Friday Q&A: Georgia On My Mind

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2:01Thumbtack knows homes. Download the app today. Hello and welcome to Made by Mamas, the podcast. I'm Zoe Hardman. And I'm Georgia Dayton. And this is your parenting safe space where no conversation is off limits. With five kids between G and I, we have seen a lot. We really have.

2:20Georgia Dayton: Each week, we'll be joined by some famous faces and experts, and we'll chat about the brands and products that have saved us along the way. In short, we're the parenting podcast for you. Before we get started, hit subscribe or follow so you're the first to know when each episode lands. And they're on Tuesdays and Fridays. And it really helps if you leave a rating and a review. You can also find us on Instagram. We're on at Made by Mummers. But for now, George, should we get into it? Hello, and welcome to Friday's episode of the podcast. It's just me again today and I'm going to be completely transparent.

2:50Georgia Dayton: We're actually waiting for a guest to arrive and we thought we would fill the time and just do a bit of a Q &A. I've put a box up on both the Made My Mamas and my own Instagram page and I do, I'm really bad with replying to DMs. So I thought it would just be a good opportunity to answer questions that people send and just have a little chat, do something a bit different. So yeah, I'll just get into it and see where it goes. This might never even go out. So we'll see. Let's start with this one. Oh, this is quite interesting, actually. How did you get into PR? So for those of you who don't know, I work in PR and I look after lots of different brands, like fashion brands, kids brands, all sorts.

3:45Georgia Dayton: And if anyone doesn't know what PR is, it's basically getting eyes on that brand so if that's in like a newspaper or magazine on an influencer on a podcast whatever that's what I do um and it's a weird story how I got into it I was at university and I studied fashion journalism and that course was joined with fashion promotion which is fashion PR and James had gone on loan he played football at the time he'd gone on loan to a club called Yeovil and we lived in this farm and they built these apartments on the farm and they were sort of service departments so it meant that someone could come and like cook breakfast and things like that and the lady who owned the farm was the one who came to cook breakfast in the morning but this is in the middle of nowhere like there was no one else there which is basically just us and James was at training and I was like 19 and just like bored and had no want to talk to so I talked to this woman and used to sit in the kitchen with her and like have a chat while like she'd make eggs and stuff and she was like always asking me like what did I want to do and I said to her like the things I'd been doing I've been interning at mywardrobe.com which was like a net reporter and I'd been interning at magazines and stuff and she said to me oh you know what one of my friends owns a PR agency um I think you should meet her and she stuck to her word and she she did she intro'd me and I was interviewed by Emily who is now the founder of Secret Spa um who I obviously talk about all the time but yeah she interviewed me and I got the job when I was only 19 and I used to look after Evian, GHD, Hotpoint, loads of boo brands and I just loved it.

5:40Georgia Dayton: So that is in a nutshell, in a minute or so, how I got into PR and I'm still doing it now. So there we go. Someone else has put, this is from, oh this is really nice. Two, one person's put glowing, favorite skin treatments for glow and reducing lines and And then someone else has put, your skin looks amazing. What have you been doing for it? So firstly, when anyone comments on my skin and says it's really nice, it really means a lot because I had such bad acne when I was like 22, 23. And it honestly, it was horrific. I'll share pictures and I probably have done before. but I think if you've ever had a skin issue like that you do wake up every day thinking it'll come back and I can't it's just a weird thing you get like one spot and then you're like oh my god that's it it's going to come back and everything's going to change again this is horrific so I definitely don't take having clear skin for granted now in fact this morning I woke up after being stung in the night with a massive lump on my head and I did think oh no maybe this is like an acne cyst and I just just come out of the blue anyway it wasn't so it's all good but I do a lot and I have really looked into like skincare like I was having laser on my face 10 years ago because of the acne so I've always really been into it so treatments that I have like aesthetic treatments I go to somebody she's actually on Instagram but she is in London as well so she works out of a clinic called the Lovely Clinic in Knightsbridge and then she has got clinic in Essex as well her name's Gina Maslin so it's Gina Maslin Aesthetics I went to see her about I want to say a year ago and I just said to her like what all my concerns were because I'd been having Botox and like facials and stuff like that and I just wanted I just basically said to her this is what I want I like glowy skin I don't want to look mad don't want to look frozen I just want to look natural and have some lines I want to have I don't wear foundation ever so I just want my skin to like skin and so she kind of came up with like a treatment plan which we're going through at the moment so I've had Botox in my forehead and like just above my eyebrows but I will now only have it around my eyes once a year for prevention because I actually like the creases.

8:18I found

8:19Georgia Dayton: that when I've done it around my eyes, it doesn't look great. And then I have Profilo, which I really think is the thing that makes your skin look glowy because you are essentially injecting hyaluronic acid into your skin. So you might still have lines, but because your skin is like plumped and glowy you don't see them as much so that is what I'd say and then in terms of skincare I use Medicaid cleansing oil I use a Medicaid moisturizer and then I go between like Sunday Riley CEO glow a beauty pie hyaluronic acid and that's it like I kind of keep it quite simple and then on my skin like I said don't I don't wear foundation but I sometimes use that elf um it looks like the Charlotte Tilbury Hollywood filter but it's not it's by it's elf and it's like 11 quid or something sometimes use that at the moment I don't got a tan on my face and I just use the by Terry CC um like I think it's called like highlighting CC and that's really glowy so there we go that is that's what I use on my skin but and also if Zoe was here I'm sure she would be saying like similar things because we both have similar treatments we are both going to try lasers at some point again um but because the downtime is a lot more and also you can't go in the sun then that will be something maybe for like October time so we shall see but thank you so much because yeah whenever anyone comments on my skin I like I almost can't believe it because my skin used to be horrific um where should we go this is interesting Eve this is very nosy as well um no I'm joking I actually don't mind so I was put money chat who earns more how do you manage money together.

10:18Georgia Dayton: Now, I think no one discusses money ever. And I don't know, even amongst friends, I think it's still like a bit of an icky subject. But it's really important. And I think loads of couples have lots of disagreements about money and how everyone manages money is completely different. So when I met James, I was like 17. And so I think I was doing spray tams in House of Fraser or something and that was how I was probably earning like 30 pounds a day and he was playing football so he was obviously earning a lot more money than I was and that continued for I don't know like 10 no more than I know 15 years and he never ever made me feel like I didn't I couldn't have what he was having or anything like that so we always started off month like it was very equal he he definitely always earned more than me but I think because we met so young and we moved in together so young and it was so like unbalanced it was always joint because if it hadn't have been we would have been living different lives because I would have been like oh no I can't afford to live here and I can't afford to go out for dinner and I can't do any of this and he would have been thinking well what do I want to do so who am I going to go with so we always started as managing money joint we definitely had arguments about it but it was always joint now the tables have turned I earn more than him um and that I don't know actually me earning more allowed him to come out of football which I think he well I don't know but he always is very grateful for in a way because he didn't have to continue in a career that he was coming to an end and it allowed him to go into something else so although you know for all of those years he was definitely earning more than me it's now my turn where I am more than him and I'm the one who is you know allowing us to do things that you know if we were living off his salary or he was just living off his salary he wouldn't be able to do um and then who knows like again that might change again so that is kind of our house and I think it's probably quite unusual that we still we just join everything um because you know just talking to me I don't think that I don't think that happens so much anymore and I think the reason why we have done that is because we've been together for so long and also because we've had these periods where one of us is earning so much more than the other one that it would almost like not be fair um if we didn't like have money like that um so yeah that is that's where we are and anyway if he comes on let's give him a kick up the ass and he can start earning more than me because that would be wonderful um I'm joking no I'm not um um any big future plans oh my god Zoe and I in particular have all these plans all the time and we talk about them and we have like plans that we want to I don't know bring up skincare or we want to launch on YouTube which I think we actually are um you know we're gonna probably bring out another episode of the podcast every week at some point I would love to grow like my PR work and I've really enjoyed doing like creative stuff like events and things like that so I'd love to grow that more we'd love with Made by Mama's Careers we're going to start doing more talks so we're going to go into companies and do more talks around helping working parents so yeah like loads of big future plans um but also I really like where I'm at the moment and I really enjoy like you know we're doing stuff on our house hopefully and life's really busy so I don't know necessarily how much more I want to take on in terms of like big plans for the future.

14:39Georgia Dayton: I think it's just like growing and growing and growing and see where it see where it takes. We'll be right back after this short break.

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16:25Welcome back to this episode of Made by Mamas. Now, where were we?

16:28Georgia Dayton: With parenting, what have you changed your mind about in the last six months? That is really interesting. In the last six months, I mean, one of them is quite funny because I never used to give my kids cereal and now I don't mind it because we've launched this cereal brand called Cheeky Pete's and I have actually now I'm like not not against it like I was before so that's something that has changed in the last six months um but there's loads I think I change my mind on things all the time I flip-flop between being really strict about things like YouTube and screen time and all of that kind of thing I've phoned and then I go back on it again and I've spoken to someone who tells me that I should be more relaxed and then I change my mind again.

17:24Georgia Dayton: So I change my mind on things all the time. So it's probably not a good question for me, really. But, yeah, and I think you're allowed to do that, aren't you? Where else should we go? Tips for your relationship, keeping it running smooth, but also sparks with two young kids. um I think that it's really unrealistic to think that you're going to have fireworks and sparks all the time James and I've been together for 20 years and there I think it goes and it comes back And I think when you've got young kids, I think you almost need to have that, I don't know, understanding that both of you understand as well.

18:19And both of you on the same page about and you talk about that it's not going to be amazing probably for a bit. and you almost just have to like just just accept that and just think right okay this is not our

18:33Georgia Dayton: this phase right now is really hard and we might not have the perfect relationship right now but just like you're saying here like keeping it just running smooth and so there's no like big hiccups or anything definitely but I just think there's just people I think people can really worry about their relationship when they've got young kids that it's all falling apart but it's almost like kind of not the time I don't think where your relationship is going to be amazing now look there's obviously loads of exceptions to that um but I think on the whole it's definitely my friendship group we've all worried loads about our relationship and we've been like you know I hate him or you know this isn't working we're arguing all the time we're bickering about this and then almost you come out of it and you do come out a bit better because you've learned to communicate more you've tackled issues and then you feel proud of yourselves and then you like each other more again and yeah I'll never forget we had it was deliciously Ella on the podcast that's not her real name but that's how you'll all know her um she said she sees her life in chapters and I remember her saying at the time the chapter that she was in was all about her kids and her business and maybe her relationship was you know not suffering but like maybe it wasn't there wasn't all date nights and going on holiday and all of that but they were the two things that were that chapter right then and she wasn't socializing either and that was just the chapter she was in and I it really stuck with me and I think whenever we've been having a hard time in our relationship I've always looked at it and I've been like oh yeah but look like the kids are doing really well at the moment and we're putting loads of effort into that and work is doing really well and we're putting loads of effort into that and not saying that our relationship should just be like sidetracked but there's almost just an understanding that it will come back um but yeah I think when when our kids were younger we used to have periods without them so my parents used to live away like not live away but they used to be like an hour and a half away and so used to do quite a lot of overnight sometimes with them so if it was a school holidays or I know a weekend they might have them for two nights and me and James would have that little bit of time just to like reconnect because I just don't think going out for dinner does anything like just two hour dinner I just don't I just think if you've got you know stuff going on I don't necessarily think that is gonna bring everything together I think it goes a lot deeper so yeah I think keeping it running smooth so you're always talking but I just don't think when you've got young kids that it all has to be fireworks and date nights I just I just really don't.

21:32Georgia Dayton: Do a couple more. Tips for finding yourself after two kids. First is starting school. Second is two. This is such a big topic. And I think you keep finding yourself like at different stages of parenting, something else happens, or you find yourself with more free time, or, you know, just things change you might meet someone who has a big impact on you or whatever so I think if you're looking at who you are now I genuinely think you have to look at what you enjoy like actually enjoy not what you think you should enjoy what you used to enjoy um do what do you actually like doing like when do you feel happiest like in your actual body when does when do you feel relaxed when do you not feel stressed when do you actually feel happy because I think this is something that so many of us battle with as soon as we become a parent we're like maybe for the first year or so everything is all about the baby the baby the baby the baby and we forget about ourselves and then after like a year or two you're suddenly like oh my god what do I like now what do I even like and then you might start trying to do the things you used to do you might like you know used to go clubbing or whatever and you don't feel right there and you do you sort of go back to the old things that you liked and realize you don't like them anymore and then feel like horrified by that and then you don't know who you are I think you just have to look for those new things it's almost like starting afresh I know like I used to hate going for a walk like honestly I used to why would people do that I had no idea and so I really used to battle with that like no I don't like nature no like it's just not me well recently I'm suddenly like oh quite enjoying this walk quite like it is and it's just relearning stuff that you didn't think you liked before there's loads of things like that and I just think it's a good opportunity as well um to find those things and almost start again and you might meet new people as well you know god so and i met in the gym and we found that together you could start a class you could start playing paddle like everyone else you know there's just loads of stuff and it's exciting so don't put pressure on yourself to find yourself but i think it's a really good opportunity to reset.

24:13Georgia Dayton: Let's do two more. There's two more. How to make time for yourself, two kids, five months old and three years old. Okay. I get that. There's not a lot of time for yourself when your kids are that young, but you have the evenings, hopefully. And I'm saying this because now my kids are seven and nearly 10 we don't have those evenings so much anymore and now I look back I think why didn't I make more of those evenings and I get that you're exhausted but if you just want small snippets of time for yourself be really sort of I guess strict that your evenings are your evenings so what I used to do is say for instance I know you eat at 5 30 or 6 o 'clock not sure and then I would maybe wait till later to eat don't eat at the same time so that's done clear up while they're still there do all of those chores that you usually leave to after they're in bed do it while they're still awake if you can if it means that they have to sit in front of a tv for half an hour so be it um and then almost when they go to bed it's like a completely different chapter you know you're starting your evening have a shower you know restart the evening and even if it's like an hour of your time let yourself have that hour because I think that daily bit of time to yourself is way more important than having a whole spa day that to me recharges you more than having time away I love that too but if you can find that one hour in the day where you are strict and at first it feels really uncomfortable because you think oh but I just need to put the washing away I just need to do the dishwasher I need to do this try and do that before they go to bed if you can I'm saying this with a seven and ten year old now maybe the reality is different but But if you can, then you can just carve out that one hour to yourself.

26:19Georgia Dayton: And I do, I genuinely think that's more important than, you know, taking yourself on a holiday or any of that kind of thing that we're told is really important to do. Because once that's done, it's done, isn't it? Whereas if this becomes your every day, I think that's going to be really helpful. The last question, which is one that actually I don't really know the answer to. how do you choose clothes I never seem to know what to wear I feel you I feel exactly the same my wardrobe actually had a bit of a meltdown about it last night is awful I've still got like winter jumpers in there and now we're in August I think I don't want to put them away because probably gonna have to bring them back out again I've got like holiday stuff that I would never wear in the UK there just because it's been really hot and I might wear it at home I'm really muddled but this is what my plan is to do whether or not I do it or not I am going to get absolutely everything out and then I'm gonna well before this I'm gonna go on Pinterest and I'm gonna save down loads of outfits that I like and also save down outfits that I've worn already so in my camera roll and put together a folder with those in it so that if I don't know if I wake up and I don't know what to wear I can go back and I can have a look and see those outfits that I really liked and just put them on and then with Pinterest I'm going to go through and try and recreate loads of those outfits and almost like hang them up in sections where I know like that's a bit more worky that's a bit more like day-to-day and so then I know I've always got them I think having less is really is a game changer because when your wardrobe is filled you never ever know what to wear having less is much better it's much easier you can mix and match and then I would just find there's so many content creators online who literally put together outfit formulas for you you find one of those people who and you really like their style and you can just almost copy like just find what they like their outfit formulas whether it's having three pairs of jeans and three tops and a couple of scarves and some shoes and then just mix and match those um but I do I think having visual references in your phone going through getting rid of all the stuff in your wardrobe you don't like doesn't fit and then having less really helps you work out what to wear every day um I think we'll finish there um because our next guest is here and who knows if is ever going to go out anyway but I hope you enjoyed it if you did drop us a message on Instagram on outmadebymommas or any suggestions for these Q &As would be amazing and we'll be back on Tuesday.

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