Girl Talk: IS HE SLEEPING WITH SPANISH MEN??

0:00Oh my god, he's got 46 mutuals, all gay. Lucy!

0:20Hey, hello. Me and Chintz, you're both serving barefoot. We're serving jeans and a white top. Also, apparently there are some toe pervs. I didn't realise my full toes were exposed on the video. On the video. You know, we think you're not seen my toes. Just how quite the wide angle shot was. Is that what you mean? However, you know, Lucy said she saw a comment saying, oh, toes on the table. Well, we are. You can find us on WikiFeet. Absolutely. And you can find us with a high score as well. A score of 4.5. So keep ranking us five stars, please. What am I? Four. I don't know. I've not checked it in a while.

0:57I'm four you're a what? 4.5 Sophia's got that high score well I've always got a French tip toenail yeah you're sometimes a little bit over the place aren't you? yeah well I'm just covering I've got red to match the neck like surely monochrome is nice like I would never get a red toenail I know but some of the coolest girls have the cool colours on the toes yeah no I think the coolest girls is the French tip really I think a French tip toe so you're putting yourself a cool girl yeah I think the French tip toe is the best I think it's better than a white toe yeah I think it's an elite choice it is gorgeous yeah just checking out my toes yeah yeah but then like Fiona will always go an orange oh quite like a summer oh yeah pink orange yeah mum is always a bright pink bright orange yeah coral coral yeah she loves a coral yeah I like it I like it too like a hot pink for Italy yeah it's nice actually cobalt blue on the toe for Mykonos yeah it's a sleigh actually it's cool it is some of the coolest girls you know have those bright colours on their toes ah yeah she does have cool colours on her toes doesn't she yeah and like but the thing is with toenail colours if you type any toenail colour onto Pinterest there's always going to be a nice picture of it with someone with nice toes nice shape any You know what a nice tan.

2:25A nice moisturized feet as well. Yeah, like a nice little soft, a toe ring. No hairy toes. A toe ring. Any color can look good. I mean, people get toenail extensions, don't they? I'm not opposed to that. I'd like a sharp, square, scratchy toe. Scratchy. I would like that. It's quite hard though for the trainers. I mean, I even, I have to keep my toenails short. True. Maybe just for some, you know, toe out season. But I'm not opposed to a little, a bit of length on the toe. A bit of toenail extension. Yeah. Yeah. Nice square shape. Yeah, absolutely. Because you've got round toenails, haven't you?

2:58Well, I'm not getting them out, but I do try and get them sharper. They won't zoom in on your feet. But if I ever have to, if I ever file my toes, I will try and do a square. It's just how, if someone cuts them down, it's like, well, they're cut down. Then you can't do a square, of course. We've never talked about it. maybe we should ask like what do people have on their toenails because I'm interested what's the most popular choice people love white toenails a milky is nice I don't like that really so I've seen see everything looks good to me on Pinterest yeah everything looks good on Pinterest like a milky I remember I just had white toenails before and they just looked a bit like I don't know they just didn't look that great I just didn't really rate it I think it has to be really opaque and yeah I think I have to have tanned feet as well for a white toenail yeah yeah yeah Can't be middle of winter, December 25th with a white toenail.

3:55Let me go on Pinterest and I'm going to put... Like a ghost. Toenail. I stand by the French tip. Yeah, it is classic. I mean, it's a classic for the hands and the toes, isn't it? Toenail trends, 2025. Let's see what's top. I mean, flip-flop is a weird shoe, isn't it, in itself? Who invented the flip? It's literally like a song for the toes. I fear it was the caveman. I don't... You know, a bit of bark. I think it was the caveman. A bit of, you know... Bit of tree. Yeah. a bit of a leaf bit of fur well the fur shoe was a leaf wasn't it Sophia yeah here we go right so I type in toenail on Pinterest what's the first one the first thing that comes up unfortunately is a French haha next up that's nice yeah but that would just look so much better with a white tip that's like a fresh sparkle yeah butter yellow Sophia you can't deny that looks good no I don't like that that looks good if you don't like it some nice neutral that's nice yeah that's gorgeous but how nice would that look with the white tip that's just a french tip without the tip yeah that's a nice baby pink yeah that's nice I bet we've got a lot of wicky feet tuna in us today we're really getting in butter yellow butter yeah brown on the toe that's a risky move I like that actually really see that's we're different she looks good there yeah red hey don't like that i'm just kidding she's jealous of my toes guys we've got a rainbow no chrome all right we'll stop the toenail talk okay we'll stop the toenail um but it's you know i mean i hope everyone's got you know a healthy toenail because if you have toenail pain oh my god it's excruciating like yeah toenail pain like a bruised toenail or like a toenail oh my god there's nothing quite like toenail pain you can't even walk I've had it before where one of my toenails it was I think it got stamped on a night out with a heel that would with a heel and it was just so bruised that it was like I literally had a limp because of this toenail yeah so I hope no one out there is suffering with bad toenails at the moment not good I mean Fiona's had a few toenails fall off what as in like her she's had she's lost her big toe a couple times but it always grows back and it's always like by the time it actually falls off there's a new nail underneath oh have you not had a toenail fall off not fall off I don't think I have actually not fall off no it's giving um butterflies It's shedding, it's giving Caterpillar into the new.

6:41It's quite nice. New life. Yeah, new life. Right, we'll should do the question of the week. Yeah, let's do the question of the week.

6:54Okay, happy Wednesday, everybody. Welcome back. I've got a banana bread matcher today. Ooh, really nice. I've just got my water. And we thought this week, Now, hopefully this isn't too doom and gloom. Well, I think - We're going to make it positive. Yeah. I mean, it's obviously a good thing because you've realized that they are no friend of yours. True. So we've asked this week, what was your I need new friends moment? I'm going to put a prediction in and I'm calling it. There's going to be people saying, abandon on a night out drunk. Yes. I feared that is - That's a popular choice. For a boy as well.

7:33Yeah, that's a good point. And then like when that happens, you're like, girl code. Yeah. Where are you? Yeah. Okay. So when was the moment you needed new friends? Right. We've got here. Oh no. Yes. The question of the week is, when was the moment you realised you needed new friends? When she told her boyfriend and he told his friends every detail about my situationship. So she just told her boyfriend all your business. And then he then, he could even keep passing it along. Yeah. Yeah. Valid. Freshly single. I was getting to know boys and she told them all I was speaking to them all. What? I found out they made group chats without me.

8:18Yeah. That's a big one. That'll do it. That'll do it. Wait, I'm just deep in that one. She told all the boys that she was, that is sabotage. Jealous. Oh my God. I have something to tell you. What? So, um, Olivia. our good friend yeah Lydia's best friend went out the weekend oh my god and she was at a house party are you allowed to tell this story? yeah I think so okay and had a run in with a boy right and this boy was like oh yeah like Sophia don't say whatever you're about to say he was like obviously I've just heard this story through Lydia I was like oh yeah Sophia like I fumbled that fumbled that what?

9:00who was this person? wait a second and Olivia was like oh like oh and then he was like yeah like I took her on a date once and I fumbled her fumbled her like oh fumbled her and Olivia was like oh right she's gonna be sick not believing it who the hell was it and then oh no and then Olivia called up Lydia the next day being like you know I ran into this boy and he said he went on a date with Sophia I was like in bottom of my house I was like no fucking chance and Lydia was like Lydia was like what's his name what's his name and she was like I've never heard of this boy ever before like he's lying like oh what a freak like he would lie about that like how embarrassing and like he just embarrassed himself and then Liddy was like I was like who who who who who who don't I'm going to scream because I was like no like I was like I'm trying to remember like the boys from back in the day I was like I like I was like I don't know who this could be and she was like stop I'm racking my brain are you trying to have a think I'm racking my brain one date no more right and i was like who is it who is it

10:10who the fuck is that you know you have to sit sit with it for a second i'll show you his picture and i was like wait wait who the hell is that and then she sent me a picture i was like wait wait wait i need to i need to see i need to see oh my fucking And then I saw a picture of him. I was like, ah! Wait, you saw it. I was like, she did! I was like, she did! It was one date. It was. He's telling the truth. I was like, she did! Does he like skew Michael Monterosso? Not to give Michael Monterosso more clout. Yes, like he had a pretty face. Oh my God. And I was like, she did! We let him through. He actually was a friend.

10:52And I was screaming. Hey, did I go on a date with that boy? I think it was a very... And I was trying to remember. I think it was like very casual like after work maybe like a drink or something but then you were like no yeah so he's wow we're making impressions on people aren't we you left an imprint of this man 10 years on and he fumbled the bag yeah and he's and he's still hanging on to it I had one day a fumble if I won it yeah it made me laugh oh bless him I know oh I feel bad that I didn't remember his name I know well I know oh I'm sure he brought me a drink as well that's good yeah we thank the man we thank him yeah um okay so back to the question of the week how did you when was the moment you needed new friends yep this is interesting yep i started a business and they would never say a word about it they never followed my instagram account or shared anything or even but purchased from the brand that's when you know oh don't want you to do well oh yeah i didn't buy you know it's like crocheted handbags she ran up to me saying i've got some tea for you and it was her going on a date with my ex that is not tea that's not tea that's like fucking that's news that will shut my heart but maybe she tried to play it off it's like oh my god you're never gonna guess what like gossip trying to make it not trying so incriminating yeah trying to make it yeah seem to you like it's like oh oh my god no way yeah the you can come if you want comments all the time when my best friend told my boyfriend he should break up with me.

12:27Best friend told my, oh my. She sent me a video in my ex's room after a night out saying, guess where I am? They slept together. Wow. Went on a night out with the girl he cheated on me with. Yeah, that'd do it. Wait, went on a night out with the, oh. Most common one I think is discovering that group chats have been made that you aren't in. that's that's there's actually no heartbreak like that that's really yeah the feeling of being left out it's a big feeling you know like it's like we're a group of six and for some reason you're isolating like that is a and then like you just see it on instagram and you're like that is a what awful feeling yeah this was your prediction since they left me in a night out blacked out with no one yeah safe to say we're no longer friends when i knew i couldn't confide in one of them without the rest of them finding out oh that's interesting it was always gossip yeah you've not really got that one person who you know is going to keep a secret you can't talk in confidence yeah ghosting when they get boyfriends then running back when single yeah i mean i i fear that is a tale as old as time yeah until you like are a couple boyfriends in and kind of can handle the balance the balance i think that's pretty normal it it yeah when she was livid that i bought the same top as her

13:56bestie for 10 years asked if she could go on holiday on my 30th birthday weekend oh and if you'd already had plans yeah that's a shame yeah um right let's just do a couple more when did you know you needed new friends surprised we don't have any thieving i was expecting maybe like a bit of robbery you know when hanging out with other people became a problem so quite like a jealous friend like you weren't allowed to be friends with anyone else oh so it was like who are you with bit controlling yeah oh that's interesting not like to have that from a friend yeah usually that's like a boyfriend thing isn't it oh when i realized that if i never reached out we would never speak yeah yeah that's an interesting realization isn't it when it's like you know actually if i didn't if i didn't message or suggest anything i don't think i'd ever see this person yeah well this week we're gonna hold space for the poor old fellow who fumbled sofia 10 years ago oh poor thing oh we hold him in our palms can't move on we send him good thoughts and well wishes oh bless him bless him right right let's move on let's dive into the imb

15:09just before we get into it quick disclaimer just as we are not doctors we are not professionals we do not actually know what we are talking about this is a light-hearted space okay don't take what we say literally because we could be wrong yeah and if there's anything serious if there's anything you feel like you're seriously struggling with please contact a gp a professional because that is not us we're just girls girls and boys just like you we're just trying to get through life as well not professionals enjoy the episode right we're starting today we've apparently we've got an emergency just emergency please read what song who was that s club seven is it in sync yeah is it tragedy who is it oh close the bgs so we've got tragedy I think I've broken girl code even maybe twin code every code shit now twin code but let's twin code twin code runs deep that's embryo type of shit you know twin code if you broke twin code is there any way back I guess because you're so connected you're twins you share genitals that's not correct it was split at birth but like you share genitals mental all hi girls long time listener first time writer thank you sarah really need some advice from the wisest girls i could think to turn to tragedy don't even know where to begin that's a lovely compliment i already know how bad it is but i need to get it off my chest right get it off sarah vent to us sometimes yeah writing something down whether you even type the email and not send it you know the art of getting it getting it on paper or on a phone or a notes app is like because journaling that's why journaling is good for you for your mind so i have a twin sister let's call her helen and we're carbon copies like me and you today yeah jeans jeans we've got the same bag a blue bag like we have like the same laugh same voice we've done the whole like swapping classes and pretending to be each other yada yada yada so we're identical we've always been super close and a bit crazy but this time we took it too far what a few months ago we reconnected with our childhood best friend sarah sarah had just had her heart completely shattered by this guy we'll call him brian who she'd been madly in love with she opened up to us about how he'd lied cheated and just basically crushed her confidence so Helen and I started you know picking Sarah back up taking her out going on nights out getting social again trying to cheer her up yada yada yada one night we were out drinking and somehow the conversation turned back to Brian the three of us landed on this stupid idea wait I'm rude I'm scared it started as a joke I'm scared wouldn't it be kind of funny if Helen and I, being identical, messed with Brian, pretended to be one person and messed with him a little.

18:18The three of us actually laughed about it, said it would be harmless, funny. The three of us agreed no physical stuff. No kissing, no catching feelings, just confusing him and then ghosting. That was the plan. It's giving 2000s rom-com really, isn't it? It is. I'm going to start writing my EP. So it's kind of giving like when you're trying to mess, when you're trying to mess with, it's giving catfish. Yeah. And you create a fake account and - Just trying to hurt his feelings, I think. You're trying to make him fall in love with someone and then you're not real. I think so. Right. Let's call up, what's his name?

18:54Niamh. Oh. Niamh. Yeah, the catfish guy. The catfish guy, right. So I went into the bar he works at and ordered drinks off him. Bit of flirty chat, nothing too crazy. And then I asked for his Instagram. Side note - So he doesn't know about you girls, the twins. No, because you were childhood best friends. Right, okay, of course, got it. Surprisingly, I noticed he was quite nice and not at all like the guy that Sarah had been describing. Anyways. I can see where this is going now. Then we switched. Helen met up with him next, then me, then her again. Sometimes we even took turns mid-date. So we're like matching outfits like we are today.

19:33And genuinely never noticed. He genuinely never noticed. but yeah i guess you'd have to fill her in on what we've just chatted about speaking about okay at first it was really funny we'd come home and compare notes what he said to her what he said to me right but slowly i started to realize i kind of fancied him i found myself making excuses to be the one who saw him okay telling helen she wasn't feeling it anymore or that i had a better idea for a date because because thinking like surely this is a lot of effort as well ladies and also i'm thinking like surely it's funny like the first two times yeah then like or like one meet of like but then it's like i'm getting right i'm getting dressed up i know see this guy for like it's friday night and like i'm flirting with this man for three hours for a bit of for fun yeah yeah yeah okay so this character you've started to like him i'd get jealous when she was texting him or hanging out with him.

20:31How are you texting him from two different numbers? How are you texting him and Helen? Maybe it's the same iMessage account. I don't know. Then one night after a few drinks, I stupidly slept with him. And the plan's gone very sound, ladies. Oh no. I mean, whose idea was this? The twins. Watching too many rom-coms. Oh my God. Thinking you John Tucker must die. oh god I didn't tell Helen I told myself it was a because you know Helen's the twin he's giving Phoebe and Ursula he's giving Phoebe and Ursula yeah but he's gonna meet her with Helen and go your pussy was so good isn't he it's such a good time last night always texting Helen you're naughty in bed he's gonna text Helen's gonna be like like oh god he's gonna text Helen had such a good time last night she's gonna say I didn't see you last night yeah but unless there's a few there's a few put holes ladies Unless our Sarah's plan now is to be like, let's pull back.

21:29Let's stop this. But really, she's going to secretly keep seeing him? Possibly. We kept seeing each other and I managed to have the dates only be me. Right. I spent four weekends at his. Sarah, this is no longer the plan. Wait, what was the friend called? We've skewed very far. What was the friend called? Sarah. Where's Sarah? I even met his mum and didn't tell Helen or Sarah. But Sarah not got you on Find My Friends. like then one night brian decided to tell me that he loved me and i haven't told anyone so so it's kind of giving like you're seeing an ex although you're not you know when you're secretly seeing an ex and it's it's sparking back oh yeah you're seeing her you're seeing her ex who also your twin was seeing yeah and it's like you're keeping it to yourself because you're a bit embarrassed you know it's like oh how have we got and now it's like we blink and now we're love.

22:23I actually quite like you. You're blinking, you're pregnant, Helen. Sarah. With twins. Susan, whatever your name is. Yeah. With twins. One girl, one boy. The next week, Helen sat me down. Oh my God. Who's Helen again? You twin sister. You twin. No, sorry. This is getting crazy. No. She said, Helen sat me down crying. She said she'd slept with him. No!

22:56it can't be i'm sorry this can't be what kind of a year has this man got and she felt awful and she didn't know how to tell sarah but obviously to brian like i actually really like him to brian it's one person yeah but what your vaginas must be identical but what if like maybe you do share genitals after all like a birthmark on your back he's not noticing that but i guess it's one of those things where it's like if you guys are like really identically you how it's identical. And like, if you guys did, you used to like swap places and like blah, blah, blah, blah. Like if you're not thinking, I don't know because some twins look quite different, identical, but some, like we met those in Australia.

23:36They were like two halves of the same coin. Could be that. We're not in Australia, are we? No. I'm thinking we're, sorry. Yeah. I mean, same laugh, same voice. Well, it's like those twins, those Australian twins who speak the same. Yes. Yes. Let's try it. that share the man yeah that share the boyfriend yeah there are those but there's those twins who say that they can speak the same sentence at the same time you're not seeing them are they brunette yeah but it's not those ones you're thinking of who share that man oh I don't know they're just they've just been on the news so they're just like let's talk me and me and Sophia we just love matcha and like we just drink it all the time and like we love things like that you see pretty good like anyone could do that let me do it to you i think i'll get it better what am i doing just saying a sentence yeah we're just speaking the same um my best friend is actually really jealous of my toes you see i got that okay so right so helen's told you that she slept with him and also in like brian brian's just sleeping with a new girl none the wiser but also like has he not followed one of you on instagram and like seeing that there's fucking two like obviously we've not he's in love with one of you apparently he's not followed you on instagram yeah we've got some plot holes all right um yeah oh yeah do you mean in the story yeah yeah i didn't say anything but the more she spoke about it and how she felt well maybe we're gonna have to work out like those australian twins and just share the man come clean and say look there's two of us you've got four pairs of tits four arms four legs take us as a package two two four holes she actually four holes two vaginas technically four four five six seven eight nine what's the ninth oh yes nine ten belly button no it's not a hole sealed oh 10 holes 10 holes wow I didn't say anything but the more she spoke about it and how she felt I started to feel really bad because obviously I've been quite secretive and yada yada yada well it's like you both have been doing the same thing then yes but sorry has it not ever been a moment like our girl writing in yeah she spent the weekend with Brian yeah and then Helen's going hey how are you I'm with you like how is that yeah how has that not happened I'm with you what do you mean like because if Helen's you know obsessed with him too texting him yeah I'm confused how we're doing the texting thing and all right okay Helen's meant to see him next I know when she does he'll probably say something and she's gonna realize that we've been sleeping with each other and seeing each other oh i see so maybe helen's not seen him in a while i'm so confused right helen right bit severe these two twins start this is a joke they were meeting up with this guy they're both caught feelings because the charming has got the earlier they've both been seeing him on the sly they've both secretly been liking him and then both have secretly been sleeping with him and enjoying it and not telling each other or their childhood friend and now he's in love with you well he's in love with whoever he thinks he's dating who to him is one person so he's in love bless you he's in love with helen and our lady he's in love with bits of both of you because he thinks you're one person he thinks you're one so he's he is in love with helen and he is in love with you but now helen's had to come clean because she can't but you're still agreeing to see him because she said helen's What's Sarah in all of this?

27:25I fear she's gone back to wherever she lives. So now I'm turning to you girls because I've got no idea what to do. I know like I'm the awful person in this situation, but I just need to know how to navigate it from here. Do I tell Helen and Sarah the truth? Do I say nothing unless and maybe it will inevitably come out? I'm so stressed. I'm feeling really guilty, but I can't help how I feel and I don't want to lose what I found in Brian. No, Sarah, Sarah. though I know it's wrong but I've never been with someone who makes me feel like he does he's just so not the man that Sarah painted him out to be so I don't know what to do loved your Dublin show last September and chatting to you in the VIP Q &A

28:09Sarah if only you brought this problem to the stage did you come with your twin we've met you wow Sarah because we met these twins in Australia and they were like they were like identical same so maybe i'm thinking of them okay sarah this needs to end now this i don't really know what's happened i think it needs to end now i think you need to say to helen we both need to say oh my god me too i've slept with him too look helen's already admitted she slept with him yeah you know you're both you know obviously you're twins you're not too dissimilar. You know? She might even be able to read your mind.

28:47She might even know. You know, his aliyah obviously works on both of you. Yes. So, obviously attracts the same people. Yeah, so I would say, what the hell do we do about Sarah? We can never tell Sarah.

29:00What? We're going to sit Sarah down and say we've both slept with your ex-boyfriend. And what? We're just going to sit and hang out with her and not tell her? Well, I fear the relationship, I fear the friendship has crumbled anyway. Yeah, you know? It probably has. This has gone way too far. Yeah, so I fear we're probably never going to reach out to poor Sarah to want to hang out with anyway because you wouldn't be able to face her all right I think you need to tell your twin you can tell your twin anything she's already confided in you yeah she's already told you you need to break up with the idea that Brian and you are going to be anything because at the end of the day he slept with your sister at the end of the day his willies got in her version unless you're okay like like those twins in Australia you might be all right with that you girls might might actually quite like that situation where you could live together forever raise children together with the same man you got that's i mean really that does sound that's quite appealing yeah and i could imagine you know if i had an identical twin yeah you know maybe you because you're not repulsed by that whereas if lydia came to me and she had slept with a man that i'd slept with that's a bit different i would never want to go near that man ever again i'd feel physically violently ill but you don't seem to feel like that I mean I don't know she didn't say that after hearing the news maybe we could have him so maybe there is so I would chat to your twin because I feel like let her know look I've slept with him five times and maybe say like when you first did let's go down memory lane a little bit I think you can be honest with your twin like that's not going anywhere that information like the twin bond is the twin bond and that's I know you're also both equally as guilty yeah so like you can't be mad at her she can't remember because you've both behaved in the same way and you both planned to do this this was both of your your fun plans yeah you know which is just skewed left a little it's skewed slightly it's skewed it's taking a hard left so talk to your twin obviously that conversation is going to go nowhere as in like it's not going to leave the two of you it's confidential absolutely so I don't think you can be a friend to Sarah anymore you've slept with her ex if I was you I wouldn't tell Sarah I fear that's something she may not be able to recover from but you're gonna have to drift because like imagine i was best friend with a pair of twins no no actually actually everyone we said imagine i was best friend with a pair of twins and i was like oh my ex like nightmare nightmare nightmare like i'm like let's just fuck let's just like yeah let's fuck with him let's just fuck him about yeah let's just go on a date let's arrange let's not show up let's just like mess with his head yeah and then six months later they sit me down and they're like chintzy like we've slept with him like about 30 times we both have yeah we really like him he's a really nice guy actually i don't think i could recover from i don't think sarah needs i've lost my boyfriend and now i've lost you know my two bestie twin pals no right so girls good luck none of this behavior in the future say bon chance but look you two twins you're always going to have each other you can get through anything you girls you know what i mean it's quite nice through thick and thin exactly through thick and thin and i think you guys just need to put this guy behind you and just hopefully you can laugh about it in 10 years time did you see the twins that met the twins and then both had twins at the same time that's beautiful yeah that you guys should pursue that avenue instead i think that's beautiful usually right this next one usually it's the other way around yeah so usually it's my bestie got a boyfriend and has abandoned me but in this instance it's my best friend cut me off because i was single because i was single that's interesting yeah that's weird yeah high girls don't usually hear about that way no before i start just want to let you know that so she's only allowed to be friends with people who are in relationships oh maybe a boyfriend is saying i don't trust her she's single you can't go out because you know some boyfriends are really insecure about you having single girlfriends who you're going out with because they think oh well they're gonna be bringing boys over yeah and it's like this whole insecurity thing and it's this control and she's and the boyfriends isolated her from her friends it could be that but Sarah says before I start I just want to let you let you know that you girls are the whole reason I can stay awake on my commute home from Heathrow every week Sarah you work at the airport at the airport I adore you both maybe she's a pilot Sarah is a pilot you are flying those planes your exits are really really well Sarah oh so this this is actually sad Sarah starts saying I miss my best friend I've had the closest friend who I used to have the most intellectual and positive conversations with wow this was very mutual and would be reciprocated back and forth we will go out for coffee we would go for walks and shopping I worked down London so every opportunity I was back up home i was with her and she seriously got me out of my darkest place as i did with her so you guys really had your best friend this bond intellectual conversation that was deep i was with my ex-boyfriend at the time and although he was mistreating me i still stayed with him knowing the relationship was something i wanted to be out of she was my rock and gave me the most important advice and reality checks it got to the point where i did cheat on my ex at the time with my old situationship i was going through a lot at the time and was something i told her immediately as we were so close she was obviously disappointed at first but i had my whole trust in her i did eventually break up with my ex around two weeks later when i found him on grinder whoa plot twist yes grinder okay so you guys okay wasn't meant to be i'm glad you got out of that relationship different interests absolutely actually we've got the common interest of course and so do you of course yeah we've got one very wrong thing in common yeah this means we're not compatible yeah she is in a happy relationship and fully content with her boyfriend which i love for her and made me so happy to see but after the breakup with my ex i went off the rails a little and was out drinking more sleeping out more and being a little reckless just honestly doing what single girls yeah she said look it's just typical freshly single girl behavior nonetheless oh did she like not approve of your antics is that where we're going i think maybe i think this may be so you're just like partying out there like you know when you felt trapped in a relationship yeah wow it's like my god i've not done this in so long and like i've just got no ties you just want to go out and speak to everyone and like yeah i can entertain things and like yeah it's not i don't really like him that much but whatever well you're just like living your life and do whatever you want to do when you're single you've got you know you're no ties to anyone and nonetheless anytime i was back in my home city from working away i think maybe she's in i host us um i would text her messages like fancy a coffee on me nando's later etc and wasn't hearing back for days these non-existent replies lasted around three weeks before i text her asking if i had done anything wrong to which she replied no you've done nothing wrong etc i didn't believe it but I left it for a while.

36:22Okay, so there's now become this disconnect. Something's feeling off. Yep. I think it got to the point where I realised she wasn't going to text me first and when I did query what the problem was, she told me that our lives no longer aligned. I was a bad influence. Even though I'd never been out drinking with her or ever forced her to do something she wasn't comfortable with. She didn't like the way I was living my life after the breakup. Reading this, I was - She's judging you. So she's saying we don't align anymore. Okay. Reading this, I was so disheartened as I would have done anything for that girl and hated the fact that she thought so badly of me.

37:01Someone I would have sacrificed everything for and every last penny I had. I knew previously her boyfriend didn't like her having friends.

37:14Okay. That's what we thought. I fear I rest my case. Like it's this man and his point evidence. explain with his bright ideas oh she's acting I don't think she's any good friend a good friend of yours shouldn't be acting like that getting in her head and then she doesn't want to like if she's in a good place with her boyfriend she doesn't want to rock the boat by saying she's going to meet up with you so she'd rather just not she's been influenced by her boyfriend that you're a bad influence yep when you're nothing of the sort when you're nothing of the sort like I knew it would be something to do with the boyfriend I just fucking knew it because right i knew previously her boyfriend didn't like having friends what sorry what boyfriend doesn't like their an insecure one girlfriend having friends an insecure one sick and twisted thing what a mental thing that is like imagine i said so real though like well yeah because i think it's like they don't want you going out they also don't want you little prick they don't want you having people to like vent with and confide in they don't want you to share and to be like oh like we had a bit of an argument last night like they don't want that they don't want you to have that network listen i fear this relationship is not perfect and she's only allowed to say that it's perfect you know he he must say to her don't tell anyone these are our problems it's our private like we talk about this this is our private business you don't tell anyone about this so That's why you have the illusion, Sarah, that her relationship is really happy and really perfect because she's not sharing these problems because her boyfriend is telling her she can't.

38:52Yeah. And that that's not what grownups do. We deal with it ourselves. When that is not the case. It's not gossip. That is not the case. It's like you are allowed to tell people about your problems. Till I'm blue in the face. We'll go over and over and over and over and over. Right. Because imagine like I had a boyfriend and I was like, you're not allowed to have any friends. yeah it's fucking abnormal okay okay so we've unlocked kind of a new layer we've unlocked a new character to this yeah so she said I knew previously her boyfriend didn't like her having friends that weren't in relationships sorry I didn't finish the sentence but still all aligns so you don't like your girlfriend having single friends what because what because what insecure which I could understand to a degree but I was never drunk or a bad influence around her and often feared and thought he had something to do with it.

39:46Okay. So your gut is that this guy's got something to do with it. We have so many memories together and I miss our life so much. I have since moved five hours down the country to London with my boyfriend, who I've been with now for eight months. Oh, another plot twist. And not having friends down here is really hard. And she's the one girl I've been thinking about and wishing well of. Yeah, because she lives in London too, your best friend, right? No. No, you work in London. But now she's moved down here. Okay, so time's moved on. Life's moved on. You're actually in a new long relationship and you're thinking back like, well, I'm in a relationship now so maybe we can be friends again.

40:23Yeah, I think you need to get your girl back and check in on her. Yeah. Like, what is going on in that house? Like, I fear we don't know what's happening with her. You know, I fear we don't know her relationship at all. You know, we've heard this one glimpse of like, you know, that. Okay, so you're now in a relationship. You think of her often. she's the one girl I've been thinking about and wishing well of we are very happy and living comfortably and I feel like she would see I'm not the girl I was when I was in that bad you know mental state I really want to see her to resume our laughs and our friendship how it was before but I'm unsure how to go around it she's a gorgeous girl with the purest soul and I wish her nothing but the best always she loves you both too and I really hope she listens to this oh this is a call out thank you so much girls I've attached a photo of us.

41:11Oh my God, this is a cool out. We're reconnecting friends on the podcast. We need to get our serious hats on now because if we've got two sides of the story tuning in, this is important. This is serious now. Best friends. Honestly, giving twin as well. You're giving identical twins. Beautiful blonde bombshells. That's a really cool card holder. Like, look at that. Yeah, because I mean, the thing about like adult friendships is that, yeah, you are going to be in different places at different times and you are going to go through phases when like, oh, she's in her party era. I'm basically married.

41:46Like you are going to go through, you're not always going to be on the same vibe all the time. And this is, I feel like this was your kind of first experience of that where like you were in your party girl era and she's in like serious relationship era. Yeah. I don't think it sounds right. Her relationship, if he doesn't like her having single friends, that's giving a weird dynamic. um i i fear deep down it obviously she i fear deep down it wasn't her choice to unfriend you and distance herself from you i think she had that in she had that negative influence of her boyfriend kind of saying oh what's sarah up to oh i don't approve of that you know that's no friend of yours anymore you know no girlfriend of mine has friends who does stuff like that and you know she's got her love goggles on and you know she can't see that that's not right you know of course I can have single friends I can do whatever the fuck I want yeah you don't tell me exactly like but obviously this twat got in her head and she acted on it and but if she's still with him well I guess you're in a relationship now so maybe you're yeah I think you need to go get your girl back yeah send her a message reach out hey Sarah how are you I've been thinking be honest be as truthful as you have with us like i've been thinking about you a lot recently um some life updates for you i met my bride 10 months ago we've been together for eight months but then also like we're not really solving any issue here because god forbid right you guys get this great friendship back god forbid you're ever single again what if you're just gonna cut you off like we need to solve what will actually happen we need to get our girl back get her in a safe space and say how are you you know well why did we drift like i'm assuming she's still with this guy me too why why did we drift and check in on her because i don't know if like this guy sounds like he's a bit controlling and and not very nice he's got the power yes check in on her and say it's not it's you know it is okay for you to have to be friends with with single people like i'm sure your boyfriend is friends with single guys yeah maybe that's why he doesn't want you to because he knows what he gets up to when he's out with single guys.

44:00Sit that Brian down and say, so are all your friends in long term relationships then? Married with kids. Yeah, a guaranteed no chance. So it's just fucking double standards, but we need to go get our girl back. And also like you can start slow. We don't have to go back in full intervention mode. I think just texting right now is great. Like let's catch up. Like arrange a coffee or even just like have a glass of wine on FaceTime together, maybe on like a Thursday night. Like arrange something. and look if you don't get anything back you don't get anything back and I feel like yes you do your best to reach out but also like I don't want to be begging for a friendship because at the end of the day like you did essentially cut me out when I was when I was single and yada yada yada yada yada so like I can't beg for your friendship I feel it's the boyfriend though I fear it was all the boyfriend what can you do if you don't get a response you don't get I know absolutely I know absolutely but I would let her know I'm here I'm gonna try and really try because I don't know if this boyfriend, we don't know how bad it could be.

44:59The boyfriend could be monitoring her phone, policing who she's texting now. Like we don't know. And you know, narcissists, they love to isolate. Like that's, that's how they get their big kick, like isolating you from your friends. And if you're trying to come back, you know, he could be like, oh, well, you're not replying to that. She's back. She's back. Oh yeah. Make sure you block, you know, I'm, you know, but so try your best. Hopefully we can get through to her. See if you get back in touch. yeah there's no harm i think really really try and then if and then if you do get back in touch and you do get on that like regular speaking schedule yeah then you could like have a bit of reflection and go oh it's such a shame we drifted and like try and open that kind of worms and i think try and like prize or like how are you how are you really doing how have you been how is brian like how is that how sing like are you guys like did he not like us being friends when I was single.

45:54Ask her the question. You know? Because like, what if you get single again? Are you not allowed to be friends anymore? No, I know. Well, this is what these controlling fucking, you know. I would go see if you can get your friend back. Me too. I think you guys had something special and he got in the way of it, unfortunately. 100%. I don't believe it was her choice.

46:17We're taking a plane now over to Espanyol. Espanyol. We're going to get some paella. I love Payet. What was that place we used to go to in Barcelona? Flax and Cale. Oh, Flax and Cale. Back in the... I feel like that is still a... Still a popping spot. It's still a classic spot in Barcelona. In Barcelona. So we have here, I think my friend's boyfriend is cheating on her with Spanish men. Yeah. So another common interest. Absolutely. So has he moved to Spain? living his true life you know how have you got the intel and she hasn't i fear me and my boyfriend uncovered something big this weekend i need to know your thoughts and advice as i feel this is something i need to bring up to my friend asap yeah pardon the pun a big spanish willy why is that a pun because she said pardon the pun a big because she said we've uncovered something big a big spanish willy oh okay pardon the pun in someone's famous spanish willy i was thinking about it for a while i was like a big willy i will try and keep this as short and snappy as possible it's the deep it's about six paragraphs sarah so you're all right my friend let's call her sarah has been with her boyfriend now for about five years they are both 25 years old his frontal club's coming in and he knows who he is.

47:50Yeah. He pursued her all throughout school, but she didn't really like him and would always complain about him to me. However, COVID hit and he asked if she wanted to go for a walk and she eventually gave in. And I honestly think due to the lack of interaction with men because of COVID, she kind of just ended up settling. Those COVID walks. Those COVID walks. How romantic. They'll do it. There was a few things at the start of the relationship, which she told me, which I didn't agree with. For example, he said she must go on the pill as he doesn't want to use condoms. He also tried to end the relationship randomly one night when they were on a night out and a couple of the comments which just didn't sit right with me.

48:30Anyway, we ended up finding out that he was sending topless photos to one of our gay friends. Wait, when? When was he doing this? Brian is a closeted bisexual but he has come out to Sarah. Oh, so he's come out as bisexual to Sarah? I think so, yeah. And you, just you two have discovered now that he's sent those pictures to - I think so. The gay friend in the group? We, meaning me and my friend, thought this was a bit odd and decided to tell Sarah about the pictures. She thanked us for telling her and said she would ask Brian. Oh, oh, oh, oh, okay. Brian said - Because I guess men do share pictures of their gym progress with each other.

49:18Well, that's what Brian said. Oh, okay. It was a gym progress pic. Okay. With a bit of, you know, a bit of a penis. A bit of a... Penis on the side. What's the line? V lines. You know, it's verging on penine. Yeah. You know, we're getting penine views. Close to the... Yet the gay friend receiving these pictures told us he has never before stepped foot in a gym. Okay. So it was clearly a lie. Oh, okay. this was a few years ago well what was the context of them like what were we chatting about well we were but we don't know it's two years ago it was a couple years ago so it was just one of those things that happened a few years ago that you never really spent much looking back you're like actually that was really strange but at the time like life was just life thing and you were like oh that was a bit weird that didn't really make sense but we all just kind of moved on because yeah this was a while ago and since then sarah doesn't talk much about their relationship okay until now oh that's interesting that after that she kind of was like withdrew withdrew from sharing because probably deep down she knew something's a bit off here yesterday me and my boyfriend came across a second account of his it has 17 000 followers and his bio is all about helping people grow online.

50:38What this really means, we don't know. Anyway, Sarah follows this account, so it's not a secret. However, when we looked to see who he is following, it is predominantly male and female OnlyFans accounts. Oh, so Sarah follows it. Okay. Yeah. Which is obviously fine as people can follow who they want, but it makes me wonder what Sarah thinks and if she knows, because if my Brian was following all these OnlyFans accounts, I would find it a bit strange. yeah like we then noticed female only fans accounts in it in its own thing is like that's the problem but then if his business page is about helping people grow online maybe he's following these creators so he's angling it as like this is not his personal page so he's angling it as these are my clients well i don't know but potential clients interesting we then noticed that my brian's sister follows the account oh which also we thought was strange as they don't know each other brian asked his sister why she follows him and she says that she has tried to slide that he has tried to slide into her dms twice the first dm stating kind of cute she never replied as she thought it was just some weird guy but this just proves he's up to no good on this account i just feel like the dms will be full of sketchy behavior yeah okay i have now found two other accounts making the total four Instagram accounts.

52:04This man's got a lot of email addresses. One is his personal account with pictures of himself and a few of Sarah. Whereas the other three are purely himself, holidays, cars, just generally like a luxury lifestyle kind of vibe, which is sad because I know that is not genuine. It all just seems a bit fake. Anyway, the fourth account has been a big discovery. What? How are you finding these accounts? She's working hard over the weekend. And the fourth account is the only one not to be followed by Sarah, which makes me think she doesn't know about it at all. So Sarah is following these other accounts where he's appearing like single and luxury lifestyle.

52:42That is so bizarre. Again, it's full of pictures of himself, holidays, etc. However, his following is all Spanish gay men. For context, he went out to Spain in April with his friend, but returned and went back on a solo holiday to the same location by himself for four days last week. This account was made a few weeks before this. I think he was getting up to no good on this holiday and this account is for all of his secret Spanish shenanigans. Absolutely. Makes a lot of sense. Can't we just download Grindr? It's a lot easier. Well, I think that's obviously, he's probably on - What's that thing?

53:25He's probably on - Yes. Sniffies. it's just that's just on the web on the web yeah you just can't we just do that rather than all these Instagram accounts well obviously he's trying to form then they're like what's your Insta and it's like well I can't give you that one my main one Sarah's on it I can't give you that one because that's one's flat I can't give you that oh let me create a new one for these Spanish men I need to tell Sarah because he obviously wants to be chatting to these men further yeah and he needs a place where like they can chat and it's not like him giving out his number yeah but he still looks like a real person.

53:58Yeah. I need to tell Sarah, especially because they have reserved a plot for a house together just a few weeks ago. And I think getting a mortgage with this man is a bad idea. I feel sick at the thought of bringing this up to her, but I'm so angry at this man as he is clearly getting up to suspicious behavior behind Sarah's back. How does he think he's going to get away with putting his face on all these Instagram accounts which are clearly doing unusual activity? like oh my god one of his dodgy insta feeds pics no no oh my god no right so this is luxury lifestyle vibe it's got a verified tick what so this is one of his solo this is one of his solo accounts this is like lifestyle accounts lifestyle bro listen like it looks legit it's giving legit it's giving i live a nice lifestyle i'm on holiday i've got nice cars i'm a strapping lad and i'm smiling and i'm real yeah and the verification makes it look like shit i'm gonna search him and find yeah can we see who else he's following yeah So what's that?

55:16Is it surely sent that one account?

55:31That's clear as day to me, is it not? To you? Oh my God. Let me have a look. Oh my. Yeah, this is his work profile. I'm asking if he's messaged him. Oh my God. he's got 46 mutuals all gay.

55:49Lizzie!

55:56Oh my God!

56:03Okay, so yeah, I mean, we've had confirmation on our side that some funny business is going on. Yeah, some funny business is going down. So yeah, I mean, so she said - Who knew we were so well connected? We are so connected in this world. Like, mutuals. Ah, mutuals. 46 mutuals. Has she asked, how do I tell her? What was the final query? Yeah, well, I think, because it's that awkward thing that's like, I've been doing some digging on your boyfriend. Like, that's awkward. Because you and your boyfriend have been digging to find all these accounts. But you don't have to, like, that I fear should be the least of her problems.

56:36Like, you present her with that account, you know, with the Spanish men. This is, I mean, really awful for Sarah, because obviously this guy thinks he's being super slick and he thinks that this is how we can live the rest of his life, like keeping it all a secret. But at the end of the day, like he surely wants to live his truth too. You would think. You would think. But they've just agreed this plot of land for this house. Well, obviously he thinks, you know, Sarah follows these accounts. She's not, obviously Sarah doesn't want to uncover stuff herself. Ignorance is bliss. Because I fear she probably knows, you know maybe deep down something yeah sarah's this at the end of the day because you don't want to know it's like if you think your boyfriend's cheating it's like obviously it's like you want to turn the blind because when i find out i'm gonna have to act on it you know yeah and but i imagine that if there would be things in sarah's head where she's thinking well that kind of makes sense and i guess that did happen i think especially when that kind of makes sense like spanish account gets presented to her oh yeah he did go to spain on alone for for four days and i think sit her down i mean where are we going to do this how invite her around yeah i'm good thinking about around yeah or just you there maybe not your boyfriend or just like facetime vibes um i think in person would be good because it's this is big because i don't want her to be alone you know and be get this news and then she's alone and she's spiraling and and i think if you're there to be like look you can stay here tonight you know i don't know like you want just like you've got me you know let's get to the bottom of this look you stay here tonight i'll go i'll go back to your flat and grab some stuff you know i don't know like i think got some cleansing you need to bathroom be there because this is like earth chattering like she was gonna like she's about to build a house with this guy like she like in her head this is the father of her children.

58:34This is her husband. You know, you're doing all that. It would be interesting to see her reaction because you never know. Like Sarah may know more than you think she knows. Yeah, true. And she might be okay with it. Sarah might know this account exists just because she doesn't follow it doesn't mean she doesn't know. Like people keep a lot of their relationship private. Sarah may know more than we think. Or yeah, she's going to be absolutely blindsided. I think all you can do in these situations is just be honest. Say, look, I came across this account I found it it's Brian's I don't know like you know it's following all of these different accounts here's my phone have a look through yourself like yeah what do you think what do you make of this you know what do you think of this I'm gonna let you come to your own conclusions and then let her know obviously about Brian's sister he's met so he's even he's pursuing other women too that in itself is he sent Brian's like he sent a woman you know a message saying you're cute kind of that in itself is cheating you know so present her with that screenshots of that and be like just the facts are always great yeah and you don't have to put too much of your opinion in the mix it's just like this is just what i've seen yeah i thought you should see this i'm you may even already have seen this before yeah but i just feel like i'm doing my due diligence as a friend because you know this i don't think this sits right just say like if it was if this was about my Brian I would want you to come with me with the with the information so I'm just doing what I would want in yeah you know if I was and you know you might she might not really if this is all news to her yeah she might not be up for having a big deep dive about it all immediately yeah she might be quite closed and be like oh my god I need to get out of here I want to go she and but then she might come back to you later ready to like speak yeah and just so i think if she goes quite like cold and closed and quite like oh my god no like why are you showing me this blah blah it's probably just panic so i would just just take it easy i'm here you know we've obviously got the spare room you know you can sleep in my bed you know whatever i'm here for you because obviously she's not been sharing much about her relationship yeah since that's what i mean she might know some of this she might well her instinct might well to be like to shut you down and be like oh it's just business yeah you know and be like oh i'll go talk to him but it you know maybe put on like a front for a second but let her know absolutely yeah absolutely i mean look i'm always here for you you know where i am i'm not judging i'm yeah what yeah i'm hopefully yeah and just let her know that you know yeah you're not judging you're not telling her to break up with him but you and then she can do her own digging and she can just sit with her thoughts and things you know it takes sometimes like i've been there it takes you a while to come to terms with the fact that oh i can't be with this person anymore this isn't serving me and you've got to remember when you're going into this conversation like you've had a lot of time to see this digest it process it think about what you're going to say like you're going into this conversation very prepared but she is coming into this conversation absolutely fucking clueless so you can't expect her to have the most perfect reaction because you don't know like she might get angry at you she might get angry at the messenger you never know I think you just need to like give her grace and be like look I've prepped for this conversation you haven't so like you just need to react how you're going to react but yeah I think you should definitely tell her she is then going to make her own decisions it might take her a while it might not be like yeah i'm gonna stay here tonight i'm never going back because i'm probably not gonna be that like you know the instagram accounts she's she yeah they're following some like unusual people but i feel like because she's not had any like evidence of like yeah and even still like there is the the brian sister message but you know like the spanish account yeah there's i feel she might try and like justify like oh it's just another one of his you know luxury car accounts and it's for work it's for work and he's connecting with yeah like-minded spanish man you know i fear because it's like until there's a screenshot of like two willies and like in your face like that's brian's willy yeah you know what i mean someone else's ass you know like i fear until it's like visual she's not gonna see it but we do have a visual thing like he messaged messaged brian's sister so that is he's cheating that's something that is that is like evidence and proof of like infidelity she needs to just have a dig on these accounts but i fear she does not let his phone out of his side i fear she doesn't want to have a dig because she like she knows what she would she's been with this guy for five years yeah since she was 20 yeah it's big you know and you just have to let her know i'm here for you you know because this is this is earth shattering news.

1:03:32Yeah. And she's going to need time to digest. But I do feel as though she has some sort of gut that will speak to her when you speak to her. Do you know what I mean? It might just open the floodgates and be like, oh my god, this makes so much sense because I did see this a while ago but I didn't really know and I did see this and I did see this. Yeah. But I would just let her process. She might let it all out. She might be like, I've been harboring, you know, I found this out a year ago, you know, and she might have been keeping it all in but she might be really relieved that she can now talk to her friend about it you know because it's like how do you even like if i was her how do you even tell how do i even start this conversation about that like yeah where do i begin where do you even begin but so she might obviously so yeah she could react in a multitude of ways just be prepared for any single one of them but most importantly just let her know that you're here for her be kind supportive whatever decision she'll be there and that i mean poor Sarah because he's just like doing it out in the open like I feel like he's just a guy that's got an excuse for everything though isn't he because it's always like oh you know how it works babe like it's just this and that because it's all linked to the business you know it's all linked to the business

1:04:55too much willy talk now we're talking about pussies babies have been birthed babies have been born god has blessed us with two pregnancies this is the announcement and they are in fur form and they have four legs yeah so eight legs in total sarah said help us name our kittens she said what a lovely side quest for today's episode look she said bit of a different dilemma if you want a bit of light heartiness yeah we do we've had a lot this week we've had just an earth shattering dilemma yeah sarah so we actually appreciate this one. We need to lighten the vibe. My Brian are getting two kittens next month and we need name ideas.

1:05:33They're both boys and both tabby colour. I've attached some pics. She's got some contenders and they're really strong. I fear, Sarah, you may have already nailed it. Okay. Matcha and latte.

1:05:46Cap and Chino.

1:05:52Okay, let's see their colourings. And Brian and Steve. Oh my god! She said Sonny and Angel. I love Sonny and Angel. I fear it's Sonny and Angel. Oh my god, Sonny and Angel's really good. Sonny and Angel. Let's see the cats. Let's get the visual of... Sophia.

1:06:17Oh, they look like a Sonny and Angel to me. We can show... They look like those little cats on the angels. Guys. Oh my god. I think I need a cat. I know. I think I need a little kitten. Like, I really want to become a cat person because... I know. They're great pets. You don't have to walk them. And they're quite self-sufficient. Just their personalities vary so much. But then soda... Miso and soup. Miso and soup. That's a great one. Okay, let's get the juices flowing. I love Sonny and Angel. I do. I do. Blueberry muffin. no that one sorry yeah that's cute I'm just I'm just I'm just I'm just I'm just lemon sorbet yes now we're talking kinder bueno oh

1:07:08banana bread oh banana it's giving you eggy and bread Molly Mae's cat yes um bacon and sausage fried egg pussy and pig fried egg then it's just fried fried um tim and tam tim tam tim and tam i think sonny angel is super cute i think miso soup is also quite cute actually and if you and brian have a connection to miso soup maybe your first date was at a sushi bar yeah you know or we just love sushi and it's like i'm so yeah miso soupy soupy uh soupy because yeah miso is misi miso miso miso and then it's soupy soup soup soup m &s yeah for sure yeah absolutely yeah I think Sonny Angel is your winner yeah because Sonny is really cute and Angel's really cute so cute they're both equally as strong as independent names if you're a Sonny Angel collector then that goes on top of the cherry that's the cherry on top wow round of applause for the kittens wow you're gonna be a cat mom

1:08:20right we've got one final dilemma to sign us off and this is a fun one because this is all about summer and fun summer and love always on my right we've got here i want a summer of love and you know what this reminds me of what the leona lewis film we're walking on sunshine yeah it gives mamma mia energy yeah okay so love the podcast and tune in every week thank you sarah i am 21 wow the world's your oyster and this year i really want a summer of love yeah but i just don't know where to start 2025 has really been my year so far i've been learning to drive worked really hard to buy myself a car got a promotion at work have made a new friend group of lovely people been going to some new clubs you know i've really been pushing myself socially yeah congratulations sarah that's incredible that's i even went on my first ever solo trip wow sarah i'm really proud of you as this year is full of stepping out of my comfort zone at the age of 21 right that like that's incredible yeah I'd like to apply that to my dating life too I haven't had much experience when it comes to dating and the experience I have had on apps has really turned me off oh okay this is probably because I'm very tall and it limits people who are interested in me significantly I think not having the coming of age teenage teenage experiences due to COVID has stunted mine and a lot of young people's confidence exactly because you're Marianne's age just a little bit younger and yeah you're in covid yeah as a result i can't help but feel a bit socially anxious you know if a guy messages me i don't even really know what to say i'd like to meet someone in person and for it to happen more naturally but i'm worried that's unrealistic these days and if it is what advice would you give to someone who doesn't know what she's doing and wants to get over her fear i also don't drink but i want to be a fun confident young woman without it so any general advice to start dating would be great.

1:10:16Thanks so much girls from Zara. Ah, Zara! Summer in love! Let's go Zara. You don't need to drink at all. And I think adopt the attitude like, I don't chase, I attract. Like I'm a magnet. Like I feel like you've got this incredible energy around you. Like you've just learned to drive, you bought a new car, you've got a promotion, made all these new friends. Like I feel like everything is going right for you. And adopt that attitude with like meeting someone and you're dating life too. Just be like, do you know what? I'm out here. I'm proud of myself. I'm open. I'm smiley. I'm friendly. Anyone would be lucky to get to know me.

1:10:52Yeah. Because I'm a beacon of light. I would lose the whole thing of like, I don't really know what I'm doing. Like I don't really have my confidence because like you don't, you, Sarah, you've been on a solo trip. Yeah. Okay. You've just made a whole new circle of friends. I think confidence is not something that you are lacking by any means. And yeah, the thing about dating is it's just not something that you can really force. Like you might want to go down on a date at the weekend doesn't mean necessarily going to get a date for the weekend like dating sometimes comes in waves and sometimes i'm like oh my god i've got all these dates this week other times like life isn't always like sex in the city where we're dating three guys and we've got four people on the go like sometimes it's not you're always going to be like that but i think the only thing you can do is literally what you are like you're pushing yourself so like yeah if you were sitting inside all day and weren't going out i'd be like well you're not really doing yourself any favors but you're making new friends you're going out like Like that's all you can really do.

1:11:44Like if you don't like the apps, that's out of the question. Like you're being social, you're socializing. Like with your new friend. I think just maybe this summer. Like maybe put the feelers out to your friends. Like anyone want to set me up this week? Like anyone got any guys? Like pass my number along. Like maybe set your friends a challenge to like set you up on a blind date. And I think kind of adopt the attitude. Like I'm just going to say yes. Yeah. You know, maybe I'm not feeling up to going out that night, but you know what? I'm going to say yes because the possibilities are endless for what could happen that night.

1:12:16Who I could meet, you know, where we're going to go, you know, and just kind of be like, I'm going to have this summer of abundance and things are going to come to me naturally because they will. And if you say it to the universe, it's going to happen. I can already see it. Like you're doing everything for yourself. You're exuding confidence that everything's going right for you. So just adopt that with the dating life as well. And also just have a bit of faith that like the more you date, like the easier it gets. And like, yeah, it is scary if you haven't really dated much before. It's, oh, this is very new.

1:12:47Like, I'm not really used to like dating as an adult, like what's going on. Like, yeah, it's normal to be nervous. It's normal to feel like, oh gosh, like this is new. But the more you date, the easier it gets. And like, the more you go on, you won't have these like, oh, like sickening nerves every single time. Like you will build up your confidence and you will be like, yeah, go on then. I'll go on a date with you. And like, yeah, like whatever. Yeah, it was nice or it wasn't or whatever. Like it's like anything. The more you do it, the more confidence you will get. I would dip your toe in with the like mutual friend thing.

1:13:16I would also dip your toe in with like, can we go on a double date? Like, can we have a group situation? Someone always knows someone who is single and you know, someone will know someone who will know someone. Even if it's a case of like, oh, I'll invite him out with us on Friday. And then someone else is just there in your social group that's kind of single and it's like just someone kind of you can like dip your toe in. And it just opens the doors to you know other possibilities. I will lean on your social circle. But I wouldn't put so much pressure on it as well. You know kind of like I don't want you to be disappointed if you don't have this crazy Monte Carlo summer romance.

1:13:49I would like take the pressure off and just adopt the attitude that I said before like no I don't chase I attract. What is meant to me will never pass me by. Maybe right now I am meant to just be pouring into my friends and that's okay. But I'm open. I am attracting people to come into my life hopefully romantic and I'm sure it will happen summer in love you're gonna get it here we go Sarah right let's get a quote for that we need our star of the week shit our favorite part of the episode and this is a really nice thing that Brian did for Sarah yeah let's hear it really sweet hi girls I wanted to submit my Brian Ben Ben.

1:14:27Ben, shout out. You're doing great things. For start of the week, I was in the middle of my personal training exams and I was just feeling so stressed. I went to my lash appointment and when I went to pay, my lash lady smiled and said, you don't need to pay today. I was in complete disbelief and thought she was joking, but turns out Ben had secretly found her on Instagram and paid for my appointment ahead of time. Ben! What a keeper. Best surprise ever. Ben, do you know how nice that is and like he had to find her on Instagram I meant the world to me oh Ben that is so lovely he also loves listening to the pub with me and would love to be a winner and this is the message he sent to Sarah's Lash Lady hi Sarah I'm Sarah's boyfriend I was just wondering if I could pay for Sarah's appointment don't tell her though oh Ben thank you for listening and thank you for treating our Sarah so good this is Ben oh you guys oh so handsome very handsome sarah you're a bombshell oh what a lovely couple oh what's sarah's name this is georgia georgia ben and georgia oh lovely couple do it every week ben please yeah you've started a habit now and you're gonna have to come through this is you've set the standard you've set the standard follow through every week next time georgia goes to her lash session she's got to pay for it and also think oh ben's not we also we get our nails done Ben and we get our hair done and we also like massages we might also get our eyebrows done lip pedicure lip blush there are other things you can pay for if you'd like a lovely face if you'd like to be star of the week again you know what you need to do 90 minute facials never go amiss Ben right all right guys thank you so much for listening we'll finish on a quote and whilst Chinseo finds that if you would like a bonus episode every single week you can get them over on Patreon we do two episodes a week every Monday and every Wednesday and you can email your dilemmas and your star of the week entries to hello at thegirlsbathroom.com.

1:16:25Sign us off with a quote, Chins, what have we got? I'm finding a summer of love quote. This is nice for Sarah. You already are this Sarah, but I'm just saying it again. I am open to the endless possibilities of love that exist in my life. Great mantra. You know, take it in. They're all coming in with abundance, Sarah. I can feel it for you. You're going to have the most incredible summer. thank you guys so much for listening we love you so much if you're in the group chat we'll see you on monday if not we'll see you back here next wednesday love ya bye