Girl Talk: Is she my secret online hater?!?

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1:38Sophia Tuxford: We're going to be there

1:40Cinzia Squirrel: Front row

1:40Sophia Tuxford: We've requested to cut the ribbon

1:50Hi

1:51Cinzia Squirrel: Welcome in, take a seat Take a seat, take a pew

1:55Sophia Tuxford: take a breath and why don't you go buy yourselves a lace top we have walked in today this is where our minds just really connect because we haven't discussed this we don't live together we haven't facetimed this morning and we have walked into this building in a very similar outfit which in

2:12Cinzia Squirrel: my mind is true friendship and inspiration this is my if you're audio if you're an audio girly today

2:20Sophia Tuxford: we're both wearing lacy tops. Lacy white floaty whimsy tops.

2:24Cinzia Squirrel: And it actually is my truest form. I feel very me and comfortable and like lovely.

2:31Sophia Tuxford: I feel so comfy. I've got my jeans undone because this top is just so free.

2:36Cinzia Squirrel: I'm going to sneeze.

2:38Sophia Tuxford: Pineapples.

2:39Cinzia Squirrel: No, I really want to sneeze. I'm so nasal. Sorry. I wanted to get it out. It's okay. Yeah, well, we're in our lacy summer top. sorry hopefully the sneeze comes back it will don't worry i've got the incredible lineup as you see her so forth absolutely incredible the strawberry matcha is triple parked this morning a d a drink your skincare by the one and only aisha potter shout out carrot juice queen a little fiji water just to keep me fully hydrated how are you enjoying that strawberry matcha today it's going down a treat yeah the strawberry i want to make my strawberry matcha with the bonbon jammer what jammer well who's that yeah yeah that sounds gorgeous it's just

3:21Sophia Tuxford: i love jam always have always will a jam yeah i remember when we were in sixth form chintz used to bring to school for her lunch jam pitas in this like blue clear plastic bag and i'd be like oh can i have one that was the vegan days and i thought all i could eat was jam jam and jam is just like you've always got to have jam in the fridge strawberry jam is my favorite i wouldn't mind a raspberry or a blackberry but i wouldn't go for it not a marmalade i don't like marmalade i'm not really a marmalade girl either strawberry jam all the way just strawberry jam i thought blueberry jam is quite nice actually yeah i mean margot makes her own jam wow very talented lady being that kind of woman like oh this is some jam that i made yeah from my fruits in my garden

4:03Cinzia Squirrel: that's lovely and then you buy the jars and you yeah put the money you give it to your neighbors you put stickers on it yeah oh i love that take them around in a little basket i mean i would like to make sourdough i make nice loaves make a jalapeno and cheddar luster because there's such a thing as like sourdough hotels if you're going on holiday you can drop

4:24Sophia Tuxford: your starter off and they can look after you really yeah it's quite serious business oh okay yeah it's almost like a dog sitter i think so yeah wow i've not heard of that but yeah it really

4:34Cinzia Squirrel: is that serious well we have a very special announcement oh my god no no no no no actually just take a minute before you start just just take a minute right when were we in australia it's got to be two years ago february 20 year and a half 25 a year and a half ago yeah yes a year and a half ago we our lives are changed let's say forever by a food item that one can only hope and wish to have every day like if we were a food i do think we would be this of sorts we

5:07Sophia Tuxford: have said it many times breakfast lunch or dinner or a snack this really takes the cake it hits the spot it can do it in the winter in the summer in the spring 24 7 305 yeah 365 yeah 365 and what is

5:22Cinzia Squirrel: that chintz that is the sweetest sweetest delight treat in the world but meal incredible called yochi and we have and listen we've been hearing whispers for a while that whispers yeah look we

5:36Sophia Tuxford: might have had a couple dms yeah might have heard from staff in australia from staff yeah don't say it don't say it don't say it we've been itching we've been itching but we don't want i

5:46Cinzia Squirrel: think for over six months now we've been getting dms be like just letting you know it's coming yeah

5:50Sophia Tuxford: like did you know girls did you know did you know not wanted to jinx it not wanted to speak too soon yeah however it's a beautiful day today because yochi themselves have given us the honor of announcing this news to you take it away yochi is coming to england now now today notting hill gate so the london girls notting hill gate listen we're gonna work on getting some more locations yeah do you need investment the girls bathroom could maybe give you you know 10 pound 20 pound 50 pound what are we thinking here yeah we want to expand yochi we really do yes they have big

6:33Cinzia Squirrel: plans listen they have big plans they have uk wide plans so just sit tight as we have sat tight for a year and a half yes it is here notting hill notting hill gate can't wait we will be there

6:49Sophia Tuxford: we're gonna be there front row we've requested to cut the ribbon and i believe it's happening i believe it is happening yeah i'm not even sure if they were planning on having a ribbon but we said can we cut we said there's got to be a ribbon there's got to be a pair of scissors there's

7:01Cinzia Squirrel: got to be a large pair of scissors to go yeah so we can't believe it wow we're so excited

7:07Sophia Tuxford: this is the power of manifestation right here truly is and speaking things into speaking the

7:13Cinzia Squirrel: power of the tongue you know seriously guys and also it's just like who doesn't want a frozen yogurt like it's made such a comeback like it's oh my god but it's always been so good i don't

7:22Sophia Tuxford: know why it ever went and also like don't worry we will be there in december don't you worry about that december of course i don't know what you meant there the interest isn't gonna do this

7:30Cinzia Squirrel: isn't just a summer fling for us this is a long-term commitment i'm gonna be going at least once a week you know it's like as many times as i can get to notting hill i will be there maybe we need to start having some appointments in notting hill so it gets us over yeah i'm gonna just try and start aligning with Notting Hill. Maybe I should move to Notting Hill. My flat's up in October. Like it really is that serious.

7:48Sophia Tuxford: We could relocate. Why don't we move this studio to Notting Hill?

7:52Cinzia Squirrel: Our old studio used to be in Notting Hill. Oh, you are joking. That would have been, oh my God, that actually. That would have been great. We had two studios in Notting Hill, no? Yeah. What was the second one? It was in the same building.

8:05Sophia Tuxford: Yes, we did. Yeah. Oh, wow. Wow. Well, well we're honored to share this news today thank you yochi for coming to the uk everyone's we uh we love and adore you and we can't wait to see more of you we can't wait for our bowls we dream for times like these we you know these are the like this is life worth living isn't it absolutely these are the special times that we will look back on in our lives

8:26Cinzia Squirrel: so very special times i'll write about this in my diary tonight should we dive into our episode

8:31Sophia Tuxford: absolutely okay we are back with one of our favorite question of the weeks of all time i I think we've done this twice before, but I want to say it's been like two years since we've done it. Is it the second name one? Yes.

8:45Cinzia Squirrel: Today is a gift that you're giving.

8:47Sophia Tuxford: Funniest best surnames you've ever heard. Here we go. Rigglesworth. Mr. Riggle. Mr. and Mrs. Riggleworth. Are we taking a second name? Longbottom. Didn't we go to school with a Longbottom? Yes. There was some sort of Longbottom, wasn't there? Longbottom. Mycock. Mycock. Yeah. We had a cock burn. Yeah. Yes. Wow. Wankling.

9:12Cinzia Squirrel: That's a new one. That's a new one.

9:16Sophia Tuxford: Wankling. Oh, we've got cock burn on the list. Nice. Higgins bottom. Higgins bottom. Sounds like a horrid Henry character or something. Wow, wow, wow. Wiener. Wiener. Wow. We've got here P-U-S-E-Y. So they probably pronounce it Poussey.

9:33Cinzia Squirrel: no they go like how would you pronounce that without poosie it's poosie poosie yeah it's

9:41Sophia Tuxford: lucy poosie everyone else is like it's pussy beaver oh beaver's kind of cute i don't mind beaver roach lucy roach oh no law roach he's a very famous man well there you go i'm not i've

9:57Cinzia Squirrel: never questioned never thought about that yeah you see it's like you just gotta make it work You just got to own it as well. You got to lean in. It's just like Mrs. Wiggles Bottom. Nice to meet you, you know? You just got to embrace it. Mr. Trotter, how are you today? You just got to embrace it. Tickle. Tickle. Nice. Okay. Tickle's kind of cute. Tickle's cute. I could take tickle. Yeah. Big Wood. No way. Mr.

10:17Sophia Tuxford: Big Wood. Kind of like Mr. Big. There's no way. It's giving sex in the city. Mrs. Big Wood. Mrs. Big Wood. It's not that bad, actually, that. Seaman. Yeah.

10:27Cinzia Squirrel: That can't be real.

10:28Sophia Tuxford: But they're spelling it S-E-A, sea man.

10:32Cinzia Squirrel: Okay, a man of the sea. That can't be, yeah, I guess S-E-A.

10:37Sophia Tuxford: It's more really for the teachers, isn't it? We've got here just simply boner. We had a boner. Did we? She said it was boner.

10:45Cinzia Squirrel: Shit.

10:45Sophia Tuxford: We've got booty. Booty. Cute. Booty. Mrs. Booty. Squirrel.

10:51Cinzia Squirrel: Squirrel's cute. Squirrel, yeah. I take squirrel, honestly.

10:54Sophia Tuxford: Yeah, I don't mind squirrel and beaver. We've got gooch.

10:56Cinzia Squirrel: oh gooch we've got birth whistle what birth is that a hyphen in there no birth whistle it does actually roll off the tongue quite yeah mrs birth whistle we've got laycock

11:11Sophia Tuxford: so we've got all the variations of cock laycock i think is is fine actually i'm not seeing that as like a cock burn we've got thrush oh that's a tough one mrs thrush we've got whore but h-o-a-r-e whore how do you think they're saying that hooray yeah but just put an accent on the end of that yeah hooray hooray horny blow surely no that's a lie

11:40Cinzia Squirrel: that someone has tricked us there today we've got another cock variation cock ram

11:48Cinzia Squirrel: that sounds quite normal that sounds quite normal we've got a horn swagger we just had hornswoggle isn't that something from like harry potter that's a classic hornswoggle another cock last cock last cock last cock l-a-s-s cock last cock and we've got titsworth titsworth i like titsworth yeah titsworth honestly booty i think is kind of gold i like squirrel i think i'm gonna take that one yeah chintz your squirrel yeah higgins bottom yeah well that was all of them that was all of them right let's dive in just before we get into it quick disclaimer

12:29Sophia Tuxford: just as we are not doctors we are not professionals we do not actually know what we are talking about

12:33Cinzia Squirrel: light-hearted space okay don't take what we say literally because we could be wrong yeah and if

12:38Sophia Tuxford: there's anything serious if there's anything you feel like you're seriously struggling with please contact a gp a professional because that is not us we're just girls girls and boys just like you you're just trying to get through life as well not professionals enjoy the episode

12:53Sophia Tuxford: okay so this is girl talk today let's see what the emails have brought us dilemma number one she bought us a vibrator mailed it to me and then fled the country wait um oh my what not sure hi Sophia and Chintzia listener here since pre-pod days back to 2017

13:14Cinzia Squirrel: YouTube days wow what did she send it as like you know when you send I was thinking as like you know when you send it as like back in the olden days when they'd send an ear in the post you know what I mean wasn't that that artist that cut off the ear or a finger and sent it in the post yes we knew yes we learned about that in school we did yeah but it wouldn't to threaten you'd send like fingers in the mail ah I see where you're going send it in the mail being like here's a used vibrator like you bitch no i think i think i think

13:45Sophia Tuxford: she bought a vibrator mailed it to her can't wait to use this together and then fled the country oh oh oh i wasn't thinking it was a threat okay okay that makes a lot more sense it could very possibly be a threat okay so she was like we're gonna have sex i think so yeah i think it was like a positive like here you go like have fun with this whilst i'm gone kind of i really need advice yeah okay because i'm experiencing whoa the most horrific heavy heart ache and total whiplash i 27 have been in a sexually intense bisexual situationship with my best friend sarah wow since our third year of uni in 2020 wow we ended up living in a house of seven girls 2020

14:35Cinzia Squirrel: 20 that's six years of just like because there's got to be feelings there there's got to be a lot of feelings there's a lot of that's just messy isn't it we ended up living in a house of seven

14:47Sophia Tuxford: girls and the sexual tension was insane we are both bisexual we flirted 24 7 cuddled spooned all while she had a boyfriend i had incredibly strong feelings for her and actually confessed it in 2022 okay that i had questioned my feelings towards her and if there was something more yeah

15:07Cinzia Squirrel: um you're saying like this is not just a friendship like yeah things fizzled out into

15:12Sophia Tuxford: group only chats after that and she got into a new relationship while i worked to put my feelings behind me okay so she was basically two-timing for two years while she had this boyfriend she with you she didn't really have feelings from what i can gather i think you probably said something like I actually want to be with you and like I want this to be us too and she's kind of panicked

15:33Cinzia Squirrel: and you've had to basically well when you admitted your feelings she was like oh shit it got a bit

15:38Sophia Tuxford: too real I actually need to retreat here this past October she broke up with him suddenly we were on the phone every night on a phone call she admitted she always thought about the what ifs thought about me during her relationships and that I made her question everything I told her you've had your chance and she replied i know i was scared a couple weeks later i stayed over at hers and we watched the fireworks the vibe was so romantic holding hands hair stroking spooning but nothing else happened a week later however we started heavily sexting wow wow so just like that you know we were just cuddling and now we are sexting we're sexting she explicitly specified it wasn't romantic or dating but she doesn't even know or understand it herself because she doesn't have that draw to anyone else okay so she's a mess i feel like you're probably more experienced in your bisexuality than she is if she doesn't really sound like someone who she's always had boyfriends i think and maybe she's a little bit like what am i feeling i'm really attracted to you but i've never been attracted to a woman before is she scared of like admitting her feelings to a woman maybe i'm just making that up but that's kind of what i'm gathering but she is

16:52Cinzia Squirrel: a mess like you you can't just break up with your boyfriend and then now you're sexting me but you're saying oh no this isn't romantic and it's like this is confused and it's like also you know how

17:01Sophia Tuxford: i feel about you like don't mess me about she stated that she didn't want to be a prick to me

17:06Cinzia Squirrel: because she was leaving the country oh now she's leaving the country oh god and that her hold back

17:11Sophia Tuxford: was my emotions but because i had craved her for years my brain went into frantic excitement that she was even giving me attention in more than just a friendly way yeah i played along and pretended i was fine with it being casual just to not lose the moment even though i always wanted it to be more the messages were crazy she texted me this is what she said yeah how i know you literally worship me and i wanted it i replied that i would and she said i know i'm counting on it however sarah was terrified of our friendship group finding out and insisted on keeping us a total secret what all these years it's not my attraction to you i want to hide but she was deeply panicked about group drama so she wants to keep it a secret and it's like being kept a

17:57Cinzia Squirrel: secret is like one of the worst things that can happen to you because yeah it causes so much trauma i think yeah because it's not natural and it's horrible yeah but i understand in the moment yeah you're just you put it perfectly i don't want so excited that you finally got a glimpse

18:12Sophia Tuxford: of what you were always wanting from her. So you were like, I know I'm going to be hurt. That you couldn't refuse it. You were just like, I know I'm going to be so hurt, but I'm just going to have to. I'll deal with that later down the line. So in December, we finally slept together. I was on my period, so there wasn't much she could do. And I ended up taking the lead the whole time. Since she'd never been with a girl before, she had a lot of performance anxiety, which meant I was left feeling physically unsatisfied. I thought we used to have sex.

18:39Cinzia Squirrel: Or did we just spoon? We sexted. but when we were back in that house didn't we used to have sex all the time

18:47Sophia Tuxford: or were we just snogging it was just cuddles and flirting 24 7 and spooning okay actually

18:55Cinzia Squirrel: makes more sense okay so she's actually never been naked with a lady naked naked with a lady

19:03Sophia Tuxford: oh okay okay uh so she was a bit unsatisfied even though i genuinely loved pleasing her she did try to please me too but i felt a bit self-conscious because i was on my period and didn't want our first time together to feel messy or awkward right a couple of weeks later for my birthday she actually bought a vibrator for us she's putting capitals to use to take the pressure off her for the next time so she wouldn't feel stressed about making sure i was satisfied yeah okay little helping hand yeah we never got to use it because she cancelled her visit for what was a valid family reason. At the end of the year, I wrote letters to all my friends and jokingly wrote in hers, it's a shame we never got to use the toy you apparently bought me.

19:44Sophia Tuxford: She literally posted it to my house with a handwritten note saying, think of me.

19:50Cinzia Squirrel: Wow. Romantic. Yeah, it's kind of hot.

19:52Sophia Tuxford: In January, she moved to the other side of the world for a new life, which I did know about. Within her very first week away, she went on a date with a boy and outwardly told me about it. when I brought us up she completely downplayed it as just a bit of fun but a couple of weeks later she drunk voice noted me to say nights out aren't the same without my girl and begged me to get on a plane the mixed signals gave me total whiplash and now we haven't spoken in three months I've never felt this intensely with anyone it's gotten to the point where I can't even masturbate without thinking of her so I've completely stopped doing it all together because it just feeds into my delusion my dilemma am i even allowed to be confused she stated to me it wasn't romantic or dating she used to say things like i don't want to lead you on because i care about our friendship too much it made her seem very considerate now i feel like she just used those disclaimers to clear her own conscience so she could push the boundaries and use me as a safe bisexual bucket list experience you're very good with your words here sarah these are really concise points um and flew the country with zero guilt did she just use me how do i stop holding on the hope of a future with someone who turned my world upside down and just flew away oh you do deserve a

21:10Cinzia Squirrel: lot more than this we've got a couple screenshots of text messages oh yes is it bad to say that i've

21:16Sophia Tuxford: craved this tension from you for so fucking long who's saying that our girl the other girl it's always been that i've just been more subtle you always made me question everything i couldn't handle these attacks you've always had this like super intense draw i don't know how to describe it so different to anyone else this is the other girl so she's really giving

21:35Cinzia Squirrel: you like what you've always wanted to hear yeah we're in it together but then she can't stand by it like despite how tempting it is wow you deserve way more you do deserve she's a mess she doesn't

21:47Sophia Tuxford: know what she wants i also think like you've probably i mean maybe not but i don't even know if you've realized and I don't even know if you can realize until you're out of this situation how emotionally draining and exhausting this situation must have been with you for literally the past six years like this started in 2020 and that like unrequited love is like oh my god like you just can't help but hang on to every glimpse every touch if she ever brushed past you in the kitchen I bet you were like oh my god that must mean something like she's always just kind of like dangled a little bit but she's it's quite clear I think sadly that she's never felt about you the same way that you feel about her and I do think what she's done is a little bit selfish because I think you have made your feelings clear and she has kind of like given you a little bit but then said no no it's not serious not serious not serious but then kind of gone back and I just think you have probably been even more drained by this situation than you even realize

22:46Cinzia Squirrel: because you've been for her for six years such a long time you were like okay i'm gonna finally that is like an emotional minefield i'm gonna finally admit my feelings got shut down immediately fine then she's coming back saying all sorts yeah you know flirting it's the flirting it's like why are you like getting me all like excited yeah and then it's like sweet nothing's on text yeah and and and getting me all excited and then just going off again and it is it's it's completely

23:14Sophia Tuxford: messed you about yeah it's completely unfair i appreciate that that she is maybe quite confused and she is kind of thinking i'm not really sure what's going on like i think i like this but i don't know like now she's got this boyfriend again and wherever other side of the world

23:28Cinzia Squirrel: i think being with men for her is probably this is safe yeah it's the norm for her what's the word yeah the norm she's used to it it's a comfort and you are probably not to feed into your delusions do you know what i mean but she probably really really likes you and really does kind of want you and wants to explore it but she's too scared but you that's when you need to wake up and be like actually this has been going on for six years i did it's exactly what you said like you're not

23:57Sophia Tuxford: someone's trial run like you're not there as like a token to tick something off like oh bisexual experience tick like this is your feelings this is your life this has gone on for a really long time

24:07Cinzia Squirrel: You'll be able to find another girl or another boy who's going to treat you way better and not mess you about and make their intentions very clear. And, you know, when they confess their feelings to you, they mean it and they stay by you and they don't abandon you and go to another country.

24:21Sophia Tuxford: And I think, you know, like I've given this my best shot. Like if it was going to happen between us, it could have happened over the past six years. I appreciate she might have needed a bit more time. It might have been a bit like, oh, I'm not sure. Like, but it's been six years. I think if it was going to happen, it probably would have happened by now. And you deserve to start afresh and try and move on.

24:41Cinzia Squirrel: The secrecy of it all as well. Like you want someone who's proud to be with you, wants to shout it from the rooftops, wants to show you off. Like that's such a red flag. Her being like, let's keep this on the hush hush. Like we don't want people talking about that. We don't want people embarrassed of me. Like I'm not. I'm happy for people to know. Yeah. It's like I'd actually love for people to know. That'd be really fun and exciting for me. Yeah. And you deserve that. at least she's moved to the other side of the world absolutely i think it's this is completely different time zone you've not spoken three months which is good the longer time goes on timeless the greatest healer so i think actually just block her number i know but she's like supposedly in your best friendship circle i know but like but then she's gonna text us in six months saying something crazy like yeah you know how much she misses you and all of this and how she's gonna And it's going to send us back to where we were.

25:32Cinzia Squirrel: Like she's got to be blocked. She can't get in contact with you. Yeah. I agree. Because every time she messages you, you spiral. And it's this whole thing all over again. And then it's like you can't resist but to reply. Because you've got that emotional pull. Yeah. And you think it's kind of harmless because she's so far away. But it's so damaging to you. Yeah.

25:51Sophia Tuxford: You need to do yourself a favor. Look after yourself. Think about yourself. You've thought about her for long enough. Yeah. Block her and try and move on. or maybe she does message get back out there even like let's get distracted let's get with someone else like sometimes distraction is exactly what you need yeah realize that there's other women out there who are gonna treat you way better other people out there yeah who actually want me yes yeah

26:12Cinzia Squirrel: good luck Sarah but that's thanks for your email it's really emotionally draining and I can only imagine how you're feeling right now just like drained because it is 75 % of women who seek menopause care don't receive it The lying awake at 3 a.m. wondering what's happening to your body ends now. Midi is virtual care built for women in perimenopause and menopause with clinicians who specialize in women's health. Plus, it's covered by most major insurances. Getting started is easy. You can book your first visit with a clinician right away. Midlife needs Midi. Visit joinmidi.com to book your first visit today.

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28:01Cinzia Squirrel: Oh God, we've experienced something kind of similar to this. Have we? Oh my God, what is it? Well, like kind of. Oh my God, what is it? Not with us. Help. Is my best friend secretly my hater online? We've experienced this. Online? Well, this is, who was that girl whose mum was like, did you ever watch that netflix documentary and it was her mom this whole time was the troll yeah i never watched her and her boyfriend about it and it was actually insane like insane so sorry this girl's best friend is trolling her online i think have we experienced this oh yeah i forgot about that that was terrifying yeah i'm thinking of that yeah right i was thinking of just like

28:49Sophia Tuxford: in person

28:50Cinzia Squirrel: oh fair

28:51Sophia Tuxford: hi girls hi blueberry oh she's not here today unfortunately she's at daycare I'm sure chintz will send along

28:58Cinzia Squirrel: I will I'll send my well wishes thank you Sarah

29:01Sophia Tuxford: our mums are going out for lunch today I know they are

29:04Cinzia Squirrel: that's nice yeah

29:06Sophia Tuxford: I wonder where they're going

29:07Cinzia Squirrel: they usually do a hot chocolate this is more of a yeah at least they're having some yeah because they usually go to Hotel Chocolat and have an ice cream sundae yeah which I guess is kind of like sweet treat It's a equivalent of us going for frozen yogurt. Yeah. You know? That's so true. It's an equivalent of our yochi trip. It's all they have access to in Nottingham, you know? Yeah, the retail park. Long time listener here. My mum orders bubble tea all the time. Your mum does? She loves bubble tea. God, get it, Angie. She finally knows how to work delivery. And she orders a honeydew bubble tea.

29:38Oh my God.

29:39Cinzia Squirrel: What's that one that I like? You like a brown sugar.

29:42Sophia Tuxford: That one we had, the brown sugar.

29:44Cinzia Squirrel: Brown sugar, something with the boba. It's really good. long time listener here you two lovely ladies have literally been with me through it all a failed engagement a transatlantic move from california back to my hometown in germany after 10 years abroad i was not expecting that restart my entire life and finally a wonderful new relationship with my childhood love oh my god now that's a movie trust me the law is crazy but throughout it all listening to you or watching your youtube has always felt like a little bit of sunshine on cloudy days oh wow the cherry on top of the already really good days that you're a wordsmith that's amazing i'm inspired this is a long one i hope you'll forgive me but my dilemma is literally consuming my thoughts so i'd really love some advice first the backstory first the backstory though or this won't make sense at the end of 2023 i'm now 30 then i was 28 i moved back to my hometown and quickly after moving back i made a new friend susan same age as me nice nice she had also just moved to my city for work and we randomly met at a dinner party.

30:48Cinzia Squirrel: We hit it off so well and she became my best friend very quickly. My whole family knew her and loved her. My parents would literally invite her to their birthday parties. That's how close we all became. At the end of 2024, beginning of 2025, I met my now boyfriend Brian, 32. Well, technically we reconnected. We have known each other since we were five and seven. Even back then I was madly in love with him. I thought he was the coolest boy ever. Our mothers are also close friends and when we were when we were little they literally always said that one day him and i would get married and who knows now we actually might that's really cute when i moved back to germany i reconnected with brian's mom and she said to me you know you've always been my dream daughter-in-law that's really sweet i laughed it off thinking brian and i were in such different places in our lives now it probably would never work he had moved to dubai and i just settled back into my life in Germany.

31:46Cinzia Squirrel: But Brian's mum thought otherwise. And in a matchmaking play of the century, she arranged for him and I to meet whilst he was visiting her. With her conveniently forgetting an important appointment, leaving us to have dinner on our own. And what can I say? He literally swept me off my feet. And we've been together ever since. That's really actually cute. What a great story. This is literally a rom-com. The mum knew what she was doing. That's really sweet. That's a really nice story. Yeah, that's such a meet cute. Isn't it? Yeah. And we've been together ever since. He moved back to Europe four months after we reconnected so we could live together.

32:19Cinzia Squirrel: So you're both living in Germany? Yes. We have since... Hello. Wiegitz. Wiegitz. Wiegitz. Wiegitz. Wiegitz. I love Germany. Do you know what? We should go to Germany. I know. Because I do think we left a piece of us in Germany. Where did we last go to Germany? Berlin. Berlin. Like... Great trip. We should go back to Berlin. A great city. A great city. Marcus Butler is there.

32:41Sophia Tuxford: Butler?

32:42Cinzia Squirrel: Marcus Butler is there. Is he? He lives there now.

32:45Sophia Tuxford: Didn't know that. He's, yeah. That man existed.

32:48Cinzia Squirrel: He had a German, me too. But for some reason, I did a little deep dive. Got you. On his, got picked up all his law again. Got you. He had that one German girlfriend. Oh. And then he moved to Berlin with her. Then they broke up, but he stayed in Berlin because he loves it. And now he's got a new German girlfriend. And he's like fluent German. Wow. Yeah. What's a fantastic, sehr gut. Sehr gut. Sehr gut. And you know, Zoe and Alfie have just disappeared from the internet. Do you know about this? Yes.

33:14Sophia Tuxford: I have heard rumblings of this. Haven't they been gone for like six months? Yeah, since Christmas. Yeah, I did know that. But they've not said a whisper. I thought Alfie was still posting. Oh, but Zoe hasn't.

33:23Cinzia Squirrel: Yeah, yes, yes.

33:24Sophia Tuxford: I do know that. Yeah. I think we need to go to Germany. I'd love to go to Germany. We could even go for the Christmas markets.

33:35Cinzia Squirrel: Yes. Sophia's nailed it. That'd be perfect. Food, sausages.

33:39Sophia Tuxford: Yes.

33:41Cinzia Squirrel: Sights. Yes. Brush up on our language. Yes, because it's just, it rolls off the tongue for us. It really does.

33:47Sophia Tuxford: It rolls off the tongue for you. I always struggled with it. Cinzia was very good at German.

33:53Cinzia Squirrel: What can I say? Right. She was so good. She was so good. We've since lived all over Europe together. Testing to see where we like it best. That's really nice. So I don't actually live in Germany anymore. Ah, sorry. That was a tangent we just went on then. She says, I only mentioned this next bit as I think it'll be more important later. Brian makes a lot of money He is completely self-made And while he is the most humble person And will literally not even buy himself new AirPods After he lost his old ones He takes care of multiple people financially And of course he spoils me rotten Nice I kept my 9 to 5 job As I want to maintain my independence And not be another person Relying on him financially But of course my lifestyle got a huge upgrade Thanks to him And that's noticeable from the outside Looking at my social media for example Wow Sarah Okay, girl.

34:43Cinzia Squirrel: Okay. Yeah, nice. Yeah. When I left Germany, okay, this. Where's the problem? What's the title? I've completely forgot. So she's got a hater. Oh, shit. So listen, she's had a whole lifestyle switch. Yeah, yeah, yeah. She's met this guy. She said it's clear on social media. Yes. My lifestyle's had this crazy change. And I've quit my nine to five. Yeah, people are jealous of you. People are going to be jealous. When I left Germany to move in with him, only a two hour flight away. I go home literally every four weeks. My relationship with Susan changed. She slowly but increasingly became distant and I felt myself holding back, telling her positive things because it felt like she wouldn't be happy for me.

35:24Cinzia Squirrel: We were in a consistent loop of everything being fine, her going distant, me pointing it out and seeking to talk it out and clear the air. Us resolving it only for it all to start all over again a few weeks later. Sarah was never really a fan of Brian to begin with because she quote can't identify with people who make that much money oh so is that or ouch and brian isn't down to earth because he makes so much money okay which you are just like well that's

35:51Sophia Tuxford: not accurate you're literally clutching at straws so that was she's always probably thought like oh i wish i could find a guy like that like oh i'm gonna try and make i'm gonna try and derail this

36:00Cinzia Squirrel: so she's not with him so that was kind of her first opinions and thoughts and she let that

36:04Sophia Tuxford: She's never been like, I'm so happy for you. You've got a great guy. You've never really felt like she was a cheerleader of your relationship.

36:12Cinzia Squirrel: But coming to stay with us in Brian's beautiful penthouse by the ocean in the Mediterranean for two weeks. How come we come? Has he got a brother for chins?

36:21Sophia Tuxford: Has he got a house in Germany?

36:23Cinzia Squirrel: Will come. Literally. Will come. All being flown out by him for my 30th birthday weekend. All expensive paid. she seemed to identify with just fine for some strange reason so you're just right so you're

36:37Sophia Tuxford: happy to get on the private jet yeah so you can't relate because you don't like she was chatting the chat but she got to stay in the penthouse relate to people who make that much money yeah but she

36:47Cinzia Squirrel: very much enjoyed the penthouse absolutely she enjoyed the perks and the flight this is where the actual dilemma starts during a phase where we were seemingly totally fine while brian and i were

36:57Sophia Tuxford: on a lovely spa trip and oh you guys my god this is love i bet christmas is to die for yeah

37:04Cinzia Squirrel: wow i get a super strange text from sarah i literally had to read it three times to make sure she really said what i think she did so this is quotes hey girl i found something someone wrote about you online and it was her she said look i have a small following on social media less than 20k so really not worth mentioning but i don't even actively post to try to grow my accounts i used to a few years back and those followers just stuck i guess she sent me a link to a reddit

37:38Sophia Tuxford: page do not send me a link to anything i know that is the first rule number one if if if it

37:45Cinzia Squirrel: like say sophia saw a comment about me i was really in it going have you seen this yeah why on earth would anyone do that no ignorance is bliss it's like you don't like it's like why am i so so yeah say yes you just ruined my night say i hypothetically saw an awful comment about sophia saying something really nasty why would i go look at this have you seen what people are saying and then it's like so she can read this awful comment about her and then also go into a spiral right like i think why would you do it's very mean it's like you want to protect your friends you would never do you want you want to protect the people you love from protect their peace yeah exactly

38:20Sophia Tuxford: so it's like that's really concerning but also like how have you the fact that she has found that has been like okay so you went on reddit you searched my name or german influencers like you kind of went digging for this like you didn't just get like a text message from someone like you went to find this and you got what you wanted or she posted it herself yeah which is what we're 604212.

38:48Cinzia Squirrel: Which is what we're appeared to be getting at here.

38:50Sophia Tuxford: Yeah. And then the fact that she has screenshot it and sent it to you, that to me says like you are trying to bring me down because like I was having a great day and now I'm firing.

38:59Cinzia Squirrel: Well, someone you love, you don't want to upset them. Why would you then intentionally upset them when it's like, I don't need to know about that corner of the internet that's going on.

39:08Sophia Tuxford: It's even just like, it's more, it's even just like, have you seen your ex's new girlfriend? Yes. Have you seen them? they're on this holiday look at this have you seen they just got engaged they just posted it

39:19Cinzia Squirrel: like i don't need to see that like you're trying to bring me down yes yes it's the same so she said she sent me a link to a reddit page where they write write the kind of stuff that will literally have you feeling your brain cells dying while you're reading it where two anonymous accounts were talking about me mainly about my new new she's put lifestyle and relationship i asked her how she found this as i did a question as i didn't take her for the kind of person that uses reddit she said a co-worker of hers who she previously showed my profile to reads the post there sometimes and recognize my instagram handle when she said the post was about me i showed the thread to brian and he immediately thought it must be sarah behind at least one of the accounts and so it's interesting that that's his gut feeling yeah um a few days later she sent me another link saying she found another post stop oh my god she is like you're upsetting me like i never asked her if she had anything to do with it and set and sarah and i never spoke about reddit after that second link she sent okay so you didn't feed into it you're just kind of like i've told two of my other friends who have met sarah but aren't friends with her about the reddit posts and both immediately without me going there said it's obviously her who wrote that that's interesting yeah i kept defending her though when denying it and i simply didn't allow myself to go there mentally as i didn't want it to be true and didn't believe the girl i saw as my best friend would actually do something like that a few months later plot twist i ended the friendship with with susan sorry her name is susan her name is susan yeah okay uh okay uh not at all because of the reddit post though things were an all-time low again in our friendship she was super distant for months and finally asking and finally asking her if we could meet and talk she showed me that she what she really thought of me oh my god i texted her a few days later saying i had to stick to my boundaries here and end the friendship as i don't know how to be friends with someone who thinks so negatively about me uh when all i think of them is love and light and all things good that's because you're a happy person yeah but that i wish her all the best and will always have love for her in my heart she replied only criticizing me for ending our friendship through text and i didn't even bother replying one final time one month goes by my boyfriend knowing how heartbroken how heartbroken I am over having to cut off my close friend takes me to takes me on a trip to cheer me up nice by the way this man should get star of the week the month the year the decade I couldn't help myself and posted all about the trip in my new bag wow a new bag a few days after the trip I remember I remembered the reddit posts I go to check to see if something was posted about me no no no let's not do that and guess what there's a new post with 37 comments it was a screenshot of my post from the trip and the comments were more speculation on how i afford my lifestyle and who my boyfriend is some comments stood out as very strange though someone wrote something about how i can't keep friendships it's just put literally how would a stranger on the internet know that and someone else replied with quotes uh as a short-term friend of hers i can confirm this is true the same account replied to another comment speculating on what my boyfriend does for work with extreme detail the reply literally included brian's first and last name and other details about his work that only people close to us could know like who he like about his company and stuff my boyfriend is literally ungoogleable and doesn't have any social media i've never posted his face on my accounts and there is no way of knowing the things in that comment section without knowing us firsthand yeah so yeah you've just confirmed like that is Susan on that reddit I don't even think my mum knows that much about my boyfriend about what he does for work but Susan does my boyfriend and I keep our circle very small and none of our friends would have the time um let alone the type of character to go on reddit and on and and anonymously gossip about our lives but now I'm literally terrified if it is her that she will share more private details about me or my boyfriend online and have become more obsessed with checking the Reddit thread for new posts or comments.

43:21Cinzia Squirrel: What do you girls think? Random trolls in my following who somehow found this information about my Brian or an ex-best friend who has been my hater all along. And how do I handle this? Would you reach out to her again and call her out or keep ignoring it? Should I make a statement on Reddit myself? Thanks so much for the advice. No, I wouldn't go on there if I were you. Okay, well, that was actually a lot. Yeah, this is a lot. Our advice to that would be, you've already cut her off as a friend. Yeah. make sure she's blocked instagram blocked whatever so she can't be checking upon your new posts yeah

43:52Sophia Tuxford: because i don't even know if you have actually blocked her yet i think you just like cut her off as a friendship but i think block her from your social media and if you get any new like anonymous accounts like block them as well because it's probably her on a different yeah and then our only advice would be never check that reddit forum again don't go looking

44:12Cinzia Squirrel: for it i think if you message her or post on that thread you're going to give her the satisfaction of like haha she's seen it i hope i ruined that day yes you know i hope i upset her because you know what i mean that's what she wants to do now she's made it clear when she sent you that first reddit link i want to upset this girl i want to knock her down a peg i want her to feel shit

44:32Sophia Tuxford: that she is yeah completely watching she's out to upset you that's it like she sees your happy she sees your happiness she sees your lovely life and she is just like how did she get that and i haven't like what's going on there even though like you said she's got a great boyfriend she's got a lovely life she's got it all together she obviously like sees some people like i can only be happy for you if i don't think you're doing better than me like that is the kind of is the kind of person that sarah sarah susan is kind of demonstrating herself because also when you first

45:06Cinzia Squirrel: met her you were you were single yeah and you would just move back to Germany almost kind of finding your feet again in a new home and she probably looked at you and thought oh I've got

45:14Sophia Tuxford: I've got this I've got that but the minute that you in her eyes kind of overtook her yeah and now you're jetting around living in different places going on these great holidays and this and that and she just isn't she's not she's not happy for you that's the that's the bottom line she is not

45:30Cinzia Squirrel: happy it's like a narcissistic boyfriend who tries to ruin your day make you feel shit knock you down on a peg doesn't want you to feel good about yourself yeah wants you to cry because it's going to make them feel better it's literally the same i just would well i think what you to make i

45:44Sophia Tuxford: understand the fear of being like she has a lot of personal information about me is she going to keep writing this stuff is she going to do it more blah blah blah blah blah i completely i do completely agree and the minute you go on there it's going to add fuel on the fire the minute you message her about it she's going to get so much gratification and so much joy out of that that i don't want you to give her that i think you've got to kind of see it as like i am living in this girl's head rent free like she is thinking about me all day long she is using her time to go on reddit and talk about me with these fucking loser trolls like happy people aren't hating yeah they're not legit legit you're not a hater like i'm you're not hating anyone like you're a happy girl you're living life like you're putting out good energy it's coming back to you like All these losers are hating.

46:36Sophia Tuxford: They've got nothing better to do. I guarantee if you saw these people in person, they'd probably be quite nice to you. Yeah. Because they don't see, because they see you as this great thing. They don't actually see you as just like a girl. Yes. They're just hating on you. Yes.

46:50Cinzia Squirrel: And all you can do to kind of take back your power, because right now it's like, ignore, never check that Reddit post again. Make sure she's blocked. Yeah. And she will eventually get bored. She will get bored. She will. It might take some time or it might add fuel to the fire. I don't know. But she will eventually get bored and she will eventually stop. But also you'll be none the wiser because you're not going to be checking that Reddit thread. Ignorance is bliss. And tell your other friends who you told about it, look girls, let's not check this thread again. I don't want to think about it.

47:19Cinzia Squirrel: It's just boring. Like I want to live my life. Yeah. Don't need to focus on that. Like life's too short. I'm not focusing on that. And I also think you have to,

47:26Sophia Tuxford: in the same thing of like taking your power back, whatever is written on there, good or bad, doesn't change anything. you're still in your house doesn't change your partner you still live in your life you're still paying your bills it changes nothing yes who cares it doesn't doesn't doesn't change anything it's not like you get you know someone says something mean about you and you get this like deduction in life like your whole life stays exactly the same so if you don't read it you won't know about it and then it gradually well i understand the curiosity you will eventually

47:55Cinzia Squirrel: forget about it and it won't be at the forefront of your mind i understand the curiosity but i

48:00Sophia Tuxford: think it's just reminding yourself like stopping yourself and being like I know it's going to upset me if I go on here so I'm just not going to do it I'm going to distract myself do something else put my phone away go for a walk like not think about it because it's just an online forum it's not even a real tangible thing it's an online forum like with these weird trolls like exactly when you feel like you want to check it say okay wait what happened the last time I checked it I

48:28Cinzia Squirrel: cried i felt really upset i was spiraling for days i was spiraling i i was confused it you know upset me okay that's reason enough to not check it again you know how did it make you feel and kind of put yourself first in that yeah it's like stalking an ex it's like i really want to stalk him right now wait a second how did i feel the last time i stalked him i cried i found all these girls la la la no no okay i'm not gonna do that it's just like taking action to make you feel gotta be disciplined with yourself but i'm sorry that you've gone through that me too but hopefully we're like we're on the out now yeah we can put it behind us she's not in our lives anymore and

49:03Sophia Tuxford: it's not someone that you want in your small circle anyway like she has shown her true colors and i think it's great that you've like you kind of defended her at first you didn't want to believe it but i think it's great that you have recognized it also i like the fact and i'm happy that other people in your circle see it clear as day and you haven't got other people being like i don't think it is Sarah. Like everyone is in agreement that like, well, it's got to be her. That shows that

49:28Cinzia Squirrel: you've got other good friends in your life, which is a great sign. At least you're not like, she's like, you're not like your only friend or anything. You've got other people who recognize her shit behavior too. So that's a good sign.

49:38Sophia Tuxford: Good luck. And please invite us to the penthouse.

49:52Sophia Tuxford: okay boyfriend sister we've got here my boyfriend sisters sisters won't stop talking about his past

49:59Cinzia Squirrel: sex life i've never how do they know so much about that open relationship that is that is very i've never dated someone with a sister so i don't it would be really nice you have

50:11Sophia Tuxford: yeah they're just like it was a positive experience very yeah you're just like oh these are my new mates yeah yeah i think if they i think if they welcome you with open arms it's like

50:19Cinzia Squirrel: two brand new friends yeah as long as they're happy you're here exactly yeah if they're missing

50:24Sophia Tuxford: the ex not so good long time missing up from ireland i love the podcast and my boyfriend brian gets a great laugh out of you guys too i'm writing in because i've had enough of this situation we've been together for two and a half years i'm 25 he's 27 his sisters are quite a bit bit younger 14 and 19. Sophia. Why the hell does a 14 year old know about her 27 year old's brother's sex life?

50:48Cinzia Squirrel: Why does they even know what no?

50:49Sophia Tuxford: Ever since the first few months of us dating his older sister has randomly brought up stories about girls he previously dated or slept with.

50:57Cinzia Squirrel: Oh goodness me.

50:58Sophia Tuxford: For context I came out of a six-year relationship before I met Brian whereas he'd been single on and off for years so his dating life before me was a lot more eventful than mine. So he would bring girls back to the house you know they're there as time has gone on i've somehow learned about nearly every girl he's ever been with oh my i find it so strange that his sisters know all of this information brian hasn't sat them down and told them everything they've just picked it up over the years from meeting girls and hearing stories i mean fair enough like like when it's going on in your home like he's got his mates around you're hearing things yeah it's like they're chatting you're seeing a name on the phone you know he's coming at 2am someone's ringing him him like he's been out late like you kind of get it yeah I completely agree with your saying that ignorance is bliss and I genuinely wish I never knew any of it yeah we live in a small town so I now end up bumping into a lot of these girls and because of everything I've been told it's impossible not to think about it it's not even just his sisters either his mum and auntie have brought things up like that too which to me just aren't funny it's actually hurtful yeah the worst thing his older sister ever told me was that I was basically his second option the first night we

52:08Cinzia Squirrel: met what but but also like you're 19 you actually know the difference out of the business between right and wrong yeah you know like you're an adult like yeah fair enough the 14 year old whatever but even still like you're within your right mind like you know that something like this is going to be especially as a girl as a girl if it was a 19 year old boy you'd be like an idiot you just don't

52:30Sophia Tuxford: like you're so mature blah blah but a 19 year old girl is intentional knows like that would be very hurtful yeah you're very right-minded yeah of course so that's crazy like shut up like stop this absolutely broke my heart because it completely ruined what was such a lovely memory for me that's exactly so wait she was saying that he had two options that night yeah and you were the

52:52Cinzia Squirrel: second one oh my fucking god instead of it being a story i'd happily tell our future grandkids i

52:57Sophia Tuxford: honestly never want to think about that night ever again what made it even worse was that she told me this in front of her friends which made it extra embarrassing most recently his younger sister she's just trying to get a laugh out of her mates because that's so nasty i think maybe she's trying to do a little bit of like i think maybe she feels a bit she mustn't like you i i think i think it's a bit of a power play and she's like i'm 19 like you're this is my brother like i knew like he's mine like maybe they don't get too comfortable yeah this is my home i'm like he would always put me before you like i'm his sister lucy helen sarah and susan have all been here before you don't get too comfortable yeah but it's like oh my god um most recently his youngest sister started telling me about the time she walked in on brian and his ex having sex and went into detail about the positions they were in what the fuck is sophia what does she mean what does she mean like stop I also had to stop her and say please don't tell me this I don't want to hear it after that I told Brian I'd had enough these aren't funny stories they're hurtful and at this point it feels intentional yeah the thing that makes it harder is that I genuinely love his sisters I don't have sisters of my own so I've always treated them like they were my own I do little beauty treatments with them I cook for them I invite them over for sleepovers I really have tried to build a lovely relationship with them and that is why I feel so hurt by all of this yeah Brian said he would speak to them privately but I actually asked him not to because they have a habit of twisting things and making me look like the drama queen it's but it'll become I was only telling a funny funny story and now she's causing a row right oh god they've never really been able to hold their hands up and admit when they're wrong and they are very good at turning people against each other I don't want my relationship with his mum or aunties becoming awkward because I know that's exactly what would happen.

54:48Sophia Tuxford: Instead, I asked Brian to start shutting it down in the moment whenever it happens. Most of these comments are made when he's not around, but sometimes they have said things in front of him. Well, last night it happened again. I ended up having a complete breakdown. We all live very close to each other, so I can't exactly cut them off completely. And honestly, I don't want to. I just feel like I need a bit of space from them for a while and I need my boyfriend to step up a bit more and have my back when it happens. I also feel bad for Brian because I know he loves his family and he does love me I'm sure he never wanted any of this but at the same time I know I've done absolutely nothing wrong and I don't think I deserve to constantly hear about his past am I being too sensitive or would this get to anyone else I'd really appreciate

55:31Cinzia Squirrel: any advice it has to be intentional it would get to everyone I think also like that is intentional that's so they are not stupid like let's say okay let's say I had a brother 14 year old like

55:43Sophia Tuxford: I'm gonna count them out I think okay she's influenced by her older sister yeah and she is thinking like oh this is what girls talk about and we've seen different Brian's girlfriends and like she doesn't understand yet the psychological hurt that I would have on you like I'm gonna excuse her she's okay so yeah imagine I had wait imagine I had an older brother yeah and he brought

56:05Cinzia Squirrel: home a girlfriend I didn't like her you would only say those things if you didn't like her you wanted to push her out. If you liked her, you're welcoming her in. You want her to stay. You want her to stay. You want her to like you. You're not mentioning things from the past because you know that's going to upset her. It is so intentional. Yeah. And I know it's like, oh, we're friends, but it's like, no, you know what you're doing. You know this information is going to upset me because they know if they were to receive that information on the other side, they'd be upset.

56:31Sophia Tuxford: Surely they've got to run out

56:32Cinzia Squirrel: of stories soon. Like how many stories

56:34Sophia Tuxford: have we got girls?

56:35Cinzia Squirrel: Fuck, Naboop Sophia, this boy might be like 25. He's shagging girls since he was 18. yeah okay he's 27 okay so think how many gal have been at the house so many gal but I mean I kind of

56:47Sophia Tuxford: feel like I kind of feel like you've done the most that you can do if you're not willing and I understand like not wanting to like have like speak to the girls directly because you don't want it to be twisted and cause drama you have told Brian he now knows if it ever comes up and you are there put a stop to it I think also tell him to sit them down but she doesn't want him to do that oh really that's what she said because he said that he would talk to them and she said no

57:10Cinzia Squirrel: no don't because they're going to twist it well maybe but i do feel like there's a way like it they're siblings i feel like there's a way he can say girls just stop talking about my exes like you're making it bad on me like stop yeah like that's not coming from you no that's him saying stop mentioning my exes like she's getting like you know like stop like maybe he could say something like it's really awkward for me yeah it's really embarrassing i think he should say it like it's like it's coming from me like stop talking about my exes like yeah we're not even talking about yeah you don't come up in a conversation and i think they'll be like oh all right big brother

57:42Sophia Tuxford: like i get it ha ha ha like whatever if there's any consolation i do hope that they would grow out of it and maybe like in a year or two's time that 19 year old might be like that was really shitty of me i don't know why i did that like that was not good like she might go through some of her own life experiences and she might like sympathize a bit more and be like that was really shit i don't know why i used to do that like there might be a bit of growth i'm sure there will be like

58:07Cinzia Squirrel: she's only 19 but she still knows that it's gonna bloody upset like she's not stupid and even the 14 year old i'm like come on i know but then if the mom and auntie are doing it they're learning from the mom and auntie yeah so i think the brother needs to say oh just stop mentioning

58:22Sophia Tuxford: and their problem the thing is their excuse is probably like oh that was all in the past like he loves you so you guys have been together for a couple years like this is old news like this shouldn't bother you this was a lifetime ago that's them just trying to justify their actions

58:35Cinzia Squirrel: isn't it and it's like yeah okay you can say that and i guess it's seemingly it's like okay i guess yeah but like i'm i'm sat crying at night because now i'm picturing that position well now i know way more than i ever wanted to know i didn't ask for any of this information no because i don't want to know about exes especially no timings and things that happen right before you

58:56Sophia Tuxford: met me like no i think the most important thing is that you and brian are happy in your relationship yeah you feel like he's your guy you've got each other's backs he now knows to shut these things down yes you now know things that you can never unknow which is a shame i know but hopefully your relationship continues to go to strength from strength to strength and his sisters will grow up and i believe they will stop and i do think reconsider him just saying something to his sisters because maybe from just a different angle than maybe you were initially thinking i

59:24Cinzia Squirrel: Because otherwise they're going to keep thinking like, well, Brian's not saying anything. I'm going to keep just like doing whatever I want. Do you know what I mean? Yeah. Oh, but good luck. That is actually awful.

59:33Sophia Tuxford: Good luck, Sarah. That is not what you need. A star of the week. Absolutely. Who is our star of the week this week?

59:39Cinzia Squirrel: We have a star of the week this week. Drum roll, please. And hello, I would like to nominate my Brian, aka Matt. Matt! Shout out Matt Cardle. Hi, Matt! Matt, as start of the week, we met two months before I went traveling and I was definitely not looking to fall in love. But 11 months later, here we are. Wow. So he stuck around while traveling. Before I left, Matt handed me an envelope with a love letter to open in each new country I visited. Wow, Matt. Are you joking? In return, I sent him a postcard from every country too. This is so romantic. And our long distance whirlwind only made us better communicators.

1:00:16Cinzia Squirrel: Show me how well matched we really are. the catch on our second date when i revealed my travel plans he told me he was taking a sabbatical for a whole year from from january sabbatical at first i never thought it was going to work but we are now halfway through his sabbatical and more in love ever what's a sabbatical is it time off time off work so he's saying i was going to take a year of work yeah what just come travel yeah at every chance aligned then there didn't yes at every chance he makes me feel special and scene he learned my favorite song on the saxophone oh and piano oh and mix it together to send me whilst away not not a remix oh my god every moment we've had together is precious and i've been able to see him through his travels as he's made time to come back to see me for important moments okay so we're like both traveling but we're making it work i introduce him to the pod and we listen separately isn't that really listening and then dissect each dilemma when we call stop and he

1:01:17Sophia Tuxford: absolutely loves it oh hi man thanks for listening he definitely deserves a star of the week for

1:01:23Cinzia Squirrel: being so thoughtful kind and wonderful i live it's gonna be a great episode recap after this isn't it i live anxiety free about our relationship because he makes it so easy and that's on his secure attachment style. Shout out to the secure attachment king. I can't wait for us to finally live in the same country again come December. Not long. And yes, I sent him off with an envelope of letters and he has sent me postcards through his travels too. Oh my god, you guys are so romantic.

1:01:50Sophia Tuxford: Oh, so she went travelling. He then had sabbatical. And then he went travelling.

1:01:55Cinzia Squirrel: This is beautiful.

1:01:56Sophia Tuxford: Matt and Sarah, shout out. Matt, thank you for being a great partner for us, Sarah. We appreciate you, Matt. They're all good men of the world. all right guys thank you so much for listening shout out yochi notting hill gate can't wait

1:02:10Cinzia Squirrel: shout out cut the ribbon and you'll be knowing that we're gonna be there absolutely what was our favorite i liked cookies and cream that was my favorite yeah that was a good one cookies and cream and the vanilla was that was a good one the matcha was nice but i i i cookies and cream was elite yeah i think i hope they have all the flavors they will they will they'll have the nutella as well that just makes it well yeah like listen yeah the frozen yogurt like dead ass tastes like shit but if you put nutella on it then it's gonna be great not that it does

1:02:37Sophia Tuxford: taste like shit if you have a dilemma that you would like to send in or a star of the week

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