so if you're working from the perspective that you are broken and that something is wrong with you and it will always be wrong for you it's a little bit like falling into that fixed mindset as though whatever you were born with or whatever's happening right now is static unchangeable there's no possibility then we start to slip into helplessness and hopelessness then that becomes a cycle of feeling really sad, possibly depressed, and there's all kinds of outcomes, negative outcomes that we don't want to see happening from that whole strain of emotional being and thinking and believing. On the flip side, if you start to experiment with the idea that perhaps there's nothing broken with you, maybe there's just some ideas or habits that you have that are simply unhelpful and that no one has ever shown you another possibility, all of a sudden things brighten up.

59:14Marie Forleo:And you're like, oh, could that be true? Your mind starts to open up to new possibilities, to think in new ways. You get curious. You may want to learn. You may want to start experimenting. That starts to feel hopeful and creative and exciting. And again, from that state, I think everything can change. I remember someone who works on my team, a woman named Chelsea, and she's just miraculous. I had talked about this idea that you are not broken in an earlier program that I did. And she listened to the audio and she said, Marie, I had to tell you, I listened to that in the car and I had to pull over.

59:47Marie Forleo:It was so moving. It changed everything for me. And I don't know if it wasn't for Chelsea really highlighting that in a piece of my earlier work that it would have made it in this book. And I'm really happy that it did because it's been something a number of people have commented on. And I think it's true. It's like, look, our educational system doesn't teach us currently how to harness the power of our thoughts and our beliefs and the wisdom in our bodies in order to live lives that are filled with joy and fulfillment and meaning, right? I didn't learn that in grammar school. I didn't learn that in high school.

1:00:18Marie Forleo:I didn't learn it in college. That's the whole reason that I do what I do. Because when I started understanding all of these tools and principles, I was like, whoa, why are we not teaching this? Why did it take me until my 20s to start even exploring these things? So I don't think any of us are broken. I just think some of us haven't been exposed to, ideas and tools and concepts that can help us live the lives that we want to lead.

1:00:41Dr. Rangan Chatterjee:Yeah, for sure. And you tell that story and I'm immediately thinking about my own children because I think the thing that worries me about schooling and the education system these days still is I don't think schools are teaching kids these kind of tools. And I think they're the most important tools, arguably, to lead that sort of happy, productive, fulfilled life that ultimately is what I think we're all after.

1:01:05Marie Forleo:Yeah. And I think also to empower ourselves and our kids with the tools to deal with challenge and adversity, to help them because they're going to run into walls. They're going to run into difficult people. They're going to fail. They're going to fall on their faces. So that is a guarantee for all of us humans. So let's empower them with the tools and the mindsets and the healthy perspectives to grow from those experiences rather than shrink from them.

1:01:29Dr. Rangan Chatterjee:Yeah, 100%. I think on that note, I think your philosophy has merit not just for adults trying to make changes, but also for children. And these are a lot of the themes in there are the themes that I'm actively trying to teach my kids all the time. Good for you. You know, my daughter seems to have this real knack. Well, I guess I've ingrained it in her. Take some credit, Papa. Take some credit. It's no surprise when she pulls it back onto me. That's right. And like, I think a couple of weeks ago, I don't know what it was, but I said, oh, darling, I can't do that now. I need to go and do this. And she said, Daddy, you don't need to do that, do you?

1:02:01Dr. Rangan Chatterjee:You're choosing to do it.

1:02:02Marie Forleo:Ooh, pulling out that wisdom. Yeah. I love it. No, but I thought initially I was like, yeah, you're right, actually.

1:02:10Dr. Rangan Chatterjee:And I was super chuffed. I was really pleased because I thought, okay, cool. She's only six.

1:02:14Marie Forleo:Yes.

1:02:15Dr. Rangan Chatterjee:I hope that she can maintain that. Yes. And I think a lot about language, as we've already touched on it. And that's so powerful, the way we describe things. and I don't really think until the last few years I really had any idea just how powerful it is. Yeah. You mentioned the only given is that we're all going to have adversity. Yes. Okay. And in many ways that is how many, many of us talk about adversity in the term, many of us talk about adversity and call these adverse events mistakes, right? We say, oh, I made a mistake. You have a very, very interesting perspective on mistakes in the book.

1:02:55Dr. Rangan Chatterjee:And I wonder if you could share your thoughts on mistakes.

1:02:57Marie Forleo:Oh, you're talking about the story when I was interviewed and asked, you know, about my mistakes and my failures and how I froze like a deer in headlights. Is that the one?

1:03:04Dr. Rangan Chatterjee:I don't recall that one, but just generally how you reframe mistakes. You know, mistakes aren't things that we've got wrong necessarily. They're a tool for learning, right?

1:03:12Marie Forleo:Oh, for sure. So there's two things I'll say on that quickly. I remember I was being interviewed and the interviewer asked me, okay, so Marie, tell me about your biggest failures. I want to hear about your biggest flops and your biggest mistakes. And I literally sat there like a deer in headlights, like, uh, and I'm rarely at a loss for words, right? And I remember leaving that interview feeling like such crap. I'm like, oh my God, I must sound like the biggest idiot because I make flops and failures and mistakes all the time. Why couldn't I pull up an example? And this is what I realized. In my early twenties, I had learned this phrase, I win or I learn, but I never lose.

1:03:46Marie Forleo:And I loved it. I latched onto it. I adopted it. I made it my own. And for me, there are no such thing as mistakes because I win or I learn. I don't lose. So any place where it's like, okay, you know, I probably did maybe waste a little money or some time, or I had a shitty judgment call. Ultimately, if I extract some type of growth for that, it was a learning opportunity. And I know that may sound like, so Pollyanna, it's actually the truth. every single time in the business when something goes wrong we do a post-mortem and we're like okay what can we learn from this how can we use this to help us not make that quote-unquote mistake again and i think in terms of progress not perfection going back to that theme mistakes are kind of a part of the journey we have this idea that progress is like almost like a straight line like okay we start at the bottom and then we inch up we inch up we inch up we inch up we inch up and we eventually reach our goal.

1:04:40Marie Forleo:That's not how it works. You start at the bottom, then maybe you take a step back and then you swirl around and go in a circle for a minute. And then maybe you inch up and then you inch down. And then it's just this squiggly line and quote unquote mistakes are a natural part of that. It's just a part of the learning journey.

1:04:56Dr. Rangan Chatterjee:Yeah, for sure. Super, super powerful for people, I think. Because I think mistakes often put us off. They make us feel like, you know, we're not good enough and we can't make progress. And Marie, I wonder, you share so many stories in your book about people who are not like you, who have overcome obstacles and used your philosophy that everything is figureoutable. They've used that to get through their life and actually break through barriers. Are there any particular ones that you'd like to share with my audience that come to mind to sort of, you know, display and kind of bring to life some of the concepts that we've been talking about?

1:05:34Marie Forleo:Yeah. So there are stories from actually two different camps of people. There are readers of mine who have actually used the phrase, everything is figureoutable to create massive change in their life. And then I tell stories of other humans who simply embody that belief. Like they have not read the book. I've never met them. Some of them are, you know, famous and known and some of them are not, but they should be. I think one of my other favorite quotes that is stories actually from readers is a woman from Europe, actually, she's here and she's from the Netherlands. And she wrote to me and told the story of just being in a really tough place in her life where she had lost her father as well.

1:06:10Marie Forleo:She had lost her job and she found herself in this space where she felt like she had nothing. She was in piles and piles of debt. She didn't have work and she actually started drinking and abusing drugs and just finding herself day in and day out, just watching television and drinking more wine and just in a horrible cycle like so many of us can find ourselves in. Then she stumbled upon MarieTV. She that everything is figureoutable. And she started saying it to herself and started saying it to herself. And it didn't happen overnight, but she started to not drink the wine. And then she started to put on her running shoes.

1:06:46Marie Forleo:And then she started to take runs around the block. And then she started to eat more healthy. And within the span of about a year and a half, she completely moved through her addiction. Her health completely transformed. She got a new job. She's actually doing the thing that she most wants to do in the world. And that one really inspires me because she was in a really dark place, which again, so many of us will find ourselves in at various points in our life. And the fact that a simple little phrase could help her reconnect to her strength and reconnect to her own ability to turn this around, including grief, including addiction, including all the things that can be so difficult to make it through.

1:07:26Marie Forleo:She really inspires me. yeah and I just give her so much credit and I thank her for sharing that story yeah absolutely

1:07:31Dr. Rangan Chatterjee:and thank you for sharing that that that is super inspiring to hear it um you know the things you're talking about at the moment make me think about a book that I've been spending a lot of time with over the last few months Ryan Holiday's book um The Obstacle is the Way yes which I love and that's I also that phrase the obstacle is the way I use a lot in my own life when something seems like a struggle or something you know it feels as though you can't surmount something it's like oh this is teaching you something. And as you say early on in your book and earlier on in this interview, you know, what can I learn from this?

1:08:03Dr. Rangan Chatterjee:It's such a, it's a subtle reframe, but it's so powerful. Whenever we look at all these obstacles in our life and think, well, what can I learn from this? As you say, in your business, if something happens that you guys don't want to happen, you know, you do a post, what you figure out what is the learning from it. And it's, it's really in keeping with the theme in your book, right? These are, these are, as I say, universal themes that can help all of us, no matter what we want to do in our life. Marie, you've shared lots of brilliant tips in this book. There are so many more in the book. One thing I just want to cover before we wrap up is if people feel inspired listening to you and they think, yeah, okay, right, that's it.

1:08:41Dr. Rangan Chatterjee:I've got it. Everything is figureoutable. I'm going to start making those small changes. I'm not going to compare, right? I'm going to throw throw perfectionism out the bedroom window and want to get on with progress and focus every day on progress. What if the people around them, their partners, their family, their parents, their friends don't believe in them? What if actually they now feel inspired to make this change, but they don't have a supportive community around them? Have you got any tips you can share for them if they find themselves in that situation?

1:09:15Marie Forleo:Yeah. So you've got to build what I call your figureoutable force field, which is a little bit of a community around you. And all it takes is just one person to start. So it's not like you have to go like, oh my goodness, I need to gather 15 people in order to have a figureoutable force field. No, just one is enough. And one of the best ways to start to build your figureoutable force field is to actually share this philosophy and these ideas with someone that you care about, someone that you think could be a good running buddy, if we call it that way. And by the way, you don't ask them for support on your dreams, you support them on theirs.

1:09:47Marie Forleo:And who knows, the first person that you might choose to be kind of like your figureoutable friend may not be the right fit. So don't give up. You know, you just try someone else, try someone else until you find at least one person that also is open to this idea and you can support each other. You know, in my life right now, honestly, my team, everyone that I work with, they live and breathe this philosophy. Josh, my dear friends, anytime one of us finds ourselves a little bit in the corner and going like, okay, I know this is figureoutable, but I'm not quite sure what to do next. We support each other, you know, say, okay, great, let's brainstorm this or just have a listen.

1:10:21Marie Forleo:You know, sometimes when you listen to a friend and just give them the space to say their piece, lots of solutions come. So I would say, do anything you can to find that one person. And sometimes you can find a friend online. I've met some of my dearest friends in the world through online connections and DMs and emails and, you know, With people that we don't even live in the same geographical location, but you find a kindred spirit and that's all you need. And then once you have one, maybe you can build two and build three and build four. Because I think while everything a book is absolutely applicable to you as an individual, it becomes exponentially more powerful when you apply it collectively, when you have people around you.

1:11:01Marie Forleo:And so that in and of itself is figureoutable. So if you're like, I don't have anyone near me, that's okay. You just don't have anyone that you can play with yet. yet, Y-E-T, such a powerful word. It's not permanent just yet. And so make that your first challenge to figure out.

1:11:16Dr. Rangan Chatterjee:Yeah, incredible. And one of the reasons I set up recently a Facebook community, actually, is because a lot of people are saying to me, look, I love the podcast, Ron, and I love your books, but I don't have, you know, people around me aren't into the same kind of stuff. And I'm not saying it's perfect, but at least, you know, online can be very powerful, right? It's not about just criticizing online and saying it's causing all these problems. We can meet people and connect with people and find other kindred spirits online in a way that, frankly, we could never have done in the era when your mom was actually using her radio, right?

1:11:49Dr. Rangan Chatterjee:She could never have done that. That's right. Yeah. So that's super empowering. Marie, to sort of finally close this interview off, one question that is a burning question inside me is through MarieTV, you have interviewed and had conversations with some of the most incredible people on the planet. That must feel slightly bizarre on one level, I guess. You must pinch yourself sometimes.

1:12:14Marie Forleo:It's super fun. I love talking to smart, amazing, creative people.

1:12:16Dr. Rangan Chatterjee:Yeah, exactly. And I'm only a year and a half into my podcast. But one of the great things about it is you get to talk to and get to know really amazing people from all around the world. But I'm interested in all those interviews that you have done. are there common themes that come up from a whole variety of different people in different industry doing different things are there some common themes that you have learned that all of these different influential people are doing or sort of principles that they are applying in their own

1:12:48Marie Forleo:lives i think one is that they believe that they can make a difference meaning that their contribution, their voice, their ideas, their product, their service, whatever it is that they're up to, they actually believe in it. Like they believe it has merit and value and that it could actually make a difference. And I've seen that to be true across the board. So again, it could be an author, it could be a scientist, it could be someone who started some kind of business or a creative in any sense. There's something in them that believes that they have value and that that value is worthy of sharing.

1:13:24Dr. Rangan Chatterjee:Yeah, which again is in complete keeping with the book, right? That what they're wanting to share, what they're wanting to change, that problem that they're trying to solve in the world is figureoutable, which I think is a really nice bit of harmony there in terms of your message and what the lessons are that you've learned on MarieTV. Marie, I always like to finish off the podcast by leaving the listeners with some actionable tips, things that they can apply in their own life immediately to improve the way that they feel. This is why this podcast is called Feel Better Live More. I think your book absolutely echoes that.

1:13:59Dr. Rangan Chatterjee:Although it's not conventionally a health book, I think the principles are absolutely applicable to people who want to make health change in their lives. So thank you for writing a brilliant book. But I wonder, could you leave my listeners with some practical tips that they can think about applying in their own life immediately?

1:14:17Marie Forleo:This is the one thing that I would invite everyone to do. And it's so simple. Say the words, everything is figureoutable out loud as often as you can. So say it when you wake up in the morning or when you're taking a shower. Say it kind of over your lunchtime or if you're taking a walk around the block. Say it before you go to bed at night. But you have to say it out loud. First of all, we know this from science. When you actually use your voice to say something out loud, it helps you remember it and helps you create new neural pathways in your mind far greater than just thinking something in your head.

1:14:49Marie Forleo:So the more modalities you can use, like your voice, it's going to help you really embed it. But here's why this is so important. Because when you embed this belief, everything is figureoutable into your brain, it starts to become your default response, especially when the shiitake hits the fan. It will train your brain to think more creatively and with more innovation and more resilience. And you'll focus on solutions rather than problems. And here's why it's so important to say this to yourself as often as possible, because here's what I believe. The most important words in the universe are the words that you say to yourself.

1:15:26Dr. Rangan Chatterjee:Lovely. Really inspiring. Marie, I know you're on a busy tour. I know you've got an incredibly popular event tonight. I think 1 ,800 people coming to see you live in London tonight. So I hope the lucky ones who are going get to enjoy the event tonight. Thank you. Really appreciate you sharing the time. I really appreciate you writing such an amazing book that's going to help so many. If people want to connect with you online, where is the best place that they can find you?

1:15:48Marie Forleo:So marieforleo.com, M-A-R-I-E-F-O-R-L-E-O.com is where we have hundreds of free MarieTV episodes, the Marie Forleo podcast. It's at Marie Forleo on social channels. I'm having the most fun on Instagram right now. And then everythingisfigureoutable.com. We've got some extra resources that just didn't make their way into the book. So if you'd like to access some of those, they're free as well. You can go to everythingisfigureoutable.com.

1:16:10Dr. Rangan Chatterjee:Marie, thank you for joining me today. And maybe we'll repeat this at some point in the future.

1:16:14Marie Forleo:Absolutely. It was an honor. Thanks for having me on.

1:16:15Dr. Rangan Chatterjee:No worries.

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