A Haunted Halloween Special: Tarot card chaos!!

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1:21do you know what I mean true I can sneak into any sort of in the drains a cat flap in the drain I can fucking scale walls like a summer's summer's old flat yeah pop through the wardrobe I can go anywhere you need me to go yeah we'll get her on the case so maybe she can sniff them out as well yes and I've got a great sense of smell because look at the size of my nose absolutely great sense of smell so I can actually find out anything you actually want me to maybe that should be my what's it called superpower yes become the size of a rat.

2:00Oh! A rat! A linguine! A rat's in here! Happy Halloween, everybody! Happy Halloween! We've been cooking up a storm in the kitchen. I'm a rat! She's a rat! It feels great. The tail is disgusting. Yeah. But I feel... The tail's knocking us sick. All right, we won't lie. oh no she likes it now i apologize not the top of the tit not radotui with tits what's going on not radotui in the slim fit in the slim fit chef chef whites look at that move chef look at that move look at him shake wait am i the main chef yes i don't know how to cook yes so you're the sushi i have i have obviously it's a classic okay yeah well i'm linguine nice to meet you yeah you live in my hat yes you pull my hair and um your stations clear uh oh welcome my i am gusto yes he's dead yes he's he's he's a ghost yes and the spirit of of him is in is in ratatouille no like the rest too he's just a great chef yes because he loves food and we're out of two weeks absolutely well we are here back legs it's the lead up to halloween it is we thought we wouldn't scare you too much boo i mean i feel fantastic yeah i mean you're looking fresh as a short you look 15 like you look so fresh the freckles the natural auburn is really eating i fear if you're ever over the blonde like this is then the root i'm being dead serious wow you're really liking me today yeah like a bit of blush natural lip thank you it complements the eyes the eyebrows i think the blue is also doing a lot for you today i've never been blue before that's for sure it's really bringing out my eyes yeah i like it i like it a bit of blue going on absolutely i'm drinking my man the tail i actually hate the tail it's really scary part of me like imagine if we had tails i just don't like it no well that we spoke about this before there are humans who have tails because their spine just keeps going that is that's amazing for them because they must be able to utilize it in many ways yeah i'm sure it has its perks um uh-oh i've lost a third straw i'll be able to get this one i'm not allowed to drink from the teat of this bottle there we go would you like me to pull up the question of the week should we are we ready to dive in chefs i would like that very much because this rat is ready to go the rats don't run this city we do I need to know what a rat does yeah you just like yeah just festering on things on your sniffing I could actually smash that croissant right now take a bite freshly made by me earlier I don't want to offend the people with the eating sounds well question of the week Paris version Paris version what would be the worst thing that could jump out at you at the haunted house.

5:06Everything. I ain't going to no haunted house, are you? Everything. Rattatooy. Rattatooy. I ain't going to no spooky. No. My lockdown situationship. Oh, I see what we're doing. Oh, we're having fun like that. Well, then we'll say my first boyfriend. That would be awful. Yeah, that would be scary for me too. That would be very scary. My year 11 biology teacher. Oh, well, we could say that maths teacher we never had. What was his fucking name? The pedo. The fucking pedo. My brother had him. What was his fucking name? We never had him, thank God. Luckily, we never had him. He was scary. A clown. You hate clowns.

5:40Yeah. My horrible neighbour. Yeah, shout out. This girl's put my electricity bill. Yeah, absolutely. Okay? Yeah. Absolutely. Mr. Tumble. Who's that? Do you mean Mr. Oh, Mr. Tumble from CBeebies. Can't picture that. Yes, you can. Okay. Oh, hi, kids. Peel banana. Bananas in general Baked beans Oh what? I love baked beans I had a lovely can of chickpeas last night Cat in the hat Scary That would be very spooky at a haunted house actually Yeah I don't actually like cat in the hat A pigeon Yeah But I do feel for them You know they're just trying to get by This girl One of Chinsley's weird food combo plates I mean look Listen I didn't come up with them That's what the internet's serving me She's having fun, okay?

6:29Banana and avocado was the worst one. That's a lot of texture. That's a lot of texture. We don't cook that in my kitchen. For one little rat. I apologise if I'm a little nasal. I can't actually breathe from my nose. It's just so tiny. We've got anything with a train. Well, yeah, that's jumping out at me. That's ridiculous. Yeah, that's horror. We've got my mother-in-law. We've got some tension in the family. We've got my boyfriend's ex-girlfriend. Oh, spooky. That would, yeah. I mean, you don't want to run into that in the wild, do you? Especially in a haunted house. A boy with long fingernails.

7:02Oh! Honey, go cut it. Not the long fingernails, honey. That is spooky. My 2012 eyebrows. Yeah, me too, probably. Yeah, that's a good one. A belly button. Oh, I'm scared of holes. Oh. Scared of holes. The Grinch. Boo. I mean, I'm kind of reading Grinch today. Been there, honey. Yeah, you are Blue Grinch. A man wearing Dior visor Visage A Dior visor? Dior visage What's that? A visage A visage? Oh, visage I thought it was Sauvage It is Sauvage Dior Sauvage I thought it was Visage It is very Visage A huge moth, hate a moth Hate a moth You can never get moths out of that house Jeremiah from The Sunrise and Pretty fair not familiar yeah not to be because I can't relate you're enjoying stretching that beard yeah it's actually really soft you're actually giving you wisdom you're giving Jeremiah right now in the best way yeah he's a very handsome man did he he has the curly hair like this and the little freckles like little you know been out in the sun absolutely where's belly the child to natural from Cheety Cheety Bang Bang that'll do it that'll do it that's a good Halloween costume actually mark that for next year And finally we've got my year nine school photo.

8:26Oof. Oh. Oh. God, I used to, oh, I just looked at my ones from. One shot you got. One. You only got one shot. And then the cute was like, how's my hair look? How's my hair look? Yeah, no. It was awesome. We didn't have makeup then. We were just out there. Out there raw dogging it in a blazer. Fresh face, blazer, turquoise fucking tie. And a white shirt. Like. Buttoned up. And a dream. And a chef white. Yeah. We had no hair straightness. What was I doing to my hair? Oh, natural. Oh, natural, baby. Right. Would you like me to read the first 11? Yes, please. Save you some nasal. Oh, yeah, sure. Save your nasal passage.

9:00Let me rest.

9:06Just before we get into it, quick disclaimer. Just to say, we are not doctors. We are not professionals. We do not actually know what we are talking about. This is a lighthearted space. Okay. Don't take what we say literally because we could be wrong. Yeah. And if there's anything serious, if there's anything you feel like you're seriously struggling with, Please contact a GP, a professional, because that is not us. We're just girls, girls and boys just like you, you know? We're just trying to get through life as well. Not professionals. Enjoy the episode.

9:34Right, dilemma number one. Haunted Airbnb, our worst nightmare. Oh, yeah. So we had this last year, but this is just someone's 2.0. Oh, not an Airbnb. Not another one. Not an Airbnb. Last year I listened to your second Halloween episode. You slayed. Big up the Harry Potter outfits. Big up. Absolutely. Thank you. Don't miss that. That's for sure. Bust down. That was a big prosthetics day. And after hearing about the haunted Airbnb, I wanted to share with you my parents' experience in a haunted cottage. Oh, here we go. Here we go. I actually can't take it. Like this is too much for a lady who lives alone with a dog.

10:14Whose dress is a rat. Whose dress is a rat and it's just trying to make it through. My parents' favorite thing to do is go away on a staycation with the dogs to the cottage. That's really cute. Don't go abroad. So for them, this is their big best thing ever. They've stayed in many cottages, but there is one which will always stand out in their memory. So they booked a cottage with two bedrooms, one upstairs and there was one downstairs with two single beds. One night they were chilling in the living room after a little drink and decided to sleep in the downstairs bedroom as it was just easier.

10:45They didn't have to climb the stairs. The stairs are hard on my head. When they got in the bedroom, they noticed it was freezing cold. Oh, God. Way colder than the rest of the cottage. Oh, God. My mom loves ghost stories and haunted houses, often asking me to go on ghost tours with her. So when she had a drink, she was lying in the single bed and said to my dad, shall we tell ghost stories? Oh, your mom is crazy. One of the dogs had a favorite toy. It was a red rubber ball and he took it everywhere with him. Oh, God. Oh, no, this is the one of their dogs. Sorry. The same night, in the middle of the night, my dad said that that ball started rolling across the room on its own.

11:22Fucking hell. Now, that would knock me sick. Jesus, take the wheel. Take a deep breath. He tried going back to sleep. However, he claimed his blanket started lifting up on its own. Are they not just taking the piss out of you, Sarah? I don't. Because your mum likes these ghost stories. When that happened, my dad leaped out of bed and ran upstairs to the other bedroom as he was so scared. When he told my mum about this in the morning, she said she thought she'd seen someone walking past her a couple of times when she was crocheting on the sofa in the day, but thought nothing of it. But now it makes sense.

11:53When they got back from the trip, the dog never touched his favorite ball again. Shut up. That's weird. That's like Blueberry never touching her croissant again. I hate anything, ghosts and spirits, and I find it so scary. But I don't feel like my dad would lie about something like that. Sorry if this freaks you out Girls just had to share with you As I've never heard anyone With a similar experience Love you both Thanks for making my Wednesdays more fun Gosh be warned of the Airbnbs I will yeah The cottages of it all Like especially in England Like no thank you Do you know my hairdresser Actually told me this was quite fitting Oh no When I went ginger obviously A few days ago He's moved into a new house And he thinks it's haunted Poor man So he was staying there His partner was away He was staying there First night on his own He started hearing these noises And he was like oh poor man these noises and he's been living there for like maybe two months yeah and it turns out there's a whole other room behind their bedroom that's all sealed off they didn't know about like owners have like sealed it off so they think there's like spirits living in there oh they probably sealed off because of what they experienced when they're in that they did it for some like some ceiling shape or something oh yeah i'm sure to make the room better but uh yeah No, there's a whole ghost family living in there, I reckon.

13:11Oh no, poor man. I know. That is awful. Well, like, my dad's old salon was haunted. We've said this before, haven't we? Big time haunted. No, the blinds moving on their own. The phones going off when no one else was in because you were called from each fucking floor. That was scary. No, I can't do that, unfortunately. I'm surprised we hung out in there on our own. I know. I was scared. Remember when we'd go on on a Sunday when it was closed and it was scary going up into that main bit through the stairwell? I did not like it because that's where the builders and people had heard footsteps and stuff.

13:43Fucking scary.

13:56Next up. This is a spooky ghost story, if you will. Has my boyfriend of three years really just disappeared, Sophia? to be fair I could go and find him because I'm small do you know what I mean true I can sneak into any sort of in the drains a cat flap in the drain I can fucking scale walls like a summer's summer's old flat yeah pop through the wardrobe I can go anywhere you need me to go yeah we'll get her on the case so maybe she can sniff him out as well yes and I've got a great sense of smell because look at the size of my nose absolutely great sense of smell so I can actually find out anything you actually want me to maybe that should be my um what's it called superpower yes become the size of a rat yes and then just find men just whizzle on through with my tail so what would you be called rat girl uh well what's right to be called remy yeah yeah well yeah if you're a super just quite simply rat girl wet rat girl yeah and then i would have um bat you know how bats have wings yeah i would have just a set of wings as well okay yeah so in case i was scaling the size i think the tail could become a helicopter of sorts and that could carry you around yes it could it could yeah let's stay true to your form absolutely true but i was seeing them also just coming just out on me back somewhere you know okay yeah um leave it with me i'll see what i can do so that when i'm scaling the walls if there is an emergency i could just simply jump you can fly and fly and just you could put a parachute in your chef's hat through oh that's actually true oh that's actually it's not so secure is it but yeah maybe the superpower think about okay so this is a scary story if you will hi girls i love listening to the pod and honestly never thought i'd be in the position of having my own dilemma for you but here we are and now your boyfriend's disappeared yeah yikes i desperately need some advice because i am so confused and genuinely driving myself crazy trying to understand what is going on this is what is going on myself 25 i bet he's gone to bali there's something about it I think he's ran off to Bali to go and do steroids and pump some iron do you think he's deleted his social media like is he gone no I think he's very much active okay on a private account in Bali okay taking professional images in one of those villas you're gonna fly to Bali then and go I'm gonna go hide in some cargo I can go hide in some cargo I can I can go and be in Bali you could yeah absolutely this is what it's giving it's giving he's got a girlfriend in Bali for some reason.

16:28I don't know why Bali, but he's just in Bali. That's your spidey senses tingly. Yeah, it's in my bones. So I'm 25. He's definitely in Bali. It's just a niche place where some boys flee to. Absolutely. We know, we've got personal experience. Absolutely. And the boys love it out there in Bali. Yeah, they do. Myself, 25, and my boyfriend, Brian, 28, have been together for three years. And honestly, he has always been the most loving, devoted boyfriend. That's lovely. Well, I guess not so much. He has always been completely obsessed with me in the best way, treated me incredibly well, and made me feel so loved and secure in our relationship.

17:06That's nice to hear. He's always been the person who was terrified of losing me. I thought you were going to say terrified of traveling. Oh, then we'd be on to something, wouldn't we? Then we'd be, that was him throwing you off the sand. Yeah, absolutely. Fear of flying. I could never get on a plane. Yeah. Meanwhile, he's took the 30-day cruise ship to Bali. Yeah. That's honestly my dream. So he was always terrified of losing me. Right. And I genuinely never had a reason to question how much he loved me. You see how scary this is? Very. That they just lie like that? Absolutely. Like, you've always made me feel so secure, and now all of a sudden you're fucking flat.

17:46Flat the scene. Our relationship is quite unusual. Here we go. I'm sure it is. I like to dress up as a rat. Yeah. because we both have careers that mean we spend a lot of time apart we could be back to the F1 like we had a couple of weeks ago or we could be air hostesses let's not forget about them and those pilots oh my god not forgetting about the pilots well then he's definitely in Bali he works away interesting okay so he can spend around two months away at one at a time sounds like he could be on a cruise ship yes absolutely working and our Sarah here says and I'm a professional dancer it's giving cruise ships of course she is diva so I also go away for months at a time with my contracts it's giving Cruz put the nail on my head we've had to do long distance for a lot of our relationship but we've always made it work sorry bear with me even though I was chatting shit on electrolytes a couple weeks back oh yeah you said we don't need them anymore back on them I'm like an addict we are not meant to be drinking them okay sorry liquid ivy it's only for athletes look at me and we're not looking athletic today what how fucking good are you yeah well maybe look i actually would have the confidence to go and sign up for my dream if i went over like that because every time i move my face id yeah because every time i walk by there's three big men still behind that desk and i just can't face it get the girlies on the desk please Like, why are you putting big, scary men on the desk?

19:21Because I'm just a little 29-year-old lady. I don't want to speak to men. It's scary. So scary for me. I've not had a boyfriend in years. I cannot speak to a man. Right. So, we're on the cruises. Yes. I'm a professional dancer. I have contracts away. We've had to do long distance for a lot of our relationship, but we've always made it work. Sorry. There's yawns coming from Linguini over there. I actually do need a wee what would you do if I just weed here in the seat like what would you actually do would you be addressing it no I just was like oh god I couldn't be bothered to get up and I just pissed and I was like sorry Anisha sorry guys clean it up I think about that a lot like mother like daughter right sorry let's lock in so we're long distance we've always made it work it's never been a problem in long distance of course we speak every single do you know what it's actually giving below deck we could actually be away on yachts but she's a professional dancer so isn't she dancing on the ships he could be away fornicating with other yacht ladies who are working on the decks in the kitchen so we speak every day when we're apart on FaceTime keep each other involved in everything and always have something to look forward to do together okay so there's always something booked in when we're going to see each other I've always felt like we were incredibly close and this wasn't a problem okay over the last month or so he became incredibly negative and withdrawn ah the pulling away starting like someone else sounds like something i've been through i could tell he wasn't himself and i desperately wanted to be there for him i wanted him to talk to me about what was going on and let me support him he was also under quite a lot of pressure with work and life generally and has been struggling but he didn't really want to have the difficult conversations with me okay I kept trying to understand what was wrong and reassuring that I was there but he seemed to be shutting down more and more so he's withdrawing withdrawing sorry just kidding what why are you laughing I'm just watching you speak like with the nose what's so funny about that I was born with this face you know something I can do about it um okay so this guy sorry your boyfriend's pulling away he's doing the classic thing of when a boy doesn't want to be in the relationship, he can't be bothered or doesn't have the balls to break up with you.

21:41Therefore, he just becomes cold and distant and mean and pushing you away. And all of a sudden there's all these excuses. My life is so hard right now. I cannot speak to you. I'm just struggling. That whole thing. Yeah. So that you have to break up with them. So that, yeah, you're the one thinking, oh my God. You know, it's a whole power thing. But meanwhile, he's shutting down more and more. And I'm trying to reassure him. Then one night Completely unexpected He sent me a long para Saying that he wasn't okay He said he didn't know What he wanted Of course Yeah he doesn't know what he wants Of course he doesn't Yeah Okay But really you do know You do know You've been thinking about it For the past month But also like you do know So you can just Like you do know Yeah you can just say it You're just being a pussy Yeah Like Oh I don't know what I want And that he was struggling with the distance between us and he needed some time to himself.

22:40He said he needed space from everything, including our normal communication because he couldn't switch off. The FaceTimes are too much. Fucking hell. He told me it wasn't my fault. Yeah, yeah, yeah. And he cared a lot about me and that he loves me. But he needed to be left alone. Yeah, I love it. It's the classic. It's the classic. I've learned it from men before. You fucking pencil. He's seen someone else on the boat. He's had his head turned. He's like, oh, this is quite fun. I quite like this. Now I'm not really caring about my girlfriend anymore. It's just the classic. They think this is their easiest way to get out.

23:17Oh, what can I? Oh, do you know what? I'm going to play on the fact that work is very stressful. And I'm not feeling too good right now. She deserves better than me. Yeah, yeah, yeah. But I will make sure to reassure that I do care for her and I do love her very much. And I think she's the most amazing girl I've ever met. But I just need to, because of my mental health and how I'm struggling. I need to cut communication with her straight away. Well. Because I don't know what I want. Like. A classic. Obviously I was heartbroken. Yeah. But I respected what he asked for. I thought maybe he just needed a few days to breathe and clear his head.

23:51Okay. But also like. Also like we're long distance. How much more space does one need? Yeah. Like you have space. Yeah. You're on the other side of the world. You fucking have space. Fucking hell. Right. But also like, do you see how he's kind of left it open to be like, so you're, our Sarah is thinking, okay, in a couple of years, in a couple of days, he's going to be fine. He just needed some space. Meanwhile, in his head, he's done the breakup and he's fucking done it. Do you know what I mean? But he's not communicated anything clearly because he's a what? Pussy. Yes, Linguine. He's a rat. He is a rat.

24:25He doesn't run the city. No. Absolutely. Right. So. so you're just thinking okay maybe he just needs to clear his head have a few days and I genuinely thought I would probably hear from him in the next two or three days once he was feeling a bit better he's got a wife he's got kids he's in Bali he's out of here I would put my money on the fact that he's left the cruise ship and he's in Bali I'm being dead serious I would put money on it right now and he's probably friends with someone that we know who's also fled to Bali so you're genuinely thinking looking look he's probably gonna come around he loves me so much like this i'm obviously gonna hear from him again you're thinking like this is my boyfriend of three years yeah like this is not just a guy who like i'm dating or sleeping with this is my boyfriend of three years he's like i'm 25 we're serious and also like you're probably giving him the benefit of the doubt like look he maybe is probably struggling yeah let me just give maybe work stressful maybe he's had a bad week and then he will eventually want to lean on me because i'm his girlfriend who he loves apparently you know so yeah you're probably feeling a bit secure in that moment thinking well I am gonna hear from him but did he just disappear after that dead ass I want her to say it tell us where he's fucking gone but every day I waited for him to contact me and every day there was nothing I tried to respect his space but for me it was absolutely unbearable going from him being my person I speak to every single day to suddenly hear throw in my mouth pro ball oh no flush it out flush it out You're going to choke.

26:04Oh my God, it was a bit of popcorn from earlier. Sorry, blanket. It was actually a bit of my fucking cheese popcorn. My apologies. Sorry. Okay. So you've still not heard from this man? No. But you'll think. That is outrageous. I'm trying to respect his face in this moment. You know what I mean? but it's my patience is wearing thin like usually we're gonna hashtag we've got more to say yeah but for me it was absolutely unbearable going from him being my person to I speak to every day to suddenly hearing absolutely nothing I believe he's got a girlfriend yeah that's not acceptable he's engaged I thought he's met someone else he's engaged to someone else he's bought a fucking ring I just think he's started sleeping with someone else yeah after a few days I did start sending him messages yeah as you should hello I'm your girlfriend yeah trying to call him because I was worried but also because I was struggling in silence and somehow a few days turned into two weeks for two whole weeks I had complete silence this morning I woke up to a message from him okay so this is what spurred it on to send us a year today went out your asshole basically oh here we fucking go here we go look at this riddle But basically He said he's had time to think Oh I needed that time to think Like How long does it fucking take to think How long does it take Does your brain not work Yeah Like two weeks Are you joking And that he's made his decision Sophia Oh right I've made my decision You mean the one that you made two weeks ago You didn't You just thought I didn't get the hint Yeah oh yeah I've made the decision now And I've had time to think And It's I think it's best for us to end the relationship Fucking hell That is literally all I've had from him He's literally just said I've had time to think And it's time to end the relationship I've tried to yeah he is 100 % with another woman 100 % there's no doubt in my mind I feel like my imagination has taken me to a place where he's that is a song you could write that as a song my imagination has taken me to a place where right at yeah yeah it's giving tape a new fucking album that is my house wife and yeah um I think he's working away he's met someone oh fancy sorry Sarah, I know you don't want to hear this, but I think what happened is they, he fancied her.

28:23Yeah. He wanted to sleep with her. I think they probably got really drunk one night and I think he probably cheated on you and was there. Sophia's hit the nail on the fucking head. I'm so sorry. But then it's like, oh fuck, like, but I like you and I'm seeing, you're in front of my face every single day. You're right here right now. My girlfriend is all the way over there, maybe even different time zone, like God knows where she is. And I think he started to feel guilty and was like, well, I want to be with this girl now. I don't want to be my girlfriend anymore. That's why I'm not talking to you.

28:50And also like, I'm not worried that I'm not talking to you because I'm busy with this hot new girl that I've got that I'm like, oh, like got this new lust for because it's new. And he's realized, oh shit, I've already ruined my relationship. Yeah. So the next, I just need to fucking cut it off with her and then I can go on forth with Susan Sexy Sarah. Susan. And not feel guilty about it. Not saying you're not sexy Sarah, but he's obviously, he's found sexy Susan and he's thinking, okay. He was right in front of him in the vicinity and he just can't like yeah not bad he's just been an absolute disgusting disgusting pig yeah and thrown away three years yeah and not even the decency to like call you this is all over text this will fizzle out like I don't think he's gonna I think he's just sleeping with this girl it will fizzle out and that's when you'll get a message 100 % hey missing you he's 100 % gonna come I've made a huge mistake like I'd love to see you like when are you next because at the end of the day the last time you saw each other you were together.

29:46Yeah. Do you know what I mean? Like this has all been a text exchange. Yeah, which is crazy. So, which is crazy. The fact that you never answered any of your calls. After three years. Like can we not even have a fucking chat? Right. So anyway, so he said it's best we end things after two weeks. That's literally all I've had from him. I've tried to contact him since and he hasn't responded any fucking further. Wow. The disrespect. But also the discipline from him. Like he's got that new girl. Yeah, he's busy. And he is not messing about. And he probably doesn't want to get caught speaking to you with the new girl because then he's going to get in trouble with a new girl.

30:16And then he's in trouble with two girls and he's lost both of his girls. I'm completely heartbroken and completely confused. How can someone end a three-year relationship with one text and then just disappear? Because he's a fucking twat. Yeah, they can't. Like he turned off his emotions. Yeah. And he was out of sight, out of mind. Unfortunately, I think you probably were. Yes, I think so. And maybe it was something he was thinking about for a while, but it was just keeping the act up for a little bit. It's very easy for men to lie like that and say all those nice things like you know make you feel so loved and all of that you know look at the love bombing of it all like they managed to do that the love bombing of it all yeah exactly do you know what I mean like they can lie and deceive and he's just done exactly that and also like maybe not to drag him down further but also like maybe he wasn't the saint that you thought he was when you guys you guys have been long distance for three years like we don't know what he was getting up to like he probably was flirting with girls like drinking with them like we don't really know what he was up to when you were away we just know what he was texting us like what would that do for me nothing and you know how there's some of those groups of guides guides scouts woo guys and they're always like oh yeah well that's Adam he always cheats on his missus it's giving that to me oh well they're long distance so you know he's always shagging someone on the weekend that is what that's giving to me and like you don't actually and then the girlfriend's always none the wiser always none the wiser because how would you be how would you know well yeah because you're receiving the sweet text you're getting the phone calls the face facts every day you're even maybe getting flowers and like he is making the effort when he sees you do you know what I mean like they're master manipulators they are master manipulators Sophia say it again master manipulators I do love that phrase master manipulator master manipulator it does roll off the tongue hey it does right we've got more we've got more we've got more she's not done yet so now she's sat here wondering i bet your mind is going crazy sorry the lack of closure and the lack of explanation is so cruel three years and you're giving me nothing like all i'm left with is my imagination and i'm spiraling and imagine all these different scenarios and all these different things that could have gone down and i don't know the truth and that is not fair but that's why i would put money there's 100 % another woman involved he's in Bali yes in Bali yeah there's 100 % another woman involved and if he's in Bali that's cherry on top of the cake 100 % I'm sitting here wondering how the person who absolutely adored me and was so scared of losing me can seemingly walk away from three years together without even wanting to have a conversation with me I don't know what any of it means I don't want to make assumptions about why he's behaving this way I've been going around in circles and driving myself crazy to think of what's changed sorry a little wrap up a little extra seasoning on the mic those electrolytes honey i'm just driving myself crazy going around in circles trying to think of what's changed i'm struggling so much because this doesn't feel like the person i know i understand that people can change their minds and that relationships can end but i cannot understand how you can go from being so in love to ending thing ending everything over one text and refusing to speak to the person afterwards.

33:37There are also a couple of things that have happened throughout this, which I find really strange. Here we go. What else? And I genuinely don't know what to make of them. Here we go. Around the fifth day of him not speaking to me, I was with my friend and she noticed he had put up an Instagram story of a sunset in fucking Bali. I'm joking. A sunset. A sunset. Are you being serious? So while you're - Yeah, yeah, yeah. You're on a fucking date with another woman. the silent treatment you're actually on Instagram posting stories are you fucking joking? You'll definitely slap that up in pizza with a girl I'm going to see so I know you're on your phone and I know you're able and you oh my god I know your fingers are working your hands are working like they used to before yeah did anyone get that song reference?

34:21when your legs don't work that was that your reference?

34:28yeah his hands are working like they used to before honey do you know what I mean he's not lost his fucking thumbs in Bali has he he's still managing to post that Instagram story who's he posting that for you're supposed to be in turmoil and you're on Instagram get a grip who's he posting that for he's probably with Susan he's with Susan it's probably Susan's pic oh send me that oh my god disgusting so this was the fifth day of us not speaking oh my god so this was after the breakup the fifth day after the fucking breakup oh wait what i thought it was fifth day of silent treatment i know i think the fifth day of him of us not speaking yeah yeah yeah yeah yeah yeah exactly exactly that's what i'm saying no your thumb still work before oh my god oh my god i couldn't see the story from my own account he's fucking blocked you from seeing his fucking story but my friend could so I presume he'd hidden his story from me that felt strange in itself because he is not normally someone who's particularly active on social media tell us old as time oh my god then today when he sent me the message saying he wanted to end our relationship one of the first things I noticed was that he had deleted an Instagram post which I was in this guy is 10 steps ahead he is ready he's fucking organised that's for sure and I just find the whole thing so confusing because he has not responded to me.

35:56He hasn't wanted to have a convo with me, but he has had the time and thought to go onto Instagram and hide a story from me and remove a post that I was in. There's other women on the scene. It's clear as day. There's other women on the scene. I don't know whether I should keep trying. I know I'm so sorry because I think she's trying to keep contacting him because she said, I don't know whether I should keep trying to contact him because I feel like I do deserve an actual conversation and some explanation or whether I need to accept that this is what he wants and leave him alone. I genuinely just want an outside perspective.

36:28What do you girls honestly think is going on here? Other women, other pussies. Other pussy. Other rat puss. I think you need to get a sexy arm on your story, maybe a shoulder. For sure. Just a little bit of something just to wind that boy up. For sure, for sure. I think the moment you block him, the moment you stop reaching out to him, he's then going to start spiraling and he will reach out. but you don't want to be with this man is the point you might like to feel that validation of ah he's finally reached out but fuck you like you're never going to hear from me again because like silence is the biggest response you can't treat me like that as you're currently experiencing like silence is torture do you think you can fucking ghost me like that and then just come back around in a month's time when your other Susan fucks off and then think that I'm going to jump straight back into a relationship with you you've hit your head babes he probably does think that's how this is going to go I think he does he thinks he's so cool and he's got all this power and like, oh, I'm just going to dead her off for a bit while I'm having fun in Bali.

37:23I can get her back though. Yeah, but I'll get her back. She loves me too much. I'll get her back. She loves me. Yeah. No, you're not being treated like that. No fucking way. What would you do if you were me? Lots of love from a heartbroken and confused girl left with so many questions, searching for answers. God, searching the seas, low and wide, far and high. If I'm honest, who the fuck is he? Remind yourself, who the fuck are you to fucking ghost me like that? You were my boyfriend of three years. That shows that it was all a lie. You didn't love me unconditionally. You weren't scared to lose me because you've just fucking thrown me away.

37:57And now I'm gone. I realize my love for you was strong. No, but we didn't. No, no. We didn't realize my love for us. Oh, no, sorry. No, no. I was just singing. That song means nothing to you, Sarah. I was just playing the game of following the song. Yeah. No, we don't want that. Absolutely not. No, you deserve so much more. You need to realize that this behavior is disgusting. Unattractive. So, so cruel. and for him to treat you. It's evil. Listen, this is what's happening right now. He is in the phase right now of excited. I've got rid of my old girlfriend. Traveling, fresh puss. And with like new puss.

38:34Fresh puss. Freshly baked. When I laugh with this nose on, it's like I can't breathe. Like he is in lust land right now with some new person that we don't need to know anything about. It doesn't matter. It's irrelevant. and you whereas are like dealing with the heartbreak and you're going through it what's gonna happen is as time is gonna go on he's then gonna feel he's gonna feel the heartbreak that you are currently feeling probably in about four months time it's gonna hit him it's gonna hit him later because it always does and then by that time you're gonna be completely thinking you're a fucking twat my opinion of you has totally changed i feel nothing towards you anymore i actually fucking hate you you'll be in your hatred era i think yeah you're gonna be moving on feeling good feeling confident feeling positive new year all of that stuff and that's when he's gonna come back and be feeling all heartbroken you're probably gonna get a message from him and it's gonna be all of that and that's when you can be like no you fucking idiot he's gonna come back with crocodile tears for sure you're just going through like you're going through the heartbreak now and he will all because you're looking at him being like how could you not feel what i'm feeling like we were together for three years yeah i'm feeling this way how are you not how do you not want to talk to me he will but it's just a delayed response and i know sarah all you want is for him to reach out to you and say god what a mistake i'm flying to you now like god well how could i ever do that to you and you would take him back but you you can't he would only do this to you again like he is not your husband and you have to see it as like if he could do that to you like that speaks volumes of how he feels about you and no matter what he's because you would never be able to do that to him because you loved him exactly and it speaks volumes about how he feels about you if that's how he can treat you absolutely i think get angry at him fuck you how fucking dare you do that to me no you know what the person i'm meant to be with would never treat me like that and never leave me alone like this never make me feel like question second guess spiral remind yourself of that and never contact him again i mean i would block him i would completely stop contacting i would block him and also he's gonna shit himself when he realizes that he's blocked and also it will make him right now he's not really thinking about you because you're constantly messaging him and he's like oh go away go away go away the minute you stop messaging absolutely he's then gonna be like it's a whole part it's a whole shift gone like why hasn't she messaged me for a few days like oh that's weird like not heard from her and then you're gonna be on his mind he's gonna start shitting himself absolutely i would cut contact big time because then he'll start freaking out because the thought of you moving on with someone else will also freak him out even how he's acting right now it's literally just because it's outside out of mind fresh puss in bali absolutely that's it is he in bali that's the question but fuck him even if he does reach out please don't reply i think you deserve you need to be really strong this is not boyfriend it's really this is so cruel like no closure nothing like it's brutal but you will be fine and you will get over this yeah by january we're gonna be feeling great give yourself some time plan some nice things with your friends absolutely and just get angry at him yeah read fourth wing there you go take it all in absolutely read ratatouille maybe watch ratatouille is there a book adaptation i'm not sure i don't think so on the kindle's not not one of the kindle kindle unlimited

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43:25quick fire great question hit me with the quickie chintz what should me and my boyfriend go for for a halloween party one answer go quick fire fucking hell give me a minute

43:39give me a second i want this one to hit uh quite simply like we were saying before a witch and a wizard or it could be a ron and harry quite simply quite easy remy and linguine jobby yeah remy and linguine shrek and fiona shrek and fee do you know what my personal favorite is shrek and fiona so i would actually say that me too if you want to be like moving on it's quick sorry no go on speak your truth well i was just gonna say last halloween i know a couple and they they were so diva and they looked so cool oh yeah what did they eat down and she was barbie and he He was like, kind of like Kem, but they just looked really good.

44:17And I was like, okay, you guys look cool. She looked really pretty and sexy and Barbie and he looked really cool. And if you want to go out there, you could go like that. I'd be tempted to do just like a blood situation, you know, rip the shirt. Vampire. Yeah. Vampire's sexy. Some fangs in. Right. Oh no. Uh oh. I think a tarot reading predicted my breakup. you see this is why i'm scared of the tarot people we walked past one in new york didn't we yeah we did it's just like it's so tempting but also when i hear shit like this it's not tempting at all hey sophia chintzia and blueberry blueberry's not here today first of all the obligatory message absolutely look we could i could say it right now without even having to read it sarah i love you so much never thought i'd have to message him but here we are you love us sarah second of all congrats on the new flats ladies thank you exciting times ahead thank you so i have a halloween spooky psychic dilemma for you whoa the triple s i don't know the hss the hsp oh halloween spooky special halloween spooky psychic psychic starts with a p

45:31psychic and i genuinely need your advice because i feel completely torn and i don't know whether Either I'm listening to my intuition or just convincing myself that a coincidence means something. Do you actually see this is what would happen to me if I got a psychic reading? Yeah, me too. I'd be fucking thinking everything was a fucking sign. I'd be paranoid. Yeah. And you know how they're like, well, five years later, I completely forgot about the psychic reading. I would not be forgetting. I would not. I've been walking around. She said, she said New York. She said a blonde man. She said fucking like, I would not be able to read.

46:02We have survived almost 30 years on this planet with no psychic reading. and I'm quite fine with how life is going so I'm not messing with it. We're fine, Sophia. I've been with my boyfriend Brian for nearly three years. He is... It's just the way you locked him. Now I've been with my boyfriend Brian for three years. He's my first serious relationship. Love that. And until recently, I genuinely thought we'd get married. Oh, God. We've lived together for about a year. Families are super close and from the outside, it's all perfect. He's kind, loyal and he's never given me a reason to doubt him.

46:34God, until now. About six months ago, I went away for a girls weekend with two of my friends. Oh no. What, what, what? One of them is really into tarot and offered to do readings for everyone. Well, I'm not having a homemade friend. I'd say, Sarah, pack up your cards and go. Don't bring them in here, please. I'm having a reading from my friend who's just bought a card. I'm going to a professional. A Monopoly card. I don't really believe in tarot, but we'd had a few drinks and I thought it would be fun. I mean, I wouldn't think anything of that. If you whipped out some tarot cards, I'd be like down for that.

47:03No, I'm still not down for it. Yeah, but it's just the cards. I know. I'm not going, I'm speaking to somebody. But still, if I picked up something that I didn't want to pick up, it's on my mind. When she did mine, she went really quiet. Oh, Sarah, what a fucking sleepover, baby. We're having a glass of wine. Like, do you have to? Like, just give it a positive spin. What do you mean you're going quiet? She pulled three cards. Oh, of course she did. Literally. She's the saboteur. She's doing it on purpose. Literally, give it a positive spin. Say that I've got a good one No you can't fucking ruin the whole sleepover Just with your cards right here That you've just bought No She said the reading was showing that I was in a relationship That had run its course And that there were going to be major changes In my love life before the end of October AKA Halloween That's a fair That's a fair thing to say Is it?

47:57I guess to your friend who's in a happy relationship It's kind of rude Sorry That's a fair thing to say She then said there was another person around me who I hadn't noticed romantically and that this person would make me question my current relationship. Oh, I see. I laughed and told her she was completely wrong because I was happy with my boyfriend and couldn't imagine wanting anyone else. She also said the number three kept coming up and that I'd have to make a choice between what is familiar and what feels right. There's three men, Sarah, popping up for me here. Matthew, Mark and Luke. And John.

48:29I thought it was all rubbish and completely forgot about it. until two months ago fuck ah and to steve i've started working with a new guy yeah steve and we've become really good friends oh my god nothing has happened between us and i've never cheated on my boyfriend but there is definitely chemistry yeah but there is he recently admitted that he likes me oh and that's when everything started to feel really complicated yeah because the truth is I had already started questioning my relationship before he said anything. Okay. Well, here we go then. It's not that Brian has suddenly become a bad boyfriend.

49:04That's almost what makes this harder. If he had cheated or treated me badly, I would know exactly what to do. Absolutely. Instead, I've just started feeling like maybe something is missing. Yeah. I'm finding myself getting irritated by the little things that never used to bother me. That is something. That's a thing. The sex goes, the irritation, the triples. I'm thinking more seriously about whether I actually want to marry him and sometimes when I picture my future I can't tell whether I'm excited about it or just comfortable with it and then I feel horrible for even thinking that because he's done nothing wrong part of me thinks I'm having a completely normal relationship wobble after three years and that I'm romanticizing this new guy because he's exciting and different but another part of me is scared that I'm staying with Brian because he's safe, familiar and the person I've always assumed I would end up with not because he's actually the person I want to spend the rest of my life with.

49:57Oh, you've just answered your own question. At least you said he's not the person I want to spend the rest of my life with. Then something happened that made the tarot reading feel impossible to ignore. Shit. I found out the new... I think let's get Sarah back. Let's get another reading. I was going to say, can we have a revised reading, please? Based on current events. Well, just another one just to be like, okay, so actually... Listen to this. Yeah, go on. I found out the new guy's birthday is on the third of the month. And she was talking about threes. Oh I believe it I know how ridiculous that sounds But my friend who did the reading Immediately said I told you the number three Who is this lady?

50:32I think let's have another reading as well Just to see what's going to happen for the rest of the year She keeps pointing out that the reading predicted I'd meet someone who would make me question my relationship That it said something major would happen before Halloween And now I'm in that exact situation Oh my god Halloween is getting closer And I honestly feel like I'm waiting for something to happen yeah the worst part is i don't know whether the tarot reading is actually influencing me or what if i would have questioned my relationship anyway and the reading just gave me a way of making sense of my feelings yeah yeah maybe but then there's another more frightening possibility what if the reading has made me doubt something that was actually good and i'm about to throw away a three-year relationship because i'm convinced because i've convinced myself that a random tarot reading was some kind of sign well no but what didn't you get these feelings

51:22whoa um rewire rewire working it back um no she didn't no but she forgot about the reading and then she started feeling the doubt yes that's what i was trying to say like you did actually forget about it at the time of the reading she was like no no no no i love your boyfriend but yeah then she forgot about it and then is it not just like and then all of a sudden there is steve he likes you you're actually feeling something all the things you've said in that email talking about your boyfriend how he is great nothing bad has happened that's all classic signs of just like breaking up with a good guy yeah like he's a great guy he'd be a great husband about many times he'd be lovely i could yes i could spend the rest of my life with him like it would be nice his family's nice but like nice isn't enough and it's just like you are allowed to break up with a nice guy preach it sister yeah honey and if i stay with brian how will i ever know whether i stayed because I genuinely chose him all because I was too scared to walk away.

52:17Like, if you knew he was your person, you would just know that he is your person. You wouldn't be feeling this way. Do you know what I mean? You wouldn't be feeling this question mark over him. My friends are convinced I need to listen to the signs. They keep telling me that maybe the universe is trying to push me towards something that I shouldn't ignore. I love that. But I'm scared of using signs as an excuse to do something I already secretly want to do. Okay. There we go, Sarah. Because if I'm honest, I think that's what I'm most confused about. Do I actually believe in the signs or do I just want to believe in them because they give me permission to leave?

52:47Hit the nail on the head. Well, yeah, you want another reason to be like, okay, I can break up with a good guy. Do you know what I mean? He's not cheated on me. Like, what's another reason? Oh, well, let me, you know. And you're not looking for reasons. All it is, is you're feeling like he's not the person for you. And that's that. And it is okay to break up with him. That's why I'm coming to you guys. I genuinely don't trust my own judgment anymore. Would you forget the tarot reading completely and ask yourself if I'd never met this new guy I never had that reading would I still be questioning my relationship?

53:17Thing is that's an impossible question to answer because those things have happened. But also I do believe even if you didn't get this tarot reading and that idea wasn't planted in your head your relationship still probably would have run its course with you thinking oh I don't think I'm feeling like fully fulfilled in this relationship like is there someone else out there I feel like this isn't my person I feel like you'd still be feeling like that maybe the tarot reading just kind of pulled it ahead a little bit more made you realize oh yeah that's what these doubts mean maybe it means that he's not my person.

53:43Do you know what I mean? Or would you believe that when this many things seem to line up, you should at least stop and listen? Thanks, girls. Thank you always from a very confused girly. I think he's a goner. I think you've answered it, Sarah. I think you are kind of needing that reason to leave. You feel kind of guilty because it is great right now. Like you said, his family's great. He's lovely. You know, there's nothing wrong. It all makes sense. And it is hard. And it's all so, so normal. like we've spoke about this topic so many times of like he's really nice he's done nothing wrong I feel really guilty how could I even he's not going to see it coming how could I even fathom it like it's so normal like that it is it really is like a rite of passage so I would especially with the first boyfriend get him fucking gone sorry I would go with it I would go with it I think it sounds like the stars are aligning I do think it's running its course I also the tarot reading is a crazy coincidence yes yes it is and your friend's probably actually quite good at that yeah see i think she should i think you should uh get her back for a second reading send me a number over um but yeah i think it's time to end the relationship it's very telling that all of your friends are saying look trust the universe go with it yeah this it has run its course like they are saying that says to me that they maybe see something that maybe they think he is holding you back slightly but they would never want to say that to you because he's a nice guy and you've been with him for three years but it seems to think that your friends are kind of like oh yay she's thinking about breaking up with him let's do this it's going to be great for Sarah they're all encouraging you trying to encourage you like no this is fine we're all here for you like break up with him is what they're trying to say I think but you are so great it's the best time of year to have a breakup going into New Year Merry Christmas go forth and prosper okay really quickly if you hate his halloween costume is it an ick oh okay i mean it would maybe like it's it depends what it is like he's trying to be sexy that's an ick like it needs to be silly like fucking put on his own t-shirt and ripped it and then put like blood and mud on his fucking muscles like yeah that's you can't be trying too hard on halloween no like the the costumes i would let pass for a man are well obviously linguine gorgeous obviously a simple uh batman i quite enjoy on a man a batman isn't icky to me i think a batman's verging oh verging i thought you said a virgin virgin yeah like i think a funny costume is like alan from the hangover you would find that funny yes that's like what i want to see you in on halloween would i find that funny it is funny my friend did it once and it was funny right but that's your friend but what about a guy that you wanted to snog okay yeah I guess do you know what I mean if it's like someone you're getting to know and it's like he's come as Alan from the hangover it is funny yes I would rather that than like a curse trap ghost yeah you're right you're right yeah how seriously do you take yourself oh no I know I know what my ick is I know what it is it's when they paint half their faces no of that ghost no you know that and it's serious and then they're getting flash clips with their friends.

57:00No, no, no, no, no, no, no, no. Unless your girlfriend's done that on you, then fine. But if you have gone to get someone to do... No. Yeah, and they're in a normal outfit, so they're trying to first trap in their fucking neck. What trainers are boys wearing these days? Are they still wearing those Alexander McQueen's? Oh my God, yeah, them. Or like some shiny loafers. And a bare fox. And a black trouser. And a polo neck. Yeah, and he's just got that, and he's got his half-faced pants. No, hate that. And he took all pictures with his friends and they're all like... Hate that. With their bus balls.

57:33That would be... Yeah, that would knock me sick. So yeah, that would be my... Yeah, that would give me the... So yeah, I do think it can really make or break a man what he decides to do on Halloween. It's an interesting one. Because obviously this right here would lure any man into me. It's quite simple. You know, that's obviously the aim of this, isn't it? Because I dress for the... The male gaze. The male gaze, clearly. You know, that's how I live my life for the male gaze completely. Where's my hat gone? It's there. It's just a bit on the wall. Had it just gone? It's kind of been like hanging.

58:11I think it looks quite good hanging to the side. We take dressing for the male gaze very seriously around here. It's a very serious job. It's our top priority when thinking about costumes. Absolutely. Top priority of my life, dressing for the male gaze for sure. Do you not just think I look like a drunk rat?

58:28You feel it taking over you

58:36Right. I've caught serious feelings for my holiday romance, but I've ghosted him. Okay, that's interesting, Sarah. I think that's probably smart. Yes. She's thinking logically. Yeah, because you can pine after a holiday romance and you can romanticize them a lot. And then it's like, I've made you someone you're not even as best with me. And I do think like if it's a man we're going to meet on holiday, let's say he was a waiter, you know, a prolific bar. Good word. Thank you. I'm really expanding my vocab. So let's say, let's say I went to Italy and I had a romance with a very, maybe let's say that really sex.

59:14Speaking from experience. Absolutely. Always speaking from experience, certainly. and I slept with that really fit guy from that lemon sorbet shop in Amalfi. You've seen him on TikTok? No. Right, everyone will have seen him on TikTok apart from you. Sorry. Every single person watching this has seen that man on TikTok apart from Sophia Tuxberg. The jacket looks great. Everyone in here is going to like this jacket. Yes, you've seen him. I've showed you him. He works in the... Okay, I've seen him. I've seen him. I've seen him. He works in the lemon sorbet shop. And he brings out the lemons with the sorbet and he's beautiful.

59:51He's got millions of views. Right, okay. Anyway, he's prolific. Prolific. Like in my mind, the tourists are flocking to him and he's shagging all of them because he's so gorgeous. Okay. So let's say I also partook in that activity. Yeah, easy peasy. Of course I did. That was on the Amalfi Coast this summer. It's easy work. Absolutely. Did you go and visit this man? Absolutely. so what was my point I'm not sure what was that a holiday romance my point is I've caught feelings for him here we go my yeah I've maybe I've had three nights with this man he's fed me his lemon sorbet and I'm like god I like him shit come back to line up with me yeah I'm in love but the point is is that he's there all the time and he's shagging other people and he's not got feelings for me so it's a good job I cut him off I think that's what we've got here great because like this man all the tourists are coming around and they're easy to shag shag shag shag was that a good point?

1:00:49thank you for that very yeah so we all learn a lot I want to see this man can I get a visual of this man? have you never seen this man? no sorry sorry everyone lemon sorbet a mouthy man it's very simple he's like fully viral oh my god he's stunning

1:01:13look at him Oh Sophia come on Wait Sophia he works in the shop And he gives you the lemon sorbet And the lemon Yeah like he's cute Yeah he's gorgeous Look how stunning he is Not Sophia's type if you will Sophia needs to see him up close Are you joking? Yeah I'm not sure Look at him here Are you joking? Sophia come on Can you zoom in? Sophia Stunning Sophia Guys Yeah he's cute. Sophia! Yeah, he's cute. I've been looking at the Zayden Ryerson casting all day. I'm distracted. Well, the whole world thinks he's fit. Okay? Because this has got 50k likes. This one's got 1.5 million likes. Sophia. He looks lovely.

1:01:59Yeah. Yeah. He looks lovely. He's not into it. I am. He looks lovely. And he's bringing you the lemon sorbet. Yeah, that's really sweet. He's definitely taking some of these ladies home. He enjoys his job, yeah. Me too. Okay, thank you for that. I was reading, wasn't I? You were, yeah. Okay. So, hi lovely ladies. There have been countless dilemmas I could have emailed over the last year alone. Fucking hell. Sarah. Are you alright? Are you alive? Are you breathing? Countless dilemmas. What's going on? Sophia, that's just life, honey. But hopefully you can help with this one. Okay, we'll try our best.

1:02:38Okay, so. I recently just came home from a girls holiday to Ibiza. ironic to have avoided a boyfriend all year for this trip just to find one there lol typical on one of the first nights we went to a pub and i noticed this guy in particular behind the bar we will call him brian of course going out of his way to serve me i said to him i caught on to the game he was playing and he told me oh i love that love that love that that's a great line i know what game you're playing i know what game you're playing yeah the confidence Sarah, I love it. I said I caught on to the game he was playing. He told me he thought...

1:03:13It looks so funny saying that in your costume. He told me he thought I was gorgeous and he just couldn't help but gravitate towards me. That is lovely. Lovely to hear. He ended up giving me drinks for free. Worst mistake he's probably made, Sarah said. And we got to chatting. And it turned out we were planning on going to the same event that night. Okay. He put his number in my phone and told me to message when we were there and he'd meet us with his friends. This is great. This is perfect. This is like one of my ideal meets. Yeah. Being a lightweight, the free drinks really went to my head and I ended up far too drunk to even know what planet I was on.

1:03:48You couldn't even get to the event. Never mind who I was to meet and went home. Yeah, you forgot about that. That's funny, Sarah. That's classic. I woke up the next morning to a text from him saying he was gutted to have missed me last night. Love that. I bet he was, yeah. I also like that you kind of missed it though Me too Because it's like I'm not that desperate Because he was there all night waiting for that text I was having fun with my girls like sorry And I think you got in his head because there were probably other girls throwing themselves at him But he thought where's that one girl I'm waiting for Where's that one girl from earlier I sent a reply apologising and explaining I ended up home earlier than expected We kept chatting the rest of the day and he asked to take me out on his day off I kind of politely avoided the conversation due to the fact there was only a few of us away and I didn't want my friends to think I was more interested in seeing a boy I'd just met hardly 24 hours ago overspending time with them we're here for four days, I'm kind of booked and busy there's only three of us I'm not missing one of my girls nights to go and hang out with you, I don't even know you who the fuck are you?

1:04:51absolutely, because of his job situation over there, he was sleeping all day and working all night so the conversations were a bit like ships passing in the three hours between replies etc we were supposed to be going back to the same bar another night in the middle of our holiday but ended up changing our plans meaning i had missed the chance to see him again because of this he had asked asked for me to meet him to go for a drink but again the awkwardness of bringing it up to the group and them thinking i'd be naive to the fact that i literally hardly know him and that it is a girl's trip i declined again good yeah i support that to be honest i support that too you know we ended up going back to the bar on our last night and with an early morning morning flight the next day i knew the night would need to be cut short he was working so again free drinks chat flowing better flirting back and forth the vibes were great and there was just something about him that i did really like probably the fact that he was irish and i go weaker than he is for an irish accent oh nile horn entered the chat he asked me if he got away from work early if i'd go for a drink with him then before i went home for my I was persistent from him.

1:05:56Yeah. I agreed. And that's what we did. Both being slightly nervous, nervous I'd say. We were down in drinks and ended up a lot drunker than we had anticipated. Conversations ended up going on onto other things. And before I knew it, we were walking back to his apartment. She's got a laughing face. I'm not normally a girl for a one night stand. But it felt like it was a situation I would have regretted had I not taken the opportunity. So I did. I think Sarah, I support. Do whatever you want to do. It's the last night. Yeah, do whatever you want to do, babe. And quite frankly, had the time of my life.

1:06:31He walked me back to the hotel and had a slight, and we had a slight scene out of a romance film against the wall outside with a whole speech about how he's never going to find another girl like me. And that the term out of sight, out of mind won't happen. And that he'll come and see me once the season's over. Wow. We finally said bye and went our separate ways. And now I'm back home. I've got hair all in my mouth. I mean, he's passionate. And he's committed. I love this for you, Sarah. And he was on you the whole trip. Can I see you? Can I see you? Can I see you? Can I see you? And I'm thinking like, okay, if you want to make the effort to come and see me, by all means, come and see me.

1:07:05You know, I'm not going to travel for you, but you can travel for me, honey. Be my guest. So my dilemma is, after we spent that night together, I messaged once, I was back in my room and he never responded until I was already home at 5pm the next day. Okay, so we didn't actually follow up straight away. Follow up. Straight away. I put it down to the fact that he'd just woken up oh yeah of course but the response was pretty dry oh god and he hadn't asked me if I'd made it home like safely which I would have thought would have been an automatic question to ask someone you've just had that situation with I agree I agree too I tried to start a light hearted conversation by saying how I was tired after coming home and that I needed a week to recover again again replies were very dry and mainly just him ha-ha-ing oh god yeah it's over he was just he was just chatting to chat he was just he was just saying that to say what what he was just caught up in it yeah what do you mean you're replying with a ha ha yeah haha like no i don't know if i'm just used to guys from my local area and their personality type and sense of humor and his being different to that or if i'm being rude or if he's just now not interested having now got what he wanted.

1:08:22Also potential. He doesn't strike me as a type who would be disrespectful but then again he has been a season on a party island which makes me think the chances I'm the only girl are pretty slim. Well yeah look he spent the whole season in Ibiza. He knows how this gig works. He knows that these girls have flights the next day. Yeah it wouldn't be his first rodeo. Would it? Linguine? Absolutely not. not right at doing. Yeah. He probably enjoys this like game. And just because he's friendly and Irish doesn't mean he's trustworthy. Still can't be a what? Twat. A what? Not bad. Master manipulator as we said in the episode.

1:09:03Master manipulator God bringing it back. Like just because he's Irish doesn't mean he can't be a master manipulator. Absolutely. Could have just taken you for a ride. Absolutely. With his good personality. but some boys are bad texters i mean but you but you follow up the question you don't just you know like i said earlier your thumbs are working if he called you it would have totally changed things like you can put her heart if you're then gonna call me and then we're gonna have a nice chat yeah yeah so yesterday he left me on deliver for three hours before replying but i could see him actively posting on other social media it's over yeah so i decided to just open his response and not reply because i didn't want to be that girl pondering when i was going to get a text back and waste my time love that i won't lie i did expect him to have woken up this morning to another message from him but i but i never did so he's not double texted listen he's on to the next girl yeah i'm gonna be real he's busy he's on the bar a friendly irish man behind the bar he's seen another sexy girl and that is that and he's lapping that up and he's asking for her number and he's literally forgot about the girl from last week unfortunately the same thing that is exactly what's happening and i know you're still kind of here because he said those things to like i'm never gonna find a girl like you that's his line that is his that is his line that's his little irish charismatic line that he's used all season long look at harry jowsey all these charming little australian lines that you use on all these girls prime example of a charming charming man who and just chat, chat, chat, chat, chat shit and lie, lie, lie, lie, lie.

1:10:38Yeah. And make you fall for him and want a response and want him to text you and all that. So you're saying I did expect him to message me, but he hasn't. When I was retelling the situation and the thrill of it all, back to one of my other friends who wasn't there, I realized I actually do think I like him and we did get on really well. And now that I'm in no contact with him, I'm crashing out of the fact that I'll probably never see him again. Girls, I don't know what to do. What if this is like my fairy tale story of how I met my husband? You see what us ladies do? Sarah, what have we done now?

1:11:08Do you see what we're doing right here? What have we done? Do you actually see what we're doing right here? This man is a lack of information. He's just a crush. We don't know him. He's a crush. He was a charming Irishman. That is all he was. And look at us. We're fair. Is this my fairy tale? Look at us. Look what he's done to us. This is no one's fairy tale, Sarah. It was a fun holiday romance. And that's what you need to see it as. It was an amazing memory. A great story to tell the girls. We had a great night. You've had a really positive one night stand. Great. Tick. Check. Handsome. Charming.

1:11:38Irish. Woo. Great. Love it. No regrets. Now we move on and we're back to our lives. Absolutely. Because he's not replying and that is our answer. No response is a response. He is still at that bar. He is still working. New girls have come in and it's eyes on the prize. He's thinking about someone else. It's like the girl from the first dilemma. He now has new girls in front of his face. Like he's not traveling to you anymore. And he knows how to pull the women. He's got that Irish. And it works. He's behind the bar. He can give free drinks. Yes. It's so simple to him. Yeah. Free drink to a sexy girl.

1:12:13Get her number. Message her all week. Eventually get to sleep with her. It's his fucking routine. Yeah. And that's why I'm so glad that you didn't miss one of your nights with your fucking friend. Me too. To go and have a drink with this knobhead. That was the right decision. Just for him to do this to you regardless. And look, I know what we do. We like to fantasize. Oh my God, it's my fairy tale. what if this is like he is my husband and he's waiting for me in Ibiza yeah no if he was your husband he would have simply kept messaging you or he would have called you he would have made sure you got home okay would have called you he would have posted you and would have just put haha no and by the looks of it Sarah I have just skipped onto the images of both of you he is massively punching so I don't even know let's see I'd love to see a picture this is Sarah gorgeous lovely outfit yeah like bombshelling yeah like full max this is him I'm like I'm sure in person he's a bit more attractive but we should not be crashing out over this man by enemies can I zoom in on that it's giving droopy eyes we should not be crashing out over this man Sarah I think he's got a lazy eye Sarah I love you but we should not be crashing out over this I think some love goggles might be on he sat in Ocean Beach yeah come on we ain't crashing out over a boy in Ocean Beach his mates with what's his name with our Fendi shorts on.

1:13:32Wayne. Wayne. Wayne. He sat with Wayne. Wayne. You know. Wayne. Wait, I've lost it. Wayne. Sophia's got it. Wayne. Wayne. Wayne, let it go. That's it. I got it. Like, we should not be crashing out over this man by no means at all. Especially when you look like that and he looks like that. No offense to that man. Yeah, he's giving rap. No offense, chintz. None taken.

1:13:57Right. Okay. so what if this is my fairy tale it's not Sarah and thank god it's not because your fairy tale is going to be way better than this but surely if he meant what he said he would have messaged me by now exactly so he didn't mean what he said what Sophia actions speak louder master manipulate yes okay and what else actions speak louder than words he chatted all that but what are his actions after nil nada yeah nil and nada yeah uh la la la oh I'm so confused my head is going 100 pounds per hour my friends are just sick listening to me about it yeah I bet they are some are saying I should just message him but part of me doesn't want to do that until he's home I love it when the friends get sick of the problems yeah so there's no excuse for his working pattern affecting his replies but on the other hand I'm thinking if I don't message him now he'll forget about me no Sarah but that's where you're stripping up Sarah and you did the perfect thing you thought do you know what you're leaving me on read for hours I'm actually going to open that and I'm not going to reply and that was the perfect tests for him and for you to come back stronger to be like okay like I'm not forcing this conversation if you want to speak to me you can come back and message me again and he didn't yeah that just shows that he was replying before out of politeness and also and was kind of waiting for this to fizzle out now and in your panic you're thinking but I was the one to ghost him if I just message him he will reply and then he'll take me on a date and then we'll fall in love no men can double text he can fucking make a bit more effort yeah yeah he gave you all those free double drinks he can send you a little text.

1:15:28You're the prize. You're not meant to be chasing him. No. Like if he wanted you, he would go after it as he was doing before. You know, he's completely switched up. He knows how to use his phone because he was texting you always. There we go. We've answered it. Onwards and upwards. It was a holiday romance. Don't regret it. See it as a fun, positive experience, but let's not over romanticize it. Absolutely. Master manipulator. Cut. Just because he's an Irishman doesn't mean nothing. This might be the time when there is urine in this chair. I'm gonna piss my pants over here Sorry say that again I'm gonna piss me knickers Oh no I'll be quick You'll take all the time you need Aww Is this gonna lift our spirits today on this spooky Halloween?

1:16:11Well our star of the week What's his name? Ethan Is he a Dolan twin? Shout out Always loved that name Had no idea he had a kid Oh my god Grayson has moved on God Gosh Okay I'd like to know My boyfriend Ethan For the start of the week We've been together For almost three years And he is the start Of every day Oh I live with a chronic illness And although I've lived With it my whole life It can be really difficult And lonely at times Oh Sarah Ethan has always been So supportive of me And makes me feel So much less alone Oh And he looks lovely as well Oh He supports me Through highs and lows And is quite literally The most supportive man I've ever met Every day Cute text phone calls sweet treats from M &S oh god that's what I'm talking about thank god and coffees it's like no big deal but it makes my day bonus points that he watches the pub with me Diva hi Ethan hi Ethan hon and really gets into the nitty gritty of the dilemmas good I'm glad he's learning a lot to say this week about these men I'm glad he's actively learning you know it's very good education for men to listen clearly it's paying off she's getting daily treats yeah I couldn't imagine having any other Brian love you guys picked attached a beautiful couple Sarah Sarah and Ethan.

1:17:25Gorgeous. That is a lovely selfie. He's got kind eyes actually. He does. He's got a really kind soul. And Sarah, he looks gorgeous. Don't fuck this up, Ethan. Ethan, we're watching you, okay? Because I'll fucking come for you. And I know where you live. And she'll eat you as well. Because I've got Sarah's name and I've got your name now. And she can scurry through the pipes. And I actually do know where you live. So this is not a threat. This will appear to you in ghost form. Yeah, exactly. Yeah. So do be scared. But yeah, you're on the good books for now, hey? Thank you for making our Sarah very happy, Ethan.

1:17:52As we said before, a happy spooky Halloween. See you next week where things are going to get a little bit spookier up in here. Bye.