E128 - Powerful Life Hacks For Men To Become Dangerous, Free & Unforgettable (unfiltered)

27:37She now has custody of the kids more often. Now all of a sudden you need to get somebody else's permission to see your own kids, your own lineage, your own DNA. You have to get somebody else's permission to go and see your own kids. And most guys find themselves in a situation where they see their wealth robbed from them while she's using it to alienate him from his own children. And I'm not trying to be doom and gloom when I say all that, but that is the common experience of most men today. It doesn't always go that way, but it's a common experience because again, women are hypergamous. What does that mean?

28:08They marry and date across on the socioeconomic scale. So they're often marrying better men, more successful, wealthier men. and you know the outcome of that is the courts will enforce that lifestyle on him after they break up and it's no fault you know she can break up for any reason she wants so you know one of the most common things that ends up happening is when one of her girlfriends starts the divorce process it's like a cancer it tends to spread when you start talking to guys that are older that have start being gone through the divorce grinder one of the things that i've noticed when i asked him a question what do you think the catalyst was to your marriage ending and he said, well, her friends started getting divorced, right?

28:45And it's like, you know, birds of a feather flock together. They sort of cook up this idea after some wine and, you know, sitting around cackling that it would be smart for them just to, you know. I've noticed that even in the relationships that I've been in, where all of a sudden my partner would just start talking about some things that she would want, additional things she would want from me. Maybe like even the discussion of having kids and things like that. I'm like, you were, you were pretty chill before. And now there's all these topics coming out of nowhere. And I realized that she's been having conversations with her friends and they're all trying to say how they, they're all.

29:18Well, it's a high mindset. Like women tend to work on a count, on a council type of mentality, right? A lot of decisions that are made with women in a relationship aren't made between him and her. They're often made between her and her girlfriends, her and her mom, her and her sisters, you know? So you want to be mindful of the kind of company that she keeps and what their values are and how they navigate life because she will operate with the same operating system as well too. And it goes both ways. I mean, it's fair enough for them to also have the same observations for men because, you know, I've, you know, back in the day, I'd have a group of friends.

29:56We were just all single party boys and we'd go out and we'd party quite a lot. So if I was embarking on a new relationship and she would make this observation, She'd be like, I'm a little bit concerned that you are just hanging out with single guys and you're going out quite a bit, which was fair enough. Yeah. Because obviously if we are going out, we're getting attention. There's the potential for, you know, me stepping out of line. So she had all the right to be concerned. But isn't that interesting though, because the fact that you're out with your mates and you're having a good time and you're getting attention, that made you more attractive to her.

30:30I just noticed what she did there. You know, she wanted to restrict, limit, delay, maybe stop that particular avenue for you. And that would have made you less attractive to her. You know, guys often find that women tend to try to separate them from their mates, you know, from their activities, from their fun. And then when they, when they give that all up, when they give her what she wants, when they try to make her happy because they love her and why wouldn't they, that her attraction for him starts to wander down. Yeah. Right. So it's like, you know, again, the very things that you're doing that she may want you to stop doing can actually be good for her and the cohesion of the long-term relationship.

31:08Um, it's one of those things that you have to figure out how to manage. I mean, if you're going out all the time and you're spending almost no time with her, she'll probably get fed up at some point and step out on you or leave or end the relationship. So it's like, you can't be on each other's feet all the time. You have to find some time to your spouse, sorry, some time to yourselves. And I, again, I think that's where that chapter in my book about the three it is, you know, proximity, familiarity, and exclusivity. You have to figure out ways to manage those. If you want to have a good experience over the long haul.

31:36I think particularly for a lot of the people who are listening to this, I would imagine it's mostly guys who are working on themselves. They've either one start a business or they're running their own businesses, time is so valuable and they want to put as much of their time and effort into, you know, developing themselves and progressing with their career, but they don't want to be doing it all alone. They do want to have female company. Maybe they want to have a relationship, but they're going to struggle to have a relationship with somebody who is going to be very demanding of their time and attention.

32:08So how do these guys try and navigate the dating world when they're just extremely busy. You just carry on doing what you're doing and you make a little bit of time for her. But when she starts making demands for more of your time, I mean, you've only got so many waking hours in the day where you're going to work. And then when she starts trying to, Hey, you know, it's little Billy's, uh, you know, birthday this weekend, it's going to be a six hour event. You know, can we go to that? Like, are you going to come with me sort of thing? If you have priorities in your calendar that are more important, that are aligned with your purpose, you should stay on that purpose and just say, babe, you know, I love you and I have a good time.

32:44I'll see you when you get back sort of thing. But quite often, again, you know, men will do these things to appease her, to make her happy because they love the woman. And why wouldn't they, you know, when you fall in love with a woman, of course, you know, hang out with your family. Of course, they'll go and do that thing. Let's go to the wolf stock event where all the doggies are dressed up in sweaters and shoes and sort of thing and walk around together because they want to do a couple things. And you're going to have to do some of those, right? Like there's going to have to be some give in that area, but I think it's a lot less give than what guys are giving right now.

33:12Right. I mean, if you're serious about your purpose, if you're serious about your business, if you're serious about chasing excellence, not women, you have to maintain that to a degree. Yeah. That makes sense. What did you make just touching a marriage again, the whole, uh, Ronaldo getting married? Yeah, that was interesting. Yeah. I actually tweeted about that, you know, early in the year because it seemed like he was a smart guy that sort of figured it out. And then he just did it. It was like, well, I mean, I get pressured into that probably, but I mean, I suspect that he's probably got his life structured in, in a way, or he at least thinks that he structured his finances in life and in such a way that if it ever didn't work out, the cost of untying that knot would be minimal.

33:51I mean, he's essentially married anyway. He's got a bunch of kids with her. He's living in a way that looks like marriage, you know, the public anyway. Women just want the official ceremony. They want the ring. They want the statement. So, you know, maybe it's one of those things like, babe, you know, we've been together forever. You know, you've looked the other way a few times when I've had some fun on the side, you know, she just did it maybe like as a way to reward her or keep her around. But I think he's like a naturally sort of like unplugged sort of man that gets it. So, you know, without sitting down with him and having a real conversation, you know, man to man, it's difficult to understand that one.

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35:49They don't even like to post anything. I love that. It's very different to my life. Obviously I pick and choose what I'd like to talk about, but to be with someone who's doing the complete opposite is nice sometimes. Then there's also someone like a date who's very similar. Like maybe their job involves social media. They have a big following, literally everything they're doing, they're documenting. So when it comes to them being in a relationship, that's something they want to share with the world. And then maybe, you know, if they're particularly happy with the person that they're with, they want to show it off.

36:20What's your thoughts on the success of a relationship if it's public versus keeping it behind closed doors? I mean, that's a really interesting question. I think it depends on your plan for that. There are like these social media power couples that do that and they share their entire personal life publicly on the internet. And I think if you started from that point you have to continue on that point um my angle is because i mean i'm more like i've got a little bit of a uh public audience they see me like i get recognized you know i go places especially in north america um i would never share a woman that i've given my commitment to or anything close to that publicly because it's an attack vector yeah you know what i mean like um someone really wants to get to you yeah well they can make your life hell well that's how they tend to get to you You know, we saw it with the Tates, right?

37:14And it was women like right away, like that was the attack factor. So I think that a man would be wise in most cases to keep his personal relationships personal. I mean, why would you want the woman that you love showcased to the world to see? I don't understand that. You know, I was at address sky pool here in Dubai, you know, with the view of the birch and, you know, you have the infinity pool. and I lost count of the amount of men that were taking photographs of their girl at the edge of the infinity pool wearing literally nothing. In some cases, she would pop her bum out of the top, pull up the thong and just get the most obnoxious photograph.

37:51And he's sitting there documenting the whole thing. Just pimp you out. Yeah. Now, okay, maybe he was their OnlyFans manager. I don't know, but they didn't look like that. They look like the plugged in beta male, like the fat guy that's just, okay, whatever. whatever. And some of these girls are there with like wardrobe changes, three different bathing suits all day long from different shots, different sun angles. And it's like, these guys have no idea that their girl posting this on social media publicly is going to be soliciting the attention of guys, most of them dorks, but of, of guys that are in some cases substantial.

38:22And you're essentially promoting her so that she can go out and chase the next upgrade. Yeah. Right. Again, women are hypergamous. They want to be with a better man. So if you're not it at some point and your photography work or your video work is that good that the next guy slides in and she decides to move on to that you've got nobody to blame but yourself I think that if you're in a long-term relationship with a chick she should have no access to social media or if she's using it it's just absolutely private you know like she just has private photographs for her family family events you know things like that and there's nothing beyond that because a woman that's in that that has asked a man has said look you know where are we going I don't want to share you um you know i want to i want to build life with you like i want to have a family sort of thing when a woman gets to that point and she starts saying things like that i think that's when you have to examine her and say well you know i dig your vibe too but i really can't take a woman seriously that's posting provocative photographs on social media and that's where you can put your foot down like that's the opportunity to do that when she starts leaning into you and asking you for more yeah right because you might say that and a lot of women would take offense to that's like what you don't want to post anything on social media but it it comes down to the type of photo that they're posting sure like you can definitely take pictures nice background but do it in an elegant way correct and cover up yeah and like it's you can still look beautiful and sexy but like in a in just a much more of an elegant way correct compared to if you just bent over and you've got your tits up yeah um so that's something which i think i've started to notice now, all I would have to do is just take a look at the previous pictures, which they've been uploading.

40:01They've already been doing that. It's going to be very hard for you to try and tell them, okay, like stop doing that. Yeah. Well, I mean, if a woman truly loves a man, she would do it. But the vast majority of women today, I think would choose a path of, what's wrong with you, Mike? Why are you insecure? You know what I mean? Like a real man would, and then dot, dot, dot. Basically, whenever a guy hears a real man would, she's trying to use a shaming tactic to manipulate your behavior so that it benefits hurt. Right. So this is again, you know, a place where men should be putting their foot down.

40:29Um, but that's the reality of most women today, right? Like most attractive women like the social media attention and why wouldn't they? That's, that's, that's how they're hardwired. The more provocative, the photography, the more salacious, the photography, the more attention they get. Um, you know, that's why fathers would be wise to try to limit the amount of social media activity their daughters have. And they should at the same time, try to focus their sons on creating value because that's where men get the best out of life that they want. Men's best optionality in life will come from being as handsome as they can possibly be and being as valuable as they can possibly be.

41:05The problem is a lot of men squander that away. There's lots of handsome men that are valuable, um, that will just simp for women. Right. Yeah. Well, I've noticed as well, sometimes it can be almost, it's a blessing and a curse. because sometimes if you have been, this goes for women as well, if you've been blessed with looking great, especially for a woman at a young age, you don't need to do anything. Yeah. The world is your oyster. For a guy as well, like obviously it will improve your chances of getting women, but then you can become too complacent on purely just the way you look so that you don't develop these other skills that are also going to help you in life and help you create a decent career and make money for yourself.

41:49Yeah. yeah it takes a while for guys to reach their stride and then later on they're like oh shit like i'm i'm fucking broke yeah i'm still like maybe i'm a good looking guy but like i have no money yeah whereas like the other guys who maybe didn't have those the looks or the genetics they work their ass off so like look i can't rely on this so i need to start getting my money up yeah and then they're the ones that end up winning in the end because they're just so financially secure and stable correct yeah so speaking of that what do you think the main things that can help a guy, particularly a young guy in the 20s that will help them when it comes to dating and actually women?

42:25Well, in your 20s as a guy, women will have more patience for you if you're not rich. It's fine. Women don't have a lot of patience for a 40-year-old broke guy that's handsome. If you're broke in 20, no problem. She'll date you, she'll sleep with you enthusiastically. So as you're in your 20s, sort of moving into your 30s and so on, your focus needs to be on creating value for yourself, right? Creating renown, doing things of influence, become captivating. And of course, learn the notion of how to deal with women, how to game them, you know, if you can quote unquote, use that from the pickup artist community, but you have to know how women respond to certain things and then manage that as you sort of navigate life.

43:08But the priority should always be chase excellence, not women, right? I'm not saying disengage women, don't deal with women. That's where I often get misquoted. When I say chase excellence, not women. I mean, yes, find your purpose, make that the focus. Don't let women distract it from you, but indulge, you know, make sure that you understand women because that's why we're here. You know, at some point, most guys will eventually try to settle down or they get fed up with the playboy lifestyle or having too much fun. And they think about family and having kids and stuff like that. And you have to know what you're dealing with because you're really playing with fire when it comes to chicks.

43:42Yeah. And there's definitely certain regions in the world where dating is a lot more difficult. Like I could see it being hard here. Yes. Here, I get asked this question a lot. I think the dating scene is great. Like you will have endless options and you can have a lot of fun. It is literally like a playground for adults. But doing the whole, the long-term thing and being in a committed relationship thing, I think that requires more work. It is. It's harder to do here. Yeah. Just because of, especially if you're a successful guy, the sheer amount of temptation that you get. And it does not slow down.

44:15Because, you know, if you're in your mid-30s, usually you're on, if you're working hard, you're on a trajectory where your career, social status, money is just, you're getting more and more of it. Yeah. And, you know, like the temptation is always going to exist. Right? You know, whether you act on it or not is up to you. But I think that she has to have the perception that that optionality is there, whether you're utilizing it or not. Right? And the same thing goes for if you have found a woman who's also very attractive and ticks a lot of the boxes, then she is also going to have a lot of options as well.

44:51So you, as the man, have to really be on top of his game because there's going to be other successful guys out there who could very easily swoop her off her feet if you don't step up. Yeah. I mean, you, you typically end up being slightly more valuable than she is on like a scale. Like if she's a seven, you're probably going to be a eight or a nine or a 10 sort of thing. That's typically how it works. Guys, guys tend to date down on the attractive sort of area. Not always. Um, but that's when women are happiest. Yeah. You get less drama and headache. Yeah. Like if you, a lot of guys would want to, they have the idea of, well, I want to go for a 10 out of 10.

45:29Yeah. Like that's what I'm aiming for. Yeah. And I think a lot of them will be surprised that what comes with that? I mean, I'd rather have a pleasant seven than a bitchy 10 all day long. Yeah. Yeah. Um, so that's, I mean, that's something you need to be aware of. Um, in terms of red flags in women, what are some of the main things which men need to be a little bit cautious about? Yeah, that's a great question. I've got an entire chapter in my first book on 21 red flags. The second book I added 16 green flags because a lot of guys were like, I love the red flags, but I want something more positive, Rich.

46:04Can you give me something? So I put 16 green flags in that book, but red flags, um, typically things like, uh, daddy issues, uh, feminist type of behaviorism, mannerisms, uh, high notch counts, boss girls, uh, women that compete with you. What do you want to talk about? Uh, the daddy issues one is interesting because Because if a woman has daddy issues, but she ticks all the other boxes, is that something that you can navigate through? Or is it - Potentially. Yeah. I mean, it really all depends on what you want to tolerate and manage. I've seen guys that have women that will just latch their meat hooks into them because they've got anxiety issues around you.

46:47And some guys like that. They like a chick that's got daddy issues or is really attached to them. I find that annoying after a while, or even if it becomes pleasant for a little bit. Um, but for the most part, women that don't have a good relationship with their father, they don't typically value men. You know, if they grew up in a single mother household, they were probably told that men ain't shit. You can't rely on a man. You have to go out there and make a name for yourself and do what it is that you want to do girl. Um, so they don't typically value men and the value that men bring to the table.

47:19They're more of, um, maybe he's an accessory. Let's see what I can leverage out of this guy, out of the relationship. They don't see the value in the masculinity. And I don't have time for women that don't value masculinity, that don't value men. I want a woman that likes her father, that has a good relationship with her father, that respects men, that wants to hear his opinion, that when she's led, she'll follow sort of thing. And I think women are naturally built for that. I mean, that's why throughout history, fathers would give away their daughters to the husband sort of thing it's like okay now it's your responsibility sort of thing so i think it's a definite green flag when you meet a woman that has a good relationship with her father um it's but it's it just always goes it's going to be interesting where this goes and what the future holds because i feel like there's more and more kids and children that are being raised in single parent 43 yeah in north america so what the fuck does that mean for future relationships yeah and you know, single moms raise boss girls and they also raise like weak beta males too.

48:21Right. You know, um, you know, you see this all the time on social media. Um, you know, I saw this the other day I was showing my friend gear. Um, you know, mom couldn't afford a car. So son sold his Xbox and mowed lawns for three months to buy her a car. And it's like this 11 year old kid has been conditioned from a young age to completely sacrifice anything that's important to him just to make his mom happy. And I think women sort of make these like, um, like husband sons, you know, where they kind of train their sons to become agreeable, softer, uh, you know, become less. So women can become more, um, you know, feminist allies sort of thing.

49:03Yeah. And I've never seen a woman that's like, you know, that wakes up in the morning or, you know, say something like, yeah, I just want a weak, pussified male that I can run. you know what I mean like they want to be with a giant they want to be with a guy that says no they want to be with a guy that's able to lead them that's what most women want yeah sometimes you hear women say you know I want a partner and that's a word that bothers me you know because I often tell people now it's like is it husband is it wife is a boyfriend is a girlfriend you're not partners you're not equal you're not running a law firm you're not gay let's be honest here and use the correct definitive terms right and I think a lot of this washing you know this like let's make everything blended and even and equal are one of the great disservices of society.

49:42Again, men and women are not the same, very, very different, but we have complementary skills if we allow ourselves to resign to those positions and places. Even when you look in egalitarian societies like in Norway or Sweden, men tend to resign themselves to engineering roles and things like that. And women tend to resign themselves to roles in society like daycare and nursing. so even in societies like that where they try to force more equalism on everybody men and women are going to do what they're going to do anyway yeah so why are we playing games and lying to each other about this sort of stuff yeah all right since you've there's obviously a lot of red flags which is in the previous book which is probably the most underrated and overlooked the one that i get criticized the most for is tattoos you know i find women that have um sat in a chair for hours and days on end drawing on their body with little tattoos.

50:35It's kind of a masculine behavior. I think, you know, traditionally it was more of a masculine behavior. You know, when I was young, there was almost no women with tattoos. Now in many places, especially in the West, it's very rare to see women without tattoos. In fact, more women have tattoos today than men do. Um, it's almost like they're warning you that, Hey, I'm a problem, you know, sort of thing. Like, you know, it's like, you know, the trauma and it's always the same sort of like tattoos, you know, there's no, you know, there's no newness. It's always a butterfly or angel wings or something like that.

51:06And it's like, you know, the notion about this, and I made a video about this the other day, you know, cause I was thinking like, why do women always take photographs in front of angel wings? Why do they like butterflies so much? And it dawned on me, angel wings, butterfly, you know, butterflies arise from the cocoon after being a caterpillar. It's a new start. So I think a lot of the times, you know, women will, you know, because of their traumas in, in life and you know the things they go through it's like well we have to put a tattoo with that and put one over here that'll look pretty oh becky got one i have to get one as well sort of thing um so i think a woman without tattoos that hasn't marked her body like that yeah to me it's like chef's kiss it's you know it's a lamborghini without bumper stickers on it i think a lot of women today they go and ruin something of beauty by covering it with bumper stickers it's like putting bumper stickers on a lambo you just don't do it it's a beautiful thing on its own well i'd i would have to agree with you on that one it's not always the case not always the case no um but more often than not it's like tattoos problems it's usually you know they kind of go hand in hand yeah okay moving on to green flags yeah um some of the most the the most overlooked green flags um i think a couple of them would be you want a woman that so when you get sick, that's a really good test.

52:21You know, a woman, does she look after you? Does she find ways to embed herself into your life? Let me cook for you. Let me take care of your laundry. Oh, you need something picked up. No problem. You want a woman that looks for ways that, that where she's going to look after you. Cause I mean, they're, they're nurturing anyway, you know, by nature, right? Like they want to take care of you. So I think that's one of them. I think the other one, um, that is often overlooked is you want a woman that, that finds ways to be useful in your life and looks for ways to form connections with your family, right?

52:53A lot of the times we hear about girlfriends, wives, and then our mothers having issues, like she hates her, or she doesn't want her to do something in your house, or why is she stepping on her feet sort of thing. I think a good woman will find ways of not trying to separate you from family, but to become part of your family and to be useful in your family's life. yeah that makes sense i actually had a an experience last week where i got really sick and without even asking for any help or assistance like she was there that's and that's a great time i was almost like look you really don't need to be here because i'm in a foul mood and i'm fucking dead yeah she she came and she was she was really nice great test yeah yeah um Um, so if a guy is looking for a destination or a place where they're going to improve their chances of finding a good quality woman from your experience, is there any particular region or area or culture where they're going to find the best quality women or can they be found everywhere?

54:01But you just got to look harder. Well, let's define best quality first. Okay. quality um good values lots of green flags not so many red flags not necessarily chasing you know that that boss girl mentality wanting to just work all the time they actually have this desire to be a mother and a good partner yeah you're talking about less than two percent of women probably but um she's probably not going to be a in the west in an urban coastal city uh she's probably going to be living with her parents very low to no notch count listens to her father has a good relationship with her family maybe religious um i don't think you're gonna like you're gonna be hard-pressed to find a quote-unquote good quality woman the way that you described it that's over 30 years old.

54:56She's going to be younger. She's not going to have baggage. She's not going to therapy for some nonsense that she never deals with and complains about all day. She's just a younger, more youthful version of what you see today. I mean, a lot of women today, 30, 40 years old, they'll try to pass themselves off as being more pure, more valuable than what they actually are. And, you know, there's never been a guy in history, I would imagine that's ever said, you know, I wish my wife had fucked 50 more guys before I had, you know, married her sort of thing. So I think if that's what you're looking for, you've got to find somebody younger that doesn't have baggage, that likes her father, that wants to be with a good man, that'll also put up with the shit that you're going to do too, because guys on the top shelf will have boundaries.

55:47And you may do things that she doesn't like, and she's going to have to be okay with you doing things that you don't like. I mean, as long as you take care of her, as long as you look after her, you entertain her a little bit, give her some degree of some of the things that she wants within reason, there should be no reason for her to leave. And I think that women putting up with more of men's, uh, boundaries, women would be wise to do that more often than not, because that's why they find themselves in their thirties trying to get right. They haven't found anything yet. They've had their fun, but they've been through a whole bunch of guys, you know, at that point.

56:23And it's like, what they're doing doesn't work. Right. And they keep leaving guys either because guys are ghosting them or they're breaking up with them because they're not good enough based on their standards. And each time they do that, women have a much lower capacity to pair bond to that guy to put up with stuff. I mean, if you think about it, you know, if a woman has been through 41 guys and gets married and things don't go well in that marriage and, and, you know, she's already broken up 41 times, but what's the big deal with 42? Yeah. versus a chaste virgin that you meet at 21 from some remote Russian village who, you know, her father hands over to you.

57:02She'll probably stick around. She'll probably put up with, you know, like more of your shit, right? This is something which is an interesting observation for me. Like if I do date younger, early twenties, a lot less baggage tends to be more pure and just, I don't know, there's this, there's this life in them. Well, there's a light in the rise. Yeah. But the only issue is because they're much younger, there's kind of this limit to how deep you can go in terms of a conversation because they're just young and they haven't really experienced much of life. So it's like you're kind of showing them the world.

57:39Yeah. You want that. Like you want to be the first one to be showing them the world. I don't want a chick to get in my Porsche and be like, oh yeah, my ex-boyfriend had this car. Yeah. He knows how the handles work. Yeah. Like I want a girl to get in the car. It's like, how do you get out of this car. I've never been in a Porsche before. This is really nice. You want to be her first sort of thing. But I mean, when you talk about the notion of deeper conversations, I think that's where guys go wrong. I don't think that you should expect to have exceptionally deep conversations with women. I think that you can do that with your boys.

58:05I think that women are not programmed to be that part of your life. I mean, if you think about it, thousands of years ago, we would go out hunting for Mastodon and Sabertooth Tiger and probably sit there side by side in the bushes with their spears and bows and arrow, whispering away, you know, talking about life. And then we'd come back to the village and bring home the food and feed everybody. And, you know, they would pat us on the back and have sex with our women sort of thing and make more babies and then go out and do it again. I don't think you would sit around with the women and, you know, talk about, well, what's the strategy for our next conquest?

58:35Which, you know, part of the forest should we go in? Which village should we destroy next? You know, whose resources should we take? I don't think that that's the way that men and women are built together. Like I said, you know, we're not the same. And I think that it's a great disservice when men expect women to be more than what they're capable of. And I think it's the same thing for women. I think women screw up when they ask men to become more than what we are capable of. Yeah. What I do like is if I find somebody who has, maybe it's a skill or an interest, or they do something that I have absolutely no idea about, and it's completely foreign to me.

59:09So I feel like we can have a conversation and I can learn something from them or maybe they're because I don't feel like I'm a very emotional person like I just keep it all bottled in yeah that's how I've always done it so sometimes if we have a conversation and I feel like they've they can bring something out of me that hasn't been brought out before that can be quite nice you know women are lovely aren't they yeah but you have to know what they're capable of on all areas of spectrum you know the nice things they can do and also the things that they do to punish men as well too so understand that what you're dealing with is what it is you know the sun is hot water is wet you know it is what it is um just don't expect everything from them you know would be my guidance on that one yeah i think now my approach has just been don't have of course it's good to have high expectations but usually if i have too high of expectations i feel like i'll just get disappointed sure yeah it's a fair assessment.

1:00:07So I, it sounds like depressing, but sometimes I'm like hoping for the best. There's an expectation for maybe not the worst, but there's an expectation that, you know, it's not going to go as smoothly and as perfectly as I want it to be. Well, I mean, us as guys, we're used to women being difficult. Um, you know, it's often hard to deal with sometimes demanding. Um, women would be wise that are watching this right now to again, find ways to embed themselves into our lives and be useful in our lives and surprise and delight us. You know, like that gal, when you got sick the other day, you thought yourself, just keep her arms length.

1:00:43I don't want you dealing with me. And she insisted on looking after you and doing things for you. And I'm sure at the end of that, you know, you thought yourself, wow, you know, it's pretty good chick. Yeah. Right. Yeah. Yeah. That's how women can win know over men. That's how they can hook us, right? Because not a lot of women will do that. You know, they don't want to be bothered. Ah, what kind of a guy? Oh, you got a guy called, you know, what's the matter with you? They'll mock you sort of thing. It's like, you know, she's mocking you when you're sick. She's done. Yeah. You know what I say to a lot of women, if they want to try and figure out men, they should be watching content that people like you are putting out there.

1:01:18Unfortunately, they don't until they're too old. Yeah. Like, because most women, they'll probably sit down and watch something you'd put out. Yeah. Well, just tell you who else is good. Orion Taraban. Taraban's great. Yeah. I love his stuff. Most women, if they sit down and watch that, they'll probably just be so offended and insulted and just feel like they would, I don't know, need to have an argument with you about whatever you've said. Yeah. And that's not really going to help them out in any way. They need to just sit down, digest it and use that so that they can actually understand men a little bit more.

1:01:50As much as they might not want to hear some of the things which you're saying you know most of the time it's fucking it works i mean most guys that watch your stuff yeah i'm assuming they agreeing with you like how much pushback or arguments are being had in the comment section i don't typically spend much time in the comment section uh you know if i'm being honest but um they will disagree or struggle, you know, it's like a jagged pill to try to swallow, you know, for a lot of guys, especially when their investments in life, like their ego investments in a certain protocol, just be a nice guy, you know, become less so she can become more.

1:02:30Um, you know, when the ego invest in a certain protocols is very difficult for them to sort of change that software programming. It's usually chaos that comes into our lives as men that, that, that force us to look for answers. And I think the cool thing about men that I really like is that men are, uh, problem solvers genuinely like from a genetic level, I find more so than women. So at some point when the chaos hits and it hits hard and it hits enough times in their life, they'll at some point, and this is what I did go asking questions like, okay, this, this is consistently happening in my relationships.

1:03:09What am I doing wrong? And then you look at the guy in the mirror and you hold that guy accountable. And I think that's where the magic is for guys and that's where they can level up and that's where they can become the better version of themselves is when they take that accountability and they deal with those uncomfortable conversations or something I may have said or something that's in one of my books that doesn't sit well. Go over it again. Lean into it. Like there's some darkness there. Like what is it that you're disagreeing with? And the challenge that I always leave people with that say, well, you're wrong.

1:03:36Okay, well, what's your better solution? Right? Like, you know, come at me with your better solution and let's see what that looks like. Yeah. because I haven't seen anything better. Yeah. You know, in some of your recent videos, you, are you reacting to what other women have said on social media? Yeah. And then you're kind of reviewing what they're. Yeah. A lot of the times it seems to do well on YouTube is, you know, there's a statement by, you know, like made by a woman and I can use that to sort of like, okay, you know, here's an example of this thing. And then I'll explain to you what she's doing.

1:04:04And now I'm going to offer you a prescription. One of the things that I like to do is at least offer a solution to the problem. So it's a lot easier when you've got like a starting talking point and there's so many TikTok reels and things out there, women just unloading their emotional damage on the internet, sitting in their car crying about something that's not going their way. And, you know, you can, you can certainly use it as a starting point. And then you explain that, that, that, that thinking that they use. And then you say to Matt, okay, well, this is your solution to this problem. And that's what I try to do.

1:04:35Yeah, because I was going to say, being in the game for so long, creating content, you must have covered almost everything. Everything's been covered, yeah. I'm just saying it from different angles. It's like I'm saying, here's this glass, and let's photograph it from here. Let's photograph it from here. Let's look at it from here. So oftentimes, you tend to cover a very similar topic over and over again. But is there the same common themes or questions that keep cropping up that you find? Yeah, I mean, the same questions often come up, and you asked a few of them during the podcast. It's like, where do you find a quality woman?

1:05:06Yeah. You know, things like that. And I think that you have to understand female nature. And when you understand what women are, oftentimes the definition of a quality woman doesn't really meet. It doesn't really exist, right? Like women are women, men are men, and you know, we're going to do what we're going to do anyway. But I think understanding that, that nature and what women typically respond to just makes things a lot easier for us. Yeah. When it comes to having kids, maybe someone's thinking about having kids. Uh, is there a protocol that you need to have, or maybe some, a checklist ticked off before you do it or just go for it?

1:05:44I mean, it depends what you're straight. Yeah. Don't, don't go for it. Um, most guys will spend more time researching the fuel economy of their next car, what the trunk space is, how fast it goes zero to 60 than vetting a woman. Most guys today, their vetting process is, well, she responded to my text and touches my PP. So I'm going to marry her. Yeah. Honestly, it's, it's like the bar is so low, it's pathetic. And, and that usually means that most women don't get their first choice, right? You know, they end up with their third or fourth choice if they're lucky. So as far as children goes, I think that you have to decide, do you want to have how many kids you want to have?

1:06:20Do you want to have them with multiple women? Do you want to live in a way that looks like marriage? Is it a religious ceremony? Is religion important to you? personally if you want to have kids I think it would be best to not marry any woman that brings the red flags that I talk about in my first book look for as many of the green flags I talk about in the second book spend a good two-year vetting period getting to know her see how she behaves when you travel when the luggage gets lost does she have a meltdown does you start yelling at the clerk behind the counter she entitled bratty how does she behave when you get sick how does she deal with your family, like a proper vetting period to really see what she's made of.

1:07:00And then even then, if you're going to get married, I mean, half the time it's going to end in divorce and you're going to lose your shit. So if you're going to get married and you're insistent on that, have a prenup in place, live in a way that minimizes the risk. So if you live in North America, you know, for example, there's certain states where it's default 50-50 custody. Like in Kentucky, they passed a law recently where they made it default 50-50. So if you get divorced, there's no fighting over the kids. it's it's half time with both parents and guess what happened to the divorce rate in kentucky dropped like 25 because women were not incentivized to get divorced and keep custody of the kids they they figured okay well i'm not going to get the money anymore i'm not going to have control of the kids so why get divorced yeah right so i would look for opportunities and places where family law doesn't hate dads as well but i think ideally um i mean if you want to have kids um you know for guys like us, you're probably better off paying very close attention to all these things beyond everything that I've talked to and probably not living with her.

1:07:59You could have a nice apartment like this and she lives on the next floor and you go visit her. Which you pay for. Yeah. I mean, if you're going to have authority over the relationship, you need to have responsibility for the relationship. The problem today is men still have responsibility, but they have no authority. They've let that be taken away from them. And you need to reclaim that component of the relationship. And women actually want most guys to be the authority in the relationship. That's a red flag if she doesn't. Yeah. I, myself personally, wouldn't be surprised if that happens for me, because this is like my apartment.

1:08:38I do a lot of my work here. I need to have complete concentration. Yeah. You couldn't do this with children running around. No. No. No. But of course, I would never expect my partner to be, oh yeah, well you pay the rent for the other place. Girlfriend or wife?

1:08:54I don't want to say this because I want to keep my cards close to my chest, but I don't think I'm getting married. Well, I'm just correcting you on the word partner, that's all. Okay, yeah. Who's, do you know anybody that's having kids with multiple women and it's actually working out for them? Well, no. Because I think that there's always an area of improvement. And I've talked to a lot of guys now. I've talked to polygynous guys. I've talked to Muslim guys. I've talked to guys that don't subscribe to any organized religion that do it. Unfortunately - Is this something they've chosen to do? Yeah.

1:09:31Yeah, they have. Yeah. I mean, we could use the example of the Tate brothers because they're open about it anyway. They've got multiple children with multiple women and they don't live with them. They live with each other. They're boys sort of thing. the guys lived yeah um and then there's guys that are polygynous that actually live with all their wives but you know they've got wives and children together and i've seen problems because either the government doesn't like that they're living with multiple women or one of the women creates a problem for them i think that whenever you deal with women and you invite them in your life and you invite more of them into your life you you really have to have like strong game yeah and you also have to structure your life in such a way that any kind of damage that could come is mitigated substantially.

1:10:15Yeah. Right. Like if I'm going to go and do 200 miles an hour in a car, I want a car that has airbags, seatbelt, five point harness, roll cage, and I'm wearing a helmet and a Hans device. I don't want to be in a 1950 Mustang, you know, with like a lap belt and that's it, you know, sort of thing. So, I mean, you kind of want to put some precautionary steps in place, which is unfortunate because this is the only time in history really that men had to consider things like this to have a whole bunch of children. Yeah. Um, yeah, it's a much longer conversation. We'd have to talk about that for several hours and probably privately.

1:10:49Cause imagine if a guy financially absolutely fine, better than fine. And he wants to have as many kids as possible. He wants to have like 10 kids. That can be quite a burden to expect that from one woman yeah well it's difficult to have that you want me to have 10 kids like maybe not even possible yeah so for someone like that their only option would be to have kids with multiple women but from from every way that i've tried to look at it i'm not saying that's necessarily something i want but it just seems like such a big headache that i i don't think i don't think i got a game for that to be honest yeah and you're mike thurston yeah um yeah it's it's not that it's impossible.

1:11:31It's just that you're always going to like invite some level of complexity in your life. The more you deal with more women. And then the kids as well, like there's, then you've got the children and then you've got, how are you going to bring them up? Are they aligned with your goals? Um, I think that if you're going to do it, the easiest path to follow would be Islam. Um, you know, I got very curious about Islam. You know, I came here and I talked to a few guys about it and how they structure their life and their children, how they raise them sort of thing. And I think that if there's guidance there in a certain religion and the women subscribe to it and they follow it to a T and they're agreeable and they want to be led, you know, by a guy sort of thing, I think if you're going to use like a religious model, that would probably be the best one.

1:12:12So that might be an angle to sort of consider, but it's not easy, man. It's a much longer conversation and some of the stuff that we talk about would have to be private too. Yeah. Awesome. Well, enjoyed this conversation. hopefully everybody else has make sure you check out the first book and this one which is now available yeah on amazon where can people find you uh just go to rich cooper.ca or if you want to find me on the internets uh just go to youtube and search for entrepreneurs and cars it's my main channel nice thank you very much man thanks for having me man