Girl Talk: She stole HOW MUCH from me??

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0:29Sophia Tuxford: Hey guys, it's Paige from Giggly Squad. Okay, can we all agree that hosting is so much fun? And I really do love it. Every weekend, it's come over for snacks, let's make dinner together, and somehow the second you put out a fruit platter, it seems that bugs show up before your friends do. This is why I have to have my Zeevo Flying Insect Trap. You plug it in and you let it do all the work. It's specially designed blue and UV light attracts the bugs you didn't know you had. and wow did we have a lot like house flies fruit flies gnats and then with zivo bam next thing you know the pests are caught in the sticky cartridge and away from your yummy treats without any mess or strong odors the best part is the design is actually sleek and curved so it hides the bugs it catches keeping them out of sight and when the cartridge is full you just grab the no mess tab throw it in the trash pop in a new cartridge and then you're done no mess no stress so whether you're hosting a dinner party or spending an afternoon baking treats with all your friends and you want to focus on hosting and not constantly swatting at bugs, Zivo has you covered with 24-7 bug protection.

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1:55Are we snapping into the room? Three, two, one. Showtime. Snapping in. Jazz hands. Three, two, one. Snapping in. My eyes beating. Say it with me. We've never said snapping in. Three, two, one. Snapping in. Yay. Yay. We're here live and direct. Showtime. Jazz hands.

2:15Sophia Tuxford: Spear fingers. Where's that from? Is it High School Musical? Spear fingers. Is it? Or is it Bring It On? Yeah, that's not High School Musical. Spear fingers. Spear fingers. Yeah. Where's jazz hands? Jazz hands High School Musical Is it? No it's not Jazz hands Is it? But I've not seen I don't know Bring it on like that I don't know it like that Jazz hands Jazz hands No it's like a guy It's a guy What is that from? Glee? No I don't quote Glee like that It's not Friends Yes it is Is it? It's when Joey's in the dance class with that guy Oh yeah And he's learning the routine. I never watch those episodes.

2:57Sophia Tuxford: They're not my favorite. And it's the teacher guy who goes, and jazz hands. And jazz hands. Yes, it is friends. Okay, that settled me. Happy Wednesday, everyone. We have matcha in hand. It is a good day. The sun is shining. I am just so happy to be in this time of year, aren't you? Me too. It's lovely. It is just like paradise. Light jacket weather. Ooh, yeah. Ba, ba, ba, ba, ba. Ooh, yeah. Cody's back releasing music. Like, it's all good, isn't it? It is just fantastic. Yeah. I like that it's light jacket season. Me too. I could honestly - Flip flops season. I wore flip flops out yesterday. UK flip flop.

3:34Sophia Tuxford: I could honestly like be in spring forever. It's lovely. Like summer's my favorite, of course, but like there is something so special about spring. Well, it's practical weather. Yeah. Do you know what I mean by that? I do know what you mean by that. It's practical. It's nice to go out. Yeah. it's not like deathly cold dark gloomy it's the light mornings the light night it's just like the blue sky like it's warm in the sun yeah but like there's still a crisp in the air in the shade do you know what i mean i'd be in a permanent spring we're not sweating we're not chafing true um but you know but we're still warm but we're still getting a bit of vitamin d yeah it's just yeah delightful i imagine this is what how australians feel and yeah i i think this is how they live their lives, isn't it?

4:19On the reg. But only on the Gold Coast, I think. Because it gets very cold in Sydney and Melbourne. We had some cold days in Sydney. We had some cold days in Melbourne. We had some cold days in Perth. We had some rain in Melbourne.

4:29Sophia Tuxford: Perth, we had some cold days. We went to Perth thinking it was going to be 40 degrees because all the people we knew were like beach paradise haven. Yeah, like 40 degrees beach. We went and it was pretty chill. What was that restaurant we went to? On the beach? No. The evening one. Oh, we loved that. That Caesar we had. That famous one. Yeah. You guys were that posh one. It was great. It was probably the most expensive Caesar we've ever had, but it was delicious. But it hit, didn't it? Yeah, it really hit. You guys had some nice chicken eggs, have some fish or whatever. Yeah, good times. Good times.

5:01The landline far away, hey? Happy Wednesday, everyone. What have you been watching recently? Oh, well, I actually been watching Euphoria. Oh, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes. Of course. So I'm enjoying it.

5:11Sophia Tuxford: There's only been one episode. We need to go and watch Zendaya and Rob's new film. I know. And I want to go see the new Michael Jackson film. Me too. yeah me too I feel like there's a when we were in America

5:26Lydia had this like

5:30Sophia Tuxford: white jacket

5:34and then for that whole trip she was just called Michael no but like she had this like she gets this jacket I was like what the fuck is that she's like I've got I've got a military white jacket I've got a vision I've got a vision

5:45Sophia Tuxford: all the cool girls are wearing it I've got a vision and then yeah it was just I actually didn't mind it but when we got Michael Jackson in our head we just couldn't see past it. But it was just a white Michael Jackson jacket like he wore like when I picture Michael Jackson I picture a white glove a black hat and a white jacket and she fucking puts it on. Black trousers white socks black shoes.

6:08And anyway she really did look like Michael she did not like that she did not like it. I think she'd seen some sort of Pinterest I think she'd seen some girl in this jacket and she had this vision of this jacket and we skewed the vision unfortunately but it was Michael but guaranteed he's wearing it in that new film and do you know who plays Michael in that film? Is it a relative of his? His own nephew I thought so yeah

6:30Sophia Tuxford: incredible so it's his own nephew that's very special the guy who's playing it obviously Michael's his uncle that's so cool so it was in his jeans wow it's kind of cool so yeah I do want to see that because all the family have supported the movie apart from Janet oh that's good I don't know the details I've just seen it this morning Janet didn't spot it I guess we'll never know the ins and outs will we no of the stuff no so a lot of my to watch list yeah we've got we need to hit the cinema because I feel like there's some good stuff there there's not always good stuff in those cinemas okay I'm gonna do a PSA there's also apparently a new like Ryan Gosling film about space and we like films about space space is my favourite genre have you seen the film?

7:16Sophia Tuxford: no what's it called project hail mary or something i also think we could go and see that yeah i mean space films are one of my favorite genres i really enjoy space film too futuristic space film that's not scary because it's scary it's a very specific genre there's no fear in i'm not scared space sci-fi like intergalactic intergalactic sci-fi like right because i like them i love a sci-fi actually they don't scare me they don't scare me either because like i'm not going to space so like i'm not at risk i can't relate to it therefore i can't be scared yes completely i like alien and then they're rarely aliens no it's just it's just kind of like failures in in the it's getting lost in space it's it's losing the tether to the ship yeah it's losing all your food and resources yeah or it's crashing into the ship we're going to fix something on the satellite i me and me why i'm floating away yeah we lost our tether and then i was like that's that's literally and it's like i can't relate to that fear yes yes i like them because they're thrilling what's your favorite space i like the one where i i'm picturing this one where yeah he's gone to fix it and his and his thing is floating away it's all me wire yeah i'm picturing that and then i like the one where they're in the pods is it jennifer oh that's so the passengers that's a great space film.

8:41Sophia Tuxford: I like that one. That is Chris... Mr. Chris Pines. No, not Chris Pine. Hemsworth. No. No. Sorry. The other one. Chris, we know him. Whatever that man's name is. What's he in? What's he called? Chris... Chris Pines. Pratt. Chris Pratt. Who the hell is Chris Prines? Chris Pines is like the handsome Chris Pines. I mean, all the Chrises are handsome. Because I'm now thinking Chris Pines and Chris Hemsworth are the same. No. No, no, no. Chris Pines. Chris Pines. Chris Pines. Fucking hell. Has like piercing blue eyes, I'm sure. Chris Pines is from Princess Diaries. Yes, Princess Diaries 2. Yes. Yes.

9:28Yeah, the blue eyes. Oh, I forgot about that man.

9:30Sophia Tuxford: Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. Wow, he's full great now. Castinger's great space film. Interstellar has got to be the best film of all time. Is there one with Brad Pitt? is that what that one is no that's Matthew McConaughey Interstellar is the best space film of all time oh it's Matthew McConaughey yeah anyway love a space film me too and Anne Hathaway's in it love and Anne is our favourite Anne is in it hasn't Sandra done a space film Sandra has Gravity yeah Sandra's great do you know Sandra yeah I learnt about her ex-husband who's her ex-husband last night on was it Sandra last night on TikTok he cheated on her for like with hundreds of women for multiple years.

10:12No way. And then got with Kat Von D straight after. Who's Kat Von D?

10:20Can't even explain. Wow. A makeup lady. Kat Von D, the makeup line. Ah, okay. Am I getting this wrong? Might be getting it wrong. Might not have been Sandra.

10:31Sophia Tuxford: That's all right. But he went on a full press tour about it and he was the cheat. It was back in the 80s or 90s or early 2000s it was back in the past anyway lots of great 70s, 80s, 90s, 2000s it was around there I do just want to say something it's a 50 year period I need to say something to Everyman cinemas across the across the nation oh yeah go on get comfier seats get a recliner I'm sick of it that's all because it's kind of uncomfortable on those on those sofas yeah I actually like wouldn't actually choose an Everyman these days rigid quite rigid sofas that are really quite awkward I honestly think showcase deluxe showcase nottingham incredible cinema yeah yes you can go and you can have your food fancy little restaurant beforehand yeah get some mexican absolutely our favorite ben and jerry's ben and jerry's huge cinema huge screens huge chairs you can actually get the seats have you ever got the seats at the back of the showcase like the vip seats no but always been a dream we did it once like not last christmas to christmas before it's like 25 pound ahead yeah but that is how much every man is though.

11:37Sophia Tuxford: You get popcorn, you get drink. Yeah, included. Wow. You get like a bento box and you can have sweet or savoury and you can go in that little bit at the top. Yeah, really nice. And it's roped off, is it? It's roped off, yeah. It's private. That's very nice. You've got private entrance. It's very bougie. Like every man. Showcase non-sounding, I think it's the best. No, I agree. It's always been good. Better than Cineworld. Always been good. Way better than Cineworld. Sorry. Better than the views as well. But I'll do a view. Yeah. They've got pretty nice seats. I'll definitely do a view I'll definitely do a view because we saw Wuthering Heights a view and I I thought those seats were really nice yeah I would definitely do that but every man like why are we on these rigid sofas I know I really do like you because I like that you've got that vegan hot dog yes and your milkshakes are pretty good as well and I like your lily fries and I like your pizza as well and I like that although one time I had a pizza I was eating it in the dark the film ended I'd all towards all of my top the only thing I don't like though is when the film started and they're still bringing food in.

12:34Sophia Tuxford: I'm like, stop now. Like you should have got here earlier. But that's fine because I want to be able to order as well. I know. But yeah, they just need to sort their seats out, I reckon. Oh my God. Guess what happened to me this morning? What? Sorry, we'll get on with the episode in a sec. But I've never, I just was like, wow. I had one of those moments where I was like, I'd love to know what's going on in your life. So I went to a Pilates class this morning, went in there, sat down and a man was on the row in front of me. and then in the Pilates class in the class get out of here yeah there's sometimes they're in there this is for the girls yeah anyway this girl came in and he like jumped up and they like ran towards each other and the girl was like our age maybe even younger than us like just had this like embrace how old is this man he's like young guy okay they look really cute together just like this like embrace and I was like oh my god what's going on here like everyone was in the class was just staring at them and they were like stood like rocking like just like hugging and everyone was just like wow what's going on here like and then it was like so good to see you so good to see you and I was like there is no one I would agree like what's happening like am I have many questions I was like because then they were in front of me the whole class together in the class together yeah and I was like then they like you know she went to get like her towel came back another huge embrace like a long embrace i was like the guys the class is gonna start like i was just staring at them like what's going on here like did you expect to see each other or not mustn't you obviously haven't seen each other in a long time but then like did you not plan to come to this class together like i don't know i was just like wow i'd love to know what's going on i really wanted to ask like what's the story with you guys but obviously i didn't Yeah, because there is no one.

14:19Sophia Tuxford: But we were all like, everyone was like watching them. Like, and everyone was looking at each other like, wow, what's going on here? So it wasn't giving past lovers. I don't think you would greet a past lover like that. It was giving like, we're not lovers, but we want to be. Really? Yeah, it was. I thought about the more day. It's giving to me like he knew she was going to be there that morning. Yeah, yeah. Yeah. But I was like, God, this is your chance to reunite. it's so good to see you like missed you so much I was like could we not have done this outside but obviously if they didn't know each other was going to be there I don't know that was just my experience this morning well try and find out more I've never seen either of them really but I'll go again next week see if they're there that I mean yeah greeting them and then at the end another hug there is no man but it wasn't like a hi it was an embrace a long lasting multiple embraces there is no man on this planet that I would run into that I would embrace like that so it's so good to see you and that's a fact and that's a fact for chintzy abela solo that's a fact so that there's some real there's history there real love i was like wow it's like i'm watching a movie and i don't know what the story is here i just was yeah wow loved them thought it was great no i like i like having a bit of something i thought it was magical in a workout class yeah it was great it was lovely yeah seeing real love in the world that's it's beautiful yeah real sites.

15:46I just wanted all the gossip. Well, you need to find that out for us because you've left us all on this cliff. I know, sorry. I'll try.

15:52Sophia Tuxford: I'll go back next week and see if they're there. Thank you. Should we dive into the imp? Yes. We've done our question of the week. I'm all confused. Sorry, that was a long intro. Question of the week. Wait, I've got something else to say just really, really quickly. I wish I had carrot juice right now. I'd love a carrot juice actually. I've not had mine yet. Right now. Maybe I should start bringing carrot juice. I did see this girl on TikTok talking about us and she said that she loved the video on the bathroom floor oh yeah yeah and we should do it more often and get out of this studio yeah I agree let's get the fuck out of here like no hate to the studio no I agree I actually agree I agree so like should we do it from my room or something yes and next time we go away let's definitely we need to take this pod on the road a bit more.

16:46Yeah, I agree. Because also, it was really, it was streamlined for us to do that. Yeah, streamlined, nice vibe. After sending it over. Hoodies, you know, pure comfort. No makeup. It was love. Oh, the no makeup is so nice. Yeah, it hits. Not in lights. Yeah, it hits. You know, with no makeup on, just like,

17:01Sophia Tuxford: yeah. There's something so nice about that. Yeah, absolutely. Leave that with us. Right, on Qualicastrian of the Week this week, it's Girl Talk. What's an unspoken girl rule that should actually be a lot? do you have any off the top of your head an unspoken girl rule that should actually be a law maybe we don't mean literally law because the first one i've got here is toilet trips together in the club i think that's very always that's also important just for safety but i also do think we need to implement it just anywhere because also for safety restaurants holiday anywhere like never go to the toilet on your own because don't want to scare anyone but that's sometimes where men look to yeah do not bad things yeah and never go alone pray on a woman who is going to the toilet on her own everyone needs to remove the ex on socials after a breakup oh of course absolutely of course absolutely i think that is also important also like they don't because i don't think they deserve the attention of being your ex do you know what i mean like yes i hear that like no no no one you don't exist anymore exactly we didn't know you before we don't know yes no one needs to know that i was ever associated with you because that also makes you look cooler and i'm really embarrassed now but i was with you so we can't even be seen as associates i hear that do you know what i mean i hear that because his lead in getting talking to new people is speaking about who his ex was yeah and that's do you know what i mean because you were so cool, Sarah.

18:40You were the coolest thing

18:41Sophia Tuxford: that was ever going to happen to that man. Exactly. And like, he's leading with that. And now people think you've got some game because they're like, well, Sarah liked him. Yeah, yeah, yeah. So there must be something, something, something. No, help us all. Help us all. We've got here. You should get time off work when you're on your period. Absolutely. Always. Seriously. Like, it really is that serious. And school as well. Like, those some poor girls who would have to take time off school. Just do your classes on Zoom, you know? Never ditch your girls On a girls night for a man 100 % I mean That's a cardinal sin But unfortunately We see that every week Yeah That happens Always tell friends If they have a slag line Different colour Face to neck Is a slag line I've never heard that terminology I've never heard that A slag line Very important Very important Very important Also just a makeup face check Yeah Do you know what I mean?

19:33Sophia Tuxford: Just make In different lights You know how's it looking Yes That kind of vibe when a new person buys a new top we all get a new top love that absolutely there's no point it's all buying the same top is there I like that there's no point laser should be a free service I mean clock it yes that I mean what a treat that would be that would be lovely that would be very true because I'm almost finished my eight sessions it's fantastic isn't it it's not cheap skincare should be tax free okay yeah absolutely if you see someone with their skirt tucked into their tights you have to tell them yep always yep yep but sometimes i've done a lady that a few weeks ago really yeah yeah it's quite important remember when i saw that i saw that lady on holiday one time but it was fully in fully in but i just couldn't it she was too far away happens very easily i know i fear it actually happens really easily like i think i've done it once or twice it's actually easy to do always tell someone if they've got food stuck in their teeth I mean yes please come on that has to be law you have to tell me because look at me now I look at state and you didn't tell me literally I'm a mess I mean this one's obvious never go after a friend's ex of course the fact that people are doing it it actually does blow my mind another unspoken girl rule that should actually be law your best friends can't be friends with someone you dislike yeah I think that's 100 % when you know a boyfriend is cheating the girlfriend should always be told yes yes never embarrass your girls for a guy such a good one very true uh no gatekeeping if a girl asks you where you got something yes partners have to buy you chocolate on your period i like that one that's a good one just your milky bar subscription coming in all reformer pilates clashes should be half price reformer is getting out of hand it's getting out of hand it is getting out of hand and don't post a photo if your friend looks bad in it we must be sending for approvals guys okay we must be sending for approvals I do think we've got that pretty good we've got that on lock we know we know you have to be asking for approvals you know the snakes who are posting things that haven't been sent for approvals I think that's pretty mental yeah that's crazy we know about you yeah like we know about you also like you can't tell me I look nice because I say I don't look nice and I don't approve it it's not up to you it's up to me like If I think Sophia looks nice, most of the time she's not going to like the image.

22:05It means nothing to me. It means nothing.

22:09Sophia Tuxford: Likewise. If I say, wow, you look great. No, I hate it. Delete it. I never want to see that picture again. Okay. You have to agree. It's gone. Because, yeah. It's what it is. Because, absolutely. That's just the law. Absolutely. And also those people who you're just editing yourself and leaving the rest of the group. Like, I'm clocking that. So if we're at least going to post a group picture that hasn't been through the seven rounds of approvals, through the edits, we could at least smooth everyone's face and not just your own. Yes, please. Do you know what I mean? Because like that is sabotage.

22:40At least. At least. Because it's like AI and then the rest. Like your face is like 3D and everyone else is blurry. Oh, right. Okay. First dilemma of this girl talk. A Victorian child would have just been sent into anaphylactic shock at that conversation there. they didn't even know what a photograph was actually maybe they just did a Victorian child they had just learnt what photographs were had they yes yeah the camera was invented in the Victorian time like you know the big thing the big thing yeah yeah yeah with the man under there yeah like the big hold for ages

23:20Sophia Tuxford: yeah and like you can't see what it looks like no then we're not having any reshoots we're gonna go take it to get developed in the dark room with the lights in the water. So they would have just learned that. But editing themselves in an image.

23:37That's not happening, is it? No. But they would edit the paintings. Yes, they would. Yes, that's actually true. The first face tune. That's like early face app, you know? Well, yeah, that's Henry VIII going, knock a few pounds off me. Yeah. Like, make my lips a bit bigger, would you? Yeah, yeah, yeah. Yeah, shrink that a little bit, please. Well, they would probably say, make my lips a bit smaller. Smooth that hair out.

23:56Sophia Tuxford: Ah, of course. Do you know what I mean? Of course. Although we're probably saying, I don't know, what were the beauty standards back then? Make my hair bigger. Yeah. Yeah. Make my waist look smaller. Because they did snatch the waist. Yeah, snatching with the corsets. Yeah. Make my buzzons look enlarged. I mean, no bronzer. That wasn't the vibe, was it? No. It was the rosy cheeks. The rosy cheeks, of course.

24:23Sophia Tuxford: Just before we get into it, quick disclaimer. Just to say, we are not doctors. We are not professionals. We do not actually know what we are talking about. This is a lighthearted space. Okay. Don't take what we say literally because we could be wrong. Yeah. And if there's anything serious, if there's anything you feel like you're seriously struggling with, please contact a GP, a professional, because that is not us. We're just girls, girls and boys just like you, you know? We're just trying to get through life as well. Not professionals. Enjoy the episode.

24:50Sophia Tuxford: Okay, so we've got here, my sister stole 20 grand from me. Oh my God. How? Some of these sisters have got the audacity, I'll tell you that for free. I recently moved back to Australia after living overseas for a few years and decided to start fresh in a new city where I have friends and some family. My sister Sarah and her boyfriend, now fiance, Brian, had just moved there too. And while they were away, they kindly offered for me to stay at their place while I found my feet. I was so grateful and made sure to contribute where I could by paying for petrol, takeaways, always helping around the house.

25:33I really appreciate that as a sister. Yeah, I appreciate that.

25:36Sophia Tuxford: For context, Sarah and I have always been really close. I'm the older sister and I've always been very protective of her during the tough times like our parents' divorce. I've always been the type to drop everything for her. So this situation has been really hard to process. a few weeks after moving i got a full-time job and started looking for my own place and around that time i asked sarah for access to my savings account which i hadn't been able to properly log into while overseas and had trusted her with it previously oh my god she spent so just say that again so while you were away in australia settled yeah you've now got a full-time job and you're like okay i'm getting my salary like i can pay a deposit i've got proof of earnings like i'm gonna get my own lease i'm gonna get my own place and you're saying i really need that savings that i've got so while you left australia you left a bit of your life admin and like banking and savings to your sister you left her in charge of it and you said can i have the logins now i'm back oh my god and the balance is gonna be like zero I was in it.

26:45Sophia Tuxford: No, this is mental. Oh my God. When I finally got into the account. Oh my God. I actually feel sick. This is making me feel like. I was completely shocked. Over the past couple of years, she had been transferring money from my savings into her own account, totaling over$20 ,000 and never told me. But also like, how did she think this was going to end? Do you know what I mean? Like, how did she get herself into this situation? I think this was a very slow and steady progression. Yeah. It's been years. I think it maybe started with like 200 pounds here. maybe she then sent a hundred pound back then maybe like 500 then maybe a grand and she's like over the years you know it's dropping down a little bit and she's probably thinking i'll put it back i'll put it back i'll pay it back i'll pay it back but she has just pushed this problem further and further down the road to where she's now at the point where you're back you want she And she's not topped up the account to where she got it.

28:04I'm surprised she hasn't given more excuses before she gave you access back. Me too. Do you want to be like, I've lost the login. Let me just, you know, I'm really surprised.

28:12Sophia Tuxford: She thought it's been years. She's not going to remember how much exactly she had in there. I'm going to try and play this off. It says all the fucking transaction history. I know. Maybe she deleted it or something. Oh my God. This makes me sick. Okay. I approached her calmly and privately. Okay. she apologized but didn't really explain or take accountability she said so is she kind of hoping that you're just like gonna sweep it under the rug i think so because she's like i'll pay you back like sorry i was in a tough spot yeah our rent came out here with this broke so i had to do this like that was for dad like she's just got all these reasons yeah she said she paid me back but there was no plan since then i've had to keep following up and i've only received a small amount back with no consistency or communication what made it worse was that her whole attitude towards me changed she became distant and avoided me making the living situation so uncomfortable that i ended up moving out as soon as i could well yeah because she knows every time you see her you're gonna say when's my next installment so she's literally avoiding you asking for it and also she knows like if she's like oh i'm going out tonight yeah you're like oh you've got money to go out yeah like give me that 50 quid like you've just stole 20 grand from me she later messaged me implying i hadn't handled things well and brought up that i had been living with her rent free as if that somehow justifies what she did the payment oh my god she's trying to change the narrative isn't she the thing is like she's took advantage of her kind older sister i've been there one too many times she's taking advantage for you know and just thinking like it's my sister we're family whatever I'll pay her back eventually she's gonna have to deal with it like you're like you've been living with like I can give it a bit her a bit back because you've been living with me for months I've been you know whatever it's probably why she offered to have you move in probably because she knew it would be she knew that this was gonna come yeah and she knew she'd have an excuse to go to dad well dad she's been living with me for four months you know yeah she's not paid me nothing like that really upset me because to me there's a huge difference between generosity and taking money without someone's knowledge.

30:23Sophia Tuxford: Okay, now we've got an update. She's saying it's now been a month and a half since I found out and first approached her about this. She still hasn't properly reached out to me about any of this. After the Easter break, I decided to reach out to Sarah and Brian as it felt like the only way to get her attention. And I asked if they were free for a casual dinner to catch up. She replied saying she was busy with work but could go the following week. I sent through days I was available, but got no response. Brian then messaged me. Do you think Brian's aware of what's happened? Maybe not. Because she's like, well, we can't sit down at dinner.

31:00Because it's going to come up. Because she's going to bring up and then Brian's going to find out. Yeah, maybe. I think Brian doesn't know. That's my hunch.

31:06Sophia Tuxford: Brian then messaged me asking to pick up something I had borrowed. And when he came over, I thought this might be my only chance to understand what's going on. So I gently brought things up yeah yeah yeah he said sarah had told him about the situation but originally told him it was only fifteen hundred dollars and then later said it was fifteen grand he also said he could see both sides which he's been he's got he's been trained as a jesus but also like she has said all sorts to him like which honestly really upset me because i don't feel like there are two perspectives here yeah she took 20 grand from me without my knowledge like there's no two ways about it i stay calm and explained everything clearly including that i've been trying to get a repayment plan and have had no communication from her yeah i also said that if she had just been honest and proactive from the start we would never be in this position yeah but i left that conversation feeling like neither of them fully understand the seriousness of what's happened and that they might think if we just meet up everything will magically be fine which it won't It has really hurt me.

32:14Sophia Tuxford: And of course the trust is completely broken. So girls, my dilemma is, do you think I've handled this situation well so far and what should I do moving forward? I feel like I need to take back control and set clear options for repayment because it's not fair that I'm being left in this position. But I also don't know if or how this relationship can be repaired after everything that's happened. I'd really appreciate your advice. It's honestly really disappointing. Where's mum and dad? I know, I was just about to say like, this is a mum and dad fucking HR issue. Let's sort this out guys. Let's get mum and dad, because right, let's picture this was me.

32:48Imagine Lydia, yeah, the cheeky little fucking bitch, yeah, has just stolen 20 grand off me over years, knowing this is going on, yeah, when I put my savings account in her trust. No, that's mental. That's mental, okay. Hoping you wouldn't notice. Yeah. Never said anything about it. Taking advantage of my kindness with my money. Like, no. Okay, so I'm going straight to mum and dad you're going straight to the parental photos I'm going to everyone she stole I'm telling everyone I'm telling the world she stole 20 grand from me I'm coming on this podcast I'm naming a shame I'm coming on this podcast Lindy Bayless-Sullis stole 20 grand from me I'm doing a black Instagram story with white tags yeah and she's not giving it me back

33:26Sophia Tuxford: yeah I will go straight to mum and dad I'm telling all of the mates as well yeah I'll say yeah well yeah she stole that 20 grand from me I'm letting everyone know I'm surprised she can afford Ibiza oh actually yeah no that makes sense she stole 20 grand from me yeah like I'm letting the world know But yeah, I would go straight to mum and dad. Me too. Because to me, it's given mum and dad don't know. Me too. To me, it's given, which we tried to settle this together. But we can't. And we can't get anywhere. She kind of knows that you've not told anyone. I think let's get some parental action on the phone immediately.

33:53And I would also go around. I'd say, right, we're setting up a direct debit. Yes. You're going to have to. Log into your bank right now. You're going to have to take some cuts for the next year. Because you're not. No, you're not going on holiday this year. You're paying me back my money that you stole. Yeah. Like you think you're going to Mykonos with Brian? No, you ain't. You're cancelling that. That two grand is going straight to me. Yeah, that's mine, honey. Honey? That's mine, you hussy. You hussy. So I would go straight round to her and Brian's.

34:22Sophia Tuxford: I'd shout at Brian's and say, Brian, sit down. I'm disappointed in Brian. Like he could have been the middleman in this situation and he could have said, like he could have - He's just softening the blow for his girlfriend. He's just trying to - But also Brian, like you've just got engaged, right? he should have said okay Sarah I'll give you the 20 grand and you can get back to your sister and you can be in debt we can figure this out and your sister's relationship can be repaired yeah but Brian's thinking I ain't got that cash number one I ain't got that cash I just bought an engagement ring I ain't got nothing left yeah I'm not giving that to you Sarah number three he probably got some perks from that cash yeah he got a few perks of the job I'm sure I think he got a few holidays he got a few nice meals out he got some nice bits I think so I think he got a few nice meals whether he knew it or not he knows he got some perks I wonder if that was a good Christmas last Christmas he's thinking yeah yeah he's thinking that Xbox was a real nice yeah so yeah he's thinking he doesn't want to piss off his new wife by taking your side when she's obviously giving it all this and that at home behind your back yeah but yeah I dread to think what she's saying about you me too for him I know it's it's crazy for him to say I can see both sides what fucking side is she spinning because like the only sign i'm seeing is i've been robbed of 20 grand she must be saying all sorts like she gave me permission to have access she said i could take some out if i wanted like i think she's probably saying all this or she said if i'm ever in need i can use it like she's webbed this lie in she has i know how sisters work like she's not stupid like i know she's got in his head yeah she's painting but yeah i'd be straight around there i'd be getting mum and dad route I'd be saying we're getting this direct debit set up and you're not going on holiday this year completely agree and if I ever see you out spending money everyone's going to be telling you to get back home do you know what I mean to pay me back yeah because I've told every bartender in town exactly and until I get my money back I'll put you on blast you're not resting well actually you're resting you just sat at home locking the doors yeah and I think be more proactive you're going to cancel your Netflix that£11 going straight in my account exactly yeah Like Brian's going to have to support you for the next two years while you're repaying me, unfortunately.

36:34Unfortunately. Unfortunately for Brian. You think you're getting a coffee out? Yeah. He's took on more of a financial burden than he realized. You ain't buying it. Yeah. You've got bills to pay. Yeah. And debts. You've got, you're in debt. You're in debt. And it's really unfortunate that she chose money over her sister relationship. And also, I think it's just a shame.

36:52Sophia Tuxford: Moving forward, like, it's a huge disappointment that there's no remorse. like it's such a shame that she wasn't like sarah i've been so worried about this like i got myself into such a mess like i'm so sorry like please let me pay you back of course i'm gonna pay you back like let's set up this right now she's not being proactive at all in wanting to solve and rectify the problem and that's what's the most hurtful like do you not want to fix this man do you not recognize any wrongdoing like yeah it's the lack of like empathy for the situation yeah you've lost. Yeah. And also, as an older sister, you are understanding.

37:29You are understanding and if she just came and said that and had a plan, Yeah. You'd have a bit more sympathy. You'd be understanding and you wouldn't let it ruminate and you would kind of like repair the relationship but the fact that she's not going about it like that is really disappointing. It is big shame. Because I know you've had her back her whole life. Do you know what I mean? As her older sister. Get the money back, Sarah. Yeah. Get that payment plan sorted. Don't let it rest. Be on her. be on her let her know you're a fucking shit sister that's what I've been saying I go and you call yourself my sister you ain't no sister of mine

38:00Sophia Tuxford: it's like okay well my first like she's just gonna have to pay loads of your bills yeah well my rent's going to your account then yeah if she wanna do it like that you can pay my rent for two years fine yeah fine like it's coming out yeah okay if you wanna do it like that yeah whatever you choose so then that money that I would spend on rent can go straight back into my savings so if you've not got a big sum that you can transfer okay well you can pay my bills you can pay my rent you can pay my petrol Has she not got a savings account? Just give me the money. Maybe she spent it all. Yeah. That's why she dipped into yours.

38:29Well, yeah. That's all what it's giving. But yeah, don't let her just try and sweep this under the rug like she's trying to. She's trying to just avoid you. Hope you forget about it. She's trying to fall out with you so she doesn't have to get you back. Yeah. But don't, no. She stole from you. Yeah. She's a thief, unfortunately. You can go to the police if you want. But then that's, you know, even more, you know. You could threaten it. You always threaten it. Absolutely. I threaten it. Call it 999 right now on you. You hussy. You damn hussy. You damn hussy.

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40:59Oh, God. This is another situation where someone's been took advantage of. Oh, dear. But their kindness. So Sarah says here, hosted my friend for six days. Now she's ghosting me. so in my mind I've fed you I've bathed you I've clothed you I've clothed you I've heated you up absolutely you've used my utensils my things and bobs yeah and now you've ghosted me and now you've fled the scene hi girls first off adore the poddy I've listened for a couple of years now when I lived in London and also since living back home in Australia why is everyone in Australia everyone is in Australia apart from us apart from us actually not fair we're the only ones left we're the only ones left who haven't moved to Australia yet.

41:44We're going to have to go. We're going to pack our bags. I'm going to have to go this year, I think. Yeah, please. Or at least in January. I'm going to have to go. I really am. It's upsetting me. I know.

41:56Sophia Tuxford: Because you know when I was watching Bailey's stories after Coachella? And his back of that beautiful... Yeah. And I was like, oh, damn. I was like, you live there. You dare person? I feel so good to him. I was like, I bet it does. Yeah. You should see my damn view. I mean, it's actually quite a nice view, but it's not the seaside. It's not the beach, that's for sure. Sydney whatever anyway we'll be back we'll be back only being a part of the Patreon for the last few months because the main apps were not enough to sustain me for my week thank you Sarah thank you Sarah I also think about you every time I get Yochi oh that makes me happy at least someone's getting Yochi do you know what I mean if it's not us we had a good run in America with the Ogre Land yeah but it wasn't as good like it didn't it didn't hit the same at all no it didn't did it no it was like a band-aid over a stab wound yeah fucking yeah you're right the the toppings weren't as no like no Nutella I tell you what did hit speak of it really hard speak of it go Greek oh yeah I loved that like I would eat that on the daily as well you know they've just opened in New York because I randomly was seeing all these go Greek like that actually hit so hard no toppings needed just the yogurt i do think you're a specific type of person not everyone likes that tart flavor like that was just but the Greek yogurt had so much honey in it yeah it had depth not on it but in the flavor that i was like oh my god this is the best thing i've ever eaten it was thick it was so thick and so sweet it was like heavy but light you know what i mean it was it was it felt like a zero calorie snack you know it was delicious but it was heavy and it was so yummy but yeah again no Nutella what like it I don't care if you're a healthy frozen yogurt spot you just all need Nutella yeah it is relevant yeah because I could do a plain yogurt flavor if there was Nutella because I'll yeah do you know what I mean it always needs Nutella on top always needs a sweet treat always but yeah go Greek hit for me I got the chocolate it did hit go Greek hit so hard I've never written in before but I really need some advice because this has been playing on my mind so much so for context i moved back to australia last year after living in london one of my friends from london let's call her susan came to stay with me for five nights as part of her australian trip okay so i'm back in australia my friend from london has come to come to australia yeah come stay with me for a week yeah easy we also have mutual friend Claire Okay new character Unlocked Claire let's get it Who still lives in London So Claire's our mutual Claire's still in London Yeah And we're both Actually closer with her Than we are with each other But Claire's kind of like Our glue Claire's the glue She's the common ground Yeah Got ya Before Susan came I was already going through Quite a lot mentally And had started seeking Treatment for my mental health On top of that During her stay A close family friend Of mine passed away So I was honestly In quite a fragile and overwhelmed state the whole time okay yeah bad time staying with you yeah so it was all kind of happened at once yeah but you were a good friend by still saying come and stay yeah because i would have canceled that exactly so like okay let's see where this goes for a bit of context as well i'm an only child so i do find it quite overwhelming having someone in my space for an extended period of time.

45:28I definitely need little pockets of alone time to reset, which I didn't really get during the trip. And I think that contributed to me feeling quite overstimulated. Yeah, I understand. I also work casually, so I took time off unpaid to spend time with her and she stayed at my family home in my room. Okay. Yeah. In my mind, she had her own room. me too in your room is a lot like that like actually get out that's a lot like get out please get out as someone who's never had a sibling oh and there's someone in your bed for five nights who you're not even that close with you've already had a really rough like i'm going

46:10Sophia Tuxford: through it right and also like you're touching my shit you're moving my shit your shit's all over my shit your fucking legs are on my bed you are pissing me off so well i'm just over your phone's too loud everything you're doing is winding me up yeah like your phone's too loud you're sleeping too loud you're too hot you're this you're that and on top of that i've got to get up and go out for breakfast with you in the morning do you know what i mean it's not even like i'm sitting by i'm hosting you as well yeah i can't escape like go away leave me alone yeah so a lot is going on a Lots going on.

46:42Yeah, she's in your bedroom. That has set me over the edge, actually. That is going to give me nightmares. I can't even do Lydia at mine for two nights in my bed. I'm like, get the fuck out of it. And she's like, I need to get the fuck out of it. I'm like, yeah, go. Go. So five nights or something you don't even really know. No, that's mental. That is mental.

46:59Sophia Tuxford: We share a bed quite harmoniously. We do. Sophia's a good sleeper, actually. We never move. I feel like we fall asleep. I wake up in the same position. Likewise. Lydia's a real nightmare of a fucking because she needs about six pillows she needs so many pillows and she's up she's down she's hot she's cold she needs to probably get surgery on that back like she's she's got some back issues hasn't she yeah she's got problems so she has to have like six pillows so imagine that in my bed it's not even a big bed no that's mental she's got she brings this from the sofa puts it in the bed like Sophia there's also a dog in the bed like oh my god I also you know come on it's not like she brings this whole thing from the sofa no that's not okay Puts it in the bed, like all these extra stuff in the bed.

47:42And then she's also moaning at me. You're like, this is my bed. Why doesn't she just sleep on the sofa? And then on top of that, well, yeah, you tell me. Then on top, because she wants to be with Blueberry, that's why. Then on top of that, she's playing like the office bed, like so loud. All night long she plays that. All night long. It's still on in the morning. Yeah. Like she's got a lot of issues she needs to like address. So like, I can only, yes. But we are harmonious. We're very harmonious. I'll say I'm putting Harry's sleep story on. She's like, oh, what a treat. And then we're out. See you in the morning.

48:14Until the morning. How did you sleep? Great. You? Great. Perfect. Yes. But I understand sharing a bed with someone that you do not want to share a bed with. No, no, no. Oh my God. Yeah. So she's also saying like, I took time off work. Yeah. I paid. You sacrificed a lot. Sacrifice. Yeah. So also you would expect, I would expect a gift after that. Are you joking? I'd expect like a nice Selfridges gift card or something.

48:34Sophia Tuxford: Yeah. The equivalent in Australian Mecca. There she goes. Yochi gift card even. I'd take that. Take that in a heartbeat. I would take a Yochi gift card. Yes. What a good gift. So she's just saying I wanted her to have the best time and I took a lot of that stress on. There were also little things that started to get to me. Here we go. Yeah. They just start happening, don't they? Like her complaining about not getting paid that month because she was traveling Australia. Girl, you're on holiday. Yeah, relax. And also, you're here for free. You're living here. Bill's paid. Like, I just paid for your breakfast.

49:11And our Sarah in here was saying, yeah, while I was literally also not getting paid because I'd taken time off to host her. It just felt a bit tone deaf. Okay, so she's really starting to grate on you. But I started to feel really overwhelmed. Susan is quite a reserved person. And I felt like I was constantly trying to create a fun, upbeat energy and wasn't really getting much back. It left me feeling drained and honestly a bit underappreciated. I think what really got to me was a buildup of small things on top of already feeling overwhelmed. I was doing hours of driving most days to show her around.

49:45Yeah. But she wasn't really engaging much. Like she was on her phone trying to nap or not really contributing to the vibe, which made it quite draining.

49:56Sophia Tuxford: I'm doing this for you. I don't want to be here. Yeah. I don't need to do a tour of the Sydney Opera House. I live here, baby. I know. I'm doing this for you. I've seen this fucking building. I'd rather sit at home on my sofa. Yeah, this building, I've seen it, babes. Yeah, I've seen it loads. She also wouldn't really give clear input into what she wanted to do. So I felt a lot of pressure to plan everything. Yeah. And make sure she was having a good time without much feedback. This is just... This is too much for me. I'd be logging off. This is a lot. You've done well to get through this because I would be boiling over the edge.

50:27Yeah. I mean, she said, look, I've traveled with her before and struggled a bit with this dynamic. so it wasn't completely new okay so you kind of went into it kind of knowing her personality yeah yeah yeah because also if she's not really like an overly appreciative person you're not like like maybe you use not to getting much feedback you know when really actually i just love you to say thank you so much but you know what i mean you're not saying just a bit of enthusiasm like a smile yes wow that was so fun yeah thank you and i think personality wise and even morally we We are quite different people.

51:02Morally. Yeah. Which probably became more obvious on this trip. I like that. Personality and morally. That's funny. Yeah. And she's in your bed. I'll be honest. I wasn't perfect. I was overwhelmed and probably came across as grumpy at times. I made a few small comments. Nothing I thought was major. Things like asking if she actually wanted to be here at all because she didn't seem excited. Or saying that my car smelled after she smoked a cigarette and got in. Okay.

51:29Sophia Tuxford: Yeah. I mean, that's fair. that would wind me up you've stunk up my car with cigarette no you're not doing that as if you were getting high at Coachella because all the second hand weed smoke everyone's fucking smoking weed everywhere I was like we must be high we must be high because like I've just been inhaling weed for half an hour all day yeah like that is a you get high from that I know second hand smoke hot box like we were hot box at Coachella and we were definitely high that's why the vlogs were so good because we had all this weed in our faces all day right okay so you are kind of saying like look girl yeah you are snapping a little bit yeah i would be too there were also a lot more little moments such things on the trip that she did that annoyed slash frustrated me but it would take too long to list them all out ha ha ha so this girl was getting on your nerves we're clashing we're clashing i did apologize during the trip and again on the last day explaining look i've got a lot going on hoping it hadn't affected her experience she said everything was fine and then she left the relief must have been when she walked out that door oh my god and you got into your bed silence and you shut that door I bet you locked that door so fucking quick and you were just like oh my god her fucking suitcase has gone from the floor all her shit has gone wow just the sight of that suitcase not being on the floor do you know what I mean open it's just like euphoric yeah and also like I don't have to worry about you I've got my own bed I can do what I want I can listen to what I want I can play what I want I ain't gonna get up and take you to no fucking Sydney Opera House no I'm not gonna look at you to you and do like a tourist trip again.

52:55Take you to go see the fucking kangaroos. No. But I'm going to get a Yochi and relax.

52:59Sophia Tuxford: You know what I mean? I bet she took her to Yochi. She's just like, it's overrated, isn't it? It's not even that good. And you're just like, oh, shut up. Oh my God, don't ruin my special place. Like, this is not okay. Yochi is the eighth wonder of the fucking world. Yeah, literally. It means a lot to Australia. Like, you can't just Yochi. It's a national treasure. I think it is. They need to expand globally like I'm being dead to her. Yeah, me too. Right, so this lady just laughed at me. It's still going on. Get out of here, girl. She said, look, everything was fine. She got out of there. One small thing also stuck with me and kind of summed up how I was feeling was that I did feel a bit undervalued as a host.

53:38So yeah, this lady was not given as much. She did say thank you, but there wasn't really any gesture beyond that. She even just owed me a small amount from the trip, which I didn't mind at all, but it was more that she didn't offer to cover something like lunch on the last day or do something small like a card or a yochi gift voucher or flowers for me or my family for hosting that yeah yeah hate that she should have

54:01Sophia Tuxford: at least a card i know we're going out for lunch a couple times we're all off work we're going out maybe for breakfast maybe a special dinner maybe we're grabbing lunch like we're probably getting a coffee and going for a walk like if you just cut your card out one or two times i would feel so different about this. Yes. Because I would know that you're like actually trying to make an effort and you're not just taking advantage. that last lunch. Yeah. That last lunch. That was the perfect time. To just say, guys, I've got this. Thank you so much for an amazing week. I really appreciate the hospitality.

54:32It's been amazing. It hasn't gone unnoticed. Thank you for hosting me. I'm getting lunch. You would have all relaxed and gone, what a lovely lady. Yeah, that was a great week. Yeah, what a great week. What a great girl. She's welcome back anytime. Yeah, and you would have said that you're welcome back any time yeah yeah okay so she didn't make a gesture like that it just felt a bit off but especially when her and i have stayed with people before we've always both made an effort to do something like that okay that's interesting she said me suggesting the idea as i was raised that way it's not about the money at all more just a thought behind it yeah then on my birthday a couple of weeks later she didn't message me at all she viewed my instagram stories so i know she knew it was my birthday which felt a bit off and very unlike her okay god right since then i've sent claire a voice memo about it all oh yeah what's claire saying there's our mutual of course because susan had stayed on the case yeah because susan has stayed with claire's family for a couple of days on the same trip i asked how they found hosting her and claire replied in a way that really threw me off basically saying something like and quote it seems like you guys have a different relationship now, which is a shame, but I want to stay out of it.

55:42She's been bitching about you. So she's already gone to Claire saying stuff.

55:47Sophia Tuxford: How dare you? Are you actually taking the piss? Are you going to make me out to be the villain right now? I think so. I would be seeding. I think so. I would say, Claire, listen here, let me set you straight, you little hussy. Because that is mental. Well, she said here, so that made me instantly feel like Susan maybe said things to her about me because it just felt like such a loaded response. That was. What fucking weird thing for Claire to say. That was loaded from you, Claire. Yeah. Also, you didn't even hear me out. Claire, come to me. Exactly. And ask me what my... Because I'm the one who...

56:23She's been in my bed for five nights. Yeah. And smoking in my car. Smoking in my car. That is so disrespectful. Is that not illegal anyway? To smoke in a car. I don't think it's illegal. In England, I think it's illegal.

56:36Sophia Tuxford: Nah. Ah. You can smoke in your car. Maybe with kids in the car. Isn't there a law? There might be. It's public places, no? I think there's a law not to smoke with the kids in the car. Oh, okay. Because it makes the thing is worse. I'm right. Because it makes the chemicals worse. Wow. Oh, sorry, Blueberry. Shouldn't have clapped. It's like a beacon. So, we got this load of response from Claire. That was pre-planned, that response as well. Yeah, it was a snipe. She knew that message was coming. It was a snipe. Yeah. So, I reached out to Susan to check in. And she eventually replied saying she'd been processing the trip.

57:11Processing what?

57:12Sophia Tuxford: Your free fucking stay and you tore of the place. And that some things I said really hurt her. I responded straight away. Apologized sincerely. Took accountability and asked what specifically I said so I could understand and reflect. As I didn't know what she was referencing that made her so upset. Yeah. I felt like I'd honestly just taken the high road you know not even bringing up my own feelings just trying to own my part and make things right yeah you're a fixer you're like oh I don't want to be in this situation I don't want this conflict let me just yeah you took the high road there yeah and she's basically just ghosted me it's been weeks with no reply yeah because she's got nothing to say despite being active on social media I also swiped up on one of her Instagram stories with a nice slash funny conversational response and I'm left undelivered at this point i just feel really confused and a bit hurt i understand i wasn't my best self and i've owned that she knew that but i also feel like i was dealing with a lot went out of my way to host her didn't feel much appreciation in return even my parents made comments that she didn't come across very friendly or grateful as a guest what's bothering the most is it now feels like her only only her feelings matter when i was also overwhelmed grieving and struggling mentally at the time.

58:30It feels like my experience has just been completely invalidated. She's also someone who can hold a bit of a grudge and I just can't help but feel like this has become way bigger than it needed to be, especially when all I've done since is try to apologize and fix things. It's left me feeling like I'm fully in the wrong when realistically I was just a bit overwhelmed and not at my best for valid reasons. But I feel like you still put your best foot forward. Like you were showing her around. You were still getting up every day to take her out, show her the best time like i feel like you did like and also she's got to understand you were grieving and you were struggling mentally at the time yeah like she needs to have been a bit more understanding in that situation she needs to cut you some serious laugh yeah i don't even necessarily want a super close friendship with her moving forward but we do have mutual friends and i'd rather things should be civil and not awkward i also feel a bit weird about my relationship with claire now her response made me feel like she'd potentially heard susan's side and was subtly taking that side even though she said she didn't want to be involved i don't know if i'm overthinking that or if that's a normal kind of response yeah her kind of saying like i've heard things that have gone on from your part i don't want to get involved in what in your business that you that you've done that to me is a very team susan response me too the reason it matters is claire is actually planning to move back to australia next year different city but still so i do want to maintain a good relationship with her whereas susan will stay in london so i don't really see her my question is am I in the wrong hair should I just leave it and move on or try one more thing to try and fix this and how should I handle things with Claire moving forward picture of me and Susan attached this looks like when we were in Australia oh maybe we were in London but we look happy oh girls we look so happy wow right how are we gonna go yeah I think our main point of call here let's try we want Sue we want Claire sorry we want to build keep that relationship with Claire I don't really care about

1:00:30Sophia Tuxford: you anymore like I was going through a really hard time I you knew that made such an effort to offer my home to you I made such an effort with you you were so miserable the whole time like you never showed any appreciation even my family thought you were being rude so that tells me that it's not just me who's getting pissed off like everyone else in this house can see that you're being rude yeah and i think she's ran to claire told her a whole different perspective on this story made you out to be the villain and you know kind of got in there first i guess not recognizing your efforts of showing you all around fucking sydney also just being so like insensitive to everything that you've gone through recently and just like I don't know it's just like it's just showing a huge lack of awareness I think from Susan yeah and just understanding so I would just be like right you're an idiot also like when you'd apologise multiple times after the fact yeah you know like you were straight to apologise and say look you know what I was going through I take accountability I'm sorry but in your eyes you were trying to be this upbeat happy you weren't getting anything out of Susan yeah I think if it were me I would just yeah want to sort things out with Claire me too because Claire's moving back I would maybe just like message Claire or send her a voice note and just be like look I've had a lot on my mind recently I feel like there's something in the air between us there's definitely no baby Claire's in 2026 I know are we still naming babies Claire I think so not Claire it's a bit of a dying name isn't it I think so Claire to me is like it's a lovely name it's a it's really actually beautiful was quite floral.

1:02:17Yeah. Claire. Claire. I feel like Fiona's got a friend called Claire.

1:02:21Sophia Tuxford: No. Really? Yeah, but she looks like she should have a friend called Claire. Yeah, yeah. Fiona could be a Claire. Yeah. She gives Claire. It kind of goes in with Jane. With a blonde, I think. All Claire's are blonde in my mind. Do we have a brunette Claire? No, no, no. I don't think so. No, no, no. Claire's are like graying blondes to me. I'm just seeing blondes. Really? Yeah. Yeah. I'm seeing like - Yeah, there's no baby Claire. A 42-year-old, short hair, blonde. 42. Pretty glam. Like, she's Claire. We're close to 40. Like, we're 10 years off from 42. That's young. Yeah. Claire. I'm seeing 65 for a Claire.

1:02:58Oh, are you? She's an old lady. No, I'm seeing... No, I'm not. My mum's 65. My mum's 65. Oh, sorry. I'm sure Angie's 62. I'm seeing, like... Angie's... We won't speak about the ages. Yeah, actually, I think she was 60 last year. Oh, is she 61? I don't know how old she is.

1:03:16Sophia Tuxford: Yeah, I'm seeing Claire as like a bit of a glamour, a bit of a glamour puss. You are. Yeah. Yeah. But obviously in this story, Claire's about 25. Like, wait, you know who was Claire? Who? Do we know a Claire? Mrs. Vanderwold. Yes, Claire. I thought she was a Claire. She is a Claire. Mrs. Gilman was Claire. Claire Gilman. Yeah, that's what I'm picturing. That's exactly what I'm picturing. Bleach blonde. Like, you know, what's that word? Peroxide blonde. like glamour puss is what i'm picturing yeah yeah yeah a little bit of an hourglass yeah defo yeah but yeah like i said so i would reach out to claire baby's born with the name claire and 26 i would reach out to claire and i would just say your side straight i'd love it if we could like have a chat i'd love to talk to you about some stuff like and just i would just i think you want to catch up with claire and it's not even like you're getting on the phone to slag off Susan you're just getting on the phone just to touch base with Claire touch base get on a good vibe again maybe explain a little bit of your side of the story if you feel like you want to yeah and hopefully it will come up and I do think you need to just say how you felt and what happened yeah from your perspective and you can also say like I was a little bit shocked when I reached out to you before like I kind of felt like Susan had ran to you and bad-mouthed me like is that the case yeah question mark question mark yeah i would just talk to her about it because yeah you want to get on good terms with claire and she was always the glue anyway like susan exactly she stayed with you it didn't go well she's moving back to london anyway you're in australia like she was just visiting like she's not replied to you she's ghosting you i'd sack her a lot in hindsight let's not invite girls over who we've already kind of traveled with and there was already a weird vibe and let's not be opening up our homes willy-nilly you know because just always kind of whenever and i was like wish there was somewhere i could stay yeah i wish yeah yeah well hopefully you have fun with that hopefully hopefully there's somewhere like next time that's how we should respond to when someone's looking for accommodation i think so for free yeah you know who we don't really get along with yeah but we live and we learn we live and we learn hopefully you tried your best hopefully you and claire can have a beautiful blossoming relationship and travel all along Australia together and go and share a yochi and have a share I should get one each but you know what I mean yeah I could not share a yochi with you are you joking?

1:05:45I'd be pissed off alright give me my fucking yochi your saliva would be all over that bowl yeah so would yours

1:06:02Sophia Tuxford: okay let's finish with our star of the week we've got sarah here who wants to nominate her brian sam the star of the week shout out sam that's a nice name together for a year and are completely in love we moved in together after just nine months oh you guys crazy i know and are honestly so happy we have both been navigating new jobs and new surroundings and continued show up for each other every day through it all he's the kindest funniest and most supportive partner and above all my bestest friend love that he has truly shown me what it's like to be loved properly when they say when you know you know it is true it's a massive feeling but also just an overwhelming feeling of calmness contentness and just knowing you're exactly where you belong here's to my brian pix attached gorgeous couple oh you guys shout out shout out sam thank you for being our star of the week this week we appreciate you thank you for being lovely to us ara wow what a girl talk that was hey we've had theft we've had annoying people staying with us and then we had something else it's lost i literally forgot about the theft i know that was way back that was like an hour and a half go well thank you so much for listening to this episode guys if you would like an extra episode you can get them every single monday over on our patreon we have two episodes a week and if you would like to email in any dilemmas or star of the week entries you can do that at hello at the good absolutely follow us on instagram tiktok on on youtube thank you we'll see you next week or on monday love you have a good week

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