Boy Talk: I found a love note... it wasn't for me

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1:31Hopefully your friends opens up beautiful olive eyes and recognizes that weird happiness and cheese cane. I can bring out my cheesecake Christmas. What does that even mean? I don't know. Do you mean Christmas cheesecake, Ryan? Get it right? Do you want apple crumble or what? Get it right.

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2:14hi so you like that so enthused hi guys who is that what is that it's a hi you guys it's kind of vocal fry it's like this british vocal fry oh my god you guys so here we are today in the tgb in the girls bathroom i am so excited to be here on this gorgeous wednesday morning i'm serving army i'm serving army chic realness with my new aloe flares Oh, she loves it. I'm serving great realness. I'm really sunken into this chair. Me too. I'm sat quite low today. I actually feel... I feel like we both are sat quite low. Like that's... Don't look at the monitor. I'm a bit El Huncho. But I'm serving matcha black sheep realness also.

3:16The black sheep is really hit today. A small one just because I've already had one today. And I've not had a matcha in a while actually. Oh God, get to know. Since we tried our gingerbread blank street gingerbread. Yeah. And this is real nice and syrupy. It's really hitting the spot for me today. What are black sheep's? Have they got any autumn ones out? They must do. I'm not up to date. Anisha's nodding. They do. Oh, Anisha, what ones have they got then? Pumpkin spice. I could give that a go. Yeah, I could always give that a go. Absolutely. It's just the season. What we need to try this autumnal season is pumpkin pie.

3:49I have always wanted to try pumpkin pie Likewise Always Likewise I feel like it's an American thing Americans do It's a Thanksgiving American thing Well it's not really something that us British would whip up Hence why, yeah, it's an American thing Because number one, cutting into a pumpkin No, no, no That in itself, it's surgery, it's a task Yeah, but to then consume it I also think the cooking time of a pumpkin is all day long We are apple pies, you know, not necessarily pumpkin pies, blackberry pie. As I've said before. We know you don't like apple pie. I don't like a cooked fruit. Can't help herself.

4:29I hate a cooked fruit. I love a cooked fruit. They make me apple pie yum. It's the sliminess. Any pie, I'll have it. Yeah, I love pie crust and the filling. Well, I want heavy on the crust. I want more crust than fruit. Yes. But love apple pie, custard, heaven, rhubarb, humble crumble. Rhubarb. No thanks. When I go to humble crumble. No thanks. Rhubarb. It's like I'm your bully. No thanks. You stink. It's like a teen rom-com. Guys, she eats rhubarb. Can love that. Bully her now. Rhubarb girl. She's the rhubarb girl. Yikes. No thanks You can shake the hand of the head girl Rhubarb girl I will shake the hand of the head girl She earns my respect Go on then yeah When I'll go to Humble Crumble I've only ever been once But I will ask for the Just crumble and custard in a pot No fruit Love yeah that is That's nice Yeah Yeah That's gorgeous So yeah So yeah That's me You know see me You know see me So yeah That will be all um well welcome back welcome back into the wednesday escapades wednesday escapades

5:57i don't know but i'm saving the planet today i've got a glass straw from home the aesthetics is it sounds really nice on my earlobes it's really really nice to drink out of Nice ASMR that. Nice. But I will never, ever trust a metal straw, especially in a restaurant. You know, that has got mold on the inside. You don't know what's inside there. Never trust a metal straw. Ever. Even in your own home. I have glass straws at home. Huh? I have glass straws at home. Yeah, pay attention. I'm talking to you. Yeah, me too. Yeah. Snap. They're great. They're great because you can see the dirt. But the metal straws, no, no.

6:39They feel nice as well. And also you can really get in there and stir it without fear of sogginess or cracking. Absolutely. Sogginess or cracking. Because I find with metal straws that they... It's really nice actually drinking water out of this. It's quite special. It's like water in a wine glass. It just tastes so much better. It's quite nice. I find metal straws taste like metal. Yeah, they're awful. Do you find that? Yeah, they're awful. Also just like the metal on the teeth. even though I guess knives and forks are metal but it's a different kind of sensation yeah and I think we're just used to knives and forks aren't we yes oh my god of course what was that now what is this conversation we're just used to knives and forks now oh well yes yes we are yes someone's tuning in for the first time thinking what the fuck is this right okay guys uh-oh my fit flop's falling off my ankle snapped

7:42no look i'm just showing you look it's it's falling off at an angle oh right well happy wednesday everyone we're feeling good i need to sit up straight okay that's fine whilst you do that i will share the question of the week

8:03we're trying not to wake the sleeping demon the sleeping demon blueberry's personality is really coming out now she's been biting my toes all morning yeah she's playing she's testing the boundaries that's what teenagers do they push the boundaries absolutely she's growing into herself absolutely it's great she's confident you know that's what that's what we want i'm happy she's got all the confidence yeah oh my she's so cozy today okay question of the week take it away is what is the most ridiculous thing you've done thinking no one was watching gonna sneeze that was a nice timing wow lovely well i always think i always think like when i'm driving along like and i'm looking at people it's like you don't even know i'm staring you down like you don't even realize how hard i'm staring at you yeah that's why sometimes when i'm walking about i get scared that other people are just like staring my because if you're on the bus it's like we're all staring at you i'm watching you like yeah what you can do about it it's like i can't remember what that person looks like i'm just staring at you but that there's nothing i hate more than running past queuing traffic oh my god i want the ground to swallow me up because I think someone's watching me.

9:26They're all watching. Because I'm watching the runners as well. They're bored. And also that's how I get mum anxiety when I'm out with Blueberry and everyone's watching me at all key with traffic. If there's one thing about Blueberry, it's just a conversation starter. Let me tell you. Oh my God. Well, now I'm having to make sure that I'm ready to speak to people every single time I leave the house. I'm talking to three people. Sometimes she puts us in embarrassing situations. Well, yeah, she'll just go up to anyone. Yeah. Then we've got to make convo. Yeah, it's good for me though. It's good. It's good for me.

9:57Megan, it's good for me. It's good for me. So, ridiculous thing you've done when no one was watching. Picked out a front wedgie. Yeah, well, a camel toe if you will. If the camel's cameling, it's got to go. Yeah, a camel toe if you will. Trying to twerk. Oh God, yeah. Wait, this would be me. Yeah. Screaming in the car on a bad day. Yeah. Just at the red light and this person next to you is like. Yeah, I support that. I support that 100%. Scratching my hand with my teeth. Yeah. Stretching my hair. Oh, yeah. I've been doing that before. I've done that if you've got a real itch. Yeah. Sometimes the teeth gets it.

10:29Sometimes thinking of itches makes me... No. Yeah, go, go, go. Oh, this is my worst nightmare. Taking my Zoom call to the toilet thinking my camera was off. Oh, oh, oh, oh, oh. The weeing. Yeah. Oh, God. How can you not realize that? I guess some things are just an oversight, aren't they? You think your mic's off. You think your camera's off. But it's not. peed next to a car while someone was in it oh yeah that's to a car that's rough oh shit shat in a bush on a run i had a wee in a bush once i've been thinking about those runners after he pooed himself yeah this girl on tiktok she was tiktoking that she's just shat herself on her own oh my god yeah pooed in her pants i got a bit nervous that was gonna happen to me today because i had a couple energy gels yeah and i thought i thought oh what if this because i've heard the stories that the energy gels can make yourself like a laxative effect i've not yeah and touch wood i was safe because i was kind of far from home i kind of went out into the big wide world and i was like oh this is energy gel number two if this goes south then i'm not sure what i'm supposed to do here or something just let rip let it rip yeah yeah i don't want to know a boy who had to pee on a run yeah really yeah also my father's done that also yes i think it's just a a run thing maybe it's the right passage maybe Harry Styles has done it on the Berlin Marathon on his Berlin Marathon with that record time shout out Harry get it Harry shout out miss you I mean imagine if you were just doing the Berlin Marathon I know and then Harry Styles is just there maybe this is how we get friendly I'd feel like maybe we're gonna I'd have to keep up with him you would have to you've got all the motivation in the world for running after Harry Styles are you joking I'd get a sub three hour fucking time you should see me fly I'd be absolutely zooming I think I'd be floating I think I'd see him through I just want to smell him as well Like smell his sweat Yeah And just like Just see Just see what he's doing Like what's he wearing What's he listening to Is he running on his own Is he running with people I think he had A chaperone A chaperone Or like a guide runner Were there any like Watchers that came into the path Watchers that came into the path I think he was going so quick So quick That you would miss him If blinking you miss him He's an expecting you know man I mean we've both seen him In the flesh.

12:46That was an extravagant day. Oh my, I've seen him twice. Extravagant day? Yeah, it was extravagant. So he cycled past me and I knew Chintz was just behind me. And I was like, oh my fucking God. Well, actually he was at a red light. He was stationary. On his line bike. And I was walking. It's two years ago now. That man like kind of looks like someone. And then I was like, oh my fucking God, that is Harry Styles right in front of me at a red light. And I was immediately, my whole body went into shape. And I just immediately thought I was going to throw up. And I knew that Chintz was in the car, not far behind me.

13:24Called her immediately. I was like, Harry Styles is about to cycle past the cab. You need to be on look out. And we got it on the vlog, didn't we? He was in red shorts. And he cycled right past. And that was the moment. Wasn't he in a boiler suit? Oh, was he? No, he was in red shorts when I saw him another time around London. We had an exchange. Yes, for my number. oh sorry I wasn't meant to say that that was our secret yes he's got my number yes so this is most ridiculous thing you've done thinking no one was watching well that that the man who used to live opposite me or I saw him just have sex with that lady that one time we've seen him have sex a few times did I see him twice yes well we saw no you saw naked no I saw him naked all the time in the window yeah all the time I wonder how he's doing actually it's been a year since I've seen him oh yeah and you saw someone else shut the curtains close the drapes yeah is this uh people getting frisky in the afternoon guys it was a sunny afternoon this lady you know sometimes i just see her laying in her bed like she's just i could just see her bedroom there's suddenly a man in the in the room i've never seen a man in the room before i was like mental shook to my core i was like oh my god there's a man there like i didn't know she had a boyfriend i thought she just was like lived alone like i've never seen a man there and then all of a sudden like she's on top of him they're fully clothed I was like this is about to lead somewhere then they started snogging I was like oh my god Blueberry close your eyes it's about to happen but then she got up and she closed the blind I thought good she's aware of her surroundings she's aware of the surroundings yeah okay so we've got most ridiculous thing you've done thinking no one's watching took my bra off on the tube I mean taking the bra off is a classic because it was so uncomfortable wild wee walking my dog I mean if you gotta go go nature comes nature comes knocking Smelt my armpit in a club and a footballer sawmate.

15:16Oh. That will do it. Yeah, that will do it. Dancing naked in my apartment. I mean, look, we've all been there. Oh, that's fun. That's really lovely. Let your hair down. Threw up whilst giving head and swallowed it thinking he didn't say, oh. Oh, dude. Oh. He's watching every minute of that, so he definitely saw. He's probably aware, yeah. You would have heard things. Scratching my vag at the gym. Yeah. I mean, look, sometimes, you know, the sweat, you know, in the crevices. But then like, I've seen loads of men scratch their balls and like rearrange their penises. But it's like, I know, but it's like they are vulgar.

15:55But it's like we, you know, sometimes we do just need to, you know, rearrange ourselves, if you will. If you will. Licked my plate, the Chinese. I mean, it was delicious. Sounds like it was delicious, Sarah. Chased a five pound note on the floor that was actually attached to invisible strength. It was a prank. I'd be sick. Oh my God. For the£5 note, Sarah. Yeah. Yeah. Do you remember when we went into Nisa Local, Carlton Hill? Never forget. And Lydia Baila Solo finds a£10 note on the floor. I think it was 20. Never forget. And we were buying crisps and snacks. Never forget. There was a£20 note amongst the...

16:30We must have been... We were very... We were children. Lydia finds a£20 note. We said, come on, girl. You go split that up with this. £5 each. Give£5 to mum. Fitchy fuck. Straight in her pocket. Surely we must, I think we got, surely we split it. What a bitch. She didn't give us a... No, but your mum was buying a suite. Right. And that was then like her pocket money. Yeah. But imagine finding£20 on the floor. Amazing. Good times. You've got to keep it quiet. I remember that. Like it was that. That's a cool memory for me. Isn't that weird? Yeah. I think that's the only time I remember finding money.

17:00Me too. Like I really remember that. I remember being in that shop and we walked all around and then Lydia came over like, look, I've just found£20 on the floor. Yeah. And it was like, oh my God, yeah. And we were like, oh my God, give it. And she was like, no, it's mine. I'll never forget. Wet the bed in Rome next to my situationship. That's bleak. Yeah. And that's a big, you know, the sinking down to the mattress. Yeah. That's a big cleanup job. Looked at my watch on a run and ran into a low branch. Oof. Yeah. Ouch. That would hurt. That would hurt. Wait, I did something really embarrassing on my run a few days ago.

17:39like actually so embarrassing but I just had to get on with it so I was running and someone was running towards me that I really thought I knew like I really thought I knew I was like oh my god that's it that's Steve I was oh my god it's Steve running towards me I was quite far into my run so I was a bit like oh like I was a bit haggard god well you know I was like I was tired vision blurred this is a medical emergency I don't think you should be not quite like I was I was tired I was getting to the end yes yes yes and I was like oh my god like that that that is my friend running towards me and I was like smiling like and I'm kind of like I'm my arms in the air and I wasn't planning on stopping because I thought I ain't stopping I've just got to keep I can't stop and chat and I really really really thought it was him I was smiling I was waving I was like And then he got very, he had to get very, very close for me to realize, oh my God, that's not him at all.

18:43Oh my God. And then I just had to keep on going and just act like that never happened and just erased it from memory. Oh my God, I'll be sick. And he was looking at me with a weird look on his face and I just thought. Well, he was probably thinking, do I know her as well? No, we didn't. We didn't know each other. He was probably trying to figure it out. We didn't know each other. We definitely didn't. So that's the last time I'll be doing that. Oh no. Yeah. Well when I was on holiday one time with a man He thought he recognised this boy Or at a pool He was like oh my god He was going like this Mate Mate Like that Mate And then the boy was just like Staring at him But seriously And then just like turned away And it was awful And then he was right next to us Oh see at least that man I'm never going to see him again And it was so Oh that's really awkward It was, even for me, I was like, oh my God.

19:36I'm so embarrassed. I was like, don't worry, don't worry. He didn't say, definitely saw that. You've just embarrassed yourself in front of me. And you've embarrassed me too. Right, there's one more here. Went out on Hull, Nicholas ended up getting proposed to. Nicholas. Nicholas. Nicholas. And ended up getting proposed to, and my nunny was in all the videos. I was like a little shit. Bad news. Sun's just streaming through the dress, lighting everything up. Oh, shit. Shit, Sarah. I mean, it happens on holiday quite often. Yeah, but it's like nipples or whatever on holiday. Yeah. Right. Right, well.

20:18Let's dive right into some dilemmas.

20:25Just before we get into it, quick disclaimer. We are not doctors. We are not professionals. We do not actually know what we are talking about. This is a light-hearted space. Okay. Don't take what we say literally because we could be wrong. Yeah. And if there's anything serious, if there's anything you feel like you're seriously struggling with, please contact a GP, a professional, because that is not us. We're just girls, girls and boys just like you, you know? We're just trying to get through life as well. Not professionals. Enjoy the episode.

20:53Dilemma. My boyfriend of five years has confessed his feelings to the barmaid. The barmaid? Yeah. Maybe he works in a bar. Yeah, maybe he works in the bar. Maybe she's a colleague or maybe... Maybe he's a regular at the bar. He's a regular at the bar. That, and he's always had an excuse to go every Saturday and it's because he's fallen in love with Belly. With the barmaid. Oh, this is quite lengthy as well, but we're locked in. Okay. Hey, girls. Hey. Just want to start off by saying I love the POD. You both have the most beautiful souls. Thank you. Oh, that's so kind. I mean, am I bent? Oh, just went off that email.

21:31Me and my bestie aspire to be you. So I've gotten into a bit of a situation I really need your help with. I've been with my boyfriend for nearly five years. We got together when we were about 17. We've definitely had our ups and downs. A lot of the... Just side note, I watched the new series of The Great Sex... What was it called? Great Sex Experiment. Watched the first episode. How's it going? Two couples went in. It was insane. you actually need to watch it I didn't even realise it was back on neither did I I think I was watching something else Channel 4 4OD Chad 4 Channel 4 Channel 4 it was I was like oh I felt a bit like uneasy for a few of the people because it's just that awful it's always one person in the couple that's instigating it it's like there was this couple I won't spoil it but he's cheated on her before she's really insecure about it I won't spoil it so I'll just spoil it well I won't show you the conclusion that's just this toxic trait I won't spoil it well how many of you basically what happens is it turns out how many of you are actually going to go watch it probably not many of you I love it yeah I'll just quickly say you can call it for me any day yeah yeah couple he's cheated on her before I was like for fuck's sake oh for fuck's sake she's crying feels insecure about it who's instigated going on the show

22:49both of them I think I think I think the poor girl she's trying to because he he says like I've cheated on every single girlfriend before like he can't be monogamous and she's trying everything i think to to have a way for him to stay like okay well maybe if we introduce new people he will stay and he won't cheat and it's like i'm allowing it so you know okay um but yeah so she's like really insecure about that really upset so the fact that he went and slept with someone else and then it's the first night first night it was just like social he went to go socialize with the girls she had to go socialize with the boys because they were trying to have their separate experiences he then goes have has an orgy with four of the women like all of the women he brings them back to the yurt so they've got these like they've got these yurts like a tent with like beds he brings all the way like eight women back to the yurt they're all flirting whatever then he hasn't he has an orgy with four of the women in the yurt they kept saying yeah that's my yurt yeah he was like do you ladies want to come back to the yurt but yeah has an orgy all night with these women for hours and hours and hours like hours this poor woman she doesn't find anyone attract any of the men attractive you can tell she's uncomfortable think about what he's up to goes back early and then he comes back at like 3 4 a.m he's like yeah it was me and four girls she breaks around crying i'm humiliated i'm humiliated like an orgy like you know because they were expecting like maybe one-on-one yeah anyway i won't tell you what happens then i was just like oh you may look finish off now go on well then yeah she's breaking down you've humiliated me la la la oh my god and he was like oh it doesn't feel good to see her so upset it's like he's not like it doesn't feel good um yeah i think if i can get sarah involved then uh then that that would you know make me feel better so as long as she's having a good time I don't need to do that then they go sit with the therapist she's like do you want you know do you want to be able like did you enjoy it wasn't yeah I had a good time and then this is the therapist was like that's what he sounded like then the therapist was like do you she's like well I don't want to stop you from do if that's something you want to do then that's something you want to do like have all I don't need to I don't need to it's like if Sarah's involved then like if Sarah's involved then I'm happy I'm happy so then then it was actually quite a nice conclusion then they went and found this lovely French girl invited her in just the three of them bonjour and they had a lovely sexual time and she was actually happy she was like I had the best time oh the girlfriend okay so that was quite productive and then the French woman was like let's meet up again let's meet up again and they all had a lovely time the three of them that reminds me of what we were watching what was that show called but it was really stressful for the girl I thought oh this is just What was that show called?

25:42Come on. Fire pits, couples, watching what each other's been doing in the villa, girls coming in, boys are coming in. Temptation Island. Temptation Island. Yeah, classic. And this one man, most recent season, slept with two girls in the bathroom. Yeah. And he... It's not what it looks like. We weren't having sex. You can hear all the slapping sounds. And then on his interview, he was like, I actually think that it's a sign of respect. Yeah. because I've been up front with my girlfriend. She's lucky I was honest. I was honest. And I think if anything, like I know my woman will stick by me through this because she's a real woman and she's a great woman.

26:21And I know that she's going to stick by me through anything. I know she'll stick by me through this. And she did, didn't she? She did, yeah. Each to their own, but she did. That was mental. That was like watching first hand manipulation at its... I was like, oh my God, you're literally manipulating the TV. Like, do you think people are buying this? The way he'd convinced himself in his head that he'd done actually something productive for the relationship was insane. And she never even kissed anyone from memory, never slept with anyone, was just all about him. And he was out there like sleeping with all these other girls and saying that like, I've been honest and I think she'll respect that.

26:57And she's a great woman and she'll stick by me because that's what great women do. And then getting angrier at her. No, I think she did then go and explore something and then getting really angry at her and saying, it's done, it's done. How could you do this? How could you do that to me? You've just had sex with, that was it. You've just had sex with two women. Of course she's going to go off and explore something now. Did she have a kiss or something? I think she had a kiss. It was like, how dare you? Yeah. You've ruined this. It was like, so you're allowed to go and have sex with? Yeah. Crazy.

27:23Right. Sorry. So get locking back into our Sarah here. Five hours later. So, been together since we're about 17. We've definitely had our ups and downs A lot of the downs have been caused by his behaviour But over time he's grown a lot And I've really seen him mature He had a tough upbringing Which I think shaped how he was early on in our relationship But I've been proud of how far he's come And he's really matured in the relationship Here's where it gets messy Oh god And to barmaid stage life Yeah For the past month he's felt distant He works evenings at the bar maybe I'm not assuming and usually came over afterwards but recently he's been staying out later mainly at a local pub with his friend and just out and about in his car we're just doing a little drive by what?

28:17I don't understand it I didn't practicing his u-turns in his parallel parts yeah I didn't sorry babe I can't I'm just practicing my three point turn so I won't be home tonight well don't there's lots of boys that like to go out and do donuts in supermarkets. Well, yeah, they used to do it at Netherfield Retail Park. Yes, the racer boys around Netherfield. Yeah. Yes. I didn't overthink it at first, just assumed he was getting closer with his friends, but then a certain girl started being mentioned. Oh God. There's this girl who works at the pub. Let's call her Barmaid One. I've met her a few times because we celebrated his graduation there and it's also where the football team he coaches hangs out after the games.

28:59Oh, as a coach. It's Troy Bolton's dad. She seemed sweet. And I didn't think much of her at first. But over time, he kept bringing her up and constantly saying how lovely she is and how everyone loves her. Including you by sounds of things, my friend. Just bringing her up way more than necessary. Yeah. And you're thinking, this is... You've got a crush. Yeah, that's not right. And you know when you can just feel something, something behind someone's yeah you know like and you just feel like the vibes changed a little bit yeah just know yeah he's also mentioned how he'd have a banter with her and would pull her pull her car's wipers up as a joke and stay in the pub with his friend until it's closed so she wasn't on her own closing up you don't work there babes you don't work there he doesn't even work at the pub no and just general flirty not flirty behaviour I joke about it and he'd always shut it down say I'm overthinking and he's just naturally chatty which to be fair he is but still the vibes were definitely off and my gut was telling me something you know like your gut your gut knows now she's gone back to uni this past week and he is really gutted I'll be sick What do you mean visibly gutted?

30:26Oh my God. Gutted that she wasn't going to be around. Going on about how amazing she is still. At this point, alarm bells are going off in my head, but I still haven't said anything. He's got a massive crush. Yeah. Then yesterday happened. Right, I'm going to take a sec. Right, what the hell happened yesterday? So you're thinking this guy is, you know, being fishy, saying nonsense. Being off. Sorry, yesterday happened Staying late so she doesn't have to lock up on her own is wild Well, it's the same as what did we have last week Where it was like he gave that girl his jacket and not me his girlfriend It's exactly the same It was like, no, I'm waiting for you at home Come and see your girlfriend I'm just staying with Sarah to make sure she's not alone I'm alone I'm alone, right Then yesterday happened He stayed at mine and in the morning asked me to grab something from his car Oh God Oh my God, what did you find?

31:23I went out, opened the door, and there was a goodbye card sitting on the passenger seat, not in an envelope. Naturally, curiosity got the, has he wrote that for her? He's wrote a card. And does the card say I love you in it? I'm sure. Naturally, curiosity got the better of me. I opened it. And girls, I was shook to my core. I'd maybe recommend reading the next two paragraphs and then read the card. Oh, she's attached the pick of the card. This is absolutely amazing. Oh, we love you, Sarah. So she said, I recommend reading the next two paragraphs and then going up to read the card to understand the wording in it.

32:02He'd written it to the friend of the barmaid, of Barmaid One, someone he also gets on with, who's also leaving for uni, who works in the same pub. He's also mentioned this girl to me before, again, stating how she's lovely. It started off all as innocent, thanking her for her company at the pub and wishing her well at uni. All that, but then came the kicker. In the second half of the card, he literally confesses that he likes her friend, barmaid one, and says he wishes she'd given him a chance because they could have something real. That's a quote. Then signs off with this. from brian in brackets future friend's husband who the fuck do you think you are i was gagged right let's go read it i'm sorry can you imagine this is your boyfriend of five years five years and you find he's trying to line up his next future husband of your friend no no i would vomit all over that car immediately let's just I'd rub it into the seat.

33:15Right, just to start off with, let me just put this down. This handwriting looks like it was written by a two-year-old. It looks like Blueberry wrote this. What's his calligraphy? Look at this. No, that's not your husband, Sarah. Like, your husband don't write like that. No. Okay, but we're going to read it. So, also, we just need to preface this very important thing. I can't believe it. He can't spell both. He's put booth. to booth he means to both no yes he's put b-o-o-t-h to booth

33:53to both to both oh my god to both so this is a card to both of them but he must have just handed it to the friend yeah and obviously knew that the word would get back to barmaid one to both to both to both just a quick card to wish you all the best in your second year also i'm struggling to read this i'm like using all my strength in your second year exclamation mark thank you for your service in the in the get over it i think the pub this summer your one shift a week has been detrimental to the customer's happiness smiley face that doesn't even make sense that doesn't even make any detrimental disclaimer this is when the handwriting is like falling off here like it looks like he's broken his wrist do you think he was writing it in a rush in a panic it's all neat up here it's like the end of an exam when you're like trailing off disclaimer this is not a romantic card nor nor a flirtatious card Purely platonic Because What the Because Have uses to do weird nice What is that No nice things Because Anisha what does that say Because something have uses to do weird nice things Let me have a go Purely platonic Purely platonic Because Uses to do weird nice things yous have oh yous yous purely platonic because yous have done some really nice things weird nice things he's put weird to do weird nice things right okay he's like gobbledygook right next side hopefully i will see you again and your amazing friend opens her beautiful what wait wait wait wait wait wait wait hopefully i will see you again hopefully i will see you and your amazing friend opens her beautiful olive eyes and realizes we'd be great together if she let the curiosity beat the fear and the curiosity beat the fear and lets us try something real what um this makes no sense if not then maybe i will have to honor oh oh if not if not now then maybe i will have the honor of having you bring out my cheesecake christmas time what does that mean open your upon your return what something smash no he's put smash smash if from someone brian future friends husband And hopefully your friends opens up beautiful olive eyes and recognises that weird happiness and cheese came.

37:21I can bring out my cheesecake Christmas. What does that even mean? I don't know. Do you mean Christmas cheesecake, Brian? Get it right? Do you want apple crumble or what? Get it right. If not, then maybe if I have the honour of having you bring out my cheesecake Christmas time upon your return.

37:44Sarah that's got to give you the it for this man come on two booth olive eyes if your friend could just open her this is a platonic card not romantic well done for snapping a real quick picture Sarah well done Sarah disclaimer this is not a romantic card not a flirtatious card well it is it's exactly that actually But also like He doesn't even know what that means He thought he really ate with this card Yeah he thought he ate That's what is so embarrassing He thought I'm going to write a card I'm going to say I advise And just get over the fear And just go with the curiosity Oh my god Well this Should we see Brian?

38:24In the flesh Absolutely please He stood on the sand With a full jacket on A shirt buttoned up to the top No tie Jacket on What shoes? A brogue In the sand Oh no we must be down in Cornwall or something this is Brian with beautiful Sarah Sarah you look gorgeous I don't like your Brian me neither he's giving creepers creepers especially after we've witnessed his letter yes and his calligraphy and his spelling ability hopefully your friend opens up beautiful olive eyes because also Sarah like I'm hoping do you get a massive paragraph in your card on your birthday? Do you get a massive paragraph at Christmas?

39:11He thought he ate with a vat. He thought this was the biggest, most romantic love letter of all time. To booth. Can you spell? Can you spell? He can't. Can you spell? To booth. To booth. I was gagged. Right, looking back into the email. I laughed in disbelief. Yeah. That's mental. Put the card back and went inside like nothing had happened. But when I got back in, I could tell he realised he'd left the card out. Yeah, you know that. Shat himself. To a booth. To a booth. Whose booth? His face said it all. He started acting extra nice. Yeah. I bet he did. Which is unlike him lately. Kept asking if I was okay.

40:01You should have gone to the kitchen, got two olives and gone.

40:09I am boo. Yeah. I boo. Like, get a life, Brian. Get a life. Get a life. On a dictionary, I'll see you. To a boo. Right. I only went uni, Brian. Yeah. Doesn't even know what the word detrimental means. His face said, oh, he started acting extra nice, which is unlike him lately. Kept asking if I was okay. being super affectionate and it's like you're so guilty right now you know how guilty you are you're so icky like he knew I knew he knew Sarah but neither of us he shat himself he shat himself neither of us said anything I love it I love how you've got the power in this situation it's fantastic it is fantastic another story's been told to the entire generation dear hey boo he even asked why I was acting weird now let's flip it on you please please Brackets, I wasn't But I just said I was fine Since then he's been so much more chatty and warm I'm just really craving some olives Okay so you didn't I would like both Should we have a martini tonight with extra olives?

41:17Should we sit in the booze? Or would it be detrimental?

41:27I fancy the olives What colour are my eyes? Are they ocean or are they olive? Would you say they're green or olive? I might wear my olive. Jackie definitely liked my outfit today. He fucking loves it today. I'm in love with that olive girl. If you could just unzip her olive jacket. I'm in love with both of you.

42:01i actually fear i actually fear we actually need to name this man we need to name him i actually feel we need to out here like like how dare you said like that and not even like get right for you first like right so she's right she's not said anything still she said she said since then he's been so much more chatty and warm almost like he's trying to fix something now i'm stuck do i confront him and try to talk it through i mean you're a better woman that i would not be able to even look in his direction i would have exploded because also like for him to write that letter like whatever you would call that postcard whatever you would call that silly little thing he's been thinking you know he's been thinking about that for months and months and months.

42:53Like that was all planned. And did he ever give the girls this card? Like we still have the card. Oh my God, yes. So he even chickened out. He chickened out and didn't even give them the card. I didn't even think about that. I didn't even think about it. So we had all the balls to write it and then didn't even give it them. Or forgot or left. Yeah. No, he was too scared. He's too scared. He didn't even have the balls to confess his love. Like to the barmate one. To the future wife. And why would he think giving it to the friend was a good idea as well? so fucking weird. This man's got no good ideas.

43:24Like he's got no good ideas. Like if you genuinely love with Barmaid Juan, go and confess it romantically in a nice way. Yeah. Like go show up to a uni dorms, knock on with some lovely roses and you know. Olives. Olives. Your eyes remind me of these. So delicious. Like, right. So she's saying, do I confront him and try to talk it through? Doesn't seem like Sarah is realizing the relationship is potentially over. Kaput. Sorry, I don't know why. I've never said that before. Kaput. Or do I straight up dump him situation? Oh, so she's wondering whether we should talk about it or I should just dump him.

44:06We have been together for five years and while it hasn't always been perfect, I genuinely believe he has a kind heart. The last thing I'd ever want is to hurt him. He's already hurt you. He's already hurt you, Sarah. Sarah. Don't put this on you. Don't put this on you. You have to put yourself first. he's already hurt you. She's saying, I don't want to hurt him or see him upset. He's already upset you. He's already upset you. So why are we then going to protect this man? We don't need to do that. Like we're too nice. Like you're too nice, Sarah. He has already hurt you. So why are we then going to try and protect him?

44:38We don't need to do that. Which makes this even harder. I want to see him cry, Sarah. So do I. I want to see him beg for you. I want to see you walk away. Yeah. To be honest. To be honest. and like chuck lob like olives at his head olives over him knock him out leave loads of olives in his car garlic stuffed olives there put them in his jalapeno stuffed olives yeah um which makes it so harder because my heart is honestly broken exactly he's already broken your heart I adore him I've always seen him see seen something so special in him we can't spell Sarah clearly not his spelling that's won you over yeah part of me thinks what if this is one of those classic they were meant to be stories and they end up together.

45:23Would it be better to just let it go and let them have their movie moment? I think he's delusional. I think this woman has never even looked in his direction, to be honest. I think he's delusional. I think she's thinking, what? That freak's on the bar. That freak that hangs around all night. Get me back here. A hundred percent. But at the same time, we have been together for five years and if he really wanted me, why is he writing romantic cards to someone else? No, Sarah. Exactly. There's no way you can justify this. Do not excuse this. This is crazy. I haven't said a word yet. All I've done is play Sabrina's new album on repeat.

45:53Nice. That's a nice touch. Let's get it. Kind of hoping this gets on the pod so I can just play in the car and see his reaction. If that's where you want to go, Sarah, I suppose. Oh my God. Just be careful. Has he got a hot head or he'll start getting angry? Yeah. Maybe be parked. We're exposing him. Yeah, we're showing him the truth. We're holding a mirror up to him. There we go. For his spelling and all other sorts. attached a pic of me and him we've seen it detrimental love you so much thank you in advance sarah i think this is horrendous i know we're laughing about it but like he also this is a this is a lot of stuff right first of all he has been in my opinion like emotionally forming an attachment to someone else he's been distant staying super late at this bar always talking about this girl how lovely yeah he has a crush on this girl he's made that very obvious he's so stupid and you know what he thinks he thinks the grass is greener yeah he's like oh she's so lovely yeah those olive eyes like she's at work she's paid to be there you aren't paid to be there she probably just wants a nice tip like she's being paid to serve this man who's coming into the pub yeah who won't stop talking to her of course she's being nice exactly he thinks the grass is greener and i think it's horrendous like he's literally basically wrote a love letter in my opinion signing it her future husband is wild and so disrespectful to you sarah like none of this is on you he has ruined this relationship you are like he's ruined it he's upset you he's disrespected you this is not on you at all like this is all this is all him and i believe like he's ended the relationship because of his actions yeah i know you feel guilty for maybe this is not end it he has done everything to end this relationship he's broken he's been distant he's had a crush he's been in that he's wanted to sit in that bar all night and look at these olive eyes before coming home and hanging out with you like you're his girlfriend of five years and he's not acting like it he's wrote that card saying if she could just get over the fear and see how good we are together I fear you've not been mentioned in this bar conversation once I don't think these barmaids number one and two even know you exist I don't think they know he has a girlfriend at all I think he goes to this bar, has his little like alter ego.

48:12Like, oh, this is when I'm a single guy and I can like flirt with these girls. Tries to be confident. Tries to be this like all new personality. And I just think it's bullshit. I think you should absolutely break up with him. He has done so much damage in my eyes. I think he's a loser. And I think you can do way better. You can't even spell. I think send him a picture of that fucking guy and say, I'm never seeing you. You will never see me again in your life. And then you play Goodbye by Sabrina Carpenter. Hit it. And you embodied that song, Sarah. And get rid of this guy. I know he's been acting amazing the past month.

48:45Yeah, because he's shitting himself. Because he's guilty as fuck. And maybe he does regret it. Okay, fine. You regret it. You still did it. Still did it. Does it take away the fact how you've made me feel? You've broken my heart. I want to see you cry. And I want to break your heart too. And I want you to realize that you should never have treated me that way because you've lost me now forever. Yeah. The end. Yeah. God, Sarah, thank you for that. I'm going to look at that card every night. and just laugh at this man. Sorry, Sarah. But you need to get you to do way... But Sarah, that's the energy that you need.

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52:06Right, I fear we have another crazy story this week. My boyfriend got engaged to another woman whilst I still thought I was his girlfriend. Shut up. Okay. Double life. We're locking in. I don't even know where to begin. I got into a relationship with a man I've known since I was about eight. We hadn't kept in contact all that time, had other relationships, but then in 2020, we were on a date and he became my first boyfriend and my first love. We had some explosive arguments, don't get me wrong, but we were madly in love. 90 % of the time, he was perfect. Buying me my favorite gifts, taking me out for dinner, he would drive me everywhere.

52:53He was my best friend in every single way. There was always one big problem though. What? I never met his family. Oh God. I know he had his reasons for not doing so, namely because he was a different religion to me. So I understood and agreed we could wait until marriage to do this. Okay. I was so in love with him that it was worth the compromise. Also, you're thinking I've known you since you were eight. Yeah. You're not a new. You've known the family. If we're just school friends, then maybe. Fast forward to September 2023, so about this time two years ago. I got my dream job as a police officer and our relationship drastically changed.

53:36We became distant, argumentative, and it just wasn't the relationship I knew and loved. Anyways, we worked through it and became better than ever. July 2024, however, we both agreed this wouldn't work. I was becoming agitated that we hadn't moved in together after four years. He felt as though I changed as a person and we amicably entered our relationship and remained friends. From this point, we were on and off. We would go on dates. We would sleep together. We'd go on nights away. And I truly thought we were going to get back together. No matter what happened, we always gravitated towards each other.

54:14Fast forward to now, September 2025. We had begun seeing each other again properly since May. okay we spoke about how this time we would make it work we discussed getting engaged marriage taking our children to disney told each other how much we loved each other and we could not live without each other he looked after me recently when i was really unwell when we had arguments we dealt with it and said how proud of each other we were for resolving it and we even bought and named a teddy for good luck for our new fresh start so it does sound like there's a lot of positives coming from this final reconciliation i was so in love and happy again oh my god i can't wait this is that no i feel a bit sick i saw him thursday night no he sat with me whilst i showered and we laughed and joked together oh we watched a movie together i slept curled up in his arms and went to work the next day we had plans for today so i was excited to see him then no saturday night he told me he had to go to London early Sunday morning for a family emergency.

55:24I said, seems a bit weird, but that's fine. He messaged me in the morning and then again around 7pm on Sunday. I'm at work on Sunday and my friend FaceTimes me. She doesn't normally do this. I was a bit worried if she was okay. I answer and she tells me to prepare myself for what I'm about to see. I've got full body chills Down my full body She turns the camera around And shows me a photo of my boyfriend With another woman At his engagement party

56:00I've never been so heartbroken Oh my god This past weekend in London Family emergency It's your engagement party Two days later and I am, this is so fresh, Sarah. What the fuck is going through this man's head? Do we have an image of this man? Yes. Thank God. Two days later, I am beyond devastated. He has not given me an explanation. When I confronted him, he told me to stay out of his life, that he's moving away with her and deleted me from everything. Okay, good fucking riddance then, to be honest. You've wasted my time. You've wasted three years of my life. Take the trash out. I haven't heard from him and don't think I ever will I can't go five minutes without crying I am so confused and heartbroken beyond belief I don't know what to do or how to recover from this any advice would be appreciated I'll attach pics this is the disgusting man oh my god the way he thought he was going to get away with that and then the cheek to say stay out of my business stay out of my life what?

57:10we've just bought a teddy excuse you? You just cuddled me in Tibet to sleep all night. This is him. Zoom, zoom, zoom. Evil eyes. Yeah. Evil. Evil. Evil Knievel. Meanwhile, Sarah. Let's see Sarah all kitted out. Oh, Sarah, babe. PC Sarah. Looking gorgeous. They all fancy you, that's for sure. Oh my God, this is them. What, there's more? zoom zoom zoom

57:48Sarah you need to delete all these images from you he's got air force on with a dressing gown get some slippers Brian get some slippers on Sarah I'm so sorry Sarah you need to delete every single you can do way better though you're absolutely gorgeous you can find a sexy PC the fact that he has removed himself from your life I think it's a blessing I think imagine if he was trying to be like oh no this is just for my family and for appearances and I still love you that would be like what the hell's going on and then he was like I'm gonna end it with her and then doesn't and then it's been three years like I think in the long run you're actually gonna be like you know what I'm kind of glad that he just had that like yeah that complete personality change it's terrifying like what do you mean get out my life I don't know you I've been with you for years like what is going on here and I think like this was always someone who was very on and off in your life and i think you obviously had very real feelings there and i think in the long run it's a blessing that he has just basically like deleted himself from the planet i also let him go this is but that is a lot i think in terms of getting over him he the person he showed you that he is that's not him no like just just they'll be like i like that's not him like those good times the giggles that's not him no the real him is like getting up to no good sneaking around keeping secrets planning a second life knowing what he's doing to you and knowing that he will hurt you when this does come out and still doing it anyway like that's who he is he's an evil evil man not this nicey nicey funny funny you know guy good times laughing no that's not him delete every single image you've ever got of him on your phone and then switch how you see him in your head he's an evil man he lied to me for years and you've got a lucky escape yeah good riddance i feel sorry for this wife yeah now like say be like thank god i'm not the wife thank god because what thank god he removed himself from my life because i was never going to remove him because i was kind of in it so thank god he removed and surely everything is making sense now like why you didn't want to move in after four years also maybe why we had all these explosive arguments maybe when he was happy at home he was happy with me but when he was not happy with his own girlfriend i wonder how long he's been seeing this girl for like how long is this relationship it's got to be with her like it's crazy it's got to be years yeah it has to be it has to be and like he's a liar evil manipulator you didn't want to be with him anyway i'm so sorry you've been put through this sarah this is just Just the worst kind of person you ever could have come across.

1:00:30And it's a blessing that he's not in your life anymore. And you can start fresh. And yeah, it is so raw right now because it's just happened. But time honestly is such a great healer. And like just get through each day. The days will keep ticking by. Get your comfort shows on. Like just hang out at home. Get your friends around. Get some family around. Eat your favorite food. You know, keep yourself busy. Just do what you feel like doing. but this is a blessing that he's out of your life now and just take each day as it comes you have good days bad days but think about you in six months oh i think about you this time next year like time is a great healer but it's rough he's string you along for years is that yeah man like actually evil evil but actually evil and i hope you never come across someone like thank god we found out he was thank god he was planning on keeping this going yeah he was planning on going and getting married and coming straight back to you i wonder how your friend knew maybe she had a mutual at the party but for him to think that this would go on and it'd be all hunky-dory like no well maybe he's thinking i've got away with it for five years lord maybe it's been one year like we have no idea but we don't need to know no like we don't ignorance is bliss we don't need to know how long this has been going on for.

1:01:47You don't care. We just got to put this behind us. Jesus. Don't yearn for him anymore. He's evil. He's not who we said he was. That's what it is. Sorry, Sarah. I know. I'm so sorry. What evil, evil man. I mean, I feel we need to warn the wife, to be honest. But maybe, whoa. Front of my throat. Maybe once you're a bit more healed And it's not so raw You can maybe contact the lady Truly I would get your best friend to do it Yeah I wouldn't do it myself Get your friend to do it I'll get your friend to do it Yeah The friend who sent you Who showed you the screenshot Why does he get to go in And live happily ever after No No He has to No he needs to What's the word The consequences of his actions Yeah actions have consequences Yeah like he can't get away with it Like no fucking chance Who the hell do you think you are?

1:02:52Right. We've got the classic line, Sophia, and the classic line is... We were on a break. So Sarah here is saying, help, we were on a break. Hey, girlies, absolutely adore you both and the pod and need some serious advice. I'm having a Ross and Rachel, we were on a break situation. and I don't know what to do. Oh gosh. Back in May, I started dating a Brian down South and I am from the North. Long distance. It was long distance-ish, but we hit it off immediately. I kept going down to see him and we had the best time together. We truly hit it off and it felt like a fairy tale. Wow. He expressed he had done long distance before and it didn't work for him, but he was willing to try again.

1:03:38We tried, we really did, but with it coming into summer, life got busy. I sat at home overthinking and no amount of reassurance from him could help. Our dynamics started to change and the honeymoon period was well and truly gone after a month. Two months of off again on again arguing we decided to call it quits for good in August. The tricky thing is is I was always coming to his city for various reasons even though it was four hours away from from me this open this opened up the opportunity to see him i continued to see him two times uh where we went out for dinner drinks coffee you know some dates better than others this brings me to my dilemma in september i came to his city with a friend for a concert and we agreed to meet and talk and meanwhile we have we are broken up we broke up in august yeah The air between us was clear But we wanted to catch up I made the mistake of asking If he had slept with anyone in the three weeks I would just Ignorance is a bliss In the three weeks that we had been Over He admitted to sleeping with two people Where did he find these people?

1:04:54But stated that his heart Was still with me And he couldn't move on This really hurt me As I never thought about sleeping with anyone else at all after that breakup. You did ask the question, Sarah. I know. But what we want to hear is, of course not. I know. I've been up sick every night thinking about you for three weeks. How could I even think of another woman? Meanwhile, he said, I've slept with two women. Yeah, I've slept with two. And what? Oh, that's brutal to hear. That's soul crushing, Sarah. I sat with the information, but at the end of the day, let it go since we were both single. He asked me and I replied no, to which he said, thank God.

1:05:35Fuck. No, that's so unfair. You can't say that. And he said, because if he did, I don't think I could, I would recover from that. Right. There's your answer, Sarah. You're not getting back with this man. Sorry. The cheek, the double standard of that. You've slept with two girls. You know what it was is? You're actually taking the piss. He took the opportunity to think, we're probably going to get back together in a month. Let me just sleep with a few of the women before I get locked down for a couple of years. Absolutely. And that is disgusting. And we have some single nights out. Yeah, may as well make the most of it.

1:06:06May as well make the most of it. Let me hit up that Susan. She's always down. She's always down. Like, and like he thought, let me just, you know, have a couple of wild ones. You know, because I'll mess you in a month and we'll get back together. No, the cheek. The cheek of him to say, thank God, because if he did, I don't think I'd get back with you. But you still want me to get back with you. Yeah. You hit your head. Yeah. But you expect me to get back with you? No. No. Brush that comment off. So she just brushed that comment off. We continued on and have been in on again, off again contact.

1:06:40Last weekend, I slept with someone else. Fantastic, Sarah. Well done. We're all chuffed for you. A drunk mistake. No, no, no. That has been playing on my mind since. I don't know when I will see my Brian again. He's not your Brian. He's not your Brian.

1:07:02But we But we still talk And the possibility of him asking me If I have slept with anyone Is driving me crazy Say yes Please Yeah Please Sarah Give him a taste of his own medicine Say yes Oh I didn't I've not heard from you Like I don't know We're going to get back together We're not back together Well you're sleeping with people So yeah Yeah of course I am Yeah you have been I'm sure you have been since I'm sure I'm sure I'm sure am I honest with him and say yes knowing that it could potentially ruin everything yes you say yes say yes because the double standards on this man is disgusting yeah it's rife or do I lie knowing that they are two fully separate people that don't know each other and live in different countries and will never cross paths say yes thanks in advance a very confused Sarah picture of us attached dare I say a gorgeous couple you're joking Sarah is so beautiful he looks friendly and quite nice as well a gorgeous couple.

1:07:59Yeah. Yeah. Oh, Sarah, you look stunning. Sarah, you're radiant. Oh, she's gazing up at him like the world revolves around him. I know. Yeah, Sarah, you're absolutely going to say yeah. Say yeah. I think so. And I think... I want him to imagine you with another guy having a great time. Because meanwhile, while we're on again, off again, and he's not making any moves to lock you down again, of course you're going to go out there and live your life. And my mug. Yeah, no. You're out there sleeping with everyone. Yeah. no no like he needs a taste of his own medicine like if he's mature enough he'll say okay we work together I've done the same but I'd like to take this opportunity to ask you to be my girlfriend yeah because I want you for myself because hearing that is hard for me yeah it's heartbreaking it doesn't mean I don't ever want to be like I want to be with you yeah like and I don't want anyone else to have a chance to get to be with you yeah and I'm sorry that I've taken us to this place I take full accountability and responsibility that is the only answer I will accept likewise If he responds with anger, frustration, we're not together.

1:09:00You've slept with probably four women at this point. I've slept with one man. Okay. Maybe I've slept with six. Yeah. I'll leave that to your imagination. It's actually none of your business. I'm not going to give you specifics because you don't think you deserve specifics. I'm going to let you imagine whatever you want. And yeah. I also wouldn't be like fighting to get this man back. I wouldn't you know be like oh I need to do everything to get this man back like if we're on and off anyway like sure if he wants to come correct and be like do you know what like I'm sick of this after this like on and off it's made me realize how much I want to be with you and the mistakes that I've made and I want to make this work blah blah then like yeah let's go for it but I also think we've been on and off now you've slept with other people I now have can I look at you the same can you look at me the same is the relationship ever going to be what it was like you know let's face it last time you got together you said the honeymoon phase lasted a month yeah i'm not really sure if this is your soulmate you're like happy ever after i feel like maybe this is just someone that we can leave in the past and we can go and have fun and be young and see who else is out i think it sounds like the fantasy of this man is what's keeping us attached like yeah but the reality of it was yeah we were having a shit time one month then yeah like we're having a shit time and i can have fun and like i don't need to be tied down to anyone right you've got your whole life to be tied down to with someone you don't need to have that right now if this guy is not especially when it's like single box we're struggling to even yeah maintain like like we're struggling yeah we're butting heads we're arguing like and also now you've we're long distance okay you're not going out on saturday oh you've bumped into that girl that you slept with two weeks ago what's gonna happen now now i've got all these like oh well yeah i just think he's not coming correct no we don't need to fight is this our big love story i don't think so no no and like he took his very first opportunity to sleep with two women he wasted no time and that says it all yeah I think I think have fun yeah I agree be young don't regret sleeping with that guy no you did it own it you have fun yeah don't regret it and if he asks you you wanted to do it so you can't regret it and if he asks you oh have you said yeah I did yeah yeah I did I'm single and you are too yeah if he can't you know see that he's very immature yeah you got this Sarah one chance proud of you right right should we end on our star of the week yes please i think that would be lovely okay this is an incredible star of the week we've never had anything like this okay so this week our star is matt and our sarah here has wrote in saying he really deserves it listen to this guys we've recently moved from devon to cambridge for new jobs and started living together for the first time.

1:11:59It's been a big adjustment, new city, new roles. He's a doctor. I'm a vet. What a couple. You guys. And it's been intense. But despite the stress, he's gone above and beyond to support me. Breakfast after night shifts, leave me treats in the cupboard, post-work massages, surprise me with snuggly clothes and cozy home decor. All the little things that make a big difference, especially with everything on his plate too and then we somehow got five days off together a miracle and i find an email saying he's booked us a surprise five-star trip to turkey but listen to this guy this is the best part this is why he is true star of the week on the flight there a call goes out for a doctor mid-air have we got a doctor on board i am here brian steps up without hesitation and calmly helps a passenger having a seizure so kind calm and capable even on his time off I was in awe I am just so proud of him Sexy His heart is so pure And I feel so lucky To be loved by someone like him I mean Matt Thank you so much For making us a happy Sarah That's amazing At saving someone's life On our flight It's incredible I mean seeing him in work mode Was probably just So attractive Have you got a daughter on board?

1:13:15Yes Yes Capable, calm Not stressed Efficient, not stressed And actually saved the life Saving lives Incredible and saving hearts. Wow. Thank you so much for being here today, everybody. Thank you, everyone, for being here. Thank you for being here today. We will see you next time. Happy Wednesday. If you have a dilemma or a Star of the Week submission, you can email it to hello at thegirlsbathroom.com. And you can follow us on Instagram, TikTok, YouTube, thegirlsbathroom. If you're in the group chat, we'll see you on Monday for your bonus episode. If not, we'll see you back here next Wednesday.

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