Boy Talk: Cheater busters!!!

0:01Waiting for your sign? Here it is. Shop Labor Day appliance deals at Lowe's before they're gone. Get up to 45 % off select major appliances. Plus, get free delivery, haul away, installation and parts, and a two-year Lowe's protection plan on purchases of$999 or more. Labor Day deals are on now at Lowe's. In-store and online. Valid through 916, while supplies last. Selection varies by location. See Lowe's.com for more details. Most women have been there. Something feels off. You don't feel like yourself. Yet your doctor says everything looks fine. Spoiler, it's your hormones. Midi is a virtual care platform built for women by women and offers specialized hormone care from trained clinicians.

0:44Plus, it's covered by most major insurances. Getting started is easy. You can book your first visit with a clinician right away. It's not you. It's your hormones. Visit joinmidi.com to book your first visit. That's joinmidi.com. Insurance coverage varies. Check with your plan for coverage.

1:29She was like, Daryl Dixon from Walking Dead, the main guy sat behind mum.

1:39Three, two, one. We're drunk. We've got vodka diet coats tonight. Late night recording, you guys. Yeah, look at this. This is like our alter ego. This is vodka. Jack and Coke. Jack and Coke. Cheers. Cheers. Bottoms up. Just kidding. It's crazy. No, we should really lean into that. and actually it's really hitting me we got a cup of ice and we've got a coke can of coke zero and it's just going down because it's 3 p.m usually yeah take it away usually we're here at about 10 30 in the morning so that's why it's a matcha thing you know absolutely but come 3 p.m i've had my milk absolutely we've actually had we've had three matches today i've had four whoa well not technically but i've had two full ones two let's say two and a half this morning we're on a little bit of an adventure we had a banana bread matcha what would you rate that 10 out of 10 for me yeah we had a sweet vanilla matcha 10 yeah 10 and we had a coconut cloud 10 for me on my side obviously I'm the coconut water hater over here so it was a zero for me but that's my personal taste buds not the quality of the drink absolutely there was a watermelon matcha that I think we should try next time because I think it'd be really refreshing on a hot day I just can't imagine is it going to be like a strawberry matcha just like sweet watermelon syrup well it's just watermelon juice like actual juice with a matcha shot so it's not milk no oh so it's like a light It's like one of those.

3:20Yeah. One of those. Like, you know, they're all doing them now. Yeah. Like a little refresher. Almost like an iced tea situation, if you will. Yeah. And it probably just tastes like watermelon juice. Yeah. Sounds lovely. You know, unless there's a lot of match it in. Happy Wednesday, everyone. Welcome back. Absolutely. Take a seat. Put your feet up. Yeah. Relax. Shout out to the Bryans. Shout out to the Bryans of the world. Would you like to let them know what your name is? Natasha. Natasha and Trincy. or the one I saw last night Sasha and Chloe Chloe let's actually shout out the lady who started this trend yes who started it?

3:58Lexi L-E-X-X-I-Y-2 was the first one to do it and she posted her boyfriend and her boyfriend's friend they made me laugh so much this guy he's like Trincia and Cynthia and then the other guy is like I've lost it I've lost it and then says whatever he says and now everyone's doing it and i actually think it's the funniest thing i've ever seen in my life so good i love it who was the girl that um i saw her girls the other day and he straight away what's fearing chintz here like this is my why or something like that and i comment here she is some of them are getting blueberry but not our names i commented saying this is our star of the week and this is for Lucy.

4:43Lucy B137. Oh yeah? Play his out loud. Who are my favourite YouTubers? Sophia and Chincia. Sophia and Chincia. Sophia and Chincia. He was going to listen. Sophia and Chincia. And then she went, yeah, and she put, that's my wife. With a red love heart. Oh, it's actually funny. Right. Sophia and Chincia. Right. Sophia and Chincia. where's that where what language is the accent is that Birmingham Soviet uh Yorkshire Yorkshire Yorkshire Dales or Sheffield Sheffield yeah Sheffield Sheffield shout out yeah shout out Lusa well happy Wednesday everyone absolutely welcome back to another episode of the girls bathroom we're gonna dive in this week we're gonna take you on a journey Absolutely, absolutely we are.

5:36Let's take a journey. And we are going to start, as always, with our question of the week. Ah, this is a great one. Yeah. And it's funny that this is actually, so our question is, if you could watch one TV show or movie forever, what would it be? And this is hitting me at a weird time because you know what? I've started re-watching 90210. Is it? Yes, it is. Is it really? It is, yeah. Wow. And let me tell you, right? So I was watching it. I couldn't even tell you what the storyline of that was. But maybe if I, but is it coming back to you? Oh, I've watched it like three times. Oh, I only watched it once.

6:11Yeah, I remember. I've watched it like three times. But you know, episode one, season one, it's like Naomi's sweet 16th birthday. So Annie's new, her and her brother are new. They're going to live with the grandma in California. And it's like Naomi's sweet 16. And so she's 15 and like she's in a bar, she's drinking. They're like going to the club. her dad's like giving her a new mercedes and i was like wow we were watching this being indoctrinated yeah i'm thinking this was the life well think that was the age of sweet 16 yeah so we thought we were gonna have this big bash like adults i'm like i'm watching it like we've seen the same age but you're supposed to be 16 they're like like makeup like yeah heels but i think they had to have been 25 in real life yeah i guess so surely they probably They weren't.

6:58They weren't, though. Really? Like, now I'm watching it thinking, oh, you guys, you guys do look young. The only memorable character to me was Silva. Silva, yeah. Is she in it yet? Or was she in... Yeah, yeah. Episode one. I don't know. I literally, I can't remember. Yeah, she's got, like, the block. To me, she was the coolest. Yeah, she was. Of the cool. Yeah, she was very cool. She was, absolutely. I apologize. I'm going to be burping a lot today. So we've got here one TV or movie we could watch. Right, well, Friends for me. Easy, hands down. Friends for me also, movie-wise, Shrek. Oh, is that a movie as well?

7:31I've watched it every single night for about two years. Movie-wise for myself, Sophia. Yeah, come on, what are you thinking? What was the question, sorry, that I could watch all the time? If you could watch one TV show or movie forever, what would it be? Forever. I mean, you know what is always guaranteed a Google? Bridesmaids. It's a classic. Oh, Helen knows. Oh, no. wait my favorite well this is a very strict my actually favorite bit that I think goes under the radar is when she steals all the puppies yes that is a good one that's a good Halloween costume for me she's got all the dogs in her car oh my god that's so good why don't we do that right also we do need help for Halloween it's fast approaching yeah come on guys hardcore prosthetics okay don't want to take you out of your summertime realness but Halloween is approaching work starts now yeah let us know yeah Do you know another TV show that I've never watched?

8:28Maybe someone can let me know or not. I've never seen Scandal. Never even heard of Scandal. What? It's like a Shonda Rhimes, like, specialty. Apparently it is insane. That to me sounds like Grey's Anatomy, you know, like one of those. Yeah, or that Shonda. Shondaland. Apparently Scandal is insane. Really? Go for it. I was listening to Jake Shane's podcast. Who did he have on? Morgan Stewart. Oh. And he was like, Scandal, it's amazing, it's amazing, it's amazing, it's amazing. There you go then. Never seen it. start something new yeah let me know guys if i should watch scandal okay so suggestions here one of our faves wild child classic you shake the hand of the head girl absolutely friends yeah modern family yeah desperate housewives classic i'd sure you need to watch that it's like my answers vanderpump rules classic u.s office classic twilight classic yeah robert buffy the vampire slayer no don't think i've ever seen that not for me i think buffy is a really cute name we were gonna call our dog bonnie buffy really yeah that was her that would have been more appropriate right because she's more of like a free spirit yeah you know harry potter yeah that's a once a year thing for me yeah off campus oh absolutely i've still not given that a second run through oh god i gave it three yeah apparently season two is coming at early next year oh good Grey's Anatomy nice The Hills nice Benadolm never really watched that me I've watched a couple I've watched a couple episodes Jane the Virgin didn't you watch that?

10:04I did watch Jane the Virgin yeah I never really gave that a go but then it got a bit silly I think I stopped watching because it was a bit I didn't really get it I didn't really get it Hannah Montana we never got that we never had Disney Channel we didn't have Disney Channel we were just CBBC and CITV girls Yeah, an E4. Yeah, I guess when we were, yes. High School Musical. Yes. You know, they're doing a musical theatre on the west end of it. Of High School Musical.

10:34They should get Corbyn to play Corbyn because he's a theatre boy now. Yes, yes. He's on the stage. He doesn't look young anymore. Oh, I guess. But I think. Oh my God, it's going to be so good. Because I saw some sort of performance. It was at some sort of something and something's coming. Yeah. Something's coming, you guys. We heard it here first. Something's coming. Downton Abbey never seen it okay I mean yes Lydia loves that the historians of the world seems quite her coded what I just mentioned 90210 nice yeah I'm with you on that one I never told you what happened in Italy go on so we were up for dinner so speaking of TV shows that people love yeah mum loves what's that zombie show she watches oh Shaun of the Dead zombie Shaun of the Dead Shaun of the Dead no no sorry no no no no my dad and brother love it as well what the hell is it called walking dead yes yes and there's like 20 seasons of something yeah right yeah okay she watches it every day when she's alone like that's her comfort show she watches that at home 3 p.m yeah angie well yeah she's watched all the spin-offs everything yeah wow she's so we sit down at dinner in tomina there was a lady and a man and a child sat on a table and i was like that lady is so familiar like who the fuck is that lady she looked like Gwyneth Paltrow but it wasn't Gwyneth Paltrow okay I was like who the fuck is that but it was like one of those American I was like she's an actress 100 % she was somebody like a blonde you know American I was like who is that who is that but I was trying and one thing about Chintz she's very good with faces she will recognise anyone and just be able to place them like that but I couldn't place her I had a face I was like who is that I was like who is it who is it so I had to share and then I said to Lydia I was like Lydia who is that lady like who is that she's like it's no one it's no one i was it's someone so i was sat there googling like blonde old actresses it's like when we were in italy and i was like going insane i was 60 year old plus actor male yeah yes in italy right now i was like old lady she wasn't even that old but you know like you know yeah trying to narrow down the and it was like one pouch i was coming up like it was all the other blonde like meryl streep and i was like She's not here.

12:44She's not here. I was like, Lydia, who is it? Oh, it's no one. It is. So Lydia was on the left. I was like, you're useless. Go to Mariana. I was like, Mariana, who is that lady? Who is that lady? She's famous. She's famous. Mariana goes. She goes. She goes, mom. Literally, she's like, mom, don't panic. I was like, what is going on here? And mom had her back to that table. She was like, mom, don't freak out. Daryl Dixon is sat behind you. Daryl Dixon. I was like, who the fuck is that? Who the fuck is Daryl Dixon? She's like, mum's like, mum was like, who the fuck is Daryl Dixon? She was like, Daryl Dixon from Walking Dead, the main guy sat behind mum.

13:23Like, and he's with. And I was like, oh my god. So it wasn't even the lady. No, but the lady is Diane Kruger. You know Diane Kruger. Who's Diane Kruger? You know her face. And then we were like, oh my god, mum's up, it's Daryl Dixon. She's like, I have to say hello, I have to say hello. I was like, not right now. I was like, let them eat their food. And then you can go, then go say hello. She's with her family. Oh my God. Yes. Oh my God. So then we're all like freaking out. Oh my God. And his real name is Norman Aridas. It's Daryl Dixon, the main guy from Walking Dead. And his wife is Diane Kruger.

13:51Who's Diane Kruger? You know who Diane Kruger is. All I'm, Kruger, I'm thinking of that man with the dog. This lady. Colbert. Yes, you're Sophia. Don't mess about. This is Diane. I have never seen that lady in my life. Sophia, no, don't be silly. What has she been in? Don't be silly. What has she been in? I've never seen that woman in my life. Yes, you have. Give me another picture Give me another picture I've never seen that one No Sophia Don't be silly right now Give me a roll Let me place her I mean This is why I couldn't really place her Sophia look how famous she is Who the hell is that Sophia Sorry Diane Kruger Sophia What's she being in Come on give me a roll I'm looking Troy 2004 You're not going to see these Look she was in Inglourious Bastards Never seen it Out of See we've not seen these But she's so famous this lady you're so good with faces anyway but i didn't guess it anyway she's married to um wow daryl dixon who is norman readers so they were leaving mum gets up i've never seen mum fango mum gets up i'm such a big fan she did she ran i'm such a big fan daryl uh norman and he shook her hand he's nice to meet you no he's american nice to meet doing nice to meet you it's nice to meet you nice to meet you nice just like this wow and then we sat down she was like whoa who can just take her friends who can i tell does anyone watch my dad would love that yeah my dad loves because then i started getting excited oh my god who is this guy i was like it's normal readers like wow he's very famous can i see him please yeah i mean i'd never seen his face before but when you see him in his and then i was like oh yeah walking dead man you know right because i've never seen the walking deck he was like very shaggy like punk rocker don't recognize him either a huge shout out he's very he's to dormant and norman yeah wow he yeah and then mum followed him on instagram i was stalking a celeb interaction yes so exciting there's no thrill quite like it i've never seen mum fangirl i bet she couldn't come down but she couldn't she was texting her friends anyone watch walking down i've just met normal readers but some of them were like i don't watch walking down yeah wow that was the story and you do know diane kruger you do okay you really do okay there will have been something she's i bet she's been in like something at the tv show maybe okay should i just quickly say you do know here we go okay she's been in more tv shows little disasters i don't watch that i've seen that this i mean i've not seen these but But yeah.

16:28Wow. I knew I, yeah. That was my story. That would be your superpower. Recognizing faces. I know, but the name didn't come. The name didn't come. Have we ever told the story when we were at dinner with the Dallas Cowboys cheerleaders man? Oh my God. Because that was a similar instance, wasn't it? That kind of panned out the exact same. It was me, Chintz, great. We were all at the table. And Chintz again was like, this famous woman's just like walked in behind you. And we were like, who is that? And she was giving like old glamour movie star energy, wasn't she? hat you know just like makeup glam it was deep who is this woman they had a photographer her husband came in another woman it was giving people were busy bodying around them it was giving assistance it was like the you know there was the the assistant there was everyone's ushing her in yeah making sure she's okay and again we're like who is this who is this and she's like it must be that man it must be that man again googling old men actors hollywood blah blah we're getting like because then he came and sat down and he had all this aura too and i was like who is this old man who is this guy and then behind chintz the people i was facing was this like american family they started freaking out yeah or whispering gossiping blah blah oh my god they know who it is they know who it is i wonder who it is we're not finding anything on google are we we're like who is this who is this who is this um anyway the american family stood up to leave so grace was like we've got to ask them so we're like excuse me who is the man behind and they're like huh huh oh my god oh oh donnie you tell him you tell him oh my god please be quiet there was literally there was three of us there was their table our table and the famous people's table in this restaurant that was it oh you tell him you tell him oh my god and then he said oh that's the owner of the dallas cowboys and we were like oh because i watched the documentary It was Jerry Jones.

18:16Then it all came back to Sevilla. And I was like, oh my God, that's that mad. But again, the woman lured us in. She had the aura. She was like goals. She was diva, diva, diva. She was diva. And then we were taking like sneaky pics, what we were vlogging. And then on the way out, we got stopped and we were like, oh no, we're going down. Like we're going for a night in the cell. And turns out it was the photographer. I went, excuse me, ladies. And we were like, oh shit. We've got caught here. Turns out the assistant listens to the pod. This is the pod. So it all comes around full circle. And then he took a picture of us with the assistant on Jerry Jones' camera.

18:51So we're on that role somewhere. Oh my God, we are. Right, it's your turn to read out favorite movie TV shows. So shout out Walking Dead. Shout out, what was that show that you saw Jerry on? The Cowboys show. Yes. Shout out. Yeehaw. Shout out. Okay, other ones you guys watch. Gossip Girl, Lydia Coded. She always has Gossip Girl on. I just, that's not, that's not a comfort watch for me. Me neither. I've watched it once all the way through. I've never touched it again. Yeah, me too. Keeping up the Kardashians. Okay, I get that being on the background. Dance moms. Never really watched that. Vampire Diaries.

19:26Did you ever watch that? Love Vampire Diaries. When did you watch that? Oh God, I watched it. Oh really? I watched it all. Oh, uh-huh. I watched it while I was at school. Really? Yeah. I don't know where I was. I think the name scared me. I did tell you at the time. The name scared me. Gilmore Gaw. Gilmore Gaw. Lydia Codian. But you watched that, no? I've watched a little. I think I've watched like two seasons. But not finished it. Not finished it. I've tried before. I want to try. I think it's very comforting. Like come Christmas. Yeah. It's like cozy. It's a very autumnal watch. Yeah. Big Bang.

19:55I watched that yesterday. Love Big Bang. Mean Girls. Mamma Mia. Doing another Mamma Mia. 2028. I can't believe Meryl. They killed her. Oh God, you're Meryl. That was like a kick in the teeth. Well, I didn't enjoy that film. I did for the nostalgia, but the fact that she was dead, it was like this underlying sadness. No, I did not approve of this. Even though they were celebrating her life. Gavin and Stacey, yeah. Yeah, didn't really watch that. I did, but I'd never put it on now, but I appreciate it when it's on. People ride hard for Gavin and Stacey. Sex and the City. Yeah. Love Actually. Parent Trap.

20:35Classic. One Tree Hill. Did you ever watch One Tree Hill? Yeah, I love One Tree Hill. Where was I? How I Met Your Mother. never really watched that not my favourite How to Train Your Dragon classic love it Lord of the Rings made in Chelsea and finally Notting Hill oh that movie yeah yeah nice with Hugh Grant right our favourite our mate who we used to weirdly see in the morning a juice baby that was a time to be alive when we lived together we used to walk and get a smoothie and we'd just sometimes see Hugh Grant there yeah that was so random yeah we were all sweating 7 o 'clock in the morning getting his juice yeah good times shout out

21:15just before we get into it quick disclaimer just as we are not doctors we are not professionals we do not actually know what we are talking about this is a light-hearted space okay don't take what we say literally because we could be wrong yeah and if there's anything serious if there's anything you feel like you're seriously struggling with please contact a gp a professional because that is not us we're just girls girls and boys just like you we're just trying to get through life as well not professionals enjoy the episode

21:42first dilemma today here we've got my best friend is living with my ex is this a kind of uni hall situation or is this like even worse than we can imagine because uni halls are just like this is just tough luck you know like say you're assigned a flat and it's like oh my god you're with my could it be a case of you met this guy because your best friend was assigned living with him and other people and now you've broke up and now she's got to live that's just the uni tough tough shit life isn't it yeah hi girls been following since the blog days to room candles wow that is a poem that's a high so i would really appreciate some advice on the situation that's as wild as it sounds for context my ex-boyfriend and my best friend at school we were all part of the same friendship group okay so okay yeah but as you do i fell out of love with the boy i went to school with so i broke up with him a few years ago we remained friends as neither of us wanted to sacrifice the friendship group okay so best friend sarah is still very much a part of this group because her boyfriend's in the group too she's gonna be seeing the ex okay sarah and her boyfriend steve moved to a new city in the uk as steve was starting a new job which my ex brian has also recently done okay so we've the three of them have all moved to the same city we both now have different partners outside of our friendship group and i have just found out that Brian and his new girlfriend have just moved in with Sarah and Steve.

23:05I'm getting so confused. Right. He's got new partners. Right. Where's the friendship we've gone? Where are we? Okay. So from what I've gathered, I'm Susan and I'm writing in, my ex-boyfriend has a new girlfriend. But obviously my best friend Sarah is still friends with my ex. So now my best friend and my ex-boyfriend have moved in together with their new couples. Wow. Okay. Do you grasp? I think I'm grasping Yeah I think This is a large web That we're weaving But so Brian's got a new But obviously it was two years ago But still like This is my ex's new girlfriend You're living with her Two years is not that long either No Very fresh You blink and it's two years So So I'll read that again I've just found out that Brian and his new girlfriend Have just moved in with Sarah and Steve Gosh how's that happened As Brian and Steve are good friends and agreed sharing a flat slash rent costs would be cheaper.

24:05But also like, is your best friend being like, no, we can't do that. I'm surprised she didn't. Because like, Susan's not going to want to come around. It's really awkward. That's uncomfortable. I might get really close with Steve's new girlfriend. Then that's a real conflict of interest for me because my loties lie with Susan. I'm surprised your best friend didn't refuse that. Obviously she's just like swept up in this Like if Steve wants that Yeah like if I don't know Obviously she doesn't think it's an issue Maybe she's thinking She's got a new boyfriend He's got a new girlfriend I don't know but I only know this Because of a drop in conversation From our mutual friend So Sarah's not even shared this information with me So she knew that it wasn't going to go down well So that tells us She knew that I shouldn't do this Yes completely because also like say it was a question she could have at least run it by you Steve's kind of brought this up how do you feel this is how I'm feeling any ideas of how I can get out of this give me an excuse what can we think of yeah but she's gone in with it and not told she's tried to keep it on the hush hasn't she that's really shit that you found out that way look she's saying I know I broke up with him and we're still technically friends but I didn't need to be asked and so I didn't need to be asked no but you did but you did like come on and I think she knows that she probably should have asked you as well regardless of a best friend or not even just like an acquaintance a friend should run it by you I think because it's yeah but a heads up from Sarah that she'll be sharing an address with my ex of five years five years wowza I think that's crazy that she's agreed to that yeah that was would have would have been appreciated you're literally living with my ex wow like what was she thinking what what seriously all i can think is that she's appeasing steve that's his best mate steve's like i want to do this and she's like and then obviously his argument is they've been broken up for two years they're still mates she broke up with him like she don't care and she's just kind of she's kind of thinking like fuck and just be like i'm gonna have to like go with this now but then surely she would have brought it up to you and being like ah but she didn't but obviously she didn't she just thought mutual she she thought i need to just appease steve make steve happy she was probably too nervous to bring it up to you because she knew like this isn't good yeah maybe she actually knows like this is really bad and i don't know she definitely does because she did not buy it yeah if she thought it was not a problem she'd be oh yeah moving in yeah blah blah blah blah but like that's the weirdest setup ever it's not even just him it's a new girlfriend you're going to be learning the intricacies of this relationship also two couples living together is a lot that's a lot that's a lot yeah like you're going to witness like a bit a bit like it's a bit full on that it's a lot okay i have since brought this up to sarah who said she didn't know how to tell me so quite frankly chose not to this added to the hurt we've been friends since primary school we're 25 now and i thought we could tell each other these things she also explained that I'm actually not welcome in their flat.

27:25As Brian's new girlfriend doesn't feel comfortable having her boyfriend's ex being or sleeping in her flat. Fair enough. Fair enough. Fair enough. Yeah. I mean, yes. Because think of the new girlfriend. But come on, Sarah. The new girlfriend's thinking, I'm living with your ex's best mate. It's awkward for everyone. Like, how does anyone want to be in this position? Why does he? Why does she? Why does your best mate? Why does your best mate? But this singular decision. I don't know why anyone wants this. It's awkward for everyone. It's because everyone's trying to appease the boys. The boys. Because the boys are best mates.

27:57Because they're best mates. Well, the boys can live together. Well, it's not right. But also like Sarah's put you in this position where you're not going to feel comfortable really around. Like you're going to feel really awkward and really not comfortable around her because then she's going back home to her boyfriend who's then there with your ex and the new girlfriend. And that's not good vibes. It's not good vibes. I know you're not even allowed to go around her place right this was a bad idea this was a bad idea so Brian's new girlfriend doesn't feel comfortable having her boyfriend's ex being or sleeping in her flat neither would I yeah neither would I Brian has also since blocked me of course yeah because this ex-girlfriend is spiraling so much for being friends I think this ex-girlfriend is thinking wait a minute so I'm actually moving in with a flat into a flat with your ex's best mate yeah I'd be spiraling too I'd say you block her now She's not allowed here Oh my god I don't know how anyone Has agreed to this I don't know how she's agreed To that to be fair I don't That's like me getting A new boyfriend And he's like Yeah babe I've got a really great Living arrangement for us Got a great set up here Let's go and live with another couple Yeah Oh and by the way It's my ex's best mate You're gonna be fine with that You'll love her You'll get along really well That would give That's anxiety overload That is not I don't know anyone who would agree to that.

29:19So I'm not sure how we've ended up in this position. I really don't. It's the boys. The boys wanted it. It's the... I'm like, I feel like I'm about to like, it's like I'm the one moving in. I feel quite hard. Don't worry, you live on your own. You're safe. Yeah, I live on my own. I'd say if I have a dog, I'm a boyfriend. So Brian has also since blocked me from everything and removed himself from all group chats. He's really like going for it. Well, why are you living, like, why are you now living with these people then? Like, if you want to be removed from the group, like, don't go and live with them.

29:53I think it's this new girlfriend being like, oh, so you're still in this group? Oh, so you're okay to live with your ex's best mate? She's now turning on him. This is actually really weird. Yeah. Well, she should have said that before we moved in. Right. Susan said, look, what the fuck do I do about this? It's Sarah's birthday next month. and whilst our friendship group, she's put in brackets, all made of couples, have been asked to go up and sleep in their flat. How big is this flat? We've got two couples in there already and the whole group chat's been invited. We're sleeping on the sofa. I'm sleeping on the bathroom rug.

30:28I'm sorry, if there's like this rule that I'm not allowed in that flat, you can't then be inviting everyone else in my friendship group to that flat. That's bullying. That's cruel. That's so cruel. That's ostracizing. But then I guess it is Sarah's birthday. Exactly. So she makes the rules. Yes. It's my birthday. Of course she's coming around. And it's like, you know, I'm not allowed around there. This is, no, this is, what is going on? Where are we also sleeping? Yeah. On the, yeah. In the bath. So they've all been asked to sleep up in their flat. I have been asked to sleep in a hotel alone. What is actually going on?

31:08Maybe in this instance, though. You're the premiering around the corner. Brian and new girlfriend leave for the night of course you guys leave for the night it's Sarah's birthday go away the fact that Sarah has the cheek to actually ask you to do that I think is a bit crazy and I know Susan you don't want to be in that flat I don't want to be in that flat who does but it's the principle the people that live there don't want to be there yeah it's the principle so I've been asked to sleep in a hotel alone that's a joke surely you and Sarah could go and have a fun time in a hotel let's go to the Dakota she needs some smarter ideas yeah she does like they can all go sleep at our flat Me and you, let's go have some fun time and we'll go to a nice little hotel for my birthday.

31:44Let's get a dressing gown and a massage. And then that avoids that really awkward situation of her saying, you go to sleep in a hotel alone. You're not allowed in my space. What is she thinking? We need to sort this out. I obviously love Sarah and wouldn't ever usually miss her birthday. Of course. But if she's happy, let me stay alone for the night rather than having it out with Brian's other half. Do I just say, I can't go to this and any other future plans until God forbid they are no longer living together. That's it. That's it. I think you're valid in that if I'm honest. This is like, this is messing with your piece.

32:19It's like the spirit of Brian's past is lingering and it's like, go away. Get out of my, like get out of my life. I don't want to be thinking about your ex-girlfriend. I mean, about your girlfriend. This was the worst decision Sarah's ever made. Completely. I think she's completely, and she's making it worse. There are things she could put in place now to kind of fix this and make this better. Like all she had to do on this birthday night was everyone's going to go sleep at the flat. But like me and you, we're going to go get a nice hotel. Yeah. And we'll go there. Not see you in a while. You don't live in the same city anymore.

32:50Like we'll go do that. And then that, do you know what I mean? That's a special thing we're going to do. Maybe I'd like to know how Sarah is explaining this to herself. Like I'd like to know what her thought process is here. So like, because I do think the fact like asking you to go in a hotel is just making you feel so isolated so separate from the group okay so we're all doing pre-drinks i guess i guess i'll have pre-drinks on my own because i'm not invited into the flat well then all going out together you're all going together i'm meeting you there like yeah okay then i arrive and i've not i'd now blah blah and now we're all going home well i'm going that way you're going that way like i just don't know why she wants to leave you on your own all night when it's her birthday and you're her best friend it should be like i'd rather just go out us two and everyone else i don't need everyone else i don't know why like i don't know how she i don't know how she's got to this yeah this like train of thought yeah i'm in shock i'm confused i want to know what the hell is everyone else in the group thinking yeah surely they're going no no no we can't leave that's so we can't leave sarah there like let's not do the sleepover like that's really they're all thinking we want free accommodation we don't want to pay for a hotel we're all traveling to see you in the new city aren't we yeah we're all getting on the train like we don't want to pay for a hotel like you've invited us here if we can stay at yours we're gonna stay at yours i don't know what sarah's on i don't i think you're within your work because this is actually like a night you're kind of going to be dreading yeah because brian's going to be there his ex is going to be there you've already kind of been blocked yeah you know i've got it but you know the new girlfriend said you know she's not allowed anywhere near you not allowed in my flat kind of thing obviously she's going to have built some sort of bond with sarah now right inevitably they live together and that's gonna be uncomfortable for you to are we having dinner together am i doing your washing what's the vibe yeah like this is gonna be doing the food shop together because also she's probably playing down their relationship as well yeah do you know i mean she's probably like i don't even know about that well meanwhile we're out and they're cuddling and fucking doing whatever and they're like laughing and buddy buzzy buzzy buzzy buzzy mating it up yeah yeah and you're thinking oh my god like that's not what i thought it was boyfriend's new girlfriend like this is really uncomfortable for me but you're gonna be dreading this night maybe what you could do is which for the record I don't think is something you should have to do but I think because of the position you've been put in I think I would be very tempted to call Sarah or message Sarah whatever you would like usually do and just be like look I've have been thinking about it I hate to miss your birthday like I don't want to do this but I don't want to stay in a hotel on my own I also feel like it's a little bit awkward that I'm the only one that's going I understand the reasons why because you know you're living with blah blah blah but I just don't think it's right for me to get to you and be on my own I just don't want to want to do that so why don't the following weekend you come and see me and I'll we I'll take you out for lunch or I'll plan something we can go and get some drinks at your favorite old cocktail bar and we can have a night just us too maybe and then you don't have to worry about getting on the train getting a hotel on your own being separate from the group feeling a bit on edge feeling a bit awkward and actually you can just celebrate her birthday the two of you yeah another time i think that's the solution i also want to see some kind of like sarah look what this look what this situation is like i feel like you're downplaying it in your mind like i'm a bit confused i want to know who sarah's got in her ear like yeah is her boyfriend and being like, it's chilled, it's fine.

36:23What's she, la la la. Like, I don't think you like, this is like a big, big deal in my head. Yeah, this is like top, top, top, big, big, big, huge, huge deal. Huge, pretty big. Huge, huge mistake. Huge, huge, huge. Like this is a huge, huge thing. Yeah, huge. Like deep it, deep it all. Deep it all. Deeped. Yeah. So I think do that. I don't understand it. Sarah can only reply with nothing but understanding and apologize. I think. if it's anything of the case anything other than that you need to be like Sarah fucking let me fucking give you a reality check look at this situation right now number one I've even got a new boyfriend fair enough okay if I had a new boyfriend maybe I'd feel a bit more comfortable coming into that situation I've kind of got a partner there even so even so awful you live with my ex boyfriend what are you what are you thinking mental Sarah it's mental I need Sarah to write in her perspective me too sarah what got you to that point what has steve been saying i would genuinely be interested though as to her reason me too because i'm sure she's reasoned it out in her head and i'm just curious to see what it is i think she's got the goggles on so do i she's just justifying it she's just thinking it was two years ago she broke up with him i love steve i want to make steve happy and if if i've got to make brian happy as well because brian and steve are best friends like make the boys happy happy happy happy i can't stand up for myself and say no we can't do this I think happy birthday Sarah I guess have a great going out guys you have fun guys Rothy's is up to something big the famous flats brand has reimagined their iconic point shoe to be better than ever to celebrate its 10th anniversary Rothy's made the point even more beautiful and comfortable than before every closet needs a little black flat and Rothy's makes the best one of all.

38:18Discover the point at rothys.com and learn why this timeless shoe is so special. That's R-O-T-H-Y-S dot com. Hey guys, it's Drew from the comment section. Some days my skin just needs a little coverage and other days I want to go full glam. For those everyday moments like running errands or grabbing coffee, I've been loving the Merit Minimalist Stick because it's a foundation and concealer in one that gives me a really natural skin-like finish. But when I want more coverage, I'm reaching for the Hourglass Vanish Concealer every time. I know I'm not the only one who struggled to find the right foundation or concealer shade, which is why I always shop at Sephora.

38:56They have the best brands all in one place with so many shades, coverage options, and finishes, plus expert beauty advisors, free samples, and shade matching tools both online and in-store. So whether you're looking for barely there coverage or full glam, Sephora can help you find your match.

39:27okay next dilemma yeah whoa he proposed i've got pins and needs then cheated oh my goodness hi girls after many years of watching your youtube videos and listening to the pod something has finally happened that has led me to seek your wisdom. Well I'm not happy about it. I'm not happy about it. It's not a cause of celebration. I actually wish this hadn't happened. Yeah. I wanted to write in because a few weeks ago my entire sorry my entire world was turned upside down. Brian and I had been together for almost six years. This past spring he proposed and I truly believe we were about to begin the happiest chapter of our lives instead everything unraveled oh my god it's at least a jewel novel a few weeks ago i received an instagram message from a woman who said she'd worked with brian she told me they'd been talking for several weeks and felt i deserved to know wait sorry she said we've been working together for a few weeks you need to know something we've been talking for it but it's a colleague yeah i've been talking to your partner for several weeks and i think you should know so he's not necessarily cheated with the colleague yeah i guess we don't know sorry i'm just assuming instead of replying straight away i decided to give brian the benefit of the doubt and hear his side first look this is your future husband let's you know give him space to take the floor the mic is on the mic is yours when i called him wow we did this over the phone okay when i called him sorry i keep but you're probably thinking this could be anything.

41:07Yeah. You know, we're not. What's going on? Weirdest thing just happened. It could be a work thing. Yeah, yeah. We're not jumping to intercourse with another lady. On the office desk. When I called him, he admitted she was a co-worker and that they'd exchanged numbers. Weird. I immediately felt something was wrong. Deeply unprofessional. He was incredibly calm and never once reassured me that nothing had happened. Instead, he simply said, we'd talk when he got home. God, that whole afternoon he was planning his story, wasn't he, in his bullet points and his timelines. So this colleague actually is the lady who we've kind of fraternised with.

41:46That's when he admitted that after starting a new job in Feb, he and his co-worker had become close. They regularly had lunch, chatted on teams. God, this chatting on teams. And eventually exchanged numbers because she wanted recommendations for a trip to Spain. I'm sure. I'll email them, you babes. We were together. I'll wrap down the post in there. Within the work hours. I'll write you a letter. Tell her within the work hours while you're working. You don't need to be texting. No, completely. I actually remember him asking me for Spain recommendations because of a co-worker who was traveling there.

42:19Looking back, I now realize he likely passed my suggestions on without ever mentioning that they came from his girlfriend. After she returned from her trip, they continued spending time together at work. They had lunch. She would stop by his cubicle after her shifts. They spent time together at staff events. and eventually kissed a few times. So he's admitting this to us in this conversation after work. This all happened after he asked me to marry him. What a fucking twat. Do we have a picture of this, Brooke? I was completely blindsided. That is disgusting. I genuinely believe we were happy. When I asked him why, Brian said he'd been overwhelmed by work.

43:02Sure. Oh my fucking God. I don't care about your stupid work and your stupid excuse. And that seeking attention elsewhere was his way of coping. Oh my God. This bullshit is mental. What do you mean? But do you see how? Oh my God. The manipulation. Do you see exactly the manipulation is starting like the justification. I was overwhelmed. You've got to see my perspective. Oh, I was seeking attention. I keep this house afloat. I'm the breadwinner. Do you know how stressed I am at work? Like, I had to seek out another female. He also admitted this wasn't the first time he had cheated. My heart is pounding.

43:45Oh, oh, oh, oh. He had been unfaithful in previous relationships under similar circumstances. I would like to point out that I did not know any of this. That's disgusting, actually. so you've not thought to share with your new partner what that you were unfaithful in past relationships no i ended up calling the co-worker to get her version of the details the part that had been the hardest for me to process is that he completely erased me from his life he never told her that he had a fiance but surely so they started talking together in february and he proposed in the spring yeah so why is there nothing on social media but so she really had no idea at all and then he proposed and then he thought yes let me go straight back to that i know who i want to kiss yeah my co-worker that's fucking insane when she found his instagram she saw she saw a photo of us she sells seals and asked who i was he told her i was his cousin which she found odd since we are hugging in the photo she didn't believe him searched me on social media realized i was actually the fiance and that is when she messaged me so she had been on his social media for the first the best part six months february well yeah yeah i guess but surely like but also like he's just gone and proposed to his girlfriend oh is he not coming back into the office going like with all the colleagues hey you're a secret no one in the office knows and you aren't a wallpaper either he's done this before how was your weekend oh fine i just sat at home on my own like do you realize how much you're actually leaving out of your life disgusting prick but also like why are you going through this brian why are you even considering proposing to me proposal i have no idea what is going on in your stupid stupid i know guilt guilt it was a guilt proposal yeah he kissed her and thought fuck i feel guilty but then he thought he didn't even think let me cut it off with the colleague he thought let me get back and let me kiss her a bit more i can see the picture of him like him a couple more paragraphs looking back another detail now feels incredibly intentional just a few days before she messaged me i noticed brian had changed his instagram profile picture from one of us together to a solo shot that's disgusting let's go ahead for one sec so all this time his profile picture's been me and him him and his cousin apparently what is this lady thinking though she must have thought it was fishy i jokingly asked why he changed it and he casually replied that he wanted something different now i can't help but wonder if he was trying to make himself appear single yes the first thing men do when they want to be single or appear single is they become active on social media posting and they change their profile picture is that actually a fact there we go it's a fact the purpose we've got a screenshot of the message as well the purpose of this email isn't to ask what i should do and whether i should stay with him as i was processing what happened i thought wwe do ah what would the girls bathroom do wait what's the abbreviation i thought ww tgbd ww tgbd that's got a ring to it i decided to end the relationship because despite how much i loved him i knew i would never be able to rebuild the trust and feel secure again it's impossible well done sarah and i hope he really feels the way and i'm sure he will ultimately i had to set i had to stay true to the values i I believe are essential in any relationship.

47:23I'm 30 and the thought of starting over after six years feels incredibly daunting. We were planning on buying a house, getting married, starting a family and building a life together. Now it feels like I'm grieving not only the relationship, but the future I thought was just within reach. I'm writing because I'd love your advice on healing, rebuilding and finding the confidence to start over after losing the life I thought I was going to have. Yeah, I understand. This is the cousins apparently. I'll just pull up on my phone I need to really look at this man And this is the message Hi my name is Wait who's his message?

47:55Oh from the girl Yeah Bleep I work at Bleep I've been talking to Brian for a few weeks And just found his Instagram And then yours I asked him who the girl in his profile pic was And he said it was his cousin Dot dot dot I thought it was odd So through mutuals I've just been told that you're together Question mark I hope this is a misunderstanding But just to make sure I wanted to reach out Let me know if you'd like to chat more so this was his profile book yeah don't trust a bad man you have dodged a bullet i'm sorry it took six years but i bet you now you're looking back that you're not like i'm so glad this has happened now yes before you made any bigger commitments and i'm glad also that you have been like no i'm not standing for this i'm getting out straight away i think that's incredible and so brave and so strong and you've got to give yourself a big pat on the back you've not kind of fallen for his like manipulation and crocodile tears.

48:47And you've not got, oh, I'm engaged. I want to get married. Let's just keep going. Like you've not let yourself get into that. I'm really proud of you for that. You're so young. Seriously. Everyone says it's the best era ever. I also think a rebirth at 30 is absolutely normal. Oh my God, this is your Saturn return. This is it. Yeah, absolutely. I think it's going to be life altering, but in the best way. I think, look, you've had such a shock. think you've entered 2026 you were in a six-year relationship you probably felt quite stable quite settled as you said you were setting up for the past six years you've been you've been picturing and building and moving towards this whole life with someone that now you're like oh my gosh that's not happening then come spring you get you get um proposed whatever now you're engaged you're thinking okay yeah yeah two months later now i'm single again that is a lot to process like so completely and also it was like from a betrayal from your partner trust is broken everything it is a big shock and you probably will be in shock for a while um but i think once you find your own place get out of wherever you were living with him you know it's the right decision which is great absolutely there's no doubt in your mind you know yeah there's no doubt in your mind thinking should i like should i give it another shot no i'm glad you 100 % no and we support that and i think you will come into your own and this will actually be the best thing that happened to you you will i have full confidence you will look back at one point and be like thank god that was honestly the best thing that could have ever ever i think you now need some time of just like solidarity being alone learning about yourself okay so i've not been sick so you've not been single since you were 24 yeah wow you know so much you know you've had six years with one singular person you've changed so much yeah and what you want your needs you've never been alone you know in your late 20s like this is so even just like find a new hobby think about what you like to do you know like get back in touch with yourself on what you like and how you want to spend your time and more about like what your friends are doing into your friends and your family you know and i think all you can do is just take it one day at a time it's going to be really hard days it's gonna be really amazing days like you're gonna cry a lot and you're gonna feel like you can't get through this and it's gonna be like months and months you're still gonna be crying and thinking oh my god will i have that but you will and you're gonna feel great take it each day as it comes don't be too hard on yourself you've gone through a lot shower yourself with love and praise lean into your family and you will feel rebirthed and you've just gotta you have so much peace that you have made the right decision just remind yourself every time also get angry you know instead of being my mum would always say that that's angie's specialty because like you know because i can be quite emotional and cry and cry and cry and cry and it's like why me well actually no get angry at them yeah fuck you who the fuck is the best tip yeah and then it's like actually i've got anger and kind of hatred for that kind of makes you feel stronger it does because you're not kind of like reminiscing you're not like woe is me you're like fuck you like why would you do that yeah because we look we can have a tendency to like oh reminisce oh we We had that beautiful day together in January, blah, blah, blah.

51:58Yeah, that lovely walk that we went on. And you're like reminiscing and crying. I'm never going to. But actually just get angry and it's easier. Because then you actually hate you. The universe is on your side. It's given you a huge blessing and a way out just in time. Yeah. Thank God we didn't marry that to her. Someone's looking out for you up there, you know? Yeah. And also, like, I'm grateful that What's Her Face sent us that message. I'm really happy that she came to us. Same. And told you. And you just got the truth. and at least he told you actually what happened to be fair that's kind of shocking from him he probably knew yeah congratulations sarah congratulations on your break i'm really really happy for you i think it's all good things coming and you're good there's everything happens for a reason in a few years time or whenever if you ever meet someone new which you will it will all you'll be like this was the reason it will all make sense yeah also i think these next few years alone you're gonna become this incredible version of yourself that you're gonna look forward to honestly i agree i'm really so many beautiful things to come well done sarah

53:07okay we're going in here i bet this has happened way more times than we realize especially in this today's day and age. 1000%. In this day and age I wouldn't put it past these men. Yeah. My boyfriend asked chat GBT how to break up with me. That is fucking mental. You've not got a fucking brain Brian. No. Like if you've not got any original thoughts. If you want to break up with me just break up with me. You don't have to ask a robot. Yeah. Just want to start by saying I love the part. I've been watching since Boy Talk Girl Talk on YouTube. Watching your videos always puts me in a better mood. Thank you Sarah.

53:42Thank you Sarah. For a bit of context, I'm 24 And my now ex-boyfriend is 27 We were together for five years Oh my god Canon event Yeah, and was waiting for our new house to be ready So we could move in together Oh Sarah, I'm so sorry About three years into our relationship He was being extremely secretive with his phone Taking it everywhere with him Turning the screen away from me Not even letting me change music in the car Get a life I found out he'd been sending flirty messages to a girl from work. Go be with her then. Go be, like literally go be with her then. So this was three years in. Not letting you change music.

54:24Please. So this was two years ago. Right. So this was obviously his first red flag. When I found out he had stopped messaging her for a few months prior, we agreed at the time that we would work through this and he promised he would never do anything like that again. Right. Okay. So we kind of worked through it. It's a hurdle for you guys. Yes, but we kind of worked through it. We decided to keep going. He didn't physically cheat, could kind of justify it. He was saying all the right things. He said blah, blah, blah. Flash forward to a month ago, his behavior has been off again. Oh no. Like communicate.

55:00So I checked his phone whilst he was in the shower. Nice. I went through all the usual apps, Instagram, iMessage, Snapchat, until I got to WhatsApp. Don't forget about Reddit these days. That's the new one. Oh my god. What do we need to be looking out for? The Reddit porn. Yeah. WhatsApp, sorry. Did she say? Yes. She'd done Instagram, I messaged Snapchat until I got to WhatsApp. He had locked it with Face ID. Please. Scary, scary stuff. Are you James Bond? Like, why are you so stupid with your phone? Are you two of the MI5? Like, what is going on? Oh my goodness, look at this doggy. Blueberry's sitting on the arm of the chair.

55:36Look at this doggy. She's a princess. Right. Sorry Locked back into the story So We got to WhatsApp It's got a face ID Lock on it I knew then That I was about to find something And it let me unlock the app Using his phone password She's trying to link you He had been messaging Another girl Another girl from work For two months Who are these girls? What's going on? You are these girls Yeah Yeah, so we found another colleague to message. And also this other girl, these colleagues are obviously, un, un, what's the word? Nerd? Unbeknownst to them. They don't know he's got a girlfriend. Is that the word?

56:23I believe so, yeah. It's like a bold man. Cousin. Yeah, it's like these ladies don't know. These ladies don't know that these men have got boy, girlfriends and that's the first red flag is when they're keeping that a secret i actually saw this horrible tiktok yesterday and it was like one of those cheetah buster tiktoks and it's like remember that show cheaters yeah it's essentially so good yeah and they go bust on them yeah but this was like um so she knew her boyfriend was like going to the shop so she so this guy sorry I can't even explain it so the girlfriend's like we need to see if he's gonna like like cheat on me essentially so send in a girl to go hit on him and let's see how he fares okay and then it's like everything's on camera and on the mic and like literally he's like well yeah you want to go like literally she's just like dog food I've got a dog too he was like carrying dog jacket yeah like dog food he's like yeah I've got a dog she's like I've got a Frenchie and then he's like you want to go I should get your number like we can keep in contact like she's like have you got a girlfriend he's like you want to go there like being like ha ha ha like should we go chill anyway got her number wow she was like let's go hang she's like watching it all like in a car on CCTV fucking mental that's literally the same as the show bring it back it was bring it back yeah so good so good it's just such a good premise like so good okay so second offence of cheating with a woman at work we went on the whatsapp which was locked he's been chatting to a girl from work for two months yeah what have we got to chat about come on seriously these messages weren't just flirty it was like they were in a relationship oh my gosh what like good morning they said they loved each other how are you joking are you taking the piss what do you mean just break up with me you idiot like why are you even keeping me about i don't know like surely this is so much effort for you yeah like you're living two lives you've got to keep all these girls happy you must be exhausted sir like just get on with it and pick one bluebie please but that's what they do isn't it just I bought you a toy.

58:44It's not play to... Mamas and work. Stretch. We're working right now, aren't we? Okay. So they're saying I love you to each other. He texts her every morning saying good morning, which is something he stopped doing for me ages ago. Sophia, he stopped doing that for us ages ago. Wow. Well, yeah, he ain't got time. How many morning texts can one man send? So I confronted him when he came out the bathroom and he was speechless. you're chatting enough on the phone get talking but what bright ideas does he have no we're waiting to move into a house together he doesn't have any bright ideas but your bright idea is to go fall in love with susan from floor two hr hr like susan from and poor susan is now in love with you not knowing that you've got a girlfriend of five years and you're going to be moving into a house do you reckon susan's been in your home when you haven't been probably because how can you be in love with someone if you've never been to their house?

59:39But surely not, because all your shit's going to be everywhere, so surely not. Like, have they had... Unless he says he lives with his cousin. Yeah. Right. Bloober, we're going to have to put some boundaries in place.

59:56He came out of the bathroom, he was speechless. He told me he had feelings for her, but he wanted to be with me. Oh, Bora. If you wanted to be with me, you wouldn't have pulled out of this shit. But also like you just think I'm gonna like, what do you take me for? Yeah, exactly. You think I'm a brick. Yeah. Like you think I'm gonna be like, oh my God, thank you. Okay, I'm so relieved for you. Oh, I'm so relieved you wanna be with me. Look, I'm really relieved you're choosing me over her. Thank God you wanna be with me. Thank you. This feels so good. Yeah, oh, that feels great. This feels amazing.

1:00:29Yeah, that feels great that you've told me that. Like, okay, let's end things with her then. You've been with me for five years. No. Okay. Illusional And then he sat with me And cried on the end of the bed Oh save it Save it I made him go to work And met him afterwards Where we had a four hour conversation So this was in the morning Whoa What a way to start the day Spacing through some Coke Zero I asked him everything I wanted to know What feelings did he have for her Did he really want to be with me Did he ever meet her one on one And were they ever physical I'm sorry they can't be in love I've not had sex Yeah He told me he just cared for her more than a friend Brick He never did anything more than speak to her on the phone And he wanted to do everything in his power to make things work between us He categorically told me that they didn't sleep together I forgave him again And we said we were going to give things a go In the month that had passed, not much had changed He made slightly more effort with me, but nothing groundbreaking we haven't been intimate with each other properly for over a year and that wasn't improving oh my god something still felt off so i checked his phone again when he was drunk and asleep i sat in his bathroom and went through every single app oh my god i feel sick also like i like i know the adrenaline your hands would have been shaking like your heart beating like that feeling of like normal like this is not what we should be doing this is not i think we're near the end though like sometimes it takes a while to realize like what the fuck am i actually doing yeah like why am i let this prick convince me that i have to be with him yeah like i have free will we're getting there yeah right we're getting there so i was going through every single app there was a screenshot on his camera roll of him sending her a oh my god wait whoa what there was a screenshot on his camera roll of him sending her a message which said quote my clothes smell of you we've been together physically don't fucking lie to me also you guys haven't been intimate in almost a year don't fucking yeah they've had sex having sex with that woman what do you mean my clothes smell of you that means your body's been all over my clothes or you've been wearing my clothes yeah yes oh my god oh i feel sick imagine reading that message seriously i feel sick after you've kind of finding a screenshot of that in the camera role so he screenshot that message he he wanted to save it for his own personal archive obviously wow um and that's when i knew something was wrong okay good i found out that he had asked chat gbt for advice explaining that we'd been together for five years but he had met someone else that was the was that the title yes i forgot all about that that he met someone else um and thought he loved her and also that they had slept together twice bingo bingo you idiot and he didn't know what to do he asked chat gbt how to break up with me without hurting me oh my god newsflash you prick I confronted him about all this again but because he was drunk he couldn't give me a coherent answer I laid awake all night waiting for the morning to come so we could speak we had a 20 minute conversation and decided to end things after five years thank the heavens thank the lord

1:03:57well done Sarah glad you saw what you needed to see me too you needed to see that it was like you still had that gut feeling like something isn't right like I don't believe you like yeah that was the universe the day after i was regretting breaking up and asking him to speak to me look we've all been there where it's that kind of panic mode you know you're still panicking it's like it's a lot of emotions it's like a tidal wave of emotions and you're thinking what have i done what have i done yeah it's panic yeah he agreed and i spent an hour begging him to give our relationship another chance and told him i would do anything to make this work he told me the relationship wasn't right for him and he can't be the person i need him to be because he has a lot of issues to sort out that was the chat gpt message yeah i'm devastated i had my whole life planned out with this boy his family became my family i feel like my whole life revolved around him and now i don't know what to do with myself do you have any advice on how i can pick myself up from this and get through the heartbreak love from a heartbroken sarah sarah you're going to be rebirthed you are like this guy you've gone through a lot with this guy you've given him so many chances you've given him so many the universe has showed you repeatedly that this guy was not faithful to you at all like you wouldn't buy no meat like unfortunately the way you feel about him wasn't reciprocated the feelings that you had weren't feelings that he had for you you don't deserve to be in a relationship like that it's not normal to want to be checking your partner's phone digging through it looking at all these apps like you shouldn't be going to the bathroom and hiding blah blah blah all of this stuff is not normal and it's not a healthy safe relationship two years ago you have got out of it yeah even though right now it's like oh my god oh my god what it is is is it's the shock i think right now you're in shock sarah you didn't you did like like you said at the start you thought you were getting moving into a house soon yeah like it's like a life's had a 180 it's the shock and the and the sheer panic of it all and the and the like 180 of it I think that's that that's kind of the the vibe you're in right now like you've not processed it you know you're thinking how have you been feeling like that way when I've been feeling like this like what did I miss what did I not see like when did this all begin like how could you do that to me I could never do that to you you've got so many thoughts buzzing around your mind it doesn't make sense to you yeah and it's panic modes it's panic stations it's like I have to get him back I have to get him back like we've been together for five years like I can't see a life without him like you said like he has been your whole life for five years so of course you can't picture a life without him because you never have one without him for half a decade exactly but like i think two years ago when you found his floaty messages he showed you exactly who he was and exactly how this relationship was going to pan out and you saw it again and again and that's a lesson you will have learned now yeah also a message to the masses like once you like he has showed two years ago he showed exactly who he was and what he planned to do he planned to cheat and he's not changed and he and and did he plan to cheat yes he followed through with his actions he followed through absolutely he gave it all that for a bit of course gave it all that oh i'll never do that again i was just in a bad spot you know you know how stressed i've been with work you know yada yada blah blah blah like it puts in a little bit of effort but then does the same thing again but then again it's that same like roundabout of like i'm so sorry like the the crying and you know it's like the emotional pulling on all my heartstrings and i i love you like i want this to work i want to believe you and like you're no better than me sarah like if i saw a man crying and begging for me yeah okay yeah you know you want to fix things and it's really hard to be like no get away from me like i don't deserve that especially when they're telling you what you want to hear but time is the biggest healer sarah i think you can sleep at night like the previous dilemma like no stone has been left unturned okay you gave this guy another chance and it didn't work out you gave him plenty of chances a lot you could have been done with this guy two years ago but you wanted to see it through you wanted to give him another chance you know that you did all you can for this relationship yes and this guy like chint said has showed you again and again it's like the thing like the universe will keep giving you the same lesson until you learn it that is what has happened here the universe has showed you once yeah twice and like quite literally many many times you were stuck in the same cycle and i think it's amazing now that you're free and you're out yeah um sorry i've been licking my hands sticky hands um i think so i think honestly it's onwards and upwards from here i would be kind to yourself you've gone through a breakup it's a huge thing it's an emotional thing it's good days it's bad days but you know and you should know and you should have the confidence to be like i've done the right thing that was not normal he was not loving me how i should be loved i don't deserve that so much more you deserve the world sarah like that was just a fucking child boy doing like taking you for a ride emotional roller coaster yeah like that it only gets better from here you can rest assured that me sophia and all the listeners and blueberry and all the listeners are literally behind you and know you've made the right decision there's no doubt in my mind no one is thinking oh you should have given that no one is listening right now thinking you should go message that man like he's definitely the one no no one we're all behind you everyone is behind you you've got this take it day at a time just anytime you ever thought like I miss him remind yourself what happened remind yourself that this was the right decision and time is the greatest healer and you will be okay keep moving forward and just like the advice for the previous lady take it one day at a time pour into yourself do things that you love that is all you can do and eventually like it'll be a light bulb moment you'll be like oh my fucking god it will literally be like a light bulb you'll be like who the fuck even was that knobhead who took me for that fucking ride what was I thinking what the fuck was I thinking I was under a spell yeah thank god I found out what I needed to find out and I left and it will be like this awakening and you will see that you're so lucky that you got out of that good luck Sarah and congratulations yes you've got this Sarah I feel like we've been on a journey this week week of self-discovery exhausted and it's time for our star of the week please restore even though our first star of the week was uh lucy's oh yeah let's restore our faith in men this week people okay i are these guys look so cute star of the week i would like to nominate my boyfriend ellis as the star of the week we've been together for seven and a half years and he is the best thing to happen to me.

1:10:30We have just bought our own home which I'm so grateful for. I appreciate him so much and he always treats me to the most perfect holidays and trips including Florida this month. Yes. Transatlantic. He always makes me feel so loved and I am so grateful for him. He hasn't done anything in particular this week but he is just all around the perfect human being. Wow. Thank you, Ellis, for being a great boyfriend to our Sarah. Have fun at Disneyland. You guys.

1:11:02well thank you so much for listening everyone we hope you have a lovely week absolutely if you have any dilemmas or you have a star of the week entry please email it to hello at the girls bathroom.com absolutely you can follow us on youtube tiktok and instagram thank you have a good week we'll see you on monday and wednesday bye Bye.

1:11:48That's R-O-T-H-Y-S dot com. Hey guys, it's Drew from the comment section. Some days my skin just needs a little coverage and other days I wanna go full glam. For those everyday moments like running errands or grabbing coffee, I've been loving the Merit Minimalist Stick because it's a foundation and concealer in one that gives me a really natural skin-like finish. But when I want more coverage, I'm reaching for the Hourglass Vanish Concealer every time. I know I'm not the only one who struggled to find the right foundation or concealer shade, which is why I always shop at Sephora. They have the best brands all in one place with so many shades, coverage options and finishes, plus expert beauty advisors, free samples, and shade matching tools both online and in-store.

1:12:31So whether you're looking for barely there coverage or full glam, Sephora can help you find your match. Waiting for your sign? Here it is. Shop Labor Day appliance deals at Lowe's before they're gone. Get up to 45 % off select major appliances. Plus, get free delivery, haul-away, installation and parts, and a two-year Lowe's protection plan on purchases of$999 or more. Labor Day deals are on now at Lowe's. In-store and online. Valid through 916, while supplies last. Selection varies by location. See Lowe's.com for more details. Hey guys, it's Paige from Giggly Squad. Okay, can we all agree that hosting is so much fun?

1:13:13And I really do love it. Every weekend, it's come over for snacks, let's make dinner together, and somehow the second you put out a fruit platter, it seems that bugs show up before your friends do. This is why I have to have my Zeevo flying insect trap. You plug it in and you let it do all the work. It's specially designed blue and UV light attracts the bugs you didn't know you had. And wow, did we have a lot. Like houseflies, fruit flies, gnats. And then with Zeevo, bam. Next thing you know, the pests are caught in the sticky cartridge and away from your yummy treats. without any mess or strong odors.

1:13:47The best part is the design is actually sleek and curved, so it hides the bugs it catches, keeping them out of sight, and when the cartridge is full, you just grab the no mess tab, throw it in the trash, pop in a new cartridge, and then you're done. No mess, no stress. So whether you're hosting a dinner party or spending an afternoon baking treats with all your friends and you want to focus on hosting and not constantly swatting at bugs, Zivo has you covered with 24-7 bug protection. Plug in a Zeevo flying insect trap so you can work smarter, not harder, and actually enjoy your time at home.