TGB IN ITALY

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1:07Sophia Tuxford: Plug in a Zivo flying insect trap so you can work smarter, not harder, and actually enjoy your time at home. Who says Halloween only lasts one day? With Wayfair, one night of Halloween becomes a whole season at home. From larger-than-life yard decor and moody lighting to festive accents for every room in the house, Wayfair has what you need to make Halloween feel like magic all in one place. Because the best Halloween memories aren't made in just one night. They're made all season long. Shop Halloween decor now at Wayfair.com. Wayfair, every style, every home. He plays guitars. He fixes cars. He plays guitars.

1:47He is so hot.

1:49Sophia Tuxford: Wicked sweet. And then what did we see on the motorway? He, he, he. He built my keys. He built my keys. He fixes cars. He plays guitars. In Australia. He built my keys. Guys, we were crying about this one line for fucking three weeks. He built my keys. He plays guitars. He is so hot. Wicked sweet. Wicked sweet. Just go. Because Yvonne said, like, fixes more keys. And I was like, he thinks he builds more keys. Yeah, he builds more keys. He plays the keys. He's so nasal. He builds more keys. He is so hot. He is wicked sweet. You know the drama is never ending. Don't let it get the best of you. or should we say ciao or should we say what what do they say in the evening she is so talented her brain is expanding every minute by the day and the knowledge is doubling tripling quadrupling naturala hazelnut well done fragola fragola fragola strawberry correct Lemon Ah Tell us Lemon Nice What did you learn today What a cake is We all learnt that Ooh Taut Correct Yes Her memory is On fire On fire People It's all that fish So we are It's all that fish It's good for the brain If you didn't know Oily omega threes I'm just going to slouch you You get comfy Because this is a version of our heaven Let's speak about our evening We Let's set the scene Got ready wait let's tell the people where we are oh we're in italy newsflash like look at this bed you joke california also like look at this water it's pink striped like we are in you joking we are actually in the pink palace this is what they call this establishment it's called the pink palace so we are residing currently for three nights and three nights only at the pink palace For one night and one night only And this is like my version of a dream evening We got ready Bit of makeup No rush No rush No reservation to rush for No reservation Yes Sun is setting No storm coming in, you know Just a blue evening You know, temperature's perfect No sweat A little bit of wind No wind, no entertainment Because there was a wedding outside Yeah, just like something to look at Something to talk about You know then slip on a little sundress if you will absolutely you know easy getting ready process you know not too many changes no hair tools just you know natural around sophia's hair just swoosh just got the natural bouncy curls the curls are coming out they're moisturized they're hydrated there's a nice lift away curl cream away curl cream absolutely then we just walk down the mere 20 steps to aperitivo hour.

5:06Aperol spritz.

5:07Sophia Tuxford: Listen, one thing that we love about. Oh, but wait. Yeah, go on. She's going to say it. One thing that's fantastic about this hotel. With every beverage, you get three plates of food. Oh my gosh. So we had, so we got here today. We are here to shoot our rooms summer collection. That is why we are in Italy. Rocking it right now. Sporting it right now in our dressing gowns. so we came today we arrived today we had a coffee with the coffee there was all these little cakes oh my fuck but when we three different types of biscuits yeah two eat one each coke zeros crisps olives salty nuts and i'm talking salty peanuts a deep dish not a mere little like tiny tiny it was like it was a hefty bowl it was like a cereal bowl yeah of salted nuts olives and crisps and it's just like but they just know like that's hospitality i tell you that is service as well because that's going to keep me coming back me too because i also saw this thing this is completely irrelevant what we're talking about when i'm talking about service okay yeah talking about service you know when you get a blow dry or you a haircut a mere a five minute head massage in the basin will keep a customer coming back and back and back all right let's just do this like there's two hair salons each one is 30 pounds a blow dry yeah but at salon a you're getting a five minute episode i like this story i saw a tiktok about it and i was like so engaged with that i was like you're so fucking right because i do speak on it do you remember that hair salon where i was getting head massages and i would go and they give you a great head massage.

6:52It's just fantastic. You at least get the massage. It's just amazing. You get the massage. Yes. And it just makes it. Yeah. Whereas, you know, some other place where it's slapdash in and out, you know, in the basement, you're like, I'd love a head massage, but it's not being offered to me. But if you offered it to me, lady, and you gave me a good rub on my head, I would be thinking about that all week and I'd be excited to come back. Do you know what? And that is what these nuts and these crisps do. Do you know what? Because we are being fed to the brim. We're going to be full to the brave girls.

7:22We've not been hungry since we stepped on this soil. But that's what I want when I'm on holiday. I don't want to feel hunger. I want to feel swollen with salt. I want to feel parfait. Bread, olive oil, salt, nuts, olives, crisps. And that is what they're doing. And I'm sure if we finish them, they will replenish in two seconds. And then, whoa, whoa, whoa, whoa, whoa. Also, it makes us want to sit and have another drink.

7:44Sophia Tuxford: Right. Because it's like I've been fed for free. Well, not. because I'm sure the price of the food is included in the Aperol. I'm sure the price of the establishment. We paid for those crisps. I'm not. The money's been spent. And the crisps are coming thinking, this is free crisps. This is free crisps. They've girl mapped us into thinking that all the food's for free because the tea is Aperol then came around, crisps, nuts, olives, already on the table before the drinks even arrived. And then what comes out? a plate of savoury goodness. I'm talking like a little mini pie of sorts. Croquette. A croquette.

8:26Sophia Tuxford: A ricotta situation, if you will. And something that we didn't even get around to. So it was just a full... But that's what we want. We want intrigue. We want conversation. It was a nice... Oh, ladies, let's try this. It's a nice break in our combo. A nice game, if you will, as well. A gamble, if you will. It was just lovely. And if we didn't need to, you know, head on out and like, you know, grab some dinner. We would have had another round, please. We would have had another round, definitely. And we're going to remember those snacks. Always. That only cost them what? One euro? To feed us loads of nuts and crystal salts.

9:00But the impression that it leaves. Yeah. And that's exactly what a head massage does in the basin. So if you're a hairdresser, put the... Shout out. You know, listen, I have massaged heads before in a basin. And I would be lazy and be like, I don't want to give this lady a head massage. but that was the nature of the business to keep them coming back. Absolutely. And actually I got told off one time and I didn't give a lady a head massage and she told on me.

9:25Sophia Tuxford: I remember this. Yeah, she told on me. Shut up. I'm 14. Do you really want a head massage with me? I've not been trained. I'm just making it up. This is me dad's sound. No one's taught me this, babe. I'm a seuss. I'm just trying to do it. Yeah. Anyway, yeah, fantastic. I kind of have that similar emotion but more so towards nail shops who offer you a hot beverage. Oh my God. Well, I mean, I went to a nail shop and they gave me a cold bottle of water and I returned. Yeah, yeah, yeah. It was amazing. Yeah. I've never had that before. What? No. I've never even offered a beverage in a nail salon. And it was a fresh, cold, crisp bottle of water from the fridge.

10:03You're also going to like nice places. Yeah, no beverages there. Fresh bottle of water from the fridge returned for my nails. But I did get offered water that time. But it was a risk. Water.

10:15Sophia Tuxford: Wow. Hot tea. Hot tea is incredible. Coffee. Wow. And I'm like, yes, please. Yeah. Why not? And that keeps your customers coming back. And that keeps it coming back. And that's how you get a successful business. Take it from us. Put that on your podcast. Okay, everyone. Yeah, so we had the Aperol. There we went out for a lovely stroll. Easy stroll. Sorry, yeah, dream evening we're on here, aren't we? We shared pizza and two bowls of pasta. Look at these pink trim pillows. Have you noticed that? I like that a lot I really like this bed actually bed frame it's like a bit of colour in the bedroom is fun I don't have any colour in my bedroom no me neither my bedroom's very actually I have leopard print bed sheets I like a guest bedroom to be where the colour comes in this would be really fun I understand so we shared one pizza there's three of us we shared a pizza and two bowls of pasta it was perfect we each got a bit of seafood a bit of gnocchi a bit of pizza a bit of pizza because yeah that's what I want I want two to three slices of pizza and then add like a little bit of each different pasta it is the perfect combination i just want the variety of all the flavors so now i feel like oh i've had a little bit i've had pizza i've had two different bowls of pasta yeah whereas otherwise you're sacrificing just having to have one bowl of pasta absolutely yeah then it's a great arrangement it truly is fantastic thank you grace being here um then we took a i mean what 30 seconds to the ice cream shop got on a chowler ice cream absolutely hazelnut if you forgot that yeah if you forgot if you You felt like that from the beginning if you're not paying attention.

11:45And a little walk back to the hotel. Wash face, wash face, brush teeth. I'm in bed now. Lovely evening. It's about 10pm. About 10pm. I'm going to whack Love Island on after this, after I've worked the evening. After you've done your shift. And that is a dream night. Should we crack on with our question of the week? Why don't we crack open your phone? Okay, let's have a look. I'm very comfortable. I could close my eyes and do this podcast. Yeah we've been talking about Belmont a lot Preacher said I could

12:14Sophia Tuxford: And G Flip Couldn't get no higher Who's G Flip? G Flip Who sings that song? Chrishell's partner Shut up I didn't really know that That's what's all over my For you page right now Shut up G Flip When you say G Flip I think of that lady who Did the break dancing at the Olympics The Australian lady What was her name? That's not in my knowledge What was her name Grace? Grace is gonna give the letter our laptop open. Yeah, it's all like G Flip being like, thank you off campus. Like, my phone is ringing. I'm so grateful. Shut up. My song is like... It's a great song. Yeah. Huh? Raygun. Did you not see that lady who breakdanced at the Olympics?

12:54Who wasn't qualified

12:55Sophia Tuxford: to do the breakdancing. Yeah, but she was at the Olympics. Yeah, I didn't remember this. But she was qualified. And everyone was like, that's not breakdancing, is it? Well, technically it was. Technically, this is what they did in the 90s. It's not Channing Tatum on step up though no it was sliding and swirling yes sliding and sliding sliding slip and slide slip and sliding around on the floor preachers right so we've got a question a week no higher what okay question of the week what is the most chaotic girls trip moment all of this you've been a part of. Love this. What's coming off the top of our heads here?

13:43Chaotic girls.

13:44Sophia Tuxford: Mykonos night one. Easy. Mykonos night one. That was more just like, on the given disagreements. This is just like, oh no good. Yeah, just like, you know, why are you packing nothing? Why have you got a 32-page in case with nothing that you want to wear? Yeah, just a suitcase of junk. Stuff you've not tried on. That is That will cause Two of the girls Started full on Fighting Because one girl Didn't get the other A diet coke I mean fair enough Imagine we all sat down And you two ordered A diet coke for yourself And not me Got me one You know especially On like night six Yeah When a few of the things Have maybe been swept Into the rug And it's like You've been pissing me off All week And that is just The final straw And you just snapped Over a diet coke But it really is That serious I feel I had a threesome in the Kit Kat Club in Berlin.

14:38Sophia Tuxford: The Kit Kat Club. Now, oh my God, that's iconic. Because the Kit Kat Club is an iconic establishment from that musical I watched. Yeah, what's the musical called? The Kit Kat Club. The Cabaret. The Cabaret. Yes, that's iconic. What a story to tell the grandkids. I'm going to twist. Woke up in Mallorca after a night out in Ibiza. Bloody hell. How did you get there? By boat? Did you swim? Swim? Pedalo? Shit. Got invited to a ballers party in Marbella. To a what? A ballers party in Marbella. And it ended up being the whole Chelsea football team. Chelsea. Shout out Chelsea football team, I guess. Got matching tattoos with a group of English boys we had just met.

15:23Sophia Tuxford: That's mental. My friend got caught out cheating after a club video of her getting with a guy went viral.

15:34Sophia Tuxford: that is i think you know my soul would leave my asshole that is hell and cheating is one thing and then getting caught out publicly i mean you deserved it i guess but that's not nice my friend borrowed my pants and ended up shitting herself wearing them oh like not my vs knickers you know how do you shit yourself i mean look i understand in a thong That is just going straight down the middle. They just got to go in the bin, haven't they? Went on a hen do and then hen's mum locked us out of the house on purpose. That's, come on, like, let us in. Maybe the - She was sick of you. She was sick of you.

16:17Well, maybe the - She was sick of you.

16:19Sophia Tuxford: Maybe the hen's mum knew that the hen wasn't as keen on you lot. Yeah. Or she was just being selfish and was just being selfish. Yeah, I guess we'll never know our reasons as we ask her. We all got our nipples pierced in Ibiza. Been there. Yeah, support that. It's a canon event. I don't think I could ever put a needle near my nip. How was that? I loved it. How did you feel? It was pain. Did you numb the nips? No, it was a woman. Okay, she. I went on my own. That was so spontaneous of me. It was lovely. It was a great moment. Yeah, it was fun actually. I really enjoyed it. Did she? So no, no. Sorry, the experience.

17:09Sophia Tuxford: No. I do remember thinking, oh my God, this is what it feels like to get stabbed. Like I remember thinking this is going through my skin. So it was that much pain. No, there was no tears. Like there was no like, it is literally like, it's like take a big breath. and it's like it's like I can imagine it's just like it's like a huge breath and then it's like don't look down time for the next one because you've committed to two and it's like it's like a little like clamp nipple it's needle in piercing in and then it's yeah yeah I'm surprised I did that actually it was good it was good for the times no but like my nipples I'm like I don't I'm like they were always sore So the fact that I actually thought That's going to be good They looked good Loved it at the time My friend peed on my other friend's suitcase

18:13Yikes When you're drunk bodily fluids get everywhere Think Did she do it on her? That to me is Accidental She thought it was a bidet virtually it was just the suitcase met a guy, fell in love stayed in his hotel room every night turns out it was his stag do oh my god that's terrible

18:39Sophia Tuxford: we've heard plenty of these stag stories it's not this is just I mean that's horrendous the season's coming around again isn't it yeah I fell in love with this Turkish guy He rubbed all our stuff Oh my god So we got in your knickers And then he just rubbed you Wow My friend was heavily pregnant on the hen do And she kept projectile vomiting On the coach Coach is You know as a fellow car sickness girl A hot coach A coach is our worst nightmare Let me tell you right now A hot fabric coach I can smell it I can actually smell it. That fucking musty fabric. There's no air. There's no breeze. We can't get a window down.

19:30Sophia Tuxford: It's only a window cracked. No air con. Yeah. Well, there's no window down. Yeah. You can't stick your head out the window. That actually is knocking me a bit sideways. A little bit sideways. Yeah, a coach. Let me sit up as well then. I've definitely been sick on a coach. Do you know what? A coach is remind me of driving to bloody France on school. trip overnight do you remember when we drove on the coach and i was sick chocolate milkshake at the back and it ran chocolate right i have a small memory we've driven to france we've driven to italy we've driven to france all over on the coach overnight like that how do we even sleep on the coach and they would come around with the torches to make sure no boys was out with girls remember what no one was sucking anyone's willy oh my god no one's going fingered oh my god on the Catholic school.

20:23We're 12 and we're Catholics. What do you think we're doing back here? We're praying. We're praying to Jesus Christ. God, yeah, we drove everywhere on those bloody coaches. I need a week. We're not stopping for four hours. We're not stopping for four hours. I'm hungry. Yeah.

20:42Sophia Tuxford: Sorry. No eating on the coach. Yeah. Was it no eating on the coach? Yeah. Because I got told off for being sick chocolate milkshake. Because she was like, where have you been drinking chocolate milkshake? That's bile. That's bile.

21:00Just before we get into it, quick disclaimer. Just to say, we are not doctors. We are not professionals. We do not actually know what we are talking about. This is a lighthearted space. Okay. Don't take what we say literally because we could be wrong.

21:11Sophia Tuxford: Yeah. And if there's anything serious, if there's anything you feel like you're seriously struggling with, please contact a GP, a professional, because that is not us. We're just girls. Girls and boys just like you, you know? We're just trying to get through life as well. Not professionals. Enjoy the episode.

21:27Sophia Tuxford: Right, dilemma number one. Let's do this. Oh, shit. Oh, bye. She's disappearing. Oh, okay. I'm here. I'm ready to go. She is in. This is flow state. Oh, clip this. Get a load of this That's nice Or Grace is going to Drop this up For a poo poo Oh Grace hasn't pooed all day She's feeling a bit unsettled About it To be fair We were all up at half four This morning My poo's not You know It can't come that early I feel regular When did you sneak yours in? I can't say that on the internet You know Let me have an air of mystery I'm curious Let me be mysterious for once Okay dilemma number one my best friend cheated on her fiance with my brother oh okay okay hey girls me and my brian went traveling in australia and can officially say he is now just as obsessed with the pod as i am shout out brian how are you doing after hours of traveling with the girls bathroom on i never thought i would have something to write in about but now I have a dilemma that I need the best experts advice on.

22:50Sophia Tuxford: Listen, we'll try our best. I have a friend that I met from work just over a year ago, Sarah. We clicked instantly and have been best friends ever since. And she is the bestest of friends and such a great person. Okay, so we met this girl a year ago and she is your ride or die. Okay, I like that. Since being friends with Sarah, she has never been 100 % happy with her fiance. we'll call him Stan okay so what's he been up to then? I'd say she does have this idea that the grass is greener elsewhere but we talk about everything around this situation and some days her relationship is perfect and other days she is bored.

23:33Sophia Tuxford: And they're engaged they're engaged. And also like you only met Sarah a year ago so you've only ever known her with this guy like you don't really know the law and like the before and after yeah yeah yeah yeah Yeah. Me and Sarah do a lot together, including an occasional night out, you know, for a couple of drinks. Every time we have been out, there is always the conversation of her wanting something different. Really? Recently, this something different has now become my brother. Let's call him Brian. Oof. I also think that's incredibly bold. I do. and also puts new best friend of a year to be expressing interest in your best friend's sibling i do think puts the sibling in quite an awkward situation yeah because a lot of people don't want those lines to cross exactly and it's like you're constantly telling me about your your relationship that you're not happy and you know almost like a wandering eye of sorts yeah i don't then want that for my brother really yeah also don't want yeah it's that's really tricky because it's a situation that if it works it's incredible absolutely that is so risky it's a risky game um okay brian is my oldest brother but it's the same age as sarah whilst we have been out it has been the odd follow on insta or facebook she has unfollowed him after each morning but proceeds to re-follow every time we're out having a drink and he he's seeing that oh yeah i guess so now we have so she's she gets confident in the evenings and then oh my now we've joked about this in the morning as we know it's when she's had a couple but i'm not the kind of person to be happy about cheating behavior whatsoever yeah it's never been made into anything more i've told sarah about brian's behavior towards women and as his sister i've always said he should be avoided at all costs Okay, so you're like warning her off, Brian.

25:31Sophia Tuxford: Weirdly, I think this is what somehow made her attracted to Brian. Is she thinking like, okay, I'm in this... Right, this is what she's thinking. My situation right now, I'm engaged. It's so serious. I'm signed up right now to be with this guy for the rest of my life. However, Brian, you're telling me he's a self-proclaimed lover boy and he's not going to take me serious. Actually, that sounds so exciting to me. No strings attached. We can just do whatever. That sounds like exactly what she wants. That's her heaven right now because she wants to not have a fiance really. Yes. And she's thinking, well, your brother is offering me everything I need right now.

26:07Your brother sounds like her Dean.

26:09Sophia Tuxford: Yes. Love. Fast forward to this weekend. Originally, it was just meant to be me and Sarah going to the cinema. However, on the day, I had a fundraising event in which all of my family were there, including Brian and Brian's workmates. plans changed and i ended up picking up sarah and bringing her by this time brian had a couple of drinks so when we had arrived he was trying to get sarah to do shots there was some flirting going on in which i just silently watched yeah later on we left brian then messages sarah asking where she's staying tonight they continue to exchange flirting messages and she tells me she tells me everyone and at this stage i'm thinking gross like you can stop telling me now i don't want to know this is my brother like yeah anyway fast forward to us getting ready for bed i'm getting ready getting my pjs on taking makeup off putting dressing gowns this is after the fundraiser yeah and she is not getting changed she's like i'm i'm going out to be right she's thinking i think i'm gonna go out again let me show you the person let me quickly go let me have a quick shower I don't say anything just carry on get into bed pop on some TV it's midnight at this point so I'm just like right I'm going to sleep also like Sarah so I'm assuming you arranged a sleepover of some sort yeah or maybe we're in a hotel but it's like you've got a fiance can't we just deal with that she's just all over the place I just think it's half past two half two I wake up look to the other side of the bed Sarah's not there So she kind of pretended to She snuck out Yeah right And you know We know exactly where you are As you can imagine I was a bit shocked As far as she didn't just tell you Because she was telling you Like he's asking me Where I'm sleeping tonight Yeah But maybe she Officially didn't want to say I'm going to go and like I'm going by the way I'm going to go and see his willy Yeah I'm going to go suss out this penis I'll be back I fell back to sleep Woke up in the morning To a message from Sarah Are you awake?

28:15Sophia Tuxford: Once I had replied she came running through my door in just her pants where are you we must be in like sarah's home yeah i was like oh oh oh is he like next door i don't know in the family home run through the door in the knickers that's giving like we're in the home yeah yeah i like we're in and he was saying where are you staying tonight and she said i'm staying at yours yeah but i'm with your sister down with your sister in your sister's room yeah and and he's so tempted by that yeah of course i was like sarah what the fuck has happened apparently sarah and brian didn't have sex but they did everything else i'm not the kind of person to shout at her and tell her she is wrong i keep a lot of feelings to myself but i said i did not want to hear it everything else the guilt that i felt because i knew what had happened that she had just cheated on her fiance and baby dad with my brother in my house of course so we're in her house i had to tell my roof come on that's like you know like we arranged a sleepover this is a girl's night come on you've got a fiance mom like and a child like i know that's of course i had to tell my brian i needed to tell someone and I trust him with everything he has the same feelings as me about cheating as we have both been cheated in our prior relationships so here's my dilemma do I ask to speak to Sarah and just tell her my thoughts that I don't agree with it but again I'm not a confrontational person so the thought of saying this really quite scares me yeah but I can't let it continue to happen again I know it's not my relationship that it's affecting but I know it's happened and it's on my conscience um or do i continue as normal with sarah let her stay around again if it does happen again i say something straight away in the moment sarah did send me a message the day after saying she would like to stay at mine at least once a week so she thinks she thinks she's got this sick arrangement where she tells her fiance I'm going to Sarah's tonight skills night sleepover then but she's sneaking into Brian's room and it's the perfect guys no one's gonna know no I'm at Sarah's you know I'm at Sarah's yeah you know like look at my like I'm at Sarah's yeah she's not lying about her location no fuck and she's thinking she's gonna do that the perfect arrangement yeah I mean in theory it is because he's not going to find out wow fuck it's pretty ballsy to be like that was you can i do this once a week like hang on babes you've just cheated on your fiance with my brother in the room next door and you're just asking if you can come around like this is gonna end in tears like wow but also like there's just two more sentences okay go on go on go on is this because she wants to do it again or is it just her wanting to see me?

31:22Yeah, yeah, yeah.

31:23Sophia Tuxford: I really don't want this to affect mine and Sarah's relationship as she has been a great friend but I think I feel more guilty than she does about the whole thing. You're just in the middle and that's almost worse. When you're in the middle Yeah. And you're middle, middle, middle. When you're in the middle I think you need to check them both. I'd be, to be honest I'd be going to my brother I'd be going straight to my brother and say, fucking stay away from Sarah. Yeah. She's got a husband she's got a child she's going through something do not sleep with her and take advantage of her you know yeah you know right now like don't sleep with i would be like i don't go near your friends i'm vetoing my friend here like yeah there's so many other women in this in this city yeah go sleep with them did you know she's engaged yeah he's got a kid like please yeah like i check my sibling first i'll say yeah then i do actually think look you say sarah's been there for you supported you through times and she's actually been a really good friend i think in this moment she needs a reality check do you think and just be like sarah hey baby how was your night what are you doing you've got a fiance like do we need to end this relationship like i will be here to support you do we need to get away from this guy let's do some journaling let's make some notes let's sort your life out because right now you're unhappy and you're just seeking out other forms of pleasure i think sarah is at the moment she's i think she is also in very like denial world where she's thinking she's thinking i can keep my relationship together because i'm gonna get my little fulfillment on the side and everything's fine and that i can keep this up and i think she's in that fresh excitement phase and she's not had time for the guilt to seep in yet because she's already wanting to do it again next week she's been having these conversations with you constantly about the grass is greener yeah your brother yeah like she's normalized it so much i want something else i want something different i think she's genuinely she's normalized it so much that that wasn't even a big deal she's like well in my head i always knew that that was gonna happen it's not like a shock like oh my god i've cheated yeah i think it's so it was premeditated and she's thinking sweet fiancee had no idea this is the perfect crime i had fun i'm happy that yeah it was great i'd like to do that again yeah and she's thinking easy peasy sleep over at sarah's bish bash i mean i do think that you could say to her i think you need to say to her look you need to check her i think and be real and i know it's going to be uncomfortable for you because i understand but it's just gonna i think it's gonna just cause friction and not good stuff in your friendship you could write her a letter okay okay you could write her you could write her a letter because i know the feeling of like you don't want to have confrontation like you feel like oh i don't know how to say this like i don't know how to bring it up like you might start and she might just completely take over and then the conversation never finishes yes you don't get to say what you wanted to say what you want to say i do think you could write a letter i also do think you should kind of mention the fact that like i don't appreciate you i invited you into my home and you went and sat with my brother that's severe i think that's like when i already when i already said that i didn't want you to go near him like a little bit sneaky yeah like sneaky sneak there's only so much like okay yeah you fancied my brother that was funny for the moment you know but now this is going too far like you've done and you say you haven't slept with him but you've like seen him naked or wouldn't have done things like this can't continue because it is going to affect our friendship because right now you're going to be continuing to cheer on your feelings like this is too much and like the friendship can't take that I would just put your feelings on paper and maybe just say some because then you can really consider what you want to say the points you want to get across and you can just either give it to her or leave it on her desk or obviously not post it to her house because her fiance might open it oh god but um maybe just say maybe just say like i'm always going to support you like i love you you're an amazing friend to me i want to be there for you there's never going to be any judgment from me but it's clear to see that you haven't been happy in your relationship and i want you to be happy i want us to fix this together i'm going to be here and i want you to like to be able to use me as a sounding board and like let's figure this out but but sleeping with my brother what i am not okay with is you sleeping with my brother and i don't and then you basically saying can i come around next week and do it again so it's not going to solve anything it's going to make everything worse it's going to make every our friendship yeah you know it's just gonna make everything worse and I also do think like you have every right to be like you know I have been cheated on it was the all it was one of the worst times in my life I do not want to be in the middle of this in the middle of this like I don't condone cheating in any well I'm not judging you but I'm just letting you know it's really like it's really hard for me to watch this because I have had that experience and it was awful so I don't now want to I can't now giggle with you about this because I'm not finding it funny.

36:56I'm not finding it funny like that my brother's had sex with you. No. That's not like, oh, that's my brother. Yeah. And you've got a fiance who I've probably met. Right. And the child. Yeah. I think we need to try and guide her out of this, these bad decision making.

37:13Sophia Tuxford: I think you're going to have to speak to her and if you don't like that confrontation like convo, you could start with a letter. Or a text. Just send her, like she's gonna read it and then at least you might know it might then prompt a conversation in person but at least you know then that everything you wanted to say is down yeah but yeah that is but i think tell your brother to stay away first and i would also be like no you can't come around for a sleepover next week i'll say look it's not appropriate for you to cheat like i feel a little bit betrayed like i know it's not really about me but like it's a awkward yeah i didn't want you to do that yeah yeah that is a pickle that's made me if you're still sleeping on cotton or satin that could be the reason for frizzy hair sleep creases overheating and even breakouts dermatologists actually recommend switching to silk because it's naturally cooling and much gentler on your skin and hair that's exactly why over 3 million people have made the switch to Blissey.

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39:37Right, we've got, I can't get Brian out my head. But from the look of it, it looks like he could be someone of notoriety. Oh my God. He's giving... He's giving Beatles. Beatles second mention today. We're speaking about the Beatles today. Shout out.

39:55Sophia Tuxford: Shout out. It's going to be Bon Jovi. I was going to say it's giving the guy Justin from Off Campus. It's so... Josh. Josh. Yes. It so is. It really is. picture guitar shaggy hair picture guitar stage thrifted shirt yes you know gorgeous cool dude cool very cool right so let's see how our Sarah's been enamoured good word we're not playing the word game at the moment otherwise I might have pulled you up on that enamoured by Brian hi girls and blueberry oh blueberry's at home right now she's with my mum and dad she's in good hands I've been a fan for years Ever since the drunk videos in Angie's kitchen That's where Blueberry is right now She really is Always full circle with us Love you so much I really need your advice on a dating dilemma So I had a toxic relationship that ended two years ago And I spent a long time healing Good Since then I've mostly had casual dating experiences Last October I moved to Australia living the life aren't you your lucky thing in our other lives we moved to australia in our in our other lives we went to australia when we were 18 in our gap year and we were like oh this is not the sun is shining and i genuinely genuinely i really really do think we probably would have stayed for three or four years i think we'd be back by now i guess depending what happened in life to england yeah yeah but i think if we went when we were 18 we would have been and got a little job we would be like yeah it was a whole lifestyle shift it would have been we would have done a little stint yeah but i can i can only imagine it's so hard to leave Australia and move back to England.

42:00It's completely worlds apart. Yeah. But the only thing that will draw you back is your family. Family, yeah. So I moved to Australia last October and have felt more confident, happy and secure than ever. Oh, that makes me so happy for you, Sarah. Australia will do that to you, won't it? I travelled for three... Oh, God. Oh, the yochi. Honestly, it's projected into my veins. I travelled for three months and then ended up settling down. In January, I met a guy We'll call him Brian Okay He's a surfer Of course he is He's a singer in a band He plays a guitar He fixes cars He is so hot He's wicked sweet Wicked sweet Wait what's the actual line?

42:44He plays guitars He fixes cars He plays guitars He is so hot

42:50Sophia Tuxford: Wicked sweet And then what did we see on the motorway? He He He he built my keys he built my keys he fixes cars he plays guitars in australia he builds my keys guys we were crying about this one line for fucking three weeks he builds my keys he plays guitars he is so hot wicked sweet because a van said he fixes my keys and I was like he thinks he builds more keys he builds more keys he plays the keys he's so nasal he builds more keys he is so hot wicked sweet we need to bring back wicked sweet wicked sweet wicked sweet that was fucking hilarious we need to bring that back wicked sweet he is wicked sweet no but like I want to start using that in my conversation he is wicked sweet right so So here he is.

43:54He's a surfer, lead singer in a band and completely my type. Love it. He sounds, this is so off campus. This is so off campus. You know, like I've never met a surfer who's a lead singer in a band. No, I've never met a lead singer in a band. No, like a lead singer in a band is iconic. Iconic. Like we're talking Beatles status. Like what do you mean like you're in a band? You're so cool. What do you mean you serve? And he's just like tuning his Who is?

44:28Sophia Tuxford: Cody, yeah, true Of course, we've met Cody But we've not been in romance With a lead singer With a lead singer of a band And imagine he's just there like Yeah, like I'm with the band, you know Imagine he's just like tuning his Like tuning it Like, you know, it's just like I will say though, I do find the singing a little bit awkward True true like i wouldn't really an intimate like when hannah plays the guitar to gareth it's not my favorite moment i know but think imagine you fall in love with this guy anything he's gonna do you're gonna swoon you're gonna think it's the best thing ever are we swimming at that though i think we would if we were if we ordered feelings i think we would i do i think we i think we think it was a cherry on top I think we would yeah we think it was talent I do especially if it could hold the tune yeah and if it was good we'd be thinking let's call Simon Cowell about girls then I'd be really like wow yeah you bust wide open it's an ocean fuck it up on these beautiful lyrics thank you Blast it's an ocean thank you for describing me in such a beautiful way remember when Blast followed us oh my god that's like T-Law we love Blast Yeah Right So we've established He's a dreamboat Basically What are you going to say We've established He's a drug dealer A dreamboat He deals I forgot on the side He deals cars He fixes marquees He fixes marquees Right So also We've seen an image of him He is gorgeous Yeah Honestly He's giving Samba In the best way Love We're Samba-renos We're Somberinos to our core.

46:18Sophia Tuxford: How many Instagram followers do you have? We're Somberinos. I love Somber. Right. So, he's completely my type. We're enamored by him. Yeah. Enamored. Enamored. Second time mentioned. It felt like a one night stand from a movie. Instant chemistry. Bike ride home. Cool. Oh, actually, I rode him like a bike on the way home. I rode him like a bike I was like yeah so you know this is the movie like we were snogging or something we like rode our bikes home yeah love it first kiss in the rain and incredible sex wow we went back to our normal lives but also kept in contact this was the guy you met traveling Australia so we met him but we'd we've put roots in this spot we met him we had a one night stand but it felt like it was from a movie it was incredible got it and we just kept in contact i'm happy for you and it was but it was casual but it rocked our world we both know we had a great night yeah he lives quite far away from my town so i don't didn't think i'd see him again okay continue dot dot dot she said a couple of weeks later i was set up with a guy let's call him steve at one of his gigs he's also in a band girl how are you finding the musician magnet they love you the musician magnet wow you must just be like your aura must just be as well you know i think i think sarah must just look like a lady who's like had multiple songs written about her do you know what i mean like just sparkly eyes you know yellow haze yeah that yellow haze yeah yeah wow so okay so you've been a free spirit you know what Steve is Brian's rival I bet This is a fucking movie Oh my god This is a movie It's an off campus spin off isn't it So right we've been set up with Steve At his gigs We're at Steve's gig We've been set up He's in a band Not the lead singer but he's in a band She said look another movie situation We met on Valentine's Day He got me up on the main stage And took me to another gig Is this actually real life?

48:41Sophia Tuxford: This is what they're doing in Australia Wow Gigs, lead singers, snogging, sex Backstage Rock and roll Rock, sex and rock and roll Most importantly, cigarettes, sex, drugs And rock and rock Cigarettes, sex

49:02Cigarettes Cigarettes I feel like we've never had a cigarette in our lives Cigarettes Sex Sex Sex Rock and roll I just smacked me to it Rock and roll What do you love? Six and sex Where two penal joys in life After I moved to Australia Six and sex Six, surf and sex The triple S Oh no it's CSS The CSS Well I like to call it the CSS Six, surf and sex

49:39but that free spirit life will do it to you I can only imagine what that Sierra does it's going to do it to you

49:49Sophia Tuxford: yeah the ashwagandha life the cosmic the cosmic oats the cosmic oats the cosmic oats on the beach with Siggy and a what a sax a little bit of rock and roll walking out how do we have a moon right so it's a movie we're on the main stage wow this is giving like this is story is giving back at another gig what's that what's that what's that called like a fan fiction yeah yeah yeah like this is like a dream yeah like we're a gig we're cool low-wise jeans you know like cool vintage like yeah yeah i've got skinny scarf on do you know what i mean yeah i've got layered truncety necklaces yeah truncety necklace my hair's just like messy but it looks good yeah yeah yeah yeah like smudged eyeliner but i'm so cool and grunge it looks good i've got like yeah black nail polish but yeah yeah yeah i'm cool i'm effortless I love it I can see it right now and like the singers love it these boys are just falling at our feet yeah so it was a movie we're on the main stage he took me to another gig and that night ended up back at mine so this is with Steve this is Steve he booked dinner for our first date and before you know it two months went by and we were seeing each other everything was going so well so I thought okay so now we're seeing Steve he you know at planned dates we took things to the next level lovely Steve sounds really nice I like the vibe of Steve Me too Like we had that crazy Like drugs and sex night And sex and sex And surfs Yeah But he still But then he took us On a proper date And like we got there One night I was on Instagram And he posted a photo dump Wait Who Steve So one night I was on I was on Instagram And he posted a photo dump His ex featured Not only in one But multiple pictures Steve Steve.

51:54Oh. In what world is that happening Steve mate? You are fucking joking me mate. Wait. Are these old, where do these pics come from? That you're hanging out with her now? Yeah. Oh.

52:05Sophia Tuxford: Right. March. So I guess, sorry. So I guess, I guess look, we're not official yet. We have just been seeing each other for two months. Well maybe, maybe you're realising, oh, your ex is in your friendship group. Right. You're so cool. yes yes yes yes yes yes yes yes yes yes yes yes yes yes your ex is actually your mate yes and you're actually thinking hmm i'm not sure i'm okay with that oh well look she's saying the photos were from a holiday six months prior which made me realize he wasn't over her isn't he but what that's so disrespectful to me that's really weird that's really weird so unnecessary but also like surely the ex is going to think that's weird that you're now getting around to posting these pictures from six months ago we're not together she also commented saying quotes i wish i was there right now sorry what the hell is going on here what is steve's like giving like mates well it's giving that like that doors are completely open yeah yeah yeah it's giving open relationship yeah we're still giving like you guys are still completely like together like this is not x vibes you're not commenting on your ex we're still very much in touch we're still very friendly you still probably reply heart eyes to my story yeah it's giving yeah i'm not the only good in the world yeah it's giving if we saw each other on a night out we'd probably go home together yeah definitely yeah because it's familiar definitely definitely definitely yes so she's like sorry what what the fuck yeah the next night i was invited to an event that one of steve's steve's friend friends had invited me to nice i didn't want to let her down and she has now become a friend of mine i was hoping i wouldn't run into steve because i didn't want to talk about it after a few drinks.

53:46Okay, so you've not addressed this with Steve yet. You're just thinking, kind of fuck you. Yeah, yeah, yeah. I not only ran into Steve. Guess who else I ran into? I ran into Brian. Brian and his band were on the main stage. This is the perfect way to get back at Steve. Yes. It's like perfect. Yes.

54:10Sophia Tuxford: Like, oh, my other man is on the main stage tonight. You were on stage B? Yeah, at like 4pm. This is the main stage, 11pm. I'm going to be supporting my man on the main stage. Definitely. As the supporting act. I'm going to go backstage. I guess I'll see you guys tomorrow. I'm with the band. AAA. So she's saying that I was shocked, to say the least, because I did not expect to see him there. Meant to be. Let alone both of them in the same room. It's giving rom-com, seriously. This is like insane. It's giving off-campus like episode six. This is insane. Episode seven. I was distant with Steve and stayed with my girls.

54:51Nice. Brian ended up finishing his set and coming straight over to me to chat. What a king. Yeah.

54:59Sophia Tuxford: Sarah, who are you? Your aura must just be magical. Yeah, she's glowing. She is just, the mystery is amazing. And listen, she handles it so well. She says, I kept it very cool. Of course you do. Slightly flirty. Sarah I don't doubt you for one second I know you did She said but I also knew I was technically still seeing Steve Obviously they've not addressed things You know The same night me and Steve ended up having it out Over the Instagram situation Not what you wanted but bound to happen We never had a conversation About being exclusive but it was pretty obvious Where things were going I explained that it hurt me And I had no idea why he would have done that He said everything that a girl would want to hear and ended up back at mine.

55:42Right. So he just knew what to say. Shit, shit, shit, shit, shit. I forgive you. Kiss, kiss, kiss. Yeah, yeah, yeah. Girls, I'm going to be honest. I didn't stand on business as I should have. Look, we've all been there. We've all been there. They're saying the right things. Yeah. And it works. It's hard sometimes to stand on business. So that night he said he wanted me to meet all of his friends and actually wanted to take us seriously. So I agreed to meet them the next day after work. He told me to ring him when I finished work. So I did. I got no answer. Immediately, I knew he wasn't going to follow through.

56:13Ah, so he was just chatting.

56:14Sophia Tuxford: Oh, shit. This guy. So he was like, oh, please, I want to be with you. Like, meet my friends. Like, meet them after work. You're ringing him. He's not even answering. So I texted him, cancelling. And then he rang me straight away and said he already had other plans. Fuck you. Who the fuck are you? What? Who the fuck are you? You made plans for me first. What? So my gut was right. He was still giving me all the talk. Yeah, no action. No action A few days later I reached out Asking him what his plans were For the weekend And got kind of a blunt response After that He went ghost Fuck Steve What a knob ad He went ghost Are you joking Go write a song about that then Steve You prick That was the enemy And Steve Definitely That was the enemy And Steve What the fuck That was two months ago now Okay Right And we haven't crossed paths since I ran into Brian At another game Here we go Same thing again.

57:11Movie-like situation. This time I really wanted to go for it again. Absolutely. Steve's not fucking around. He's out the picture. Brian clearly wants me. It's like a bedtime story for us. Not bad. I really wanted to go for it again. Absolutely, Sarah. I didn't end up running into him at the end of the gig. So I felt like that was the universe saying it wasn't meant to be. I kept thinking about Brian. even though it's only been brief encounters. I feel ready for a relationship, but dating feels exhausting and I keep ending up in casual situations. True and true. And all of Brian's signals were just like, it was that one night, bit of chit chat.

57:55And that's kind of, I want something serious, but I'm struggling to move beyond chemistry and build a real connection.

58:06Sophia Tuxford: I mean, chemistry is vital. definitely so like you there's no shame on chemistry like you you i think you need chemistry i think you have chemistry with someone or you don't i think it's like an almost instant thing and i don't i don't know if you can make it if you've not got it and also like so i do think chemistry is really important definitely definitely definitely um but i also think like some of these boys we can't predict whether they're going to want to take us seriously or not or proper takers on dates and want to build a connection yeah or not like do you know what i mean it's like steve had steve was a crazy side quest like that hot and cold was mental because a lot of boys get like they they like the kind of girlfriend experience they get like two months it's like oh this is lovely some days yeah yeah some consistent sex someone to see at the weekends and then when it gets to the point where it's like oh well i like what are you doing like when they do something that they would usually do single and they get called out on it i.e.

59:10what's happened with steve then he goes ghost and freaks out and just and pushes you away and and that's unfortunately a lot that happens a lot of the time it does yeah and it's like how are we meant to predict that's going to happen we can't but then it's giving it all the talk all the talk all the

59:26Sophia Tuxford: talk yeah but then it's like what you've got with brian which we've said a lot of times before so won't really say it again but because you've only had such a small experience of brian i think you have romanticized him big time in your head like we have already only just reading it so that's also the problem i can't stop thinking about brian like we don't even really know brian yeah we've just had an amazing short experience you know yeah so she's saying look look look i've given so i'm thinking about baren i'm thinking about brian but i've given myself two months before dating anyone after the steve to regroup smart i like that that's wicked right we've got one more that's wicked sweet i feel like steve really knocked my confidence a little bit yeah because you kind of got excited about steve and we got a bit hopeful and we thought oh actually i think i've got something serious yeah and then he just completely did a 180 and it's like it's like oh for a guy to switch up so quickly or just for something so shocking like his ex like him posting his ex to happen it's like so out of the blue yeah and it's really like oh i thought we like it it's scary i feel i feel embarrassed i feel stupid yeah because it's like okay so what am i meant to do this all over again with another guy yeah invest for two months to then just get something else like weird like this to happen and then and then they just disappear and they don't care it's just like it is exhausting it makes you feel shit so yeah i can understand steve really not my confidence a little bit but i've had another guy enter the picture again it's just casual though okay and obviously we want a deeper connection how do i keep getting into these situations and not actually finding someone i could build something with i was finding casual fun but now i think it's starting to get me get to me that it's only temporary everyone said to me before moving to australia that i would find the man of my dreams um i'm afraid i've romanticized brian so much that i think he is the man of my dreams but realistically i know he's not and my real brian is out there somewhere i just need to stop running into brian i've attacked pics of me brian and steve oh my fucking god these are two different men i thought they were the same man wait these boys are two different boys brian oh my god i thought this was one with a haircut they are literally the same font right this is brian yeah this is the one she likes yeah yeah yeah yeah and then this is steve i mean actually handsome yeah pretty handsome right so let's just say like we've got ourselves into and sarah obviously you're glowing i understand why all these musicians want a piece oh polka dot princess yeah like stunning like glowing from with it she's got those curls down yeah incredible I understand so she's kind of saying like I've got myself into another something casual but I don't want these casual affairs anymore I think you just have to set out your intentions in the beginning and say I'm looking for something serious is that going to scare away a boy?

1:02:25I don't know but then someone who is also seeking that won't be scared and will stick around and will want to explore a connection with you because he wants to get deep as do you and won't be scared by that so do you know and then that's how you're gonna find your person yeah because i feel like everything kind of starts off like well i don't know like one day it's kind of casual another day casual like i don't know i think it's so how do you avoid being in something casual i don't know you set out your intentions and what you're looking for and you i think you have to communicate and say hi nice to meet you i'm not looking for anything casual seriously i'm looking for a serious relationship i'm looking for a serious relationship yeah how do you feel about that then they're either gonna go oh i'm not looking for that right now okay lovely to see lovely to meet you off you go yeah before we start having sex for two months yeah do you know what best you leave now than before we've had sex for two months i'll show you the door i guess and the ones who were like oh i'm actually really interested in a serious relationship too let's see where this can go will then not be afraid when you say that sarah i think that's the only way around it just got to like say that what are you looking for what are you looking for oh just you know i've kind of just got out of a serious relationship not looking for something too serious on like date one night one yeah yeah oh okay i am yeah i am after a boyfriend and relationship

1:03:52Sophia Tuxford: because i don't think it's a difference i don't think it's a case of like not sleeping with people no because i think that doesn't change anything that doesn't change anything i think you can sleep with someone on date one and they can be your husband so you can so i don't think that's a case of like oh i need to just only go on a date and then like go home like i don't think i genuinely don't think that's got anything to do with it it's the open communication what you're both looking for yeah and then like he can you can say yeah i'm looking for something serious and so can he and then we can have sex that night yeah that's not going to change anything or maybe you don't even have to say like i'm looking for something serious you could just say something like i'm not looking for casual i'm looking to date like i'm seriously today

1:04:39Sophia Tuxford: we can find a way to word it so that you're not like i'm looking for something super serious because on a date one like you might not want to say that but i think it's just like you could say like oh well i'm just really like i'm trying to date with a lot of intention right now like i'm dating for the sake of it and i'm not dating to be casual maybe why don't you say that i think i'm not dating to be casual yeah i do love having a boyfriend i love having a person there yes and i'm a i'm a relationship kind of girl yeah and this is what i'm looking for yeah i love being in love i love love how does that make you feel brian if he's like well i'm just looking okay goodbye then yeah i am not afraid to see you go because that's not what i'm looking for and i'm securing that you know and also like I think you know really noticing like a guy's energy on like that second meet up that third meet up and if you are starting to feel like oh okay nothing's being planned he just wants to see me at the end of the night or he's asked if I'm going to be out tonight and where I'm going to be and if you're sort of getting a little bit of that behavior where it's like low effort a bit last minute a little bit like oh yeah i think i'll be there like just super then yeah then i would also be like i'd have your like alarm bells ringing a little bit being like okay maybe sarah stay away from the musicians for a while maybe that's what it is it's this gig life the gig life you know he's saying yeah come to my day on the road i'll come to my i'll see you after the gig we'll have a drink after the gig because they're not sleeping after the gig they're wired they're up and he's thinking okay what female can I entertain this evening after my gig yes maybe it's a lifestyle maybe it's a musician thing right now seriously maybe we just swear off musicians for the rest of the year and see how that goes seriously experiment with that yeah do a test run but I appreciate that's your type I appreciate that musicians is your type

1:06:46Sophia Tuxford: oh my god right from hinge to h m p what's the h m p jins at prison i mean am i wrong isn't h mp you're heading to the prison there you go her majesty of course right her majesty's prison help i'm in love with a tattooed offshore man who may or may not whisper have whispered i love you mid thrust whoa and now is it hmp whoo here we go i stumbled across the podcast very randomly one evening while violently stripping wallpaper off my living room i did not know what was about to be said she's a very new listener welcome for being here sarah welcome on him i love that i met my brian in july of 2025 on hinge he is 36 i am 24 she said please put your pitchforks down temporarily we are listening we are all ears open eyes let's see what's front of me he works offshore on oil rigs and is covered Are we in Australia again?

1:07:57Sophia Tuxford: No, we have oil rigs offshore here. Oh. Which unfortunately for me is exactly my type. Yeah. Like genuinely built in a lab to ruin my life. Meanwhile, I'm a corporate legal career girlie with a fresh mortgage, a color-coded outlook calendar and abandonment issues. Wow. I mean, yeah, you've got it all together. Yeah, we've got our script. We matched on a Friday morning on Hinge, chatted all day. that evening i drove into the city for a night out with my friends parked my car at my office and proceeded to get absolutely mortal now this man drove down to that night just to meet me after my night out in a pretty bougie hotel too nice and girls from that moment on we were attached at the hip yeah the entire weekend until the monday morning okay the chemistry was outrageous immediate electric can't keep your hands off each other type of chemistry the sexual tension was so intense i'm surprised nearly buildings didn't lose power and the sex honestly my apple watch should have contacted emergency services i burned more calories that weekend than i have in any gym class i've ever attended i'm talking positions that required core strength flexibility and potentially legal representation.

1:09:17Sophia Tuxford: Sarah. Wow. You're a wordsmith, Sarah. I am not usually a one night stand kind of girl, but this man had me acting like a woman in a perfume advert. Wow. Wow. We kept seeing each other over the next few months. And during this time, I actually bought my first house. Congratulations. So he weirdly became a part of that chapter too. Helped me celebrate you know first dinners on the floor like without sofas all the cute new domestic keys really happy he supported you through that then he went offshore at first everything was fine but near the end of his trip he suddenly started taking like a day or two to reply to me which is the oh here we go like this was weird because we've been speaking constantly before that the switch up is like sends shivers down my spine even now it's like scary stuff yeah now ladies offshore workers still get breaks evenings downtime so while i was sat there anxiously checking my phone like a victorian widow waiting for war letters

1:10:23Sophia Tuxford: yeah i could see this man was active on instagram liking bikini pics oh like sorry babe shouldn't you be investing in ices your pension and moisturizer instead of double tapping 22 year old yeah one morning after being left on red for two days i snapped and blocked him on everything except text very emotionally involved evolved behavior from me he tried texting me a few times after this but i ignored him for months i mean good well done he disrespected you yeah absolutely you're not just gonna ignore me and you know get away with it yeah then in january this year unfortunately i folded like a deck chair exactly god the way this is rain is crazy 10 56 one random evening i sent the most dangerous text a woman can send hi this man replies in two minutes with so scary how's you so scary how quickly they respond like after such silence yeah and suddenly we were right back where we left off shit the next weekend he came to my house and stayed all weekend and instantly it was like nothing had changed same chemistry same connection same attraction same tattooed man wandering around my kitchen shirtless making coffee like he pays the mortgage that was january and since then we've basically become long distance boyfriend and girlfriend right he comes down nearly every weekend from friday to monday when is he off to prison we send each other constant voice notes every single day always chatting always spamming each other when he was offshore for six weeks this time around the communication was perfect we discussed the instagram likes and i have now not seen a single name on a single post good at one point when he was offshore he literally messaged me i can't wait to come back and see my princess nice okay so you're feeling much more confident this time around also like you address that issue that kind of separated you yes he's actually apologized took action not done it again and you've noticed a change in behavior communication's been up like that's all good however there is one small issue and by small issue i mean pending fraud case which is objectively not ideal when pursuing long-term partnership right so he's going to prison for fraud well he's he's going to court for fraud yeah so he could he could get off be taken down or he could get yeah he could get off in my defense he's hot the chemistry is outrageous and i fear i could fix him oh that's dangerous before anyone panics from what i understand it's not some wolf of wall street billion pound scam it was apparently smaller scale and a long time ago that's what he's telling you though sarah isn't it do you know what i mean of course it's the vague details you know it's a vague yeah he's gonna say look small scale years ago don't worry i don't do that these days you know on the offshore everyone does it was nothing yeah it was nothing i was 18 i was 18 you know what i mean anyway last week during bank holiday weekend we both got drunk together and somehow ended up accidentally having the conversation or almost having it out of nowhere he asked me what are we which shocked me because he is emotionally reserved to the point where getting him to discuss feelings feels like interrogating a government witness i basically replied well it's been three months so you should know what you want by now nice because unfortunately i communicate through reverse psychology and emotional welfare welfare he then said i've been single for a very long time sarah i do really like you with court and everything going on it's hard so he's literally wriggling his way out of this relationship he did then say on court i would miss you though why did that sentence emotionally assassinate me i immediately burst into tears that's just yeah he's literally saying like yeah like i like you like i'll miss you but like i'm not that bothered i've got other things going on like he's literally saying you're not that important so they were drunk at the time they were having this conversation yeah so they went and had sex whoa so during sex this man suddenly asks do you love me so naturally under the influence of tequila adrenaline and several orgasms i said yes i love you brian now here is where things get blurry i am 90 sure this man said i love you too but i cannot prove it i keep replaying the memory in my head like cctv footage from crime from crime watch evidence then after sex he goes so you love me and i said yeah i love you do you love me and the man has the audacity to downgrade his reply to i really like you okay yeah my soul has left my body i'm physically sick the next morning we don't speak about it stay two more nights sure am i being impatient or is this man emotionally constipated does he love me and panic when it comes to actually saying it's sober is he scared because of the court case is he just moving slowly because he's older and has been single for ages do you see like we're making excuses for him already like he's we've we've said i love you it's literally beck and danny from maths australia oh my god it's beck and danny she's like i love you he's like oh thank you i really like you too strongly he doesn't want to be with her he doesn't want to be with her doesn't want to be it's literally the same thing still keeping you around enough so it's like oh yeah she'll stick around she'll stick around as long as i say i like her and all of this when i'm with him it feels so real easy comfortable domestic i genuinely look at this man sleeping beside me and i feel complete but equally if a 36 year old man doesn't know by now should i be worried do i bring it up again if yes how in person over text casually um please help because i don't know whether a this man is in love with me and emotionally terrified b he's taking things slow because of the court case c he's emotionally constipated or d about three days away from becoming somebody's prison pen pal please help he's a clear case of i just don't want a girlfriend do you yeah do you reckon i mean i think if you were behavior from before yeah i'm just scrolling back up on the dilemma and i'm just remembering what it how it all started you know the the the the days to reply yeah the you know i mean to me this man sounds like a man with a roster yeah and i'm just worried that you're not the only one on it right now and i feel like you know i saw this tiktok the day and it was this girl being like uh my uh like little links being like really quiet with me like his other option must be like on her best behavior right now and it was like so you know when he's a bit quiet with you it's like oh she must be doing something great right now because i'm getting the quiet treatment and then when like you guys are really good she's i don't know maybe not that could just be completely false but i do think you shouldn't have to beg for anyone to love you shouldn't have to be dissecting someone's behavior as this like we're having to sit there i think and we're thinking oh yeah maybe it's because the court case and we're already thinking of excuses room whereas we really so many excuses too many yeah i think if he liked us if he loved us as we do him we'd know we'd be happy we'd feel it feel it we'd feel comfortable and confident we wouldn't be asking any of we wouldn't have to be bringing it up again and he disrespected us yeah you know like he's got he's saying and also sarah you are so young so gorgeous this man's 36 you've got your shit together i'm possibly going to prison like you don't even want to be associated to this man you've got your shit together you have and i think we've given it a second go with him because you know he's a lure you know he's charming gift of the gab yeah we've had this crazy chemistry however he has shown he's proven twice now he is not capable of committing yeah and like asking you to be his girlfriend he's not capable of it he's 36 you would think he would know by now yes i want to be with you sarah and make that abundantly clear to you but he is not and we have to really see his actions and his words and take them at face value and not believe his lies and bullshit you know he's wiggling his way out of everything and we're kind of believing it you know we're making we're making the excuses for him have a girlfriend because of the court case of course you can have a girlfriend yeah if you really wanted to if you know of course you could he's got time but I think he's doing you I think you're dodging a huge bullet me too I think this man is actually doing you a huge favour by not actually being like yes I love you so much please marry me because I think this guy is going to drag you down like you're we can do so much better we can do so much better I think take this man put him in the like fun time box not in they're like life partner box like you've got so much ahead of you you've had some great sex with this guy you've had some crazy memories some crazy stories great positive yeah leave it on a high you'll tell your mates about this forever and ever like it always it will always be like one of your stories yeah great let's move on now because agree we shouldn't be begging for anyone's love we shouldn't be questioning did he say it did he not no oh i'm gonna say it how do you not say it back like yeah making all these excuses for really a man who is 36 possibly going to prison can't even communicate his feelings yeah you want a man who can communicate his feelings and can tell you boldly how he feels yeah and makes you feel loved not confused how you're feeling right now i don't want you to feel like that when you're like with your life person he's not your life person and i think stand on business say look actually this has been fun yeah i've opened up now i think you've actually been feeding me bullshit all this time yeah and i need a man who's going to commit to me that's what i deserve that's what i want i told you i loved you you didn't care goodbye yeah like goodbye and and and stick to it and you've got no more like what ifs because yeah you said that text yeah you said hi you know you went back you had your second go on the roller coaster you've ended up basically back where you were the first time nothing's changed and it's like he'll only do that again and again until we finally realise yeah so I think let's get off now let's move on before he rips our heart into even more pieces to be honest and we're doing conjugal visits yeah absolutely yeah yeah before we're pregnant with this child right yeah seriously right well it is midnight here in Italy I think this has been I mean like I'm about we could just snooze right here yeah I'm about to crash out guys my bedtime is 9pm this is late for me okay right now so i'm sorry for maybe some low energy on my end she had an apple spree strange my head um but we have had i've had a lovely time here tonight me too i've thoroughly enjoyed episode from bed always my favorite comfy always my favorite i'm like okay no commute no makeup no bra yeah perfect oh it's horizontal close your eyes love it close your eyes oh my I'm going to fall asleep.

1:22:25What just not be able to fall asleep actually now? We're going to be too wired. The heaviness in the brow is fantastic. And we're going to have sweet dreams to you also. We love you so much. If you're at the gym, keep going.

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