Boy Talk: I married my FATHER IN LAW?!

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1:37Plug in a Zivo flying insect trap so you can work smarter, not harder, and actually enjoy your time at home. Hello, gentle readers. We are currently recording this from a toilet booth. So it's very fitting for the girls bathroom.

1:54Sophia Matveeva: An emergency record, if you will. An emergency record. As we would like to sincerely apologize for the technical difficulties that we encountered in this episode. we may have got a little bit cocky, a little bit overexcited. Yeah, we did. You know, we thought, you know what, let's do an episode from home. Fuck it, what can go wrong? We've done it before. We'll do it again. Let's get our equipment out and let's click the buttons and let's just record. Get the memory card in there. Yeah. Easy peasy. However, we forgot to press record on Chintzia's microphone. Absolutely, we did unfortunately. However, you can still hear the full episode I just won't be coming through from a microphone the camera just picked up my audio yeah we've got camera audio so the episode is still here but if it's not up to usual quality we apologize it's our fault we forgot to press the button rest assured next Wednesday audio will be top top top notch better than you've ever heard it better than you've ever heard it before so this week please just enjoy this homemade homemade DIY DIY version of the episode Thank you Enjoy

3:00Sophia Matveeva: Hello is that working? Hi Testing One two Live and direct From Casa Cincio How we doing? How we doing? We're recording live From Cincio Baila Sillo's apartment We've got Blueberry She's very active Of the wires At the mics It's active hour She's very active We'd settled her But now she's alive again Which is absolutely fine How do you feel about this? It's a first I'm enjoying this I'm really happy Because I feel like We're back to our Natural state Our flow state If you will I feel like we're back To like Makeup lust Yes Just tints on my face Lip tint Cheek tint Nice Bronsor tint Water tint And I feel like We're back to like Covid recording days Me too You know At home Little machine Little handheld mic No commute No commute And also like Something crazy is going on here And she's trying to Right Something crazy Who will find my nipples Right Right Blueberry we're gonna take it down look we've got here we've got mr caterpillar and you're gonna go and hump that over there there we go good girl yeah go and have some fun with him i mean we've got the the quad factor is what i like to describe the four drink lineup we have here to start with carrot and juice carrot juice cheers i mean we've already keep this alive it's good i just think you know what it's got a zing there's not a lot of things we do that are super healthy for our bodies no we try and go gym to be fair we don't have a lot of fruit and veg yes in terms of in terms of nutrients blueberry right she's attacking she's attacking sofia so this is definitely a problem right she's got the teeth out all right what we're gonna do is he gonna go over there right bloopy we're afraid hell she's biting my fingers absolutely look we've got fingers in the jaw yeah absolutely you know she's small but mighty this one but surely i think it's nap time she's not had it she's overtired she's don't let us start doing that it'll escalate it'll escalate right one second i'm just gonna grab blueberry some chicken treats with that the animal thank god food destruction food destruction always uh yeah i feel like it's good for us to do add some nutrients in swore diet also since we don't take a multi-vitamin yes something which i can't find one that i don't know what's good i do feel good just like having an orange juice like an orange like in color carotid like carrot having a green juice like A couple of juices, you know?

5:17It feels good. Because you know who... I can't say I've seen any changes. No, me neither. Zero.

5:25Sophia Matveeva: Even like bowel movements, like no change. Which is interesting. But we've always had healthy bowel movements. Always. This is true. Apart from when I go on holiday and then I get completely blocked up. Apart from when we're travelling. But that's usual for me. Yeah. I rarely get the blockage when I travel. But sometimes... I always get a travel blog. But I do struggle when I don't release in the mornings. Yeah. And then it's like, they were out and about, and it's just like, this is not good. We had that fear before of what happens if on the morning of your wedding day you can't be. Yeah, that's rough.

6:01Sophia Matveeva: Hell. I think in that instance, you're going to have to pop some sort of laxative. But then it's going to be coming out all day. Well, then you just got to do it in due time. And then you're in a white dress. True. Well then you just got to put on a pair of period knickers, period knick pants. But do you want to get married in period pants? I don't. I mean no. What if they're not enjoyable? Yeah, true. It's not going to go down well. Well apparently. So any brides getting married this summer, we really hope that you have a great poo the morning of your wedding. There's just nothing like it, isn't there?

6:32Sophia Matveeva: That release is just sublime. Look, we all poo. Everyone poos. It's normal. Why are we trying about it? We always try about it. Yeah. Let's be honest. Yeah. But like. We're not afraid to talk about it. Do you know what? Like, what did I learn? Did we both learn this? That there's some boys group chat and every time they poo, they send me a picture of my poo. Yeah, we did learn about that. Who told us that? I think that was a friend of a friend. I think that was close to home. It shocked us. Yeah, I think it was. And that was quite horror. That was quite a shock to me. That feels like something we learnt on tour.

7:07Sophia Matveeva: I rarely turn back and look. I don't want to see it. But I tell you what, in america in america you're forced to look which is because those bowls are so freakishly shallow that it's like a literally a pool and there's nothing goes down it just sits and you are forced to see it and it's a shock yeah and i don't know what that design's about because we've spoken about them before where the man's junk is swinging into the bed into the water mark hayhurst specifically Mr. Mark Hayhurst is well endowed. Well endowed. You know, he's obviously let us know that he is. Of course, yeah. And he says... I'm like, we've got eyes.

7:47Okay.

7:49Sophia Matveeva: You could take one look at Mark Hayhurst's Instagram and you know he's blessed. You know. He's blessed. He's got men queuing down the street. Down the street. You know, I'm sure he would rock everyone's world. Absolutely. But yeah, you know, he endured that issue when going to America with just his whole willy going into the thing. So imagine your willy saying that, mate, you're trying to poo. It's just all over-simulating. It's a lot of clean-up as well. Yeah. Well, it's like we need a bidet then. Every American household needs a bidet so that we can then thoroughly wash. He said it. Anyway. Anyway.

8:27Happy Wednesday, guys. Welcome back to the pod. Second beverage. We've got our iced matcha. Of course. Hits so hard. Like, seriously. Hits really hard.

8:38Sophia Matveeva: I just like, what did I do before matcha? I just was probably just drinking water. Yeah, it was just the water thing. But I mean, these aren't as good as the American matchas, are they? No, but in terms of our favourite in London, it is the vanilla teas. Yeah. And also, this feels healthier than the American matchas. Because they are so like cream, sugar loaded. And you know those cold flames are full of oils. Great. It's not like pure, you know, cream from the cow. Right. it's apparently how dare you whip it's apparently a lot of oils oh fantastic what's the word like fillers okay right cool well we are here we are here we hope you like this episode at home I'm enjoying myself I mean audio listeners hopefully there's no difference like we always say hopefully the quality is top notch hopefully it's top notch for these handheld mics absolutely but we're very happy to be here we're in our Justin Bieber hoodies you know we're still hanging on that's what we're in the world dead ass got our beverages we're ready to go this blueberry settles we're actually also uh going to the cinemas after this what a great day we spoke about we spoke about the cinemas last week we did say that we don't like everyman anymore but we're going we're going but i i was hopeful that you had booked everyman well i thought it's but sorry keep going no absolutely i'm just saying we just need to eat some food well yeah there was a 6 p.m showing and i thought okay that works for an everyman because i'm gonna get a hot dog and I'm going to get a big Coke Zero.

10:08I might even like do some pitta and some Thomas. Like I'm going there for dinner. Like I've had my lunch. I'm going for my tea and I'm going to watch a film. Guess what I had for lunch? What? Soup.

10:18Sophia Matveeva: Oh my God. Pumpkin soup. Pumpkin. Honey, pumpkin and say, maybe not say, something else. Wow. It was amazing. It was amazing. It was delicious. It was really delicious. I do like a soup. No, it was really amazing. I wouldn't choose pumpkin this time of year Me neither but amazing I wouldn't even choose pumpkin period for anything But in a soup it's fine Nice I like me and stony I like tomato, I like pea and mint Love pea and mint It's not soup season though It's April I guess it's May It's not soup season But for a lunch It was quite delicious I was just missing a bit of bread Bit of sourdough and butter or something like that Okay I mean, should we dive in?

11:10Sophia Matveeva: Yeah, I'm ready to We're actually going to see the drama Yes, we are Very excited I've been wanting to see it Me too This is a good midweek trip to the movies I'm really happy about it You know what we do need to do? We do need to go to a morning showing in PJ's I've been dying to do this I want to leave my house I want to get a morning coffee I want to have like a 25 minute walk To the cinema And I want to be in coffees And yeah I want to take in maybe Like a smoothie or some sort of breakfast And then I want to go to a morning showing Yeah But then I do think that it is going to Imagine a yochi In the morning That to me I fear is like a great breakfast I think that's a really great breakfast I think it's nutritious and delicious It's yoghurt Put some honey on there and some strawberries It's basically But in Nutella Like it's yoghurt Yeah But then I do think It would just send you Off kilter for the rest of the day What a yochi in the morning No Like leaving the cinema At like Oh yeah It'd be confusing 11.30 I have sleigh mornings Like now I need to go home And have an hour Me and I have sleigh mornings anyway Like that to me Is just As long as the dog's been walked True And fed I'll be out the house I'll be happy to sit I just remember When I went to a sound bath On a morning at 9am And I was like oh my god that was that has sent me west well i can't get my day going now yeah you know i've been in the dark room you can do it gotta be a 6 p.m job that really and like now i'm out in the daylight and i'm supposed to get on with my life it's tough yeah really hard you've been for a lot oh gosh i seem to be a bit for a lot gosh yeah it's really hard no i'm just saying that would be my only morning cinema flag well a morning massage oh i i would not be unless it was a lymphatic um let's talk about lymphatic like i've only ever had one same same but like in my mind like i've had loads for some reason but like it wasn't so comfortable i enjoyed it on the legs the most and the arms i didn't like it on the legs really i loved it i thought go go do it like right here like i liked it on the arms i could feel it coming out of me ankles i liked it on the arms i liked it on the belly the legs i didn't enjoy it on the bed you liked it on the belly that to me i was like oh no see the legs i was like oh really making me squirm like i felt like she was really getting all the all the all the liquid in the fight and pushing it down into my car yeah i really want one we're gonna dive into the questions diving which question of the week question of the week this week is what's the most mortifying thing you've done in front of a brian okay okay okay okay waking myself up with a fart that'll do it done that a few times not ashamed of it yeah look at the end of the day it's natural at the end of the day completely natural i poo what i'll put my hand up i poo so do i who's blueberry poos birds poo baby's poo like and there's only so much you can do in controlling the natural movements especially now sophia's backing all this character she's regular she's gotta let it rip sometimes it has to go like you can't be holding that in you can't be backing that up you're gonna get ill did you hear about that lady she got rushed to hospital because she didn't fart because she was holding in so much gas trapped wind is the worst pain i'll blame the boyfriend get him to jail trapped wind is the worst pain i wouldn't wish it on anyone no the gurgling and the the the hardness the bloat that you get from trapped nothing is worth that let it out let it out just gotta let it out but i can imagine like if it was a fresh little situation and you're just farting first thing in the morning hang on hang on let's be clear because like yeah i am not i remember when and I started dating Brian, I could not go for a poo at the flat.

15:12I was like, I can't poo here. And to be honest -

15:14Sophia Matveeva: Wasn't there one toilet? No, there was two. Oh, okay. But like, I could just not poo. You couldn't just, oh, it was just a mental block. It's a mental block. I don't want to poo here. Like I'm gonna poo. He can't know I have human bowel movements. Like, it's just not like, I just can't have a poo here. Where did you poo then? in the palm of your hand chucked it out the window um let me think i think i probably just do i just proved when i got home oh before he was back before we lived together oh sorry i was gonna say no i'm talking about like if i'm going over on a friday night in the beginning yeah like in the beginning that's what i'm saying like i think as soon as you move in it's just like gotta do what i've gotta do mama's gotta share you know like mama's got mama's got business like i think as soon as you move in all of that stuff kind of just like you just gotta let it go but until then like i do remember being like oh my god i need to file but i'm not gonna file yeah i understand i can relate to that yeah right number next one we've got forgot i was wearing Chicken fillets And he started Taking my playsuit off I mean Yeah That'll do it That'll do it I mean Yeah but shapewear Not the sexiest Not the sexiest Updo is it Went on a date To an inflatable Water sports centre And my wetsuit Split right up my ass Went on a date To an inflatable I mean I went To a water park Oh we were Oh in a wetsuit It split I choose that Over I went to a water park Once With an old flame Me too.

16:57In a white bikini from Pretty Little Thing. Oh God. Calling you out.

17:01Sophia Matveeva: PLT. Or McCamani was talking to you. As soon as I went in that water, it went see-through. And I was like, and I went, I didn't really realise it. And I went to the bathroom and I was like, oh my God, that's my whole areola, my whole nipple. You can just see. And like, this is see-through now. Like I'm pretty sure at the back you can like see my crack. You need double lining always Yeah, so Double lining necessary always That was quite embarrassing A white is always a risk On the bikini front On the swimsuit Imagine a full swimsuit that was doing that That's full frontal wizzou You know the way it sticks to your belly button You would not want to see that on myself Got my head stuck in Buckingham Palace railings

17:54Sophia Matveeva: wow you know what yeah i'm picturing that that is so funny did the king at least come and help you out or what number one babe why are you sticking your head through there like that is one of my biggest fears she's getting her head stuck in the rain where's the queen oh no oh the wickerson the hound yeah that's embarrassing That'll do it Yeah Sorry I keep putting my phone down Between each one When's me parent? Through these Um Slipped over during shower sex And had a massive nosebleed Ooh Ooh A nosebleed on a regular day Is rough Not naked and afraid In a shower That is just In a compromised position That is not sexy One of my biggest fears Is like slipping in a bath or a shower And someone finding you Or just dying there Because I live alone and no one's going to find me.

18:49Sophia Matveeva: Whoa. That got dark really quick. Because if you've seen the stuff... But I think about that too. I'm like, if I had a fall in the shower and then someone had to rescue me, like the compromised position that I'm going to be in, I'm going to be naked as well. Yeah, yeah, yeah. I definitely have a sign of that. Because a great fear of mine, I mean, it comes in those, it's not really, but imagine, because I live alone, imagine I like choked on my dinner. Like if I was choking, there's no one here. Like, I'm choking Like, I will just die I never thought about that That's scary That's scary Yeah, like You need to get blueberry Like, eating alone On the training Yeah, trained in CPR I need to get trained In dog CPR as well Anyway, let's not Let's just like We don't have to think about that Yeah The power of the tongue Let's not speak it Yeah, like As long as we're chewing our food That's why I have soup For lunch That's why I'm chewing Soup now and carry things No risk of chowage Dived into a swimming pool in front of my crush and my bikini bottoms came up.

19:48Oh, that is so embarrassing. I lost my bikini bottoms once in the centre parks waves. Like when that thing just starts going, the wave just hit you and it just drags your bottoms.

20:00Sophia Matveeva: Oh God, yeah. And then what did you do? I found them, put them back on. As long as you find them in the water. Yeah, yeah, yeah. Otherwise, that's not good. Walked into glass doors just after they've been cleaned. Yeah, that'll do it. A little walk into... I mean, yeah. At least your windows are clean. Yeah. He used tanning spray just before we went for a drive and stained his car seats. Oh, I would hate that. You literally left your mark. I would hate that. What, on your car seats? Oh, no, I would hate to do that. Because it's like, oh my God. I'd feel really bad. If you buy that 206 of Fates and.

20:34Yeah, I would be so embarrassed. I'd be like, oh, I know her though.

20:38Sophia Matveeva: Changed the bin with all my wrapped up pads. one fell out and unrolled blood gambling. Oh. Not the unroll. I can see that in my head now. I'm curious. Just a dark, dark red blood clot. Just like on that path right there. Oof. Oh. Have you seen the clip of Zac Efron when he's on the red carpet? I've got no slings out. The Lorax from here. I've got no more slings out. That's what that reminded me of. Right, I've got one more. I've got a g-string fell out of my jean pocket And onto the floor in front of my work crush Ooh in the workplace You know what a little tease or something Yeah They could be worse Clip these ones off earlier And fell on my face in Ivy Asia Ooh falling Ouch Falling is like oh I couldn't recover from it Went on a run trying to prove I did it you know on the daily Was sick five minutes in Physical sick I choked on a flapjack Be careful of flapjacks I've had to get the Heimlich manoeuvre Done on me to get it out I couldn't Oh my gosh I got a bumblebee stuck to my lip Safe to say I'm never wearing that lip gloss again No This is all stuff I can't This is scary I could not deal with this He asked me to leave at 6am oh my god no i could not be asked to leave i would never go back one of my hair extensions fell out mid-sex okay that's worse but still yeah but yeah my life you've told him that like it's all yours yeah yeah oh this is trauma blocked the toilet at his dad's house and his dad had to and block it oh my god oh my god no like where's your plunger where's your bleach i love you sort this out lydia blocked the toilet in barbados it was and wait have you heard this no she blocked the toilet in barbados it started to overflow it was the it was first thing in the morning it does come i was asleep it does come up and it's like oh my god it's coming up it's coming up i was like and it was all and then in the hallway it was all wet on the floor she's out got the toilet it's all over floating i was like it's not my fucking problem like call the fucking like sort it out like oh my god and she had to call the man floating there and this poor man had to unblock the toilet she'd flooded the whole whole hallway i mean i've had a toilet right i just didn't get out but i was like So this is sort of I'm not going to get out of bed My mask is staying on Yeah Well I've had a toilet rise But I've not had it overflow Yeah Oh my god that's terrifying It was the plumbing in Barbados I think That is terrifying Fell down the stairs on a bus Oh my god Met his mum for the first time And her dog kept trying to smell my fanny Well they like the smell of vagina That is so embarrassing Of vagina don't they

23:57Just before we get into it, quick disclaimer.

23:59Sophia Matveeva: Just to say, we are not doctors. We are not professionals. We do not actually know what we are talking about. This is a lighthearted space. Okay. Don't take what we say literally because we could be wrong. Yeah. And if there's anything serious, if there's anything you feel like you're seriously struggling with, please contact a GP, a professional, because that is not us. We're just girls, girls and boys just like you, you know? We're just trying to get through life as well. Not professionals. Enjoy the episode. Enjoy. oh shit right okay right our first one we have here today is my ex has moved into my street is this boy talk i believe so look but they do say they do say i know what you're gonna say here and i agree yeah they say that if you're not meant to like if your paths aren't meant to cross like you're never gonna see this guy because like if you break up and your paths aren't meant to cross you're never going to see them again I've never seen any of my exes out of the back no they're not never and they are like Sunde lived too far yeah like I've seen yours I know but he's never seen you because your paths were never meant to cross ever again do you know what I mean yeah it's like they're not coming into your life anymore like you never meant you were never really meant to meet them it's like the red string theory exactly and also it's like I don't see anyone in my building.

25:18Sophia Matveeva: There's so many flats. I don't see anyone. So true. Think in this hallway. Have you ever seen anyone in this hallway? Never. How many flats? How many doors is there? About eight doors. I've never even looked that way. Exactly. So it's like, same street, same schmeet, you know? Yeah, true. Never going to see it. But I understand this is alarming. This is alarming. But maybe it means that you're meant to be. Yes, it could be. Because your paths are bringing you back together. As long as he's not doing it on purpose. True. As a kind of trying, you know, that kind of situation. True, that's a different way to look at it.

25:44It's just like a coincidence.

25:47Sophia Matveeva: And that's beautiful. Unless we don't want to do this, man. But let's just say. Absolutely love you ladies and the podcast. I never thought I would have a dilemma to write in, but here I am. Here you are. Here you are. Let's have it, Sarah. I was in a relationship with someone for almost three years. I was head over heels, but I had to walk away because he wasn't treating me the way I would expect. I respect that. Well done. Am I right? Absolutely. We were both heartbroken and he begged for me to stay, But I knew he was full of false promises And I had to move on Just over two years later And my new partner has moved in with me So maybe this is where He knows she lives Okay you've moved on This is fine We're going to figure this out It's not relevant to you anymore Yeah He's moved in with me Maybe Shmama You're never going to see him You're never going to fucking see him We are really happy and planning a future Babies Engagement the lot.

26:42Sophia Matveeva: I've attached a picture as I know you guys appreciate it. Mama. Mama's here honey. I have recently discovered that my ex has decided to buy a house in the same street as me with his new girlfriend. Gosh we're buying properties. We're paying stamp duties live on the same street as her ex. Does he know you live there? I think he does but I don't think the girlfriend knows. Because if I was that girlfriend I would have something to say about this street that we've but I guess she's not the wiser. She's not the wiser. But I think he's all-knowing and he knows what he's doing. How would he know though?

27:15Sophia Matveeva: How would he know? I think it's the same spot because he's moved in with her. That's my only assumption. Oh, so the ex lived here with Sarah. Oh, not necessarily. Or maybe like this is just where Sarah's always lived. Her new boyfriend's moving in with her. Got you, got you. I feel like he knows. Don't you? That is a weird... Like, come on. Yeah. Um My ladies Please tell me that this is not normal behaviour So she's saying that this is purposeful His new girlfriend isn't from my area So she might not even know I live here She doesn't know She would not be okay with that She does not know you live there I don't think she knows you exist That's a good question This is the house I was in when I was with him So he knows I live on this street This is a bit fucked actually how do you know he's moving in is he already beginning of scene or what have you seen his car do you know the estate agent if they let you know some mum said something yeah like do we just know this stuff like has he posted on instagram outside the house the front door with the keys maybe someone sent that to us Sarah said I have super mixed feelings about this and I don't know what to do I'm happy he has moved on and really wish them all the best but do they really need to do it on the same street as me it's such an awkward situation what would you girls do do i get the for sale sign up so ask sarah's house please help very distressed sarah i would say yes this is not this is not ideal at all and you wouldn't you don't want to feel i understand the feeling of not wanting to be on edge every time you leave your house walk out your front door put your bins out put someone in your car do anything like go into the gym like you'd never want to feel like going on a walk who's outside like is he out there like am i gonna bump into him like even in our cars on the street are we gonna pass like i understand all of those feelings but i also would say it's pretty rare that i ever see a neighbor yeah like you're not running into your neighbors constantly yeah i don't think you're going to be seeing this man every single day by any means maybe once every two weeks yeah every month yeah i mean i completely depends i've probably seen my next door neighbors there's a door right next to my door i've probably seen them in so i've been there for a year and a half yeah honestly five times yeah like i've run into the oh yeah we're getting live yeah i've had some new people moving next door to me i'm still not even sure who they are like i've grabbed a couple parcels from them because i've knocked on the door but on the street i don't think i've ever seen these people so let that be comforting for the moment i know it feels like oh my god you're on top of me you're in my space but if it's like get an it is like he's weirdo for that yeah you know exactly where i live like your poor girlfriend is none the wiser like this is weird it's so weird and if this is his little idea on how he's gonna maybe get you back does he think he's gonna be making you jealous like don't know what is going on in that little brain maybe it's a beautiful street i mean it must be i mean but like maybe weird maybe and this is maybe thinking too good of him but maybe his girlfriend found the house fell in love with it wanted to go and view it and was like i love it i love it i love it come and see it and he was like oh my god that's the same street and maybe he was like i'm not sure about this one babe like i don't really like this and maybe she was like no this is the one like we need this one but then it's his job I know I know it's his job to be like look my ex girl actually lives I spent three years in that house yeah having sex with another woman but maybe he thought her mother isn't there anymore I don't want to have an argument like yeah maybe he's not bought this house to get you back is what I'm saying maybe it was just a weird like I don't know I want to think the words of this man yeah and I want to think he knows what he's doing It's weird mind games It's weird weird weird Weird Like could you not have gone on the next street Exactly it's weird It's just weird I think like He's moving in We can't stop it We can't stop it Which is why I'm trying to say Like it's pretty rare that we see neighbours Should we let our Brian know?

31:45Sophia Matveeva: Yeah Yeah Definitely Brian Guess who the fuck How fucking mental is that? Well however you found this out Yeah Guess who the fuck's moved in He's fucking weird Look you know I broke up with him so like let's just monitor this situation if this is the case where imagine if you start getting like letters and stuff well I'm look at that I'm kind of spooked like this is weird like imagine one of my exes moved into this building I go you're like that am I actually imagine that situation oh that would be horrible like that's fucked oh my god I'm actually deep in it now like deep though that's really I'd be really on edge really scared imagine if my ex moved in down the road with his new girlfriend.

32:25I'd be like, oh, go away. Go away.

32:28Sophia Matveeva: It's actually quite unsettling. Yeah, it is. And freaky and just like not nice. No, it's not nice. So let your Brian know. Defo. I think, look, it's happening. If it's causing you distress, if it's making you anxious every day, all of this, then we're going to have to move, which is rude. You probably love the house. You bought it. Really annoying. I mean, or... I would monitor it. Do we reach out to him and say, mate? come on i think it depends get out of here i think it depends on like if we're going to be very grown up and very civil it's like look you live here with your partner you're very doesn't affect me you're very serious with you're getting engaged you're going to have kids like great he's also living with his girlfriend who he could be equally as serious with yeah and it it didn't sound like you ended on like nasty terms it was more of a loving thing of like we want to be together but we're not so maybe it's just actually a very civil like there's no bad blood like i can wave at you if i see you like hi we're all in the know here like my boyfriend knows this is you and like we're not mates we're not coming over for a barbecue i'm not even but like i'm not even waving it yet i know but like can we be somewhat civil if we see each other on the street and look at like look i don't want to talk to you you don't want to talk to me like We don't need to cross paths But I am hopeful That you won't actually Really see this man this much And it won't affect you As much as As it feels like You know And like once it settles Yeah Give it like You know what I mean Three months And you'll be like Oh I've not even seen him yet Yeah You'll be like Oh actually okay Let's hope it's like that And let's hope it's not like him Like actively trying Knocking on your window To run into you Because I'm fearful But he's gonna He's trying to run into you Well you need to get A ring doorbell then Yeah Get some ring doorbells up Sensors Get a couple CCTV cameras, check them all before you leave the house, make sure the street's clear.

34:22Yeah, fair.

34:23Sophia Matveeva: That's what I would do. Yeah. But yeah. Good luck, Sarah. Freaky, weird, freak.

34:41Okay, dilemma number two. Whoa.

34:45Sophia Matveeva: How does this happen? Sophie I don't know You know Nothing shocks me these days Help Oh no I married My father-in-law How Now how would that happen then How would that happen A father-in-law is Your boyfriend's dad Your boyfriend's dad Your husband's dad So then they broke up And then you've got And your husband's now Your stepson Oh my god That was crazy Oh my god Hi ladies I, Sarah, have been a faithful listener for years. Never thought I'd need to write in faithfulness. I know, I know, we're Taylor's oldest time in the girls' bathroom, but I cannot dare speak of this to my friends or family.

35:30Do they not know you're married then? I knew I needed to consult my internet sisters. Cheers. Cheers, Sarah, we're here for you, we're going to figure this out. This is quite the situation, Sarah. Yeah, this is interesting. A bit of a backstory. I have been married to my husband Brian for nine years. What is going on there? What is this? We have a beautiful marriage and children. Honestly, every day I feel like I'm living the dream. A wonderful, handsome, funny... Oh, I know. ...pulteo husband.

36:04Sophia Matveeva: Is she just saying that they're like the same? It's not literal. Is she just saying that it's like... Oh, okay. is like his dad. Let's keep reading. Sorry, we didn't think that. Supportive husband and the sweetest kids. My husband's dad, my father-in-law, Steve. Yeah, we're not literally in front. Thank God. You had us there for a minute, Sarah. Thank God, he's in euphoria. Has always been so sweet to me. It's kind of a running joke amongst my husband and his sister that I am Steve's favourite. He constantly gives me money. Sign me, I'll take it. Gift cards Tells me to treat myself And always Says the money And gifts Are only For me So like Don't give this To the grandkids You know Spend this on yourself Sort of thing Oh It's a special treatment From Steve I would be Lapping that up Sarah Maybe he's crossing a line In some aspects Is that where Sarah's going Hmm Let's see Whenever we go To Steve's house He always tells me To sit down On the couch And he will take care Of the rest Steve's a great guy Steve has got it all figured out.

37:13He has not ever done this with his kids.

37:16Sophia Matveeva: So he's not, so he's got a daughter. Yeah. So she's saying, I've not seen him treat Helen this way. Yeah. But also like, you're the guest of the house. That's his kids. There is a difference. Yeah. Yeah. Like when I'm going to Brian's mum's house, she's not asking me to do anything, but she's going to tell Brian to do stuff. Of course. So there is a difference there. Yeah. Like you are more of a guest, even though you've been together for years and years and years. Yeah. There's a different dynamic there. I wouldn't expect him to treat you exactly the same as he would treat his kids. Yeah. But I hear you when you're like, wow, he's so generous to me.

37:47And then it's a bit opposite to his kids.

37:49Sophia Matveeva: And also it's been happening for nine years. Like he's still treating you. He's still treating you. Yeah. Steve recently started dating a new woman about two years ago. Anytime Steve and his new girlfriend would argue, he would reach out asking for advice on how to handle the fight. That's kind of cute. I like that actually. it was quite sweet okay i was always supportive of them just working it out and being in a neutral position to listen to his side and hers and trying to ease the problems between them again my husband and his sister would say it's interesting that he only goes to sarah for help in his relationship yes he's not going to his son he's not going to his daughter no maybe he feels like he doesn't want to like put that on his children and also like because i guess he was with their mum like He might think like They might not want to know The ins and outs Yeah But yeah I would flag it too Me too He only comes to me Like your dad loves me Yeah Yeah It's also notable That when I started dating My husband Steve would constantly Make comments That suggested I was out of my husband's league So He has got a real He's got a soft spot for you That's flattering He thinks You're attractive Yeah he thinks you're a catch He thinks you're a great catch how he's treating you as such last thing to know is most recently my brian made the comment if steve had the option to pick between you and his new girlfriend he would absolutely pick you yeah because like we like now this is getting a little bit weird like we don't need this to get weird like even the fact that you've noticed that brian is like that's a bit i don't want it to it gets the weird stage yeah because like because it was just giving like favoritism like like he loves this in-law this is his step as daughter-in-law like and he thinks she's great like i'm a great catch for your son cute cute yeah like i'm the mother of your grandkids yeah like yeah but saying stuff like it's like let's not get make me uncomfortable yeah because this is weird now because then brian said it's blatantly obvious he has the hots for you all right the hot is just weird yeah i like it's just got weird yeah and now this is weird oh the tone has changed completely because now like i'm gonna be like at first i thought it was like friendly friendly friendly and that what you mean the hot the hots is weird it's weird um i mean i'm not gonna deny that steve definitely treats me differently compared to brian and my sister-in-law but i also am not going to outright admit that to them okay now after all the backstory here is the dilemma right last night i had a dream that i married my father-in-law the mind works in crazy crazy ways like i had a really scary dream i won't even know i'm often i don't i'm not a dreamer i've had two really vivid dreams past two nights really i can't remember last night's but i woke up being like i remember that and then the one before i remember it also it's quite rare that i have a dream yeah actually and remember it that's good that means you're in a deep sleep that means i was in an unsettled sleep dreaming dreaming dreaming sometimes I would like occasionally like maybe once a year I will have a nightmare that wakes up and I feel yeah oh my god that was awful but it's very rare that I have a dream or not yeah that's good um but yeah okay so you had a dream that you were married probably only natural because loads of people have been chatting about how he's got you know it's probably just like he's on your mind it was one of those dreams that felt so realistic I can remember every detail of the wedding oh my husband officiated it oh my sister-in-law was my bridesmaid even my kids were involved oh god thank god it's just a dream sarah yes my sis uh my father-in-law and i stood up same whoa we're sat on this wall i'm getting a bit restless my father-in-law stood up in front of everyone and we exchanged vows had the whole you may kiss the bride moment um the next part of the dream steve and i are sitting on the couch cuddling and talking about how incredible our night in bed was i woke up literally in shock that i could have dreamt this that like i married my father-in-law i cannot get it out of my head just the thought of it makes my stomach turn i mean no offense to steve he is fit and healthy works out every day he's very well always very sweet to me but dreaming about marrying him is way too much for my brain to process yeah i mean it's not something you want to admit to your brain is it i would keep that secret especially because of what's going on.

42:19I would keep that on the downline. I feel like I can't get this out of my head. Now when I see a text in the family group chat from him, I instantly think of the dream. Oh god. I can't even imagine the next time I see him in person. Oh god. Ladies, I really need help. How do I forget this dream or at least face the reality that it is just a dream? How do I forget something like this? I can't bear the thought of it for sharing this with anyone yet. Sarah, don't share this with anyone. It's not necessary. Look. You shared it with us, that's enough.

42:45Sophia Matveeva: At the end of the day, We're just going to have to forget about it There is nothing else we can do We're just going to keep cool and forget about it And move on I'm looking at your pictures now Sarah You've got a gorgeous family Look at all these lovely children And look at this wonderful husband Listen he does look like your Brian I can see the similarity In like 20, 30 years time They are very similar looking But that should bring you I mean yeah he's a strapping grandad I will say He's a fit He's got a cap on He's keeping it young And youthful He's muscular His biceps are bulging out Of his polo A baseball cap like that Right page of 70 I want to say It's you Sarah The only way forward You've got to just Forget about that Yeah And I think look Like It could be way worse Like he's obviously Just very fond of you He likes you He gives you a bit of cash Gives you some nice gifts I forgot about the cash We are here We are fine Okay It could be Imagine if he didn't like you And he pushed you out And he didn't speak to his grandkids Like everything is very harmonious Yeah Like let's just keep it He's just called some spot feed There's nothing wrong with that Let's stop the weird comments about He's got the hot I would say to Brian Like don't say that That's weird I hope we're checking Brian When he's saying that Like that's weird Shut up Yeah that's weird Whatever Every time we're with grandad We're keeping it You know Peezy You know I'm your daughter Whatever Look, it could always be worse I will never forget the story Of That lady we kind of know And she went and hugged Her father-in-law From behind at a pool Have we ever said that?

44:26Sophia Matveeva: Thinking that it was her boyfriend Picture this, yeah We're on a holiday Yeah My boyfriend's here, his father's here And the mother of my Brian, we're two couples essentially I have then mistook My Brian For his dad And I've gone up to his dad And hugged him from behind My tits are out I've got fake tits My tits are out And I've hugged him from behind And then we've got to continue on with this holiday And now the wife hates me Because she thinks I'm after her husband Yeah like genuinely she thinks I'm after Nothing could I could never Back to question of the week Recover from that That is the most embarrassing thing I think so And I've got I could not Second hand embarrassment from that I could not recover from that No I could not have then A lovely holiday with the family Like let's go to spec savers Let's Let's make sure How did we do that Who were Apparently they really do Resemble each other Yeah But is the dad not got like Age spots on his shoulders I know Like surely he's like Fucking Silver grey on the back I don't know But look the sun's in our eyes We've got sunglasses on Yeah Sometimes when you've got sunglasses on and the sun is shining, I can't see right.

45:42And also, like, last time I checked, that was my boyfriend in the pool. I didn't see his dad get in.

45:47Sophia Matveeva: Look, it's navy blue shorts all around. Like, everyone's got a pair of navy blue shorts on. Like, I can't. But yeah. I think nothing will top that. So it's like, look, you've not hugged him inappropriately in a bikini. You've not kissed him. You know. You've not actually married him. Yeah. You're fine. I think we've just got to forget about it and move on. Literally just block out your brain. Next time we see him, hello, granddad. You're looking old and wrinkly today Like You are A granddad But I mean the tea is He's not looking old and wrinkly I mean he is a little He's looking full grey He's looking buff He's jacked He's jacked He's a jacked granddad He's got a big muscle there I will tell you Yeah And he's like Looks like he's got like Some fake teeth as well Like some nice bright white teeth Look he's looking good He's looking good Yeah But as long as But our Sarah has no feelings For this man No and no one's saying That you have Sarah But you just had that vivid dream.

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48:45Sophia Matveeva: There's one thing that can really trigger me if I'm in a relationship and it's inappropriate jokes at the expense of me. That doesn't bother me at all. Really? Not at all. But I know you don't like that. You've never liked that though. you've never you've never liked any sort of like joke banter personal always i can take it i can but it's not your preferred if it's like if i would think there's a bit of truth to it especially like in a relationship no no like don't make a joke at my expense like we can be funny No it's not a bad thing It's not a bad thing Not something about Like you cheating Or like You know something That's like Serious No Well that's just not nice Well exactly So So our Sarah here says Is my boyfriend's joke Actually a red flag Well what's this joke Exactly This is what I don't like these boyfriends Who are making jokes With these friends With their girlfriends What is this joke Why do you mean like this Yeah we're just trying To get covered On to see his floor Get the chair like this It's quite nice Oh I'm really intrigued To know what this joke is Me too Because I Me too Look I love a joke I'm a comedian But she really is You know Let's see what he said Let's see what he said I have been with my boyfriend For over two years And we're currently travelling Around South East Asia Beautiful Bon voyage I need some advice Because something happened recently That has really thrown me I'm already I'm like getting hot I'm dying to know What this joke is To give context When we were out for drinks When we're out for drinks or meals My boyfriend sometimes jokes That waitresses or random people Around us fancy him He's not usually big headed And I've never had trust issues With him so I've always just laughed it off I saw it as him just trying to get a bit of attention From me or playfully you know Making me jealous But it never felt serious across the line No that doesn't feel serious Yeah but whatever that's fine cute whatever banter bat fast forward to now while we're travelling he's obviously took it too far he's obviously took it too far what an idiot we've made a couple of friends uh oh uh oh and we went out for drinks my boyfriend started saying the waitress fancied him again but this time it just kept escalating because like look it's funny whatever but like shut up now yeah stop it now you've said your joke yeah we've laughed funny we can move on look you're an attractive guy whatever but shut up now yeah let's stop it because i'm sure i'm sure if you were going with me he fancies me he fancies me he'll have something to say about it for sure so like shut your mouth you said it once don't push it yeah but obviously she says it's escalating how he was joking that she'd been like it's like shut up yeah he's keep he's he's he's keeping it going he's digging this hole like what is he put your shovel down he was joking that she'd been giving him the eyes and it started to feel awkward because we were with other people and he was like shut up yeah and it's like you're embarrassing me now like these lot don't get it yeah like we're with Stephen and Helen yeah and I can talk about this when they go back to their hotel room yeah like you're embarrassing you're making us look like a weird couple yeah like you're letting the side down like leave it that's weird yeah yeah it's like okay if it's just the two of us but like stop it embarrassing me because imagine I was out with a new couple We'd just met And he's going She fancies Me she fancies Look at her She's gonna be I'm like God What's happening here Yeah weird Read the room Yeah and it started to feel awkward Because we were with other people Like new people Our new friends look confused I was just making me feel sick Not the new friends We're travelling across Southeast Asia Like we don't know each other like that Like stop it They think we're weird now So our new friends Looking confused Almost like we They were wondering Why I wasn't saying anything and not someone who likes confrontation in public so we'll stay quiet at first.

52:43So you're not even laughing along.

52:44Sophia Matveeva: If this was a joke, we laughed, now shut up. Yeah. But obviously he's still going, she's looking at me, look at the eyes. And you're just like, shut up. And he's took it to the whole table, really. Yeah, it's table talk. It's like, you're actually not objective, Brian. Yeah, I've only got my look goggles on. Yeah, okay. It's getting awkward now. So we took it further, she said. Then he took it further. Oh my God. This is like making me angry He took it though though And started saying things like She wants to fuck me What the fuck is your problem? Because genuinely Imagine how Sarah was saying this Oh look that Brian wants to fuck me He would have a problem Wait when you said Like your boyfriend's jokes My head did not go in this direction Like my head was going Teasing, you were just going teasing Teasing's fine, whatever I did not think You were going down This rabbit hole I thought he was like Taking the piss out of like One of your clothes Or like Something like I don't know But this guy's waltzing around Going she wants me She wants to fuck me Like what is your problem Why is he saying this I don't know Obviously he's very He's got some insecurities Like he doesn't think This is funny I don't know Like what He's like Is she actually looking at him Like Or is he just seeing things Does he just say it I don't know Anyway So it's just said she wants to fuck me Still supposedly joking Even though he and the waitress Hadn't even spoken He's embarrassing himself Like Because she's not even giving you the eyes I'm mortified Fair enough If I saw an exchange I was like oh she wants She's asked you too But yeah You've not even spoke So why are you then Calling out random girls Going she wants to fuck me That's so weird That is so weird Like, oh my God.

54:36That is so weird. She said they haven't even spoken. It's giving God complex. It just makes... It's just like it's really missing the mark as well.

54:47Sophia Matveeva: You're just trying to upset me. Yeah. At this point, you're trying to upset me on purpose because this is not going to make me feel good. No. Like, you are trying to ruin my night and you're doing it on purpose. Yeah. And it's not even like... I don't like that. Let's say your boyfriend is like 25. God, it's weird. This waitress is this lovely old lady, like 60. And she's a bit cheeky, a bit flirty. It's like making a joke. Like, okay. You don't even know this. We've not even had an interaction with this woman. She's probably also our age. And you're just making it really weird. This just isn't funny.

55:26It's not funny. It's weird and so random. You've literally picked out a random person and you keep saying that she wants to fuck you. I think he's trying to make you... No one gets it. No one gets it.

55:39Sophia Matveeva: My mind goes straight to, like, you're trying to make me feel insecure. Yeah. Like, this is not fitting right with me. You're trying to make me compare myself to her. I think he's, like, he's trying to make you feel jealous and trying to make you feel like, people want me, you know? Like, girls want me. Like, don't forget what you've got. Like, people want me. But, like, you've not even had an interaction where everyone saw she flirted with you. Do you know what I mean? Fair enough. Yeah, it wasn't even like, you know, it was like you went up to the bar and she gave you a drink for free and it was like, fuck, you know, she's got my drink free, she loves it.

56:11I would find that funny. Yeah, and it's like,

56:13Sophia Matveeva: No way. Let me let anyone go, like, funny. But the fact that she's not even looked in your direction, mate, like, it's too random. Right, anyway, he's obviously, he's taken it further and further and further. So. Self-sabotage, isn't it? Honestly. So he said, She wants to fuck me At that point I quietly pulled him up on it Away from the room Nice But he completely shook me down He told me it was just a joke I don't like this like Framing things as just a joke No No That hurt my feelings That wasn't a joke Like that wasn't a fucking joke It was just a joke I need to get over it And even after I told him It was making me uncomfortable Yeah like he's not Yeah I don't like that Now he's not listening to us No He's not even said I'm sorry babe It was just meant to be funny I'll drop it now That's all he needed to say And it would have been over Yeah And we'd have gone back to the table Sat down and had a nice night But no He's had to Just a joke It's funny It was funny Everyone else was laughing Let it go Let it go Relax My husband's not doing that No So Yeah He could have just said Oh sorry Completely got that wrong Took it too far Like read the room wrong I was a bit nervous I was showing off in front of our YouTube trying to impress our new friends like yeah i just thought it was funny like sorry that's all he that's seriously all that would have been it but like why did why what why not do that so we then went to another bar actually i'm just like oh and there's we've got more we've got more please don't start again like learn from your mistakes straight away he started being flirty with the next waitress who was then flirting back he's cheating what planet are we on right now What's happened tonight?

57:58Sophia Matveeva: We're on a double date Well now he's angry Now you've pissed him off And he's like I'm gonna double down And keep going I'm gonna show you Prick I hate this man Prick I hate this man Prick I don't like this Me neither I don't like this This wasn't where I thought We were going We're not in Manchester I can't just go home We're in Asia Yeah We're in South East Asia We've got another eight weeks And I've got a backpack Do you know what I mean? So She's then floating back, because obviously she's thinking, this isn't his girlfriend, whatever, I'm going to float with this guy, he's floating with me.

58:32Sophia Matveeva: Why would he do it before his girlfriend? Yeah, he would never. He told her to feel his arms. Who is this? We've got pictures of this man as well. That is a dump on the spot. Are you joking? He's disgusted. I hate him. What's happening right now? I hate, I'm getting full body. I hate this guy. But also like now I'm terrified of how you behave when I'm not there. Well yeah. Because when I am here, you're going this far. Yeah, it's crazy. So imagine when I'm not here, what the hell are you doing? And on top of that, we're in front of new friends. Yeah, you're embarrassing me as well. You're embarrassing me.

59:10Sophia Matveeva: But also, you're doing all this on purpose to upset me. I don't know what is going to do with his brain right now. So she felt his arms and she called him a big boy. I'm not blaming her. She thinks this guy is single. She's having a fun time at work. This is all on him. But obviously, she's feeling comfortable enough to flirt with this man. Yeah. She's none the wiser. She's none the wiser. No. I nearly gagged. but then I felt annoyed embarrassed and completely disregarded I pulled him up on it again and this time he apologised and seemed to realise he'd gone too far too far like too little too late check yourself two hours ago mate we're past that now he spent the rest of the night apologising afterwards we spoke properly right what's he got to say for himself then like what have you actually got to say for yourself okay We spoke properly.

1:00:05Sophia Matveeva: And I told him how strange the whole thing felt. I asked if he was trying to show off in front of the new male friends we'd made. Oh, God, this makes me feel sick. This is so eerie now. This makes me feel sick. Like, this is really eerie. Like, you're trying to show off to your new male mates. How old are you? Oh, my God. But also, like, at the expense of me, your girlfriend, like, grow up. Grow the girl. Well, it's not boys club. How old are you? They must be 19. But he said no. I also said it clearly wasn't about trying to get my attention because I'd already asked him to stop and he was so rude about it his response now is that he doesn't know why he did it which honestly doesn't feel like enough of an answer yeah well that's convenient it's also brought up a lot of anxiety for me because I've had similar experiences with my ex more than anything it just made me feel rubbish and confused I've genuinely never worried about him before I felt like I couldn't trust him but now I do he's ruined it he's ruined it that says it all Sarah like I think it's a lovely thing to be able to laugh with your partner and like not take each other too seriously and be able to have a joke and like be able to like poke fun and just like laugh at each other like I think yeah poking fun at each other is lovely teasing like I think if you can do that with your partner like amazing but this is so far from that that wasn't poking fun or anything that was that was just like i'm gonna go flirt with this girl in front of you and see how you react like that was just a really i don't know if he was sort of on some sort of like power trip or on some like i'm gonna show these new guy mates like what i don't know it was really weird but like this would it just sounds really immature it's really disappointing and I really just don't like it.

1:01:55Sophia Matveeva: We're out for drinks. Yeah. We're on holiday, number one. We're with new friends that we're getting to know. Number two, you should be on your best behaviour. Like, we're getting to know these people. Yeah. But also, like, you're here to support me. I'm here to support you. We're a couple. Yeah, we're a unit. We're a team. You have my back, like, especially because we're far from home. Yeah. Yeah. So why on earth the first place he went to was, I'm going to start, she wants to fuck me. I'm making eyes she's making a oh yeah feel my muscles but like no no especially after I've told you that's making me feel uncomfortable and he's got on the defect like no you're a freak you're a weirdo I forgot a little bit much just put side note so she said question so my question is is this just a joke that went too far or does it point to something deeper definitely points to something deeper I reckon I would I would unfortunately say the same like this is his behaviour imagine when he's out with the boys but I would also be intrigued to know like you guys have obviously been together for some sort of substantial period because you've been traveling together so like is this his first offense is this very out of character no she says this is like a joke he makes that flirting with that oh she what like she fancies me like he said this before yeah and she's kind of been like yeah because like if this was his first go at this kind of like style of joke and like it just really went wrong Yeah and we checked him And the train really came off the rails And we checked him And he apologised And he was apologising all night Like okay You're a fucking idiot But like whatever Maybe But yeah If this is a repeated issue Any repeated issue is a problem Is a problem Because you're choosing To do it again If this is your repeated issue Like I'd be sick of it I think the sheer fact That you checked him At that first bar You said look This is not funny I feel uncomfortable Embarrassed What are you doing He got all defensive that was his time to then reflect to go my bad let's go to the next bar move on I'm really sorry let me suck up to my girlfriend yeah but the fact that he he kept it going yeah you checked him and he didn't even listen to you and he took it way too far this is not a man we want to be with at all are we still in South East Asia?

1:04:09Sophia Matveeva: yeah we're still there she's just said side note when we get back from travelling we'll be doing long distance in different cities for one to two years we're breaking up it's not gonna happen we're breaking up with this man let's cut him loose I don't want to be in a relationship with someone I don't trust especially when we won't be around each other as much please let me know your thoughts attach a couple of pictures of me and Brian and some just of me love the pod nice well this is our Brian I mean it's extremely blurry Sarah but it's absolutely fine from the looks of it from the looks of it no one was eyeing him up it's like one huge pixel but from what I can decipher yeah I mean I mean, he's got socks and sandals on.

1:04:50So from that alone. On the beach. People are looking at you because they're thinking, you're a fucking weirdo. We're on a beach. Why have you got socks and Birkenstocks on?

1:04:56Sophia Matveeva: He's also got a muscle tee on. Yeah. He doesn't look like a big boy muscly to me. Sarah, you've got a gorgeous swimsuit on there. I like that a lot. Sarah, on the other hand, looks absolutely incredible. Yeah. You look like a bronze goddess. I mean, we've got an image of our Sarah. I mean, stunning. Oh, wow. Beautiful views, beautiful girl. It's giving Highline a bar, isn't it? Yeah. Cornstone Martini. Let's get it. It's gorgeous. Nice makeup You're stunning And the fact that he would Disregard you And keep doubling down On this flirting With this other girl No I think Look We've had a great time Travelling for the most part Yeah We're gonna get back And it's not gonna last Yeah Look We're gonna try and make The best memories we can Yeah We're doing a once in a lifetime Travel experience I'm sure you've had Like some good times Yes With this boy And I think it's just Like it's just coming to an end Yeah You know Like if we're going to be long distance anyway for the next two years, like you're young, you want to have fun.

1:05:51You want to be able to date someone who you can see regularly. You want to be able to pop over to your boyfriend's house on a Wednesday night. Like you don't really want to be with someone when you're so young, especially someone who like low-key pisses you off and commit to them for two years long distance. I just think it's not worth it. I agree. So let's enjoy the travels while they last. You know, it's okay to have a bit of a fallout every now and again. And let's not let it ruin the whole trip. We've spent the money. We're here. Let's enjoy the rest of the trip. Let's have a nice time. But I don't think this is your husband.

1:06:27Sophia Matveeva: Yeah, you've probably realised here this is not my forever partner because my forever person would not do this to me, make me feel the way that I feel, especially when I've pulled him up and then doing it again. and now you've implanted an ounce of trust issues into me. So the fact that we're going to be mouths apart I'm going to be... It doesn't help. Nothing's going to help here. But let's try and enjoy the views and the food in Asia for the rest of our time. The weather. The weather. That beautiful sandy beach. But I think Sarah, this guy's not the one for you. Yeah. That's how I feel in my heart.

1:07:08Sophia Matveeva: Good luck.

1:07:15God, okay. This is good. This is mental.

1:07:18Sophia Matveeva: This is what gets me out of bed in the morning. Do I break off my engagement over his lies? Yes. Right. We'll end the podcast here. Thank you for watching. Good night. Thank you and good night, everybody. Have a great weekend. We're not marrying a liar. No. And also, it's much easier to break off an engagement than it is to break off a marriage. Lord, we know it. Like, so I know at the moment, it's like, oh my God, am I really going to break up an engagement? It feels more than just like dumping your boyfriend. But imagine what it would be like to try and break up with your husband. Like that stuff's not easy, you know?

1:07:54Like if this guy is lying, this is no husband of ours. Oh my God. Oh God. She's 23. Sarah, get that fucking ring off and go to the club.

1:08:04Sophia Matveeva: Let's head off to somewhere tropical this. So let's shake our teeth. Oh my God. He's 31. I hate this man. Oh, my daughter needs a wig. Oh, you keep reading. Okay, I'll keep reading. A subscriber since 2019. Wow, Sarah. Thank you for being here. Yeah, he must have been like 12. Can't believe I'm actually submitting a dilemma, but what the helly. I need some honest advice because my head and my heart right now are completely conflicted. I'm 23, and I've been with my Brian, my fiancé, 31, for three years. Okay. What's the math on that then? So she met him when she was 20 and he was 29. Wait. Yeah, 29.

1:08:53Sophia Matveeva: 28? 28. 29. Wait, 29? Believe it. 28. Anyway, sorry. We lived together, we're engaged, and up until recently, I would have said our relationship is really happy and stable. It's my first healthy relationship and he's always felt like my safe space. We were friends for two years before we got together, both coming out of relationships where we've been cheated on, so trust has always been a big thing for us. When we first started dating, Brian said if we were going to take things seriously, we shouldn't see other people to protect the friendship. I agreed. He told me he wasn't seeing anyone else either and that the last girl he'd been in the date with let's call her susan he'd met up with just to tell her he did not want to see her again and he was only there for 10 minutes he probably slept with her or something didn't he i don't trust this sorry sarah but this man i don't know if you saw the back of the other dilemma so you've been friends with him since you were 18 and he was 26 don't like him yeah i remember even questioning that at the time because Because it felt a bit unnecessary to do after going on one date.

1:10:02Yeah, like why are you formally meeting up with someone to tell them you don't want to see them anymore? You've been on one date.

1:10:07Sophia Matveeva: Like you can ghost them. Well, you can send them a text. But he said he felt bad and liked to end things in person. I think he's right. I'm not sure about that. Fast forward to now, three years later, I came across messages between Brian and Susan. Sure. Because I was running his business Instagram. And it turns out that wasn't true at all. So we found text messages from three years ago. I hate this guy. That meet-up was actually a date while we were already seeing each other, and they were there for four hours. Afterwards, that was just an unnecessary lie. So unnecessary. You were just telling me the last date you'd gone on.

1:10:48Sophia Matveeva: You did not need to lie about that. But also, you're the one that said to me, because we have a friendship, let's be exclusive from the get-go to protect the friendship. Like, you brought this on. Like, I... Okay, that meet-up was actually a date. We were already together. They were together for four hours. Afterwards, he messaged her saying how much he enjoyed it and gave her his number to continue talking on WhatsApp. I looked back on our messages from that day. He didn't message me whilst he was at Starbucks, but when he got home, text me saying, sorry, babe, I had a nap, which now I know was a lie because you're on a date.

1:11:26when I confronted him I gave him multiple chances to tell the truth even saying this is your opportunity to be honest yeah like it's fine tell me but he still denied it and stuck to the same story it was only when I showed him that I'd seen the messages that he admitted he lied oh my he was crying apologetic and I said I was reconsidering everything good you're standing on business I like that i then reached out to susan to understand the timeline and she told me they were still seeing each other until mid july brian and i started seeing each other in may so the whole of may the whole of june and the first two weeks of july so he said to you we just started dating

1:12:13Sophia Matveeva: like we don't need to talk about other people like we've not even been on a date yet no and And he said, look, because we're friends, to protect this friendship, to respect each other. Let's call this exclusive now. Yeah. Uh-oh. Let me close this door. Whoa, la, la, la, la, la, la, la, blueberry, blueberry. Whoa, la, la, la, la, la, la, la, la, la. No barking. Sorry. Just had to distract Loops. So, yeah. And he just did that off his own accord. And you felt, oh, my God, this guy's serious about me. Of course. Do you know why he did that? Of course. Take it away. I hate this guy. Because... I hate this guy.

1:12:49He... It's like... It's like... Think of a yellow car, see a yellow car. He knew that he was chatting to multiple girls, you and Susan being two of them. But because he is an insecure idiot, he was thinking, oh no. Like, if I'm talking to multiple people, Sarah could be too. And I don't want her speaking to multiple people. I want me to be the only man that she is entertaining. and he says so I'm gonna call it's like when someone's cheating on you they keep accusing you of cheating because they know like I know I'm getting away with it so you could be getting away with it too and he says that paranoia so

1:13:27Sophia Matveeva: I'm gonna pull the wool over Sarah's eyes under the guise of you know saying I'm not gonna see anyone else so I don't want you to see anyone else just just because because he was insecure he didn't want no one else to have you when he hadn't even proven to you that he was of yeah a right guy I hate him. He just got himself into such a mess. For what, really? Like, that is so calculated. Very, very calculated. I don't like that. No, I don't. It's very calculated. And just because I'm a bit younger, you think I'm a bit naive, you think you can trick me like this. I don't like that. Don't like that.

1:14:04Okay, so for weeks he was seeing us both at the same time while telling me he wasn't seeing anyone else.

1:14:10Sophia Matveeva: Yeah, so for two months. Yeah. And after making it clear he wouldn't have been okay with me doing the same. We ended up becoming girlfriend and boyfriend in August. Right. What's got me really hurt is how far it went. There was a day I spent the whole day with him, gym, lunched, watched a film at his. I left around 5pm because he said he was seeing his mates. Oh my. I've now found out he had dinner booked with Sarah at 7pm the same night. Oh, he was cheating on you then. He was cheating on you. Yeah, like, you were cheating on me. Because in my mind, we were exclusive. Good night, babe. with a love heart at 11pm when he must have got home from the date.

1:14:47So you've really gone back through your timeline and you've got your receipts figured out.

1:14:51Sophia Matveeva: And we messaged Susan and we corroborate, what's the word? Corroborate. Corroborate. Like all the timelines. He also met my family during this time, which makes it feel like it wasn't just casual dating. He was cheated on you for two months. Susan said he did eventually end things with her and told her he'd been seeing someone else and wanted to pursue that. So he did like choose me in the end. he says he lied because he was scared i'd stop seeing him and then it snowballed into something he didn't know how to admit but you didn't need to say that in the beginning we were just dating like we weren't exclusive like well yeah because the problem here is like he was scared you were going to find someone else i but but let him figure out let me figure out my two options oh yeah yeah you close off all your options because i'm going to decide between the two of you and then now he's just lying to you saying it's so hypocritical as well it's like it's double standards now i feel yeah double standards that's the word hypocritical now i feel completely torn part of me thinks this was right at the beginning and he did choose me but another part of me feels really disrespected and is questioning whether i can fully trust him we're engaged i never had any doubts before this but now i'm questioning everything am i overreacting because it was early on or is this a bigger red flag about honesty that i shouldn't ignore do i need to reconsider on my engagement let's see him Sarah you look absolutely beautiful this must be a engagement high gorgeous I mean yeah I don't like this at all I think this war like he lied about he lied for two months I think he lied for two months this is exactly the same as yeah like you've been together for three years you find out he slept with someone else two weeks in and you're like fuck Like This is Like If you'd have known At the time That he was Seeing Sarah Making you leave his house And going out for dinner With Sarah that night He'd get the itch You would have been like Oh well that's a shame Fuck him Like see you later Bye But like now you're engaged With this man But I would have at least Appreciated like Okay let's say maybe We were dating for Three or four weeks And it was like Oh are you seeing anyone else Am I seeing anyone else He's like oh I have actually Been seeing Like I would appreciate more the honesty in that moment after a month over this weird weird pulling the wool over your eyes sarah and then actively lying for two like i don't like it i really don't like it and yeah it's made me question everything about this guy like if you're capable of lying about that what else have you lied about shows that you're a pretty good liar um it's scary i don't like it and it's just really disappointing disappointing because like i thought we had a really good thing and now you've put me in a really shit position because I'm thinking like, yeah, I don't doubt that you love me.

1:17:49You've proposed to me. Yeah, I love you.

1:17:50Sophia Matveeva: You chose me. Ooh, thank you for choosing me overseas. We've been together for like a few years. Like this was a few months in. It's so disappointing. It's like you've put me in this position. I know. Because... And like I'm 23, you're 31. one that would be my thing here like you have got i mean you should like bottom line you should not i don't believe be getting married to someone who you've got these little doubts and worries about full stop and also you're 23 no need to get married right now he cheated on you Uh oh Like in our minds That makes two cents In your mind You were already with him Committed to him Whatever And he was saying that to you But his actions were completely different He was cheating on you He cheated on you So how do you think about that?

1:18:50Sophia Matveeva: Yeah He cheated on us So like We're not gonna marry a guy At 23 At 23 Who's cheating on you Who's cheating on us And lied to us like that I don't trust him Sarah Sarah, I think if you... You can do much better. I think, yeah, absolutely. Like, you can do much better. You're 23. You don't need to tie yourself forever to someone who has lied to you. You've got a rocky beginning, really. Like, all this lovely honeymoon phase that you look back on, actually, he was living a bit of a double life, but he was sending you home and going out for dinner with someone else. And he was deceiving you and making you cut off everyone else while he kept seeing other people.

1:19:34That is so calculated and I really don't like that. I think as a... But I understand like you've been with this guy for years. You obviously love him very much. Like everything apart... Until you found all this out, everything else seemed great. I think as a minimum, we have to cancel the engagement. Like let's just call the engagement off for a start.

1:19:54Sophia Matveeva: Because you've really messed up here. Like we're not planning any sort of wedding. Like I'm taking this ring off. like all of that pressure let's just let's just get rid of that because i need to get my head figured out and right and this has thrown me and i don't want to be planning a wedding or be walking around with a ring on my finger to someone who i'm actually to me doubting big time in my head right now like there is no rush to get married for you there's no like there's no rush ever to get married but especially like you're 23 he's 31 you just don't need to rush into this especially me when things are feeling a bit wobbly yeah and i don't want him to think that oh all's forgiven yeah it was at the beginning years ago i would never do that now because i think he's way more calculated than he's letting off and i i don't like it and also our happy relationship here is it a result of your lies in the beginning do you know what i mean yeah like we were only so happy and harmonious because you were lying for two months i don't like i don't know in my mind oh my god he committed straight away he said this lovely thing yeah like wow he must have wanted me from like he must have thought yeah it was a lie that was a lie it was a lie like we were only happy at the result a result of your lies yeah i don't like that i don't like it i would speak to your friends about this as well tell your mom about this i would hash it out with a couple of people who know you and know your partner and know you was a couple yes and look like there are people in a similar position to you who've been with someone for a few years found out a few years in that they fucked up at the beginning and they've chose to forgive it they've stayed with them it works it's a love it's a happy relate they're both happy that's their business yeah so i think this is your decision at the end of the day and i think like talk it through with your friends talk it through with your family do not feel pressured to rush into this marriage no at all let's put I would put the brakes on that big time because what I hate is that you gave him the opportunity to tell the truth yeah and he wasn't going to and he still denied denied said the lies like fabricated whatever he thought story story story so like that no I don't like it like this is going to be our husband and I've given you the opportunity here to be honest with me about what happened three years ago whatever I didn't you still like I had to you only are apologising whatever because you got caught you he thought he was gonna die with that lie yeah he was taking it to the grave yeah but sloppy sloppy mistake left all the text messages on his phone like you know what I mean not even considerate of me finding it out sloppy but yeah let him know like you're not gonna in my personal opinion Sarah I think you're gonna get to 25 and you're gonna wake up we can't be getting married before we have our frontal lobe I think that's my opinion I think so that's why I think let's tell everyone because she might not have told her friends like we need to share this with the people that we love spread the news this is serious we're not just getting over this I think we're going to take this engagement for a bit yeah I think like you say to I think you say to Brian like look I know we spoke about this a while ago like this has really rocked me and I don't know if you realise how much this has rocked me but I'm now questioning everything and I would say like imagine if this was you like imagine if you just found out that in the early days of our relationship I was actually seeing another man you know when you left my house I actually was being taken out by another man and when you thought Brian that we were monogamous exclusive and exclusive like this has really really rocked me and you've cheated on me in my eyes you've cheated on me you've cheated on me for two months Brian call it what it is that is I don't care that it was at the beginning if I'd have known it in the beginning I wouldn't even know you now so and he knows that and I don't like that and I don't like the thought that he's actually maybe took advantage of a 20 year old girl here when he was 28 don't like that don't like it but yeah take that engagement ring off I think slow down tell everyone problem shared is a problem problem shared is a problem halved and get other people's opinion yeah well but but you already are but yeah we think this isn't looking too good i do think you can find better i don't do i you're 23 i think you can find someone who's not gonna cheat on you this is not behavior that we should be being like oh all right i'll forgive it no like it's 2026 just because like you like the idea of getting married and you like the idea of a wedding 2026 we can decide who we want to marry and be with For the rest of our lives And we can stand on business And we can stand on business It doesn't Like I don't want us To be with a man Who's lied to us For two months And continue to lie To us in 2026 When we gave him The one opportunity To be honest And lay it out Look you've got one opportunity Lay it out And you still didn't Yeah Why are we then Going to marry that man It wasn't even like You know he came to you Out of guilt And he couldn't sleep At him anymore And he had to get off He was sleeping fine This man was sleeping Fine for three years He was sleeping fine For three years Sophia We're not marrying what he did to you.

1:25:18Sophia Matveeva: Are you marrying this man? I'm not. I'm actually not marrying that man. I'm not marrying this man either. But Sarah, this is your business. But... This is your business. It's 2026. Minimum, call the engagement off. Pause. Like, let's just stop for a sec and really think about this. Because you're not tied into anything. No. Thank God. Thank God. You cheated on me for two months. End of. Good luck. I've been through it to die. Whoa, whoa. I'm ready for a trip to the cinema and a guy coke. And a hot dog for fucking help. Right, we've got to start the week here. Okay, we need it. Take it away. We've got...

1:25:54Sophia Matveeva: Let our face in men be restored. Absolutely. I mean, he looks lovely. He's got kind eyes. Great. Love the pod. I'm a day one listener. It makes my drives to work so much easier. Just wanted to share how amazing my brain is. I currently live in an apartment, so sadly no garden. I mentioned once how lovely it would be to have an outside space to relax and unwind in, in the sunshine, read a book or cheer with some country music. Okay Sue. Yee-haw honey. Yee-haw honey. This man got straight on it and built me a whole patio at his house so that I would have a space to relax him when I go round. Handy man.

1:26:27Sophia Matveeva: He spent his free time, which he's very little of, digging up the garden, laying sand and didn't even break a sweat. Let alone moan about it once. He makes me feel so special and acts as though this is all bare minimum behaviour. I've honestly never experienced a love like it in my life. Everyone truly deserves a buying like this. Dilemma number four needs to hear this. I'm not willing to share though. I'm keeping this one. Picks attached arms. Gorgeous. Oh, you guys. Stunning couple. Really stunning couple. Wow. You know, Sarah's being taken care of and that's what we want for all of our Sarahs.

1:27:00Sophia Matveeva: And that is the bare minimum. Like, I know our Sarah would not stand for a man cheating on her for two months. No, she wouldn't. Because she's got cream of the crop there. She's got the cream of the crop. Absolutely. cheers to that, we've had a couple of breakups today, thank you guys for listening let us know how you feel about the at home ep hopefully you enjoyed it I enjoyed it, personally I enjoyed it myself I'm in my home now not having those lights my hood is up, I love that and also like no shade whatsoever to like the team but not having anyone more like not having more people staring, yeah and look Bluebird did quite well she only barked like once or twice Yes.

1:27:39Sophia Matveeva: Well done girl. Well done girl. She's protecting us up here a lot. She is. Yeah. All right guys, well thank you so much for listening and watching. If you have a dilemma or a star of the week entry, you can email it to hello at the girls bathroom.com. Absolutely. You can follow us on Instagram, TikTok, YouTube, everywhere. Thank you. If you're a part of the group chat and Patreon, we'll see you on Monday. If not, we'll see you back here next Wednesday. We'll see you next week. Bye.

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