Seasons change, so will you: Become the thriving person you want to be

0:00Hello and welcome to Happy Place with me Fern Cotton. Today a celebration of the summer solstice a chance to connect with nature and our inner selves we get the summer solstice which takes into the second half of the year nature at the moment's in full abundance we spend far too much time sitting in central heated rooms um with loads of jumpers on and cozy cafes and stuff when actually you know we were built to kind of be outside a bit more and i do have like an image in my mind of an ocean with waves and that you know the waves belong and and they're going to change and if we can remember we're the ocean bringing in the heart is like it's basically our superpower it's like we already have it just as the scientist is looking at the outside world to try and make sense of it all the spiritual masters of old were looking at the inner world to make sense of it never witnessed a tree going if i let go of these leaves there's never going to be another leaf i've got to hold on to the leaves oh my god no no nature just lets go So look, it's midsummer.

1:01We've got all these beautiful long days of sunlight. And I don't know about you, but this time of year always just feels magical to me. My favourite thing is when the sky is like a little tinge of pink late at night. It massively reminds me of being a kid. Back in the day when I lived in East Coast, we had a swing at the end of our garden. And I would go out on the swing. And it was obviously like before kids were impacted by tech. Like there was no tech. so I would sit on the swing but on my own and just swing until it went dark and then Lynn would go fan it's bedtime and I'd get dragged back in the house but it just reminds me of those long nights where the sky's a little bit pink and it feels really atmospheric and the warm air is balmy oh it's just heaven obviously with it being the height of summer all the plants are in bloom as well, which I love.

1:54Everything feels very vibrant, very colourful. And also, this is a great reminder for all of us, the inseparable relationship between the natural environment and us, which I think we are really quick to sever that tie in our minds. As we all know, getting outside is a bloody good way of feeling a bit better. I think, you know, we can all say that quite flippantly and we hear about it or read about it in books, but it does work. If I'm feeling shit, if I go for a walk in the local park, I feel 50 % better immediately. So today, I thought it'd be a really cool idea to listen back to some of the Happy Place episodes that will help us get really back in touch with who we really are deep down underneath all the external modern day trappings of busyness and success or material things.

2:39Soul Guide, Kirsty Gallagher, is all about living alongside nature's seasonal cycle. So that's going to be in there. Shaman Joe Bowlby explains why spirituality is the science of exploring your inner world. And meditation teacher Rob DeBank has got really quite obsessed with saunas and ice recently. Psychologist and all-round legend Tara Brack says spirituality can help quieten your inner critic. And Estelle Bingham is a heart whisperer who reckons manifesting is a way to uncover your core self. and do stick around till the end because queen of tapping poppy delbridge is going to do a live tapping session with us to set intentions for the rest of the year hi this is nox from the podcast with nox and jamie and maybe like us at the podcast you also know people who have been smokers or vapors and zen is the one product it seems like everyone is talking about because there are many good reasons to make a change to zen nicotine pouches reasons like Zen nicotine pouches are still America's number one choice for smoke-free, hands-free nicotine satisfaction.

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5:51We live in this very man-made world that we try to make very linear. So we think everything should be the same all day, every day, and we should be the same all day, every day. and then when it's not we get all upset and we try and micromanage it and control it back into making it the same. Everything in life is cyclical. Everything in life. I mean even on our bodies our bodies get replaced every depending on different body parts every like seven years or three years we're in constant state of motion and we struggle the most in life when we try to resist, when we try to push, when we try to either cling and hold on to something no longer meant for us or we try to force an outcome.

6:27When you can begin to trust, whether that's in you or the moon or nature or God or universe or your soul or source, whatever it is, we then begin to allow ourselves to flow much more easily with life and we don't come up against the same amount of resistance. And even the moon shows us that, that the moon doesn't hold on and go, well, I can't not be a full moon anymore because there might never be another full moon again and I've got to shine really brightly. And if I'm not the full moon, who am I? I might be no one if I'm not the full moon. the moon just wanes and then on the same hand the full moon never goes oh maybe I shouldn't shine that bright oh god what are they going to say about me if I like really let myself be seen and the moon just shines you never witness a tree going if I let go of these leaves there's never going to be another leaf I've got to hold on to the leaves oh my god no no no nature just lets go you never see a flower not wanting to blossom or bloom because it's a bit like oh what would they say about me and little old me and oh I've got nothing so for me nature just when we witness nature we get to see season cycles flow in action and in that nature shows us so beautifully we only have to step outside to be inspired about what's going on so right now we get the summer solstice which takes into the second half of the year nature at the moment's in full abundance nature's just in growth nature's just allowing everything to be out there to be seen to enjoy the abundance and so this this helps us when we start to work in nature seasons and cycles to see that there's a time to grow there's a time to really put ourselves out there there's a time to enjoy there's a time to let go there's a time to go inwards there's a time to hibernate and so as we start to make the seasons in nature sacred and we mark them it helps us to do the same in our lives are to realize we're going to go through times of our lives when things aren't growing, when it feels like everything's a bit barren, when everything's a little bit stark, where everything's a little bit dark, but nothing lasts forever.

8:20And very soon we'll be back out in a season of full bloom again, and we'll be blossoming again, and life will be flowing again. And so when we start to see this growth cycle and we start to see, again, in nature, we look at winter and we go everything's dead no in winter everything beneath the surface is regenerating and gathering everything it needs for that tree to come in full blossom again so when we're in those darker times everything within us is gathering regenerating growing so that then when it's our time to grow again we've got everything that we need so as we learn to live in seasons like this we don't fear the dark times in the same way as we don't try and cling and grip and hold on to the good times.

9:03We just know that everything's going to go in perfect cycle, in perfect flow, in perfect time. And although I do believe that we get to navigate our way through those seasons and we get, like, we always have a choice. We can't necessarily choose, like, we can't choose when nature grows and blossoms and blooms. We can't necessarily choose exactly what's going to happen. I believe our soul knows, but humanists can't. But we can choose how we act, how we react, how we feel about it. so even in those darker times we can choose to go into that almost moment of this is awful we can play the victim we can look for something outside of us to come along and save us or even on those hard times we can choose to be like I don't know why this is happening I don't know what's going on right now but I'm gonna I'm gonna try and choose an inner peace I'm gonna try and choose to show up for myself I'm gonna try and choose to be here for myself and then in that when we talk about sacred hand it over to something greater know that you don't have to struggle as little human you on your own give it up to something greater please moon please source please universe please god i don't know what to do with this please help me please help me yeah and even in that when we ask for help that in itself opens up avenues for new energy to come in because we shift it into a lesson for growth and we we support ourselves in it and so again each time we do this we build trust in ourselves i know you're going to be there in the good times and the bad times.

10:26And that's when our lives really begin to change. Spirituality is life. I think, first of all, in recent times, spirituality and religion got very interlinked and confused. In today's world, you know, they're not interchangeable. You can be spiritual and religious. You can be spiritual and an atheist. You can be spiritual, as I say in the book and a scientist. It might make them recoil. But just as the scientist is looking at the outside world to try and make sense of it, all the spiritual masters of old were looking at the inner world to make sense of it. So it's exactly the same thing. They were the intrepid explorers trying to make sense of the nature of life, of why we are the way we are, how to become the person you want to be and that was going in not going out yes and that is what spirituality is okay this is this is something again that like massively jumped out at me in the book and it's it's kind of obvious but I'd completely overlooked it that we we think in our lives that if everything in the exterior world is in place how we want it to be is reflecting back at us what we want to see and everything feels like, oh yeah, my life is good, then we will be happy slash okay.

11:47We don't really even think about the inner world. Some people might not even know what that is. What is the inner world? How do I feel it? How do I engage with it? How do I improve it? Have a better relationship with it? How do you explain that? How can you explain what that inner world is or feels like and how we might take a deeper look at that rather than always constantly projecting, imbibing, feeling let down, projecting again, hoping that everything looks like it's in place? That's a very good question. You know, there's internal voices which are giving you the constant chatter of what you've got right and what you've got wrong.

12:27Oh yeah, I know them. That's going on in your inner world. So it is your essence of you. It's your understanding of life is how your experiences will affect how you see the outside world. That's why you need the landscape. And that's when you can understand that, then you start having control of this mind. Now mind, some people think the mind is the brain. It's not the same thing. It's in the same way the evening news is not the television. Yes. So you need the brain to access the mind. Now what you were saying about how, you know, I've got to look outwards or people feel they have to look outward to find their happiness, to find that sense of freedom.

13:12Freedom is a state of mind. So you can be the richest person in the world and be living in hell if your mind isn't in balance. So first stop for all of us is looking after our mind and making sure that it is healthy and it isn't in a state of anxiety and not fearing anxiety or fearing any of these emotions as well, because they are just signals that we are coming off balance. And we can be coming off balance because we're overtired, we're working too hard, or we're not listening to our inner voice and we're just going along with the crowd. We're not dancing to our own drumbeat. And we might have even lost the hearing of our own drumbeat here, we might be so disconnected.

14:02It is simply ways of showing us that we are disconnecting and we need to stop, slow down, peel back everything that we're doing, find our balance again, and then go again. Yeah, I think it sort of requires a lot of time sitting with this thought and a commitment daily, because unless we have that, we're so easily sidetracked because on a societal level looking at culturally what is projected at us politically massively what is projected at us we are taught that the outside world is the only thing that exists the inside world don't worry about that just keep you know doing this to achieve that to get that to have this or to define yourself as this so that you're at this level on the hierarchy and people are above you or below you or whatever and we are encouraged daily even on a sort of level of advertising to only look at the exterior world the interior world is this sort of hidden secret that no one talks about because it's so much harder to obviously control someone else's inner world without the exterior bit so we have to do the work to have this relationship with ourselves because so for instance this week I got a bit of an ego dent this week right so I put all of my self-worth in the hands of others so I gave my self-worth to the exterior world oh yeah you guys tell me that I'm a piece of shit and I'll I'll go with it and I've had to work really hard this last few days to go right but what do I believe what's going on in my soul what's going on inside do what am I a piece of shit and to really question that but this stuff takes work because it's so normalized again that the exterior world is everything totally and when something like that happens often the thing that where we feel like oh we haven't we've been rejected or something hasn't worked for us, we don't even take into account the fact that we weren't into it in the first place.

16:03And that perhaps it might be a wonderful opportunity where we can step back and go, do you know what? I'm going to go into stillness. I'm going to allow my imagination to fly. And I'm going to make sure that I am actually living the way I want to live and doing the things I want to do. So sometimes these moments in life which kind of jar with us in the outside world and perhaps because society has this definition of success which is so skewed and broken. And we know that because more and more people are talking about their mental health, more and more people who have had everything that society would go, yep, tick, tick, tick, tick, you've done it all, So if that is all a tick, why do they feel empty inside?

16:56Why do they feel lost in life? Anyone who has succeeded in life should be on top of the world. So how come that doesn't work? And then we have to ask ourselves, all right, what is it that is stopping me living my life to the full? I've never been on a retreat, which is perhaps surprising, but I've never been on one. So I went to a day retreat. This is the closest I've ever been to going on a retreat. Probably for all the reasons I've just explained, I'm too busy, I can't go on a retreat. I haven't got four days to go on a retreat. And a lot of it was based around breathing but also dealing with high temperatures and very cold temperatures.

17:37So we would do sauna, cold water, sauna again. And really what I came away with was the understanding that when you're in a sauna for almost an uncomfortable amount of time, when you think, oh, I want to get out now, I'm just, I'm too hot and I just can't cope with it. That for your mind is, and similarly with very cold water, such a brilliant practice to go, I can cope with this. I just need to calm, calm myself down and get these thoughts in a row rather than going, because I can go into panic very quickly and just know that you're safe and know that you're okay. and everything starts to slow down but actually I think again when you look at like we were looking at meditation outside of the practice looking at this sort of heat or very cold thing outside of the practice is the ability to deal with stress a lot better because you're having to deal with it in quite a physical way in the heat or or in the cold totally yeah and I you know because I've only been doing it regularly for you know less than a year and that feeling when you've been in there for 10 minutes and it's 80 degrees or 85 degrees and you're starting to get this real panic on like going yeah i have to get out have to get out have to cool down have to cool down and you you don't fight through that but you kind of get through it and you never sit in there for for too long and then you're out and you're like oh dear i've got to get in the ice bath and then like two minutes into the ice bath you're like got to get out got to get out got to get out yeah i've got to get back in the heat and and that that becomes quite addictive but yeah like you say it's it's building up your um stress response um really amazingly also you're you're you'll start realizing um that you can walk around in the in the winter with in a t-shirt rather than um with loads of jumpers and coats on you you know you we we spend far too much time sitting in you know central heated rooms um you know with loads of jumpers on and cozy you know cafes and stuff when actually you know we were built to kind of be outside a bit more so even even on that level but there's so many so many amazing benefits of sauna.

19:36I wonder if also I'm sort of thinking on my feet here but I think it probably helps with another problem that we've got in the modern age which is a huge lack of patience because like you're saying there when you're in extreme heat or extreme cold your first thought is well I don't want this I want to get out and I can so I'm going to do it rather than persevering and I think so much of our lives these days revolves around that. I'm hungry. I want something now. I'm going to get a very quick fast food delivery or whatever it might be. Or I don't like this TV show or I don't like these adverts.

20:09I'll fast forward them. We have such convenience in terms of just getting through stuff we don't want to have to deal with and just going, nope, or I don't want to queue. I'm not going to stand waiting. Whereas back in the 80s, we had to queue for everything or even to buy music, you'd be waiting outside a shop to get it. Now you click your phone and it's there. so I think one of our big problems is patience is just dwindling by the second and if you look at any of these practices whether it's breath work meditation these exposure to hot or cold you're having to cultivate patience because you're sitting through the discomfort of something you don't necessarily want to do that is very perceptive miss cotton I like that I'm going to use that you should do podcasts it must be something I think it must help with that no it totally does i went to um there's a there's a banyolite which is a sort of russian um russian style of sauna in uh in london and the guy there andre you know he said to me don't don't rush from the um sauna into the ice you know um and then back into the sauna and back into the ice because that's our natural instinct like right okay i can do this yeah i'm having i'm really getting really hot i'm getting really cold brilliant but he said the the magic actually happens in the sort of 20 minutes where you sit outside or just sit there and just have a cup of tea in between and actually I went for a three-hour session with him and I thought how am I going to last three hours we only went in the sauna twice for like 20 minutes at a time the rest of the time was sitting around drinking tea relaxing it was it was literally one of the most relaxing things I've ever done so wow yeah but when are we told to do something slowly never never no it's constantly like why have you not emailed me back why is this person not texting me they must have died like we're Everything has to be so quick.

21:52I don't remember the last time someone said to me, really take your time with this. Hi, this is Knox from the Popcast with Knox and Jamie. And maybe like us at the Popcast, you also know people who have been smokers or vapors. And Zen is the one product it seems like everyone is talking about. Because there are many good reasons to make a change to Zen nicotine pouches. Reasons like Zen nicotine pouches are still America's number one choice for smoke-free, hands-free nicotine satisfaction. And you can choose between 10 varieties, each variety available in either 3 or 6 milligrams. Check out zen.com slash find to find Zen at a store near you.

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24:38when we start to see it, that's actually the beginning of getting, is kind of waking up from the trance, is just getting it. Because I found for myself that when I started seeing it and seeing how much suffering is with that, it really happened for me, that kind of recognition. When I was in college, I was on a hike with a friend because I remember really well. And she was telling me how she was becoming her own best friend and so on. And I thought to myself, oh my gosh, I'm the furthest thing from my own best friend. I am the harshest. I am so harsh. I hated my body and I hated the way I was in relationships and I never was doing enough.

25:23And so that actually, when I started facing the pain of that, I actually really dedicated myself to, you know, loving myself into healing. And that really got me going on the spiritual path that I really wanted to learn how to quiet the voice of that inner critic and really hold my own being with a kind of tenderness. And what I found is that the kinder I've been to myself, the more my heart naturally includes others too. It's never just an inner loving. Yeah. I think we underestimate how much self-loathing is really the root cause of probably nearly all of our problems in life or perceived problems.

26:12It's not the circumstance or the other person or the thing. It's our own self-loathing. And I can recognize that in my own life massively. And that's why I found this latest book so special because, you know, trusting that you have this wonderful prayer that you open the book up with. May I trust my own goodness. We forget it's there. We forget that there's any goodness within us. And, you know, you retell that beautiful story, and I know it was in your previous book, Radical Compassion, as well, about how there was this beautiful Buddha that was found, and it was a sort of big cement-shaped Buddha, and then these cracks started appearing, and it was actually a beautiful big gold Buddha underneath.

26:54And we've all got that inside. But the cement is almost the sort of the fear and the confusion and everything we've picked up in our lives along the way. We're just covering over it on a daily basis, unless we're willing, like you did in your life, to stop and go, no, I'm not. I'm not going to do that. I'm going to I'm going to, you know, honor myself, even if it's not fully love yourself, accept the feelings you have and accept the problems or the perceived problems that you might have in life. life. And that's the first step. It's a jump to say, okay, I'm going to embrace my life just as I, you know, that's a jump.

27:32But what we can do is slow down, we can pause and begin to say, okay, this is what's here right now. And can I meet just this moment with some kindness? And it's amazing that even the intention to be kind, even if you can't do it, just in some way wishing that you could be kind begins to soften the heart. It's beautiful. And of course, I teach a lot just to put your hand on your heart and just send a message, send some message of kindness. It can be as simple as, you know, I'll sometimes say, it's okay, sweetheart, you know, it's just okay, or or can be even simpler of you know just this moment it's a you know just be here for this moment and I find if people can pause and ask themselves two really basic questions which is okay so what's going on inside me right now and then the second question is can I be with this with kindness just this moment that begins to turn the whole trance around yeah because you talk about the resistance of feelings because we're now even beating ourselves up about having feelings you know if we feel jealous or if we feel angry or if we feel down about something we we're not just feeling those emotions we're going oh I shouldn't be feeling like this I need to fix myself and to get out of this and and your uh mantra that you use in these times is just let this belong let this feeling belongs this belongs it's okay and I think that's a really wonderful first step as well rather than keep berating ourselves for just having human reactions and and feeling emotions to say no no this this belongs this is okay I love that phrase me too this belongs because you know I and I do have like an image in my mind of an ocean with waves and that, you know, the waves belong and they're going to change.

29:34And if we can remember, we're the ocean, you know, and the ocean's going to have waves. And really, every emotion is intelligent. We were wired to have emotions. It's part of our survival apparatus, you know, and everybody else has them too. So I find it helpful, first of all, when I'm feeling something like jealousy or something you don't want to feel, others experience this too. It's programmed in, you know, and in the moments that we can let it belong, there's some space. Even the word yes, just to say yes doesn't mean I like this. Yes means it's an honest acknowledgement, this is the reality of this moment we find some space we can end up kind of being with things with more balance and grace what happens often is we're not really in touch with the feelings so we understand the story so we can look back at our four-year-old self or our six-year-old self and we're like well this is what happened at that time and we can get in touch with the memories and and a certain amount of the feelings it's not that it doesn't work but Peter Levine who you know he developed the somatic experiencing technique which some some people out there may have heard of already but that's just experiencing the feelings in the body and that's really where I start I start in that place but bringing in the heart is like it's basically our superpower it's like we already have it and that's really my big you know that's my mantra like you are already whole so we're not we're not there's not the big healing story I mean we do do the healing work we do do the inner work but you've already got this we're just returning to to wholeness and what happens with the heart it's like it's like you know you you go into the dark room and often what happens people turn up and I always say this it's like you you know we're in this dark room and we keep bumping into the same sofa and falling over the same so you know the same sofa and then having the same outcomes you're experiencing the same things being in the same types of relationships calling in all of these you know similar experiences and i just say let's just switch the light on yeah so that's all it is it's like we're activating the heart just switching the light on it's not a big fandango it's actually really simple you know the the heart technique coming into the heart is just we take some really nice deep heart and body breaths those really settle the parasympathetic nervous system we know that from breath work these days and what that does you know those really breathing in and then taking deep exhales from deep in the body so not up here because a lot of us breathe just up here at the top from the neck and nothing's really we're just not not doing anything and we just come in with a certain amount of awareness into the heart so it's actually really simple yeah and I think I mean I want to get into to manifesting and this relates to it to a degree because like you say we repeat the same mistakes I can look back at certain things I'm I'm like, why am I having to learn this lesson again?

32:40I've done this one, but I've made the same choices. I've ended up because it's comfortable. It's familiar. I understand it. You know, you think you know what you need and you don't. And I think it's so interesting that so much of that is connected to a lack of self-love, a lack of self-compassion that we have. I think most people have a sort of a low level self-loathing. We're so used to berating ourselves for every flaw, every mistake, every fault. We isolate ourselves in it. I mean, I do this all the time. I was in therapy yesterday talking about this saying, oh, my God, I'm so flawed. There's something wrong with me and nobody else.

33:19And I know all this stuff and I still have that underlying feeling that I'm getting it more wrong than anybody. And I'm way more flawed than anybody. I think we all have the propensity to do that. And I guess when you're doing this work that focuses on the heart, it's just reminding us that we've all got that going on. But actually, we can still love ourselves. We can forgive ourselves. And that is, I guess, one of the biggest blocks when it comes to manifesting a life that you actually want is the fact that you fucking hate yourself. Yeah. Well, there are two things there that are really important.

33:53Right. So imagine heart energy. imagine that you've got a tap and most of the time either that tap is just it's not on at all or there's a little drip drip drip okay every three minutes like you know a bit of a torture torture situation when we get into just thinking about the heart every day for a few minutes a day we start to turn that tap and it's a flow and what I will say it's quite it's you know it's a thing to think about but when we twist that that that tap and the there is heart energy flow you are bringing a different energy into your life so I always say to people just stay curious stay curious and see what happens and when with the manifesting you know there's so much out there about manifesting at the moment and I've been manifesting that has been part of my practice for years and years and we know about it from you know manifest from law of attraction it's out there in the world but there is a ceiling to manifesting if you're unconscious if underneath all of this manifesting manifesting manifesting is a sense of self-loathing shame you know we're not accepting ourselves we're beating ourselves up but it up here we're thinking I want I want this relationship I want this job opportunity I want to move here I want to do this I want to be seen I want I want people to know me to hear me but actually what happens is because remember the mind is made up of sort of 87 or even 92 between there is unconscious and the rest is conscious so remember that tiny little bit of mind the way we're saying i want you know i'm manifesting i'm making vision boards i'm doing this manifest manifest manifest but the unconscious is huge so remember that that big iceberg okay we can just see the top of the iceberg but underneath is all of the truth of who of who we are of what we really believe about ourselves and so what we need to do is we need to come in and and be with this unconscious but when we activate the heart we're coming in immediately with a gentleness with a softness we are activating that flow of compassion again when we say when we use these words they get banded around we see them on instagram we see them here they're in everywhere love compassion bring more compassion in radical self-acceptance what does it really feel like people know what it sounds like but do they know what it feels like and so that's what we we really work with let's do a really uplifting one yeah we need about energy possibility yeah yeah and maybe a little bit about that permission because i do think that's really important so if we say it doesn't matter what the score is but give it a score out of 100 straight way and let's try it together we'll do it together so let's say this I give myself permission for new possibilities I give myself permission for new possibilities and then just notice out of 100 where are you at if you're going to just intuitively answer 80 I'm feeling quite good that's good yeah yeah great and you can start anywhere if anyone's 20 % cool if anyone's 95 cool you can always go up Yeah.

37:04So now we're going to just notice what it is that is not making it 100 for you. What is it? My blocks are always to do with outside opinion and second guessing what everyone else is going to say, that something I've done is rubbish or could have been better. And I'm constantly second guessing that. And I find it very hard to mitigate. So that is the 20 percent. Yeah. Okay. So let's do a little bit about that and the feelings within that as we move into the tap. And what would you say that feels like? So if you're going to go, I feel... Edgy. It's a very edgy feeling of anxiety that someone's going to attack me about it verbally or say something mean that then would make me feel foolish for believing that I had a chance to achieve whatever goal it was or to be excited about whatever's coming up.

37:56Yeah, that makes perfect sense. So we'll work with that. And then we'll aim with intention to get that score up by the end. Yeah. Okay. Just noticing your breath here. Very often we're not breathing. Yeah, I wasn't. So just take a deep breath in through your nose. Let it out through your mouth. Just drop in to your body a little bit more as you do this. And then you can just say this. I feel a bit edgy. I feel a bit edgy. When I think about all my possibilities this year. When I think about all my possibilities this year. Because I'm wondering if I can really do it. Because I'm wondering if I can really do it.

38:38And I'm thinking about other people. And I'm thinking about other people. That's okay. That's okay. That might happen. That might happen. Just a human being. Just a human being. And we always have those kind of thoughts. We always have those kind of thoughts. But? but it is possible for me it is possible for me to just let go a bit to just let go a bit be a bit more me be a bit more me notice myself notice myself and all my possibilities and all my possibilities in this life in this life and just take a moment just to notice that and the power of that just giving yourself permission for that and just take another breath in and a breath out.

39:30That's good. And just relaxing into it first, we'll go for a little tap through, sort of releasing some of the stuff. Okay? So two hands and then tapping between the eyebrow points and say this. All this edgy feeling. All this edgy feeling. All this edginess. All this edginess. Maybe some anxiety. Maybe some anxiety. Maybe some worries. maybe some worries about the year ahead definitely some worries big worries probably yeah that's a human thing that's okay and just accept this is the way I feel just accept this is the way I feel maybe accept myself a bit more take a breath notice myself I'll notice myself.

40:22And just keep tapping through as you just take some breaths.

40:29That's good. And just sort of relaxing through as you keep the tapping going. And you might notice your body's just a little bit more relaxed now. Just kind of letting go a little bit more into what is possible. Yeah, and then at this point, let's just notice a little bit more about that possibility. You know, so what is possible? That could be a feeling. It could be something that you want. It could be just a little new habit that you have decided to do. So just notice what that is. So what might it be for you? It would be new opportunity. It would be learning new things and excitement, I think, would be one of the feelings.

41:15Yeah, nice. And can you connect with that now? Yeah. Great. Good. So connecting in with it. Yeah. So top of your head. And now we're just going to shift the energy into this because this is sort of real. It's not made up. This is the good bit about it. This is when you want to start creating good stuff, saying the affirmations. Yeah. So tapping through with me and saying this. I notice a little bit of excitement. I notice a little bit of excitement. At the same time as this anticipation. At the same time as this anticipation. all that might happen all that might happen all that I can be grateful for all that I can be grateful for and taking a breath taking a breath just taking a breath just taking a breath possibilities possibilities all these possibilities all these possibilities I'm excited I'm excited I can be excited I can be excited I will be excited I will be excited I will be excited I will be excited.

42:15Why not? Why not? Why ever not? Why ever not? Let's do it. Let's do it. Let's do it. Let's do it. Good. All right. So just wriggling your sort of shoulders a little bit more, getting your body into it a bit more. We're just going to notice any positive feelings that have come up. And this is the bit where you just want to seal this in. You want to seal it in. This is good energy, good vibration like we're talking about. Yeah. So what do you feel right now? I do feel excited and also much less edgy. much more relaxed and a new little bit of confidence in there lovely yeah perfect good so we'll just seal a bit of that in so let's try it so tapping with me i can be confident i can be confident i can be excited i can be excited i can i can excitement excitement excitement excitement positive positive good energy good energy yeah yeah okay good and now we're going to do that little head hug so we're going to rub our hands together get some energy going take a smile because this releases a lot of good happy hormones we want those we love those happy hormones yeah so then rubbing hands together i like to lift them a little bit higher so you're just activating yourself a little bit more that's it and then on the three two one we'll do a head hug so one hand on the forehead one hand on the back and just hold it you'll notice the tingling you'll notice the buzz of it which is just beautiful okay three two one hold

43:50and just take that moment and just take that breath notice from the top of your head to the bottom of your feet all the possibilities all the feelings all the good stuff do you feel it yeah and then just shaking out your hands wiggling around a little bit nice okay how do you feel yeah bloody great god tapping's good it's such a simple and very physical way of getting yourself mentally feeling back on track and i love it i've used it for so many things over the years, whether it's, you know, helping to just tame anxiety or just to pet myself up if I'm feeling a bit flat. It's bloody brilliant.

44:37There will be links to the full episodes that you've heard little bits of today. If you want to go back and listen to them, I really would if I were you. If there was one that really stood out to you, go back and listen to the whole episode. By the way, Kirsty Gallagher has a new book out. It's called Your Cosmic Purpose and it's published by Happy Place Books, we're very proud to say. If you resonated with anything you heard her talk about, you are going to really be blown away by this book. It is so gorgeous. Hey, I'm going to be back here very soon. But in the meantime, a massive thank you to everyone who shared their wisdom today, to the producer Anushka Tate, and to you.

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