How Money Changes Relationship: Toxic Marriages, Men vs Women & Pain | Dr Sarthak |FO449 Raj Shamani

42:27What do you mean? Sublimation. So how can people make something negative in life, can they make a positive energy? How can they make a positive energy? Positive energy is not made. Energy is negative. Energy is made. It's negative and positive. But if there's a crisis, or something good has been, it's a lot of energy. If I'm very happy, then I go to party and I'll go to a party. I'll be very happy. I'll be 3-4 days until I'm done. What's this? There's a lot of energy. So let's do another job. Or something I do, which is my growth, or another one, which will also be good. So that will give me long-term results.

43:06This is so true. Why is this like this? Because I'll tell you,

43:13let's say, a number, if you've got so many crores, so you've got a milestone, you've got a lot of revenue, you've got to achieve. So the first reaction is, let's party. but my one was not. I was like oh what's so much fun now let's do this. Same with like a podcast you have reached that 4 million now let's do it now let's do it now let's do it now let's do it number one podcast in India now let's do it number one. Like first reaction is not party. First reaction it doesn't come to come to drink and drink first reaction is that this energy that's the time you have ecstatic that you have to wow that energy you have to use that you have to do it and practice , That's why,

44:06same When you have first, two yearsや, this we have done it and we will reach 4 million to reach which is why it has been so that it will be like 100 % 4 days and then it will go this is 1-2 years after 2 years this is the growth of mutual fund compounding so the mind notices that 4 days and if I have done this and this is the 3 years I will continue to grow and then I will say So, it is not that. It is not that. So, here's a question on this. I have a personal question. In many people, there are negative incidents. Simple negative incidents. When the world gets hurt, you are a victim, you are a victim.

45:01You are useless. Some people are insecure. why are you going to be very low? I will go out and leave the way I will leave. What is this? I will show you. I will tell you. I will prove wrong proof. Please wait and watch. That's what negativity outside world is. It is a positive emotion that I will channelize and work more. zyada kama kata ho, or zyada mehnat kata ho because, merhe under patani kya hai that it just happens like that koji kitna bhi galiya dhe de, ki minna time aya ga, bol lo aach tum mein tumhye bata ho ga, I'll prove you wrong was is joh, bhoat saare loog hai joh is chiz ko negative leke apne abcors, succumb kare dhe te hai, dhe dhe dhe, unka hosla toot jata hai motivation toot jata, or calm kana bando kya difference hai, dho type ke loog ho, harisai bhoat loog hai, joh kuch log negative chiz ko use and some people are broken from negative things.

46:01People are doubted, insecure, inferior feel. Some people use that energy and convert to positive outcome and some people take negative energy and take a small and negative energy and go to shell and break themselves. So for example, when someone says that I don't think it will happen,

46:30I get energy from it. I get positive. Okay. Huh? I don't belong here today. But. I'll do this. Now I'll do this. I'll do this. If you're saying wrong today. Wait and watch. I'll come and change you. Versus. I've seen some people. They take it. they are because they are they escape themselves they are they are they are they are they are they are they are they are

47:13so negative so what difference so here Where does that work? Two people come from mates in the world to get up because they are neutral questions to theanton. When you get birthnotes to school ,oliners or kindergarteners learn things through heart-task and start police in school. Theryaman and mother will talk about his finds a problem when he videos on this school or other friends are trying to laude. From which he sits by observing and effectively. are, what decide that when the person when the person is big, the future when the crisis comes, when the mom and papa will not be, then what kind of he will do it.

47:57One cycle again. I have wrong with my mom and papa told me, mommy and papa said, no, no, you don't have any tension, we're behind you. Everything is set. You have to do it. You have to do it. First of all, you have to do it. You have to do it. You have to do it. result mila jaysay result mila to dmag confidence aya that bhai karne pere acha feel ho ta to kareng to woh uske dmag ko yad rata future may bhi jab usko kisi nne kuch bhi kaha to uske dmag ko yad raga bhai kare kuch confidence milt acha similarly bach pann me mam bhi papa nne kaya acha sab If you say Ob見ええ It will definitely never do it A lot of less So the other side To be different Then it won't make good Once the person does it So make it not So why not do it To be confident down That doesn't take any feeling When the future goes 날 asked do that Challenge Then remember what do it Unfortunately Where I learned from learning, I don't remember.

49:05The unconscious mind says, what he did, he repeat it. No, he doesn't. Go on. Now, freedom is grown. First, it was closed. It was closed. When I was closed, I was closed. When I was grown, I was upset. I was sitting alone. I didn't do it. I was giving up. Things like that. So, parenting is decided. Parenting is decided. Both children are normal. They are neutral. How to handle crisis, we learn how to handle the crisis. Parents, guardians, people around us. our conditioning conditioning means I have done that result that result that result that I encourage that thing to repeat on doing good on doing not do nothing not so I don't encourage give up encourage so it is how you handle your children that will decide how they handle the situation the world in future so so if parents nope had yarcha work and children did not say it and that they didn't do that without that exercise so that those parents were coming in space who did they come from from from from' students zin really snail but, if today let's go with two children Now those children give me that one's one's their big one's parent concentration this one's has come from to cope from from lately One's goes from…

50:29So, they turn around now now how can they work on it that the negative energy is affecting and actually it's a positive turn after growing, it's very difficult to recognize that this is happening with me which you may not do yourself because what you know is right someone has said someone has been on the top external professional help or not so we have recognized something with friends This time it feels good. It feels good. So, encourage your mind. But then, how many years you haven't done anything? That will decide how much it will neutralize. How many years it has been the fear and lack of confidence cement.

51:22You don't go there. You don't go there. Your mind doesn't know. Why do something? If you listen to something and it feels like I'm going to affect the negative things. I'm going to go down 2-3 days. I'm going to go down 2-3 days. I'm going to go down a little. I'm going to feel inferior. So, in someone's saying, you don't think that it's a reality. It is their opinion. The opinion is not a reality. If they're saying that it's not happening, then the best way to counter them and yourself, your lack of confidence is by doing it وہ same to show and believers go on see they hit ëgood guess both from your confidence will grow

52:15but fight not big first strike fight fire 5 oleh return normal behavior aku 10 ber response ha two told Don't first time fight because 10 years every time this is a simple thing to understand some people who have to brush after not some people who have to brush if they have to change then they have to conscious effort to put it first then brush or vice versa if there are some mistakes both neutral events then nothing happens in childhood someone said first then brush now change then consciously I have to do the brush first and then I have to do the wrong. Don't go wrong. The more the more the behavioral conditioning that the behavior is implemented, the more difficult to change.

53:08But you need external support. External support should be in your opinion? See, validation will get you. You will do it. You will do it. We are with you. Something wrong happened to me. Because the mind is saying that it will wrong. So the external confidence will get you. that will do it if it's done then the internal confidence will build then 4-5 times done then the external need is not so now it's chemical but it doesn't happen how many people have external support social support so how do we do it but if it's not and it's not then the most important thing requires the intent my pattern I have recognized now I have the intent to change it and that I am ready to do something to do.

53:57If I am ready to do something, then I will get the route. If I am not the intent, I will not do my route, I will not do it. Then it will be difficult. You know, we talked about this conversation earlier, just before this conversation, about choosing a person for better financial gains. Girls choose to do it. Girls choose to do it in their life. I've seen Dj podemos we can have is 있어서 Sury раз hij from Shargi do especially Papa Violin telling Funny then financial gain he got incentives for this got incentives for this house so that's what he said so he's not going to lose his money so now he's gone 2-3 years ago he made money and he became more of a business then he's not going to come back if he's chasing external validation he's chasing financial security he's watching and he's instantly that he's a big house then shouldn't she do that I mean I mean he's just an example in reality we have seen that there are many ex-boyfriends who have been more money.

55:23But then, they don't leave it. But then, if you have married, then you have a legal social commitment. The marriage is a very big thing in your country. The marriage is a very significant thing. To break on the basis of multiple things, it is wrong. Multiple things like abuse, it is wrong. If you don't give it, what is the difference? Things like that. so my ex-boyfriend has now more money socially acceptable we need a social validation along with that ma-bape's big role ma-bape's little bit but we should not buy a shirt or we doubt if mommy says this shirt and that movie I remember there is a factor along with that the kind of behavior I was just making an example so maybe the father was right that this person is wrong but this person is not right this is also fair fair fair I was giving an example financial gain if people have a objective but that's how strong I think the financial gain is the world taking the oil taking the oil Oh Oh

56:53But why do you feel India Indian parents Are so involved in A kid's love life Or in a marriage life Like you said a word We are giving you Freedom Do you think it's a right term In India we are giving you freedom it's a sad reality but parents it's not in-laws or other people say parents you know this right parents we have freedom now we have our story we have we have freedom we have given freedom what is freedom isn't it that's our fundamental right deswegen we are all ready our people are now in a country 75 years now that generation only wives have helped many families of them they do not know they did not happen that it was not they also where the girl did win or nothing that they did and as husband because girl is him you do do do do do do

58:32do do do do do parents are scared all of them also because girl's fault my child's fault didn't come to get divorce separation is a huge thing and also if you're happy you're happy you're happy you're happy so you're not wrong again what I mean I got this I got this good home I got this good home I'm staying same you replicate you're not you're happy but they don't know the other methods, other ways because they never lived. I'll give a real example there was this guy who belongs to a lower middle class family who graduated from a good business school and he started a good job. After 6 months a good job is a huge thing for the family.

59:26The father was a farm laborer who was working on someone's farm. And the boy said that I have to take a car. I use public transport. I have to take a car. Papa has never seen the money. No, he never takes it. Why do you have to pay? The kid is so angry. Why do you don't give me my mind? Why do you don't take a car? Why do you don't take a car? Six months ago, they both are fighting. Because in their belief system, you can't buy money. Because today is not today. I've never seen the money. download that

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1:00:27will start If your conductitudinal consume your health threat, listen if смотреть. But both are similar to them. In their conditioning like this or on their upbringing, they're afraid of money. You don't suggest them like he should release others. That's right O, You don't suggest that they still don't happen to you.

1:00:55But why are they, Why are parents involved in India? Because, the fear, right?

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1:01:34but this generation knows that they have confidence parents have no confidence so if you're wrong you're afraid of fear that you don't give freedom that's why that's not confidence because they have a lot of struggle and your children's life don't come to struggle so they're afraid that we all see that's right second society Oh my gosh! She knows. I—net not know who else's saying. Actually, she doesn't exist. She genuinely reach the house or she�魅 it like that. My husband will be ami it but she'll decide when I should have married that. She is a little but… THECK Zining is perder. This is my husband if my husband has got an or who is companion, he does.

1:02:31This is a wrong thing. They need to separate it. But then in that generation, they have seen their parents. So, their belief is very difficult to change. The best you can get to is, whatever you want to do, do not speak to me. That is the best you can get out of your parents. And they do not do that. How can you change that? It's been so much conditioning. To come up the conversation. Like he showed� me ears. Him pressure. We can talk with a person and haveτε� indefinitely. Emotional blackmail India in India is very strong, financially independent cosmos, then in his profile it gives a guilt and defile.

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1:03:36What can you do? If you have a hard time for people killed, get rid of a little help, how can you do it? Just for real.

1:03:49they do it then the subtle guilt the short answer is that you have to take a car or you have to put a car so if you have to take a car you have to accept the consequences I can unconditionally Second option Second option The next to impossible The long answer is That when you know That parents are like And you want to get married to someone For whom they do not agree So you have to be prepared That this is possible And you have to choose We can keep telling That this is not going to happen but eventually if you have to solve problem then you have to accept reality that it is like this now which pain should I?

1:04:54that the person who will listen to it or the love of my life what should I choose? if you are getting that confidence from your love that I will also keep the pain or keep the pain then I will keep it with it and if you don't have that confidence that I need my parents validation, I need this is who I am so buy it because you will probably not be happy because you will be happy but a fact is that parents eventually want to be happy so if you are happy after that, then you will be happy versus if you have said that you will get immediate gratification mila, that you say, you will be married, but if you don't be happy, then you will be parents, you will be sad.

1:05:46So, if you want to be happy, then you will be think about it very carefully. Immediate happy long-term sustained happy is better. But then, you have to be confident that with this person, I am happy with this person. Now, many people come to this pressure and come to move. They, they don't move with their loved ones. with them, they don't move. Where parents say, they get married. And it's a heartbreak in this one. And that's a problem. It's a major problem. What do you think? What should that partner do? That's a heartbreak, a loss. It's a reason for anyone. I remember another movie. It's Laila Majnu.

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1:06:41but then I think I think and trip to the parents of his parents they married from another girl and the girl who lives he is the hero of the movie before he was very bubbly funny nice guy stud londas everything he does all of a sudden which change doesnt have a return 2011 года silent silent silent to share something social energy which is reality which mandат psychologyComplastic or so or so has got something. You can understand something. You can hear it. You can hear it. You can hear it. Literally, in literal terms, it's easy to tell you. It's completely crazy. Do you think people are crazy if you break up this question?

1:07:28This question, Raj, is so many answers. I will tell you. Number one, if genuinely just in parents' say, or parents' say, that's why the girl has left their partner. Those factors involved are not involved. Payse, social validation, trading up I don't believe that partner will not feel bad even they will suffer second a lot of people might not agree but if they don't have window to get out of the way and parents give birth somewhere else then their will grow because your mind has been at the time before break up and then you have to go on a date with this new person maybe get physical with this new person, socha bhi nahi tha life may aisa kuch hooga, toh doonoh ek saath hona is very difficult, second, ladke ka, ya the left partner ka kya hal hai, wo decide karta hai, hamnene joh baat ki, kis tarikay se unki crisis management skill hai, crisis ai break up hua hai, you are going through a terrible terrible time, mature defenses use kia, mature defenses develop huay hai, toh thukra ke meera pyaar, intakam dheke IASB bantay hai loog if you use that energy in a way that it helps you grow haa par agar itna zahad involved thay dependent thay us insaan ke oopar ki ye hai to hi my dunia hai to pahle to is tarikai se pyaari mat karo you are an independent individual without even without your partner even without your family to aap to khud ho hi to

1:09:12I don't feel I genuinely believe in this theory because I have met someone you say doctors, psychologists everybody talks about it independent relationship but relationship you get dependent it's next to impossible that you live in a relationship independent you become dependent you become dependent 1 year 2 year 5 year 10 year there will be some factors that will revolve that will revolve and if that person will go to your life then it will be a terrible loss that you have to end up with your individual identity and you have to end up with the dependent part that will be a major loss so don't love this this way I don't think it's right because it's going to happen in a long term so you're getting confused between emotional dependence and absolute 100 % dependence so much that if it's not then it's not my existence if it's that level then you're psychologically and you're going to be lost first of all if your identity is different without emotional dependence you don't have to become emotionally dependent this is why you're going to feel terrible 6-8 months, 2 years but because you have somewhere in your mind an image about yourself that will be careful about its own self I have to keep myself I have to eat it I have to do it in my childhood I have to do it I have to do it I have to do it I have to do it I have to do it for myself if something happens it will come out it will save you but if you have to do it if you have to do it is that it is not my world then it will be over so you believe that heartbreak is over and I also believe that after it it will grow because so many of these people use this trauma for their self growth unconsciously of course but it will be so much energy build up initially shock trauma you will be bedridden you can't get out of your house then you will get a little energy a little sip of tea 10-15 kilos of water then you will recover you will not get out of your house but you will recover what percentage do you think people who are dependent on a partner and then they are heartbreak they are like the world and they are not and they have no individual identity in the same way how many people who turn around So, if you have a strong trauma, you can use that trauma to say, that after six months or two years, that now I'll be really really good for life and it will become very good.

1:12:08Versus, how many people who are dying, they have no option, they never come back. They will be emotionally off in their life, or they lead towards psychological problems, or pills are addictive, or sleeping problems, or eventually if death or psychological disorder, that happens. What is the percentage between two cases? So, if 100 % absolute dependent ho, the state of mind which believes that I am born, I am born to love this person to this person. If this is not, then I am not. Those people remain in denial. They are not coming. Because the concept of relationship is a little wrong. That's not how you have a relationship.

1:12:50But the rest of the people, all of them get out of it. If there is a family in their mind, their profession is fear of getting jobs is fear of EMI so this means all these things are important I fear my nature is bad for me so I will eventually keep myself so I will go out no just say I'll give you an example I know certain people who had breakup they were from a good family so I'll give you an example of a girl like she married to someone else now but so she was in a relationship and in a relationship she was in a relationship she was in a relationship but the girl didn't do a job she didn't do anything she was fully involved with the girl because she had a lot of family with the money she provided the girl and the family provided the girl this was a classic example that she became a wife or a home wife or she was traveling with her work she was a little bit nothing else but her life was that I have to do some time pass with my brothers and sisters and my husband will help me after that, my boyfriend will be free and we will go to a movie, date, whatever and that's what her life for 5-6 years so her life is not something just one person and then breakup and this is why one day the guy feels like I'm out of love myre ko nai ho ra wo move on ka gya life na to iski to life end ho ga kuch hai ni iske paas or karne ke liye and wo emotionally off ho ga to ab uske baad uski sleeping pa chalo ho ga because sleep won lag ga usko trust issues ho ga wau aapne dosto bhe trust nai kaarti hai uski shadi ho ga kai hoar because 3 saal raha yeh sab bhoot zahada problem 3 years later she is like fuck it mere ko jahan gharwalhe shadi karar रही है वह कर ली पदो आज भी OFF है मतलाब मैने उसके उसके husband की उसके chemistry नहीं देखी जो उसकी chemistry बॉश्रिंड के साथ थी कुछ chemistry नहीं like zero chemistry कुछ है यह नहीं so मुझे तो इसमें यही सुनाई दिया की वो पहले से ही किस طरीके से गलत थी involved I'm saying it was okay but if they both have been there then maybe their lives are going to be big right so now it's different so if I ask what to do then do you think that in such relationships there's no coming back people can come out so that's what if you are absolutely 100 % involved then it becomes very difficult almost impossible for you you will become completely numb clinical depression this will come because you have done something else for 6 years, for 5 years for 10, 10 years 1 year something else if you have not done it and you have lived in this state if you have one thing and you have all that and you have all that so you have all that so you have all that this is not to do it relationship this way you don't do it you are saying that you are saying that if you have married then you have so much dependence dependence अगर रहा तो भी आपको eventually insecurity आएगी because आप सब उनके लिए ही कर रहे हो और वो शायद काम भी कर रहे हो और आपको भी time दे रहे हैं तो काम क्यों कर रहे है office वाले phone मेरे साथ है तो क्यों उठा रहे हो दोस्तों को क्यों मिल रहे हो उनको बुरा लगेगा तो फिर भी conflict हो सकता है You have to understand the concept of relationship in a way कि आप 100 % अगर एक ही चीज करोगे तो नुकसान होगा ही दो -तीन चीजे करो दो -तीन चीजों के उपर अपने emotions dependent रखो यहां से नुकसान हुआ बहुत दुखी होगे in two things of help from out so if if a girl is dependent and has and has been thinking that I am dependent and my life is but in the future I am going to be problem not so let me start doing something else as well so what I saw in this case that I felt very bad why Because the girl has made effort in life.

1:17:17Because it's like I think if I can put effort in someone else, then there's no point. When I can do this at the end, I can put effort in why? Because I think so many years, it's long term. If you have started a year, then you have to think about it, then you can put effort in another career. You can put effort in another career. You can put health in another life. You can put mom and dad in another life. It's a different thing. But 5-7 years ago, if you put effort in someone else, then you face it. It's called learned helplessness. What do you say? Learned helplessness. Okay. I have learned, I have accepted that I am absolutely helpless.

1:17:50It's an experiment, maybe frogs' that they kept on the heat frogs and they kept on the heat. Initially, frogs will try to fly and try to fly out. But they will not fly. Then they will accept it. Then they will not try to fly. It's done. There is nothing. It's not possible. So, So, that learned helplessness for having to take out. This is after, after that. For having to take out that hope is necessary. That hope is not going to come one or two times. Sustained efforts is coming. Pills is because their thoughts are so much on them that she is not able to live with her own thoughts. She is so much trouble that she is giving her.

1:18:34She is maybe a memory. She is guilt. She is regret. She is 6 years to put down something. But, pills are so much work. the actual events happening in her life that will give her that confidence that I can get the healthy defense mechanisms that she may be able to use to help someone to learn something to do anything healthy defense mechanisms I don't hope, I've tried so many times now, hope comes later first, without any emotional result effort I'm not feeling like this doing it but उठके धूप में जाके बैठना है result कुछ नहीं आएगा but रोज करते रहना है initial सौ दिन not a specific word but दिनों के लिए महिनों के लिए करूँगा तो फिर वो body का part बनेगा system का part बनेगा फिर कहीं बच्चे ने वहाँ पर गाया और किसे ने आके that I gave a tea, or a tea, or a ball pass.

1:19:32So, it's a high point. That's a high point. Which was not a high point. That's a high point. That's a good feeling. That will encourage your mind to again do certain things. That's it. Sometimes something negative or neutral or good or good. So, it's a hope. So, the learned helplessness is out. Now, the people who are involved so much emotionally so first of all is to recognize see awareness self awareness that this is where you are going wrong helps you like anything I know that I am addicted when I am aware then I am addicted to work on addiction otherwise I am not aware then I am not so much so only I am emotionally aware that I am so much dependent so much I am my mind protect myself do it.

1:20:29You have to do it. You have to do it. You have to do it. You have to do it. You have to do it. You have to do it. You have to do it. What happened to the increment. You have to do it. You have to do it. Recognition. But most of the people who are 100 % dependent, are passionate people, they cannot recognize them. So if this podcast is recognized, what do you do? If it is recognized, you have to do it. Give me three steps. Number one, so basically yourself life to explain relationship self family and profession these 4 balls are 4 on on on on on on on on on on on on on on on on on on on I don't blame the relationship.

1:21:15So, the chance is a lot of the chance. And balance is difficult. If there are four, one is gone. So, how do we balance and eventually manage? So, the four have equal importance. I am with my family or my self. Self can include friends or things that you do for your own self. That is so important. My professional growth is important. My life has tangible tensions also important. Loan ka emi ya guys Bradley I mean 35

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1:22:10see what you're saying you know, a big textbook advice. It's not fault. I've seen people are devastated. Today, the dependent are, the addicted are, they're happy to come. So, how do they make a new profession if they don't want to come? Yeah, I don't I don't give them. Okay, one advice. This is something I have implemented. If my breakup happened, after that, I'm not going to feel good. I feel very bad and my mind will tell me to not get out of my bed मुझे नहीं ही जाना है, किसी को नहीं ही मिलना है and मैं फिर भी force करके उठके hospital जाओंगा, patients देखूंगा जो मुझे अब अच्छा नहीं लगेगा, बुरा लगेगा बट फिर भी मैं करते रहूंगा क्योंकि आप कुछ करते हो, किसी -किसी concept how to change in that case textbook advice he works first we always wait to implement something to do I should get a result I should get a guarantee that I will look good I have not done but I guarantee that I will look good then I will do no I should do I should do or do anything for the sake of doing it my mind my body my mind if you want to do something you need to do it not particularly52 and if you want to do something they will increase that

1:24:01eventually i will give up symptoms what its actually it's actually clinical depression may hota hai ki you lose all the hope sir l'thik hai aya hoon dikhanay par kuch hooga nahin I don't think kuch hooga aap bol rye ho dawa hai le leta ho par kuch hooga nahin kya hi matlab hai dikhanay jane ka kya hi matlab hai kuch bhi karne ka jab kuch result hi nahin milne wala so you lose that hope and you accept that this is how it's going to be you your mind almost normalizes your clinical depression but this is how it is now and now this is never going to be changed I am done I am done, I am done I am not important, now there is no meaning now there is no meaning so do you have to go out how can people get out of it?

1:24:56how is it? like I said, initially to give discomfort to yourself force and do it you have to do it, keep doing it just like learned helplessness is so that you have thought that my life can change my life. It's horrible. I have no motivation external or internal purpose. I have no discomfort in which I have no discomfort in my life. When it is not, and when there is no motivation or purpose, there is no intent. Why do I have no discomfort? Above 40s, a lot of men, that generation, above 50s, very many people are happy very many people then they go to the office upset they get upset machine kind of work they go back this is the doubt that when you are in your state of depression or terrible state of mind that there is no purpose or motivation that is the doubt that if you are motivated that I will do it this is the doubt that I will do it I have to do 100 days I have to do 200 days I feel like I said I have to do something magic It's not provided in people's lives What I mean by this is I know many housewives I know Our partner is right Our children are right I don't do anything I don't appreciate it I don't have to be a brother I've become a brother And in that zone where they feel value less very least important right now they want to know in life because they have so much and told and so they have so much that they have learned helplessness state but they have provided they have good house and good car husband is taking care all the bills and the little I feel good at shopping shopping.

1:27:04I feel good at shopping shopping. I feel good at all. I have to pay for 100 days. I don't have to pay for 100 days. My daily day to day is going to be good. I'm not happy. I'm not happy. There's no motivation to do it. Same with many such family business kids. The kids. They have to accept that .. ..

1:27:41See what theo -�んと her heart.. I don't do anything. So now I'm just going to go to the friends with time pass and go back. But what you're saying about learned helplessness, this is that is not. This is clinical depression-learned helplessness which means that I don't have to move on.

1:28:18There's no difference if there's a car or not. If I haven't experienced or I haven't seen it, I can imagine that it's so painful. that is clinical depression or shock or acute stress reaction when you know something is dangerous with you either you fight or you absolutely give up this means that you are sinking in the water but you are not hitting your hands or then you are not dying but you are not resisting at all and that is actual learned health justice so that is what I am talking about aunties a woman in 50s or 40s, late 40s learned helplessness in their thing no motivation, I don't want to hit my head I'm going to get my blood and I'm going to get out of it I'm going to go on I'm going to go on in my life I don't have any meaning I don't have happiness I don't have anything I'm just waiting when death will be I'll get to know that I'm going to die and my life is going to die If people win 70, we will win 50.

1:29:31Passive death wishes. Give us, I know that I leave. But that's clinical depression. Can they change? Treat. Treat. It has to be treated. See, if there is learned helplessness, then clinical depression is there. Then you have to heal treatment. Not necessary. Depends on the cause. Depends on the concept. How it happened. external factors internal hormonal changes what are depends on if therapy or if if the drug is needed or if the drug or if the drug is needed or if the drug can be better or if the drug can be better if the drug means that drug is closed or the treatment absolutely closed then it's a very difficult thing to say but manage what does manage what does that emotional reactivity comes in emotional reactivity a state of mind in which you can get a situation based emotions you can get a job you can get a job you can get a child your husband has said you can get a bad feeling you can get a good feeling you can get a good feeling your family has said you can get a good feeling this is all about but if you are saying clinical depression absolutely right it will happen it will happen it will happen depends on multiple factors genetics, social factors husband is toxic or is she drinking a day and one thing in his mind was the child's life that my husband after my husband, after my husband we are very happy and if it turns out to be this so the only hope that was big that was finished so then we will manage then we will continue continuous therapy say when you go to childhood and you go to everything change in the age of 50-60 is very difficult because unconscious brain is very cemented after a while when you get a lot of therapy and you get a lot of receptivity and it gets difficult resistance is very difficult like that you are doing it you are saying it you are saying it it is true but let's not say you use the word passive death wishes what is this active means I have to do it this is my plan garlic, fasi, google proper covid ho jaya yaar I hope zyada ho jaya, my oxygen come ho jaya ya, thik ya, agar ho bhi jayega to problem, thik ya kya hi farak padega, I don't resist thinking about death, I don't think about it in a negative way thik ya na yaar, buri baat to nahi hain, a lot of people feel ki, those people start in their regular conversations life is kind of a little task na what is this what is this death death is not something bad things like that passive wishes what is this carelessness that is like you just are that that's chill you are in a state of melancholy maybe sadness that everything is going on what signs of death I can say that death is not a bad thing if you have to be spiritually awakened that this concept is also like that I have seen many patients who depressive symptoms initial stages spiritual awakening मानते थे मुझे सच खोजना है मुझे जवाब चाहिए because we feel that getting some answers कहीं से कुछ किसीने कहे दिया कुछ मिल गया तो मुझे जो बुरा लग रहा है वो ठीक हो जाएगा because basically तो मुझे जो बुरा लग रहा है वो ठीक करना है so my mind has a thought that I will get a good answer where are the purpose of life spirituality spiritual gurus when I go to the end then I will get a good answer if there is no answer which I will get a good answer I will get a good answer my purpose of life is what I will authenticate this is there is no official document second if I will get a good answer then I will get a good answer Yes, let's see my purpose of my life is that patient's purpose.

1:34:12After that, emotions are not changing. Then it becomes realized that maybe depression can happen. That's why it takes in India at least a lot many years day one of symptoms to go to the doctor or therapist to go to the doctor. Because our mind cannot comprehend mental illness. It's not bad at all. Maybe someone said it. इसकी वज़े से, यह तो 3 साल पहले वाला break up हुआ ना इसकी वज़े, ने मुझे जवाब चाहिए, things like that eventually सब options exhaust हो जाता है, तब कहीं से कुछ video देख लिए या किसने mention किया कि depression करके कुछ है, तो आता, अच्छा हाँ यार, ऐसा तो 4-5 साल से हो रहा है I'm still functioning at 50 % I'm doing 50 % and then it's coming that's when it comes that is called lack of awareness awareness means when it comes to the doctor it's coming straight to the brain the doctor can go to the doctor COVID can be malaria can be viral it's not here it's not straight to the brain initially we'll do normalize then we'll do options then we'll do mental illness when I talk to you whenever you or a neuroscientist or a doctor psychologist psychiatrist with a very big life you are or big or very old or something you should an

1:35:35exploratory session because you don't know what you have confused and you know how you a spiritual awakening that's a bad thing to do it is it is and you how little different things that we ignore in the name of something else. True. People should visit it and first because we have the answer which is the only answer. There was a movie, Munna Bhai MBBS Part 2 in which Gandhi Ji was watching. So, in Munna Bhai, he was watching the information in which he was watching. He asked the wife, if there is no information, then he will not see. So, I don't know I don't know what can happen. Until I will keep attributing it to some other things.

1:36:28Or I am doing this. This also comes. When there was no awareness of malaria, people understand something else. How do they give treatment? When there was no awareness of the miracle, there was no awareness of the miracle. Then they did something else. There is no awareness. But I hope podcasts like these actually create awareness. Thank you so much for your episode. end to see you. Now you have to do three things. First of all, subscribe to this channel because as much as you subscribe, we will be able to get better and valuable guests for you. Number two, tell me in comments about this episode, what did you feel good and bad so that we can repeat mistakes and which guests you want to see in our podcast so that we can bring them to you and give them more value.

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