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1:49Yeah, like I can do what I want. As long as it's not affecting you in your room. You know the drama is never ending. Don't let it get the best of you. Gosh. Oh, gosh. Costumes are over. Oh, thank God. Thank God. Grab a beverage. Grab a snack. Take a seat. Take a seat wherever you may be. Yeah, come on down. What have we all had for our breakfast? What have we had for our dinner last night? Let's speak on that. Well I just had a granola bar in it Speak on it That was my you know On the go Gotta get to work Gotta get to work Sharp and early Gotta be here guys Gotta commute Didn't have quite time to get It's raining Panicking Yes Got me dog Got me pet Grab a deliciously Ella bar Did you enjoy it?

2:28Do you remember Ella? Yes I do Yeah She's done great The OG vegan Gosh Iconic Shout out Ella Yeah absolutely What did you have for breakfast? Mini Weetabix With chocolate chips? Yes Oh my fuck Yes yes yes I would go as far as saying that is my all-time favorite cereal uh mini mini chocolate chip weetabix i think it's probably my favorite i would say so too i yeah which is so alike um well i've been having a lot of porridge for my breakfast i've been having yeah eggs on toast quite a lot for my breakfast very nice um but last night i was like oh yeah i really want a big bowl of cereal so i woke up this morning and i went straight over it and it hit every single spot because you know what my mom used to do because i could always have it like i do run on cereal i'll have another bowl of cereal when i get like i'm on cereal yeah i thought you meant literally run but yeah you you operate i feel my body on cereal cereal is one of god's greatest gifts for sure cheerios i'm really enjoying cheerios never really used to care about cheerios like as a child but now honey nut cheerios are now in my rotation yeah for me it was the the craves the honey nut clusters clusters honey nut clust yeah loved those i like those crunchy nut crunchy nut clusters that was it sorry i don't have those often but i do and frosties fuck yeah i've always got there's always a bag of frosties in my cupboard because my mom she used to be like a splendor fucking fiend did you ever go for a splendor face my mom was special k yeah jordan's country crisp okay that was about it but splendor the sweetener the fucking powder sweetener is what i'm on about i never did that and she would oh maybe it was my dad i don't know bowl of bowl of cornflakes not that not the tablets the the the fucking lightweight powder and she would have a bowl of cornflakes and put so much a fucking heap of splendor on it and it was so good and it would make the milk really like sweet but actually nice and that was sugar on the weetabix oh fuck just dusting it over fucking hell with a spoon oh my god even just sugar on fucking strawberries oh i was nice it's fucked what a fucking meal that is i had jam in my porridge yesterday oh speak on that yeah different really fancy culinary experience experience jam on porridge is quite it's quite normal actually not in the zolo ham as hold but yeah okay normal and no absolutely makes sense it makes sense i was kind of having like berries peanut butter honey like that kind of shebang but i didn't i ran out of berries of course and i was like oh no what am i gonna have on me porridge wanted a little bit more than just some honey so i thought i've got some strawberry jar in the fridge okay big dollop of jam and i thought this is perfect because it also cools it down creative genius so you can eat it a bit quicker okay Have you tried You would probably like Putting frozen berries then On it No And then they go warm And a bit melty No I know people like to do that Have you seen the lady on TikTok Who makes these buckwheat bowls Because I think I'm going to give it I think I'm going to give it a go I haven't sorry She makes buckwheat What is buckwheat?

5:42Beyond me Like a rice grain thing Porridge grain something Yeah yeah yeah And she makes these bowls And she makes them look so good And it's kind of phenomenal I'm going on right now on TikTok Savory breakfast Sweet she's boiling the book wheat putting it at the bottom and then she's doing greek yogurt nice putting cocoa in it maple syrup whisking that up so it's like a chocolate thing then she's putting like blueberries on top and it's that and then it's the book wheat and the the yogurt and then the fruit and this i don't know what it's gonna taste like delicious but she has it every morning she makes it look so scrum scrum yeah so i think i'm gonna make that maybe at the weekends i'm Send me a pic.

6:20Yeah, just really just try something new, you know. So this is a lovely October that we're having. Silly sausage. What you like. Don't know if you're coming or going. Yeah, God, November. Fucking hell. Are we okay? No. Fucking hell. Fucking Christmas is coming, me. Let me tell you. Yeah, Christmas is coming, babes. Zoom in like that. Well, we've got a lot of dilemmas, haven't we, today? Well, should I read the question of the week for a start? We've got a good question of the week, absolutely. Yeah, all right. I've got a whole station here no beverage left unfortunately but I'm going to sip on the ice it's quite nice okie dokie she rhymes question of the week Mary on the topic of what we were just discussing oh really?

7:02what is your go-to sweet treat right now? okay what's yours? I just want to give a good one for you guys a good one just be honest I'll try and be honest I'll try and be honest whoa what's in your cupboards I mean it's the Alpera chocolate yogurts for me me too two at a time always two because it's just like one isn't enough do you know what I do you eat all four no I have one but I've got dairy milk in the fridge right now so I put a stick of dairy milk in the yoghurt and then I kind of eat it with it a cloney genius Get her on fucking Bake Off. Get me on Bake Off, folks. That is insane. Do you know what would be nice in it?

7:50Little chocolate chips. Yes. Almost like a mousse. Muller Corner. With, you know, like a little mousse with chocolate chips. Like, have you ever had a tiramisu with chocolate chips in it? I don't think so. Oh, my God. Oh, my God. That sounds insane. Like a little bit of texture, a little bit of crunchural experience is really nice. McFlurry. Classic. Caramel Corn Flake Brownie. Oh, I've seen them. it's a layer of caramel um like cornflake crunch and then brownie on top i mean our school used to do cornflake tart oh yeah that was yeah that was fantastic sticky toffee pudding i'll always get that if it's on the menu it's not my preferred but i do enjoy it when it's there i do enjoy it when it's there muller corner yogurts oh muller corner yogurts fave cinnamon bun yeah it's like one mind i'm also on the cinnamon buns cheesecake yum cottage cheese mixed with thick vanilla yogurt listen i've tried twice in my life to try cottage cheese okay have you joking what you don't like cottage cheese are you fucking mental i hate that shit what oh my god since when do you hate cottage cheese sophia i eat cottage cheese every day the people on tiktok make it look so scrum okay but then you put you pop that back and it's just like what is that i'm trying it out the tub babes and it is absolutely disgusting i've tried it twice are you yeah okay i am perfectly no you've not been eating the right cottage cheese i've been getting the finest of the fine cottage cheese i couldn't tell you because it's been a long time but i've been getting the most expensive Have you ever had it with chives?

9:37No, I've not had it with chives. You're missing out. I've tried to put it... You're alright. You don't like cottage cheese. That's such a you. Like, why would you not like that? Well, I know. That's why I've tried, because it's high in protein, you know, get these muscles going. Yeah. That's why I'm looking so in shape. And I've tried a couple times to try and put it back and I can't get it down. What do you mean put it back? I crave... I have it... In my fridge right now, there's about six tubs of cottage cheese. Cottage cheese on crackers. Maybe it's a textural thing, but it's got no flavor.

10:04It's got no flavor, no? You're having the wrong one. It's got lots of flavor, actually. But what, which one? What brand then? Well, it always sells out. Oh, I'm sure it does. What brand? The Langley Farm. The what farm? Langley Farm. I've tried that one, Langley Farm, with the blue on it. I get the green with the chai. Oh, okay. But I've tried Langley Farm. And what is it? I just don't get it. It's delicious. But I want to try it. It's called a cheese, shout out. That, because, do you know, I remember when everyone was eating - It's the thing you've just got to try again and again and again. And then eventually you're like, I like it.

10:37You like it from the get-go. Oh no, because that's what I tried to do. I tried to replace it with ricotta on my bagel with, you know, when I was having that bagel with ricotta and tomato and I thought, oh yeah, let's do cottage cheese here because it's surely... I feel like we've enjoyed cottage cheese together. I'm really confused right now. I've tried it twice in my life. I have it on crackers. I have it on toast with sriracha. I have it with eggs sometimes Fucking hell, good for you All the time, cottage cheese Good for you I'll sit there with a spoon and just eat it Good for you It's delicious Good for you What's not to like?

11:15That is such a you food Like, I'm really surprised that you don't like that I'm really surprised Getting a bit sicky Yeah, maybe it's a textual Next you're going to tell me that you don't like tuna anymore Yeah And I've lost you completely Maybe it's a textual thing That's so weird though But it's like, what is it, Sophia? Like lumpy dumpy. Lumpy dumpy, stinky thingy. But I don't like when it's runny. Like it has to be thick. I don't like when it's watery. Like the shit brands are watery. Listen, I've tried the brand you just spoke on Langley Farm. Yeah, it's not runny. It's delicious. Well, look.

11:47It's always sold out. I've seen the people who blend it and make it sweet. Because you know you can have it on a rice cake. Shout out. This was Zoe Ray. Shout out. Oh, shout out Zoe. Rice cake. Oh, I might have it wrong. Wake a pizza. She was buying these like special flavored rice cakes, putting cottage cheese in it with balsamic. And it was delicious. And it was all selling out. And no one get their hands on it. On the Langley Farm. Yeah. Oh, look, just for you, I'll try it again for you. Yeah. But yeah, listen, I want to enjoy cottage cheese and all the protein benefits it gives. But mixed with thick yogurt, I'm not sure about that.

12:20Well, yeah, people make it sweet, don't they? People blend it and put maple syrup in it and make it sweet. So I thought maybe that's where I'm missing a trick. Right, okay. We digress. Yogurt covered raisins. Yum. Yum. Ritz crackers with chocolate spread. Yum. Hazelnut cream straight from the jar. Yum. Date stuff with peanut butter. We can speak on it. It's Nutella. Yum. The what? Sorry, straight from the jar. Sorry. Sorry, what was that? Sorry. Date stuff with peanut butter. Oh. Yum. Jelly and ice cream. I would skip. That just takes me back to where do we used to go for fucking parties? I don't really care about jelly like that.

12:55Yeah, I know. Where did we used to go for parties? that was jelly and ice cream. And it was jelly and we all sat around that table. I know. It wasn't the McDonald's parties, was it? No, it was like a soft play place. A soft play place. Tumble Town? Tumble Town, maybe. There's that picture of Mariana and she's, we're all sweaty, we're all red and sweaty in vests. I had stuck on her forehead. Dripping in sweat, sat there eating jelly and ice cream. Yeah, not my favourite. Mini Colin the Caterpillars. Superb. Fucking hell. Superb. absolutely anything Queen Catherine of M &S produces yeah let her shine have you seen her new stuff?

13:36no cookie dough in a pot microwavable cookie dough something with all these different flavours and she's come out with these ice cream cakes s'mores ice cream cakes and all this fucking shit banana bread yeah fucking yeah always Milky Way bars yeah love Milky Way bars that's the stuff with the white in the middle right? yeah there's a time and a place custard and banana No, no. Yeah. I mean, classic. I'm on the cold pots of custard at the moment. Yeah. Love that. You don't want to heat it up? No. No. Fine. Fair. Scon. Oh, I love a scone. Fucking hell. Halo Top Ice Cream. Listen, I've tried to like it and it just doesn't taste as good as the real shit.

14:16Just give me some Ben & Jerry's and let's be done with it. Tiramisu. Oh. Yeah, classic. Tim Tams. Oh. True Fru. Yeah, but scared of the worms. Yeah, time and a place. Time and a place. Scared of the worms. scared of the worms sorry truth yeah brioche bread with Nutella and strawberry jam yes oh you lost me at jam but you got me with brioche and Nutella same M &S Big Daddy Bites yes I've only tried one before the Big Daddy bars the Big Daddy bars oh yeah yeah I've had those oh you've lost me here you've lost me kiwi dipped in dark chocolate you've lost me oh that's not for me you lost me completely bourbons oh oh yes zillionaire goo pot a goo pot what's that oh a goo pot a goo pot yeah yeah Goop-ot is so your thing, no?

14:56Wouldn't say no when mum brought them out of the drawer. Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. Jammy Dodge. Yeah, who hates on a jammy dodge? That was the last. That was the last. That was the thrill. Incredible.

15:09Just before we get into it, quick disclaimer. Just to say, we are not doctors. We are not professionals. We do not actually know what we are talking about. This is a light-hearted space. Okay. Don't take what we say literally because we could be wrong. Yeah, and if there's anything serious, if there's anything you feel like you're seriously struggling with, Please contact a GP, a professional, because that is not us. We're just girls, girls and boys just like you, you know? We're just trying to get through life as well. Not professionals. Enjoy the episode. Okay, should we start here? Yes, please.

15:38Now we're all hungry. I know. My friends for the plot date might end our friendship. My friends for the plot date might end our friendship. So obviously she's got herself in some dodgy business. She's in deep water Hello Hello Darkness My old friend Love the pod and appreciate the thoughtful advice You ladies provide Aw We try A year and a half ago I got out of a toxic relationship with my ex We'll call him Mark With a C Mark? Mark with a C Must be new here Sarah We were together for almost two years The breakup was extremely tumultuous Fucking hell I'm surprised I got that word out. Tumultuous.

16:25Mark. Can we change this name? Well, look, Brian's coming into play. Sorry. Oh, I see. Oh, sorry, Sarah. I just thought you weren't aware of the law. I apologize. Let her cook. Let her cook. Sorry, I jumped the gun there. So X was called Mark. Okay. I'm just picturing Mark. We know a lot of Marks. But Mark with a C. Okay, yeah. More of an Italian. Yeah. Mark has a brother who we'll call Spencer. Important context. So let's just remember this. His ex is called Mark. Mark and Spencer. Okay, a lot of new names in the mix. Spencer is his brother. I have completely moved on from Mark. I'm now in a happy, healthy relationship with Brian.

17:01Okay. Great. A couple of weeks ago, my best friends, plural, let's call her Helen, texted our group chat because Spencer had appeared as an option for her on a new AI dating app. Ew. What in the world is AI dating app going on in this gaffe? That's none of my business. right so spencer has popped up for helen one of your best friends and spencer is mark's brother it's like obviously like just don't get involved there like yes he's popped up we can laugh about it ha ha ha but don't get involved i can see where this is going obviously obviously so the the app basically sets up dates automatically if two people mutually like each other so she'd like him yeah it chooses the place and time for you oh it's that fucking app no that's breeze oh oh unless it's the same one unless it might be helen sent us a screenshot of spencer spencer's profile and immediately said she had rejected him oh okay okay we all laughed about it joking that he probably had bad juju by association because of mark okay fine fine oh no i can see where this is going so she's oh i've rejected spencer la la la ha ha one week later we were all out for girls night with with helen oh god with helen when helen announced that she had really exciting news oh no what her exciting news that she had scheduled a date with spencer helen read the room i'm sorry say that again so helen i heard you but i can't process that do you need me to say it again she's saying it like really exciting news she's like oh actually to like manipulate the fuck out of me.

18:41There's nothing exciting about this. She's saying like, turn of events, turn of events, basically. I am going on a date with Spencer. And you're like, crickets. Okay. Well, that's terrifying. It's actually terrifying. Like that's really shady, but she's trying to double down on it actually being this like, exciting. Fun, exciting. Like, just going to see what happens. Like, you know, no harm done sort of thing. And you're like, hang on a minute. Oh yeah, she's trying to paint it out. It's not that deep, is it? Like you moved on from Mark. She's trying to set the tone of it when really she knows that like, I shouldn't really be doing this.

19:17But no, we already set the tone. You said you rejected him and we laughed about it. Do you know what I mean? That was the tone. That was the tone. Okay. A bleaching tone. I was honestly shocked because she had specifically told her she rejected him. But because she presented it as this exciting thing, I immediately felt uncomfortable. Puts you on the back foot. So it's not like she came to you and said, I'm really torn. No. I think I quite like Spencer. What do you, like, should I maybe go for it? Yeah, she's trying to be like, no, no, no, you should be excited for me. And then you kind of feel awkward because it's like, I want to be happy for you, but I can't.

19:50Yeah. So I immediately felt uncomfortable raining on her parade. So I nervous laughed and she asked, wait, you're cool with this, right? Oh my God. No, the presumption. I don't like this method of I've got bad news but I'm spinning it and like now it's going to be your fault if you're not happy. And also the way she's worded it like you're cool with it right? No it's very leading. It's really tricky. Yeah not like how do you feel about this? Does this make you you know? She's not letting you actually feel the way you want to feel. So she's phrasing it as this. She said look wait you're cool with it right?

20:27It's just going to be a casual drink you know just for the plot. That's what she's phrasing it as. So I tried to be supportive and basically said, yeah, if it's just a drink for a plot, whatever. Oh, God. Okay. That was good. So at least you did say like, okay, as long as it's just for the plot, like. This is my toxic ex's brother. Like, come on. What are you doing? And also like. He's just as off limits as the ex's, no? Also, it's scary that he would want to get involved in Mark's ex's group. But it's giving. I don't like it. The next morning at brunch, she brought up again and asked whether I was okay with her going.

21:00but again the date was already set up so it didn't really feel like she was actually asking me before deciding whether to pursue it it felt more like she was just asking me to approve a decision she had already made yeah well yeah she knows that you're not going to say now cancel it because you've already arranged it i was uncomfortable saying no you can't go because i didn't want to order order around who my friend can date so again i just nervous laughed and said something along the lines of it sounds like it's just a casual drink it's awkward for you no she She goes on the date. It lasts five hours.

21:33Afterwards, she sends me a voice note excitedly describing not only how well the date went, but all these future scenarios she can now imagine. Is she fucking all right? Group events with all of us traveling together, dinner parties at Spencer's house, hanging out with his friends, etc. And obviously, Spencer's social and family circle also includes Mark. Why would she be excited about that? this is very bizarre it feels incredibly insensitive she does know that this is your absolutely she knows the connection absolutely absolutely I'm really confused it felt incredibly insensitive that after one date she was already fantasizing out loud to me about integrating me into this world with Mark in it I've been in that world babes I've left that world I don't want to go back in there it's very bizarre it's very bizarre I've got no interest in that world it's very bizarre the next day Helen and I went on a walk that lasted about three hours fuck good i shared i was deeply uncomfortable with her pursuing spencer good and that was her she initially told me she rejected him when she apparently later went back and matched with him yeah okay good i'm really glad that you actually just like well yeah because you lied to me that moment yeah you know just called her out straight away and you had a good healthy chat that was really good yeah and they're asking me if i was cool with it after the date was already scheduled didn't really feel like asking me at all great you've got this off your chest oh this is gonna be so bad i just feel like she's gonna what did she say to that then I also told her that if she continued to choose to see Spencer, I would need to remove myself from our friendship as potentially becoming integrated into a toxic ex-family and social world simply isn't something I'm willing to have in my life.

23:11Helen felt most apologetic about the voice note. She became very emotional and told me that our friendship was far more important to her than some guy. She said she would never jeopardize our friendship for a man and told me she would stop seeing Spencer. Great. Great. I was honestly incredibly grateful and relieved. three days later she changed her mind

23:35oh so she texted me um after think that after thinking about it she felt she owed it to herself to give the connection with spencer a fair shot fair shot she says she didn't want to do anything behind my back and wanted to tell me directly that she decided to continue seeing him i don't feel like i can look at our friendship the same way anymore even if she and spencer go on two more dates and never speak again the part that bothers me is that she chose that she knew continuing to pursue him could be losing our friendship yeah and decided and decided the possibility was worth it so my question is is am i justified in ending the friendship over this or am i treating thing something as unforgivable betrayal that should actually be survivable oh what is she on i think she's on drugs this is like crazy i think she's on drugs i think she's on drugs no oh it's such a shame because like that was probably really hard for you to confront her in that way and be like have that convo i actually don't think you've thought about me in this situation and i'm actually feeling a bit like this and you put me on the back foot with all of that and all of that and then you've got a genuine reaction from her where she's been like I would never jeopardize our friendship I'm so sorry and you kind of feel like okay I've shined a light now where she didn't know she didn't realize like okay like I can forgive you now and also like didn't know you kind of gave her the benefit of the doubt in that situation yeah okay you realize now I appreciate you're going to take the necessary actions forward it was just a lapse in judgment great and like we could have really that was healthy and we could have all moved on from that absolutely we were moved on like this is like this is just a kick in the teeth because now you're doing it knowing how I feel about it because I've told you it's not good and knowing that I would have to step back from the friendship and you're still doing it yeah it's just like well that just says to me that you don't really care about me it's it's unfortunately quite male-centered of her and it's massive completely I feel really let down for you because you let her know how it made you feel it's it's black and white it's as simple it's clear as day that this is not okay that you should be pursuing fucking spencer yeah and who's mark's fucking brother like it's not and then to to be getting all excited about hanging out with mark yeah it's really bizarre and wanting to be integrated into his family and all his social events is really fucking weird knowing that no so yeah i think i think you say to that oh well i let you know how i feel about this i let you know how i'm disappointed yeah and unfortunately while you're seeing Spencer I can't continue this friendship and if things work out or not I don't know whether even after we can continue the friendship because that's been a real kick in the throat yeah throat thought it would take it up a notch just really disappointing yeah it's just very silly silly silly Susan Sarah whatever her name is really silly from her yeah and she will regret it when it doesn't work out you know what I mean it's like you've done this for what to have a bit of sex with Spencer yeah For what?

26:34For what? Who even is this guy? Who even is this twat? Like, yeah. Just get back on your app. Get back on your AI app and go on to the next one. Yeah, he is charming. Yeah, Mark was too, but he's toxic too. He's just like his brother. Do you know what I mean? Like the apple doesn't fall far from its tree. Right? I'm sure they're pretty similar. Most women have been there. Something feels off. You don't feel like yourself. Yet your doctor says everything looks fine. Spoiler, it's your hormones. Midi is a virtual care platform built for women by women and offers specialized hormone care from trained clinicians.

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28:07Right, I think this one was one that we previewed in New York, but we never read. Okay, nice. My roommate said my boyfriend can't keep shower gel in the shower and can only stay once a month. Fair enough. That's where she lives. That's where she lives. So he can't... She don't want no links in that shower. So she's saying this boy... Once a month is a bit strange. Yeah, but what has he been doing up until that point for her to then bring in this rule? You know, let's read. I've listened to the pod for years, but never thought I'd be writing in. I need your help. Oh my God. Context. I was friends with this girl.

28:44Let's call her Susan. Susan and I went to the same uni. We met in first year and became friends quickly. Not super close, but we ended up living together in our final year of college with three other friends. Cute. Including a girl called Sally. after this Susan asked myself and our friend Sally to move with her to a different city after we graduated where her dad owned a house wow divas up also Sally and I are very close and when this option was offered to us we were all so excited to be living together we were moving to a new city that September and we started our working lives yeah and we're in a house that your dad owns we're probably getting a really good deal yeah we're getting a really good deal on the rent things were great at first.

29:27Susan was so welcoming, made us feel like we were at home. She even, although not a drinker, bought wine glasses that she knew we'd like. However, the cracks soon started to show. So it was just three of you, Sally, Susan, and you. Yeah. But Susan's very much like, this is my house because it's her dad's house. Oh, I see. And you guys, I want you to live with me. Oh my God, I just choked on my own fucking spit. a ghost in her don't because I've been getting a bit scared of ghosts it's the Halloween apps they're haunting us didn't we have that kind of before when that girl was trying to boss people around because it was her house family house yeah it does change the dynamic a little bit but it's like oh fucking hell like as long as we're still paying rent like I'm paying my fair share I can do whatever if I wanted to wipe my shit on the wall I can disrespectful but I can But I technically can.

30:25I'm paying 500 pounds a month to be here. My shit will be on the wall. Yeah, like I can do what I want. As long as it's not affecting you in your room. Well, the cracks soon started to show. Yeah, I bet. All of a sudden, we weren't allowed to use certain cupboards in the kitchen. What? Things had to be put back in the exact right spot. Oh God. We couldn't park in the car space outside the house. That was for her only. This diva. We couldn't leave anything around the house without it being put on our beds. She would constantly adjust the curtains if we'd opened and closed them. We couldn't lock our doors as she had to put up and down the blinds for safety.

31:06She couldn't lock the door. Say that again. We couldn't lock our doors as she had to put up and down the blinds for safety. Oh, so we couldn't have a lock on our personal door. I think. Because she wanted to go in and mess around with the blinds. Yeah. We also had a ring doorbell, which she would use to keep track on us, what we were doing and what we were saying. And who you're bringing in. She would often question us on something we said that she heard on the ring of the doorbell. She's a fucking spy. Fucking hell. Susan became increasingly hostile. It was clear the little things and our presence was irritating her and she made sure we knew it.

31:42This is not good because we've all entered this home as three friends excited to live together, but you - You previously lived together successfully. Yeah, but because you think that, But yes, technically this, it's not even your, it's your dad's home. But because we're coming into this home and you're thinking this is, I don't know, my space and I'm answering to my dad and I'm making sure that la la la. It's just like, think she's kind of above you and that she can. And it's like, this is the power plays all off. Sally and I had such a fun year. We went out loads. We had a great time together, but Susan didn't like this.

32:14Sally and I got closer and closer and Susan got more and more jealous. Susan is quite a controlling person and likes things to be done her way it's quite clear to see that I think Susan would thrive living on her own I think she would thrive living on her own some people just can't have flatmates and that's okay and I think Susan's one of those people Susan's meant to fly so low I think she feels very responsible for this space she wants it to be like exactly the way that she would want it and she's not very accommodating to like other people's ways of living and just like letting people do what they want kind of thing.

32:47Yeah, like, let's just have some fun, Suze. Like, we're young. Suzy Suze. Like, we're living, like, we're what, how old? 23? Like, come on, let's just let our hair down, Suze. I also like things to be done in my way, and we started to clash. Okay. Also, side note, I was single during this time. Right. Fast forward, oh, sorry, I was single during the first year. Fast forward to now, I am no longer single. I met a boy, let's call him Brian. Okay. He's kind, treats me like a queen, and we have a great relationship. at first Susan loved Brian they would talk about sport and make fun out of me for not knowing what they were talking about cute Brian didn't stay over often maybe once or twice a week however which I think is really fair for you know if you're trying to respect the roommates twice a week it's like yeah you know on the weekend Friday night Saturday night whatever especially like he's getting along with you like he's respectful he's not he's blending in with the group he's not like eating your food He's not upsetting the house.

33:46However, as time progressed, Susan became increasingly unhappy about him staying over at her house. But Susie... Susan had never expressed any discomfort with us having guests over before. So I was really caught off guard with this. Are we maybe not paying any rent here? I don't know. Because what it's giving is like daddy's paying for everything for all of you. And we're just living. And you're just living here. And you're very lucky because you don't have to pay anything. That's what it's giving. Maybe, yeah. I'm like okay by how she's acting that's what it's giving but it's like if I'm paying rent I'm paying rent yeah she said she didn't want Brian to be in the kitchen or living room it's like a dog well the dog's not allowed in there and the dog's not allowed in the kitchen I'm gonna put the Brian gate up so that he can't go in there yeah like I respected this me and Brian went out on dates and in my bedroom only but like I'm sorry it's not realistic like what do you mean he can't go in the living room it's a very bizarre like it's Thursday night we're watching Traitors of what he's got to sit in our room.

34:44He can fucking sit on the fucking L-shaped sofa like there's space. You like him, you're mates. Yeah, it's very weird. It's very weird. Then on the Sunday evening of Brian's birthday weekend, Susan gave me an ultimatum. She said guests can only stay once a month or for special occasions. Fucking hell, Susie. Like you're really pushing me away. Like if our friendship wasn't already over. For some reason, this is obviously keeping Susan up at night. She can't rest knowing that this is going on. It's giving, I think it is. And listen, I am all for saying, no, that boyfriend is disgusting and he stinks and he's stomping about.

35:27And he's disrespectful. Yeah, and he's using all our water and he's eating my fucking food and he's slobbing about here all day. He's working from home here. I'm all for kicking that twat out. But this guy is laying over once or twice a week. he's respectful yeah it seems he seems nice he gets along with her and all of a sudden once a month once a month any guests any guests once a month or special occasions yeah but also what if I've got a sister who's gonna come around for a weekend like it come on Susie I'm shocked yeah she's got some balls yeah she's putting her boundaries down she don't give a fuck no she doesn't she don't give a fuck she said this is my daddy's house and I will make the rules yeah and you listen to my fucking rules she said she was uncomfortable with a man in her space.

36:10Listen, and I respect that. I respect that. I do, but, but, and I do, I do understand enforcing all of that against the men. Absolutely. But once a month, I said that I had respected her boundaries and we only ever stayed in my room or used Sally and I's shared bathroom. Yeah. You were very respectful of all her other rules. Susan said guests do not leave shower gel in the shower bearing in mind she doesn't use this bathroom like this is Sally's bathroom that's she'd been checking the shower though she said Brian could stay could stay the same way a friend could stay could stay Susan said I had to get on board or get out she wants you gone I think I actually I think she regrets she wants to live here alone I'm not sure if this is even about your boyfriend I actually think this is about you maybe and I don't think she wants you to live there anymore so she is trying to make it very very difficult and very not enjoyable so that you want to leave I actually I'm not even sure if it's about this boy I think she's thinking for whatever reason I don't get out of daddy's house I want you gone how can I kick you out I'm gonna make it unenjoyable your boyfriend can't do this your boyfriend can't do that he can only say does she not want to rest though the constant checking of like it's not even like this is my space where I live where I'm assuming that you guys are paying some rent and bills like I can do as I please in my bathroom with my boyfriend like oh god right so my dilemma is I can't believe that get on board or get out that's crazy my dilemma is how do I navigate this Susan said my parents oh my god oh god Susan said that my parents must not have raised me right because of my behavior.

38:03Susie. Susan's on one. Susan and I are not speaking now. Yeah. I'd like to hear from Susan. I'd like to tell us what's going on. Susan. I am actively looking to move out. Yeah. I'm avoiding the house at all costs unless Sally is home. I'm staying at Brian's and driving an hour to work every day. Oh, Sarah. Also, Sally, Susan and I are all doing the same master's degree now and have graduation coming up. Okay. The graduation seating will be done alphabetically. And of course, Susan and I are next to each other. Susan, Sally and Sarah, of course we sat together. Yeah. Please help. I feel so uncomfortable at the thought of having to sit beside her for a two hour ceremony.

38:42She's on a power trip and I don't know what's up her bum, to be honest, because it's like, look, we're young, like, let's enjoy daddy's house. Like, you know, like, let's just come on. We're not going to be like, we're graduating now and you've just kind of ruined it. I don't know. Unless there's stuff that Sarah is not telling us. Yeah. And I would like to hear Susan's story. Like maybe Brian has, you know, farted in some way he shouldn't have farted. Or left some skid marks in a mutual toy. Yeah, like maybe, yeah. Because then fair enough. Yeah, kick the man out. Yeah. Whatever. I get that from her.

39:12But if he's been as respectful as you're saying, and it's only been once or twice a week, she's just on one. She's fucking like, she's fucking on one. Unless daddy's been telling her to say no men or get the boy out. But even before all the boy, like there is obviously something else going on because like her i'm not sure if maybe she's a bit jealous of yours and sally's relationship yeah because like closer watching like listening to you on the ring doorbells and cameras like if you were chatting about that's mental and why you would even think to do that it's like what are you hoping that you hear like what what are you looking for i don't know if there's a little bit of insecurity from her being like if you leave then me and Sally can be mates and maybe maybe she felt like she was close with Sally beforehand and now maybe you two are closer and it's an insecurity it's just very clear that she probably regrets inviting you both to live there with her yeah I think she sees whatever we don't know the reason but that's what it's looking like yeah I think she sees it as it's her home and it's her rules regardless of whether you're paying rent or not and she can't seem to even like she can't seem to think oh yeah they live here too it's her home and she because if she's not got a boy coming around she's thinking if i've not then you've not and that's the way that's gonna be yeah i think if she had a boyfriend who like kind of lived there she'd probably be a bit more relaxed because she couldn't say anything because oh yeah you boys can hang out we're gonna go and do this like but yeah maybe it's the fact that it's like oh well yeah she wouldn't have an argument then if she had a boyfriend coming around she wouldn't have an argument saying well brian can't allow but matt's allowed around like that's that's not an argument like and also like we complied with your rules i kept him out the fucking kitchen yeah i kept him out the living room like that's those rules in itself are insane.

40:55Yeah. Insane. A bit unrealistic. As long as he wasn't being disrespectful in the kitchen and whatever, which I don't think he was. And you comply with that. You kept him on house arrest up in your bedroom. Yeah. And then for her to now say once a month is fucked. I'd like to hear from Susan. But look, you're moving out. Graduation is nigh. It's coming to an end. I think you're just going to have to. The season has passed. Yeah. You're just going to have to get through that graduation. Sit there with a smile. Well, congrats. Congrats. Yeah. It's what it is. it worked when it worked and it's just stopped working unfortunately and it gets like that where you live with people like some things work out some things you can't live with everyone forever like it's natural to clash it's obviously just not working some people have great experiences living with friends and it's like oh harmonious wow we're sisters yeah I'm gonna miss it so much we love oh gonna miss this others it ends like this yeah you know and it's always got a man involved but I guess before the boyfriend was involved she was being crazy so good luck with the graduation I really want to hit Susan's side same please give us a call I know

41:57oh god well this is a quick fire of all quick fires my sister didn't invite me to her engagement party do i say something yes you've got to say something yeah absolutely you've got to say why wasn't i invited it's as simple as that was i not invited yeah bizarre oh my god sophie oh what now you're not actually fucking ready for this did she steal my pictures for her only fans what so that's me I've gone on your phone oh and cut the head off maybe yeah I've gone on your phone I've gone oh that'll do I've ever dropped me bare pictures of you in a bikini cropped your head out and I've put them behind a paywall and I'm reaping in some money isn't that illegal that is definitely illegal yeah I think that would I think that will yeah constitute an arrest don't you think oh my god hi gorgeous girls thank you long time subscriber first time writing in your podcast has played in the background of one too many late night study sessions I never thought I would actually have to write in especially about my best friend but here we are I'll try to keep it as concise as possible me and my best friend Susan have been best friends since our first semester at uni we hit it off it's lovely It's really nice.

43:17We hit it off instantly and I've been two peas in a pod ever since. We lived together throughout our time at uni, went on countless nights out, never kept a secret from each other. I never thought I would need, would meet someone with whom I have so many similarities and I absolutely cannot imagine my life without her. Which is why I'm so upset about these recent discoveries. Oh, fuck. We've slightly grown apart in recent years as we now live three hours apart. We've both been busy working but still FaceTime several times a week. and we try to meet up every couple of weeks. Most of the time that turns into a girly weekend away so neither of us have to make the full drive and whether whenever we're together it always feels exactly like it did at the beginning of our friendship at uni.

43:58I fully trusted her and thought this would be a friendship that would stand the test of time. I can't fathom what's about to happen. That was all up until about two weeks ago. I was at home on a Friday night watching a movie with my boyfriend and he got a call from his friend at work

44:20what desperately nothing there's nothing left in there there was something oh god fuck so he was got a call from his friend from work he left to go in another room which was already strange and stayed on the phone for a good 15 minutes. I'd be like, my heart. When he came back, he was visibly pissed off. Naturally, I asked him, what's going on? Which he just quietly handed me his phone. What? I think I'd done something wrong. On it were dozens of pictures of me in several states of undress. Some in underwear, some in bikinis, all posted on an OnlyFans account. I was quite literally speechless.

45:07My boyfriend was demanding an explanation, but I didn't have a clue. This is definitely illegal. Thankfully, he could tell my confusion was genuine and went on to explain that his friend was sent some pictures from an OnlyFans account by another friend. So they've gone, isn't this your fucking girl? Isn't this Sarah, your girl? Oh my God. The friend ended up subscribing. Oh my God, these men. The friend ended up subscribing, but while looking through the account, he noticed that the background looked very familiar, since he's been at our place many times and decided to call Brian immediately. Back at Brian's Zoom school.

45:41Well, he said, yeah, that's Brian and Sarah's place. We decided to ask his friend for his login information so we could take a look at the account to figure out what was going on. How has she got these photos, though? Logged into your iCloud, it's my first thought. gone on your phone and airdropped them to her? I don't, unless it's AI, unless she's like, I don't know. So the pictures on the account were of me. I was so devastated and overwhelmed. We decided to deal with it the next day with a few hours of sleep and time to digest the situation. The next day we went back into the profile trying to find any clue.

46:20So right now you're not thinking that it's anything to do with Susan or Sarah or whatever her name is. you're just thinking why is there pictures of me on OnlyFans the next day we went back nothing was adding up and I began thinking my phone was hacked when a photo caught my attention it was a picture of me in my underwear which I remembered because I had taken it to send to Susan with the view once feature on WhatsApp because I wasn't sure it looked right so that's me so how did she can you screenshot a view once you must be able to but it does say it does say blah blah blah I took a screenshot It does say that, I think.

46:56Unless it doesn't. The thought of my best friend being behind the account upset me even more. Sickening. And I was in complete denial for a few days, but there was no other answer, so I ended up looking through my own phone. I realized that there were several messages in our chat history that had been sent from my phone but then got deleted. I had never noticed before, but it happened several times over the course of about a year and a half. I also noted some of the other pictures were photos from my private Instagram that has like 150 followers. And most of them were posted on my close friends, which is less than 15 people, including family.

47:31And Susan, and Susan, and I am still in disbelief and denial. Susan is my best friend. She knows my passwords on my phone, every app. I never questioned her if she was looking through my phone, because why would I? Yeah, why would you? she had joked about starting only fans a few times but never told me she would she had gone through with it to add insult to injury all the pictures and videos were edited to only show my body which had always described which she had always described as a porn star's body and and joked that i had the body but she had the face so did she cut your face off of these pictures think so she's cut your yeah because i think you can do that on only fans it's just faceless stuff pictures right you know men are paying however much they're paying to see the books right um but obviously she's saying that doesn't sound like a joke anymore no so i finally told my boyfriend about my suspicions and he wants me to take it to the police yeah yeah i don't want to do that especially because i'm not even sure it was it is actually her account and i don't have brains to figure out ways to actually confirm it is her but but you take it to the police and then they can find out you know it's like catfish because they can trace the logins to uh ip and they can easily figure that out right um i don't want to confront her for the fear of being wrong and destroying our relationship with unconfirmed accusations she hasn't acted any differently towards me the only difference i noticed was that she had bought a few more designer items oh yeah she's making some money over the last year oh my god she's thinking ka-ching ka-ching yeah does she not think she was not gonna get caught out if she has been doing this page for a while at least months and months like she's used to it now and she's used to getting away with it and it's like the norm it's not like risky anymore because like it's she's if she's had this for like what eight months i would say at least six months really like something she's stressing about on a day-to-day anymore so you wouldn't notice a change of behavior so she's been buying designer items over the last year but she's also got promoted at her job which was already well paid and would absolutely not need the extra cash to buy them so she's usually an open book and a terrible liar so I can't help feeling like this is all a big misunderstanding I have already reported the account for stolen content so I'm hoping it'll be taken down soon I kind of want to wait until the account gets taken down to see if she behaves weirdly or or weirdly to get more of a confirmation without having to confront her directly yeah I'm completely lost on what to do and i would really love your advice love sarah i do think you should let's go to the police definitely but i i also think you could one option you could do is ring her and be like you never guess what happened to me oh oh that's a double bluffer yeah play her own game and like yeah it happened to me last night explain what happened we were on the sofa brian got this call someone is using my pictures all over only fans pictures that i haven't even i've only sent them to some people like i'm figuring it out i'm trying to figure out who it is i'm having a day on my whatsapp today i've got all my archive chats i'm going through and i'm gonna figure out her own game and i'm gonna but i mean i'm going to the police in about an hour like tell her and then see what and then she might be like she might be like oh no i can help you don't need to go to the and like just just confide in her as a friend of like guess what's fucking happened to me but I can figure it out because it's only this I know this specific picture I only sent that to three people so I'm going to go back in my chats like just almost scare her to a confession and say like I am going to the police but I'm going to give myself like two hours to go through my WhatsApp history but then I'm like Brian's you know dying to go to the police so we'll be going today and just then like be like anyway I've got to go and just see what she does she's going to jail And see if she confesses, see if she owns up, just let her.

51:34And if she. She's going to prison. Yeah. Or she'll have a very genuine like, what? Oh my God. Let me help you. This is crazy. You're going to find out one way or the other. But she's been acting for eight months and she probably is going to do a really pretty good job of looking genuine and going, what? Oh my God. I just mean in the slight chance that it's not her and it is someone else. But I think it definitely seems like it's her. Go to the police now. Once we've gone to the police, filed the report, said your suspicions, then go to her so she can't do anything or stop you or delete. So I don't know what she could maybe do, you know, delete the evidence off her phone or something, you know?

52:13Yeah. Do that. Then do that. Well, I've already taken it to the police. Yeah. And I'll be like, oh my God, I'm going down. Oh my fuck. You're going to see her whole fucking heart singing to her ass. Yeah. Then do it in person. Her ass is going to prolapse. Look her in the eyes and 100 % do that. 100%. Yeah. I think even with Brian present, to be honest. I mean, she lives three hours away. Just FaceTime her. Okay, FaceTime her. Guess what? Oh, I forgot she lived so long away. But yeah, give the police her fucking address. Say, look, I have pretty good suspicion that it's my best friend. I've not confronted her yet.

52:44She's got sirens coming outside of her house. But this picture, in this picture, I can show you evidence of this. I sent this to her privately. You know, there's no way that this could have been on the internet. And yeah, anyway. What is she thinking? What is it? It's stolen identity impersonation. It's like revenge porn, isn't it? and it's fucking, yeah, it's awful. What is she thinking? She's going to jail. But yeah, the friendship's over if she's behind this account, which it seems likely. She is. You're just, you know, when you're figuring something out like that and you're like, it's so unbelievable that you're like - And you really don't want to believe it.

53:13You essentially do have evidence, but it's like, it's still so fucking unbelievable. But it's like, yeah, I don't want to confront her in the chances of her not being her. But she's definitely involved in some sort of way. whether she's sending these images on to someone who's got the like it's still she's linked somehow dodgy dealings and the fact that everything's adding up the fact that she said I want to have I want to start OnlyFans you've got the porn star body honey like it's it's all signs are pointing to what was she thinking I don't know what the fuck she's thinking what on earth is she thinking I don't know what she's thinking because you're going to get caught out one day and here you are getting caught out and you're going to go to prison like it's unbelievable I'm sorry Bleeba you can't jump down oh god keep us posted Sarah I'm sorry that this is happening to you go straight to the police now yeah yeah without a doubt yeah hopefully she already has by the time this yeah oh my lordy lord wow at least you actually found out like how long ago did she make this account yeah it was my daughter Christy isn't it it's like I've only ever sent you this one picture to you but as in thank god the colleague called the boy and said like that's your living room isn't it that was gonna that was gonna come out truth always comes out especially when it's shit like that it's my fucking carpet yeah it's like it's all my fucking like yeah and if anyone's been in this house it's not hard to know and all these boys are upon these OnlyFans accounts so of course they're gonna fucking figure it out you know like all these local boys and now they all think I'm on it like no anyway god well I hope she gets reprimanded and I hope she goes to jail I do please tell us what the police say I don't know what it's going for we'll get to the bottom of it like what on earth has to be going for your brain to think that this is a good idea and that you should do that and that this is okay no no no no honey should we have our star of the week yes yes we need it oh okay okay here to restore your faith in pilots thank god because i'm scared to go on a plane honey yeah hi girls i would love to nominate my brian as star of the week okay i know that recent dilemmas have made you question the intention airline pilot what airline honestly i heard the rumors too but my brian is the most wonderful man in the world and a full-time pilot oh i know i'm biased but i don't think anyone could deserve star of the week more than tell us more about mr we have been together for five years and he really is the man i've wished for all my life oh i've just finished my two-year master's degree and qualified for my dream job as a speech and language oh everyone is so smart and he has been nothing but supportive both emotionally and financially throughout my degree and as i make this transition from student to professional.

55:48I'm lucky enough to have been taken on some amazing holidays over the past few years. He even took me a business class to the Caribbean. We are all so excited to be buying our first home together. That's actually quite sexy. And he has continued to work so hard to save up for the rest of our deposit whilst I've been in full-time education. As you should do. Absolutely. You saved, sir. He is the most loyal, gentle, kind, loving man I could wish for and even whenever he has his own struggles to deal with he never fails to make me feel like the most loved and special girl in the world my 6 foot 4 big friendly giant 6 foot 4 can he even fit in the cockpit can he even fit in the cockpit he's massive he's huge he's huge he's gonna be on the roof of the plane he's huge how does he even get in there he's massive oh oh we love that you guys well thank you for restoring our faith because yeah absolutely God knows we needed that well look shout out BA shout out Emirates thank you for keeping all the airlines shout out Virgin oh Virgin my favourite thank you for keeping us safe in the skies thank you guys we really appreciate it regardless if you're shagging women when you land or not we appreciate you we appreciate the safety we do have a great week everyone if you've got a dilemma you can email hello at thegirlsbathroom.com we now have our hotline where you can message and text your dilemma and we can get you on the show period and we will see you on Monday if you're with the Patreon or next Wednesday as usual here where we are.

57:11Peace out, divas. Bye.