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4 Jun 2026 · 31m · 16 chapters

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Book Club Meets: Tradwives and the manosphere, with Caro Claire Burke

In short

Happy Place Book Club discussion of Caro Claire Burke’s novel Yesteryear, focusing on modern tradwife culture, the manosphere, social-media performance, internalized misogyny, and motherhood pressures. The episode also covers the book’s structure and twist, plus the upcoming film adaptation.

Guest backgrounds

Caro Claire Burke is the author of Yesteryear (debut thriller/comedy). Fern Cotton hosts; other book-club members (Steph, Vicky, Taylor) share reactions. (No other named guests besides Caro Claire Burke.)

Key claims

Themes weren’t “consciously” planned; they emerged from the protagonist Natalie’s voice and obsession with motherhood and workplace life. The twist is designed to be meaningful on reread. Natalie is unlikable, but readers connect to her adversity and catharsis. Parenting is portrayed as performative and judgment-heavy online.

Notable examples

Natalie Heller’s “perfect” tradwife influencer persona with hidden staff/appliances; the protagonist’s belief she’s in a reality-TV-like scenario while experiencing abuse; comparisons to postpartum struggles, breastfeeding/formula judgment, and “perfect mum” expectations. Anne Hathaway is adapting the book into a film.

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Chapters

0:45

Exploring the Concept of Trad Wives

Discussion about the term 'trad wife' and its implications.

“Now that she was creeping toward womanhood, I found our similarities a bit unnerving.”
2:12

Reacting to 'Yesteryear'

First impressions and reactions to the book 'Yesteryear'.

“because you lot have been loving it too.”
3:08

Themes and Characters in 'Yesteryear'

Analysis of the characters and themes explored in 'Yesteryear'.

“What I wasn't expecting from yesteryear was how deeply unsettling it was to read.”
5:28

Themes and Characters in 'Yesteryear'

Analysis of the characters and themes explored in 'Yesteryear'.

“We built Serval to automate the IT work that slows companies down.”
6:18

Caro's Journey and Themes

Caro discusses her writing process and themes in 'Yesteryear'.

“Caro, welcome to Happy Place and welcome to the UK.”
7:22

Societal Pressures in Motherhood

Discussion on the societal expectations placed on women in motherhood.

“Now, there are many themes in this book which jump out.”
9:32

The Complexity of Modern Parenting

Exploration of the complexities and performance aspects of modern parenting.

“that over the last two years, so much has happened that I think makes this book more relevant than ever before.”
10:40

Conversations Across Beliefs

Caro reflects on conversations with women of various beliefs inspired by her book.

“So I think she almost feels an entitlement to it in a way, which is interesting.”
11:52

Writing Unlikable Characters

Caro discusses the challenge of writing an unlikable protagonist.

“everything's organic and everything's amazing and i think a lot of us are feeling that pressure and going, this seems mad.”
14:03

Exploring Unlikable Characters

Discussion on the challenges and intrigue of writing unlikable protagonists.

“use like a really annoying phrase, but it really was something like I've had so many interesting conversations with deeply religious, deeply traditional women in the States while on tour.”
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16:41

The Art of Twists in Storytelling

Insights into the creation and significance of plot twists in fiction.

“I'm going to be very careful with the words that I choose, but I didn't understand what was happening in the twist until I was literally deep in.”
19:09

Adapting a Novel for Film

Reflections on the experience of adapting a book into a movie and the collaborative process involved.

“But I don't think I will process that for another decade.”
22:29

The Writing Process and Overcoming Doubts

Insightful discussion on writing habits, overcoming burnout, and the persistence needed in creative pursuits.

“I'd love to know more about your process in, okay, you've got the idea, it's landed in your head.”
28:00

The Journey of Writing and Creativity

Explore the struggles and triumphs of the writing process and creativity.

“And I was like, I don't remember these guys.”
30:28

Celebrating a New Literary Work

Discussion on the impact and themes of the new book by Caro Claire Burke.

“debate about, which we can't do too much of because I don't want to spoil too much because Because it is one of those books where you just need to start.”
31:18

Introducing Next Month's Book

Preview of the upcoming book 'Honey' by Amani Thompson and its intriguing premise.

“Oh, Caro, thank you so much for your time.”
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0:00Fearne Cotton: I watched through the mirror as Clementine crossed the room and sat next to the girls on my bed. What does trad wife mean? Hello and welcome to the Happy Place Book Club with me, Fern Cotton. Who said that word to you? Today, Yesteryear by Caro Claire Burke. Trad wife, Jessa said and giggled. She threw her head back and said it again. Trad wife. It almost seemed possible Clementine might hear the mechanical clicks of my brain as it whirred into warp speed, sorting through 500 possible answers to that question. My eldest daughter was like me, not just in likeness, but in disposition, too. She held her intelligence like a knife behind her back.

0:49Now that she was creeping toward womanhood, I found our similarities a bit unnerving.

0:55Fearne Cotton: like watching a clone of myself walk slowly toward me from a faraway point in the distance. What would happen when she arrived? I'm aware this isn't the kind of thing you're meant to feel about your own daughter, but motherhood is its own kind of curation. Which is to say, every woman I know lied to me about what it would be like before I became one myself.

1:25Fearne Cotton: Right now, Natalie Heller is a trad wife influencer online. She's got the perfect life, a brood of beautiful children and a handsome cowboy husband who eats her homemade bread and jams in their gorgeous red barn. What her millions of followers don't know is that she's got a whole army of hidden staff and industrial kitchen appliances helping her out. Then, one day, she wakes up in the 1800s and is forced to live this traditional fantasy for real. You will not see the mad twist in this book coming. I blimmin' well didn't. It's absolutely incredible. Even as I was reading the twist, I was like, wait, what is going on?

2:09Fearne Cotton: I'm so delighted that we picked Yesteryear as our Happy Place Book Club read for May because you lot have been loving it too. Here's Steph. Hi, Fern. I absolutely loved Yesteryear. What I found really interesting was the way that it explored how easy it was to romanticise the past, whereas the reality is if people were actually to go back there, I don't think they would be able to cope. I know I certainly wouldn't. I found the main character really believable and scarily similar to a lot of tradwife and thwinces that we kind of see, which is, again, scary. And one of the bits that really stuck for me was the fact that she thought she was experiencing like part of a reality TV show, which is quite scary in a way because when you think about it reality tv has become so extreme and outlandish that she could almost rationalize that the abuse that she was suffering was that there's something that people would actually watch and accept i thought the book handled it in a really clever way and it was just very interesting to kind of see well steph vicky's got some thoughts on main character natalie too hello fern and happy place book club what a book yesteryear was i absolutely adored it.

3:16Fearne Cotton: What I wasn't expecting from yesteryear was how deeply unsettling it was to read. It's almost like I had a knot in my stomach when I was reading it because it was so uncomfortable at times. Part of the reason for this is that Natalie is such an unlikable main character and we as readers are not used to protagonists who have next to no redeeming qualities when they are portrayed as not a typical evil person. I had several theories whilst reading the book as to what the ending would be and how it would play out, but I was thrilled to discover that I was completely wrong. Finally, upon finishing and reflecting on the book, I also loved the contradictions and differences between the life choices of Natalie and her college roommate Rina as they go down very different paths.

4:06Fearne Cotton: But neither was without judgment, struggle and complications, emphasising the fact that no matter what choices women make in life, we can never win in this society. And this is Taylor. She's got some great takes on the writing itself. I absolutely devoured Yesteryear. I found the story totally gripping from the get-go. I thought the writing style was really interesting because you felt kind of uncomfortable when you were reading the book and it was almost like you were watching it from the outside kind of like following her on social media and getting the two sides of the story I felt like it covered really good themes in terms of the manosphere and other amazing topics like femininity social media and this idea of you know perception and basically the two sides to every story.

4:57Fearne Cotton: I've recommended it to so many people. As you lot have just got into it there, there are so many meaty topics in this book. The manosphere, motherhood, religion, modern feminism. So I was really fascinated to hear from Caro how she managed to weave such heavy topics into a fiction so seamlessly. And of course, I had to talk to her about the fact that Anne Hathaway is turning Yesteryear into a film.

5:27I'm Jake Stouck, co-founder and CEO of Serval. We built Serval to automate the IT work that slows companies down. Onboarding, password resets, access to applications, my laptop stopped working. While employees wait for help, their real work is put on hold. IT desperately wants to automate this work and that's why they need Serval. You just tell Serval what you want to automate in plain English and it's built. No drag and drop workflows, no expensive consultants. Employees get unblocked and IT teams go from drowning in tickets to building what actually matters. With Serval, IT becomes the AI engine powering the entire company.

6:06This is a new way to run IT. We guarantee you'll automate 50 % of all tickets and we'll prove it to you in a free four-week pilot. Go to serval.com slash ACAST. That's S-E-R-V-A-L dot com slash ACAST.

6:25Fearne Cotton: Right, let's do it. Here's the show.

6:48Fearne Cotton: Caro, welcome to Happy Place and welcome to the UK. Thanks for having me. This is so fun. I am so thrilled to meet you because this book, holy shit, I don't even know where to begin. I don't even know what to say. From the second I started reading the first page, I was like, oh, I am in. Oh, I love it. And I couldn't put it down. One of those books where I was like, you know, come back from work, deal with the children, get into bed. I've got heavy eyes. And the next, you know, it's midnight and I'm still, I think I read it in about three days. Oh, this makes me so happy. It's genius. Thank you.

7:25Fearne Cotton: It's genius. Now, there are many themes in this book which jump out. You've got the sort of modern day trad wife. You've got social media and the sort of fake ass reality that is sort of constantly see on there and can't differentiate between. Is this someone's reality or not? You've got sort of internalized misogyny going on. You've got money and power. There's so many interesting themes. Was there an initial one that you were like, I want to write about this? No, you know, the themes really weren't on purpose. I think it was because I knew the general conceit that I wanted, like the idea of this woman waking up in a different time period.

8:04And I had never written a thriller before and I had also never written comedy. And so when I found Natalie's voice, it was almost like she was obsessed with these things. And so then I think that if I had tried to include all these themes consciously, it would have not worked. or at least like you know I like to think that it works and I think I would have been really jammed down with it and I think because I was just focusing on Natalie it just kind of came and then in later drafts you can edit it and start to really think about it but with the first draft I think it was really just her obsession with motherhood or with the modern workplace or what have you that kind of came out as an aside and I didn't really think about it too hard.

8:42Fearne Cotton: Oh it's so clever because I think also I don't know how it feels in the States at the moment but in the UK there is a lot of conversation around the whole trad wife situation, toxic masculinity. And we're really sort of seeing those themes rise up culturally in terms of documentaries that we're watching and more factual stuff that we're reading. So to weave it into a fiction seems so perfectly timed. Was that kind of a coincidence or is it just on your mind at the moment? Can I tell you? So I sold this book two years ago. And when I went to auction with it, I spoke with a bunch of editors in New York.

9:17and there were a small handful who said, we've got to rush this because it won't be relevant in a few years. And I'm not happy that it's relevant. Like, wouldn't it have been nice? I would happily have taken my book no longer being relevant for a world where this, you know, was solved. But it is funny when I think about it that over the last two years, so much has happened that I think makes this book more relevant than ever before. But really, no, when we were writing it, there was, I mean, there was a period of time right after I sold Yestria where we thought in the States we were going to have our first woman president.

9:47So there have been so many different political moments that have taken place in the past two years. And yeah, the Manosphere is one example that has just exploded in conversation in the last two years.

9:57Fearne Cotton: Oh, my God. I know there's a documentary over here at the moment. Have you watched it with Louis Theroux, right? Yeah, yeah, yeah. And it's fascinating. I think you would absolutely, well, you won't love it because you'll feel deeply angry. But it's very, very interesting watching the interaction between Louis Theroux and the men that are kind of in the Manosphere, quite actively in the Manosphere. Natalie the protagonist as you say is obsessed with motherhood but she's obsessed with like the idea of it rather than doing it she actually to me seems to hate every part of it was that quite complicated to write it was complicated because she also wants so badly for it to work like I Natalie is someone who who has been told her whole life that motherhood would come naturally to her.

10:42So I think she almost feels an entitlement to it in a way, which is interesting. And yeah, she's very cold. Like she has a very transactional relationship to it. And I think, you know, so many books about motherhood are very sensual or like about the body and talk a lot very fairly about how motherhood changes the body. And Natalie never thinks about that at all. Like she doesn't think about how breastfeeding changes, you know, her nipples or how it really feels. And I think that part of it is because she's kind of dissociating.

11:10Fearne Cotton: Yeah. But I think also it speaks massively to whether you're like Natalie or not, the societal pressures for women in particular, when it comes to parenting are so huge and disproportionate that all of the weight of parenting or a lot of it is put on the female in the relationship. If they're in a heterosexual relationship, the pressure to be the perfect mum. And I think when I look back at my mum's generation parenting was like feed them clothe them love them so much less pressure we're done yeah and now it's this exactly what natalie is aspiring to which is this perfect from the outside parenting where everyone looks a certain way and they're doing baking and everything's natural and everything's organic and everything's amazing and i think a lot of us are feeling that pressure and going, this seems mad.

12:02Yeah. Did you, were you around for the Tamagotchi craze? Oh yeah. Yeah. I feel like kids have become like the most complicated Tamagotchi of all time and they're already complicated. Like I've spent time with newborns before and like, it's already a very intense experience regardless. But the idea that your child continues to be complicated and not just the care of your child, of keeping them alive and keeping them loved, but the performance of care and the idea of other people seeing you as the right type of parent. I mean, I am like amazed at how intense and frankly, judgmental conversations are even just between women about, are you breastfeeding or giving your kid formula?

12:44You know, what school, what type of child care? Do you have a nanny? Do you do daycare? And the irony is that most people just make these decisions based off of what they can do. It's just about survival most of the time.

12:54Fearne Cotton: I mean, it absolutely is and I think you're so right the the new sort of visual medium of seeing parenthood as something performative if it's online and some people do a very good job of showing their reality and the ups and downs and the mess of being a parent but of course you also get those Instagram pages or YouTube whatever where it all looks perfect and then you start to compare yourself to other people like oh my god my kid doesn't eat kale or you know whatever it might be it's kind of this whole new realm of parenting that is there for us to see whereas you know 10 20 years ago it'd be what are my mates doing are we kind of got the same set of values here we kind of all trying our best whereas now it's like oh my god my kids haven't got matching outfits and they're not clean all the time or whatever it might be it's a whole nother layer totally yeah it is and i think obviously there are a lot of different political themes in this book but i think my experience of writing it was realizing how universal these struggles are regardless of what your politics are.

13:52Like the pressure of being the right type of mother, the right type of wife, I don't think it ever goes away. And I think that that's something that we could find more common ground on, not to use like a really annoying phrase, but it really was something like I've had so many interesting conversations with deeply religious, deeply traditional women in the States while on tour. And the amount we have in common is staggering. Like it's just everyone is up against the wall.

14:18Fearne Cotton: How interesting. So when you're having these conversations, because, you know, Natalie isn't particularly likable as a character, which again is a very... But both liberal and conservative women don't like her. So that's kind of the thing. Well, that's handy. But I think it's tricky to write a book where the protagonist is unlikable and keep people along with the character because you could easily go, I'm ditching her. I don't want to know about her. But you're so intrigued and fascinated by her psyche that you want to know where she ends up mentally and how she manages to navigate it. It's a very tricky thing to do.

14:49Fearne Cotton: But I'm interested. So when you're having these conversations with people that may align with Natalie's religious beliefs or political beliefs or the way that she wants to live her life, and you're writing about her in quite an unlikable way, how does that go down with people that resonate with her? You know, before the book came out, I was more worried about it. And I really was worried that she would just be too off-putting. I love her, but I am aware, you know, I've been writing for a long time. I got my graduate degree in writing, so I know the game with unlikable women. And I think what's been really amazing is that so many women see her struggle.

15:24And I think that experiencing that struggle on the page allows people to have a little bit of catharsis of their own. And so, for example, when women come up and talk to me about Natalie, the first 45 seconds are about, oh, my God, she was so difficult, but I also loved her. But then we are very quickly talking about their lives. And so someone is saying, you know, my postpartum experience was really rough and it was really cathartic to read that. Or like, you know, I have gone down these rabbit holes of what type of birth I want to have medicated or home birth or what have you. Or, you know, my mom didn't have access to her finances.

16:00My dad totally controlled the finances. And when they got divorced, it was a nightmare. And so it's so interesting how I feel like Natalie is almost a Rorschach test. And women are immediately thinking. And again, not everyone. Some people might hate her, but the women I've spoken with really seem to connect not with her personality, but with the adversity that she moves through. And that's what they're more fixated on.

16:21Fearne Cotton: Yeah, I get it because she's just coping in the best way that she can. Yeah. And she might not be relatable, but what she's going through is very common. Yeah. The twist. The twist. Are we doing spoilers or no? I don't think we're even going to say what the twist is because I want people who are listening to this who haven't read it. I know. to just have their own experience. I'm going to be very careful with the words that I choose, but I didn't understand what was happening in the twist until I was literally deep in. I was like, oh, right. Just the way that it unfurled is so smart. Oh, thank you.

17:01Fearne Cotton: It's so smart. I mean, how, because you could have gone in so many different directions with how it panned out. Like you said, you had the initial idea. Yes. You wanted your protagonist to experience a different time in history. So you could have laid the book out in a completely different way. But the way that you just kept it, the momentum going and then this twist, honestly, it blew my mind. Oh, thank you. Yeah. I mean, twists are very controversial always. So I knew that it just had to be something. It had to be the twist that I would live with. It was like, this has to be for me because any twist you write, only a certain number of people are going to find it satisfying.

17:41And so I knew from the jump what it was going to be. And I will say, I didn't figure it out smoothly. Like it was really a trial and error all the way. But me and my UK and US editors worked so hard to layer this out so that if anyone reads the twist, I really wanted it to be a book that like when you find out the twist, it doesn't feel like, well, now I'm done. I really wanted it to feel like something of, oh, I feel like if I could reread this, it would still be meaningful. Yes. So there are so many Easter eggs. We worked so hard to make it feel like if anyone ever wants to read it again to better understand it or just to enjoy it, every scene should be felt differently.

18:20And that was what I really want. More than like the landing of the twist, I wanted it to feel like something that held up under multiple rounds of scrutiny. And that was really important to me.

18:29Fearne Cotton: I mean, it does. Without giving away anything. It's so hard. The bit where she finds what she thinks is the head of a microphone in the yard. That wouldn't leave my brain. I was like, what does it mean? And I just couldn't figure it out. Honestly, it's so clever. It's so clever. Now, this has already been sold as a film. This has been made, being made? It's being made. It's being made. I mean, that must be a huge trip. Something that you've dreamed up in your head. I can't even imagine that process of you've got the words, You've got the structure of it. And then it's quite literally brought to life.

19:07Yeah. I mean, I'm sure I'm sure you've had plenty of these moments in your own career because you're such a multi hyphenate. But I don't think I will process that for another decade. I feel very lucky. And I sold the rights shortly after I sold the book. And I remember when I found out the people who were interested in it, I still haven't fully processed it. But it's a it's an unbelievable team. Obviously, Anne is at the as at the lead of it. And then it's basically like an all woman team at Amazon. and it's just these people care so much about this story and it's going to be amazing. I think it's going to be an amazing movie.

19:38Fearne Cotton: Have you sat with Anne Hathaway to chat about the whole project, the book? We've had a few conversations, yeah. Yeah, she's brilliant. I have, I mean, I already got the sense of that before I met her, but she is like truly an artist. And I remember I was kind of nervous going through that process because it's a lot and I just felt really out of my depths and I had felt kind of overwhelmed and that was the meeting where I finished it and just thought it has to go to her. and my agents were like okay hold on because now we have to go through negotiations but I just said it's only going to go to her.

20:08Fearne Cotton: Well you want your baby to be in the best hand you want to see it come to life in the way that you would imagine it to be fitting. Yeah and I wanted it to go to someone who was enough of an artist that it doesn't to me I don't need the book to be a one-to-one faithful adaptation I want someone to take this story and turn it into a movie and a movie has totally different advantages than a book. And so any artist worth their salt would know that and would be like, here's how we're going to take the essence of this and then make it cinematic. And those were the conversations I had where I was like, you understand this really well.

20:40Fearne Cotton: And how much letting go do you have to do in that process? Because obviously it is somebody else's adaptation of your story. Does that sit okay with you? Totally. I totally let go from the jump. I think it's because I've had such a dissociative experience from the jump. It was very easy for me to be like, all right, click that part of my brain off, click that part of my brain off. But no, I mean, I don't feel precious about it. I think I wrote my novel. I think that they will make certain changes to make the movie better. And I think that's great. And that's kind of what it is. Yeah. Holy shit.

21:10Fearne Cotton: Imagine that moment where you're sat in a cinema. I don't know if I'll be able to watch it, to be honest. I feel like that'll, maybe that'll be when my brain clicks back on. I cannot wait. Do we have a timeline? Do we know? I don't think I can talk about Timeline, but I know that they're chugging along. I think that's what I can say. I am buzzing. I mean, I've told everyone who will listen about this book. Oh, thank you. Like literally every friend, I'm like, this is the one novel you have to read this year. I am literally buzzing about it.

21:39I'm Jake Stouck, co-founder and CEO of Serval. We built Serval to automate the IT work that slows companies down. Onboarding, password resets, access to applications, my laptop stopped working. While employees wait for help, their real work is put on hold. IT desperately wants to automate this work, and that's why they need Serval. You just tell Serval what you want to automate in plain English, and it's built. No drag-and-drop workflows, no expensive consultants. Employees get unblocked, and IT teams go from drowning in tickets to building what actually matters. With Serval, IT becomes the AI engine powering the entire company.

22:18This is a new way to run IT. We guarantee you'll automate 50 % of all tickets and we'll prove it to you in a free four-week pilot. Go to serval.com slash ACAST. That's S-E-R-V-A-L dot com slash ACAST.

22:36Fearne Cotton: I'd love to know more about your process in, okay, you've got the idea, it's landed in your head. you know you've got to flesh it out what's your process in actually getting that down on paper is a certain time of day you like to write how long do you like to write for the first draft of this was very urgent and I do think that it shows in the pages it was very much just me figuring out the plot and the emotional experience of the characters and I wrote that very quickly over about a two-month period in the winter and it was very yeah it was crazy it was just me waking up I had a job at the time.

23:09So I would wake up at like four in the morning and write. And then, you know, I would do work and then I would write at night. And I already had an agent at the time, which was amazing. So she was very in on this and I was sending her pages. And so we were working very quickly. And then once I sold the book, I was able to kind of sit back with my editors and really think like what, again, it's hard to talk about the research that I did and didn't want to do without talking about spoilers. But I'll just say there were decisions about what to research, what elements of that to incorporate into the fiction, what to manipulate, what to invert.

23:42Like there are so many different elements of that. And that took a lot of time. And then making the twist land. Yeah. The twist, I always had the same twist, but it was nowhere near as interwoven as I will say that this one is now. And so, yeah, I really, that was what took the most time was sitting with that and just feeling like, okay, does this actually all work?

24:04Fearne Cotton: Oh, my God. I mean, there are moments, I guess, I've only written one fiction myself, but where everything starts to fit together like a little puzzle, like, oh, and now we are in the place where this all makes sense. Yeah, it is truly the best feeling in the world. Okay, so the process is you're getting up at four. It's urgent. You're getting it out. For anybody out there who is thinking, I've got an idea and I really want to get this out of me and start writing my debut fiction, whether it's for fun or you actually want to get it out there. Have you got any tips? What would you tell people who are in that position?

24:42Oh, I mean, you just can't stop. I wrote for a decade. You know, this is this obviously it's, you know, my debut novel, meaning my first published novel. But I've been writing and chasing ideas since I was 20. So I think that there is a certain element of like you have to believe in yourself to a delusional degree. And again, I'm sure this is something that you can relate to in a number of ways. The level of rejection that you move through as an artist would take down an elephant. And every single artist I have met who has succeeded has the same exact story, which is a delusional belief in themselves.

25:15Like I could list and something that helps me is start to look at origin stories like Greta Gerwig, I know, applied to every screenwriting graduate school and was rejected from all of them. Ta-Nehisi Coates talks about this. So many famous books were rejected by dozens and dozens. To Kill a Mockingbird was rejected, I think, from 70 editors until someone published it. So I really think people often view it as like, how do I make this one project work? And my thing is, you don't know which project is going to work. You just have to do every project. If you want this to be your life, you really just have to keep doing it until it works, because otherwise it's too easy to kind of give up.

25:54Fearne Cotton: Yeah. Do you know what? I was having this exact conversation with a very good friend of mine last week, and he writes scripts and short comedy scripts, and he acts in them too. and he'd had one really great project that had done very well online and is now on a second and a third one and he's like oh I don't know if they're landing as well and we had this whole chat about all of it's worth it because it's more mileage you're you're learning yeah you're it's more practice it's more learning it's more feedback and some of that feedback like you say is so painful yeah has there ever been a point where you've thought I'm gonna give up or I'm gonna stop every other day I will say um the reason I so this this novel came from a time period in the winter where I was on TikTok the reason I was on TikTok that winter and the reason I became aware of Tradwives was because I had just submitted I'd finished my second novel my second manuscript that I was working on the previous summer I shopped it around no one wanted it radio silence in New York that fall I reached out to my agent who I still have who I love and And I just said, I think I need to be done with writing for a year.

26:58I was just so exhausted, so burnt out. And so this novel essentially came out of me feeling like I had given up. And I think it's really indicative of by this point, I had developed such a muscle for writing. It really was just like, I remember when I started writing, I just kind of told myself, well, if this one fails too, you've just lost two months. You just lost a few months. So you just really have to get comfortable with this idea of failure because you know it's not this book has done really well thank goodness but I might write another manuscript and then trash it like it never ends it's really just a lifestyle well exactly and what a healthy way to look at it because I think if you're constantly chasing when I'm crying in my bathroom it still hurts.

27:43Fearne Cotton: Do you know what? It's such a pertinent conversation because I am halfway through two novels. Two. One, I started writing. I was really into it. And then I had a bunch of stuff happening in my life. So I just naturally pressed pause and then I couldn't get back into it. I'd left it too long. And I was like, I don't remember these guys. Like, who are they? And what do they feel? And I just thought, and then I had another idea, started writing it got halfway through and then I started to have doubts about one part of it that sort of blocked me and I've never really had that when I'm blocked to the point of and I don't think I can continue with it or I certainly feel like you did that winter where you were like I'm burnt out I've written lots of books on the trot and I maybe need to not write so I like it again yeah that's the thing it's you cannot tie you cannot tie your creativity to one project and I have a few friends that I've spoken with who are like, if this one just doesn't work, then that's when I'm going to quit.

28:43And I've been there and I've felt that a million times. But I think I realize now the secret is you don't know which one's going to work. I've loved every project as much as I love this book. I've been as proud of every project. No one works on books for years unless you feel like there's something there, however small that kernel is. So people always ask me, like, how did you know this one was different? And I'm like, I didn't. You think I would have spent years

29:06Fearne Cotton: on those other novels if I didn't think those were going to work? That's so good to hear because I think, you know, I'll sit here and I'm so in awe of this book and your writing and your skill and your talent and you could think, oh, I'm never going to have a book that lands that well or resonates. But like you say, you don't know. You love all the projects you're working on as much. It's just the right timing. It's the right, you know, and you've obviously put hours and hours into this to have the skill to write this in two months. But I think there is a certain amount of other people at the right time resonating with that story.

29:41Fearne Cotton: Right. And it comes to life. And it lands. And Ta-Nehisi Coates has talked about this where the longer you stick it out, the better you are. And all of a sudden you are one of the best people in the game. And so I've loved everything I've written. But I think this is probably the best thing I've written so far. Not because of some magic, but because I have 10 years now of effort. And so I think that's another thing is like I try to tell myself, well, if I just stick it out for another year, you've got another year under your belt. And I think I felt that way with yesteryear. Yeah. Oh, my God. Well, it is just fucking phenomenal.

30:14Fearne Cotton: I can't wait for everybody in our book club to go out and get this book and discuss it because there are so many themes to talk about, so many angles at which you could come at this storyline and have a really deep debate about, which we can't do too much of because I don't want to spoil too much because Because it is one of those books where you just need to start. And within the first page, you're like, I was so intrigued with Natalie from the fucking get go. Like from the first page, who is she? Why does she think like this? And how is this going to end? It's just brilliant. Thank you so much.

30:49I mean, I felt the same way. I'm grateful. I'm grateful for the experience of writing Natalie. It was truly a pleasure from start to finish.

30:56Fearne Cotton: I bet it was. It's amazing. Well, look, congratulations. Thank you. You can just see that this book is just going to have a life of its own now. It's just going to keep on going. I'm going to turn off my phone and I'm going to let it go. Let it go into the world. It's so brilliant. And thank you so much for being on Happy Place. And thank you for being our book of the month. Thank you for having me. It is the privilege of a lifetime. I am so honored. Oh, Caro, thank you so much for your time. What a book. I'm sort of unbelievably full of joy that I got to read it slash so jealous. Because what an idea.

31:30Fearne Cotton: what an idea and how brilliantly executed this book will stay with me for a very long time all right then do you want to know what we're reading next June's book is called Honey and it's by Amani Thompson Yersa doesn't really intend to kill anyone but the Cambridge professor sitting opposite her has manipulated her friend and stolen her research so when she flicks a bee into his drink. She just thinks he'll get a nasty little sting. But now he's dead. And it's a sweet, sweet feeling for Yersa, finally having some control. This is another bloody incredible debut novel. So let's chat about it on Instagram.

32:14Fearne Cotton: Head to at happyplacedbookclub. That is where we're talking about this book. You'll get loads of behind the scenes stuff from our authors there too which is just fascinating right until next time a massive thanks again to caro and to you i love you bookworms

32:49Fearne Cotton: happy place is researched by me Fern Cotton the producer is Anushka Tate at happy place studios with studio engineering by Basil Oxtoby be.

From the publisher

Natalie Heller is a tradwife influencer online. She’s got the perfect life: a brood of beautiful children and a handsome cowboy husband who eat her homemade bread and jams in their gorgeous red barn. What her millions of followers don’t know is that she’s got a whole army of hidden staff and industrial kitchen appliances helping her out.


Then, one day... she wakes up in the 1800s, and is forced to live this traditional fantasy for real.


Yesteryear was our Happy Place Book Club read for May. In this chat, author Caro Claire Burke joins Fearne to talk about the manosphere, motherhood, religion, and modern feminism. Plus, what does Caro make of Anne Hathaway turning her book into a film?


In June, we’ll be reading Honey by Imani Thompson.


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