Boy Talk: Is he rinsing me for rent?

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3:09Hello, Wednesday lovers. Hello, Wednesday girls and boys. How are you doing on this Wednesday? I hope you're doing well. Sound like an alien. Oh, you know what? song that sounded like my name is i would like to request a do you did you watch that no you don't know what i'm on about do you i'm gonna need more information chintz yeah that film that won emily perez what it beat wicked was emily perez can we start this conversation again because i've got a little bit lost just sounded like that what's the song it beats wicked in musicals i don't i might have to fact justice i'm not sure but the songs The songs weren't Wicked level.

3:50It was just like, my name is very nice to meet you. Like that was, I will actually play you the song because you don't watch Trixie and Katia, do you? Is this from a play? This is from a film that beat Wicked in the Oscars. Or Golden Globes. Oh, wow. Okay. But this, all right. So this song beats Wicked songs. Are you ready? No one more into the wicked. Yeah. And it's like, you can't beat that. You ready? Yeah. Is this it? You can't wait for that to. It is Emilia Perez. Wait, is that the song? No, this one.

4:36It's giving copyright.

4:40That's basically it. It's about sex change. Wow, and that beat the good news. Whoa. Yeah. That's quite. And that is what it just reminded me of. Yes. People, there were angry people. Were they? Yeah. Yeah. It's wicked. Absolutely. Yeah. It deserved to win. Yeah. Well, we can't wait for part two. Cynthia. Mark Hayhurst. Mark gets a lot of shout outs on this podcast. Who? He especially can't wait for part two because he doesn't know what happens. I know. He's watching it to find out the story. Yeah. He won't let me tell him. He won't let me hint. He wants to, he wants to sit back, relax, have his popcorn.

5:16I mean, I can't remember exactly what happens. No, but I can remember the key moments. Yes. And the new songs. Oh, yeah. Which goes. Have another drink. That's not new. Yeah, that's the iconic. That's the iconic. That's the iconic one. For the match of girls. Yeah. What, what. Yeah, the songs. Yeah, Mariana doesn't know what happens either. She'd never seen Wicked on the. On stage. On stage. Wow. Well, happy Wicked Wednesday. Oh, I'm actually so excited for Wicked. same cozy seasons really happening you're in brown i'm in trackies yeah yeah yeah slick back bun yeah i tried to give myself oh my god yeah you've got a slick back bun i tried to give myself a nice bouncy look blow dry wait no it works out to slick it out it's just out babes i thought you had look at that little bun in i'm actually gonna go on a hair health journey oh okay i'm on hair health tick tock actually okay what scalp serum so it's apparently pumpkin oil pumpkin seed oil and rosemary oil that's very of the season on the scalps uh a scalp massager if we want to amp it up you could do little micro needling get little um you know a little roller also if you want to amp up red light on the scalp yeah get your shark mask on your scalp yeah exactly that wow so i'm actually unless I get really unless I get unless I'm just fed up and get really tempted so we're not going extensions back in then we had a change of like I said unless I get really they're long they're like I know I know but I just want it you know but I think let's just come on yeah hair health I'll be saving myself some money absolutely all right because extensions are expensive yeah and I'll be saving my scalp.

7:07Wow. So unless I get really, really tempted by someone's hair or something, I'm going to ride it. Why don't we take a visit to the scalp? Yeah, the Tracker. What are they called? Yeah. Trackerdera. Trackerdera. Wait, what are scalp people called? Tracker. Yeah, Tracker. Yeah, there's proper hair here. What is it called? Tracker choke? Yeah, something like that. There's probably one listening. Yeah, but I thought there'll probably be a thousand pounds an appointment in London. Absolutely. you know for some sort of hair scalp fucking but there's all these incredible ladies on tiktok with this long hair showing their before and after results wow you know yeah and i'm just like i'm actually really like i actually want to lock in but what i'm gonna do is before i make my final decision definitely do a before and after so we can really yeah i literally thought like let's lock in yeah for hair help you're not meant to slink your hair back because it pulls it from the scalp yeah unhealthy for the hair so day one but i could but look we'll start tomorrow there's literally a blizzard outside i would have come in here looking absolutely fucked and a lot of the times i do my hair i just i can't do my own hair today well at least you've got a nice half up half down not quite really couldn't be asked today you couldn't to get well i've got a belt on today i really tried i've got a fashion belt on yeah i don't think i've ever seen you in a thousand of my life.

8:27I've got a chocolate brown belt on, chocolate brown stripes. Wow. Yeah, there was someone about to do it. I think it was the period pain. I was like, I don't, I can't do anything. You poor thing. See, at least I'm nasal, so we're both down bad. I managed to get down me a nurofen. Fuck off. That's absolutely incredible. They were almost like little, that's how bad it was. I was like, I have to conquer this. I have to conquer this tonight. Good. Little like jelly bean thing. What did you do? Put in a little trick yourself. I just had to sit there for about half an hour. You should trick yourself.

9:01Put it in a Harry Potter or something. Sit serious. Yeah, but I don't want to chew it. It was a neurofemmia. It had like a, it was a smooth ball. Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, nice. Let me tell you about the Lemsip cold and flu capsules. They're fucking massive. I've seen them. You would struggle. Yeah, I'd scream. But that's, they cured me last week. They're amazing. The Lemsip sachets. Yeah. Have you tried those yet? What, they make a hot drink out of? Yeah. They just make me, I just. No, I swear to God. They just make me feel like, just like full of medicine. And like out of the form. I sound really nasal.

9:40But. I swear to God, those. But I'd rather take the capsule because it's just getting it all in me. I'd rather just have. I think they're like magic dust. Well, I think the capsule's magic. Yeah. They like resurrected me from my deathbed at one point. When I had that cough before, I was having the Lemsips. But I just, honestly, I don't think it sits well with me. No, it gives you diarrhea. They actually do. I think it's just. I'll never forget Birmingham. I'll never forget Birmingham. God, wasn't a good combo that. I will never forget Birmingham. Yeah, literally, as it says, a Katsu, Korean, and a Lemsip.

10:12And a Magda Bertram dress. No. Horror. Hell and horror. Hell and horror. Five minutes before Stage Girl. it was being destroyed the toilet but luckily i got it all out well done and i could grace the stage of the lifetime and no one would know the show must go on no one would know unless i probably definitely said we probably announced it yeah definitely yeah oh see that's why like imagine we had to dance and sing like tate mccray what does she do when she has a bit of diarrhea diarrhea or you know period a heavy flow like what does Tate McRae do because it splits it's hot pants it's she says it's a little tampon I know unless sometimes a little tampon does not cut it I know unless she's you know taking those period stopping pills we don't know what she's doing just so she doesn't even get one but then that's so bad for you yeah that is isn't it it's healthy to regulate well as you can see Sophia's got a smoothie today I haven't cheeky shit I did buy Cincy Abela's a smoothie and she's not drank it unfortunately she's left it to the wayside unfortunately it may as well she made a hot extra request add add yeah yeah because I'm trying to up my protein so I thought I had some protein and unfortunately yeah but it's in the fridge now so you can have it at the end but a smoothie that's been sat out like banana really can make me feel a bit then why'd you put the banana on no I mean banana that's been sat out so the fact that this smoothie is not going to be sat out for over an hour it's not set out it's in a fridge makes me feel sick that's the last time I'm spending£9 on you my smoothie was hot chocolate yeah it was warm yeah and I can't quite stomach that no well I'm so sorry but I have had two strawberry matchas okay you've got your liquids really nice a bit of Bon Maman jam oh my god a little bit of Bon Maman a little bit of Bon Maman jam is so delicious in a matcha I can't express wow I had about I've never thought of that.

12:12That's very creative. Yeah. I had three yesterday. Wow. Two today already. Cows milk, almond milk, coconut milk. Almond. Almond. Delicious. Truly. Wow. I'm almost halfway through my bon maman. It's a lot of jam. It is. I need to control it. It's a lot of jam. Cute cans though. Cute tins. Yeah, because you know what you can do? This lady on TikTok, when she's got a little bit of jam left in her jar, she makes the matcha in the jar. It's so cute. I've seen the girls use it as a to-go cup. Yeah. So cute. Yeah, really cute. So that's the goals. Well, we've got a little Tuneza Blueberry today. She had a lovely little walk this morning.

12:46She did a poo and a wee out on her walk. And we can dive into the question of the wee. And she's in good health. She is. Thank God. She needs the next flea thing. Got a text from the vet. Some of me things. God, mum life. Just mum things, you know. Gotta get organised. Gotta get my flea jab and get her flea jab. Yeah. Oh, well, happy Wednesday, everyone. Why don't you tell us A cue of the W is, girl. All right, I will do. Sophia won't even let me try her smoothie as well, which is so sad. She's literally, we've just spoke about how ill you are. Yes. You can have a sip. Just take the lid off. I said, I've got half, I've got my invisalign in.

13:21Guys, I'm running a half marathon. I don't know if you know, but I'm running a half marathon. Has that got protein in it? No. You just need the sugar. I just wanted a snack. Yeah. That's nice. And I just don't want to, I just don't want to get poorly. I know. Stay away, babe. Stay away. Oh, my little baby. Okay. So our question of the week is, what nicknames did you give your teachers in school? So we have this about the boss. Right. Did we give our nicknames teachers? No, but didn't we talk to it last week? Mrs. Grimm, but that was her real name. That was her real name. Did we give anyone any nicknames?

13:59Not teachers, I don't think. Okay. Did we? I'm not like this. Maybe it will come to us. Oh my God, toffee teeth. Toffee, no. I feel we can't even laugh at these because my, Marianna, my sister's just started placement at a school and if they're giving her nicknames, I'm going to be storming around to that school. You know, but like if, if little school kids were bullying my sister. No, it's not okay. But she is teaching like reception so I don't think they're as advanced. Yeah. As the year nine people. But you don't know what they're like these days. They've all got phones, haven't they? Grassy toes.

14:32He wore sandals during our two could have had him for a trip. oh yeah grassy toes put your toes away grassy toes speaking of toes camel toe she had a camel toe every day listen it's natural sometimes the seam is just like the seam is there and it's actually creating a bit of an illusion camel toes are natural mr mcqueeve did he fart oh wait this is horrible triple chin lynn oh that pigeon lady oh mrs trunchbull yeah classic uh latex lady oh mega mind that's mean maybe he was very clever yes yes yes jesus because he had long hair and walked around barefoot teachers in school should not be walking around barefoot no i'm hygienic we've got so i don't i fear these are so mr gravy he would drink gravy out of a mugging class instead of coffee i mean honestly like delicious god but they put a roast in there you got sunday roast we've got the slug i saw a slug yesterday actually on the road on the street yes i well it was slithering along a big slug like slugs maybe yeah mcspicey oh you must i bet that was a young little yeah the hot p teacher yeah p pedo stevo that's not good it's not good because they get these nicknames for a reason you know and that's not good that's not good chinos misliked chinos table tits what's table tits I know exactly what oh fuck because that spilt I know exactly what table tits is what's table tits so basically she must have lent forward and her tits must have rested on the table and I fear that would have been my nickname you know table tits alright we've got angry elf aww he was just trying to discipline the class daddy dent mr daddy dent what's that oh his name was mr dent and he was fit.

16:43Oh, very nice. Bullet nips. His nips were always erect and visible. Put a jumper on, sir. Ew. Fetty Wap. Oh, because he was blind in one. Sorry, I forgot what Fetty Wap was. Pencil case. Her vagina looked like one through her trousers. What the fuck are you on about? oh and that one this was mean turkey neck that's what turkey neck that's really mean that's not nice and we've got fat cats sweaty and smell like six that's so mean like my poor my poor sister no those reception children are gonna love her yes Mrs. Sallow you didn't read this one Mrs. Suggers that is she had the shaggiest tits girls we need to be supporting each other it's so like we're all gonna be like I'm not got the perkiest pair what am I Mrs.

17:52Suggers no push-ups yeah oh Blueberry you don't have to Blueberry don't have to worry about these Don't worry about any of this. She's got no beach. She's got nipples, though. Yeah. Teats. Aw. Aw. Right. Right. So it's boy talk this week. It's boy talk. Absolutely. So we're diving into all of that. Let's try and save the show. Absolutely. Save the show. Save the world. Halloween is approaching also. We've locked in our Halloween ideas. We have. We locked in. And who came up with them? Miss Chintzy Abelison, of course. Yeah, couldn't believe it. Stroke a genius. Yes, at what time was it? It was quite late at night, about 11pm.

18:32That's when your juices really get flowing. Yeah, it truly was, because we've been racking our brain. Actually, are we going to do... Well, are we going with what I thought of for the party? What was your original one, for the party? Well, we're not talking about the party. Okay. We're talking about the episodes. The episodes, of course. Leave it with us, guys. Yeah, don't you fret. Leave it with us. We've got it covered.

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19:26okay right we're going to start here this week we've got a landlord issue i'm a landlord you are yeah speak to me hey well we've got here she just needs to help my boyfriend is rinsing me for rent these unemployed boyfriends just trying to get a few extra pennies out of you i know someone who knows someone who's got an unemployed boyfriend at the moment sorry about it later babes okay i got in trouble last week for speaking about somebody who's somebody yeah somebody somebody someone yeah someone's gonna see the social club so i'll keep on my mouth and we've said it that's about 45 minutes into the episode i'm just keeping my mouth shut today okay long time listener you got me through sixth film uni and moving cities wow thank you sarah I am 26 years old and I've been with my boyfriend for coming up to three years.

20:21We met at work and he is my first proper boyfriend. I've had situationships, but this is my first real relationship. At the beginning, everything seemed perfect. As it always does. As it always does. He is a good guy. He treats me well. He listens to me. My friends like him. That's good. And when we first got together, there was an undeniable spark. he's not my usual type that i would have pictured but the fact we knew each other from work made it so much easier to get to know him without any pressure yeah i honestly don't really remember dating him we just got together a christmas party and i've just kind of been together ever since oh taylor's oldest time oh i wish we had a christmas party to attend oh fancy meeting someone.

21:07Santa baby. Santa baby. However, when we met, he was making quite a bit less money than me. We are the same age. I'm a few weeks older, but at the time I was a manager and he was about three levels below. Three. Meaning like yearly, we was about 10k difference salary wise. Because of this, I was always very understanding that he might not be able to take me out on fancy dates or treat me to nice things. As this is my first relationship, I have always been very independent. I didn't really see it as a problem. However, as the years have gone on, the pay gap between us has decreased. We now work in different jobs and our wages are much more aligned, but nothing has changed.

21:52And I feel like where things started to shift for me was when he decided to move home, which by the way, I was not consulted about. He just told me. For context, I live about three hours away from my family and have always lived a minimum of an hour and a half away for uni, etc. But he lives about half an hour from his family and that is the furthest he has ever gone. Right. About a year ago now, he made the decision to move from town where we lived, about 10 minutes away from each other, to home. So he's now 40 minutes away from me. Right. I only passed my driving test in January. I don't have a car yet.

22:29So it's a lot more difficult for me to, you know, get to him and see him. Plus he has, he was continuing to work in town and needed to be in an office twice a week. So for the past year, he's been staying at my flat in town for a minimum of three days a week. I see what's happening here. So he's living for free at home. Yeah. He's also living for free at yours. No rent, no bills at home. And okay. Yeah. This has, this has significantly unbalanced our finances. he's taking home a couple grand a month whilst over here half of my paycheck goes on bills and rent yeah i have brought this up to him multiple times about maybe him supporting me you know contributing a bit towards rent or towards the bills um but nothing has ever come of course not because he's he's got a little free little sweet little ride there i thought you this isn't okay i'm assuming he lived on his own or with friends before i was thinking that you were moving in with him and he was trying to charge you loads right but no he's actually just like sponging off you I think is where this is going.

23:28Okay. He saw an opportunity, thought, well, I'm going to move back home and then stay at her three, four nights a week. Yeah. Bingo. For free. Yeah. Bingo, hot water, cooked meals. Yeah. Full fridge. Yeah. Snacks. Yeah. Mini wheat bitch. Yeah. Because like he's not doing the food shop, is he? Is he full? This doesn't sound like it at all. Cancel tax. He doesn't even know what that is about. Yeah. TV license? You've never seen one? No. My friends are always surprised when I tell them this as he is a nice guy, but they say it's the bare minimum that he should be contributing in some way and also he knows exactly what he's doing you know like he's a nice guy and you know he's so nice he's so you know asking for some help and like come on like just you know even if like okay you don't have to contribute to the bills but a weekly food shop yeah just go and put some food in the fridge me effort yeah and you know sorry what's the word like just like you're aware contribution contribution and just like helpfulness like he's probably writing things to your list oh can you get me some of that links as well whilst you there yeah oh i really like those crunchy knock clusters they're expensive they're expensive like five pounds a fucking car top when i bring this up to him he always has a reason why he shouldn't oh yeah what are these reasons then sir but he has to drive to me you work in town though don't you so you have to drive here anyway also like what i'm not paying for your petrol no like yeah drive to me like fucking hell i'll give you the 60p if you need it like loosen the purse strings right it's like phoebe from friends post strings were asked you buy your sheets at a flea market i'll give you the i'll give you the 50 cents i'll give you the 50 cents that he has to drive to me right that he has credit card debt well that's not my fault yeah that sounds like your fault but i am scared of confrontation so i always let it slide considering this is probably the most difference we will ever have in finances he isn't showing that he would never ever want to take care of me treat me or help to support me if he has the means right so now you're concerned okay well let's think if i'm gonna have a family with you are you like how are you gonna be then when we are living under one roof like is it all going to be on me to you know like if you're not showing willingness to help now and just throwing out all these excuses it's getting worse he has now quit his job without telling me he's a loose cannon yeah he's meaning i now have a 26 year old boyfriend who lives at home with his mom and is unemployed yeah yeah he's had a fall he's had a he's taken a step back and credit card debt yes he's had a fall from grace yeah he said he wants to start a whole new career path which i would have been supportive of had he had a plan yep he has no plan nothing lined up yes it's a little bit irresponsible you just quit your job because you like you have no overheads because you live at home free live at mine for free like oh okay well just don't work then like well i have to go to work because i've got bills and things i have to do so like and without even consulting you as well it's like yeah now i've got a 26 year old boyfriend yeah living off me living off his mom he's not got a job he doesn't seem and also like It's not attractive.

26:41Like I need to see like some drive or motivation from you or a plan. Otherwise it's like, am I meant to spend the rest of my life with this guy who's just going to do this shit all the time? It must be nice. To make things worse, he doesn't visit me in the evenings that he does drive to me until after his mum has made him tea. He wants to eat us at home. I've been really ill this week. Well, he's trying to avoid contributing to your fucking weekly food shop, isn't he? He is, yeah. Chili con carne is at home, babe. He was meant to come yesterday, but ended up bailing because his mum didn't have dinner ready until seven.

27:12So he said it would be pointless to drive over. Despite me having had the day off sick, I was so ill. I feel like I'm dating a child rather than a man. To make things worse, we were meant to be moving in together at some point in the near future. It would be happening. But now he says he doesn't see the point in moving back into town to move in with me because he can live at home for free. yeah but but but like you're 20 like where's your like let's get up and go dry but also just like i love you this is the next step i want to live with you also like you know like i had a great time at home but i could not wait to move out i mean listen like i would not want to go and live at home now like you're 26 years old i want to have freedom i don't want people checking on me like i want to go out and have friends around and host yeah at home he's got his laundry done his Bedroom gets cleaned twice a week.

28:04Sheets are done. Fridge is full. Dinner, a fridge full. Mum is really happy that he's at home. She's absolutely buzzing. So she's really putting in a lot of effort into these meals. Yeah, five-star treatment. Darling, would you like a tea? Yeah, what would you like for this this week? He's writing out his whole weekly menu. Shall I make you that banana bread that you like? Of course he doesn't want to move out. Yeah, why would he? He's not having to spend any money, but that's not attractive to you, Sarah. You don't want that. No. We don't want that. He wants that. yeah it's lovely little arrangement for him but but you don't you want a man who's working he's got goals aspirations place willing to see he wants to come and cook for you not relying on his mother but now he says he doesn't see the point in moving back to town with me because he can live at home for free so there's no indication of us moving forward at all i feel like all of this is making me want to tap out of the relationship we are rarely ever intimate anymore because he comes to mind so late in the evening after his mummy has made his dinner that I no longer have any interest.

29:06My question is, how do I break up with this man? I feel like I still love him despite all of this. With it being my first relationship, I'm so scared of being alone again as I have been my whole life and all I ever wanted was to be in a relationship. When he is here and I am with him, all these thoughts seem to disappear. But when we are apart it's all i can think about yeah he's not a bad person but i feel like i'm losing my mind help okay sarah i think he's holding you back absolutely dragging you down absolutely and he sounds like he's dead weight and also like you're barely even seeing him anyway so you saying oh i'm scared to be well he's he's barely coming around he's coming he's not making any he's coming around past 9 p.m twice a week no and then all he is is a burden to you and someone to call and like he's lazy and unmotivated right now yeah you just want to rely on his mom so let him let him like Like, exactly, he's holding you back.

29:56So how does she break up with him? We need to talk. Send him a text. However you feel comfortable. Get him round. Do it on the phone. Do it in person. But just be very clear that it is the end. It is the end. And nothing he can do will fix it right now. I think that's the hard thing about a breakup is you really have to spell it out. I think he's going to think that he can fix it. he can salvage it maybe you're just thinking about things like you need to go in there very clear very confident like I don't want to be with you anymore you have to be cruel to be kind you have to kind of spell it out like I don't want to be with you anymore we are now broken up like I'm not happy here I'm not even sure if you're happy here you don't really make the effort to come and see me I also feel like it feels like it's a chore for you coming here like oh you don't see the point moving back you don't see the point okay if you don't see the point then there's no point in doing this then what is the point what is the point what is the point you could literally say that sarah yeah because he's just like he sounds like a loser yeah you don't need a loser you're a working woman you know you're thriving you're working hard you know you want a boyfriend you want like an ambitious guy who's got a bit of drive who wants to do things yeah and also wants to progress in the relationship and wants to move in with you after three years and take that step and not be like I'm waiting for oh I'm just gonna live at home instead yeah I'm waiting for my ravioli from mummy yeah my ravioli my mushroom ravioli even though it's like you can fucking whack on the ravioli yourself so it's two minutes to boil do you know what I mean like but his mum is putting in a lot of effort because she's happy her baby's at home yeah and I can't blame her birds are in the nest yeah she's loving it and yeah he doesn't have to do his own washing to be honest so he'd rather get his washing done for him than be with you Sarah I think he's just being lit I think like you don't need this guy I think now he's become very unattractive to you I think you used to find him quite attractive because you were working together and it was quite good and now all these things are happening you're like I'm not even attracted to you anymore like you're showing traits that I don't really think I want in a partner so I would just cut him loose you want a successful guy Sarah who's got his own thing going on he's successful Well, he's making his own money.

32:17He's got his own little pad. Cooking you dinner. Inviting you around. Hosting you. He makes a good steak. Yeah, here's a key to my place. Come on, you want. Blah, blah, blah. Yeah, he lives in town too. He's a silly boy. Yeah, he's got to be up early for work. Yeah, he sees his mom. He's close with his mom, but not super close. Yeah, we might go around on a Sunday for a nice roast. Yeah, perks. I really wanted a roast. I had a great roast yesterday. No, I really wanted a roast. Massive Yorkshire. It was heaven on earth. It was just what I wanted. You know, like my mum used to serve us roasts on a Tuesday.

32:52Yeah. Tuesday was the roast night. So like there is no rules. Yeah. Still is. I remember it well. So there is no rules to what day you have a roast. No. Anytime. Which I forget sometimes. Yeah. In the winter. You can't get one in a restaurant other than on a Sunday unless you go to be car. But M &S do a great. Oh yeah, they do. Like it's so easy to do a roast at home with all that M &S stuff. It's all pre-prepared. Just put it in the oven. then it's done. So easy. Bit in the air fryer. Yeah. Oh, great. I need that right now. Anyway, yeah. And also the first, breaking up with someone for the first time.

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35:33right sarah here has a dilemma concerning stripping and phones so sarah says help strippers on my boyfriend's phone is that is that numbers i'm that's where my mind's going Is that videos and photos? Maybe. Videos of his pals having a great old time. Yeah. Or a little POV from his self. Yes. He strapped it on. 0.5 POV. No, maybe he had on those Google glasses that film. And he already got the POV and he's got it saved from his phone. Or yeah, he strapped it on a little 0.5, got a little POV action. A little vlog of the night. Come with me to the strip club. Yeah. Yeah. Or he's got them on speed out.

36:16It's Sarah, stripper. would he be saved would she be saved as such maybe if she's a local and he got her around maybe but would the name be there I'm assuming so because like if I'm saving like a handyman I'm like uh Alan handyman would you save so yeah if I met a stripper I'd say yeah if you were in a relationship Brian handyman I mean what stripper stripper oh oh you're saying he wouldn't put stripper well maybe he's maybe he's stupid and did do that because maybe it's like he maybe they're from an old he's like maybe he's got a good relationship with her he says we're coming over tonight make sure you've got a spot for us you know I've got to bring my five boys I'm bringing my bros make sure you wear that red number I like right hello girls I want to say how much how much I enjoy your podcast every week it makes my day and it's made me so much more confident in my relationship in a relationship that makes me happy thank you Sarah thank you Sarah so me and my Brian we can retire now we've done our job truly goodbye see you later me and my Brian have been together for one and a half years we are both 21 it is a loving relationship however he is more of a drinker and a drinker and pub on the weekends whereas I like to stay at home and not really go out okay he plays Aussie football for a senior team which means always back we're in Australia we're in Australia which means we're always back at the footy club drinking always at the pub and an annual footboys boys trip oh okay so he's in a very large lads lads atmosphere it sounds like he plays football on the weekends and these boys i mean they're up early those australians aren't they 4 a.m yes but if he's drinking into the early hours so true we went to pilates class in australia once it was like what 9 a.m yeah i remember that girl she's like oh i've been up and about since four and we We were like, she's like, it was so busy here at four.

38:14And we were like, what? Oh my God. Remember that girl? We were like so busy. She was like, you should have seen at 4 a.m. It was so busy. Oh my God. And we were like, oh my God, have a rest. You guys. You guys are crazy. But the sun's up. It's active lifestyle. Yeah, it's true. I'm jealous. I would adjust. Yeah. My dilemma is, at the beginning of the relationship, he used to do a bit of drugs. Okay. Not the sportsman, surely. Sure. I don't think it was professional sports. That's what I said at the weekends. Okay. It's a hobby. I think it was more of like, you know. It's a hobby. I had one of my boyfriends from the best.

38:53He wasn't a professional sportsman at all. But he played football on the weekends with his little team. Yeah. We encourage hobbies. No, it's really, really good. Really good. But if he's doing drugs with these boys, these hobbyers, then that's not too great. No, it's a different kind of. Me being the chill girlfriend didn't care. So, right. You were just trying to be cool. And in height, like cool is not. No, cool is not. Since then, he doesn't do it anymore as I set my boundary. Amazing. Good for you. But I'm always anxious still. Last night, he had his silly Saturday, which is basically a day after the season ends where they all dress up.

39:38Silly stripper Saturday, isn't it? Like, oh my God. Yeah, it's getting Sarah the stripper down. It's Sarah Saturday silly stripper day. Yeah. Yeah, this is definitely a weekend football club. So it was silly Saturday, which is basically a day after the season ends where they all dress up in random costumes and get drunk all day. It started at 9am. Oh. I, of course, I, of course, let him do his thing and trust that he won't do drugs or anything stupid. I picked him up at midnight and he was very much smashed, which is fine. It's a once of the year thing that they do. When he was in the shower, I had a feeling to look through their Snapchat boys chat at the saved images to see what they got up to.

40:25And to confirm that they weren't doing drugs. Ladies, this is where I almost threw up. I mean, let's start. We don't want to be checking in onto our boyfriends at fear that they're doing illicit drugs. yeah and also like i also don't want to collect you at midnight not at all like are you that much like get a fucking taxi you should like i'm not your mother you should not want me to leave the exactly like it's unsafe for me to drive on the streets at this time um so this is where i almost threw up in the saved chat in the saved chat there was multiple videos of the boys in the club oh my It was a 0.5 POV GoPro action.

41:09And they think they're all so funny and having such a funny good time. Listen to this. So there was a video. Are you allowed to film in a strip club? I would think so. Unless it's a no phone policy. I would say out of respect for the girls, yeah, don't film them. But obviously these men are, right, you know, these men are going to bend the rules, aren't they? um bend the rules unless you put your phone in a ziploc ziploc uh so there was multiple videos of the boys in the club rooms with a fully naked girl in there she was completely naked whoa so we're in a club room is it a private private room i think yeah in the strip club huge tits and a man was laying on the floor sorry as she climbed all over him and he grabbed her tarts her what?

42:12her tits her tarts and he grabbed her tits etc so let me just read that again so what she was where's your boyfriend in all of this filming it this is a saved video in the boys chat. Right. So it could be anyone could have filmed it. Okay. Let's picture if there's eight of these lads. Yeah. How many of them is on a football team? Ten. I don't know. Let's say there's over ten boys in this room. Huge tits and a man was laying on the floor as she climbed all over him and he grabbed her tits. I got it. Okay. These videos were in front of a lot of people being in the main club room. Clearly a stripper as there was another naked girl in the back.

42:57Right, okay. This is a boys only event, by the way. As you can imagine, I felt sick to my stomach. When Brian came out of the shower, I was crying and told him what I saw. He was that drunk, he swore he didn't know anything about it and wasn't a part of it. Sure. What? I just picked you up from there. What are you all about? He was sitting outside at the fire and was, this is gorgeous, at the fire, at the fire pit. He was sitting outside at the fire. Reflecting. And was outside most of the night. Oh, that's a lie. Oh, oh, oh, oh. he was saying I wasn't even in the club I was by the fire I was reflecting at the fire pit staring and I was outside just being mesmerized by mother nature I believe he wasn't there for it for it but I don't believe he didn't know about it at all of course yeah he these videos are saved in the in his snapchat he says that if someone told him he seriously can't remember um because he is that drunk which I do believe but it's so hard to trust someone like how do you how do you not know about it all yeah it's a lie yeah it's a lie it doesn't make sense because and doesn't make sense because it's a lie yeah and their easiest and quickest response is oh i didn't know that oh i wasn't there oh that was the other boys that was the other boys yeah that wasn't me that's that oh it wasn't me that was like that was that was single steve like that's their quickest really like what's he gonna say oh yeah we had a great time yeah exactly um great tits you should have xena yeah as you can see from the video her tits were fabulous yeah zoom in on that god you should have seen it in 3d it's a different story babe it's completely made me disgusted in his friends and that they would do this and just video it and put it in the group chat and also it now confirms all my worries about this type of shit happening at these boys only nights out well yeah it's like you know you've had a literal visual of what they are getting oh yeah that's burned into your brain Yeah, and when you've seen a video of something, you will never unsee that.

44:50No. I can't imagine what else happens. I also made him leave the group chat, which he did happily, as I found it disgusting that there is videos of naked women in his phone. Okay, he left the group chat. That's interesting. Can he be added back in? Yeah. I haven't slept all night, and I've tried talking to him, but he still says he can't remember if someone told him. And I imagine he was still drunk that night when you were talking to him. Yeah. The second part of my dilemma is, is that in October, he's going on the annual footy trip to another state with all these boys. Oh, my God. I think he's too young.

45:27I think he's too young to have a girlfriend right now. How old is he? Yeah. I might agree with that. And like, he's got these exciting trips with all these horny little boys. And they can't control themselves. And you know what their tagline of that trip's going to be? I'm just being a realist Sarah you know what happens what happens out of Australia stays out of Australia stays out of Australia even but even though they were getting up to that in Australia so so we've got this big old footy trip in October I told him I don't want him to go but he says he still wants to as he isn't a part of that all stuff that they get up up to and would never do any of that sure sure and the sky's fucking green I'd fucking get involved if I was there yeah alright go on you know like he's such a liar he's such a liar like oh I keep myself apart from that I'm not involved in that I sit outside the whole time I know what these boys are like and their peer pressure and they bully one another as well that like if someone is not partaking like they get bullied he's 21 years old yeah I think he's going for it to be honest yeah absolutely he's just thinking lads no videos next time don't put him on Snapchat next time yeah I got caught out last time no videos in here police boys like he's just gonna get smarter like yeah you know because if there wasn't a video of it you'd never have known never have known I just know I feel sick about it and it'll be the worst weekend of my life and that should never be the case Sarah like you should not you know in your relationship you should not feel sick at the thought of your partner going away without you going out without you going somewhere without you like that should not be an anxiety inducing thing no that enough that alone is a sign to be like something's not right here because you shouldn't feel sick at the thought of your boyfriend going on holiday like you want to feel safe and secure but then happy and happy for him have an amazing time i I genuinely feel that, you know?

47:34I think he's maybe a bit too immature because I think at 21, we felt sick as well at the thought of our boyfriends going away. Absolutely. And I think he's already showed you what actually happens. And yes, he's trying to lie his way out of it. I'm not going to involve. Of course you do. Of course you do. Of course you do. Single Steve is egging you on and you can't say no because you want to look like Mr. Big Bollocks and be all, oh yeah, boys. On the footy team. They all think it's funny that he gets involved when he's got a girlfriend. Like, come on, we're not stupid. Like you're 21. I told him I literally have proof of all my thoughts, thoughts that this could happen.

48:13And it did 10 minutes from my house. By the way, the man in the video is married and has kids.

48:21So yeah, so he's showing that, yeah, they think it's funny to cheat on their wives and girlfriends. That is what this group finds funny. You need to get out of this group. Yeah, because they were filming it, laughing you know putting it on snapchat no like they think it's a funny thing and uh and an achievement almost accomplishment to cheat on their girlfriends and then keep it hush hush and that's not normal no like most male groups don't operate that way so you need to get out but some boy groups do yeah clearly clearly and like you know it's the challenge that's what i mean like don't normalize it don't think like oh well i guess every boy group does this like they don't Also like you shouldn't have to put up with this.

49:02No. I'm also friends with some of the boys' girlfriends and I don't know if they were a part of it or not. I feel so sad and really don't know what to do anymore. Love from an anxious Sarah. Doesn't sound like this relationship is making you happy. No, it doesn't sound like, but also like this is not fears and things you should have to live with. Like the amount of stress. Like this man is making you anxious, stressed, is making you cry. and all he's got to say is he's got no excuse for it. I think he's not, he want a mature man whose friends aren't. Who's a bit more like aligned with your lifestyle.

49:37Yeah. Who, yeah, who doesn't go out every weekend because that's not what you like to do. Yeah. And. Who wants to go for a nice walk down Bondi Beach. Go to Pocket, get a cappuccino. Oh, God. Get you an acai bowl. Oh, from D-Bowls. Just go for a nice walk. Yeah, and like Bondi to Tudy. Whose friends aren't, whose married friends aren't cheating. Who has nice friends and like a good environment and a nice world. Yeah, and like this is not behavior that you have to put up with and think, oh, it's just the boys. No, all boys are like this. No, no, like this is like, no, you're going to be much happier when you're apart from this.

50:14Like protect your peace. This is not a peaceful, safe, secure environment for you. You have to just be brave. You have to put your, you have to do this for your future self. Like you don't want to be in this relationship. You could find someone so much more like-minded. So that makes you so much happier and just is just a lovelier person. But you have to like put yourself through the heartbreak now so that your future self can find that. Because yeah, you could stay with this guy. Like it doesn't sound like he wants to break up with you necessarily. Like he's probably quite like happy with the arrangement.

50:48And yeah, there's like, it would be easier maybe just to like stay with him. but you don't feel happy, safe, fulfilled, confident. Like you need to just put yourself through the heartbreak now so that your future self will thank you. Yeah, and I think you need to remember who you are. Because you could easily just tick along in this situation, but it's like, no, I need to just get out of this now. In situations like this, you start to lose yourself. You're just so anxious and stressed about like - And it all starts to feel more normal, normal, normal, normal, normal. And like, you're so worried about what someone else is up to.

51:21You're like, no, I want to focus on my own life. I don't want to have to be worrying about what you're getting up to on the fucking weekends with you little boys. Like, no, actually, no, I'm going to put myself first and do me for a bit because I don't want to have to stress about what you're getting up to because you clearly don't respect me because you are getting up to that. Because I've seen it. It's on your phone. I've seen it with my own eyes. I've literally seen it with my own eyes and you're telling me you weren't there. Like, no. No. Like, you don't deserve that, Sarah. You need to remember who you are.

51:42He doesn't respect you. No, I don't deserve that. I don't want a boyfriend who's doing that. and you can go and find a boyfriend who isn't doing that. You got this, Sarah. We don't have to stay with these boys. Rip the band-aid off. Yeah. And just... Yeah, you do not have to stay with these boys who are doing this. Like, just because they come and cuddle you and say, oh, I'm not a part of that kisser. I love you. It's easier to stay sometimes. It is. But just realize... Gotta be your future self first. Exactly. I'm like, I don't want you to go through like what you're going to have to go through in October worrying about that twat.

52:12Like, what he's up to. And like them being, feeling like you need to check his phone and, you know, where are you? Send me pictures and, you know. Or I've not heard from you in a few hours. Yeah. And then worrying and then feeling sick and then not eating that night because you're so worried or you've not ate that week. I don't want that for you. No. You deserve better, Sarah. Yeah, you do. And you can find better. Exactly. There are good guys out there. Good luck.

52:41we've got here my prince charming moves like a turtle in bed slow and steady wins the race but she wants it with bigger she wants to be the rabbit the hair uh i met this man who honestly feels like perfection wrapped in human form we've been seeing each other very shortly only a month Okay, so you're thinking really should be more like a hare than a tortoise. Yes, yes. You're thinking it's exciting. Yeah, we should really be going for it. Vigorous. Passionate. He's 25, carries himself really well, treats me lovely. He's got his life together. I'm with him. Everything just clicks. After coming out of a horrible one-sided relationship that emotionally drained me, I feel like I've struck gold.

53:28but when it comes to the bedroom that's where the fairy tale starts to wobble interesting describe every single detail she has I don't know how else to put it he's terrible at sex like breathtakingly bad I'd get more action from an 84 year old with his walking stitch down the road I went in expecting fireworks and fantasized about the sex prior but instead it's more like watching a turtle slowly tracking itself across the sand what do you mean what do you mean his rhythm is slow very off and almost makes me feel sorry so we can't get into the rhythm you can't find any musicality yeah i keep waiting for things to pick up but nothing changes it's all at one speed one gear until it finishes this is so poetic one speed i start spiraling in my own head i keep thinking is it me is he inexperienced is he going at that pace because he's scared of i need a description scared of finishing fast or worse does he think this is good right right right i am such a sexual person person and sex is such a big thing for me in relationships I want to feel like I want to rip his clothes off but that is all gone a part of me wonders if I should coach him or guide him even though it's a bit of a turn off for me to do that because at the end of the day he should be daddy I'm 21 he's 25 he should be but another part worries that maybe this is just who he is in bed and if that's the case can I really change I mean it sounds like it no what makes it more complicated is the fact that our mums are best friends of over 30 years so they're like on cloud nine that you guys are together yes and I can already picture how tangled things would get if I dragged this relationship out yes in hopes that it would get better to realize that it never worked and then yeah do I stay and try and work through things hoping it improves in the bedroom or do I cut it off now before it gets serious and risk making everything awkward between our mums and the future family interactions thanks i think i mean if he's not got it he's not got it i mean my thing is like are you does he know that you're not having a good time but he he but some men are so their heads are so big right he must have had one girl tell him oh my god you that's my world that he thinks he rocks every single woman's world and his head is so big that he thinks he's rocking your world.

56:09Yeah. When he's not. Maybe you need to try and like, why don't you just go a bit mute? Like don't give any sort of sympathy noise. I would maybe give it one more go with a bit more direction. Yeah. And a bit more vocal. I'm not really like, I'm not really having a good idea. Like, why don't you do this? Like, this is not really my sort of speed. Why don't we turn things up a notch? Sometimes slow and steady doesn't bring the race, Brian. You could say something like that. Yeah, you could say something like that. Or maybe it's just, you know what, this is not compatible. Yeah, he may be nervous.

56:42I don't know. But like surely in the beginning it's like. Yeah, let's go, go, go, go. Yeah, like let's get rowdy. Yeah. So, I mean, let him know, oh, speed it up. Like just say it. Yeah. Like go faster. You could just say that, Sarah. And then let's see if he's actually got. If he's capable. The cardiovascular strength. Maybe it's his stamina thing. Yeah. He might not even have it. He might not. Maybe he's not that fit, you know? Or he's not got the thrusting abilities. Maybe he doesn't want to start sweating. Yeah, maybe he's embarrassed to - Maybe he's a germaphobe. Maybe he's worried about - Yeah.

57:17Give it one more shot to be a bit more vocal and see if he'll, you know, switch it up. To shame we can't get in contact with an ex. That's just his speed. Then that's just him, isn't it? Turtle in the sand. Yeah, that is just him, I fear.

57:38Sarah here says stuck with boring Brian I believe Brian's her boyfriend she's got a boyfriend bro boring which is not good how's your boyfriend boring in love with sneaky link Steve question mark hi girlies long time listener here but first time writer I've been listening to the pod for two years thanks to my sister who has been obsessed with you since forever. Thank you to the sister. Huge congratulations to Chincia for motherhood and Sophia for your stunning engagement. Oh, thanks, Sarah. So my dilemma is, is I'm in a love triangle with Steve and Brian. I've grown up with Brian since I was young, which then turned into high school sweethearts, et cetera, et cetera.

58:26Me and Brian are years deep now. Like we are together. Oh my God, guys. Sarah. Anyway, flashback to last November. So we've been with, I don't know how old we are, but let's just say, I think we've been with Brian for over five years. Oh God. Flashback to last November, I met Steve and one thing led to another. We had sex in my sister's bed. Classy, I know. For context. Did your sister never get sex in her bed? For context, it wasn't just one time. I slept with him on three different nights in November, last November. My sister obviously found out the worst way possible. After returning from a weekend away, she found the used wrappers.

59:09No. Sarah, Sarah. Sarah, how could you be so sloppy? I know. In her bedside table. Oh. Fuck. There was no bending it as, bending it as hers as she's on the pill. Like it was just. Oh my God, Sarah. At least it was your sister. but still I don't think I could recover from something of that. She immediately questioned me as Brian was on holiday at the time. Brian was away all November. Who were you sleeping with? Oh my God. Sneaky, sexy Steve. And I broke down in tears. Not just regret about cheating, but anger because I want to leave Brian. I feel stuck. Oh, so you want to leave Brian? Okay. Well, that makes things easier.

59:48Okay. Absolutely. I am in love with Steve and keep on dreaming and fantasizing about our wild nights we had back in November. It's coming up to a year now, Sarah. I know, we were in September, Sarah. Are you in love with him? I think you're not, you don't want to be with Brian anymore. You had those three wild nights with Steve. Maybe it's not love, more lust. Lust. You know? Because you can have three wild nights with anyone. Yeah, like I fear you've only hung out three times. Who is this man? It's the man we met. um but like because of what you're lacking with brian like yeah seems so we're putting steve on a bit of a pedestal there we go yeah um i'm in love with steve and keep dreaming and fantasizing about our wild nights we had also there's been multiple times that brian is lying next to me whilst i've been messaging steve oh no oh sarah sarah oh brian's laying sorry she put lying but laying yeah oh I thought Brian's lying I thought he was a liar no he's not a liar Brian was laying next to me whilst I've been messaging Steve fuck Brian is so lovely and my family loves him which is what's making it so hard to leave I've tried to leave multiple times even suggesting my eyes are wandering oh my god poor Brian and Brian's just there bless him poor Brian he loves you so much my eyes are wandering he's just not hearing it is he he's not hearing it he doesn't think he will leave no probably so he's just like oh she's just oh that's sarah sarah her eyes always wander but she'll always be mine yeah she'll always wander back to me yeah um okay okay yeah that's my sarah but obviously not telling him about the night with Steve, the nights with Steve, Brian has started to suspect something has been off after I seen his sister in the pharmacy.

1:01:53Wait, wait, wait. Wait, let me read that. Did I read that right? Brian started to suspect something off after I seen his sister in the pharmacy. What does that mean? To add to the drama, another naughty night in November. I had to go get the morning after pill in the pharmacy. from the pharmacy and his sister walked in as I was buying it. Surely not. Surely not. Surely not. My face immediately dropped. Yeah, because Brian was away. Yeah. All November. I don't know if she saw it, but she knows he's obviously on a boy's trip at the time. I am lying to everyone around me. Oh my God, Sarah. My sister and friends say Steve's a bad egg and only wants sex and to not betray Brian.

1:02:42You already have. You already have, Sarah. But my heart's with Steve, despite how perfect Brian is for me. Plus, I stalked Steve's mum on Facebook and I do think I'd be a perfect addition to her family. As she said, lol, hell. Sarah. So you've vetted the family. Sarah. They look nice. do I A follow my heart and get with Steve despite that he might not be good for me oh my god or B oh yeah because your friends are saying look he's a bad egg yeah or B sit with Brian and move forward P.S. they are both blonde look the same and are 5 '4 sadly so I can't decide based on flaws whoa they're both blonde and 5 '4 that's the toilet they could be brothers shit right sarah you don't want to be with brian anymore you need to put yourself first you need to break up with brian yeah yeah like what is keeping you to brian come on it's because it's because it's familiar everyone knows it's comfortable it's your routine and it's because the whole family know him yeah they love him they think you're gonna get married and it's me like mom no i don't want to be brian anymore and but it's like it's your life sarah yeah you do have to put yourself first like don't you have to just because your auntie your grandma I've met him and love him.

1:04:02And he kind of fits in. Yeah. And oh, everyone's met him and they're used to him and they like him. Doesn't mean that you should stay with him. Like at all. You know you're not happy in this room. You haven't been for a long time. Almost a year. Over a year you've not been happy, I imagine. It's not fair now what you're doing to Brian because you know that you don't want to be with him. You're wasting his time. You're also cheating on him. Like you need to, for both of you, have like some courage and end it for both of your sakes because you're wasting your time, you're wasting his time. And I think the kindest thing you can do now is just to be like, look, I don't want to be with you.

1:04:37I haven't been happy for a long time. I'm sorry if I haven't expressed that correctly and you didn't really know, but like, yeah, I'm sorry. I haven't been happy actually for a long time and I don't want to be with you anymore. And I'm calling it quits. Like, mum, everyone, I'm breaking up with him. Sorry. Do you know what you should do? It's my life. Let your family know before. Talk to your mum and say, mum, I'm not happy with Brian. I think I'm going to break up with him. People will be like, yeah, she's been happy with him for ages. Like she will be in your corner. Have those chats with your mom.

1:05:03And she's going to support you. You'll be like, oh, it feels actually a bit better now that mom knows that I want to be with him. Kind of lightens the load. Yeah. Like, I feel like I can make that. I can tell Brian now. Like, you know, tell people, start telling your family. Get the word out. And they're going to support you. They're not going to say, oh, stay with it. No, they'll say, okay, do whatever you need to do, Sarah. Absolutely. Like, oh, we wish it could work out. But if you're not happy, you're not happy. Yeah. Like they know that you have to put yourself first. And I think once you've done that, it'll feel much easier to then actually do it.

1:05:33Yes. Because it's when you're like thinking about it and no one knows that you don't want to be with him, apart from his sister. It's just like secret. It's really hard. It's really hard. And then Steve, I don't think he's going to be your husband. I don't think he, I mean, he might be. He might be. And yeah, he might just want to have sleep with you. But also like, that's what you might just want after this relationship is have a bit of fun sex. I would get out there though and I wouldn't just like go with Steve. And I wouldn't be so hopeful. I would test the waters elsewhere as well. I wouldn't be tunnel vision on Steve also because we have to be aware of what your sister and friends have said that, oh, maybe he just had sex.

1:06:10And also like, I feel like Brian is kind of like your first big relationship, high school sweethearts. I really don't want you to like jump into something else. Me neither. Another like situationship or thing. like this is your time now to like yeah like i'm not saying you have to sit at home on your own like go out there be single speak to people sleep with different people like find out what else you like like compare people like that's what this time is going to be for yeah and also just time and i think it's going to be eye-opening you're going to be like oh my god yeah so many different people out here i think i quite like this i quite like this i didn't like that didn't like that yeah i wouldn't just go from brian to steve no because steve might not even want to commit but Steve might not be into it when he knows that you're single true Steve might only like the idea that because you're not single yeah that's what makes this whole thing quite secretive and like sexy he might think that when you're single oh it's boring yeah so don't turn a vision on Steve because we don't know what his intentions are also we don't really know him no we've only had sex with him three times like we don't know this man and your family aren't don't think he's a good egg yeah and for all we know is Steve sleeping with 10 other women yeah and you're not special Sarah unfortunately to steve to steve that's what i mean do you know what i mean so it's like let's not fall in love with steve because he's just a single guy about town town town sleeping with sleeping with the likes of you and others yeah but married women absolutely but step one let's get let's break up before the end of the year let's do it this year come on give yourself a clean fresh start to 26 come on imagine if you could just wake up and it was done she would take the relationship was done all the hassle was over with all the heartbreak all the guilt it was all just over family's over it you know it's normal now that you're single do you know what I mean just everyone knows you would take it so that means like you have to do it because then the only thing stopping you is just the emotions and the guilt and actually doing it you have to the relief you're going to feel is immense you want that end result that you can talk to Steve guilt free yeah like you can get up to whatever you want with Steve whatever you want in whoever's bed yeah absolutely hopefully not your sister yeah but bon chants good luck Sarah woohoo right star of the week Star of the week.

1:08:19Let's have it. Okay, we've got Liberty writing in for our Star of the Week this week. Liberty, girl. I never thought we'd be able to write into the pod because my Brian, George, is the best thing that has ever happened to me. We met when we were 11 years old. He was my first kiss. We started dating five years ago, got engaged, married, bought a house and had a baby that was born on the 6th of August. So you could say we've been busy. throughout every throughout every step in our relationship he has been my rock he is selfless beyond measure he is making me laugh all these years on George since having the little girl our little girl he has stepped up George being awake with me every night taking the little one in the morning so I can get extra sleep carrying on his self-employment work throughout his paternity sleep so I can have a longer maternity leave anyway I feel like my life is a fairy tale and I want the ladies to know there are amazing Bryans out there.

1:09:22Of course, pics attached, George and baby Jude Alba. What? This is their child. I'm going to get it up myself. This is Jude. Oh, oh, oh, Jude. I've got it here. Oh my God. Look at the lovely couple. Look at Liberty and George. Look at the wedding. I'm seeing it. Oh my God, George. Wow. this is a beautiful wedding George oh George and Liberty what a gorgeous little announcement pic are you seeing that I'm seeing it it's beautiful with the little thing in there George and Liberty what a couple thank you George for making our Sarah happy restoring faith oh woohoo oh happy for you guys George I love saying that name George Joshua Joshua Joshua.

1:10:16Joshua. George. All right, guys. Thank you so much for listening. Absolutely. You can email your dilemmas to hello at thegirlsbathroom.com. You can follow us on Instagram, YouTube, and on TikTok at thegirlsbathroom. If you're in the group chat, we'll see you for the bonus episode on Monday. If not, we'll see you back here. Woo-hoo! Bye! Bye!

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