Boy Talk: He copies and pastes his dates?

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1:00Cinzia May: craftsmanship, but in sensory details. Things like how a door closes, the click of a switch, the acoustic feedback of controls. Because a car that doesn't make you feel something is a car that stops short of amazing.

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1:19Cinzia May: This is the closest it's come. I was picking up Blue Breeze poo. And then this guy. Lamborghini. Yeah. It's Lamborghini Urus. Hey, I'm playing for the 49ers. I make so much money, honey. You want to come home with me? Pulled up. I was like, oh my God. Pulled up. He's like, at least you're picking up her poo. It's quite attractive. Mine is like, at least you pick up her poo. And then that was it. What did you say? I was like. I don't know what I said. Yeah, but I don't know.

1:48Sophie McCarthy: Do you want to smell it? Yeah, but I do. They're much smaller than mine.

1:57Cinzia May: Much smaller than my booze. You should see mine, honey. Yeah.

2:00Sophie McCarthy: They're so easy to pick up. It's got nothing on mine. Oh, my God.

2:13Cinzia May: Wow, wow, wow.

2:14Sophie McCarthy: wow wow we wow didn't know we'd started it's a party in here welcome back to the show back to the show you guys what's up it is girls bathroom fm and we are live call us on oh 700 and i'm your other host sophia the other host

2:39Cinzia May: let's do the other one right let's do as many it's gonna be a party in here today you guys Yeah, you've never experienced a party like this before. Let's try and do as many different American accents that we can from the different states.

2:50Sophie McCarthy: This is what I don't really, I got Southern. You do though.

2:53Cinzia May: Yeah, I don't actually, we got Southern to start with. We got the crocodiles and the hillbillies.

2:59Sophie McCarthy: But like, you know when it's like, oh, I'm from the valley. Like what's the difference?

3:02Cinzia May: I don't know the caliph, right, right. Let's do Southern.

3:05Sophie McCarthy: Southern, a Southern belle. Yeah, so, oh, hey, honey. You know, my mom and we go to church and I love my horses. so much. I just love to ride on those horses.

3:17Cinzia May: I love grits and sausage and gravy. That's my What accent is that? I love me some grits in the morning. I'll tell you. What's a grit? A grit is actually a sweet corn. Oh, a sweet corn. It almost is like a porridge that you guys have in the UK. It's almost like a porridge consistency. Porridge. Porridge. Y 'all can put like sugar in it or you can make it salty. That is very good. You can put salt in it. Salt? Okay. Yeah, and it can be like more savory.

3:48Sophie McCarthy: That's a lot of Southern charm you've got there.

3:51Cinzia May: Yeah, you can put sugar in it, honey. Sugar in it. It's almost like a sweet dessert. It's so nice. Oh my God, that sounds so good, ma 'am. Yeah, or I like my cotton candy corn. Should we try a new

4:03Sophie McCarthy: accent, a new location?

4:05Cinzia May: Okay, so we locked Southern down.

4:06Sophie McCarthy: Now let's do New York.

4:07Cinzia May: New York.

4:09Sophie McCarthy: I can't do New York.

4:10Cinzia May: Yes, you can. bagel no coffee coffee yeah new jersey new jersey we got new jersey we got okay i'm gonna go really in new york wait i'm gonna lock in one second i see that those men making the sandwiches and picked on my past and we got a bagel yeah you want a slice of pizza no wait you got one wait no it's very i can't do this a half one we can coffee coffee give me a cup of coffee right we need to lock into like uncut jams

4:46Sophie McCarthy: it's like that yeah i know it's like adam sandler yeah like from uncut jams

4:53Cinzia May: you want pastrami no i can't do it i can't do it i see all those italian new york yeah i know

5:00Sophie McCarthy: i know sandwiches but i can't actually go there i feel like we probably got like the california The Vulcan Fry That's just so easy for us Yeah Vulcan Fry

5:10Cinzia May: We've got Courtney Kylie Chloe Courtney We've got Stormy Air We've got Dream We've also got True True Of course How can I bet True We've also got Rob Penelope Penelope We've got Mason as well We've also got North The Star Rain Rain Rain's a really cute name Beautiful name I like that a lot Yeah It's actually stunning

5:38Cinzia May: yeah pregnant one pregnant lady in the room

5:41Sophie McCarthy: looking at Rosie over there Christmas baby rain yeah yeah really lovely yeah nice that

5:47Cinzia May: yeah wow any other texts no sex right I'm cowgirl yeah but it's kind of southern it's the same but it's not quite so yeah yeah I can't really do anything else no I would actually like to do You know what I actually think will be valuable for us? Doing some acting lessons. We've always said this. Have we? Yeah. Don't recall ever saying this. Yeah. Maybe it was the same. And just to like lower our inhibitions and to loosen up and just to help. What about when we go to New York? Yes. To an acting class. Seriously. I'm actually dead ass. Dead ass. Dead ass. I'm really lucky. Dead ass mama. So I'm going to be the next big thing.

6:23Cinzia May: You'll never see. I'm going to be famous. Yeah. I'm going to be at the Arsenal's next year. I'm going to be on those stages. I think it'd be good for like accents and like. I don't know. I think it'd be fun.

6:31Sophie McCarthy: Yeah. Or we could go to an accent coach, a dialect coach. Yes. We could start there. I think that'd be really fun.

6:36Cinzia May: I think that'd be really fun. Yeah. I wonder if we've got one listening. That would be fun. Listen, I'm like so down. I think that'd be a nice hobby. Yeah. Like I want more hobbies. Go to a class on the side. Yeah. Yeah.

6:46Sophie McCarthy: Wednesday night. Well, I've got my acting class tonight. Yeah. It's like cool. Yeah. Sorry. I've been in my acting class. Yeah. So I've been pouring into my own cup for quite a little bit.

6:54Cinzia May: So I've got some acting classes going on. Yes. Absolutely. And I've also got clay pottery school going on. I'm also in PA school. I'm also riding horses on the weekends.

7:04Sophie McCarthy: And also, yeah. Got my tennis, of course, Monday through Friday. Paddle Tuesday through Thursday.

7:10Cinzia May: And I like my eggs under easy, over easy.

7:13Sophie McCarthy: Sunny side down.

7:14Cinzia May: Yeah. But sunny side over easy. Over easy, under sunny.

7:19Sophie McCarthy: Thanks, mama. Right.

7:23Cinzia May: Well, I've got my second glass of milk today. glad mads they're waiting on the side some nice whole milk to gird my loins protein yeah

7:32Sophie McCarthy: have you watched ever west prada too no i watched it recently it was the chair rosie i know you're pregnant but you can't just be farting like that i thought someone

7:44Cinzia May: tooted in the room i thought we had a real life fart in the room i thought that pregnant lady over there she cannot control her vials but it was just the chair okay that is fine look fighting is a normal part of life we're not shamed like like isn't it weird that like okay so picture this so like why do we go and poo and wee in private like why isn't it a thing that is just like i'm just gonna go in yeah right here why aren't they just in the middle of a room yeah

8:14Sophie McCarthy: because it's like in the corner like we're all doing yeah we know what's going on behind that normal thing and like why is it like poo like oh stinky like yeah like like why don't we like like

8:25Cinzia May: sweet sweet good yeah nature yeah natural yeah like like if i was to smell see severe like do a poo oh that was a good one look in there today like how was that for you smells healthy today yeah your bellyache gone you've been eating good i can tell yeah wow a lot of fiber you got it sweet corn as well a little bit runny today like why yeah that's a great question i don't know obviously that's just the human experience you know how the humans have evolved yeah absolutely

8:52Sophie McCarthy: but that's what they say about the dogs i think like blueberry must just be like oh my god every time i poo my mom picks it up and carries it with her she loves my poo yeah god she's been doing

9:02Cinzia May: some really ones i tell you and it's like how do i pick that up i just have to wipe it on the

9:06Sophie McCarthy: pavement it's absolutely disgusting yeah and i actually had a guy she's a runny poopy girl

9:10Cinzia May: this is like i've not been hitting on the street okay ever well i don't know in my younger days hit on on the street oh my god i thought you said something anyway i was like what about here like hit on like hey girl what's going on over there hello mom what you got and i was looking quite nice one day and i was picking up this is the closest has come i was picking up blueberries poo right and then this guy lamborghini yeah is lamborghini yours hey I'm playing for the 49ers I make so much money honey you want to come home with me pulled up I was like oh my god pulled up he's like at least you're picking up her poo it's quite attractive mine he's like at least you pick up her poo and then that was it what did you say I was like I don't know what I said yeah but I don't know do you want to smell it yeah but I do much smaller than mine

10:08Cinzia May: much smaller my boobs you should see mine honey yeah they're so easy to pick up

10:14Sophie McCarthy: it's got nothing on mine oh my god

10:18Cinzia May: i'm sweating a lot i'm really really hot yeah imagine it's nothing on my big shit so the morning you should you should see i'm i'm hitting about i'm hitting about three a day so you should see morning evening i'm driving those kids off three times a day in that pool on it i'm on a straight vegan diet full fiber no means it just goes nice car though sir

10:45Sophie McCarthy: you have a great day you have a good day okay okay give my love to the family

10:52Cinzia May: oh wow yeah but i didn't give him anything so he drove off but he was quite attractive maybe he'll pull back up yeah you should have took note of that reg i know i was all i was all flustered yeah it's so in the hand it's not the most sexy it's really overstimulating picking up poo and like yeah you know absolutely and like if you're in a skirt or something it's like oh my god i think it was a hot day as well it was way back in summer you know summertime long hot summer it's been a long hot summer and it's 95 degrees in the shade fucking hell that's hot 95 degrees in the shade music video ever right happy wednesday

11:28Sophie McCarthy: everyone welcome back happy september officially i know it was september for the episode last week but this is officially our first september recording and we are back to school very happy

11:39Cinzia May: about it feeling good yeah i'm feeling really good i'm really i'm happy it's arrived i'm revved up yeah i'm happy i'm gearing up for halloween spooky season honey yeah yeah i'm ready to go great just pass through that milk right now

11:58Cinzia May: sorry so i'm just gonna pass through some milk sorry so i'm just gonna pass through a little bit of milk right there yeah well it's boy talk you don't mind do you milky brat you know me uh yeah so let's dive in you guys as well it's boy talk how weird also we're both in navy like this is very weird Yeah. We've been coordinating a lot. You know, I dyed my hair black by myself. Wow. It looks super glossy. I always think your hair looks glossy though. Really? Yeah. Well, yeah. I just, I just, because I was going to go to the salon. But then I was like, I can't be fucked. Yeah.

12:36Sophie McCarthy: And then. Talk us through them for the at-home hair dye. I mean, you know who's always dyed her hair at home? Fiona. Margot. Oh, Margot. Fiona's going to the salon.

12:42Cinzia May: Yeah, I thought Fiona going to the salon. She went to the salon yesterday. Oh, Marg. Yeah, always. Does she cover up the greys then? I thought she was a silver fox. she's full brunette no my god i'm getting oh my god yeah you're gonna have to retract that statement because she's gonna listen to this she's a blonde she's a blonde of course but have you seen that man in australia no or new zealand and the ladies come in they travel far and wide far and wide to get him to transform their hair to fully silver because they're so tired of dying over the greys and he makes them look rich and expensive this gorgeous and like tonal and like multi-dimensional beautiful silver hair makes them look so rich and like expensive and just lovely and they're like crying after they're amazing i think we should take a trip there when we're ready when the time is due seriously he's like a magician the time might not be due margot's blonde true i do think for blondes yeah i do think for blondes it's much easier to upkeep when you're gray isn't it that's why a lot of women go lighter yeah and my mom because like of course you know I think it yeah blends in a bit more yeah I think my mum's been everything she used to have dark black brown hair then she had like do you remember when she was ginger for a while like red red hair like probably back when I was like 16 she had like red hair did she?

13:54Cinzia May: yes there's pictures of her I can't remember that and it's like I can't even yeah she's done it all but now blonde is like she's obviously a little greater than the girl in the room yeah absolutely anyway I just got the hair down Deliveroo and it was really just boxed it in the bathroom great and like Looks really good. It literally looks as if I literally went to the salon and just got a black dye on it, so whatever. Yeah. And it cost me, what, 20 quid? And how are we feeling about going the ginge? Well, it's not going to happen now because I've got a black box dye on my hair. So I just kind of just put it to bed.

14:21Cinzia May: Okay. I respect that. Because it was just silly and it was just, you know, silly. A phase, one might say. One might say it was not in my right mind. Absolutely.

14:29Sophie McCarthy: That eclipses an hour really threw us for a spin. Yeah, so. Okay, well, would you like to hear our question of the week? I would, actually, very much. I like this. What was your first ever ringtone? Oh my fuck and God. Fucking God, sorry. Oh my

14:47Cinzia May: fuck and God. In God, in God almighty. Oh my God, praise Jesus. Yeah. My first ever ringtone, let me think. Well, my first ever phone, do you remember my first ever, that pink flip phone? It was like unbranded, like not Motorola, nothing. It was LG, right? I don't even think it was LG. That like tiny, tiny, tiny pink flip phone when I bought it to like ballet. Yeah, I think I remember that. It was like minuscule. Yes. And it was. Wasn't it a Motorola? No. It was like unbranded. Like my uncle bought it, mate. Okay. Yeah. It's familiar. Do you remember it? Yeah. Because I remember being at, like when we were at our dance school, not Dawn, when we would go to that thing.

15:23Cinzia May: And I remember like having an emergency calling someone on that. Yeah.

15:27Sophie McCarthy: Be like, where are you? Yeah. I remember texting you once like, where are you? Yeah. And then like you didn't come. And I was like, oh no.

15:34Cinzia May: I'm ill, honey. That was a bad day. Flop. yeah Ben for yourself sorry honey I won't be there tonight

15:41Sophie McCarthy: yeah I won't be there honestly I miss a flip I want that back yeah I think like okay talk to you later yeah I want the slap of the phone

15:49Cinzia May: and just like also screen protection do you know what I mean like close it down snap it yeah I think honestly I mean they're not they're not being innovative like speak on it I miss the days when it was like oh my god new shape it's a fucking rectangle like oh my god I love it it's bigger yeah like they're the same it's boring

16:07Sophie McCarthy: I don't even know what I've got right now I don't even know what I'm working with

16:09Cinzia May: like unless we go to fucking Android fucking the big keynote iPad thing I want the flip I want iPhone flip the iPhone flip yeah me too sounds cool but then obviously the Samsungs of it all they have those like that big book thing and they do have the one that like I know but I don't want that

16:25Sophie McCarthy: I don't want a Rubik's Cube

16:27Cinzia May: yeah hello yeah yeah hi man sorry it's my new Android I can't quite hear you yeah but I would love to bring it back but yeah that was my first that was your first phone I couldn't tell you what that ringtone was

16:38Sophie McCarthy: I feel like my first ringtone was Step Up

16:42Cinzia May: oh you're saying as a song you set I'm not even thinking yeah the ringtone yeah I think mine was Step Up

16:49Sophie McCarthy: sing it then um no matter what we go through you step up I step up from Step Up the film right right

16:59Cinzia May: and then also that would have been quite the process to set up gotta download it from fucking Linewire getting onto the phone I was burning CDs and all sorts. Yeah, but you were the whiz.

17:07Sophie McCarthy: Yeah.

17:08Cinzia May: Yeah. She was, you know.

17:09Sophie McCarthy: I was the whiz. You want a CD? I'll burn it for you. You want music downloaded? I got you.

17:14Cinzia May: She's a small class three pounder. That's my little side hustle.

17:17Sophie McCarthy: Yeah. Okay. First ringtone. Riding solo, Jason Derulo.

17:21Cinzia May: I'm riding solo. Yeah. That was pretty late in the game.

17:25Sophie McCarthy: I feel like we were listening to that. In 2010.

17:28Cinzia May: Yeah. Wait, no. Crazy Frog. Yeah. God, that was set me sideways.

17:32Sophie McCarthy: Sorry, Justin Bieber. How young are you? We were listening to that when we were at Sixth Form.

17:37Cinzia May: Shit. Yeah.

17:38Sophie McCarthy: Oh, this is a classic. I listen to this every single day. He said, she said, Ashley Tisdale. Baby, I could see us moving like that. We don't need a mother. He said, she said. I didn't know that song. That is the best song ever. Locked Up, Akon.

17:53Cinzia May: Sing. She's got me locked up. No. Locked up.

17:59Sophie McCarthy: I'm locked up. That pussy got me locked up. You won't let me out. Something like that. Oh, you won't let me out. Mr. Sexo Beat. You makes me dance. It's so, so, so, so. It's so, so, so. It's so, so, so. It makes me move like a free freak. Mr. Sexo Beat.

18:18Cinzia May: Yeah, nice.

18:18Sophie McCarthy: Hello, Adele. Four more. Nice.

18:23Cinzia May: Oh, you're quite serious. You're a serious child. Just come out of your pocket. Hello. Call me maybe. Mm. Cute, fun. Surely we've got to have some It's Friday. Friday gotta get down on Friday

18:36Sophie McCarthy: yeah that's gotta be in there somewhere My Humps Black Eyed Peas very Angie Coded classic Hello Moto what's that? Hello Moto what? Moto Moto likes you Moto Hello Moto

18:51Sophie McCarthy: Motorola Inbuilt Song Fireflies what a classic you would not believe your eyes 10 million fireflies fucking hell I'm sorry how young is this girl waffle house jones that came out like four years ago sing oh that new conversations at the waffle house yes that was her first ringtone that was like two years ago

19:18Cinzia May: you've gotta be 12 she's a late bloomer she's just got her first phone talk dirty to me jason listen listen i will go to jason derulo concert if there was one now this is a girl who speak in

19:31Sophie McCarthy: our language yeah i i cody simpson i every year i am missing you hot and cold katie perry classic

19:39Cinzia May: your heart then you're cold you're yes and you're no you're in yeah nice moves like jagger i got the moves like jagger what's this one jagger thrift shop macklemore um i'll see you at the thrift shop

19:57Sophie McCarthy: thrift shop thrift shop i'll take you to the thrift shop thrift shop you want something new i'll take you to the thrift shop i don't know i wasn't it's that yeah 20 in my pocket oh my god i got 20 in my pocket this is fucking awesome okay i wear your granddad's clothes oh it makes

20:20Cinzia May: so much sense now right here come the girls yeah girls we've got number one by tinsy strider number one it's just a thing before i thought that was n dubs is that tinsy strider all i do is think twice we've got baby cakes baby cakes you just don't know no no i'm like a fucking dj you just don't fucking know no no yes and i just want yeah well you're gonna get this one ego the saturdays uh wait it's here it's here it's here ego yeah we've got it come on oh it's right there yeah yeah no come on we need to get it i'm not gonna be able to rest I just had it it's right there

21:22yeah

21:23Sophie McCarthy: like a superstar and now you want to pretend they're going to do this far

21:29Cinzia May: you need to have a sit down with your ego you shouldn't have a sit down with your ego ego yes I'm getting hot classic we've got you think you're cooler than me I got I got designer shades Just to hide your face And you wear them around Like you're cooler than me And you never say hey Or remember my name You probably watch you I'm so hot right now We've got She's so lovely She's so lovely We weren't scouting for girls fans were we Whenever that scouting the girls fucking bollocks song I'm sorry I know everyone loves it I know they do Not my thing Even Lydia still plays it to this day In the car

22:14Sophie McCarthy: Oh my god no That song Sorry

22:15Cinzia May: I'm like skip what is that song what's it called again not that one the other Scouting for Girls one I don't know everyone's like

22:28Sophie McCarthy: I don't know what is that fucking song it's like not my thing it's like what you play in like 6-1 Common Air and it's like oh my god yeah right what's next on the list are they even still alive and kicking Scouting for Girls I mean I think they're alive yeah whether they're kicking I don't know they're still tall

22:42Cinzia May: they're alive I don't know if they're kicking but they're definitely alive I don't know if they're kicking it. Kick him, that's a different story. We've got OMG Usher.

22:50Sophie McCarthy: Oh my God.

22:52Cinzia May: Have you seen him get his bum out on stage? Usher. It's fucking disgusting. Isn't he like snogging girls on stage and stuff? He's fucking on one. Yeah, it's not right. No, have you actually genuinely seen his bum? I've not seen Usher's ass crack. He's obviously got this like scene where he's like dressing on stage. I don't know. His full ass cheeks, right? What, no panties? No panties on her. and he's he's pulling his but it's weird i'll show you the fucking clip he's i don't know yeah what's going on but everyone's also saying

23:21Sophie McCarthy: oh my gosh

23:27Cinzia May: but everyone's saying he had a um lookalike on stage taking his place for some of the songs no way yeah because it's like covering his face up yeah like glasses on like and it's like everyone's like that's not her shirt that's not her shirt That's definitely a clone. Clone. Yeah. Oh my God. I'm literally burning up, mate. We've also got Sean Paul. Get busy.

23:56Sophie McCarthy: Busy. The way to turn, girl, I want to be keep... Is it that one? Keep me around, girl. That's Shakira, no? I'm busy from the start. Oh, God, I got it right there. We've got TikTok by Kesha.

24:11Cinzia May: What do we know about TikTok? Sing it for me Tick tock On the clock But your party don't stop No Wake up in the morning Feeling like We don't like him No But she predicted tick tock Yeah Think that I know That's insane Yeah she's a genius Powerful Replay by Ayaz Aw

24:31Sophie McCarthy: Sing Shorty's like a melody Oh in my head I like handy About I'm singing like Na na na na Every day I think that was my ringtone at one point too This is a great one. Kiss me through the phone. See you later on. 6-7-8-triple-9-8-2-1-2. 6-7-8-triple-9-8-2-1-2. Baby, you know that I miss you. I want to get with you tonight, but I cannot, baby girl. I miss you. That's not the move. Girl, you know I miss you. That's not the dance move. I just want to kiss you, but I can't right now,

25:01Cinzia May: so baby kiss me through the phone. Wait, that's not the dance move for that song. It's just cool. It's just cool, okay? What's that song that you do that? Soldier boy up in here.

25:12Sophie McCarthy: Whammy crackin' whammy. Soldier boy no Superman. Whammy. I don't know any words. I just know the sounds. You're like,

25:24Cinzia May: you're like, what is this? You crank it. Don't know. I'm really hot. We've got candy shop.

25:32Sophie McCarthy: I take you to the candy shop.

25:35Cinzia May: Lick the lollipop. Ew!

25:38Sophie McCarthy: Girl, don't you stop. You're going to eat. You're going to have it your way. How do you want it? Yeah, you back that thing up. Let me push up on it.

25:50Cinzia May: Of course, the beer knows all the lyrics. Of course.

25:53Sophie McCarthy: I remember listening to that as a kid and my mom was like, you can't be listening to that. I was like, what do you want? I was like, what do you want? I was like, woo. And she was like, no. Yeah.

26:05Cinzia May: I mean, the classic song that always gets me is, I wanna see your peacock

26:09Sophie McCarthy: yeah that one doesn't get me as much it's kind of tame really

26:12Cinzia May: yeah but it's like it's insane we were singing that at 12 years old

26:16Sophie McCarthy: we were singing worse at younger ages I think

26:19Cinzia May: I wanna see your peacock cock yeah like what the fuck that is gross

26:23Sophie McCarthy: like Katy Perry whoa like Katy Perry

26:28Cinzia May: whoa

26:28Sophie McCarthy: right I like this game me too well that was the last one oh no you wanna rap

26:34Cinzia May: we're gonna have to do that again I was like a music quiz I enjoyed that a lot because it's like they don't make songs like that anymore no they don't they don't make nothing like it anymore we've got a lot of good stuff to be fair

26:47Sophie McCarthy: what have we got these days

26:51Cinzia May: we've got I couldn't even tell you

26:53Sophie McCarthy: took to meet in French

26:54Cinzia May: took to meet in Spanish I mean what a tune yeah

27:02Cinzia May: just before we get into it quick disclaimer much just as we are not doctors we are not professionals we do not actually know what we are talking about this is a light-hearted space okay don't take what we say literally

27:12Sophie McCarthy: because we could be wrong yeah and if there's anything serious if there's anything you feel like you're seriously struggling with please contact a gp a professional because that is not us we're just girls girls and boys just like you we're just trying to get through life as well not professionals enjoy the episode

27:29Cinzia May: right dilemma number one three perfect dates but three other women dot dot dot what does that mean so we've dated this guy we've had three great dates which just turns out he's dating three other women and he's doing the same thing to them okay hello lovely ladies i love the part i'm little listener here sorry i'll say the southern draw love you southern bell so much right love the pod i'm a new listener and wouldn't want advice and i'm a new milk drunk just like a little baby you're drunk on your mama's milk semi-skim milk right i'm a new listener here and wouldn't want advice more from anyone else.

28:16Sophie McCarthy: More?

28:18Cinzia May: Sorry. What happened there? Wouldn't want advice more. It's a weird sentence. No offense, Sarah. She said, I'm going to listen to her and wouldn't want advice more from anyone else.

28:33Sophie McCarthy: More. Poppy more. Poppy more.

28:39Cinzia May: I'm really hot. I'm like really sweating a lot.

28:41Sophie McCarthy: Get your blanket off.

28:42Cinzia May: I'm like boiling like, and I can't even take this off because I'm just in a brassiere.

28:46Sophie McCarthy: I'm also sweating. It's okay. The brassieres. Yeah, get that blanket off, girl. Let it, just let it flow. God.

28:56Cinzia May: I'm also sweating. Oh my God. I'm glad Bloob isn't here today. She'd be like burning up. She'd be so overstem. Right. So Susan got me onto you. What? Oh. What's wrong with that? I was just thinking. What? I thought this was going to be a man. And I was like, what do you mean, Susan? But she just means I'm eight. Yeah. Sorry. Me and my bestie, Susan, there we go, are currently writing this to you. And we seriously need your help because we are delusional and confused. Okay. Same. So basically, I met Brian in the middle of March at a party. And let's just say. Party. Saliva was exchanged. Whoa. Whoa.

29:35Cinzia May: Graphics, Sarah. Didn't need to hear that. Okay, you crazy cute. Saliva was exchanged. Nice. while Susan was watching. Fucking hell. Front row Susan. She said it was romantic. Lol. So Susan was like, get it girl. Yeah. Yeah. He was like a good one. Yeah, you lick that man good. Yeah. Right. Let me lick you up and down. Right. We left it for a bit and started talking again at the end of June and he asked me on a date. Nice. So we kind of had a little exchange and now we're finally on a date. First date was perfect. some may say a little too perfect okay well you're thinking like is this all a facade 49ers you know the 49ers obviously i play for the 49ers i got my lambo back here i got my this is 80k these are 150k there's this one clip no you need to see this one clip he's like obviously he's filming these videos so this is that fake 49ers guy yeah i'm being educated he's genuinely pulled up so he says his family is swiss and that they're like really really rich and he's so so rich and this whole thing is that his family is swiss and he pulls up a fake bank he's like this is my bank these are my three swiss banks and it's like 15 million 25 million 10 million and he's like yeah this is see this is like you know how much money i got and it's like what are you doing it's insane anyway yeah i'll show you the morning a bit okay thanks so he picked me up so it was a perfect date he picked me up from the train station with a picnic blanket and an m &s picky bits all ready to go my dream date that is really cute really cute we went to a cute romantic spot and time just flew by oh we sat for hours just talking on this is like sorry in june as well lovely little summer's day uh just talking listening to music and a lot of smooch-a-lucha

31:32Sophie McCarthy: wow on the picnic blanket okay like those guys in new york central park having sex

31:37Cinzia May: never forget that that is insane in the mania okay that's a really do you know what i also

31:44Sophie McCarthy: love about that first date no drinking yeah i think a sober first date is sometimes really nice and it actually like even though it can be a bit more scary i think it actually lets you figure out if you really really like someone or not or if you're just like you know and also like

32:00Cinzia May: it can seem a little bit low effort but the fact that he went to m &s yeah all the stuff he picked you up he had the blanket you know what i mean he it wasn't just like a walk and let's go sit on the grass on the bench he'd actually planned it and i had the food and it's like quality chatting

32:14Sophie McCarthy: time i like it i i like that a lot yeah that's really cute uh so last it feels like a very

32:20Cinzia May: intentional first date yeah yeah like very lovely and i genuinely thought he was perfect we got on so well afterwards he took me to his local pub where he knew everyone would be a lot of looks were given to me now i know why oh because he takes all the girls there this is i'll have the usual please sir another lady will have the usual please yeah okay so this is like his little spiel this is a little summer date get around oh girls love mns picky bits that sit them down in the park Table for two in the corner here. Then my favorite pub is merely a seven minute walk down the road and I'm taking them in.

32:56Cinzia May: So all the, yeah. All right. The second date was also an incredible cute day out and dinner in Manchester. Also all planned by him. I just had to show up. Lovely. Once again, we got on perfectly. Like we'd known each other for years. The third date was also unbelievable. I couldn't believe how well we clicked. Another picnic by a lake with music and more smooching. still no extracurricular activities if you know what i mean hernies we know she said thank god susan picked me up from the date he he okay so we've had three lovely dates quite wholesome vibes as well yeah no red flags so far you're thinking picnic days out nice after the date he came with his best friend to susan's house for drinks that's fun that's fun with susan's parents and us on the night of the eclipse.

33:43Cinzia May: Whoa. Whoa. Oh, gosh. On the night of the eclipse. It was the night of the eclipse. So we all kind of had a little rendezvous for the eclipse at Susan's house.

33:55Sophie McCarthy: A celebration of sorts.

33:56Cinzia May: Also, yeah, because like your three dates in, it's like, you know what? I will bring you around, Susan, now. Let's just see how you fare with other people. Yeah, there's another guy here. Let's see how this goes. Yeah, it's a perfect little test of things.

34:06Sophie McCarthy: Also, it switches it up. Like we've had three dates, us two. Let's bring some friends. let's get this a bit more of a vibe.

34:11Cinzia May: I know it doesn't sound too intense, but I can't explain how much I was starting to like him. I date quite a bit.

34:18Sophie McCarthy: Well, three dates is a lot. I think so. Especially like these picnics aren't like 45 minutes. I'm thinking these are like three, four hour picnics. We're laid out for four hours. It's a lot of conversation here. Like it's a lot of quality time.

34:29Cinzia May: A lot of smooching as well. So I really started to like him. I date quite a bit and I haven't felt like this in a long time. I normally felt used by other men. So I love that we haven't slept together yet you know we're kind of building up slowly but yet he made me feel special i've even told my family about these dates all his friends knew about me and quite like me as well well i so thought okay i mean it all sounds very nice so far well yeah anyways now it gets messy the next day i found out everything after the eclipse of course oh shit asmr

35:06Cinzia May: they should put that like ice ice drink sounds on calm on a white noise machine because i would i would sleep to that joke like genuinely like that kind of like ice yeah i would sleep to that definitely so number one she's listed out four things where it's gone wrong okay four pointers of what's happened so number one after our first date he apparently immediately drove to another girl's house and slept with her you're fucking joking so he fueled

35:39Sophie McCarthy: up on all that picnic no wonder he was eating so much needed his energy listen he fueled up on all

35:44Cinzia May: that fucking horny from snooching you sorry and then he got all horned yeah he thought who the fuck can i call yeah to go and get my needs met yeah go and just beat one out in the car mate like It's disgusting.

35:57Sophie McCarthy: Wow. All fueled up on those sausage rolls.

36:00Cinzia May: Yeah, disgusting. And it's still got the picnic blanket in the back. In the back. Bearing in mind, he had said it was the best date he'd ever been on. Yeah, they just, listen, they just literally, this is what they like to do. Like, chat shit. Chat shit. Like, no. What do you mean it was the best date he'd been on? You just gone and slept with Susan? No. Straight after. Like, not even a thought. Like, it's just ridiculous, isn't it? Like, you're just lying.

36:23Sophie McCarthy: this is why it's so much more important like to pay attention to men's actions because they some of them do have this gift of the gab and they will just harry chelsea shit and they will just say what they want to say in the moment because they know that's going to make you feel good and they're just saying it to say it they're not saying it because they mean wow this was genuinely the best day i've ever had because if it was you wouldn't be going to sleep with someone else afterwards you just wouldn't no so you have to stay locked in on the behavior and not just the

36:58Cinzia May: chat chat chat chat but then this is where it gets tricky because he did establish he did show us oh he can put effort in he did plan a date he did go to m &s and get a blanket and like you're thinking oh right so we found that out so we found that out we're thinking right i don't know how you found this out i don't know either so number two the week in between our first and second date he went down south to a party for the weekend he went down early to stay with a girl obviously i didn't know at the time then on the night of then on the night of the party he slept with another girl on the floor of the parents living room on the picnic blanket yeah before ditching her to go and sleep on the floor of the living room fucking hell carpet burn so he's just having a sex fest at this at this party with everyone watching apparently whoa so then he sat with another girl on the floor of the party of the living room before ditching her to go and sleep with the other girl he was meant to be staying with he was texting me the whole time as well like nothing was wrong this guy is busy that's he is so busy that's like scary like you're too busy like this is a man on the loose you're like how is no like you're too too busy you're too good at like fucking manipulating a lion like that's scary you're spinning too many plates yeah how did you find this out?

38:19Cinzia May: I don't know. One of the girls must have. Yeah. When I confronted him, he assumed I was talking about something else, leading him to admit that he was going on dates that were the exact same as ours with a completely different girl. So yeah. Obviously the picnic thing, he knows the girls loves a picnic and a picky bit. God. Wow. Number four, he's also just spent last week on a boy's holiday in Portugal. She said, look, God knows what happened there. I don't know, but God guys here's the thing who is this guy oh we've got a pick thank god uh here's the thing the first two points have started circulating around so if it's not 100 true and the way he's responding to me feels so so genuine he's saying he's saying he really likes me and really like getting to know me and will tell the other girl he was seeing about me lol yeah so so so she confronted him he It was like, oh my God, yeah, I was.

39:13Cinzia May: I'll tell her about you. I was dating another girl, dating, but you were like, no, no, no. I was talking about those two girls you slept with at that party. Yeah, he's dug himself deeper. Yeah. He's exposed himself. Yeah, and he's like, oh, no, no, no, but I actually like you. Yeah, and I'm going to tell her about you. Yeah, but it's like, no, no, no, but your actions are like. Wild. Like after off, like you can't go on a date with someone and then go and sleep with another girl straight after.

39:33Sophie McCarthy: Like there's, no, there's an etiquette here.

39:37Cinzia May: So my dilemma is, how do I know that it's true? where did it come from i don't know what your source is it must be from a girl yeah it must be like it's rumblings within girls and she's like okay well i've not heard it from him like can i believe this some stuff he say so obviously he's like on the defense be like whoa whoa that's

39:56Sophie McCarthy: just like there was just that one girl like yeah and you're like oh i didn't even know about that

40:00Cinzia May: or he's probably like oh that was before you no i hadn't met you yet i hadn't taken you on a date yet when i was sleeping with her like he's obviously trying to spin it like that some stuff he says seems a bit too good to be true and i may have caught him in a lie a few times yeah get out get out like if you're catching him lies like we've been on three dates and i'm already catching you in lies scary territory that scary because your intentions right now in this beginning phase should be so pure and you know just love we've also we're both coming

40:28Sophie McCarthy: into this was clean yeah exactly this is our chance like to take what we've learned from our past relationship and apply it to this like and you're i'm catching you on what you lying to me about three dates in you there's nothing to lie about that's so scary like beyond terrifying yeah

40:42Cinzia May: um but i don't want to throw this away because i think it could be really good but this is where we have to learn like no no no actually you've shown me your literal true colors like right now like yes when i'm with you we're having a good time but this isn't the real you no it's still a crush it's still a lack of information i need to like put those two pieces together and i actually run because it's going to be even worse for me in the long run i don't want to throw this away because I think it could be really good. But also, if these things are true, I don't think I can get over that. And she said, look, rumors don't come from nowhere.

41:09Cinzia May: So it's obviously rumbling. No smoke without fire most of the time. But at the same time, we weren't exclusive, but it doesn't excuse his actions towards women. Please help me, girls. Pics attached to Brian. Sorry for the jump scare. And me, left, Susan, right. Me, left, Susan, right. P.S. Let's see, Brian. This is great. Listen. P.S. I'm moving to Australia in January. Oh. Can't wait for the yo-tree. Who needs him? Hopefully the Australian mustaches and mullets will treat me better. So we're out of here anyway. We're out of here. So we're out of here. Just get away from this guy. We've got Sarah on the left, Susan on the right.

41:41Sophie McCarthy: Gorgeous. Oh, gorgeous girls. Really cool outfits. And we've got the playboy,

41:45Cinzia May: party boy, the crazy boy, sex on the floor boy. Here. Whoa. Oh yeah, sex on the living room floor. Yeah. Dirty, dirty.

41:54Sophie McCarthy: I think the universe is showing you every single sign that you need. Yeah. And I appreciate you're confused. You're thinking it doesn't add up. We've had great dates. We've had great quality time. He said all these things. I understand how it's a lot to get your head around. And you're like, it doesn't match up. Like, I can't see him doing that. But he is. And the fact that he even outed himself with a whole other scenario that you didn't even know about. This is a busy man. This is not a man who is wanting to be monogamous right now. Find a girlfriend. Date with intention. Date seriously. He obviously just loves women.

42:32Sophie McCarthy: loves schmoozing loves a bit of the chase loves going on dates loves doing all like he just loves it he's got a very big roster and he is just a bit of a playboy he's in his playboy era and I think you are being shown that and I think it's time to get out because you know so much now it's a big big blessing imagine if you got six months down the road with this guy you would be in so deep and then you found out all of this I think it's great that you know all of this so early on because you can get out of that and you've got to be strong you've got to be disciplined because you're thinking I like him and like he seems really nice and this and that like you need to recognize like this behavior like this behavior is wild and don't even try and excuse it of like oh well we we weren't exclusive like well no you weren't but were you going around to a guy's house that that night and going to sleep with him and then the next day meeting with another guy and blah blah blah blah blah And also like that's how he's going to justify it.

43:29Cinzia May: That's how he's justifying it to himself and to you. Well, we've only been on two. Like if you're going to get into it and like, you know, really get into the nitty gritty, he's going to be on the, well, I don't even like that. We've been on two dates. Like you can't be mad. You can't be mad. You can't be mad. Like, and we're not exclusive. We're like already justifying it, justifying it, already getting in your head. Making you think, okay, I guess we weren't exclusive. I guess it's okay. Exactly. Making you be like, yeah, he is actually convincing. I guess so. I guess I could have slept with whoever I wanted to too.

43:56Cinzia May: you know like already trying to like um flip it flip it and make his behavior look normal and seem fine because yeah on technicalities I guess you can do what you want but on a human level like what you're doing is disgusting exactly and like to all the women not just to me yeah and like you're just here right now to cover your own back and like to be like oh well I really like you I like you the most yeah I like I'm meant to feel like he's saying that to everyone like just because you're choosing me you're not even choosing like you're just saying it because you're trying to get out of this you're just telling me exactly what i want to hear and you

44:28Sophie McCarthy: know what i want to hear because you're managing to convince all these other women to speak with

44:31Cinzia May: you all he wants some chat you to do is to shut up about it and move on and be like oh my god yeah okay yeah that's fine yeah so he can keep on doing what he's doing and he's thinking oh well i've got her for now for now under wraps you know until the next time yeah until he then moves on and goes to and does the same to all these other women he's disgusting he's gross i would get out of there i also think he's not intentional about wanting a relationship i think he's going to get It's very clear that he is not in his boyfriend energy right now. I think he's going to get you into some messy situation shit where he's never going to commit.

45:02Cinzia May: Yeah. But he's going to tell you every day how much he likes you. And how much he wants to be with you. And how much he wants to be with you and spend time with you. But he's not ready for a relationship. Meanwhile, he can still sleep with other people, go on these last holidays, have sex with other people. And he's still got you at home, girlfriend effect, but he's never going to commit to you. I think this is kind of like what's going to happen there if you kept going with him.

45:20Sophie McCarthy: Steer clear, Sarah. But you're not.

45:21Cinzia May: And you're going to Australia anyway.

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47:15Sophie McCarthy: quick fire dilemma yeah i think i'm in love with my boy best friend what do i do

47:21Cinzia May: well we just had a dilemma on patreon actually we did and it all went south and it all went see each other explored it but no real sexual chemistry it was awkward but maybe maybe with these things though i've never been in a situation but maybe with these things you just have to give it a go and see then it just is what it is that's life yeah because otherwise you're going to live with regrets and i think it's better risk or lose the chance i think it's better to just go for it and see what happens then regret it for the rest of your life because i

47:50Sophie McCarthy: think if you've always got that thought it's almost like it's a box that needs to be ticked i agree like you're always going to want to know so really let's just find out what's going to

47:58Cinzia May: happen at the end of the day like we've only got one life like give it a go yeah you're in love with him let him fucking know and let's just see what happens tell people how you feel i think so

48:05Sophie McCarthy: okay dilemma number two found my boyfriend's store cupboard of gifts ready to give to women oh what do you mean who's your boyfriend wow this is mental side note i actually really want to start a junk journal oh my god i love junk journals i'm on junk journal tiktok oh really yeah well

48:27Cinzia May: have you got one no no i'm actually gonna start doing one from today wow okay what are you gonna take from today then you might be sure that important i guess uh today i don't need to

48:37Sophie McCarthy: remember today yeah i love the job i find it so fascinating i actually think that will be really

48:43Cinzia May: a love because because i've tried like the writing journal like that's not for me like

48:47Sophie McCarthy: to write but to like gather things yeah i mean i have i have memory boxes i've got loads of memory boxes i've still got one my mum's still got one of mine from like teen really and i've got one now that's like it's huge it's got all sorts in it yeah but i've not got it in a journal i'm just

49:05Cinzia May: in a box i'm not so nostalgic about things yeah per se but i want to become a bit more like that anyway i'm gonna give it a go i'll order a journal tonight okay hi girls long time

49:20Sophie McCarthy: I'm going to take this bottle cap. My junk journal from today. Right. Never thought I'd have a reason to write in. I don't know whether to feel weird about this or not. I'm boiling. I started dating my new man about nine months ago. He is 11 years older than me and I met him through work. I am 33. He is 44. Okay. I am under no illusions whatsoever that he has had his time being a real ladies man whilst he was single and always been very smooth with me. okay so you know that he's enjoyed his singlehood he's widened down a lot of ladies he's 40 whatever he knows how to host he's been around the block this does not bother me as we have all had our past and who am i to judge over the last six months i feel we have become more established in our relationship i leave my belongings at his house he regularly leaves me at his house alone while he goes to work goes to the gym etc he even asks for my input on the decor of the house and has given me free reign with his garden everything has been perfect okay so we're fully in a relationship like we are one yeah it's giving what's mine is yours make yourself at home i want you to which is a nice feeling yeah at the beginning of us dating i did wonder if he was seeing other people however as things progressed i felt completely reassured that it was only me he was interested in he is also divorced and sees his two children regularly between this and his work i am more or less always with him whenever he's free i genuinely don't think he would have the time or energy to look elsewhere.

50:47Sophie McCarthy: He's getting on.

50:48Cinzia May: He's getting on, honey.

50:50Sophie McCarthy: I have never gone poking around in his private spaces, but I was looking for a hairbrush the other day, which I know he keeps in one of his drawers. I open one of the drawers. So he's got hair.

50:59Cinzia May: That's good. Ooh.

51:00Sophie McCarthy: I saw a pack. Yeah. He's got it. He's not bald yet. I saw a pack of 12 condoms inside. I look inside and find there were only 10. Now, I have never gone in this drawer before. so it's entirely possible that these were used before I was involved with him. I checked the expiry. It was October 28. I also Googled what the shelf life was on latex condoms bought in the supermarket. It said about five years. So I'm thinking... I did some little research on, you know... A little background check on the condoms latex.

51:28Cinzia May: What time the box of condoms was mass produced and, you know...

51:31Sophie McCarthy: So I'm thinking it's very likely these had been purchased way before we started dating. Yeah, yeah, yeah. I'm ashamed to say my curiosity got the better of me at this point. I looked inside the drawer further. Um... I found various items which I'm not sure how I feel about. A few pieces of women's underwear which had been ordered online, new and sealed and similar to the type of underwear he had bought me before. Okay. Right.

51:58Cinzia May: Yeah, okay.

51:59Sophie McCarthy: I also found a blank Valentine's card still in its wrapper and a gold necklace still in its packaging identical to one he bought me. Ooh. I was going to say maybe he just thought, oh Valentine's Day car I'm going to keep that but men don't think

52:15Cinzia May: like men aren't that prepared like we're in we're in September like he's not bought the Valentine's car

52:20Sophie McCarthy: they're also not on the shelves right now so yeah it was like he had a store cupboard of gifts ready to give women right I know we've only been together around nine months but I really don't know how to feel about this and whether this is just the old life of a ladies man who was always prepared to impress or whether it could be something deeper I don't want to confront him over something like this as it doesn't feel like actual evidence that he has maybe cheated i'm also aware that he was popular with the ladies and enjoyed a period of being single after his divorce six years ago what are your thoughts and do you think i should mention this or just keep an eye on things we've never had this before where

52:56Cinzia May: a man has like a little store cupboard of like like we've never had this before i have a feeling

53:00Sophie McCarthy: that maybe this is just ladies man things things from those times from those times yeah but then

53:09Cinzia May: And it does kind of.

53:10Sophie McCarthy: Underwear is kind of crazy. The only thing is it takes away from the fact that,

53:16Cinzia May: oh, I thought you went out and bought this gold necklace. All of that illusion is now gone.

53:20Sophie McCarthy: Yeah.

53:20Cinzia May: Like I thought you went out and thought of me and thought, oh, I'm going to go buy Sarah a necklace today. And I went and picked it out. When meanwhile, you had a couple. It was in the store cupboard. It was in the store cupboard that you bought six months prior to meeting me. Yeah. That you probably gave into three women. And the knickers. Like he probably was like, pink's your favorite color, my love. Here you go. And it's like, meanwhile, they were sat in this drawer, you know, when you did that order from Boo Avenue. Like, do you know what I mean?

53:43Sophie McCarthy: Yeah.

53:43Cinzia May: And it's like, that wasn't.

53:45Sophie McCarthy: I don't know if he, I don't know if I think, I don't know. I don't know if he's cheating on you. I think this is just stuff from the past, from his ladies' man, wining and dining days. But it's a shame that he's used these things for you.

53:58Cinzia May: Yes. It's a shame that it's not like, oh, but he gave me.

54:02Sophie McCarthy: Yeah. Yeah.

54:03Cinzia May: I had like different gifts. So it's like, no, I got the gold necklace that's in the drawer as well. And the knickers that are in the drawer as well.

54:10Sophie McCarthy: And when February comes around, I'm probably going to get that card.

54:12Cinzia May: What does this mean? What does this mean? Is he just like a super, like, is he like Taipei? And he's like super organized, super, like, possibly. And he's like, you know, got all his, but then it is kind of disgusting.

54:25Sophie McCarthy: That he's. It's not romantic, is it? Not romantic. It's not what you want to find.

54:29Cinzia May: And it is like, oh, you were just churning out these women. and kind of get into that, you know, you knew that they liked the gift of like undies.

54:38Sophie McCarthy: You knew about his past. You knew he had these crazy years after his divorce. Like he's a 44 year old man. Like you've both had history. Like, yes, ideally you would like to think, you know, he met you, he cleared out this drawer, it all went in the bin and you got your own things and blah, blah, blah, blah, blah. But you've kind of been forced with like, ah, that wasn't the reality. But maybe you should just keep an eye on things. You could confront him. I'd like to think he would be able to articulate himself he's 44 I'm leaning towards because it's very genuine just be like look yeah I was looking for a hairbrush I know it was in this drawer um I'm sorry but like I'm sorry maybe I was snooping a little bit but like I did find this

55:19Cinzia May: and it's made me feel a type of way like can you explain it I semi live here like yeah I can I want

55:24Sophie McCarthy: to feel I don't want to feel like there's drawers that I shouldn't touch like we're grown-ups you I basically live here too because we're in a serious relationship like there shouldn't be out of bounds

55:34Cinzia May: rooms no and i don't want you to start like kind of sitting and festering on this and then kind of like kind of affects you and how you are with him like i'd rather you just be like hey welcome home honey yeah welcome back here's a pie i made earlier yeah here's the pie apple pie yeah i was looking for a hairbrush and i found like fresh undies and a necklace you gave me in a draw what's that about i think you should ask him and i think then you will get a real gauge of like

56:04Sophie McCarthy: his explanation yes you will feel if it's genuine or not there's a chance that he can like explain this kind of all away and actually you will feel much better about it and be like okay not ideal but that kind of makes sense blah blah blah i think you would feel even though you might feel awkward bringing it up i think you would actually feel a lot better for doing you'll gain at least

56:23Cinzia May: something from his answer yeah like we're adults we should be able to communicate positive or negative like at the detriment of your relationship or not i think he needs to explain the draw it's fucking weird yeah i haven't got a drawer full of like men's boxes and ready to go gifts what am i giving men yeah cologne and being like oh here's this for you sir like like one month one man like it's weird yeah just because you know women are gonna like it's it is weird but then that could be his old life is with you yeah but i think confront him about it for sure

57:05Cinzia May: this is weird i don't like this okay as soon also this isn't sorry let me just read it as soon as it hits 9 p.m he sexed me

57:19Sophie McCarthy: oh put your willy away sir also like 9 p.m like you've missed me i'm going to bed but also like

57:24Cinzia May: ew yeah should i go on a date with him no like we've not even had sex and you're trying to like sex me you're a freak yeah you're the freak of the week freak of the week hey girls firstly love you both i've been watching since the iconic drunk night out youtube era so this feels very full circle. Thank you, Sarah. Right, on to dilemma. For context, I'm 24 and I've never had a boyfriend, never been on a date, never had any romantic experience whatsoever. Partly because I genuinely never prioritize dating at school or uni and partly because I have pretty low self-confidence. I find it hard to imagine someone actually liking me and now I'm older, the pressure around dating, relationships and sex feels so much bigger.

58:05Cinzia May: I know there's no timeline, but I can't help but feeling a little behind anyway i matched with this girl on hinge let's call him brian i've always wanted to say that oh that's really fun within a few messages he'd asked for my insta um and said he wanted to take me on a date we moved over to insta and now we've been talking for seven weeks oh god oh a little bit too long a little bit too long yeah she's like seven weeks and we still i still haven't met him yet okay let's cut it off i have a strict rule about this this is such a like annoying thing that happens very i think very because it's just like fucking pull your fucking socks up and and arrange a date you freak yeah it should be like immediate very instant and we've

58:49Sophie McCarthy: learned that every time you can get stuck in those oh oh oh wait wait wait wait this is different

58:56Cinzia May: every time he's asked me out i found an excuse so our sarah's a little nervous different yeah okay our sarah's a little anxious okay nice that he's kept coming back so i've been using excuses of work's busy weekends are busy now i'm away for four weeks all of which is true but could i have made time if i wanted to yes okay i've just been avoiding it because i'm terrified somehow he's still here okay that's something yeah that is something i actually appreciate that he's still

59:25Sophie McCarthy: here yeah actually obviously really likes you that's what it's giving anyway he's obviously

59:29Cinzia May: really interested in you. Yeah, you're having good convo. Yeah, and he obviously wants to try and make it work on me, at least. He wants to see it through. The problem is, is I can't work out if I'm genuinely interested in him or if I just like the fact that a man is giving me attention.

59:43Sophie McCarthy: Okay. Right.

59:44Cinzia May: Here are my concerns. She's noted out her concerns. Okay. Well, okay. We've got bullet points. Love this. Yeah. Number one. He sends me so many reels. I once woke up to 15. Not one made me laugh. yeah that's awful i hate yeah yeah that's also like you're bombarding me and you're stressing me but also like that makes me like stop they're not even funny stop it so now like we're not even gonna like now i'm like we're not even gonna have a laugh together because if you find that

1:00:13Sophie McCarthy: funny it's very different yeah yeah no no no okay also like be considerate send one really good one one really strong real about a private joke that we've got yeah that's like really gonna get me

1:00:24Cinzia May: yeah like don't send fucking 15 willy nearly shit fucking reels no and also yeah no no too much okay but this is where it gets concerning number two the second the sun goes down also like it's been summertime the sun is not even down at 9 p.m my sun is still very much out so

1:00:43Sophie McCarthy: blue sunshine he starts sexting and also like it's fucking mingo sexting like ew yeah yeah yeah

1:00:53Cinzia May: I've given you nothing. Like nothing. It's giving like. Like our conversation today has been about my work and like that I've been on a walk in the park and like whatever. And now you're like saying, ooh, I'm so weird.

1:01:05Sophie McCarthy: It's like, what the fuck? Yeah.

1:01:07Cinzia May: Yeah.

1:01:07Sophie McCarthy: Going in cold like that. It's just like, no, no, no. Especially. It's uncomfortable as well. It's like, oh, why are you like,

1:01:15Cinzia May: you know, we're not on that vibe right now. We've not even met. No, it's uncomfortable. Fair enough. If we'd had sex a couple of times, it's completely different. It's like. Different vibe. we had a vibe like we're sexually compatible like we both enjoyed ourselves fine like whatever but that this is weird yeah weird so the second the sun goes down he starts sexting the first time i mean i may have accidentally opened that door with a joke but i've never really entertained it since and yet every night he gives it another go sir i'm asleep by 10 30 like preach these sex i need screenshots of like what he's saying like what he thinks is like or

1:01:55Sophie McCarthy: it's like trying to make anything sexual like okay no i'm gonna go get in the shower like

1:02:00Cinzia May: like chill chill chill like i don't like it's so unattractive it's so unattractive she said oh i need fucking screenshots mate because she said these sex are something else let me tell you oh my god what is it he hasn't sent pics oh thank god oh thank god but he is rather graphic with his wording and it feels far too much it's early on it's forced like if it's

1:02:32Sophie McCarthy: natural it's natural fine like there's no shame in sexting yeah if yeah if we're giving it giving it if i'm giving it and it's like kind of like a slow climb you know we don't just go in like i I want them a little. It's like, no. She's telling you what I appetite. Yeah. I want a jacket. You're a potato. That's for sure. I want a bean inside your skin. That's for sure. I would lick beans all off you. That's for sure. I want to cheese your bean for sure.

1:03:00Sophie McCarthy: I want to cheese your bean. Yum. I'll lick your bean. That's for sure.

1:03:10Cinzia May: I'll bake beans. Yeah, bake beans. oh bait means i'll lick your bean for sure you got cheese on those beans oh i want to cheese your bait beans honey

1:03:22Cinzia May: like he's definitely saying shit like that like he definitely is like i just said i'm fucking jacking potato with beans and fucking cheese and i say you want to lick my bean you're fucking weirdo yeah you're a fucking weirdo mate get out of here

1:03:36Sophie McCarthy: get the fuck out of here stop sexualizing my jacket potato you're ruining this for me yeah it'll take your jacket off little lady yeah oh I can't always

1:03:44Cinzia May: take your jacket off yeah he's saying shit like that I know he is he's disgusting I bet it was so hot just like you how hot was your jacket potato was it steamy did it burn your mouth I bet I could if we had sex it'd be just as steamy as that I just tell you fucking weirdo mate then we could have jacket potatoes afterwards right she's saying like these are something else like something else oh my god Sarah I'm dying for a screenshot I feel sick for you I need a screenshot I know I feel sick for you so obviously he's not sent pics yet but he's really graphic with his wording and i feel it's far too much this early on yeah i fear i wouldn't be turned off if by it if we were dating or in a relationship yes so it changes it completely yeah like i've said like if we've had sex and we're on that vibe yeah fine it's different like you can cheese my bean yeah my beans ready for the cheesing you know how disgusting that is but it just feels a bit odd given like we've not met.

1:04:36Cinzia May: Yeah. It's too much. It is odd, Sarah. It is odd. It's like he has a bedtime alarm that says time to be horny. She said time to be horny. Time to sex, Sarah. Meanwhile, I'm tucked in bed with my Kindle and a cup of tea. Oh my God, Sarah, we're the same person. Okay. So that was point number two. Number three, he replies within literal seconds. Meanwhile, I'm replying 12, 15 hours later. Fucking hell. Sarah. Because I have a busy job and an actual life. I've actually got a life. Sorry, Brian. Hold up. I've got a life, sir. You haven't got a life. You're sending me 15 reels. I've actually got a life.

1:05:16Cinzia May: Yeah. It's giving unemployed. Yeah, it is giving unemployed. Is he just an amazing texter or does he genuinely have nothing else going on? So now you're thinking, do you have a job, sir? Do you have a job? Yeah. Like you're horny all the time. You're not occupied with anything else. You're on reels all the time. Yeah. Yeah. Okay, number five. Recently, he said he wasn't sure there was any point carrying on talking if we couldn't meet soon. That's a fair point.

1:05:38Sophie McCarthy: That's a fair point.

1:05:39Cinzia May: Yeah. I actually agreed. If I can't put some cheese on your beans. There's no point I keep cooking this jacket. Listen, honey. If I can't cheese your bean anytime soon, my love, I'm going to have to get out on out of here. I actually agreed and said maybe we should revisit things after summer. Secretly, I thought, perfect. This is my escape. Right, Sarah, you don't like this one. I care. Sarah. Which is fair enough. And also I do think part of like the dating process is learning to be like, I don't like you. I'm going to put myself first and cut things off and not just talk to you because I - You're here.

1:06:11Cinzia May: You're here and because you're into me. Like, oh, should I be flattered? Yeah, I guess he wants to have sex with me. Like I should be flattered by that, I guess. Like, oh yeah. Like, oh, I guess he's the only guy talking to me. I guess I should keep talking to him because there is no one else. Like that's never a reason to keep entertaining someone or keep chatting to someone, is it? it's just learning to be like oh actually i don't like you i'm actually very happy to like stop replying to you or like block you actually just because you like and seem interested in me doesn't mean i have to be interesting you yeah like i can actually be like oh actually i don't like you yeah like i'm more like oh my gosh what's this text gonna say yeah as opposed to like oh yeah he's message yeah more like yeah yikes and i do also feel when it's the right guy gotta go girl when it's the right guy you will want to meet him definitely and you'll be like actually i do want

1:06:58Sophie McCarthy: to go on that date and also like it's normal to be nervous yeah you know first date it's very normal to be nervous like oh my god okay where are we going like oh what am I gonna say like it's normal to kind of overthink things like oh my god when I walk in like what am I gonna do yeah that is all

1:07:10Cinzia May: normal feelings yeah to have because also I think you've got the x-era because look he's saying right listen so picture this I think he's trying to guilt you into I think he's trying to guilt you about well if we can't meet soon honey we're gonna have to stop talking and you're like oh okay yeah maybe we should and then he's replying so in her head she's thinking perfect this is my escape then he's replying well i don't want to stop talking to you oh my god and then she said and then we've just carried on so he's just like here and he's like go the fuck away i think you

1:07:41Sophie McCarthy: just need to block i think he's i think he's being too clingy too soon oh god wait what and finally he likes country music oh my god he wants to ride you like a cowgirl ew right right he's from the

1:07:57Cinzia May: country yeah okay yeah he wants to lay you down so he's just listen sorry he's itched you out and there's nothing wrong with that just got to get away nothing wrong but she said to be fair there are some positives too so i will read them out he's really complimentary he asks a lot of questions and actually listens. He remembers little things I've told him. He's been very clear that he likes me and he dresses well. Okay. He's got that good cowboy hat on. Can I help you today? But also, even if someone has positives, it's okay to still not like them. Yes. Even though those are good things, like attributes to have.

1:08:31Cinzia May: And on paper, it's things that you would look for. Yeah, and on paper, it's complimentary. Yeah. But he's giving you the ick and that's fine. That's absolutely fine. Like he wants to cheese your being. like that's weird yeah so she said i know i've unintentionally led him on a bit by avoiding the date instead of being honest normally i panic and ghost terrible i know but i haven't but i haven't this time because i feel like he deserves better than that so girls are these actual red flags or am i just desperately trying to find reasons not to meet him because i'm scared i've turned down every day i've ever been asked on without even thinking this is the first time i've actually considered saying yes should i finally bite the bullet and go on the date if so any advice for a terrified first date girl okay so actually maybe you do maybe want to go on the date or do you think i'm just not that into him and if that's the case how do i let him know that's it yeah i mean

1:09:21Sophie McCarthy: i do think there is a lot of you that's like he is icking you out and it's like oh like a bit too

1:09:26Cinzia May: much like not really into that i think the i think the fact that he was like oh i think we're gonna stop this you were like and then in your head you were like perfect this is my fucking escape

1:09:34Sophie McCarthy: that to me speaks volumes me too however I also do think it's not always the worst idea to go on dates with people that you're not that enamored with on text it's like oh I don't know like might be okay like I just think it would be good experience just to explore it just to go on a date and yeah it might not be great you might it might confirm like yeah actually like I'm not really feeling this someone might surprise you one time you might be like you know what I'm really fucking glad I went on that date because I wasn't going to go and now this is great like just I think not you don't have not everyone you agree to go on a date with has to be like oh my god I think this guy ticks every single box like you can just go on dates with people who it's like I don't know if this is going to lead to anything but like I'll go because I think it's good confidence boost I think it's good experience someone might surprise you and and I guess maybe like you got to put yourself out of your comfort zone sometimes like if you are wanting to meet someone and you are like Like you are going to have those nerves.

1:10:34Sophie McCarthy: You are going to feel like, oh my God, like, oh my God, I'm nervous. Like I'm thinking about this all week. What am I going to wear? What am I going to do? Like, oh my God, I've never done this before. Like those are all normal feelings to have. So I wouldn't let that put you off.

1:10:45Cinzia May: But if you're actively trying to avoid someone, that's different. But then you can look at it either way. Like I would say you do kind of know him quite well. So maybe you could go into a date and be like, do you know what? I'm actually not that scared because I have been tracked to this guy for like a long, long time.

1:11:00Sophie McCarthy: and you can kind of set it up in a way that's like even like you go for dinner for something and you could just just lie and be like it is my friend's birthday tonight so I have hey I've got to go meet her at 9 p.m but I'd love to go for dinner with you before yeah then you've got your get out card yeah so you can go into it thinking look I'm gonna be here for two hours like if I'm feeling it great let's leave it on a high I'll see you fucking tomorrow and we'll have another date or it's like right I've got two hours and I'm gonna get out of here and I'm having dinner and

1:11:28Cinzia May: that's it or we do like a like a stroll and a coffee yeah broad daylight in public so like 45 minutes yeah in and out and out i'm just gonna meet you see how it makes me feel and i'm gonna fucking say i've got the dentist at 2 p.m so i've got to go yeah and like we'll just see how we feel or yeah actually you vick me out i'm just replying to you because i feel bad um yeah it's it's all Right. And that's all. Yeah. However, maybe go on the date. I don't know. I don't think it's the worst idea to go on the date. I don't. Just to do it. Just to do it. I kind of settle your curiosity. But I feel like only you deep down know if you actually are curious about him and like him enough to be like, do you know what?

1:12:12Cinzia May: I'll meet you.

1:12:14Sophie McCarthy: I think you're like, get away from me. You've got to cut him off for good or you've got to go on a date. There's no more texting now for weeks on end. And I also think - Let's make a decision.

1:12:22Cinzia May: If you don't want to meet him, very easy to cut him off. I think we send him a message. Hey, Brian, look, I've really enjoyed chatting to you for these seven weeks. You're a really great guy. However, I'm just not ready for a relationship and I don't think you're that guy for me. Lovely well wishes. Have a great winter. Merry Christmas.

1:12:37Sophie McCarthy: I don't think we have a romantic connection. Send it. Happy New Year.

1:12:40Cinzia May: Let him reply, then block him. That's it. That's it. It is easy. Block him on Instagram, block him on his number. That's it. He's gone. He'll never contact you again.

1:12:48Sophie McCarthy: Yeah.

1:12:48Cinzia May: And it is easy to just let him know, look I just don't actually see a future with you happy holidays bye yeah and then we can get out of that easy we don't have to like guilt reply every time yes you know yeah so whichever one feels best to you if you feel like you know what actually yeah girls you know what I'm gonna go meet him see how I feel whatever it's not that deep is it like let's just go see this horny boy and whatever or actually jagged potato and his jagged potato and his bean or we just but you know what no I've just been replying because I've been bored and I feel guilty I'm just gonna let

1:13:19Sophie McCarthy: you know i'm not into you goodbye bye let us know what you decide to do sarah please and good luck yeah bonne chance to that okay it's time for our star of the week yeah absolutely hi girls love love love the pod i was hoping you could give star of the week to my boyfriend josh josh you are he is a fireman and has been working endlessly with his other colleagues all summer due to the wildfires that have been going on massive shout out to all the fire service shout out not only as he's such a hard worker but the best boyfriend I could ask for. We've recently moved in together. He cooks, cleans, has become a stepdad to my cavapoo, Maple.

1:13:57Sophie McCarthy: That's so great. Maple is nice.

1:13:59Cinzia May: I love Maple. You should steal that if you look at another dog. I like Maple and Muffin. That is so fucking cute.

1:14:03Sophie McCarthy: And looks after her while I'm at work. He also just booked me a spa day next week because work was getting stressful. Love you, Josh. Many thanks, Ruby. Kisses, Joshua. Josh and Ruby. Thank you, Josh, for being a great firefighter and a great boy to our girl Ruby.

1:14:20Cinzia May: A great boy to our lady like Ruby.

1:14:22Sophie McCarthy: Well, thank you so much everyone for listening. If you have a dilemma or a star of the week entry, you can email hello at thegirlsbathroom.com. Absolutely.

1:14:29Cinzia May: You can follow us on YouTube and TikTok. And Instagram, thank you. We love you. See you next week. Love ya. Bye.

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