Boy Talk: He said he was a SPY?!!!

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1:54Well a Merry Christmas to all and to all a good morning Yeah good morning or a good afternoon or a good evening Well we're in our PJs We are, we thought we would do a cosy Christmas sleepover Oh my god, just Just shot myself in the neck She just knocked herself in the neck with the mic Literally we are both in our dressing room I'm so comfy we thought we would just do you know cosy Christmas evening you know we're logging off for work soon aren't we you know the world's winding down so we thought we would just do a cosy sleepover Christmas episode got a week until Christmas Eve can't believe it I feel like it's really come around quick this year I don't know if it was our Christmas show or what it was but it just seemed to be like boom it's Christmas already well yeah because we were dressed up as soon as it hit November I was like right it's Christmas because we were dressed up for Christmas in August September oh in our Christmas poster outfits and we were playing Christmas tunes and we were thinking about sleighs and Christmas trees and pom poms and Michael yeah it's come around very quick but I'm excited really can't wait oh god friggin my throat what are you having for your Christmas dinner this year have you thought about it yeah best get to the shops well I would like my favourite kind like obviously the veggies of the world fish you can't do that with gravy that's a sin who's having fish on christmas day that's a sin surely not but some like pub serve fish like that and then i will never forget i had this like like it was like a curry tart but i didn't want that with gravy like i love curry i liked the entity of the curry tart but not with not with your christmas and the gravy you know it doesn't quite work but if i was to choose so you eat the chickens now i do yes not fair so you eat turkey it's the same yeah same thing really um i like a wellington i like a fake meat entity with a bit of pastry i mean i've said it before and i'll say it again the corn roast that you get in tesco that you get in tesco is phenomenal it's like proper fake meat yes but like it's delicious I would smash the whole thing.

4:07It is so good. I never had it. You need to have, I've said it every year. I would still opt for it now. But then it's a whole hunk of, no spillages. Oh, it's okay, Ben. The new set almost just got destroyed. That serves me right. Don't put your drinks on the ledge of your city. Okay. There's literally not even one drop. There's not even one spat. That woke us up, didn't it, Bloops? Oh my God, sorry. sorry my bad heart rate going i'm being real i've had a really clumsy day yeah you've had a real clumsy you know it's coming to the end of the year we're all tired i am all out of sorts i actually am so i'm literally i mean imagine we've got three kids to shop for at christmas that we're going to be out of sorts then i am not ready for children and i'm telling you that now yes and this is a reminder i am not ready for a real human child like i actually saw a tiktok this morning it was like shout out to all the single dog moms i was like shut out shut out like actually i was like it's actually more than you realize it's gonna be but of course love my baby but like imagine a real child at least like she's i don't have to teach her to talk yeah i don't have to teach her to walk or like you know i don't have to bathe her every night i don't have to put her to sleep you have to put her on your nipple you know like she yeah like she bought she was born walking you didn't have to grow her inside you yeah my body didn't have to go through stuff you know shout out like i can leave her on her own she's only five you can't leave a five month old baby on her own to go pilates in the morning you absolutely can't and i've been thinking about all of that a lot it's got you in the mood it has not got you in the mood it's got you out of the mood yes yeah not that i even have a partner to procreate with blueberry's not got a daddy yet she will have a daddy one you'll have a daddy one day right now ben's her dad who's her dad Ben's her dad yeah Ben's her father she sees him twice a week no actually she does have a dad of sorts dog sitter's boyfriend yeah shout out shout out where were we going so yeah I'd like a Wellington this Christmas yes but really like I would just opt for three Yorkshire's and loads of potatoes I'm there for the Yorkshire's I'm there for the stuffing yeah oh my god of course I'm there for the cauliflower cheese I'm logging off like that's what I'm there for that's what I'm sitting down at that table for if I could choose I'd have potato dauphinoise oh Christmas mash nice and roasties I have to have mash and roast it has to be too see we don't get that every year sometimes mum's like no we don't need mash I'm like just put the microwave we'll mash in like we need it oh you've got to have both like I'm a vegetarian you guys have got all this meat yes you've got hunks of meat pigs in blankets pigs in blankets exactly we're missing out on that yeah oh I can't wait to eat me too because I've not had a roast dinner in months and months I've had a couple so you have not but I am really looking forward to that Christmas steak extravaganza because you know it starts at breakfast it's chocolate at breakfast you know it starts early in the day I eat like a crazy maniac you've never seen anything like it you've never seen anything like it from myself yeah well have a great time I'm actually really excited for food yeah me too sausages the Richmond veggie sausages are my favourite agreed you could have a chicken sausage though i guess yeah i had some chicken sausages at the weekend yeah really quite pleasant but i think i'll go richmond i think i'll go richmond veg for christmas day nice oh yeah of course we can just have a couple of sausages yeah that's all it needs so welcome back everyone we hope absolutely everyone's getting winding down a little bit getting ready for the christmas week today question of the week is what is the weirdest thing you believed as a child all sorts all sorts such as i believed that my house was going to flood every time it rained you did yeah you did i thought um a kidnapper was going to come and kidnap me and all the children like every week it's giving uh what's the man with the with the pie piper it's actually a really scary rhyme when you think no not the man in the van yeah the man who loved the kids with the sweets with the with the tune the pie piper like that's a really spooky fairy tale when you think about it i don't know who was the man with the van with the sweets that was just what our parents warned us about if anyone that's a real that was a real thing that that that was a film the man with the van chitty chitty bang who's the guy with the flute who's the guy with the flute the pie piper what is that a tune i don't know who the pie piper is you do it's like a story rhyme right someone played a piper and like led all the children out the village and did he have sweets in his van i feel like that's the same guy we're chatting i'm gonna have to google i'm gonna have to google it but who is the scary man with the sweets and he'd lure the children the child catcher who the hell's that yes and what film was he in right chitty chitty bang bang who said chitty chitty bang bang have you seen Chitty?

9:18I have yeah not in a long time I liked that not in a long time I spoke about this before where's the scariest film I ever watched was The Railway Children and my mum would put that on all the time for me and it was very scary it was very sad their mother died and like we had to watch that we watched it all the time what the hell was Angie putting on your TV? did you never watch The Railway Children? I think she watched it when she was a child it was very sad Their parents died and they'd play on the railway tracks. Oh my God, that's not safe. It was a happy ending, I think, but it was really sad.

9:51You felt really sad for the children. And I watch that all the time. Oh my God, no wonder you've turned out the way you are. Watch it. I almost spilled it on my lobe. I knew you had a fear of trains. Oh yeah. He was hired to rid the town of rats. so he would play his tune and all the rats would come out the drain pipes and leave but then the children started to follow him so he led all the children out the town yeah that is not good yeah based on true story don't think so oh blueberry would be lord by the by the song as well i know he would take everyone yeah so that believe that as a child yeah what else did i believe um a lot of awful stuff cheese gave you nightmares you used to yeah yeah oh yeah oh um after eating you can't get in the pool yeah yeah you have to wait an hour before you can swim oh get alive i'm diving in what's gonna happen you can let your food digest what's gonna happen to me you can't get in the pool for an hour because you just had lunch oh i'm going i used to hate putting on sun cream but you oh i would cry but one thing that i love to do on holiday all over me like Like I'd be screaming.

11:05When it got to like midday, it was like, oh, we can put our t-shirts on. We would go in the pool with t-shirts on. Oh, that's cool. See, I didn't want to do that. Oh, I really wanted to do that. I was like, I'm not putting that on. Yeah, I really wanted to do that. But like, oh, she'll come up with more sun cream, more sun cream, more sun cream. Like, get off me. I don't want more sun cream on. Like, I'm white. It's because it would be so thick. I know. And they wouldn't even rub it in properly. Well, back in the day, yeah. I'd be like, oh, it's in my eyes. And then my mum thought she'd hacked the system.

11:31She started buying P20. Do you remember P20? All the invisible stuff. Yeah, it was like, you only have to apply this once a day. You never have to reapply it. She got scammed. And she'd buy it when it was on sale, thinking, oh yeah, P20, P20. And you all ended up burnt. Well, yeah. Burnt to crispin the Italians on. I think she was, yeah. Oh dear. Look at me, I'm so pale. You would not think I got Italian blood in me. So what's the weirdest thing you believed as a child? New Zealand was a small town in England

12:02I mean I still kind of low-key think this to this day Eating watermelon seeds meant a watermelon would grow inside you I still would believe that Having the windows on the highway was illegal I used to think that too Oh yeah and having the light on in the back of the car We spoke about that a few weeks ago My older sister told me that if I ate almonds my boobs would grow Oh nice nice that you weren't allowed to marry someone with the same last name as you i fear that that's probably correct is it not well as long as we're not blood related like there's probably another tuxpin out there that's probably true true well yeah you can't marry your brother sophia people with brown window frames were rich oh what's a brown window frame just a brown frame i guess it's giving wood if you swallow gum it would stick to your heart i still think that's true to this day it takes seven years as i just too doesn't it yeah but it wouldn't go through into the bit where your heart is and the world was going to end in 2010 yeah i think we all believed that for a period of time didn't we remember i remember it well do you remember those really scary emails you would get sometimes oh forward this don't forward this yes you're gonna die yes i do remember that and i remember it was someone who was our friend and their older sister sent us an email i don't think i got that i get that on tiktok sometimes though i do you scary TikTok's like that if you don't interact with that yeah I remember those emails you could only eat one bag of crisps a day that sounds like an Angie lie I thought that too that sounds like an Angie lie only have one bag a day yeah that was true the babies came out of your belly button yeah yeah yeah I never thought that I just thought it just happened yeah I never thought they came out the team pregnancies like what if it's me like because it was just like oh you didn't realise you had to have sex to get pregnant what what my god like how 16 and pregnant like MTV I'm coming for you brown cows made chocolate milk oh yeah that my grandma's real name was grandma yeah oh yeah yeah that's a nice one yeah that the olden days were actually black and white like the tv yes I think I probably thought that too Yeah, because it's a hard concept.

14:17It is a hard concept. That teachers lived at school. Yeah. I used to think that too. Oh yeah, because it's like, you don't have a life outside of this. That gammon came from crocodiles. Oh my. Niche. What is gammon? Ham. Ham. Yeah. Mice lived in traffic lights and controlled them. Like Ratatouille. Oh, that's cute. Actors really died when they did in the movies. well yeah we thought trapped that show i thought we thought those kids were never getting out i thought what parents have let their kids go on this show i know i'll be like mom just send them off don't ever let me go on i know let's just be trapped these poor children be someone listening that was on trap so that's like all dick and dom dick and dom in the bungalow we applied to be on like who were the kids did you apply with me and lydia to be on that i don't think so no what when we're at school because remember me and lydia replied and then we got a few other people did you yeah the ring leaders yeah you must have been we must have put you down right okay no come on we must remember it wasn't really my favorite show really i remember thinking about i remember you guys talking about it oh really yeah i think i was like he wants to go on that maybe it wasn't your thing yeah my brother would watch that i'd be like oh that's a boy show like why do you want to go on that see that was on saturday mornings i believe tracy beaker for me Yeah, I mean, of course.

15:42Always. Always. Tracy Beaker, Horrid Henry. Yeah, sometimes. Yeah, I had one time when I came home. Fairly Odd Parents. Oh, yeah, yeah, yeah. Well, they're the aliens. Who was the aliens? No, that was My Parents Were Aliens. My parents were aliens. Loved that show. What else did I like?

16:02I like... Ka-ching. Loved Ka-ching. Ka-ching. What else did I like? But what was the one when we came home? Tracy Beaker when we came home, 4 o 'clock. What was The Vampire Lady? Okay. there was that vampire oh my god mona the vampire love mona the vampire i mean she wasn't my favorite because i found a bit scary oh i loved mona the vampire yeah she's an icon who else was there who else was oh arthur loved arthur yeah dw hey oh yeah that was good and then obviously i graduated to watching deal or no deal obviously when we outgrew cbbc for year six deal or no deal yeah we really i would come home i'd watch countdown with mom and watch deal or no deal that was my evenings i think i was still watching like five yeah i get that we were having dinner about five i mean yeah me me too so maybe it was about four yeah half four yeah deal or no deal though wow you love that show i still never really got the concept of deal or no deal oh how do i i mean i'm not watching yes i don't really understand what happens so they all have a box i know that and they do the number they yeah it's all i don't i don't understand it's all a gamble okay there's a banker no not for me right yeah that was that's not for me i feel like that not too fussed about countdown it's a bit serious oh I quite enjoy Countdown.

17:30Yeah. Because it'd be like. Tell you what I do really like. The show that's on at night sometimes. The same host as The Chase. What's he called? And it's that like you have to say what you see. So it will be like a catchphrase. Oh. Nice. I love catchphrase. I'm also very good at catchphrase. Nice. You should apply. Yeah, maybe I will actually. Like we only have one life. Yeah. Let's go on a game show. Yeah. Because I watched a game show at home at the weekend with Alan Carr. It must have been old or maybe it wasn't old. And it was a picture game. It was similar to Catchphrase, but not quite. And I was like, I might apply for this.

18:11I should apply. Like who's getting, how many people are applying for these game shows? I mean. I feel like it's slim pickings. Sophia, there's a lot of people who watch these shows. There's a lot of people. I thought this was so niche. They must only get like 10 applicants. Yeah. I think we'll probably get thousands and thousands Do you? Yeah We should at least go and watch one live Like deal or no deal Like I'd like to watch Catchphrase live Yeah Because they need a live audience That'd be fun Yeah I just wish back I'd love to have gone to the X Factor final Matt Cardo You know like 1D, Matt Cardo Yeah, Leona Lewis, Alexander I mean Beyonce was on the X Factor Yes, yes That would have been a year to go, wouldn't it?

18:52Yeah, well One can only hope One can only hope Right, let's dive into the inbox.

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19:31On this fine festive morning. Key word is festive, of course, always. We've got a Sarah here who says, my boyfriend told me that he was a spy. Do you remember the boy when... But isn't rule number one of being a spy, you don't say you're a spy. Yeah. Unless you're a private investigator, but that's, I'm picturing MI5. Do you remember the boy we went to school with that told us he was a spy? No. Who? Oh, what was his name? Who was? And he would always be like, I've got to go. What? What? Who? What, in primary school? And then he would say, no secondary school. And he would put little like notes in his pen.

20:14Like he would have, he had this pen. Who? Wait, who? And oh, what was his name? Like, like Nikolai or something like that? Nikolai oh wait Nikolai he was in my form I think okay he said he was an extra in Harry Potter he said that he was the voice of Donkey and Shrek and he said that he was a spy and um but he was giving Tracy Beaker yeah he was locked into his character like we'd be at school I like he would be in some of my classes and he'd be like shit and then he'd like talk to his like wrist and he was very quick and he'd always be like writing down loads of numbers like and he was he'd be like i've got to go like i'm being called yes he was really into his role play so apparently he was a spy cool yeah so you knew of a spy yeah i knew of a spy too so well sarah here's her boyfriend's apparently a spy hi girls i'm a huge They've obviously not watched Mr.

21:15and Mrs. Smith because neither of them knew they were spies. Of course. And that is rule 101. Yeah. Yeah. Like you have to sign something, no? Yeah, like you could be a spy. This could be your front. Yeah, that's why I'm so busy all the time. That's why we can never get a hold of her. Yeah, exactly. Exactly. I'm busy. She's busy on spy work. Fan of the pod, always thought to myself, surely nothing mad enough has ever happened to me to end up on the podcast. well god now your boyfriend's a spy how time changes she said buckle up so i guess there are actually spies out in the world like it's a real job we drive past mi5 that's so true it's near us and i every time we drive past i do look at it and think fucking hell i do think like i also think like what is it must be a secret entrance because i'm just you're clocking surely who goes in well yeah i don't think it's good that i know where this mi5 this me neither it's on the map it's literally pinpointed yeah like i thought it'd be a secret like i thought it'd be like an asda or something do we think it's just like a front well yeah because i'm assuming surely not surely not they're not going to advertise the headquarters like well exactly that's something like it should be like in the back of an asda or a fake out you know something fake fake library yeah but i guess it goes underground underground underground ground you know I wonder if we can get a tour like I'd love that I wonder how you apply for a job yeah like can you get an internship yeah you know I'm here for work experience you know I would love to be a spy I'm thinking maybe we start working in security we're a security guard private security you know you start working to do karate lessons maybe it's just a little bit of you know word of mouth about how we get into MI5.

23:06Could drive a helicopter, you know, all these things. All these things, yeah. I'm going to make my kids spies. That's my new ambition for them. But you won't know if they're a spy. Of course. They couldn't tell you. I can keep a secret. They won't tell you. They'll say, Mom, you can't tell your mom. So I live in Manchester with my friend, happily single, although I do occasionally dabble on Hinge. at the start of the year I matched with this guy Brian we moved over to Instagram chatted for a bit then it fizzled out nothing unusual for me so spies have Instagram accounts and also spies are in Manchester yeah whoa I would but then they have to be an unsuspecting human like they have to be a regular guy they walk among us or woman absolutely

23:56I'm actually I find it hard to connect online fast forward six months I'd actually planned a date with someone else someone I went to college with but cancelled because honestly he gave me the ick I decided to have a chilled night in instead and literally an hour later I get a message from Brian out of the blue date tonight he's a spy he's got access to all CCTV he's probably got access to your phone oh my god Sophia is so right he knew that you got cancelled on so he thought boom I'm in there And if you're in one of those Manchester towers, anyone can see him. Anyone can see him. He can see you.

24:34He's got his binoculars. He's got his night vision. He can see you crying. He'll be in the car park. He'll have x-rays, all sorts. Oh my God. He'll have tapped into your phone lines. Sevilla is so right. He's good looking. I was already in the mood to go on a date. So I thought, you know what? Why not? This is actually lovely. Yeah. And let's face it, he can get a table anywhere because he's a spy. Of course. Because he can just hack the system. He can hack the system. Yeah. He picked a time and a place and off I went. I wonder what spies eat. Yeah. And I wonder if they're allowed to drink. I was going to say, are they allowed to let loose?

25:06You know? No, because he's always on the clock. He could get a pager any time. Yeah, that's true. He must know all the tunnels. He must. You know, to get through. The back alleys. Yeah, the back doors, the back tunnels. He must know people in high places. Absolutely. Okay, so he picked a time and a place and off I went. Nice. First impressions, not great. He was very drunk. Now, whoa. It's not giving spy behavior. No, but it's his night off. It was his night off and he thought, you know what? But still, like, your guard's got to be on at all times. Like, I'm a spy. I know, but maybe he's like, guys, like, I'm off tonight.

25:43Maybe I had a busy week. Because, you know, spies do need a break too. They're true, true, true, true. I wonder if anyone who's listening is a spy. Definitely. Sarah, I know where you are. Okay, and I know that you're here. Thank you for protecting us. Email us if you are a spy. We'll keep you anonymous. They'll already have anonymous emails. Or like if someone's, you know, married to a spy. Spy lovers. Who's the leader of the spies? Is it King Charles? I mean, I guess King... Or it's the Queen beyond the grave. I guess King Charles will know who the spies are. Not necessarily. The top, top spies, yeah.

26:21Top, top spies, yeah. But not like... I want to be a spy. Not like a little Manchester spy. No. They're not going to know King Charles. No. I guess not. Yeah. William might. William might be in. Yeah. He looks like that type. Okay. So he's drunk. So I'm assuming you've kind of got there and he's already drunk. Yeah. It's not giving spy behaviour. No. Off the bat. It's not. But it is kind of gearing up for a good lie because he's drunk. I'm a spy, of course, and he's drunk. Oh, so you're saying he's not actually a spy. Well, yes. because like I've said before rule number one of spies you don't tell anyone you're a spy especially not yeah you don't advertise on your hinge profile do you no so apparently he and his workmates had taken it half day to drink in the sun because of a heat wave so him and the other spies a heat wave in December whoa where are they working yeah where are these guys well in Manchester this probably was from summer guys got a different climate down there okay so we're doing our work for the morning spot you know we've solved the spy the case the case cracked the case and they've thought let's have some drinks okay okay i thought i'd stay for an hour max but his friends joined us one of them bought a girl fellow ozians fellow ozians like they must talk in code one of them bought a girl who i really got on with and somehow i ended up staying nice he had sobered up a little bit and we actually had a great time in the end okay great nice the next day he texted um asking if he could come by to say hi my lord okay he said he wanted to see me sober because he really liked me despite his chaotic first impression you know two days off work then and in spyville well but the spy is self-employed you know you know he's oh yeah this is undercover life you know he's yeah it's a regular hours you know what it could be there's a case going on in your building he's trying to get the end oh my god yeah yeah he could be using you yeah careful maybe like you know there's something yeah going on at number 59 we've got a brunette female living on floor five appears to be single i'm going in yeah oh i actually follow her on instagram going in entering today zone one and then he goes into how did it go i was like yeah pretty successful date mom yeah we had a few drinks and um we had a professional kiss of course you know nothing you know obviously keeping it tomorrow i'll be going in the building yeah yeah and she'll be saying keep us posted yes mom keep pressing we need the info keep pressing keep pressing on this is what it's giving though isn't it this is giving that like yeah this is giving that there's like a drug cartel operating yes above you yes and he's like you know when he leaves i fear that he's going down the elevator shaft and like unlocking shit yeah because like he's trying to like spend the night with you so that you leave in the morning for work he's in your flat alone yeah like he can start drilling yeah sniffing around he can start planting yeah yeah blowing up doors yes you know i mean i'm We're pitching it all now.

29:44Yeah, we've seen MI5. What was the show that we would watch on CBBC, the spy show? Spy Kids. But there was another one, MI High. M-I - High. And they were trainee spies. That's what Nikolai thought he was. Oh, iconic. Right, okay, so we're locking in. So he wants to come round. Well, yeah, he's got a case to do. He's got a job to do, Sarah. He literally has to lock in. You're a means to an end. We had a lovely evening. Oh, so we did pop round. then went for a coffee before work that friday and from there we just kept seeing each other yeah he's working hard and honestly he seemed perfect great communication always calling full of compliments planning thoughtful date nights insisting on paying he's got that spy money well it's the work card of course it's a work expense

30:43i should hope he is paying for it it's a work expense once once i mentioned i was craving mns cookies and he would he had delivered some to my flat he eat oh sarah i fear you're at the center of a big case here that you don't even know listen to this this is so spy no listen to this no actually listen to this this is he's a spy he even ended up in a and e one night with chest pains oh listen and i stayed with him for hours even though he had a flight to marrakech in the morning this is so spy a flight to marrakech yeah yeah so james bond cruise it's giving james bond for sure there are mission impossible here we go oh oh my god there are a few odd things like when he said we we were going to his family home but the address didn't match where he'd said he lived he pretended it was a posher area weird but i brushed it off because he was so lovely okay so address lies spy lies because he maybe can't write you know if people are looking for him he can't be writing down all his addresses no absolutely not um well you know we're really blurring the lines here between professional and business he also told me that his brother had died and that he had a heart condition.

32:02Maybe his brother was a spy. But these were things which just made me care for him. Yeah, spy rule number one. Get the subject to care for you and fall in love with you. Number one. Get them attached. Right. Yeah. One night, I bumped. Oh my God. This is actually, no, this is scary now. What? One night, I bumped into one of his work friends who drunkenly told me to be careful. Why are all the spies drunk? What's going on? I thought he was just being weird. Listen, maybe he's not a spy. Maybe he's a drug lord. We've not considered that. I thought the subject line was that he was a spy. It is. Okay.

32:44Well, let's keep reading. Be careful. I guess the friend is a fellow spy and he's saying, look, watch out. Watch out. Yeah. Watch out. I can't tell you why. I can't tell you how. Just watch out. Just watch out. You know, I like you. Yeah, I like you. I care for you. Watch out. After two weeks, Brian asked me to be his girlfriend. I said no because it was too soon very soon didn't mean two weeks but we kept seeing each other a couple of months later he asked again this time I said yes that night whoa that night he said I need to tell you something I'm a spy oh my god the names bond oh my god wait what he said I'm a spy after two weeks you can't be telling this should be he's falling in love after 20 years You should be telling me I'm a spy.

33:31Well, maybe in this spy firm, you're allowed to tell your spouse, your partner. I would think you have to be married. Well, yeah, me too. I think he's breaking spy code there. I really do. Me too. I mean, me too. That's not acceptable. You know, if I was his boss, I'd be saying, you listen, two weeks. Wait, we actually have loads. So how did she react? So apparently the accountancy, which I also found out was a job in payroll, was just a cover. He'd been scouted after uni and did top secret missions, which included going abroad to Marrakesh. Exactly. I laughed it off. But the next day he sent me a photo of him holding a weapon saying, can't believe you still don't believe me.

34:24I should have ran then This is getting a bit dark Things carried on fairly normal for a bit What? I mean, fairly normal? You just found out he's a spy Until one evening, he said Surely he's always gone Surely But he seems to be around Maybe he's off the clock at the moment Yeah Things carried on fairly normal for a bit Until one evening, he said he wasn't feeling well and was just going to stay at home. All fine. Until my flatmate texted saying she'd just seen him drinking in the pub. When I confronted him, he said he was embarrassed because his doctor told him not to drink due to his heart condition.

35:05And he confessed that he had a drinking problem. Oh, this is getting a bit dark. Spies. He's stressed. He's stressed. He's got a very stressful job solving stressful things. Solving crimes. You know, stressful cases and he needs an outlet and unfortunately he's turned to alcohol and it's gotten a bit out of hand. I told him I need space. He said he'd be in Ukraine for work because it's an ally, whatever that means. He shouldn't be telling you this intel on what he's working with and where he's going. I feel like this is confidential information. I agree. Because now we know and now everyone knows.

35:42I know. Then Saturday night, I'm a bit... I know, are we going to get involved here in the spy world? Maybe. Maybe. then saturday night came and he started bombarding me with weird frantic messages he said he needed to tell me a secret after ages of back and forth he finally admitted he was married and had a child in prague this sorry this can't be real this can't be real i didn't know you three weeks ago what are you on about you've got a child in prague what's happening whoa he's got he's married and has a child in Prague. Oh god. But he has a place in Manchester. I told him he was a freak for never telling me and it was over.

36:26But he then turned up at my flat anyway demanding to talk. We spoke in the corridor and he spiralled. He said he got a girl pregnant and her family forced him to marry her. Convenient lie. The child's name was Sally. He wouldn't show me pictures but his phone lock screen was a photo of the supposed wife he said his parents didn't know and he still said he loved me i told him to leave and we never spoke again later he sent me a screenshot proving that a week before asking me to be his girlfriend he hadn't been on a work trip to prague he'd been with her he even sent me a photo from their hotel room the same one he'd facetimed me from then it got weirder what Sarah how can we get weirder than this he said he was going to send the government he said he was going to send the government after my flatmate because she'd started everything by bumping into him at the pub he admitted everything was a lie and he didn't have a brother who had a heart condition or a flat in town oh you'd never been to his flat wait what did you mean your friend started it all what's happening here i'm so confused oh oh and he said that that that weapon it was a replica so he's not a spy so he's just a freak so he's just a cheetah

37:53right so yeah the model of the story is wait that's the end i was waiting for the big finale moment but he said he was going to get the government on your flatmate yeah because she started maybe he is a spy it's giving like penultimate episodes you know oh it's all to do with the flatmate of course like it's giving like the bows about to be tied here whoa so yeah moral of the story is if a man tells you he's a spy he's probably just a pathological liar with an ego problem also found out the wife and child were a lie nope i have no idea why he did any of this be careful of love bombing girls and spies images attached whoa whoa whoa this is our spy we've got three pictures I'm scared so what I've gathered is this this man just wanted to lie yeah what have you gathered because I've not gathered much he just love bombed our Sarah here with the M &S cookies the compliments with the nice dates and then you know he was like oh let's spice things up I'm a spy probably thought you'd find that attractive got scouted after school and then he just kept lying about weird things and did he break up with us she broke up with him she broke up with him because he said I need to tell you a secret I've got a wife and child I've got a wife and children in Prague this is him unsuspecting oh my god wait really unsuspecting right you look like you'll find him in Albert Schloss you do Or fruit.

39:31Yeah, fruit. Yes, nice. Oh dear. Or an Ezra and Gil on a Sunday. Well, be careful, Manchester girls of a spy. This is our beautiful Sarah. You didn't deserve any of that. Sarah looks gorgeous. At least it only... At least it was quick. But how could you even... But yeah, love bombing is a different kind of breed, isn't it? That is just lies after lies. To what end though? Like for what? Crazy. Freak. seriously be careful of the spies out there guys be careful well yeah stay away from spies like i've said a million times they're a spy rule number one of spy is you don't say you're a spy this message is brought to you by today's sponsor walden university set a course for change now is the time to make a real change in your life career and community at walden university we give you the support and flexibility to get the W.

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42:16okay right we're leaving the spies behind and we're going to the newlyweds nice well we would think gonna grab my coat newly married and he goes on a boy's honeymoon moon i've never heard that that was a thing so that's almost giving stag do after the after the post-wedding blowout yeah now i'll keep it simple and straight to the point me and my fiance are getting married october next year okay okay mind you he has not helped at all wedding planning my dilemma the week do you want to marry this guy you've still got like you've got this lazy guy you could have a spy instead yeah my spy jet setter yeah quite attractive really the week after the wedding he is going on a boy's golf trip golf are you serious i expressed multiple times i feel his mates come first and mind you he is always traveling for work and he is always free to do anything he wants i never put limits or strains but a boy's trip the week after the wedding you think you are with your new spouse enjoying you know the honeymoon like what's going on i am gutted and i can't stop thinking about it i spoke to him and he sort of understood but also brushed it off saying it's not a big deal type thing and he already paid the deposit am i being unreasonable for being mad at my partner it's put me off so much that i'm considering does he actually want to get married or tick this off the list like all his mates thanks girl sending love from oz yeah i think this is out of order it's giving super laid-back australian boy who's thinking oh but it's but also it's just disrespect and like no consideration and it's like it's not giving honeymoon excited newlyweds let's go and celebrate our love.

44:20So we're starting off, so he's always going away and you feel like he already puts the boys before you. That to me is - This is the cherry on top. That in itself is like, no, no, no. It's also just giving like immature, because I'm imagining what's happening here is like the boys have booked a golf trip. It's the week after your wedding and he's thought, oh, I can't miss out. Like, I can't miss out. I have to go. He's giving like immature FOMO, like isn't ready to like to be like oh boys i can't make it i'm gonna have to miss out like i'm getting married like oh like i'm getting married yeah it's the week after my wedding like oh like really like young immature boy who can't say no to a boy's trip i love my boyfriend so much and i can't miss out on anything and yeah you know i have to be there i would not be allowing this from your new husband sarah i'd be like if you want if you still want to get married you ain't going on this but also like i don't care about a deposit and also him like kind of not understanding and just kind of palming off like oh it's fine like it's not giving like oh i oh yes well i can't wait to sign up for a lifetime with you of love and understanding and consideration it's not giving newlywed energy no and like you say maybe he is like you should think about this because yeah maybe he is like you know just trying to tick this you know if all of his friends are married maybe he is thinking oh i should tick that off the list like is that what she said yeah oh the wedding is just a tick boxer yeah that's what she said at the end like is he just wanting to take it off of his list maybe all of his friends are married and he's thinking oh i should probably get married like i need to see a bit more commitment a bit more excitement a bit more enthusiasm of like i want to spend our lives together yeah it's giving like oh you only get to be newlyweds once you know like it's a very small bubble like that doesn't last that's not gonna last that long like just miss out go next time i think it's really shit and i think he's not even helping with the wedding like he's he is giving like oh lazy boy matt's got married sorry that was meant to be australian married scottish what's australian married married there we go so we get the met's got married scott married new zealand actually it's given you know i should actually yeah just propose propose and it's giving like oh yeah well i've been with sarah for three years yeah it'll be fine you know let me make her happy and join all the boy all my boyfriends on this yeah i like just marry you just say no i'd say no it's not happening i don't think he said i don't think he sounds like someone who should be marrying to if i would have a think about that yeah do you want a boyfriend who's putting the boys before you because you know what it's giving someone who's not even hearing you when you're trying to like present like this is not okay you're gonna give birth he's gonna be off on a lad's holiday well yeah i saw this horrifying that's what this is yesterday and it was this guy being like it was horrifying and so disgusting and he was like um when you were being giving birth it was disgusting like i was almost sick like you were horrifying me like um couldn't believe what i was seeing and the smell like it fucking stunk like he was saying all this horrible stuff like his child was being born and she was like well why did you knock me up a second time then la la la and this guy was being so horrible no that's really hard it just really upset me because i thought some of these guys are like that and they won't leave me in the delivery room or they're just nasty not supportive ones who are like playing their video games and watching tv like in the delivery room and i just thought no and this is what this guy's giving unfortunately and i don't like that at all yeah that's like he's already giving us red flags of i would just have a thing i would think about your relationship as a whole this is not a great sign no it's not it's not a green flag is it that you want to like get whisked off after the wedding so I would just talk to him about it and be like look like do you see this from my perspective like you I feel like like you don't really want to be there for our newlywed moment like you're just going off with the boys like you kind of leave me on my own like the week after we've got married it's not really how I want to like start our married life I would really try and have a bit more of a serious not not let him brush you off and speak about him just say like oh it's fine like like maybe he would come around and be like you know i didn't see it in that way and if he doesn't i would really think about i would zoom out from your relationship a little bit and just think about it like okay do i still do i want to go ahead with this because are you happy is this the love of your life is this your guy yeah because i i i feel like when pregnancy rolls around and all sorts of sorts of other stuff like where are you gonna be acting like this like if we're getting married like i'm wife i'm priority number one your mates are gonna have to come second like if i say that i want you to stay at home it's giving like it's too much of a pussy to say to his boyfriends like oh i'm sorry lads missing out yeah i will have just got married it's giving immature i'm like that's not the energy you want from a husband at least you've got till october you've got time to think about it you've got time to iron this out please keep us posted

49:26Right, we've got the famous quote, there are three people in our marriage. Well, there were three of us in the marriage. Sophia can do it well. Do it again? Well, there were three of us in the marriage. That's not even well, I'm just doing a deep voice. Well, there were three people in our marriage. There were three of us in the marriage. Right, Diana, we love you. You know where my mum met Princess Diana? In Nottingham, at the hospital. My mum used to work at Turning Point. Yes. Because she was a social worker. and she came and visited them and they met

49:58so Sarah here says there's three people in my marriage hi girls who's the third person I'm not sure it's a tale as old as time but a silent listener here since 2020 and never thought I'd be writing in but here I am I don't know if this is even a reason to write in but I need an unbiased opinion. So, as the title suggests, there is three people in my marriage. Me, my husband, and now recently... Gonna look down the lens. Lock eyes with the lens. Chat GBT. GPT. Right. Is this a modern day dilemma or is this a modern day dilemma? This is a modern day dilemma. this is 2025 folks soon to be 26 because i've told you you can talk to chat gbt like it's a person i know you can hi yeah how are you yeah they can reply to you just like checking in throughout the day just chit chat yeah chit chat about anything me and my husband met in 2021 and bought a house pre-chat gbt yeah the good old days some would say well you know if you'd have told us about track gbt when we're in year six well our heads would have exploded well i don't know because i thought we were going to have like back to the future like flying cars and shit so actually i don't think our heads would have exploded i guess but we would have been shocked we would have been shocked yeah but it's no marty mcfly flying cars tapestry no that's true it would be fun to have a flying car or a hoverboard that would be fun actually so me and my husband met in 2021 and bought a house six months later.

51:42Very quick, I know. He proposed two years later and we got married in August this year. Oh, congratulations. And it was the happiest day of my life. First Christmas as Mr. and Mrs. Oh, yes, yes. He is everything I've always wished for and our relationship is like a dream. But the past few months, I've noticed he uses chat GPT for everything. Even a simple question. What? He... Sorry, I shouldn't have had a couple of Coke sips. We know she gets burpy. She gets burpy this time of year. It's not a burp. It's just an air pocket. It's not a burp. It's just gas. He even used it to write an apology after an argument.

52:25No. He says he wrote the message... This I really don't like. He says... I hate... No. Yeah. Well, it is giving like... No brain power is needed at all. No. I really don't like when... we're using chat gbt to construct a message because you can tell well i know you can always i'm like well that's not how you speak i know that's gbt and disappointing sarah knew that yeah she knows that well she knows that he says he wrote the message in chat gpt just worded it he didn't understand that i'd rather have an apology that wasn't worded the best but it was from him rather than an almost professional like apology exactly yeah if if i have an opinion that he doesn't agree with he says i'll chat gpt it honestly girls it's getting out of hand oh my god i'm laughing writing this because it sounds ridiculous but i don't know how to express to him that it's getting to me now okay i'm right i'm glad he's not having a sexual relationship me too because we have had that yeah i was thinking he was like falling in love with people are having like ai girlfriends so you know that's annoying he can't even it's annoying it's like we've had a discussion about our relationship that's happening in real life like yes like we're here and then you want to apologize to me but like just be human yeah and scary and apologize to me as like my husband yeah but you have to go and ask a robot to to give you the well-worded about yeah but like in a relationship you know fine for like an email whatever but it for your husband yes can't even communicate to you it's very sad like it's actually yeah it's concerning also um this is the future i'm laughing writing this because it sounds so ridiculous but i don't know how to express to him that it's getting to me now i'm actually i was actually going to nominate him for bride of the week oh how the mighty have fallen as we recently got back off our honeymoon and he made it so amazing we went to mexico he organized a four-course meal at sunset in a private cabana on the beach and just made sure we had the best time he bought me a necklace to match my engagement ring that he surprised me with okay this is fixable yeah yeah other than this annoying habit he has picked up he does he he does everyone right and always make sure he looks after me and shows me love like I've never experienced am I overreacting as I know I can be dramatic sometimes or would you be annoyed by this also I would also be annoyed by this how can I express to him as I'm out of ideas also pictures attached I think he's just using it it's just a habit thing like like we go on Instagram or TikTok or whatever it's just a pure like I think it's just a habit thing for him isn't it like oh let's ask chat GBT it's a new what I think it is oh I I can't really know what to say.

55:19So I'm going to ask ChatGBT. Like it's just a habit that he's picked up. Yeah. Like he needs to just like delete the app off of his phone at least and just go back to simple life. Well, it's a new thing that people have started using. Yeah. And I can see. I understand that maybe sometimes he's using it at work. So maybe he's relying on it in his work, you know, atmosphere sometimes. Or like, you know, print me that, make me this on an Excel, blah, blah, blah. I understand how it can save him time at work, you know, whatever his job is. but yeah it's when it's just when it comes to like your personal life and like yeah maybe we've had a disagreement and then you've gone and sent me like it's that that's like really like it's so you got the pigs we've got the wedding day pics he's a hunky man really he's huge he's a giant he's so tall six foot four six foot six six foot six i think so yeah lovely height difference Sarah you look ravishing Yeah you look gorgeous Sarah We've got I'm assuming this is the private cabana on the beach Honeymoon Gorgeous I have him Looking stunning ladies and gents Looking gorgeous And then we've just got another cinematic shot from the wedding day Lovely little tilt back snog Look at that That's just lovely isn't it Lovely tilt back snog I think you know We're a married couple now Yeah He's great We say sorry when we're discussing things between each other whether we're discussing new topics or having a healthy debate or apologizing to each other I want no matter how tricky you're finding it to word things I want it to come from you not from the robot I'd expressed to him that this is really important and I'm trying to nip this in the bud now before you start falling in love with chat JVT literally before you start having a relationship with her instead Yeah, before you start sending it pictures of your willy.

57:15Yeah. Do you know what I mean? Because I fear it can get weird. I think this is fixable. I think he's just got this habit. It's his new toy. You tell him now. He's using it. He's impressed by it. He's like, whoa, blah, blah, blah. Yeah, it's so quick and speedy. Yes, it is. It just tells me anything. Yes, it is. Yeah, we get it. But when it comes to the personal life of our marriage. Let's keep her away. Let's keep her away. Let's keep her locked up. Yeah, absolutely. All right, next up.

57:50Okay. It's getting Christmassy up in here. It is, isn't it? Our Sarah said, elf-sized situationship. Oh. Buddy the Elf. What's your favourite colour? It's giving Bach. Yeah, it is giving Bach from Munchkin Lynn. Ethan Slater. Hope all is well and cosy in your gorgeous new set. Oh, we are very cosy. Thank you, Sarah. Merry Christmas. I've been following you both since the early YouTube days. I'm talking 2 ,000 subs. Wow. She's put high, Angie and Fiona. You know our mums were in boots the other day and someone came up to them. I know, mum said. Like, you sound just like Chinsia. You both sound like the girls.

58:27And they were buying their, like, well woman vitamins. They were like, oh, we're just buying our vitamins. Their menopause vitamins. My mum likes the menopause skin range from number seven. Yeah, it's funny because my mum the other day was saying, oh, Angie's put me on to this. what the menopause yeah and these like these like tablets daily vitamin oh nice yeah a daily vitamin well it's a struggle like because also it's like we're women and i don't know anything about menopause we need to like it's something that's gonna happen something that's gonna happen to us it's not spoken about enough no it's not here's my christmas dilemma for you i met a boy on TikTok.

59:07Wow. Back in January 2025. We have been seeing each other since March. So a good nine months. He is wonderful, intelligent, funny, gentle, but firm when he needs to be. Kind, caring. He adores me. The sexual chemistry is chef's kiss. He thinks the world of me. He is so emotionally intelligent. The list goes on. He sounds like he's on the nice list this year, Sarah. He does. We have been on three holidays in the past year and share so much in common. We laugh loads and just love being in each other's company. We've met the families and everything is just lovely. The problem. He is tiny. Oh, it's fine.

59:53Elf sized, in fact. Oh, but you like. She said five foot five at a push. But it's not been a problem. And I am unusually tall for a gal, five foot eleven. Okay. surprisingly this does not affect things in the bedroom yeah just but yes this shocked me too somehow it just works well everyone's same height lying down exactly i guess we're all the same size lying down yeah in fact he is the best sexual partner i have ever had i am 30 so i do have my experience yeah my dilemma i just cannot get used to the height difference i hate the fact that societal expectation is that gals are smaller from their bryans as a tall girl i've always hated this and have often found myself slouching or sitting down whenever i can to conceal my height i told myself to sit with it in hopes i get used to it in time but sadly i have not i follow couples online where the girl is taller you know zendaya tom holland of course yeah rosie i was just about to say you need to channel Rosie and Jason.

1:01:00Yeah. Like you're a supermodel Sarah. You're a supermodel Sarah. Like we all want to be like we're in supermodel height. I just cannot shake this hard feeling. Really? It's making me feel big even though I'm pretty slim for my height. I feel embarrassed when we're out in public and can't help what people must be thinking of our contrast in size. I literally tower over him. I'm even embarrassed to introduce him to my friends even even though I've pre-warned them about it. They've been so lovely. I just can't help but think no one will be honest with me about it. So I thought I'd come to you. Any advice?

1:01:33This man is perfect in every other way. Am I being shallow? Is it worth sticking it out longer in the hopes exposure therapy will do the trick? Or should I call it quits? We have both fallen for each other and it really does not bother him. He makes me feel comfortable and it's just us. But the minute we're out in public, I just feel really self-conscious. I don't want to hold his hand or appear couple-y. and I know I should want to show off a partner. We've had a bit, you know, jokey conversations about it here and there, but I can't face bringing it up for real because I just know it won't be nice for him to hear.

1:02:04It's so strange. Am I just way too in my head about this? I desperately need honest opinions. I don't want to keep pushing things back. You know, he's keen to make things official and we are eight months down the line. I fear I've left it too late. So just to be clear, there's a good six or seven inches between us. Please help from a confused Sarah. you really need to channel Rosie and Jason you do I know you're a supermodel Sarah but she's tried I know but like when you're walking down the street I've just walked down the street can I remember anyone I've just seen on the street no I know I know like you don't like you may like you don't remember any anyone you've seen on the street no can you can you picture anyone you've seen on the street today and I'm not going oh wow I definitely saw that couple with that height difference today everyone's so in their own head they're not thinking about you exactly like they're thinking about themselves and I like I don't want you to I fear he's great I know I like I fear he's really great for you like he sounds lovely he sounds like and I wouldn't want you to like it's not like you're not attracted to him you're really attracted to him you'll have great sex and and all of that so I'd be sad if you broke it off because of this me too but then also like I don't think it's fair for him if you're embarrassed of him yeah like you know if he was if this was the other way around and he was kind of like emailing in saying oh she's just too small or too tall or whatever like you should be proud of your partner and you should want to show them off and I don't you know I would hate for him to kind of be like oh I'm kind of embarrassed to hold a hand like you know you're not that's not fair for him if you're embarrassed of him like if this is your partner of nine months like i don't think it's fair on him if you're not proud of to be his partner we could become more comfortable with it with time yeah because he sounds so like if you'd be if you'd have said some red flags of his yes i like some dodgy things he'd done and set up like look just get rid of him like whatever he sounds really nice he sounds lovely and great why don't you introduce him to your friends that might like your friends are gonna be the least judgmental and then like seeing him with your friends and he might really fit in and might just give you all that like oh no this is right you know and maybe just let go of what you thought you wanted in a partner because sometimes what you think you want is not actually what you need and like maybe this is literally your your dream guy he just doesn't look how you thought your partner would always look and I don't want you to end a relationship because you're worried about what other people think like why are we like I don't want us to live our lives like that like if there was no one else on the planet and it was just you two, you wouldn't be breaking up with him.

1:04:43You'd be happy to walk down the street and hold his hand. And that just shows that it's just other people's opinions that are. Exactly. And that's not how we should be living. Exactly. I don't want you to live your life based on other people's opinions and what you think. No, because this is your life. You have to live it. Exactly. You have to make your choices. You're living in your own head. You're building your life. And your life right now is he's making you happy. You're having great sex. He's lovely. you've been on holidays trips like you're in love with this guy yeah i think that's a good step let's invite like meet the friends yeah and like they know how you feel and your kind of insecurities around it and i'm sure they're gonna love him get along well with him and they're gonna and it's gonna make you like and then they're gonna go what what what height difference like what are you about like we did like we were just like he's just a guy that we were chatting to and getting to know because he's like you're you're seeing him yeah like we weren't going oh whoa whoa whoa hi hi whoa whoa like take my eyes off it like no one's doing that so i would i get it like you're in your head i yeah i understand but i think step number one meet the friends meet the friends that's step number one yeah and i think if in like another month or two you still can't get over this I think it would be unfair to stay with him because, you know, at the end of the day, you're like, you're not.

1:06:05I like him. Me too. That's why it's not fair on him, you know? I know, I know. Like he deserves to be with someone who like is proud to be with him and wants to be with him. So I would have a, I would have a think. Me too. But your friends might encourage you, might make you feel like, oh no, this is fine. More comfortable. Like, this is great. Like I'm too in my own head. Because I think you're in your head thinking, oh, everyone's going to be like pointing. And they're not. Like everyone's so obsessed with themselves. Exactly. Everyone is so self-absorbed. Yeah, they're not thinking about you.

1:06:32Especially when walking down the street, everyone's worrying about what they look like. Where are they going? Are they late? What are they wearing? Oh, I need to check this person. Blah, blah, blah, blah. Like no one's analyzing strangers on the street. No. You know? And if this guy makes you happy, then that's what I want for you. That's like the most important thing. Good luck, Sarah. Oh, bon chance. Bon chance.

1:06:56okay we've got here other girls think my boyfriend is single that's so interesting what i'm assuming is his instagram is giving single yeah when he's meeting women his persona is getting single he's not you know he's not leading with yes oh yeah my girlfriend oh yeah well you know yeah my girlfriend and uh it's like you'd be a woman with my girlfriend it's like i've met you six times you never once mentioned you have a girlfriend like i'm a woman i have had a conversation with you and i thought you were a single guy but yet you've got a girlfriend of two years interesting maybe he's a spy maybe what what maybe he's a spy of course hi girls love the pod so i'm sure a few other people have had this dilemma but mine's a little more niche and i'm thinking you girls might be able to relate oh let's see so me and my brian have been together for coming up to two years and he's never posted me on socials does he use socials i'm assuming right to be honest okay it's another you're gonna like this one it's another modern day technology issue isn't it like you know our grandparents weren't dealing with this well you're gonna like this one okay his job is one where he has lots of fans it's harry styles um who all i would be harry's secret girlfriend for sure who wouldn't me too you have to post me base don't worry about it i know but it would get to a point where we you know we'd like it'd be like come on like do you not even look like like you don't want no one to know about me like being kept a secret is like horror i guess yeah like imagine being kept a secret for two years i guess yeah and like no one knows I guess I know of course I love you Harry so he has lots of fans who all follow him on Insta oh my god who is it who is it and he just likes to keep this strictly related to his job so is he an infamous boy I'm assuming so right he's got lots of fans who I'm assuming are girls oh who fancy him he's giving girls who like want to fantasize that they're with him yeah yeah yeah I get it I get it I get it he needs it for his image he's a very private person which i am respectful of so yeah he's i'm it's giving his life is kind of online but his private life is private life when we've been on trips or got nice photos together etc i'll ask him if he will post and he'll say no because he doesn't want all these random people to see his private life and also because if he posts me then i'll be bombarded with follow requests and DMs.

1:09:40Oh my God, who is this man? I know. It's Louis Tomlinson. I'm okay with this, however. On occasion, he gets messaged by girls. Some fans and some he just knows. Well, yeah. Hitting on him. We've just got to shoot our shot. You know, it's Harry Styles. What's a girl to do? Right. So this is where you're getting upset, Sarah. Yeah, you're thinking that's my boyfriend and you don't even know because I'm a secret. Because you know, when you think of like, you know, let's think of Zay Malik. I would say he's probably single right now, but we don't know anything about his personal life. We know nothing.

1:10:10So he could well have a girlfriend. Probably does. Probably does actually.

1:10:17Now, I trust Brian so much. He's very honest and we're secure as a couple and in ourselves. So it's not that I have trust issues in our relationship but it bothers me that these girls think he's single and that they can make a move on him. Yeah, that would upset. Yeah, that would trigger me as well. That would be something you would have to get used to for sure. Yeah, I guess that's not the norm, is it? A normal relationship, you're not really dealing with these issues. I guess it's a con of his lifestyle, of his career. It's not causing issues in our relationship. There's no arguments from this.

1:10:52And if we do speak about it, he reassures me that he would never entertain these messages and that he's with me and that social media doesn't need to validate it. True. and I also don't want him to feel like he has to do something he isn't comfortable with as he is a very private person. I know you girls are quite private with your relationships on socials. I'd love to know your opinion coming from a similar perspective to him. Okay, Sarah. I've attached pics. Q &A, let's go. Yeah, so who is this guy? I've attached pics and some of him doing his job. What's his job? But please don't mention what profession it is.

1:11:33Oh, okay. We'll keep it vague. We know what profession it is. Can I see the pictures again? Yeah, we know. Heartthrob. Heartthrob. Yeah, okay. Wow. I understand. Look, Sophia.

1:11:49Whoa, heartthrob. But I guess like when we've got a boyfriend, like people know about it. Yeah, it's not a secret. I guess like we speak about it. Yeah. So it's not like we don't know Sophia's relationship status. It's not a secret. It's just private. That's the difference. Whereas you almost feel like a secret. Because he's not even like maybe posting like your hands. But then I understand in this profession. This one. It's not going to bode that well for him if he is. Well, people are going to then be obsessed with you, Sarah, and want to know who you are. Yeah. And what you do and what you look like.

1:12:24Yeah. Because people love couples, right? people especially like of a guy that they fancy you want to know who his girlfriend is yes do you know what i mean yeah i understand who harry styles is dating like of course of course we do is it chintzy bailisolo we'll never know exactly the secrets by we'll never know you'll never know yeah i um okay so right you're needing i mean i'm glad he's giving you reassurance me too and i i understand like really he's probably thinking you know what difference does it make like if I post you on Instagram like our relationship doesn't then like get better or change like you're just on my social media like we're still going to be sat here in the same you know flat eating the same thing for tea like what difference does it make like your relationship doesn't need to be validated on social media and I do understand why he's not but yeah I would also I understand your reasonings of like god these all these girls think you're single and like they're not but also like who cares like if you trust your boyfriend like you know that's his job like it's kind of like what it is I don't know I just think well because the thing is is if he didn't have all these it's not like you're worried about him like cheating on you or like replying to these messages like he said plenty of times like no I love you but like I just want to I want you know my social media to be about my work not about my private life like i kind of get it yeah but then in the same breath we're kind of thinking like my mind would go to like let's say i was dating a famous heartthrob yeah yeah and he wasn't running of course and he wasn't wanting to post me i would be thinking well do you like the like are you this is just where i'd be insecure i'd be like do you like that the girls think you're single and like you're getting these messages like but I think that's where you have to bring it back to reality of course the real what is our relationship like I'm the one in this relationship with you how does it make me feel like am I fulfilled am I happy is my cup full do I feel like you're obsessed with me like all of these things yeah who cares what you post on Instagram like you're coming like we're sleeping in the same bed together every night i know you're here you give me so much validation like you praise the ground i walk on like but yeah if also like you know maybe it's not that he's a bit shit and he goes out a lot and kind of ignores you and then like you know he's a bit secretive with his phone then that's a whole different conversation but what is the realities of your relationship you know because i suppose what difference is it going to make if you're on instagram if he was a guy with no fans and didn't have this public platform and he was this guy for two years who hadn't posted you yeah and was like still getting these messages from girls from girls thinking he's single then i guess that's a whole different thing because it's not related to his job yeah and it's just that's him then choosing yeah and i think you know what i mean about it and it's not like he's defensive in any way like he can perfectly explain why and he can reassure you know it's not like it's just you I'm sensing that he's not posting his siblings his parents his home like he's not posting you know where he's going to the gym like he's not sharing anything about his life it's not like he's sharing his whole life and just missing out the relationship work aspect he's not posting his family he's not maybe posting his friends like it's all kind of private so I think it's I think I mean it's each of their own you know if you're not happy with it you're not happy with it but i think you you're not the only part of his life that he's keeping private he's keeping it all that's true that's a really good point like he's probably not even posting his friends exactly because he doesn't want them being bombarded exactly you know follow like he's not at the pub being like oh instagram story this like yeah he's just like no i'm logging off like he's keeping it work he doesn't use his social media for his private escapades and why don't you encourage him to make a private account as girls who keep their relationships pretty private yeah um i think he has valid reasoning same he's reassuring you he's not being shady about it he's not being like oh relax because if i had a being very like he gets it imagine i had a boyfriend who was like you need to post me i'd be like well i'm not going also i'd be like that's weird why do you want that yes i would say giving ulterior motives i would say yeah but this is boys for you but this is boys you know some boys are really weird and you know that they also want female fans you know from from you um but yeah I would say to a boyfriend who was asking for me to pose I would say oh well I don't really do that you know I'd rather keep it private you know not reveal your identity obviously I everyone knows I have a boyfriend I've spoken about it like it's not my friends know our families know like and also that's what's important and also the listeners know because like that's an aspect of my life and I have shared that I'm not trying appear single for other guys.

1:17:25Harry Styles. Harry. In case. Harry. Gotta keep our options open, you know. Yeah, I think it's reasonable and. Me too. But you know, you're not comfortable with it, Sarah. And then if maybe this is a non-negotiable for you. It's true, exactly. And maybe you are like, no, I don't want to be kept in the dark. I don't want someone who has this public facing job. Yeah. You know, I now know that I don't want that. It doesn't bode well for me. I want to be publicly showed off. Yeah, I get that. On social media, yeah. So maybe then this guy is not for you. Maybe you've learned from this relationship that you don't want anyone who's kind of like public facing and has like a private life.

1:18:02You just want, you know, just a regular. And you might realize that even if you've got 200 followers or 500 ,000 followers, I want you to post me. Yeah. And if that's your non-negotiable, Sarah, that's your non-negotiable. And that's a very real thing in this modern world. In this day and age. You know what it is with social media and all that. absolutely it's very valid so have a think have a think see how you feel but it sounds like you're the reality of your relationship is healthy and god which is what's important yeah because imagine if it was horrible but it was all over your social media that's what that's horrible well then that's your then it's just a lie like we've had an argument oh let's smile in this yeah that's toxic for a selfie and then he's posting a selfie saying i love you so much but he's not said i love you in person for months like that's scary that's scary so i think you're in the better boat okay this week star of the week we've got elizabeth writing in the queen nominating her fiance tom for star of the week this week tom has had knee surgery to reconstruct his acl after injuring himself a few months ago i cannot tell you how proud how proud i am for him carrying on being his usual happy self throughout the frustration of dealing with an injury good From day one, Tom has been the most incredible person and has picked me up through all the hardships we have faced.

1:19:18He's considerate, caring, makes the best cup of tea. Being with him, it feels like being in a rom-com. And even after four years together, I still find myself falling madly in love with him. And I can't wait to marry him in 2027. Tom and Lizzie, everyone. With him being laid up, it's so nice to finally return the favor and look after him and spoil him as he deserves. As I know, listening to this, I know listening to this will cheer him up in his recovery. it would mean a lot if it was picked for star of the week oh here's Elizabeth and Tom Tom Tom is giving Tom Cruise Tom and Elizabeth Elizabeth and Tom star of the week Tom thank you for being in good spirits and thank you for looking after us Sarah and good luck with your recovery alright then guys we will see you next week on Christmas Eve tis the season Christmas if you have any dilemmas please email them to hello at thegirlsbathroom.com and if you would like a bonus episode you can get one every single Monday over on Patreon okay we love you please follow us on Instagram TikTok and YouTube see you on Monday if not we'll see you back here on Christmas Eve bye

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