Boy Talk: My boyfriend hacked my online banking???

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1:44Take a pew. Listen up. We are here. Come on in. Have a seat. Take a deep breath.

1:52Sarah Ashcroft: If we're on the radio, turn it up. Absolutely. Windows down. Speakers loud. Spring is kind of springing. I think to the runners out there. Yeah. Keep that pace up, girl. Keep it up, girl. You got it, girl. Keep going. Yes. One, two. Watch that watch. One, two. Yeah, absolutely. Have that energy gel. Did you see the start of that marathon or something? And then everyone was getting trampled? No. Thought you'd be on that side of TikTok. No. Well, everyone does get like a bit too excited at the beginning. and it's like we need to keep our pace and slow down. Yeah, but then no one was stopping. Like everyone was just like jumping over them and all the girls on the floor were like stopping their watches.

2:28Yeah, of course, because it's going to mess with their time. It's going to mess with their average pace. Because trampling is like a real fear. No, people die. I know, remember when we were at Leeds Festival, we were on the floor.

2:39Sarah Ashcroft: Yeah, we were on the floor with like six people on top of us. And if it wasn't for Tom Murphy, shout out. Shout out, lifted us up from the crowd. No, genuinely. Yeah, she saved our life that day. No, we were on the floor of a big, moshy thing. Pile. Like a pile on. Genuinely on the floor. It was so scary. People were laying on top of us. No, it really was very scary. And if it wasn't for our protector, Tom Murphy at the time. Yes. 16 years old. He did lift us out of that ground. No, we actually did. Yeah. Shout out. I've got my handbag today. Miss Blueberry's bag. Yes. Chewy Vuitton. Chewy. Oh, yeah.

3:15You got this, no?

3:16Sarah Ashcroft: I believe so. yeah yeah chewy vautant oh yes only the best only the best for the best of course for his boobs how are we all doing then i'm feeling really optimistic because march is like here yeah i'm ready it's spring to me it's spring is it not yeah we're gonna have great weather this week yeah it's looking really good it's really mild yeah the evenings are lighter yeah like 5 p.m it's still light absolutely i'm i'm feeling like wow the worst is behind us you know taking blueberry out it's not having to layer up layer up not a blizzard it's quite nice mild you know soon i'll just be in a hoodie i mean soon you'll be in a t-shirt sunglasses what about a vest soon it'll be linen trousers sat in here yeah i can't quite believe that in here isn't the seasons changing just so bizarre it is fantastic it's very interesting but Yeah, we're all feeling good.

4:14It's getting warmer. The darkness is behind us. You know, January and February is, you know. Bleak. Well, it's not, you know, summer.

4:23Sarah Ashcroft: It's not June, is it? We're summer girls through and through. And Chintzy has got her perfect Pantone on today with her pink tracksuit. I am rocking an Adidas number. Got her triple stripes on. She's sporty today. Yeah, pink and brown. Sporty spots. I think it's actually the perfect in-between tracksuit. Yeah. I agree with that not too fluffy not too thick also I got a blow dry yesterday she gave me a lot of volume I'll tell you it's a great blow dry is this the usual place absolutely you need to go she's done it well you need to go you've never been have you no you need to go seriously great blow dry there obviously that was the lady that farted on me if we remember I'll never forget but she's good and we've really the proof's in the pudding look at these girls look at this bounce and we've really created a relationship of sorts and it's a nice relationship where we don't have to chat we don't have to speak I'm not expecting conversation from you you don't have to speak conversation from me we keep it professional nice to see you again I'm here regularly and she asks where the dog is or if the dog's there we acknowledge the dog and then we get on to it I say thank you ladies see you next time How long does a masterpiece like this usually take?

5:4140 minutes tops. Nice. Which is quick. Yeah, absolutely. And they're always asking me, you doing anything tonight? Special occasion? I'll say all ladies.

5:51Sarah Ashcroft: What are you getting your blow dry for? Yeah. I'll say ladies, not tonight. Just sit in the house. Yeah, not tonight. I'll be heading home. Ladies, thank you. That's why I'm getting it pin curled. But yeah, they always think I'm up to something special. Yeah, that's Cynthia's blow dry tip, which is a very good tip. It is. To ask them to put it in the pin curls. I think I've had a lot of disappointing blow dries. And there's nothing worse than a disappointing blow dry. There is nothing worse. There really is nothing worse. Especially with someone who's got frizzy curly hair. It's just a waste. It's just a waste.

6:21Because I could have done this shit job at home. Yeah. But this is why I really like these ladies. Despite her farting on me that time. She does a great job. And she does burn my scalp a bit. But she does a good job.

6:32Sarah Ashcroft: Who cares when it looks like that? Who cares? So I am giving va-va-voom today. I've tried to tame it with the claw clip. It can be tame. Otherwise, it didn't really match the tracksuit. It was giving ultimate glam. It's giving spring pantry. Of course. We like a bouffant. I think we should bring a bouffant back. I love a bouffant. I really enjoyed my bouffant. We just need to talk. So we did a shoot the other day for Rooms. And it's 60s vibes. Won't share much more. I mean, by the time it is. Oh, no, actually. This is really real time. Oh, yeah, sorry. And by the time it came, and we both had bouffants.

7:07I hope that is the actual terminology for it. But Sophia really suited it. I really enjoyed the bouffant. Sophia was meant for the 60s. She was meant for that hairspray life.

7:17Sarah Ashcroft: What's Amanda Bynes called? What's she called? Tracy. No, Amanda Bynes. She's not called Sydney, is she? Oh, Amanda Bynes. Hers was gorgeous. That honey, you know, honey bamboo farm. Yeah. Goals. Honeycomb. Yeah. It was an eventful shoot though. I can't remember her name. It was an eventful shoot. Absolutely. There was tears. Tears. Tears. Me and my part. Tears we shed at the shoot. But you know, a mother's instinct is a mother's instinct. But we, you know, it turned out for the best. Absolutely. Yeah. It was great. We had to put some people in their place. We had to tell some men some things.

7:55Sarah Ashcroft: Always. But that's just a usual day in our life. Absolutely. Nothing we can't handle. No man in my life. Peace and quiet over here. Peace and quiet. Absolutely. Right. Shall we dive into our question of the week? Absolutely. Everybody, welcome back. It is Boy Talk today. Absolutely. Very excited about that. Ready to report. She's trying a daycare tomorrow. Right. This is really taking us back. What was the first song on your iPod? So I remember, what was my first iPod? So did the more handheld one come before the clip? on remember the clip on the ipod mini the clip on yeah i never had the clip on i think the clip on was like quite high tech was after ipod mini i think it was the ipod nano right there was the long skinny one yeah there was a long skinny one ipod touch i had like the one that was like half of an iphone these days with like the screen the fat one the fat one i remember yeah i took that in at like year six.

8:58Sarah Ashcroft: What did I have? I took that to primary school. So it was definitely before iPhones. I don't really remember you having an iPod. Did you have one? Did you have the mini? I had the mini. So remember that I had that in pink. The clip. Super cool. Because then I remember my dad would use it. I mean, I remember having a Walkman. Do you? Yeah. And I brought it to school. I remember having a CD player. Because you know who had a Walkman? Holly Rich. Cool girl. Of course you did. And I was like, whoa. Holly, that's really cool. Imagine having a second name, Rich. Rich Actually deep that Yeah That was actually kind of A mental second name Holly Rich Mr.

9:32Sarah Ashcroft: and Mrs. Rich It's like It's from Richie Rich Holly had the coolest house Richie Rich Did you watch Richie Rich? No You never watched Richie Rich? No With um What's his face? From Home Alone It's a classic film Kevin McAllister Yeah No Like it's a You should watch it on the weekend I'm not even joking Richie Rich Really great film Okay yeah I'm open to that Seriously Really open to that You know from him and his prime when he was young yeah i'm really open to that no genuinely okay richie rich okay and he's like a rich kid who's gonna you know sort things out oh yeah okay i like it's really good it's quite good um so yeah i had a walkman before the uh would you just put a cd in did i have a walk i mean i feel like one of the first songs on my ipod was like a song from the step up soundtrack with channing taton and cassie yes because that was like my favorite film of all time yeah because you're saying ipod i'm thinking now back to getting the now 60 that's before is that before getting an ipod right that was like cd player in our rooms now 57 now 40 all the hits all the hits yeah yeah girls allowed dream i guess that was a bit later on later yeah yeah getting your time that was that sexual for okay what so you're saying what was your first one to step up mine And would probably be a song from the Step Up soundtrack.

10:58Sarah Ashcroft: Some of these answers might jog a memory for myself. Well, we've got here Miley Cyrus Can't Be Tamed. It's like your hair today. Rare. Absolutely. Spice Girls, wannabe. I don't want to be a hater, but like I didn't really care about the Spice Girls ever. Me neither. Well, no, our generation was Girls Loud and the Saturdays Shout Out. Shout Out. Jonas Brothers, SOS. I'm one of my favorites. See, why? Oh, this is an SOS. Don't want a second guess. But listen, as the older sister, I had no one to introduce me to things like the Jonas Brothers. So I wasn't a Jonas girl. I did try and tell you at the time.

11:36I'm sure you didn't, Sophia. I definitely did.

11:39Sarah Ashcroft: I'm sure you didn't. You weren't interested in the Jonas Brothers. Really? You weren't interested in Justin Bieber. You weren't interested in the Jonas Brothers. You weren't interested in 90210. What was I interested? Desperate Housewives. I was 90210. One Tree Hill. I was 90210. Yeah, a long time later. But like how, like we would have been 10 years old, Jonas Brothers. I was focused on my sports. I wasn't listening to ballet and your scholarships. Of course. I don't think I got into the Jonas Brothers until like maybe like 13, like secondary school, to be honest. Where was I? I don't know where you were.

12:11I would have found them cute, surely.

12:14Sarah Ashcroft: But then my awakening was high school musical Zac Efron. and also your awakening we're talking a little bit later now though the Dolan twins shout out Grayson that was my other life that was the life that could have been wow we're 16 then yeah we're getting it on and I remember sorry 15 no sidetrack 15? was it Dolan twin Tuesdays? yeah oh my god the best day of the week like every Tuesday after school new Dolan twin Tuesday no like the best day of the whole week yeah I miss them but they're happy they're happy and that's all that matters JLS tightrope I've never heard that and I like to think oh we've definitely heard that I don't know we will have definitely heard that I like to think we know some JLS no come on we stand cover drive Twilight I'm loving this Twilight what a classic I'm loving this Twilight wait what was it JLS what Agro Sans Candy Kesha TikTok wait Sophia what was the JLS song Mr.

13:14Sarah Ashcroft: Six Old Beat tightrope I just have to hear this T-Pain Church. That was from the Step Up album. Tight Rope. How am I spelling this? Tight Rope. Oh, Tight. An IAS Replay. Classic. Also, who remembers Pyramid? It doesn't exist on Apple Music. JLS Tight Rope. Doesn't exist. Maybe they've deleted it. How am I spelling tight Rope? T-I-G - That's exactly what I did, yeah. Rope. No. I've never heard of it. Here it is. My bad. I'm spelling it wrong. Right. No, I haven't heard this. Let's give it to the chorus. It's a slow one. Let's give it to the chorus. No, this wasn't on Now57. No, no, no. Absolutely.

13:59Sarah Ashcroft: God, look at them. Oh. Right, okay. We've got Tinchy Strider, number one. Oh, number one. Isn't, um. No, I understand that. You're number one. Wasn't N-Dubes in that? No, maybe not. Listen, uh, uh, now you're the one. All I do is blink twice We've got Raise your glass if you are wrong In all the right ways Pink We've got any One Direction song Yeah I mean what makes you beautiful Not iPod though Like we're getting on a bit We would have had a phone then Yeah we were on the iPhone 3GS at that point Cascader Evacuate the dance floor Oh my god what a classic And we've got Neo Let Me Love You Yes Oh, never forget Leroy Sanchez.

14:47Cover, never forget. That was my awakening, I think, that Leroy cover. That was a great time. We've got James Blunt, You're Beautiful.

14:55Sarah Ashcroft: Yeah, beautiful. Not for me. I mean, that's what my mum would listen to. Yeah, that's like, that's not iPod stuff. And like my mum would listen to in the car all of Black Eyed Peas. Angie was a real Black Eyed Peas. She was. Like that is all we would listen to in the car. Like Black Eyed Peas, excuses. Oh, I'm sorry, that's Bergie. Yeah, ma, ha, ma, oh, really? Oh, no, no, it is Black Eyed Peas, I think. Check it out. I met a girl down at the disco. Like, that was in the Toyota car every day. On the school pickup. No, it truly was. Come on, girls. We've got Aqua Barbie. What's that? What? I'm a Barbie girl.

15:35Aqua Barbie. Oh, I'm a Barbie girl. I mean, classic. We've got the Hoedown. Hoedown. We've got the throw down. Pop it, lock it. Polka dot it. Country ball in. We've got Rihanna, only girl in the world. Yeah, that was like

15:53Sarah Ashcroft: secondary school time for us. We've got Crazy Frog. Were we putting that on iPods? Probably. Boom, boom, boom, boom. We definitely won her. We definitely won her. Surely not. We've got Fergie Glamorous. Yeah. Sing it. G-L-A-M-O-R-R-O-U-S-E. So, Blueberry, you weren't born before when these songs came out. we've got here Katy Perry Katy Katy I Kissed a Girl I Kissed a Girl yeah classic I mean wow that's really just that was a lovely that was when the best music was being made truly that was like good times I know because like what is this Harry's what is this Harry album gonna have for us you know don't ask me I don't know I think it's gonna be like if we genuinely like if we genuinely yeah what's the disco isn't it yeah If we genuinely got in the studio Like with a producer Like we could probably Whip up something pretty good I think we could make something really good No I'm like not even I think we've kind of got the ear for it I agree I'm a music maestro And I think we And I think I think one thing we could do very well Is if we had a limited budget I think we could make a great music video I'm not saying we'd be starring in it But we could produce An incredible music video Absolutely If I had access to the best choreographer Best dancers Paniple Dance Studios let's go absolutely we'll get Louis in to help choreo we've got it in the bag we just need Mark Hayhurst on deck and we're fine

17:27just before we get into it quick disclaimer just to say we are not doctors we are not professionals we do not actually know what we are talking about

17:34Sarah Ashcroft: this is a light hearted space okay don't take what we say literally because we could be wrong yeah and if there's anything serious if there's anything you feel like you're seriously struggling with please contact a GP a professional because that is not us. We're just girls, girls and boys just like you. We're just trying to get through life as well. Not professionals. Enjoy the episode.

17:54Sarah Ashcroft: Right, let's dive into some dilemmas. We've got some very good ones this week. I'm quite excited about this. Right. First one we have here. Okay. My fiance doesn't brush his teeth. Oh God. How have you got this far in the relationship and only just discovered this? I know, this is true. How do we not know? Or has it been a slow decline? Has it been a slow decline? Could have been a slow decline. Because now he's in a relationship, he's comfortable, he's thinking, oh, hygiene is the bottom of his list. Blueberry agrees. We've been together for six years, engaged for two. The relationship has had its ups and downs.

18:39Sarah Ashcroft: Through thick and thin, but we made it through. I saw that TikTok last night that you were speaking about. the girls laughing at the Valentine's Day caption so he just got fed it but generally it's pretty good there's endless good sides to him and he makes me feel so loved but there's also downsides one being he doesn't know how to brush his teeth but surely this hasn't been the way for six years you couldn't have been saying this for six years it must have been a decline you don't just suddenly unlearn how to brush your teeth it's getting to the point where I don't want to kiss him well yeah On the outside, my fiance is very attractive and looks like he would be clean.

19:17Sarah Ashcroft: Before we moved in together, I never noticed anything strange, like he never smelled bad or had bad breath. When we moved in together, I found out he doesn't use soap. He thinks it's not good for you as it strips away the body's natural oils. When he showers, he only rinses his body with water. I later noticed he uses so much deodorant. two browns at once. This explains why he doesn't smell. There's going to be such a build-up though. I only noticed his breath smelling about a year ago. How only a year ago? He brushes his teeth once a day in the morning because apparently his dentist told him it's bad to brush your teeth too frequently as it strips away a natural layer of the teeth.

20:03Why does he think he's stripping away everything? Everything's been stripped away.

20:09Sarah Ashcroft: he doesn't brush his teeth before bed as it's doctor recommended except he hasn't been to the dentist the entire time we've been together over six years i started taking a closer look at how he's brushing his teeth and noticed he only uses an ant-sized amount of toothpaste and i said you're supposed to use a lot more toothpaste like a pea size yeah he said no actually this is the correct amount i said no it's a pea-sized amount the packet probably says so too and he He said, sure, but never change anything. As he didn't get the hint, I opened up a conversation about this, saying I've noticed his breath smells even after he brushes his teeth.

20:47Sarah Ashcroft: It'll be a good idea every now and then to be more thorough, use a generous amount of toothpaste, floss, mouthwash, etc. Wait a second. Also, though, he's not using soap on his body. What about his private parts? His bum hole? He seems to think that water is going to do the trick. I don't even want to take a peek down there. I bet his willies stinks. Like how do you go to the gym sweat and not use soap? Like water's not doing anything. What? So you think standing outside in the rain is cleaning you? It doesn't work like that. You need soap. No, but like the crevices of his... You have odour. You need to wash.

21:24But like the crevices of everything down there is actually making me...

21:29Sarah Ashcroft: I'm surprised you've not smelled... I'm surprised we're not more concerned about the body odour. Body odour, yeah. But she says he doesn't smell because he's using so much deodorant. But what? Is he using deodorant really? I mean, what brands are you using? Let us all know. Shout out. Sounds like a miracle worker. Okay. So you've said, look, I think we should use some mouthwash and maybe a bit of floss. Fast forward six months. He's using a bit more toothpaste. I bring this up every now and then, but he doesn't care. He still does not floss and only brushes his teeth once a day. He chews a lot of gum.

22:05Sarah Ashcroft: so that's covering the smell similar to the deodorant if you want a clear example last night he's like aware of like smells and such do you know what i mean what like i'm thinking of like when you go out drinking you wake up you're you need like how do you not you need to clean the fucking like what if he throws up what if he's sick are you just gonna rinse your mouth out of water well yeah because it's gonna strip it it's gonna strip the natural oils and vomit's gonna to strip them out of the oils. Last night he went out for drinks and he often drinks too much. So he threw up when he got home.

22:41Sarah Ashcroft: In the morning, he brushed his teeth and before he went to work, I noticed his breath reeked of alcohol, sick and morning breath. He works closely with others. So I'm scared he's going to lose clients because of this. The clients aren't going to be happy. What would you do? The obvious answer is to tell him, but I already have. How many times do you tell a grown man to brush his teeth he's 36 by the way oh this is smelly breath man oh his mouth looks like it stinks but also unsuspecting like looks kind of groomed got sunglasses on a hat on yeah like a suit wait zoom zoom zoom it's blurry but also he's smoking there is he yeah But like very unsuspecting.

23:31Sarah Ashcroft: He really needs to be brushing his teeth. He's got sunglasses. I mean, Sarah, you look absolutely stunning. And I'm sure you are very IG, Nick. Absolutely. I'm sure you've amped yours up because, you know, you've seen it all. To overcompensate. Absolutely. I mean, I honestly... Break up with him. Break up with him. She's engaged as well. I am being deadly serious. This, like, you should be able to say to your partner, you know in confidence like look he's obviously like fix it you know you know he's obviously a weird kind of guy because he doesn't use he thinks he knows best yeah he doesn't use soap that's fucked he doesn't use but then like okay you're not going to use soap or you only want to use certain amount of toothpaste but you're happy to go and get pissed every weekend like you know if he was this like ultra wellness yeah like so concerned you know my body is a temple like i I don't eat sugar or this or that.

24:31Sarah Ashcroft: I only drink water, like shit like this. I'd be like, okay, it's somewhat in keeping with his personality. Did you ever see the liver man? No. You didn't want to see the liver man. Who's the liver man? Was he the liver man or the kidney man? The liver king. Oh, the liver king. Was he eating weird stuff? And he was eating raw meat. But was he like a really muscly man? But his whole, yeah. Yeah, I think I did see this. And his whole thing was that, obviously don't quite meat. His whole thing was that he was that big because he ate all this raw meat and he didn't use soap. Because he said it was all about, you know, natural carnival, carnival, you know.

25:10Raw till fall kind of vibe. Yeah. Freely actually popped him on a few pages yesterday.

25:15Sarah Ashcroft: No way. Do you know why I eat in a day? Wow. She's still out here. Freely the banana girl. The influence that lady had on us at 16 years old was. Oh, God. I was watching that. Sophia thought she was going to have little raw till fall babies. So did I. I thought we were just going to have a melon for breakfast, a melon for lunch. An avocado. And raw courgette and avocado for dinner. And cooked potatoes after four. And maybe a boiled potato. We thought we were going to go to Thailand and eat mangoes. Mango Island Mama. Mango Island Mama. Shout out. Our kids just ate avocados. They were so cute. They were cute.

25:50But you've got to eat like five pineapples for breakfast. And 14 dates. Yeah, and fucking eight bananas in a smoothie. Like, bloody hell. and we were trying our best.

25:59Sarah Ashcroft: But then she's got this six pack. I know. Like what a weird, like if you were on that side of the internet 10 years ago. That was a time to be alive. The vegan internet at that time, it was mental. It was mental. And like impressionable minds as us, like, yeah, I'm going to go raw vegan. Absorbing all this information. Like raw vegan. And like Freely, she wouldn't eat. That's all she would eat. Raw to four. She'd be ready to raw to four. Anyway, she's still popping. Wow. Good for Freely. Yeah. look she's a test true test of time absolutely right where were we yeah so he's someone who doesn't brush his teeth yeah as the liver king no the liver king he didn't use soap but apparently he smelled really bad yeah so i just don't know how this guy is surviving day to day i'm not sure you should be with this but genuinely i think have an intervention of sorts say look it's really being attractive this is complete like also like he's going to teach this shit to his kids to your kids like this is important stuff like yeah just general basic stuff that he's going to be teaching your kids your kids aren't going to brush in their teeth like and they're not going to use soap and they're going to think oh well dad doesn't use soap like that's fine because everything your parents do you do yeah it's true so genuinely if he can't if you can't get to the bottom of this now break up with him i'm being don't get married seriously because then you're gonna sign up for a life of just smelly why are we having to beg a man to brush his teeth and use soap please he's 36 don't sign up for this life sarah like break his mom know what he's doing break up with him and have a peaceful life please and a clean one at that please you'll feel so free break with that smelly man he's in your bed sheet oh he's in the bed i don't even think about like also it's like you're in the right we share a shower my soap's right there look at my soaps and oils and gorgeous stuff i've got loofahs i've got different kinds of shower gel i've got oils i've got l 'oxitane almond shower oil you don't want to use that like go for it it's there like go go on you can do it go crazy and he's looking at all that delicious smelling stuff is going no i can't strip my water for me just the water for me that will do good luck sarah genuinely We can't be with men in 2026 who don't use soap.

28:20Sarah Ashcroft: We just can't. We absolutely can't. And also just imagine telling your friends this story. Oh, no. Imagine Sophia came to me in confidence and said, look. I'm having a real problem. Help. It's been four years. He's not used soap once. Like, it's been weighing heavy on me. I said, you can't marry him. Like, it really is that serious. It's that serious. Like, I fear it really is that serious. It is that serious. Well, bon chance, Sarah.

28:59Oh, God. Now we've got a thief in our midst. Oh, God.

29:08Is my boyfriend stealing from me?

29:11Sarah Ashcroft: Oh, God. I mean we knew a girl once Whose boyfriend did steal from her didn't we She left that cash on the table and took it Some men think That you're so naive that They can just do something and just lie to you And then you're going to believe it She had cash on the table or cash in her purse And he then just like took the cash But like very blatantly She came back she was like oh watch that Watch my purse she came back to the table The cash had gone and he was like oh I don't know Acting like the cash wasn't Obviously you've taken it Obviously. Right. Hi, girlies. I'm obsessed with the pod.

29:47I listen every week whilst getting my lunchtime steps in and never thought I'd need to write in until now. Keep stepping, Sarah. Keep it pushing. Absolutely, Sarah. A little context. I, 22, and my boyfriend, 27, have been together for almost three years. Wow. We met when I was just turned 19. I was freshly out of a previous relationship. However, we just clicked instantly. We laughed all the time and would go on plenty of dates He booked us a spa night away in one of the loveliest hotels before becoming official

30:19Sarah Ashcroft: That's nice Love a little spa night It felt What's nice? Soaps to choose from Oh god, plentiful soaps, Epsom salts You name it It felt like a very grown up relationship compared to my last Well yeah, he's skewing older So you're thinking he's mature and want something serious. I have a very good job and earn a very good salary for my age. Whereas my boyfriend had taken the uni route and currently works in a low salary job. He has tried multiple times to find a new job. However, it never works out. I am very good with my money and saving. However, my boyfriend is notoriously bad at spending and saving.

31:03If he pays for one day, I'll pay for the next and I'm more than happy to help him. and if he was ever struggling with money because I love him. We had even recently talked about buying our first home together. Okay, so you earn more money than your boyfriend, but it's never really been an issue. You pay for one day, he pays for another day.

31:22Sarah Ashcroft: Not that big of a deal. Added context, our sex life is pretty much non-existent. I have questioned him about this and he says we both live with our parents. he is uncomfortable having sex whilst they're in the house which I do appreciate as people listening can absolutely kill the mood but surely there are ways around this right? book that lovely spa hotel again yeah let's get back to the like let's get to the back to that lover's den that we had that one time yeah let's get creative okay so you're thinking okay yeah well fair enough like yeah it's a valid reason you know over the past But it's like, that's been years.

32:05Sarah Ashcroft: Yeah, it's always been this way. Yeah. And if there's been a decline in it, then it's obviously not. Yeah. That reason. Anyway, over the past few years of our relationship, money would come out of my account and go into his. What? What, like on a direct debit? Yeah. No way. In the beginning, it would be the odd 20 pounds or something. So I would ask if he's got it. He would say yes and send it back to me straight away. saying it must have been some sort of glitch glitches like that don't that has a horrendous glitch i need to check my bank what do you mean a glitch oh no banks don't glitch and send your boyfriend money by accident that's not a thing no did you hear about that lady though i saw on tiktok she got wired like eight million pounds no by accident what happens in that situation like she She called, well, I think she should have called a lawyer because she's probably had some rights, but she was, it's the biggest regret of her life.

33:08She called the bank and said like, someone sent me eight million pounds. Like it's not mine and sent it back. And she thinks about it all the time. Oh my God. I know. But you must be entitled to some of it. Yeah.

33:19Sarah Ashcroft: Like, what if you, I would spend it immediately and be like, sorry, it's gone. Oh, sorry. I thought it was coming from my boyfriend. I thought it was a glitch. Oh God. This is, no, we actually need to get the FBI. This is actually like kind of shady. But also, right. Doing it in small income so you won't notice. And also I'm fearful, like at the start of the relationship, you were 19 and he would have been 25. So is he thinking that he's, you know, so much more smoother and smarter than you? And I don't like that he's thinking that he can take advantage, which is exactly what he's trying to do.

33:54Sarah Ashcroft: He's stealing from you. Right. So this is obviously how he started the thieving. Yes. this is crazy so at the beginning logged into your bank on your phone must be and sent himself money but you're i don't think sarah's aware that he has the logins yeah so so she said that was the first few years we they are 20 pounds we'd say oh what i'm 20 i've just said it was 20 pounds by accent he sent it back oh glitch glitch glitch um as it was a small amount of money and i loved him I brushed it off because it seemed too much hassle to question him. Yeah, you're not thinking in that instant that, yeah, it's theft.

34:38This happened roughly five times in 2024. That's a big fat glitch. I'd be on the phone to the bank. That's a lot.

34:45Sarah Ashcroft: I'd be freezing cards. I'd be very paranoid. It's fraudulent. Yeah. Okay, so this happened literally five times. Why is it always your account that it's glitching to? like no it's not going to my mum is it yeah okay so that happened five times in 2024 so that's two years ago fast forward to literally January 2026 I had seen that 500 pounds of my money this is why you never let a man know how much money you've got I'm being deadly serious because he sees that you're making more money why has he got access to this account this is like really not good he wants it and he wants it and he thinks that he has so much power over you that he can he can take it and he wants you're just not gonna notice and he he needs to fit because you're making more money than him he needs to feel superior to you in some sort of way and this is the way he kind of thinks he can do that get one up on you right what the fuck is going on with you that is mental right let's actually mental this is this he's robbing you We're calling 999, sorry, I'm being deadly serious, but let's keep reading.

35:58So I'd seen that£500 of my money, which was a savings account, was sent to his bank account. Straight away, I asked if he had it, in which he did and sent the money back.

36:14Sarah Ashcroft: Why are you asking like, oh, have you got that? Like, what? I'd be accused, accused, accused at this point. What are you doing? I'd be changing my bank passwords. Yeah. My pins. I'd be moving over to fucking HSBC. I'm surprised that you're not more alarmed. But she's got the love goggles on. I know. Are you sending yourself money from my account? Like what's going on? I know, but when you've got the love goggles on, like you're not seeing logic. I know. So you got very ballsy with a 500 pound transaction because before it was just 20 quids. Yeah. I decided to take it a step further as it was a considerable amount.

36:52So I called my bank.

36:53Sarah Ashcroft: Oh, yeah. Nice. Well done. Well done. They told me the money was sent from my phone using my mobile banking app. Yeah. Okay, so he hasn't got your logins, but he knows when to take your phone. He obviously knows your little password to get into your app. Yeah. Oh, my fucking God. Who the fuck are you? They told me that my banking... That's really scary as well. This is really scary. Like that's really scary behavior. I think if a man can steal from you, he can also do a lot of other bad things. Like that's not, no. And the last thing you, like you've been with this guy for years. The last feelings like you want to have is like, are you stealing from me?

37:40Sarah Ashcroft: Like now I feel like I can't leave my stuff around you. I don't want to leave my phone around you, my purse. Like you are now on such high alert for things that shouldn't even be on your radar with your partner. He's actually stealing money from you. He's logging it. That is so like how I would never think about logging into someone else's on their phone and being like, whoop, gonna send myself that. He hates you, Sarah. Like you've got to be a certain type of person to even have that thought. to be like, I'm going to go on their banking app and I'm going to send myself some money. Several, several times.

38:22Sarah Ashcroft: Over years. Like, I bet he does this to everyone. I'm speechless. I bet he does it on his mum's phone. Yeah. I bet this is just something that he does. I think this is so normal for him. Yeah. And he, like, he hates you. Like, there's no other explanation. It's like, you really hate me. You literally hate me. You're stealing from me. Yeah. like I'm here like also like if you want some money like ask me exactly like I never said I wouldn't support you like I love you yeah for some reason I don't know why like don't know fucking why but I do yeah so they're saying look they told me that my banking was secure and that there was no any outside breaches at the exact time my money was sent I was with my boyfriend yeah I was making myself a cup of tea before work whilst he and my phone were upstairs wow Wow, he's on it.

39:11Sarah Ashcroft: Like the minute you leave that phone, he is logging on. This day, there was only myself, my mum and sister and him in the house. I asked him if he did this and he said no. I thralled through my banking app to see if this had happened any of the points. Oh my God, any of the points. And in November 2025,£1 ,000 had been sent from the exact account to his account. oh my god so in november 2025 a thousand pounds have been sent from that exact account to his account wow and i was with him at that exact date and time my bank could tell me again that the payment was sent from my mobile and from my mobile banking app oh my god i have never sent someone money from this account so he was not added as a payee yeah because like you're you're in my savings account yes like you're not even in my current account like what are you doing because obviously like you're like naturally on your banking app you're checking your current account you're seeing what you've got in your current account checking my current account blah blah like i'm not checking my savings account because that just stays the same unless i'm putting money in like i'm not going out yeah so that's why he thinks he's being slick because yeah that's not And then we're actively checking for like fluctuation.

40:33No. Oh my. So I've spoken to my parents about this and they are 95 % sure that he has logged into my phone. Okay, I'm glad you're like speaking. I'm glad you're speaking about this with people. He knew my password. Yeah. And sent himself the money. I'm torn because I love him and I know I should believe him when he said he didn't do this, but all the facts are facing him. He definitely did this.

40:53Sarah Ashcroft: Sarah, he definitely did it. Right. So we just had a match of delivery. Cheers. Don't mind us. caffeine injection gets really riled up I really need it I like their skinny straws as well I love their skinny straw, I'm really enjoying this this is from Tease, the vanilla matcha from Tease, it's really good shout out I like it, it's strong but still sweet it's really just good it tastes like more than just milk right matcha, more than milk that's really good you should trademark that match up it's more than just milk right so she went straight to her parents i have spoken i'm really glad that you're being vocal about this and being like what is going on here yeah because there's a thief yeah and actually getting to the bottom of it and not just being like thinking like oh i think it's my boyfriend but like i don't want to face that you know like you're fucking stealing from me i hope he bought you something with it at least.

41:55Sarah Ashcroft: Did he fuck? I bet he was on Couture Club. And fucking where else did boys shop?

42:04PS5 games.

42:05Sarah Ashcroft: Yeah. Lynx Aftershave. J.D. Sports. At least he's using soap. At least this one washes. I don't know what I'd rather. Would you rather a boy who stinks or a boy who steals from you? A boy who... I'd rather the thief. The thief. Actually, no. No, I'd rather the smelly boy because I can give him a wash. But this one you couldn't. He's refusing to wash. That's the whole point. I'd chain him down. Yeah. I'd send him to a spa. And get a full body mud scrub. A full body clean. Yeah. Extractions. But he wouldn't go. He wouldn't want to strip the oils, you know. The oils are so vital to his skin, you know.

42:51Sarah Ashcroft: Let's get back on track here. Sorry, yeah. Okay, so I went straight to my parents about this And they are 95 % sure That he has logged into my phone I'm 19, I'm 100 % sure, Sarah Yeah, me too Me too He knew my password, you know, and sent himself the money And torn because I love him And I know I should believe him when he said He didn't do this, but all the facts are facing him He did it, Sarah Of course he's going to say he didn't do it There's been a glitch for five years There's been a glitch Did you steal a thousand pounds? Yes Of course he's not going to say that He's going to go Oh god What a weird mistake Let me send that back to you Freak So what do you girls think I should do?

43:30Would I be stupid to give him a second Sarah

43:33Sarah Ashcroft: You've given him enough second chances Sarah I tell you here right now You would be the stupidest Stupid To give him a second chance That's just That's just us being That's the truth And that's just the truth And also like I fear you've given him second chances This has been happening since 2025 24 yeah yeah they started with 20 pounds yeah 20 pounds again four times or five times that year it happened you're he's on chance number eight at this point he thinks he's so swerve saying with this glitch nonsense like yeah suave he's so swerve sort of um what a piece of shit i hate this man we've got pictures too oh my god if he was in trouble and needed it he could have asked exactly sarah but he chose to be deceptive he's embarrassed that you make more money than him and he hates you but also the the fact that you are like you are someone who has the ability to be so sneaky and steal money from me i am now terrified of you as a person like this says so much about your personality your morals your character like everything the fact that you are you just come quite happy like i'm downstairs making a cup of tea and your first instinct is bank money and also that you're happy about stealing my thousand pounds and then spending my money i think you're disgusting like well it's like what i said before i think if a man is capable of that he's capable of a lot of other fucking mental shit like seriously like that's not right that's not right like where's your mother mother knows best um so she's saying like i also never know 100 if it was him or not he has sarah it was him i promise i promise you on everything it is him it checks out it checks out all the facts sarah you just don't want to see it well because you don't want to believe that your boyfriend did that what the fuck because it's like i don't know you at his big age of 27 yes and you just think i'm 22 you can do that to me you're just embarrassed because i make more money than you that's exactly what it is yeah and he he needs to like push you down a little bit and feel like he's got some sort of hold you know one upon you by stealing from you thinking oh she doesn't know what's it's a weird mentality really fucked so she's saying he has sent the money back each time so what is he gaining well You're catching him.

46:04And he's thinking, oh, fucking hell, she's actually caught me. I'm going to have to send that one back. But he's getting away with enough where it is worthwhile. He had a thousand pounds last month. My mind is going a million miles an hour trying to decide what to do. But I have facts from my bank that make it seem like he's doing this. I had big plans for our future.

46:24Sarah Ashcroft: Oh, Sarah. I know, Sarah. I'm sorry. But I can't get past the fact that he did this. No. As he would have broken my trust. and stolen from me and lied about it. All the hell will be appreciated. Pixivar's both attached. Is everyone ready to see the thief? I'm so ready. I think we should expose him. Shall we? No, because it's Sarah's privacy. Sarah's not dealt with it in private yet. But Sarah, if you give us the go ahead, because also we need to warn other women of this thief, genuinely. He's a thief. Very serious. He's a thief of girlfriends' money. Right, here he is. So are you ready? Deceit and lies He looks terrifying He does He's got a scary side Look at this one You're not going to like this one Get a better suit With all that money that you see I know You could dress a bit better With that thousand pounds You could have bought a better suit Yeah you could have Ill-fitting Look at the sleeves You get a steamer Whilst you're at it as well Yeah Your fingers are hanging out the edge I know Guys The suit is coming down to here It's like this and we can make fun of you because you're a thief yeah we're allowed anyway sarah looks gorge look at that bombshell sarah you look beautiful sarah you deserve way better than this sarah you can do way better i don't know who this fucking knobhead thinks he is but he thinks he's so smooth no how is she gonna do this i think you're at the point now where you cannot go back yeah i think chintz is right like sorry sarah but you would be really stupid to get back with him like this man is stealing from you yes he's sending it back but that's only when you're catching him out like he did it in november but you didn't notice until now and then he had to send it you back like he's he is a really scary guy i think and i think really you don't want to feel like you don't want it's not normal to be questioning if your boyfriend is stealing from you you don't want to be checking your current account thinking like oh is any was any money gone like what am i gonna see today like Like you don't want to have any sort of fear about your privacy, your finances, like even just going forward for you guys.

48:34Sarah Ashcroft: Okay, let's say we buy a house together one day. I don't want to combine my finances with someone who is stealing money from me. Like it's really dodgy. I think it says so much about his character and I just think it's disgusting behavior. And I think you need to break up with this man immediately because I don't, I think you're not, I think you're slowly starting to see it. but you're not seeing what's right in front of you. Like he's going on your banking apps. He's sending himself money. End of story. Like, of course he's going to say, no, that wasn't me. Cause who's going to admit to that?

49:08Sarah Ashcroft: Like, if you're going to steal money, you're not going to admit that you've stole it. I think you tell all his friends. I think you tell his parents as well. I think you say it's really embarrassing. Like he lives at home. I tell his fucking mom. Yeah. You know, your son's been stealing from me. Yeah. I think you just like to break up with this guy and just say like, look, like it makes me really sad to do this because like, I love you. and I had big plans for us and I thought we were like in it forever together. But you know, and annoyingly it's taken me much longer to realize and it should have, but you've just been stealing money from me.

49:40Sarah Ashcroft: Like you're a fucking thief. You're a thief. You're taking like, you're literally stealing from me and I'm going to tell you mom that you've been stealing from me. I'm going to tell your mates. I'm going to tell all of my mates as well. I'm going to tell everyone. I'm going to tell you fucking employer as well. Yeah. I'm going to email your boss. Genuinely. You've just been stealing from me. You can do so much better than this guy. This guy is a low life. Low life loser. Who is literally taking advantage of you. And if you want, you can call the police. Get out on his record. Seriously. Like you can call the police.

50:11You've got evidence. Like, let's really let him know. Like, I'm not, don't fucking take advantage of me. Yeah. And maybe three, how many? Two, two, three, four, three, five, six, six. Okay, I might be five years younger than you. does it mean you can take the piss out of me like i think it's just maybe stemming from a bit of

50:29Sarah Ashcroft: jealousy like you didn't go to uni he went to uni you kind of got a head start in your career because you were building it whilst he was still at uni so you've managed to earn more than him and you're in a really amazing job and i think that's where it's stemming from i think he's insecure i think he's jealous of you he's insecure he resents the fact that you make a lot more than him so he's trying to knock you down a few pegs by thinking he's pulling the wool over your eyes by stealing from you. That's exactly what it is. A hundred percent. He's jealous. He wish he made this much money as you.

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52:47Sarah Ashcroft: Right, last dilemma. I fear we've just really been through it today. It's been a real rough day. We've got another fiancé, but this one does wash. However, he still has his ex... Sorry, he still... Does he thieve? He's still got his ex-fiancé's engagement ring. Is he planning on giving that to you? Because that doesn't count. He definitely is. It's not one size fits all. He's thinking I've spent some money on it. Reuse, reuse, recycle. My boyfriend and I have been together for... See, I would really struggle with this. And I know it's normal. But if I would really struggle to be with someone who's previously been engaged.

53:24Me too. Me too. I know it would just make me sad. Me too. Yeah, because I want it to be the first time.

53:33Sarah Ashcroft: Yeah, because I would be like, oh my God, you've already proposed to someone else. But you thought you were going to spend the rest of your life with someone else. But now. and also like it's not even like like he's the man like you asked to spend your life with that but then we're adults we're adults these things happen you know like everything happens for a reason like i don't want any man i speak to or get involved with to have any to have an ex yeah i know like i don't want that an ex-fiance let alone an ex-fiance like things happen but like we've got to remember you know we've all had exes you know so my boyfriend and i have been together for just under two years we got together after meeting at a work christmas party i was single at the time but he was engaged oh eventually he ended that relationship because he realized he wasn't happy and wanted to be with me this isn't my proudest moment especially as i really do see myself as a girl's girl and never want to hurt anyone intentionally the breakup itself wasn't as messy as it could have been he left her the house and we started fresh together okay so i think there was a little bit of overlap one thing he did take back though was the engagement ring she's a better woman i would i would have kept that i would have sold it i'm absolutely keeping it you're joking you gave it to me it's mine it was merely it was literally a gift and i'm gonna sell it yeah seriously it's a gift is it not it's not a loan but i guess she's maybe thinking like she's got the house she's just like what i want to get out of here like the house is more important to me yeah at the time i encouraged him to get it back as part of the breakup oh even though she was understandably reluctant in the end she did return it so it was actually you that was like you should get that ring back okay okay were you thinking get it back and sell it i'm imagining this is yeah sell it and spend it on a fucking trip for us yeah but this is interesting that you're aware because initially i thought it was going to be like i've started dating this guy i've seen he's secretly keeping the her ring yeah but like you're very aware of you've been known about this so what i'm interested to see where this is gonna go maybe he's made comments like well when i eventually propose do you like this ring i've already left the ring see if it fits yeah he was something seven like her since then um around february 2024 the ring has lived in a at work at work okay recently due to someone thieving out of people's drawers at cod it's sarah's brian he's in the workplace honestly he must work there seriously he brought it home without mentioning it something i only found out about a few days ago why shouldn't that go who's doing that brian sarah's boyfriend lord we spoke about him selling the ring okay he said he'd rather throw it away than sell it for a fraction of its value get some money back for it brian don't be stupid anytime i try to raise the subject it seems to turn into an argument so you think he's like actually emotionally attached i think he it holds so much it holds a lot of sentimental value for him and he looks at it with fond memories and goes, oh, Miss Sarah.

56:52Sarah Ashcroft: That's the devil talking. Yeah, it's true though. My mind's doing the same thing. Why else does he get defensive? Like we know what's going on. He insists he has no emotional attachment and that it means nothing. I don't think he's holding onto it for sentimental reasons, but I can't seem to get across how uncomfortable it makes me knowing it still exists, especially now it's in our home. It's like a bad omen for you guys. It is a bad omen. You know? To add to this, so many of our friends, both mine and his, are getting engaged. I know he wants to get engaged to me too. But because we both had to start over from previous relationship, we've prioritized putting our money into buying a house and getting ourselves back on track.

57:32Sarah Ashcroft: My questions are, how do I bring up this conversation again about the ring without it becoming a fight? And how do I deal with the sinking feeling I get every time I hear about another wedding or engagement? Part of me feels like this is karma for how we ended up together. Okay. So I try not to dwell on it too much, but I can't shake the feeling of discomfort knowing his ex-fiance's engagement ring is now under our roof. Yeah. Thanks for reading. It's like a ghost. She's haunting you. It's like a ghost, isn't it? Yeah, she's haunting you. The ghost of her. Yeah. And she's alive. In jewellery form.

58:14Can I see the pics? Oh, yeah, sorry. I mean I've got them on my own phone they look like a lovely couple

58:20Sarah Ashcroft: let me just take a good look Sarah's beautiful nice really nice bikini oh is that an acai bowl yeah I think it is no it's a waffle oh yeah it's a waffle yeah aww he looks clean he does look clean he's got great skin he looks moisturised yeah he's got a healthy glow he actually looks like he smells really nice yeah the only thing I would say Sarah is you shouldn't feel like you can't approach certain topics with your partner in fear of like how they're gonna respond. Like if you are gonna be with this guy forever, you wanna feel like, and you want him to feel like, look, you can talk to me about anything.

59:00Sarah Ashcroft: You can bring anything up. Like, yeah, we're allowed to disagree or fall out or whatever. But ultimately I shouldn't be sat here thinking, I really wanna bring this up, but I don't wanna do this again. Like I'm scared it's gonna turn into a fight. Like you shouldn't have to feel like you're on eggshells around your partner especially with like serious topics and i just don't really know why he won't sell it i mean i just sell it just to get rid of it just to you know put on my adult mind right here she goes yeah um i guess look everyone's allowed to have a past unfortunately and and and maybe it all it all it signifies is a time in his life and that's it and it's just like you know it just signifies that he doesn't want to get and and that's it it doesn't mean oh my god he's thinking about sorry he wants to be with sarah he misses sarah he wants to be with sarah he doesn't want to be with me like maybe if i'm your future yes and this i i hate this it's under our roof yep well i mean i'd be the same as i get rid of it who we prioritize yeah but yeah i know i also don't really but the defensiveness is where it's alarming because it's like well can't we just talk about it yeah like why are you getting so i don't think he's looking at it and reminiscing no at all which is a good thing which is a great thing but also like if you want to keep it that's fine but just say it like communicate exactly with me about it right don't be like oh i don't want to sell it because i won't get what i paid for it blah blah blah like yeah okay but surely like it's sat in a drawer so would you rather have this money in your bank account or would this piece of jewelry send you like if you want to keep it because it was a part of your past and put it in the memory box and whatever like let's talk about it but don't because i would appreciate that more the honesty yeah of you just saying oh look you know it was a time in my life and i just would rather just keep it like yeah it doesn't mean anything yeah it was just a time in my life like everyone like you knew when you met this man that he was engaged like you knew what you were getting into you knew this was always going to be like a complicated start of your relationship you just probably thought he was going to sell it get some money invest in the house you know for our future yeah so yeah it is a bit annoying because it's like well you could get a little bit of money for that to spend you know on our renovations or whatever but you're choosing to just let it I mean let him know like I just it makes me feel just slightly uncomfortable it's kind of in our home it's kind of a symbol of your past and yeah for me Brian it kind of feels like it's like a symbol of you not letting go or moving on and like when you finally get rid of this ring it will feel like you finally let go but that that's just how it makes me feel how do you truly feel about the ring like don't feel bullshit like oh i'm just gonna you know don't want to sell x i'm not gonna get as much money like just be genuinely honest like how much does it mean to you like let's like i know you were engaged like i know you loved her it's not a fucking secret like let's just talk about it yeah and then maybe you know try and approach it like that so it doesn't get defensive and just see that's a good plan just try and get him to be honest about it.

1:02:19And you'll probably appreciate the honesty if he's just like, look, it means a lot to me. That's it. Because it means she means a lot now. At least you can respect that. Yeah. It just means like maybe, you know, it meant a lot when he bought the ring. I don't know. I don't know.

1:02:29Sarah Ashcroft: Yeah. I wonder what the etiquette is. What? What do you mean? On when you break up with a fiance. Like what's the etiquette? Do you keep the ring? Do you give it back? Do they sell it? I keep it. Do you sell it? It was a gift. I'm thinking it was a gift. Yeah. Yeah, it's been a rough week for us this week. Let's finish with star of the week. Let's have some optimism. We've got men keeping rings. We've got men not using soap. And we've got men taking on money. I think all the single ladies are pretty happy this week. We really need it this week. So star of the week. Hi, girls love the pod. I have a star of the week for you.

1:03:04Sarah Ashcroft: My Brian has been amazing all week. He got me chocolates and flowers to cheer me up after a few bad days at work. And we're going to like this. He surprised me with Harry Styles tickets. Wow Harry Styles tickets Harry Styles tickets How does it feel to live my dream Boo-Bee No Stop walking We went together on our first year anniversary So I was hoping to go again this year To celebrate our fourth I'm a teacher so couldn't secure the tickets But somehow managed But he somehow managed to So we get to go and see Harry again Wait that is so special This man continues to surprise me four years in look at the lovely couple four years that no that is really so that's the man who's gonna buy you Harry Styles tickets really sweet shout out to all the lovers out there okay this should be a huge message for the girls this week we don't need men who steal from us we need men who buy us Harry Styles tickets yeah bare minimum ladies please come on they're out there let's go and find them bare minimum ladies okay if there's a thief in our midst it's quite hard to say in our midst we must get rid we must get rid okay message of today get rid of the thieves yeah don't let men steal from you okay we can do it yeah we got this alright guys thank you so much for listening to another episode if you would like a bonus episode every single Monday you can get them over on our Patreon we do two episodes every single week we do indeed booby you can email your dilemmas to hello at the girls bathroom dot com you can indeed you can follow us on Instagram YouTube TikTok all the places and we will see you on Monday for Patreon and Wednesday love you have a good week Bye.

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