Girl Talk: She stole my vibrator?!

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2:03Good afternoon. Good afternoon, Baltimore. I've got a lamb stick in my hand that I'm just snacking on, guys. Blueberry's got a lamb chop for a snack today. Unfortunately, my dog. She's not a vegetarian like her mama. She can't be pesky like me. She can't be pesky. So she's eating her lamb twist. You're really giving like mother-daughter energy today. Yeah, like blueberries matching the shoes. oh my little baby girl we're also both in our autumn it yeah it started now for me i bought a little like fleece i was wearing a fleece at the weekend even though it was too hot i'm on the market for some new uggs you know that time is is nigh and i'm ready to rumble time is nigh i'm not mad about it you know i you know i like keeping the toes tucked away yeah I like it I do enjoy a flip-flop I do I do like a flip-flop I was thinking about going flip-flop today but I just thought no I'm gonna keep it sporty chic and just go with a trainer instead but yeah I'm in the fleece yeah come the middle of August and it's time it's time the seasons are turning although as we always say September can be one of the nicest months I agree I think weather-wise stunning um a bit of a light evening a light morning yes we're excited for a bit of coziness it's not too cold you know all the things all the things blueberries first september oh my gosh blueberries first spooky season oh my god what are we gonna dress her up as for halloween a little pumpkin surely yeah wait we need to do a costume that incorporates great like she could be a little scooby or something though we can do better than that but like we need to think of something i've not put her in like anything yet i don't oh it's not really giving spooky i'm not really sure how i would facilitate this but like you could be um we do need to brainstorm halloween guys so send them we could do like rapunzel gothel and she can be pascal oh the little lizard shut up that would be so cute you excited for halloween oh maybe i'll take a trick-or-treating yeah it's a dog version there must be there must be dog friendly trick-or-treats there must be you know when i take her out she gets so much attention i bet she does it's like a crowd pleaser it's a beacon everyone wants to take a picture of her everyone's asking questions it's making me a friendlier person because i'm chatting to like she's a celeb i'm trying to so many strangers i'm like yeah oh my yes just nine weeks yeah yes of course like i'm chatting to everyone every everywhere every place i go in chat chat chat love that i'm just social i had a lovely conversation with my taxi driver this morning yeah we really got to know it but then i got out and forgot to pay so our relationships took a turn well i used the new app that you recommended jump jump it's jumping in here yeah you have to pay and he was like oh the roads close i was like don't worry i'm just gonna to save you driving around I'm just going to take a hop out I'm just going to exit here we talked about summer holidays we talked about his kids uh he's going to Portugal with his kids and his kids partners and I said oh so he's got grown-up kids and I said oh well do you like your kids partners and there was a long pause and I and he said I've never been asked that before in a cab and he was like and I was like well there's a long pause so I'm taking that as a no and he was like no no I do I do yeah sure but I will sense some tension so we did really get to know each other and then I just hopped out I was like don't worry I'll get out here like the road to close completely forgot to pay because I thought I was used to using another app which has your payment details so then he called me he's like hi it's Martin I was like yeah Martin I've just got to know you for the past 15 minutes and I said oh shit I forgot to pay I said come back around i'll wait here and then he called me again saying he was struggling to get a friendly thief he's gonna send me a text with his payment details but i'm still waiting for the text oh so you didn't even find him i'll sit outside for another 20 minutes i'll say martin i'm on the pavement where are you but he was struggling and he was like would you mind if i sent you a payment link i said absolutely not you send me a payment link and i'll pay it martin yeah yeah i think we've had a thief in here today yeah shit it's me i know so yeah you gotta be careful i tried to get out one time.

6:20I was like, oh shit, yeah, sorry, yeah. I know, I know. Yeah. How did we get there? He should lock the doors. I know, but he let me out and on the way out, I stood to him and I was, this is how much conversation we were having. I was outside the cab and we were still finishing our conversation and then I was like, bye then, have a nice day. He was like, see ya. It wasn't like I was ignoring him. He just forgot as well. We were swept away with our discussion. Were you a thief? I'm a thief, yeah. I've not sold anything in a long time. we do know a thief i don't steal sorry i don't steal steal hearts yeah i break hearts but we are we we do know a thief we do and that's all we'll say that's all we'll say we literally know a prolific a prolific thing yeah it's like oh thank you so much for that don't worry i didn't buy it who roams the streets we can't we won't speak on it and it's blueberry our lips are sealed okay guys happy wednesday welcome back everybody it is time for our girl talk episode and let us begin with our question of the week and this week's question of the week when i have to cast our minds we have asked you guys what's the most chaotic drunk text you've ever received I do like receiving drunk texts Me too Of people who care about me And want to let me know Me too It's always a good feeling Because it's like wow You're drunk and you're thinking about me You could be getting up to anything But you thought Chincia Where's my girl?

7:55Chincia And then I get some nice drunk texts We've got this one here Go outside From a boy whose girlfriend Was in the same club So he's messaged you're all in the club he's messaged you saying go outside like your girlfriend's in here wait and his girlfriend was in the club yeah guy I met on a holiday sent a flight ticket to Australia to see him I'm from Sweden wow I would love to be sent a flight ticket a QR code you were flown out Sarah ex had me blocked for three years drunk text he asked me to be his friends with benefits last week no I wouldn't be having that let's fuck from my ex situation a year after ending things oh my god someone said hey girl i have your boyfriend's phone here the panic oh god sorry i can't come over i've just been arrested oh god not my handcuffs oh my god i think about you when i'm having sex with my girlfriend when i tell you i was in shock i'd be sick i'd be sick that's just my friend was vomiting blood it was actually vodka blackcurrant oh my goodness it was a bit of ribena oh my god you up at 6 a.m from my boyfriend's mate 6 a.m from her boyfriend's mate go to bed like what do you think's gonna happen here like it's 6 a.m i have a boyfriend is like i have a boyfriend the sun has risen people are in their gym classes people are in their leggings you up you up darling if i ever said i didn't like head i was lying my male housemate who never said that to me say that again if i know if i ever said i didn't like head i was lying from my male housemate he was trying to hint so you're gonna give me a date for when you and your boyfriend break up

9:51how did you feel Sarah you received that yeah how did that make you feel because that would be quite telling yeah oh someone said um they got a text saying that I'm in prison it was actually the prison nightclub prism in knots oh shut up yeah prism not prison classic uh prism used to be the spot we didn't frequent it that much though did we we did out the way wasn't it yeah but it was a good it was a good spot when it called it was yeah you know it was something new there was like levels wasn't there yeah it was like tables it was like oh my god like tables tonight like he was on the table i went to see a burlesque show there once did you yeah i don't remember that yeah uh caitlin oh remember she was in burlesque yeah of course and i was like I'm going to go see my friend do burlesque.

10:39Everyone got their tits out, vaginas. It was amazing. I want to go see Burlesque the Musical. Yes. We have to go. I mean, Burlesque the film is incredible. Well, Christina went to watch it. She gave it the stamp of approve. Did she really? Yeah. Well, there we have it. It's burlesque. P-R-E-S-S. I wish I could exude that kind of energy. You know, just like - Do you think it's something that you're born with? Yeah. Just that like mystery. You could probably train it. just like the Dita Von T. It's the vixen just like allure. It's the Miranda allure. Yeah, it's the allure. It's the very specific allure.

11:17Okay, a few more drunk texts here. I'm in an ambulance. I'll text you soon. Oh God. I like you from a girl at work. I feel like I probably sent that. I was in an ambulance once. Oh no, we weren't. We weren't. We were in a taxi on the way to the hospital. But we were on the way to the hospital. Yeah, that was a crazy night. Yeah.

11:37I mean, the most common ones here are the you up texts from unexpected people. Yeah, classic. I mean, are we getting a follow-up the next day? Are we getting an apology the next day? It's either being unsent. Yes. It's being unsent. But back in the day, an unsent wasn't an option. No. You sent it, you sent it, and it was gone. You'd probably have, if it was unanswered, they probably would follow up with a sorry I was. Sorry about that last night. Sorry I was really drunk. It wasn't me, my friends took my phone. Isn't it funny the confidence that alcohol brings? Yeah, liquid courage. It's kind of crazy.

12:10Kind of crazy. We learned all about that in Dare. That confidence. Lowers your inhibitions. There's nothing quite like that confidence. There's nothing quite like a bit of liquid courage. Yeah, I'm going to send a text. Yeah, fuck it. Why not? Sounds like such a good fucking idea. It sounds like a great idea. Right. Okay, let's get in to some girl talk.

12:33Just before we get into it, quick disclaimer. We are not doctors. We are not professionals. We do not actually know what we are talking about. This is a lighthearted space. Okay. Don't take what we say literally because we could be wrong. Yeah. And if there's anything serious, if there's anything you feel like you're seriously struggling with, please contact a GP, a professional, because that is not us. We're just girls, girls and boys just like you, you know? We're just trying to get through life as well. Not professionals. Enjoy the episode.

12:59Okay. Speaking of drunk ideas, matching tattoos. Oh. Usually sounds like quite a good idea. I would love a matching tattoo with a loved one, with a soulmate. What do you think you would like to get? I could do as Belly and Comrade do and do the infinity sign. If you know, you know. Sounds quite magical. It's like, that's their sign. Is it on the finger? Is it on the wrist? On the ankle? I do like maybe, you know, either, you know, the neck of the vasoom. Or the back of the neck. Back of the neck is pretty sexy, actually. Because it's like, it's there. Oh, right in the back. Yeah. Like, if you know it's there, you know it's there.

13:38Really fine line. Really fine line. I would actually like one lower back. Yeah. I think that's gorgeous. Is that what they called the tramp stamp? Yeah. But it's not. But it's a classic. It's not a stamp of the tramp. Like a butterfly there. It's beautiful, is it not? I love that. The girl from Cheaper by the Dozen had that and I always thought it was so cool. Yeah, the only back tap I can't support is Cheryl Cole's. The rose is on the arse cheeks. isn't it a full back that goes onto the bum cheeks all up the back yeah but i love cheryl i love cheryl i mean she's incredible we gotta fight for this love girl we're gonna be the highest point in greece anybody care does anyone care okay so we've got here this is this is a girl talk conundrum yeah i got tricked into a matching tattoo now what was that show called oh my god that show where they would where people would sabotage people with bad tattoos no but the other show where they would fix them yeah but have you seen that i have seen that one yeah but it was like like they put crazy stuff on them yeah that was really mean what why did they that was a new show they didn't like rylan or someone host it or someone wasn't rylan but someone hosted it someone from geordie shaw i don't know but i know exactly what you mean from geordie shaw no i'm getting that wrong vicky vicky maybe okay so i've got tricked into a matching tattoo oh that's actually heartbreaking hello girls a long time with for the pod love you guys thank you sarah thank you sarah me and my friend sarah met in our first ever corporate job corporate baddies we instantly clicked and became super close very quickly the place we worked was quite toxic a lot of bitching and fake rumors and here is where it starts there was an awful rumor going around about sarah she cried to me and i was there at work and at home that's what you know friends are for right anyway so there was an investigation and somehow the blame was pinned on me whoa that was a lot of information a few sentences from the rumor yeah but there was an investigation and sarah saying i've been set up it wasn't me i own up to my mistakes when i make them and i can confirm it was not me yeah oh so everyone else was on was definitely sarah definitely sarah There's a rumor going around about Sarah.

15:54So let's say it was that Sarah had slept with, what's his name? What's it from Friends? Andy from Copyright. What's his name? What's his name? The copy guy. Yeah, what's his name? Kenny the copy guy. Kenny the copy guy. So there's a rumor Sarah slept with Kenny the copy guy. And, but this didn't happen. But there's been an investigation and the blame's been put on our girl here writing in. Right, okay. um how do you investigate that i don't know cctv so is that hr doing that that's another hr issue sarah then understandably cut our friendship off i was heartbroken and she then became very close with the bitchy click and i was pushed out oh we've had a lot of information that i wasn't expecting that's not nice vibes to work in is it fast forward two years later oh i'm happy in my new job a higher position and just overall absolutely love in life we are hiring for an admin we had no luck with anyone then in walks wait how's this gonna get to tattoos oh i don't know because we've literally got a few lines left right sarah gets the job sarah says she now understands that the whole you know whole shit at the old workplace was not me and we instantly became close again going out every weekend just really getting back to the friendship that we used to be and we decided to book a matching tattoo wow so just straight away like that we're besties again let's go so obviously you used to be super close and now with hindsight look it was all two years ago I know things went a bit crazy back then but we actually had a really good friendship and I want to get back to it you've been going out every week and you've been loving life and now we're getting a matching tattoo I mean I was so excited my first one wow shit so it's an important one as well it's not even like you know I've got loads of tattoos it's not just Being hidden within, you know, a whole sleeve.

17:45Yes. Okay. We travel to London. We get the stencils on. Shut up. It's on our ribs, by the way. Oh, ribs is nice. Yeah. Oh my God. I lay with my back to her as the tattoo was on the other side. My turn was done. And as I sit up, Sarah is gone. Shut up. She's a ghost. What do you mean? She's gone like the wind. She's just left. She's left. She's up and left. Half an hour passes. Still no Sarah. I pay and I leave with your new tattoo I call and call nothing was she a saboteur? I got to work on the Monday with my permanent tattoo to find the director who told me Sarah had left with immediate effect surely not her social media was gone surely not wait maybe she's on the run oh my god what now I'm thinking maybe this isn't real and her phone was disconnected what the fuck the end what you mean this wasn't real like did that actually happen oh you don't think it was real well Sarah's left with a media effect her social media is gone and her phone's been disconnected surely not sure so that was all her plan all along just to get you back but it was probably two years in the making surely not but it's probably like a cute little butterfly or something like yeah does it what was matching about it it's not like it's spongebob or like and it sounds like you are happy with it at the end of the day i know but has sarah really like gone like the wind apparently surely not she's gone she's left the job with immediate effect effective things she could have done there like i guess tattoo is an elaborate plan you know because it's giving um bride was yeah with the blue hair dye blue hair dye bad fake tan loads of chocolates loads of chocolates it's giving that it's giving premeditated that's for sure what in the world she had that was a lot of planning that went into that she really put you up lots of nights out the night friendship friendship friendship and then boom it's kind of incredible from sarah it's quite masterful really executed it you know because she's like she's a convict on the run and she's managed to get away with it yeah well yeah yeah she has got away with and she's gone as well.

20:05Surely not. Was her name even Sarah? Yeah. We will never know. Isn't that like, what's that film where she's got a fake name? Gone Girl? Is that it? Could be. What's that one with Blake Lively from a while ago? Isn't she of a fake name? With Anna Kendrick. Yeah, but the first one. Isn't there another one? Simple Favour or something like that? Yeah, the first one but she had a fake name. I believe so, yeah. Something like that. That's what it's giving. It is giving that. We need to do some investigating into Sarah's real identity. Let's get you booked in for some nice tattoo removal services. Or tattoo fixer.

20:41We could make it, we could, you know, if it was just a butterfly, we could give it a little fairy next door. We could build a bigger picture. Yeah. Or we could just get the lasers out. Zum, zum, zum. Yeah. Zap it away, but it's expensive and it's painful. And one day you'll see Sarah on the street in a different wig and you're going to be like, oh my God, there's that girl. Oh, I just got met. Flashback. what's that film where they're in the cafe sorry I'm getting all these fresh rocks from all these films giving a movie this should be written up what's your film reference they're in the cafe they were in a cafe totally as old as time and it's like oh my god there he is oh wow yeah oh my god I'm not seeing any ears oh saltburn oh I loved off by that point when he what's in that final scene there in the cafe in oxford I didn't watch that far you should have I know it got way better babe I know I just couldn't commit to that maybe I need to watch Saltbone once a year I forgot about that you've already seen it like four times how many times does the film need to be watched I just think it's really good wow I like watching it with people for the first time yeah that's what happened to us we were trapped together on a flight and we had to put it on together side by side did you just fall asleep yeah I logged off and then I no no no what happened sorry the graveyard scene saved us to the sleep what happened was we were watching it together like the whole three, two, one play, watching, watching, watching.

22:04And then I saw that you fell asleep. Yeah, but it's not for me to watch. And I was like, oh, well I'm watching this for you. And she's fell asleep. So I'm out of here. Back to the kids zone, Aladdin, let's go. We were locking in. I'm allowed to sleep. I've seen it a million times. But I didn't want to watch it. But you had to watch it. And then I wasn't enjoying it. But you needed to watch it. You needed to enjoy it. I think I got about 45 % of the way through, 50%. You need to see the end, the deaths, you know, the conclusion. Yeah, I know. The final scene. I know. Well, then I kept watching it from your computer, your screen.

22:36No. And then I saw that people would do it and I just thought, oh no, thank God I didn't keep going. Maybe not back in. I won't, but. Maybe try. Yeah, that won't. Where is Barry these days? It's not been about. Barry Benson. Yeah. He's out of the hive once again. He's in the honeycomb. He must be filming something, another war, a war film or something. A classic. Yeah, because he was in that war film with Harry. Dunkirk brilliant that was his big break I'm really craving a trip to the cinema you know Freakier Friday yeah Freakier Friday I'm thinking is going to be the one for me to get me back in well you better hurry because we're gone soon a bit of popcorn nice coke yeah we're gone soon nice tracksuit might even take a cushion probably won't but that sounds like a nice idea well you know Everyman's they have some doggy ones that you can go and bring your dog we need to do that thing we need to do that thing where like on a Tuesday morning we go in our pajamas and get like a matcha and like some brekkie like a breakfast burrito maybe walks into the cinema and just like I would love that have a nice time in PJs yes it'll be nice and quiet might be some babies in there everyman they do baby club and doggy clubs I think they do doggy club at the cinema I think so at everyman's yeah not cineworlds everyman's odian looks oh I love an odian looks I love a showcase We've got a great showcase in Nottingham.

24:00I love a 4DX experience. I thought you didn't like the 4DX. Oh, I love that. I thought you said it was giving you neck. Yeah, but it's amazing. Oh, okay. I've never been to 4D. The immersive aspect of the movement and the water and the wind. Yeah. I've never experienced it. Oh, it's like a roller coaster.

24:26right when we were on tour we've never read it on the pod but we had a dilemma it went down like a storm it went down it was a trail pleaser every night with you guys and it was about a stolen vibrator i remember it well yeah and we have a new tale from our sarah here saying she stole my vibrator in a sicky face emoji so the one we would read on tour it was a it was the sister of the boyfriend would steal it yes yeah and they would find it like down the side of her bed yeah they would find it in her so the girlfriend would go to the family home yeah she would bring her vibrator they would use she had a vibrator that she left in her boyfriend's room yeah her sister his sister then went into the room stole the vibrator and then they found her vibrator like in her bedroom among other things amongst other things like her toothbrush um so this sarah says hi girls i'm a long time listener i look forward to your podcast every week thank you sarah i've listened to you for so long i feel like you're my besties we are besties sarah huge congratulations to sofia on her engagement you might wonder where this story is going but bear with i think we've got a good idea where it's going actually so for context thank you i am 33 and now living with my brian okay so no flatmates yeah i thought yeah who's the thief situation okay sorry we don't know where this is going i'm 33 and now living with my brian who i've been with for a year and a half but this time last year i was living in my own home and i had a lodger ah always the lodgers Susan.

25:59Susan had been living with me for around two years and I didn't know her before she moved in. She is just three years younger than me and we got on so well straight away. She became a friend rather than just a lodger. I like that word. Me too. Lodger. It's quite nice. We were really comfortable. It's nice on the lips. On the tip of the tongue, the teeth and the lips. We were very comfortable around each other and rather than just renting a room, which is what the original deal was she ended up just sharing the whole house with me including my dressing room including your vibrators as well so she now had free reign to the whole house dressing room well we've crossed the line yeah we're mates now we're mates like we're sitting on the sofa together and watching a show yes which was absolutely fine with me one day i came one day when i came home late after an evening out i went straight upstairs to my bedroom and saw that my tv remote was on my bed with the back off and batteries had been removed the batteries

27:05oh my god yeah strange god the evidence is right there sarah at least be careful after yourself has no one ever committed a crime before like shit strange but i figured sarah's remote made me run out of batteries and she just used mine so i don't really think anything of it sarah was already in bed by this point she was always going abroad for work and had work early the next morning so i didn't see her for two days by which time i just forgotten about the battery incident a few days later i was looking for something in my bedside drawer which is where i kept my vibrator right my vibrator wasn't there i thought i was going mad so i just emptied the contents completely out it was still nowhere to be seen i have never moved it from there because i've never needed to and also surely everyone leaves it in their bedside table and never moves from there yeah it has its home i suddenly remembered my tv remote a few days before which made me think of sarah she was away with work again so i went into her bedroom and I looked in her bedside drawer and my vibrator was in there.

28:16Come on. Don't know, but oh. No, but like, come on. If anything, I'm kind of actually glad that she didn't return it because then I would never have known that you've used it. I know. But I'm kind of glad actually that I realized that you had stole it. But how can you be so sloppy? How can you be so sloppy? Like if I was going to get up to such sneaky business like that. These people have never watched How to Get Away with Murder, that's for sure. Yeah, I would make sure I was covering my tracks and putting things back where I found them. Yes. I'd be creeping around like, well, maybe she's so delicately.

28:47Maybe she doesn't think it's that big of a deal. Yeah, sharing is caring. Yeah, you borrowed my top the other day. Didn't think there was anything like that. Yeah, maybe she's like, well, we share a straw. Like, what's the difference? Yeah, we share a water bottle. I used to Stanley the other day. You know, phlegm is phlegm. Juices are juices. Peaches are peaches. So. Shit. Imagine the horror. I could not believe she had taken it. and more importantly i was just so confused as to why did she take it then fall asleep and put it back i forget to put it back she has done this before oh no has she done this before yes i bet this wasn't a first offense yeah because this feels sloppy and this is like you know when you finally get caught after you've been cheating for a long time it's because you've got sloppy yeah like because she's normalized leaving receipts in your pockets you know and it's like the first time you ain't leaving the receipt in your pocket she's normalized it she normalized every friday afternoon when she's at work late i yeah that's my time it's normal to her yeah she's got so that's so true actually this is so normal for her yeah the severity like because i bet the first time she was so careful yeah yeah and then she crept in and didn't even like touch anything my boyfriend was adamant that i should have confronted her and asked her about it but it was just too awkward i could not bring it up but she must have known that i knew well yeah because you yeah you took it back oh well maybe she didn't maybe she's like oh no you're not gonna take that back you're not gonna touch that you're not gonna touch that um to this day i have not spoken to her about it and i have since sold my house oh i moved out what moved out into my boyfriend's house so i no longer live with her what would you girls have done in my situation should i have just had the balls to say something to her and if so how would you bring something like that up I feel like I would get secondhand embarrassment I mean yeah she'd be mortified it's just like I don't think I could I don't think I could I couldn't look someone in the face and have that conversation no I just like especially after we've moved out let's just leave it in the past the past is the past I know what I know I know what we've shared you can live with with that Susan can live with the guilt of that.

31:00Yeah. I'm not really sure what I'm gonna gain from hashing it out. Yeah. I mean, maybe you don't even see her anymore. Yeah, that's true. But they were good mates. But I do think flatmates should discuss, as a general rule, flatmates should discuss borrowing and sharing and taking and milk. And that's my cereal. That's my meat. And the shampoo. That's my outfit. you know, loads of people have those problems. We've heard many a tale. So if anything is ever taken, actually, yeah, maybe you should have said something, Sarah. Maybe you should have. Because really, anything's ever taken, excuse me, where's that?

31:35Hello. Don't take that again. It's like training a dog, I should know. The commands. Working very hard on this training. I can imagine. So yeah, maybe, because it's like, where's my vest? Oh, you didn't ask for that. You didn't ask for the permission. Because we had a friend. Ask me. Who? Who? Oh yeah. who went into her flatmate's room and under her duvet were like all of her clothes that she'd been missing and also some of her boyfriend's clothes. So like obviously her boyfriend would come around to the flat and then the friend would then steal like the boyfriend's clothes and wear them out to work and stuff.

32:07So I do think with things like that, it's better to nip it in the bud. Otherwise these things fester and they build and then you're getting like angry within yourself. Then it explodes, girl. But I do appreciate that a vibrator. Yeah, that's a different kettle of fish. Touchy subjects. Who says Halloween only lasts one day? With Wayfair, one night of Halloween becomes a whole season at home. From larger-than-life yard decor and moody lighting to festive accents for every room in the house, Wayfair has what you need to make Halloween feel like magic all in one place. Because the best Halloween memories aren't made in just one night.

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34:19okay next one here we've got am i too invested or am i breaking girl code hey girlies oh we've got a congrats to me thank you sarah and welcome home blueberry oh thank you thank you love is doing well i have a dilemma which is really nothing to do with me but it's eating me up inside i have this friend we'll call him steve yeah we met through my boyfriend at work and despite him being mid-30s and me just 18 at the time he was always so lovely to me we got on really well wait sometimes the working relationships be like that your best mate can be a 50 year old and it's quite a nice dynamic i do think oh there's this old man in my building and i keep seeing him and he sits in the lobby having a coffee every day doing his crosswords and oh my god and i think I know and sometimes he's in the gym that man is in the gym in his jeans and his shirt is an elderly man that's so lovely and I just feel like he needs to meet Blueberry and yeah strike up a bit of conversation so I'm working up the courage he's probably a happy man as well yeah yeah with his crosswords and his coffee yes sounds like quite a nice morning to me yeah me too me too I just I always look at him oh yeah take him over to Blueberry let him have a snuggle yeah I know Unless he's allergic.

35:39Unless he is, yeah. Okay, so, so much so, we've been getting along really well, so much so that myself and my Brian have been for drinks and dinners with him. Love this. After two years of working there, I left for uni and quit. However, the financial struggles of being a student means I may have to go back to my old job, just in a different location, coincidentally, where Steve has recently moved to. Okay. Steve got married last year to a woman who I've never met. Okay. We'll call her Sarah. Okay. And since then, all I have heard are rumors of Steve cheating. He was outed on social media in March this year by another ex-colleague who knew about one of the said affairs.

36:23Outed on social media. Wow. However, there was never any proof that I knew of. Today, I stopped by my old job and it came up in conversation of me potentially getting a job in the same place as Steve. Yeah. I was shocked when a friend of mine warned me about his behavior with other women in the workplace, all behind his wife's back. She told me she had seen proof of the messaging and even photos of the cheating. So he sees his job as an opportunity to float with women, message women, connect with women. I do trust this friend. She's not the type to stir things up nor say anything about anyone's personal lives that isn't true.

37:01she only mentioned it to me as a worry that spending time with Steve may lead to him coming on to me and therefore things being awkward with Brian I digress my question is do I have a sort of girl code towards his wife even though I've never met her is it my place to say anything when I've heard these rumors I've messaged Steve to ask what's going on if it was true and if it wasn't where did it come from he is the type of man you look at and think butter wouldn't melt and obviously denied everything. He was just saying it was a toxic workplace and it was just catty rumors. I had no idea that he could be capable of doing such things when he always talks so highly about his wife to everyone, you know, colleagues and friends.

37:45There's proof that he was sexting one girl on the night he proposed to Sarah. Oh, oh, oh, oh. And this hard evidence and proof. And sexting another girl on his honeymoon. Steve. Not to mention the full-blown affair he's had with the women in his car before work, after work, and in sketchy car parks. How am I supposed to work with him knowing this man is disrespectful, disgusting, and not who I thought he was at all? A lot of people know about these affairs, and I'm thinking about how unfair it is that she doesn't know. If I was in this position, I would want someone to tell me. I was cheated on by past boyfriends.

38:25I know the heartbreak it brings. And maybe this is why I sort of feel attached to Sarah and morally obliged to say something. My Brian thinks that I shouldn't get involved and that he's clearly good at hiding what he does. And therefore it would be hard for anyone to prove if he's deleted messages and pictures. But apparently it's proof of the sex thing. Should I tell Sarah? Do I confront Steve? Should I stay out of it? Should I find another job elsewhere? Sorry for the long story. I know it's not the greatest dilemma here after getting engaged. Thanks so much from a distressed Susan. So just to remind me, Susan still works with Steve.

39:01No. She's going back to work with Steve. She worked there as an 18 year old and then decided I'm going to go to, so I'm imagining maybe she went to uni at about 20. Yeah. She's now in uni, but she's actually now needing a bit more income. So she's thinking about going back to that same job. But she still hangs out with Steve. I don't know if she still hangs. I think it's about us going back to that workplace where Steve is at. I don't think that she hangs around with Steve currently, but I could have read that wrong. And it's really eating you up inside, Sarah. Well, yeah, because you've been cheated on and you're really like...

39:40So it was a part of Sarah thinking if she tells on Steve, then she's got to go back to that workplace and kind of be like, yeah. And Steve will know. And also she's thinking like, I've never met Steve's wife. Is that my place or responsibility or? I mean, I feel like, yeah, I feel like if I was sitting, if I was genuinely sitting on such information like that, like a big piece of info like that from someone that I knew of who was, I feel like I would have to just share it with the person who needs to hear it because like you said you would want to be told you i would want someone who was friends with my fiance to be like i need to tell chintzy about that yeah never met her i'm gonna tell her yeah like she deserves to know like and i really appreciate so much proof like yeah if it was just like whispers yeah it was like oh i'm not really sure but like you've seen what you needed to see yeah like i would be surprised if she didn't i don't know like how can everyone in the workplace know and she doesn't know maybe he keeps it so separate yeah maybe he literally she's never at work parties she doesn't know about any colleagues and it is fully a separate world.

40:51Yeah. But then it's like, surely he's getting up to that elsewhere, not just in the workplace. Maybe she has heard whispers, but she needs to be dealt. I would want to know. So yeah, if I was the fiance and I knew nothing, I mean, maybe she knows and she's happy with the arrangement, fine. But at least then feel like you need to clear your conscious Sarah and just kind of tell her. It's so difficult. As a girl, I would want to know, you'd want to know. yeah you would yeah you'd want to know so fuck brian brian yeah i'm steve no brian you're brian he said don't get involved i'm gonna get involved yeah well you do it brian it's your mate people that sit on either side of the fence isn't there there's people who say like i always remember i don't know why i always remember this but i always remember your mum saying like don't get involved in other people's relationships my mother yeah like that's their business don't get involved like let them like you can argue that like if you're not involved don't insert yourself I think there's people who very much sit on that side and there's also the people who are like well if I know something I'm gonna tell them no matter if I've never even met them before so I don't I think there's pros and cons to each side and I can see both but I think so I think you've just got to do with like if you can't sleep at night because of this information release it you should tell her release it from from release yeah release it from your loins because you would want to know if you would want to know so kind of look at like that okay fuck steve fuck brian whatever they're saying like if i was that if i was that fiance and someone knew something and was thinking about telling me like how do we all know this and she doesn't know this you'd want to be told and i think you'll get some good karma sarah yeah i do it will come back around back around you know because i think that's good deed.

42:38Doing the Lord's work. Although you're delivering detrimental, world-destroying news, I do think, you know... In the long run, it's a good deed for Sarah. It is. Because she needs to be ridded of this awful Steve. And obviously, that's all a facade, isn't it? How funny, the men who speak the most highly about their wives, well, generally speaking... Not always. Not generally speaking. He's shouting so loud about how much... Occasionally. Yeah, he's shouting so loud about how much he loves his wife. girlfriend fiance in his case he's overcompensating yeah he thinks the more I shout about her and how much I love her the more the cheating the less people will think yeah manipulation yeah freak of the week yeah we hate

43:25okay last one this week okay we've got help am I morphing into his ex I mean how do we know yeah okay that is a tricky case but these days you know a lot of girlies have the same dresses yeah well we like the same jeans we're doing a slick back yeah visiting the same nail tax yeah so is it a case of that hi girlies I have been an every week listener now since 2023 and I am obsessed with you both sick of us be careful thank you Sarah thank you for being here today i really feel like i needed to write in with my dilemma me and my brian have been together since december 24 and it's the and it's the most happiest healthiest and fulfilling relationship i have ever been in and can easily say sarah i found my forever marriage children the lot love that sarah yay i've been having some very insecure feelings about his ex-girlfriend let's call her Susan so this is why sometimes I think it's better to be less aware ignorance is bliss less aware I don't want to see detailed images I don't want to see pictures of the two of you together I don't want to know a lot because otherwise my mind's gonna just no I don't want to know anything run wild like they were together for four years and he told me that it was a very awful relationship and that it involved a lot of problems with alcohol drugs and being overly and being overly friendly on her part, including her cheating on him.

44:57And they broke up in early 2024. Me and Susan used to follow each other on social media as we have mutual friends. Oh. Yeah, so you know her. Like I know about you. That's going to ruin anyone's day. Like I can picture your Instagram pictures. Yeah, that trip you took in 20... That's my worst nightmare. That trip to Greece you took in 2020. I can picture every single outfit you wore on that trip. Look like a nice trip as well. Yeah, like, oh, I love that boat day you had. Look really nice. Yeah, so you can't really... Because it's much easier, I find, to just pretend that your partner doesn't have any exes when you don't know them.

45:29But when you're aware of them, it's because I've been in that situation before when it's like, I literally know your ex-girlfriend. Like, I know her. So now I can picture everything so easily because I know her. Like, I've seen her. The conversations you might have had you being intimate. I know her and it's horrible in your head. I mean, some people will want to know the full shebang and some people, like, I just want to know when you broke up, how long you were together for, and why the relationship broke down. I don't want to know names, unless I've already done the digging, which I won't, you know, I didn't want to do.

46:08No, never do that. I don't want to know names. I don't want to know details, where you lived, what holidays you went on. Who needs to know that? Oh, I've been there before. It's too much. With who? Oh, great. Now I feel sick. Now we can't go there ever again. Okay, so we used to follow each other on social media as we have mutual friends. But when I was seeing Brian, I thought I'd remove her and unfollowed her just, you know, out of respect. Yeah, I hear that. As I wouldn't want to rub it in her face. Yeah, I think that's respectful. Absolutely. Fast forward to now, I can't seem to help but compare myself to this girl.

46:43My Brian tells me every single day how much he loves me, appreciates me and absolutely adores and trusts me. but I find myself looking on her profile comparing myself physically as she is really petite skinny and I think absolutely gorgeous but I find myself changing my hair color so that it's similar to hers and maybe dressing similar to her without even realizing it so stalking her is a is a part of your weekly routine and you're really you really are comparing yourself every aspect to do it but you can't help but do it yeah but you know in the moment like this is gonna make me feel shit I don't want to do this why am I doing this yeah I hear you this is silly I know but I ordered a dress for my holiday last year that I didn't get to wear so I thought when I go to Italy I'll wear it this year she is wearing the exact same dress as of recently and I'm debating whether or not to wear it because I worry if people are going to think I'm copying her when it is just a coincidence as we have mutual friends please help am i being silly shall i block her so i stop comparing unfollow any of unfollow any of her friends so i don't get to see anything that gets posted i think that's wise that's wise shall i not wear the dress and find something else one last thing brian has never given me any reason to feel insecure about to feel insecure about he is honestly the nicest man i've ever met and i don't want to ruin our relationship love you both lots Sarah we love Brian oh my god Sarah you're a supermodel I've already seen her picture I think I know she's gorgeous I know and Brian gorgeous Sarah I would be stressed if that was what my partner's ex looked like what is great is you've recognised the problem absolutely all you need to do is now put it into action it's like we've got an addiction to smoking cigarettes yeah so we're going to put it into action what we're going to do we've got to be strict with us because what happens every time you go and view her profile you feel shit it's a cycle it make you feel down you're picturing things you're imagining things you're seeing things you don't want to see yeah remember how it feels every time you stalk her and every time you go to do it stop yourself and it's going to take time it will take practice but I do think look if you have to block her blocker I would absolutely block and I would at least mute her friends or follow them so you don't have to see anything yeah and then your brain you'll feel so much clearer because it's when you're seeing things that's when it's feeding that like comparison even just like when you go on instagram like her friends usernames might be at the top because they've posted stories and it's small things like that that is just always kind of reminding you of that person and it's like you know what's that thing when it's like out of sight out of mind.

49:30I think that's maybe what we need to practice. And like, like, absolutely, like, comparison is the thief of joy. Like, it truly is. Like, that, like, you're not alone in that when it's like, oh, I look at her and now I just feel shit. Like, I think any girl in the world has been in that situation where it's like, oh, well, now I just feel like blah, blah, blah. But what do we say? A flamingo and a sunrise. Two completely different things. But both gorgeous. You would never look at a flamingo and go, yeah, that's gorgeous. But comparing it to a sunrise, we're not comparing the two. You wouldn't compare.

50:04Blueberry. Oh my God, I'm choking. That's okay. You wouldn't compare blueberry to. A beautiful ombre matcha that just looks just right. Or to an elephant. Or to an elephant. That's a gorgeous elephant. Or a butterfly. And this is a gorgeous doggy. Yeah. You know. Someone's beauty doesn't take away from your own. No. And like comparison is the thief of joy. and I just think like, I know you might think like, oh, I don't really want to look like I've blocked her. But like, who cares? Also, I would wear the dress. Of course I would wear the dress. I would wear the dress. It's your dress. It doesn't own that dress.

50:33It's your dress. It's your dress. You have the dress. Wear the dress and then just take it out of your evening routine. Yeah. Bit of scroll on TikTok, Instagram, stop yourself from searching her up and like be strict with yourself because that's the only way you're going to get out of this funk. Yeah. You know, that you've got yourself in about stalking her. I would block her. I would. And follow her friends. It's not personal. Like you're doing this for you. Like it's not that deep. Like at the end of the day, this is your partner's ex and it will just like slowly with time, it might be like a few months and you'll be like, I've not thought of that girl in a while.

51:05Like, oh, I'm kind of like, oh yeah. Like it will just be a distant memory and you will forget what she looks like and the details of her face and what her hair color is. And what she's been wearing recently and where she's been. And she will stop being such a present, a constant thought in your head because that's not nice for you. But there are steps you can do where it's like, well, I just need to at least let me block her at least and get rid of her mates. I think, and then before you know it, you'll be like, oh yeah, what was her second name? You won't even fucking remember. Yeah, you won't remember.

51:31So just be strict with yourself, remove it. It's like quitting vaping. I've never vaped, but you just got to be strict. Throw it in the bin. Throw it in the bin, block, do it. Because I want you to feel, I don't want you to be thinking like that. You shouldn't have to be thinking about your boyfriend's ex every day in a relationship. I want you to be happy and be present in your relationship. because it sounds like you're in a lovely relationship so you deserve to enjoy that. He sounds really lovely so you've got this Sarah. You've got this Sarah. Proud of you. And your hair looks beautiful so if you dyed it that colour it looks great.

52:03Also like, yeah. I would dye my hair like that. You could go red again. Yeah. That was a good time. Oh my God, love that time. We could put some red streaks in blueberry. That was a bad era for myself. What about a bit of... Oh, what dye blueberry? No, she's got virgin hair. Oh. Maybe for Halloween. Yeah. No, not really. No, we can't dye. Maybe we'll pick your toenails. Maybe it was bad hair day in primary school and we all did that dye in our hair. We should do bad hair day. That was really fun. We should anyone else do that at primary school? I love bad day. We should do pajama day. Yeah. That would be really fun.

52:32Pajama day and bad hair day. I had like plat pony, plat pony. It was purple, pink, purple, pink. What did I do? We've spray canned our hair different colors. Did we? And my brother had a red Mohican. Oh, Mohican. Mohawk. Yeah, red Mohawk. Oh, I love Mohawks. Good times. Right, should we do star of the week? Yes. So let's finish on a star of the week. Who's been very well behaved this week? Let us find out. Okay, this is a great star of the week and also something a bit different. So we've got my nomination for star of the week is my Brian. Now I know starting with, so he's basically gone traveling for five months and she's saying that doesn't scream star of the week, but let me explain.

53:14We've been together since we were 20. We're now 25. And this trip has always been something he's wanted to do. and I've encouraged him to do it. She was invited to go, but she chose not to. But anyway, whilst he's gone out, whilst he's been away, he's gone out of his way to make me feel loved and included in his world, even from thousands of miles away. She's had flowers in the post. Shut up, we love that. Surprise gifts, like a ring with a tiny heart. Shut up. A bracelet with his birthstone. He sent money to my friends so they can buy drinks for us on nights out just to make me smile and remind me that he's thinking of me.

53:46Even with dodgy signal, he's made the effort to call or check in whenever he can, like literally using his 10 minute break on a three day trek to Machu Picchu to try and find signal to ring me. Not because I've ever asked him or expect him to, just because he wants to. The whole time he's been away, I felt nothing but reassured, loved and genuinely happy for him and what he's experiencing. It's made me realize how strong we are and how much I'm looking forward to the next chapter together. Three weeks until he's home and we move in together and he says time to spend forever together no sure oh this is brian traveling that makes me on his back oh brian oh brian travel oh and this is the lovely couple think that's in santorini think i've been there oh you guys oh sarah i'm very glad that you're happy and thank you brian for looking after us and keeping in touch there are nice brian's out there should we Flowers all the way from Machu Picchu.

54:44Round of applause, Blueberry. Blueberry gives her stamp of approval. All right, guys. Well, thank you so much for listening to another episode. If you would like a bonus episode, you can get one every single week over on Patreon. We have two episodes a week. You can indeed. And you can follow us on Instagram. And YouTube. And on TikTok, please, at thegirlsbathroom. And email your dilemmas to hello at thegirlsbathroom.com. We will see you next Wednesday. Love you so much. Have a good week, guys. Bye. Bye.

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