Valentine's Special: No room at the love lodge!?

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1:30Yeah. But like. Well obviously it's St. Valentine. Who made this? Yeah. I think we've had this conversation probably. And what did he do Sophia? Don't know. What did he do for love? He must have. He was someone of love. Should we just Google it? We probably have done this before. I think we've Googled this. I think we Google this annually to be honest. Who is. Like what did he do for love? He was probably just. Like did he declare? The Pope's friend. Right. Just his mate. Do you know what I mean though? Because then he gets. He was just a priest. So what's he got to do with love? He was released in 270 AD and he was just celebrated as a patron saint of love.

2:05Like it should be Romeo and Juliet's day, you know? I know. Why is it Valentine's Day? There's actually a new Romeo and Juliet coming to the Western that I do want to go see. Oh, wow. We should go see it. I would love to go and see that. Yeah. That's a big shoes to fill though. With a famous lady who we know. Okay, famous lady, nice. Yeah. So I do think we should go watch that. I would love to go and see that. I will never forget. I think I will say that that is... Is that your favorite film? My favorite film. Wow. Not that I watch it. Yeah, I don't think I've watched it since like teenhood. Yeah, because it's too much.

2:37Yeah. It's just the tears and the tears and the tears. We've told the story a million times, but we'll never forget when we were watching it at school and we were getting through like, what, 15 minutes of class? Because we'd have to learn from it and then get a bit of movie reward. What would they do to do like, oh, we're just watching the next, like we've got 15 minutes left of the class, we're going to watch the next 15 minutes of the film. I think we were reading it. Right. We were reading it. And it was like, right, we're going to watch this. We must have been reading it. We're going to watch what we've read, you know?

3:00Yeah, yeah, yeah. And it was like that, like long in and out. And then we were like, oh, come on, miss. Well, we need to know what happens at the end of Romeo and Juliet. Yeah. So then we had a sleepover and we watched it. And it was our first real experience of a sad ending. And just like pure heartbreak. Because any film we'd watched up until that point was happy ending. It's always a happy ending. Which means it's a sad ending. We didn't know such a thing existed. No, we didn't know that that was such a thing. We thought he was, so what happens? He killed, she. She pretends to be dead with the sleeping pill.

3:30Oh, no, no, no, wait. She takes it. He pretends to be dead. One second. She runs in and she thinks he's dead. No, his is wearing... No, he's asleep. His is wearing off. He's not actually dead. Yeah. She sees the poison. No, but doesn't she dagger? No, she thinks she's... This is your favorite film, babes. One of them thinks the other one is dead, but they're not. They're just poison themselves. And then they take the vial. And then they stab them. she daggers she daggers but he's and then he wakes up and sees her daggers and sees her daggers or it's vice versa something like that something like and we were like oh my god we thought it would at least be like he'd wake up and stop her or something yeah we thought he could heal the stab wound or something or you know a true love's kiss could just heal the stab wound but we were wrong no that was really awful maybe we should watch it again in 2026 I would like to it's just heavy it's heavy because you know what also was heavy beat hamlet watched that yesterday oh yeah so really so sad heavy just really just it's just pure sadness and i think it was a happy ending um but i didn't really know the story of hamlet and they performed that at the end um would you recommend it i would if you want a good cry no I don't it was good to release some things though sometimes you do just need to like get it out I had to cry through the day I don't need a film to bring it out dead silent I can imagine everyone was affected everyone's affected it was really good I actually do recommend it and Paul Mescal was amazed yeah I mean you know if it's on a plane sometimes I might give it a watch yes it's such a good plane film yeah don't know if I'm gonna take myself to this but you never know I still wanna see Housemaid I'm waiting for Wuthering Heights.

5:20A few days. Yes. That's what I'm in the spirit for. Wuthering Heights. Yeah. Yeah. I'm excited for that. So we're going to go to that. So happy V Day. But happy Galentine's Day. Happy Galentine's Day. Blueberry. Well, Galentine's Day is in a few days. Yeah. Blueberry's my, oh, oh. Hello, Blueberry. Blueberry's my Valentine this year. Absolutely. I should get her a little Valentine's jumper or something. Yeah, like a little love bug. You know. Yes, a little lady love bug for my little booby, blue, blue. So we thought today, it's not really girl talk. It's not really boy talk. It's just love talk.

5:49good valentine's dilemmas we have so we're going to utilize this and collate the evidence once a year doesn't it absolutely should we do our question absolutely at least you've got red nails it's very fitting true i really do like these yeah we should have done a red lip for the occasion oh wow yeah my favorite okay so speaking of blueberry being your valentine Valentine's Day plans. Our question of the week is, what's the most unhinged Valentine's Day plans you've ever made? Do you remember years and years and years and years ago? Okay. When that boy was like, he said to me, and he was like, why don't we like, he wanted to book a hotel and go and see Fifty Shades of Grey.

6:38Do you remember? I don't think you told me this at the time. Yes. It's definitely a secret you kept. No, no, no. You know this story. very first boy oh my god and he was like that one and he was like like do you want to go and remember we spoke about it we were like that's fucking weird and we never and i was like oh my god i don't think i clung on to yeah you you were there we had that book a hotel for valentine's day and go and watch 50 shades of gray yes at the cinema or like stream it at the cinema oh okay i thought he meant like play in the hotel no and i was like okay yes yes yes yes yes got you remember And that was for Valentine's Day because it was Valentine's Day.

7:14Obviously, it came out on Valentine's Day, right? It must have, yeah. Yeah, and I was like, what is, I was like, we're 18. Like, whoa. No. I mean, at least he made an effort. True, at least there was a plan. There was a plan of some sort. Yes, true. But that's pretty unhinged. Right? Like, going to watch 50 Shades. Remember him? I remember our mums all going, did our mums go and watch it together? Did they? My mum went with her mates. And she was probably there. Maybe. They all went to watch it. Oh, I bet they did little kinky freaks. Yeah. What was the most unhinged Valentine's Day planned? Okay Going out clubbing with my girls Even though I had a boyfriend Love that Support that If anything like love that Sumo wrestling Nice Let out the aggression Crashed a romantic Valentine's date As the other girl And told her everything Love that Wait so You were the other girl She was on her Valentine's date with her boyfriend Wow Support that switching gears here alpaca trekking this is funny you know because it's all about doing unique whatever stuff I actually had a friend want oh what are we saying that they're doing this with a boy with their partner sorry I think so yeah oh I thought she was just going off and alpaca trekking and thinking I didn't care about video on a solo date one of our friends boyfriend adopted an alpaca for her for Valentine's Day because she loves alpacas oh that's really nice yeah that's reminding me of that that's really lovely booked a table next to my bestie and her boy love that for you guys that for the moral support i went on a breakfast lunch and dinner date with three separate men nice we like you've just got to play the game sometimes yes i like that that's so handy as well because all one day you can really compare notes yes you can really see who had the best vibe yeah and you will really leave the day with a lasting of impression of one of them do you know what i mean but you'll be like overwhelming to be like oh well i definitely had more fun with alex do you know what I mean?

9:05maybe he was the dinner though does he get a head start because it's dinner and drinks maybe not necessarily because a breakfast can be vibey yeah breakfast can be vibey you know as we know Mamma Mia was playing this morning yeah absolutely do you know what I mean? so a breakfast and also like it's the morning like yeah I'm feeling fresh you know makeup's fresh everything's fresh yeah I'm probably looking the best I'm also hungry yes I'm ready to indulge yeah lunch I'd say would be the deadest a bit flat because it's just like I've got another day late time in between yeah magic mic very nice we know it well we should hit that up you know soon it's probably been about need a bit of serotonin in my life we do our annual visit i love it went to amsterdam with the guy i liked from work came home in a couple wow i like that get it girl went on a blind dating show love that shit i got my family friend to pick me up in his aston martin so i could take pretend date pics.

9:58Nice little selfie in the astronaut. I'm trying to think of an unhinged Valentine's Day. Can't really think of one. No one's invited me to a hotel to watch Fifty Shades of Grey. No, I know. That's pretty iconic. I'm trying to think of any Valentine's Day. I've never had like really a significant, maybe like one significant Valentine's Day, but it should be Valentine's Day every day. Okay. Went on a first date. I support, I think that's quite nice. no not for me yeah i mean i mean but it but it could be like oh and then if it led somewhere there's a story you know but imagine matching with someone on like bumble and then being like do you want to go out on valentine's absolutely fucking not but but we might have a really good time yeah we might drunken kisses yeah you know yeah i mean going out to watch all the valentine's day diners is great and i didn't tell you yeah so me and brian went out for dinner on friday it was perfect because who sat next to us first day first day and we both looked at each other and brian was like this is a first date and i was like oh my fucking god it's a first date and uh it was oh i don't know if i was feeling it for them really were they not it was probably really awkward that they had sophia tooks for dinner shots no no because they were fake it was actually really nice because we had a little table and then they had their they were at the bar next to us right so they had their backs to us but obviously they were facing they dining at the bar yeah i mean she barely ate a thing i thought i bet you're fucking ravenous like she wanted to eat that cheesecake first date it's like uh no what is it with him why didn't you order that but he was like trying that's what we're there for he was trying wines and i was like why don't you let her choose and he was like i like this one i was like oh first mistake like who cares what if i saw a man sipping wines no what's wrong with that no what to test whatever what it wasn't quite like that but he kept asking the waitress like can i try that one can i try that one but the point was like why aren't you letting her try it oh no blooby and then like he wasn't asking her what she wasn't letting her try no and then he was choosing like what they were gonna eat don't like that well this is yeah a bit strange don't like that because I know she wanted that cheesecake I know and I don't think they had it like that's what we were there for that fucking cheesecake I know and I was just looking at it thinking I'm not sure you're feeling this guy but this guy was really feeling himself I bet he was and it was just so like the way he yapped he thought he'd secured that resume really did he ask her any questions I thought let the girl talk for god's sake did he ask her questions about herself I couldn't hear like oh details every single word but just that just that noise of that man's voice just kept going yeah and then he like reached around and put his hand on her back and then i'm i was actually just eating my food like just watching and we didn't get good vibes we decided in our couple that they weren't a good couple but it's such a shame because i think butaga is such a lovely first date spot it really is it's dim i know it's dim and it's easy eating food yeah i know i will never forget that one date that i witnessed and he was just yes that's what it That's what it made me think of.

13:18Chatting about, and I could hear every single thing that was being said. And I thought, you're a knob. Yeah. But it was fascinating to observe a first date. Yeah. Honestly jealous. And I would like to observe some Valentine's Day diners too. That's why if you've got a hospitality job, the amount of stuff you would see between people. Oh my God, yeah. Arguments. I want to see arguments personally. I want to see someone get from the table and leave. Disagreements. Yeah. Bill qualms. you know like who's got the bill like that would actually give me so much serotonin i mean i hope she liked him but i didn't get that vibe from her she was very much like keeping to herself and he was kind of like leaning over and trying to make a bit of physical touch a bit of physical contact she was i thought you won't stop talking and you won't even let her decide what she wants let her try you're trying to open yeah so not approved by me but it was really enjoyable to want.

14:13I'm jealous. All right we have here nothing. My ex told me to never expect anything on Valentine's Day. Fucker. Just a sad little man really. What a sad little life Jane. What a sad little life Jane. I went to my parents wedding anniversary dinner with them. Oh that's nice. That's cute. They got married on Valentine's Day. Yeah you gotta cherish these memories with your parents. I like that. That's very wholesome. We've got to have dinner then break up with my boyfriend in four years oh so you broke up on the day nice nice dinner wasn't great yeah drove around following my ex on find my friends fair enough sarah yeah um calling and canceling my ex's v-day plans with his new girlfriend that's very so good how did you know what the plans were how did you know how did you know maybe she was logged into something got a i bet she's got an email or something and she got her half fat chance it would have been an open table yeah I've got a table under Brian tonight for two I'd like to cancel that please yes I made a fort in the living room and waited for him in lingerie he didn't like the fort oh that's so fun what a pillow fort I think she built a hammock aww and then she was in the little in the little cove yeah in the cave that's really quite romantic yeah it's like we're little cave men and women yeah animalistic animalistic sent him anonymous positive STD tests to freak him out.

15:44To sabotage. Oh, to sabotage. Or as a prank. Yeah, as a funny prank. Yeah, there must have been sabotage so then he thinks he can't go out and get his willy out. Yes, he can't have sex tonight with his new girl. Got you. Help my ex pack up his apartment to move back to the UK after leaving me. Sarah. That was definitely character building. cancelled on my date last minute so i could go out with someone else i fancied nice nice and that is all of our answers today lovely so it was valentine's day and we're really out of here we're clubbing we're going to amsterdam we're going out packet tracking yeah we'll go to our parents wedding anniversary dinner

16:26just before we get into it quick disclaimer just as we are not doctors we are not professionals we We do not actually know what we are talking about. This is a light-hearted space. Okay. Don't take what we say literally because we could be wrong. Yeah. And if there's anything serious, if there's anything you feel like you're seriously struggling with, please contact a GP, a professional, because that is not us. We're just girls, girls and boys just like you, you know? We're just trying to get through life as well. Not professionals. Enjoy the episode. Enjoy. Okay, we're starting here. Valentine's trip away cancelled because flight's too long.

17:00Okay, so we've got a vacation booked. We're thinking, oh, very nice. I'm thinking if the flight's too long, maybe we were maybe going somewhere slightly warmer. Yes, somewhere further afield. Which we obviously knew how far away it was when it was booked. Yeah, tropical. But as it's on the lead up, you're thinking, nah, flight's too long. So who cancelled that then? I guess we're going to find out. I'm imagining it's him. A little vacation though, very nice. I was seeing a guy before I moved to the other side of the world. Okay. Of course we're down under. And after I moved, he stayed completely consistent.

17:33We spoke every single day and he told me from the start that distance wasn't an issue. Wait a second. She moved to Australia. And he's in England. She moved to the other side of the world. From this man. Yeah. I was seeing a guy before I moved. Got it, got it, got it, got it, got it. After I moved, we're still consistent. We were going to meet in the middle. Anyway. He wanted me and that was that. He said he was in it for the long run and wasn't going to give up on us. We were very much together. Nice. I like that I just moved into a new flat And he was telling me Not to build my furniture Because he'd do it when he got here Oh That's really sweet He sent me money for my nails Made an effort with my best friend Told me I was amazing And that he wanted a future with me Okay Over a month ago He booked a flight to come and see me And planned to be staying for three weeks Nice At my place He was messaging my best friend Asking where's good in our area For Valentine's Day Saying he wanted to make it romantic and special Oh nice And telling me his suitcase had more stuff for me than for him.

18:32Wow. He was really giving it all that bestie where should I take her? Planning, planning, thinking, thinking. Oh, I've got all this stuff for you. I'm bringing my hammer to build your stuff. Because it felt too good to be true, I asked him multiple times if he was definitely coming. Every time he said, unless something serious happens, I'll be there. Why is he even saying that? Four days before the flight, he tells me he's not coming. First excuse. He's anxious and nervous about flying. Fair enough, but that's... We'll take a magnesium and let me sleep. Yeah, like that's no excuse. You know, you're coming to see the love of your life.

19:09Number two, he's not ready for a relationship, needs to delete social media and work on himself. Right, so you're a nervous flyer or are you a commitment to vote? He didn't need to say he was a nervous flyer. Now he's barely speaking to me, which honestly, thank God, because what the fuck? But when he does, he's trying to guilt trip me, saying he has no job, he feels lost, he feels bad for upsetting me, while still doing absolutely nothing to fix what he broke. How does planning a three-week stay, Valentine's Day, and a whole future turn into him cancelling four days before the flight? It sounds like he's met someone to me.

19:48That would be my instinct. You've met someone who's not on the other side of the world. You've given all this talk, talk, talk, talk, talk, and you just can't follow through. And what it's giving to me is he wanted to continue talking to you because you were so far away. So he knew that nothing could really develop that quickly. So if he does have this like fear of relationship phobe, whatever issues, it was like, well, yes, Sarah's in fucking Australia. Like, what are we going to do? And then he got a bit ahead of himself. But oh, yeah, it would actually be quite a good idea to go out for three weeks.

20:20Then got freaked out. What was he thinking? Just an idiot. Just a fucking nobred. And obviously we know they're just going to chat shit on you. Yeah. That is so disappointing though, Sarah. Because, you know, if I had someone telling me, I'm going to see you for three weeks, don't build your furniture, hold off. Like all this and all that. Like my hopes would be so high. So I'm sorry that you've been let down like that so last minute. But also I'm glad that he has because he was obviously bullshitting you the whole time. Also, why did you need to embarrass me so much? Why are you getting all my friends involved?

20:47Why are you getting my best friend involved by saying, oh, where's God? I want to, you know, I've got all this stuff for you. like I barely got out of my stuff. My suitcase is so heavy. Just a liar and it's so embarrassing. Yeah, it's a real disappointment. You're going to delete social media then? Well, go on then. Yeah, off you go. See ya. Let's go on then. No, he hasn't deleted it. No. He'll be on a little date in London with the dude that he's met. My gut tells me that there's probably someone closer to home that's turned his head. Yeah, and he enjoyed speaking to you but only because you were so far removed.

21:16Yeah. Do you know what I mean? And then he was like, oh, well, if I actually go to see her, it's actually going to get serious. And I'm going to be there for three weeks. have to practice what I'm preaching. Yeah. And like actually like take it seriously. Yeah. And mean what I say. What is he? A prick. And he's? Cut. Cut. Cut him loose this Valentine's Day. Yeah, he's gone.

21:44Okay. Do I even mention Valentine's Day after last year? oh no oh okay so it's always room for improvement sarah there is however what we have learned over the years is that some of these men are really really really against it and why for what yeah it's very straightforward but but but but why sophia because why do you remember one time didn't we have that guy who was like um well i will never celebrate it yes just fucking we did yeah just for what reason I don't know it's gonna make your partner happy all it is is some flowers a dinner so resistant to it and a card why are you so like genuinely why are you so resistant to it yeah what's your problem like seriously you just hate me you just hate me you don't want to just make me smile you hate me I remember that guy from last year yeah do you remember a couple years ago yeah he was so anti it yeah he refused so hi girlies been listening to the pod since 2020 so proud of you thank you oh thanks Sarah thanks still for tuning in yeah thank you myself 24 and Brian 28 have been together for nearly two years now so this will be our second I like that age gap that's nice Valentine's Day together okay so we've only had one we've had one and it sounds like it must have been a disappointment last Valentine's Day our first I booked the restaurant and bought up what our plans would be etc I made it so clear that I would really like a card and just to feel special oh god but you had to make the booking so it's failed at the first hurdle unfortunately you've booked it and all you've said is I would just love a card you didn't even ask for a gift flowers you go into a petrol garage a supermarket they're right at the front door it's so crazy Valentine's Day just pick it up scan it it's£2.50 but also you don't even have to do that you can just go oh safari flowers next day delivery near me you can do it on zap literally you go online it takes you honestly one minute one and a half minutes moonbeer.com get a little picture of you cha-ching that's it I love you Sarah boom mic drop easy you fucking idiot anyway so you're you're trying to give him you're trying to guide him through it you're trying to coach him through because also maybe some guys like they need it laid out like this is my expectations for valentine's day going into this relationship i expect this this this and this and it's like okay brilliant i've learned and now i will do that every year anyways so this is last year valentine's day came we have work we work together and the conversation of plans, cards, etc.

24:12comes up and he makes a joke that he'll have to get a card after work. That's not very funny, Brian. That is so unfunny. I'm not laughing at that because I've got your paragraph in your card that I wrote about two weeks ago. That's the most unfunny thing. That would actually make me fucking cry. I'm at work. I'm at work. We've got dinner tonight that I've booked. So you've not got a personalised card. You've not done a moon pick because you can't get that. You are going to go to Chainsbury. you're gonna rush write the card from the office you're gonna write on your mate's back you couldn't even do it at the fucking weekend like she says i assumed it was a joke i would also assume it was a joke because this is their first valentine's they're thinking you're a funny guy yeah i'm a funny girl we do make jokes i'm laughing at that you're funny brian you really are yeah so she obviously assumed it was a joke and you're also thinking like oh are you trying and just really sit you know let me down yeah yeah yeah yeah yeah this huge like really like just whipping me off to the beach we've got private beach dinner don't know where we are it could be in brighton yeah we'll whip beam we'll be back in yeah okay because you're thinking you're a funny boy yeah right yeah right she said i just assumed it was a joke because i have made it so clear throughout our whole relationship that i really appreciate cards also a card is 30 pence It is so easy.

25:3130 pence. What, max? You can get some expensive cards. I was going to say 30 pence, you might be struggling these days. Couple pounds. It's two pence for a card. £3.99. Yeah,£2.50. £2.59. If you want to get one of those big cards. £2.80. Oh, I love the big ones. Please, I'm actually going to put it out in the universe. My next boyfriend, I've always wanted one of those huge cards. The top three. I want A3 and they're like 30 pounds. My mum always gets me a big card because she knows that's all I want. Big cards. what that big the really big ones yeah really well not the huge big ones but i've had a few big ones like i what i was all i wanted i would feel like the most loved person in the world if i got a three remember when we went to clinton's that time when we saw that valentine's day card and we opened it and it was this whole like thing was it i want that imagine getting this for a new guy and it was like i love you so much you know i want to i want to receive a bump card we've seen What's that?

26:25Oh, well. Are you going to boom? Yeah. I want that and it hits you in the face. Yeah, but I don't want to clean that up. Right. True. Right. So she's always said a card, you know, like I said, 30 pence. A lovely personalized message. It's a shilling. A cent. Yeah. It's a mere two shillings. Like I'm not asking for 250 roses. Yeah. Have you also seen like, what is this money? Like I've not held a coin in five years. I actually had a coin the other day because I went to get my nails done did you? yeah but like what's a shilling? how much is that? a shilling this is old times ye old times okay ye the days of yore have you seen the money with the king's face on?

27:05it's fucked doesn't make sense I'm not seeing it absolutely fucked I'm not seeing it my dad had some wait I must have had some because I got some cash out the other day no but it could still have the queen I think because it's like there's still money with the queen on still in circulation yeah but like the fresh print with the king no no no not right okay so we think he's joking ha ha ha like it's valentine's day today yeah funny guy funny guy we get home we get ready go out for the meal so the thing's been exchanged yeah i'm assuming the meal was lovely we were having a nice time but i just really focused in on how i hadn't had a card or anything and you'd given him your card or not yet i'm not sure it sounds like we having exchanged, but she's also concerned that he hasn't brought forth.

27:53Yeah, like it's the end of the day. We're looking at 9pm now. Yeah, like we should have woken up. We've got a few hours left. Brecky in bed, flower, big delivery, thousand roses, you know. Even just. The A3 fucking card. Even just wake up, brought you a coffee in bed, here's your card. Happy Valentine's Day and a kiss. And some little flowers. Happy Valentine's Day, come with you for dinner tonight. Sometimes a smooch will just do it, you know. A little peck on the forehead, a nice little note, maybe a piece of banana bread that you hand-baked the day before oh you know a baker getting with your partner being a baker is actually a real slang but they may not want to bake because like they're working you know it's like having a partner who's a chef i don't think they want to cook for you when you get home true but also it's like us getting home and then you know having to do five million podcasts saying

28:42right okay so she's growing a little bit of concern you're thinking it's getting to the end of the day of course so I brought it up at dinner quite lightly we ended up arguing obviously what it's giving here is he got defensive straight away I bet she said something like oh so did you get that card and he's saying like I'm literally taking you out for dinner and she was like well I booked the fucking dinner there's the argument because I would snap back with that yeah you know if you'll be here all i asked for was a 30 pence card we got home watched the film kind of awkwardly and then went to bed oh no card no kiss goodnight i ended up crying you know what that is so sad because this was our first valentine's day together i had to make and you know what we girls do like my my imagination was running wild thinking this was going to be so amazing i was going to get all these lovely little surprises i was going to feel so special and so loved and I'm crying.

29:46And it also stings because it's not like, for example, you're kind of telling yourself, okay, I'm going to give them the benefit of the doubt. I didn't say X, Y, and Z. Like we did go out for dinner. We did mark the occasion, but the fact that you even said, I really want a card. This is how I really want. You did make your wants and desires clear, which is makes it, which you shouldn't even have to do anyway. But the fact that you did and then it wasn't even remembered would make you even more upset. Yes. And he just palmed it off with a joke. Like, fair enough. Go get it after work then. You didn't even do that.

30:23You didn't even do it. Like you could have gone quickly and got it. I would have still been like, oh, but at least you would have done it. But now you're arguing with me and I'm actually crying on Valentine's Day. Yeah, that's really sad, Sarah. I just felt like he hadn't taken into consideration my feelings and my bare minimum. He's not even met the bare minimum, Sarah. Anyway, this was a year ago. Oh, yeah, we're still with this man. Stand for Valentine's Day number two. Yeah. He is very clear that he doesn't see the point in cards. But that doesn't matter. It's not about you, Brian. It's not about you.

30:55I don't care if you get the point. He's just fighting you for the sake of fighting you. Yeah, I don't see the point in football, but we fucking put it on the TV, don't we? Like, get over it. It's, it, it, it, the whole, the whole. It's so boring. The whole fucking act of getting a card can be so fucking quick. Like Sophia said, moonpig.com gets two minutes. Yeah. i love you sarah when you go and put your picture love of my life and a picture get it from co-op yeah and then all you got to do is get a pen you like a pen yeah and just go to sarah that you write i love you yeah love brian like it's so easy so like that why are you fighting just fighting me for the sake of fighting because you're lazy you don't care but it's irrelevant if you see the point this is about me exactly your partner could love anything fucking weird but you'd still be there like I support you yeah let me go buy you that thing for your your weird activity that I love like I don't see the point but I support you because you like it um so again this Christmas I didn't receive a card okay so it was kind of left there it's just like he's just like oh I don't see the point in cards and you're just like right so this Christmas I didn't receive a card of him and now with Valentine's Day coming up I just don't want to plan or bring anything up definitely not sarah you're not planning anything am i being too hard on him you're not being hard enough on him sarah you're not you're literally letting him off way too easy i just want him to take initiative i know and book organize something i know it's not hard does he just never do that then sarah doesn't sound like it doesn't sound like it sounds like you can't even do it on special occasions i think you're probably in charge of your social calendar you're probably in charge of booking the trips and that type of stuff i just feel like i'm going to be upset all over again when i don't get a card or flowers when he knows a card would be so appreciated appreciated it's making me not do them things for him now too which feels like i'm changing myself well yeah and if that's your love language is like expressing you you know your love with you know some nice words of appreciation words of affirmation handwritten note yeah um i hope this makes sense i don't know what to do or how to approach it when i've already mentioned it so many times even my parents know and made a joke about it on christmas oh any help would be appreciated thank you angels i'd sack it off sarah not to be dramatic loved we're not being dramatic not to be dramatic but what how he embarrassed himself last year what an embarrassing display what an embarrassing tantrum that was from you in the restaurant this is our first valentine's day yeah out of the good of my heart i've booked this dinner all you had to do was go m &s and get some flowers and you don't want to be like low-key anticipating big occasions with some kind of dread because you're like i'm not going to be happy and knowing that you're going to be let down upset me like you're preparing yourself for failure and i just and you're settling for that sarah like the longer you stay in this relationship you're settling for that treatment he can't even meet bare minimum which is i just love a little card i love a card i don't need anything also like i do think it says a lot about just a simple like lack of thought and lack of consideration for your partner like all your girlfriend wants is a card you can't even buy her card you're acting like we've fucking asked you to fly up to the fucking moon and back yeah we've asked you to go to the corner shop and get a card it doesn't even have to say anything on the fucking front i know it could be a it could be a thank you card we just want a nice message in the in the middle like it's really not that hard to keep him put it in a bedside table who do you think you are i know like we're asking you don't have to be a poet just write something literally just say so grateful for you so against it it's just like why do you not want me to be happy what's the going on here like what's the problem you actually hate me you actually hate me yeah Although it seems extreme, I just see it as it goes way deeper than that.

34:50So I would be like, you don't even like me. You don't want me to be happy. And it's such an easy fix. Like even the first Valentine's Day, right? You've had that argument at dinner. He's not got you a card. And the next day, right? All it would have taken was for him to wake you up with tea or a coffee, little kiss. I'm so sorry about yesterday. That wasn't how I wanted that to go. Like I really regret that. Like leave it with me tonight. I'm going to make something really special for us. There we go. There we go. I'm making lasagna. Yeah. It's on me tonight. We're going to have a really nice meal.

35:21We're going to cook. We're going to watch a film. And then when you got back from work, he could have made something nice. He could have got you a card during the day, got you a card, given you it then. He could have had a redo on the 15th. If he really, if he fucked up, we're arguing at the table for God's sake. He could have redeemed himself and that could have been it. And you would have been so happy and you would have been like, that meant so much to me. I really appreciate it. Thank you so much. and that would have been it. But unfortunately, he's not thinking like that. He's thinking like, oh, sure.

35:49Can't be asked. What difference does it make? It's only a card. It's only a fucking card. Oh, get over it. Oh, she'll get over it. Oh, thank God she's over it now. Don't have to fucking do that again. Like, it's bullshit. And when there is a lack of consideration, I think the relationship's over. So do I. Because you, like, I'm not even now considering you because you're not considering me. Yeah. And now I'm behaving how I don't really want to behave in a relationship. Like, I'm a lover girl. I'm very thoughtful. Like, I want to show appreciation through gifts and cards. And now you're looking at yourself thinking, I'm turning into a bit of a, I don't like, and that's what happens as well.

36:20You don't deserve that. When you start being a bit like mean to them, it's because like, you're winding me up and that's when it's like time to clock off because you're like, you're making me mean and I'm not mean. Exactly. You're not treating me. But also that's not how you want to be treated. You expect certain things, Sarah, that are the bare minimum. You know, you will meet a guy who will be like, oh, you love cards? You know, okay, fine. I'm going to buy the whole card factory. Brilliant. Like, I'm going to really put my heart and soul into these cards because I know that means so much to you, Sarah.

36:47Yeah. And like, there will be a guy who does that. You don't have to settle for this guy who's just like... And there are some guys. Just not even listening to you. Like, I'll never forget my friend, I've told it many times. There are some guys who do need instruction. Yes. And I always remember that story. I always remember this story. Because that's why it's so shocking that after that Valentine's Day, he didn't even think, oh, let me get her a birthday card, an Easter card, a fucking Christmas card. Like, I've told it so many times, but I had a good friend who, it was her first birthday with her partner, and he didn't really do much and she was so upset she was really disappointed and she said to him look on my birthday I want a fuss I want to come downstairs I want presents to open I want a banner I want balloons and I want you to take a nice picture of me she like told him what she wanted and then the next year she came downstairs yeah happy birthday yeah presents presents presents and now like they're together they've got two kids and I see it every occasion they make a big deal love it it's great i see it's all the time it's pictures it's yeah it's mountains of gifts it's like decorations like they really go all out and you know he was someone that just needed to be told but he followed direction and the next year she got everything she wanted she got trainers she and he considered her like he considered her he was like right that's what it is she wants balloons she wants a banner she wants something she can come downstairs and put on instagram saying my god babe my birthday look at all this really that's what she wanted like and she told him and he did it so it's not even like you know it's a disappointment you've had to tell him like fine some men need to be told what you want but you did tell him and he then he didn't even do it again and then was also still resisting and i know for a fact sarah if in your relationship he said to you oh sarah i kind of like when we do this this or you do this this is this i know for a fact sarah you'll be writing that down oh my god of course and you would make those changes and you would because you're considering love him and respect him and want to make him happy and the fact that you're telling him what makes you happy all it is is a fucking card and he's not doing and he's not doing it that speaks volumes so this valentine's day then how are we playing right we're saying look to be honest mate mate that's what you are at this point yeah at this point i'll see you as some sort of acquaintance um colleague you know i'm growing concerned about your lack of consideration for me and just like wanting to i think there's two ways wanting to Make me smile.

39:07Yeah. And last Valentine's Day, I'm reflecting. It was shit. We argued. You didn't get me a fucking card. And now it's really setting in now that you're not really considering me at all. And unless you show up and like start showering me with some love and appreciation and affection, I'm going to have to exit this situation. I think you could either not mention anything and just be like, I'm going to see what you do. You're not a fucking idiot. You're a 28 year old man. All your colleagues will be talking about Valentine's Day. You've seen it in all the shops. And let him disappoint us. same day every year like you're in a relationship of two years now like i'm gonna let you use your brain and i'm gonna stop i'm gonna step back i'm gonna use no instruction i'm just gonna see i'm not planning anything like i've said many times when i'm gonna see what you do i'm gonna wake on van and say i'm not saying nothing like i'm gonna watch you and see if you just want to ignore the day and then i think that's a real like nail in the coffin or i think you give him another shove that's like look valentine's didn't go that area this year i'm gonna reiterate like kind of whole situation i'm gonna reiterate that i want a card i want a fuss i want it to be a lovely day for us both i won't do the same for you i want it to be a really nice day for us and then like give him another chance to see if he then uses his brain but i think you've got two options there i think he sounds like a guy who's not even going to be shocked to be like even if like you almost threatened be like i'm gonna have to leave this relationship i feel like maybe he would switch it up for two months but then i feel like he would just slip back into being lazy and unconsiderate two years like he can't be that bad i know but are we just like letting these things sweep under the rug you know like please keep us posted sarah please i do it sounds like i think you should get rid of him i know that is my answer to everything get rid of the man they're always the problem problem solver because sarah you can go buy yourself a nice fucking car go buy yourself some nice flowers get yourself some nice chocolates journal yourself make yourself a nice little note and they i love me x x x x that sounds way more fulfilling than being with this loser who's not even appreciate you at all do you know what i mean it's like why are we wasting our energy on these like it's like a vampire soul sucking oh my god not the good kind that thing on tiktok this morning there's been a vampire pictures like a real vampire oh my god like dead ass get me there in a vampire yeah of course get you there you love that shit don't you want to get your blood sucked absolutely yeah by edward edward cullen always who doesn't you like you rather be i love him absolutely i was i was just speaking in support yeah would you rather be attacked by the wolf or attacked by a vampire attacked by the vampire because you survive the wolf's gonna tear me to pieces right the vampire is just gonna is the girls who are into jacob is that like a little kink like wanting to be like no because they're tussled around by the wolf no because it's usually they are wolves themselves the girls yeah who were involved with the wolf yeah actually no the girls aren't are they oh yes they are they are well one girl was not no no one girl was a wolf and it was crazy because usually only the men were wolves and then one girl was a wolf and she didn't really know how to deal with it oh yeah nice but they're not in wolf form when they're having sex with the human are they not no it's human on human but could they not do wolf one wolf i imagine the girls mostly weren't wolves but the two wolves could yeah yeah yeah nice okay i guess so yeah anyway a real life vampire has been pictured on cctv like seriously love it in a wolf and not a wolf bar and there's apparently this vampire bar wow yeah genuinely they're coming for you babes yes i'll be there right well good luck to our sarah good luck sarah please keep us posted absolutely

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43:56okay this is a good question actually this is something that i ask myself a lot what is the boy equivalent to flowers socks yeah but she's caught it in one my boyfriend is on a diet so i don't want to get him chockies etc but also don't want to spend loads as he usually gets me a small gesture get my box of dates yeah majule dates what is the boy equivalent to flowers he gets me a bunch of flowers which i love so what is the boy equivalent to this honestly oh but calvin klein boxers yeah boxers socks because they're just smelly little boys they always just need new socks or new boxers hair gel there's a used gel yeah that ice gel yeah It's got to be glued for that frozen look.

44:40For the hairspray. Or some like razors. Deodorant. Like toiletries. Yeah, what do men use? What grooming stuff do they use? All my brand uses aloe vera. So maybe I'll get some aloe vera. Oh, a very natural thing. When you get that aloe vera plant, he could grow himself. Yeah, that's true. But there does need to be some sort of boy equivalent flowers. I would say it sucks. Yeah. But it's not like a... Ooh. Maybe get them flowers or plants. A bonsai tree. What's it from House Moves a Guy in 10 Days? It's a plant of our love. It's a fern. It's a love fern. It's a love fern. Yeah. Yeah. I'm going to Google it and just see what Google gives us.

45:22Yeah. I would put money behind a bonsai tree a man would. Lego. If they're a nerd. Lego. Like a little box of Lego that they could crack into. What about like a water bottle? Yeah. Yeah You know if he goes to the gym He might need a new water bottle But does it have to be Something perishable If we're gonna Have it be The equivalent to flowers I see Does it need to be A living being That's gonna die You know What about like Some coffee beans From his favourite coffee shop Yes If he's a bit of a barista Yes A cat Some protein powder Some creatine Creatine Get on myprotein.com Some magnesium tablets What is The male equivalent Shaving foam Oh Yes, a pack of razors.

46:09I mean, yeah, it's coming up here on Google, so it's a common question. Whoa. While flowers are often considered a classic gift for women, the modern male equivalent is frequently cited as banana bread. Yes. Due to its thoughtful, homemade, and comforting nature. Of course, a baked good, but it doesn't apply to our Sarah because he's on a diet. Other equivalent gestures include beer, whiskey, food items, tools, Or sincere acts of service. Blowjobs. What do you go for flowers? Blowjobs. Oral. A home-cooked meal, taking over a chore or a foot massage. I think Medjool dates is up there, you know.

46:51I think the dates is up there. Because they're kind of equivalent to the banana bread, but this Brian's on a diet. But I think for the other Brian's. Wait, yeah, banana bread. Why is everyone saying banana bread? That's funny. A loafed cake is lovely to receive. yeah if i received a loaf of banana bread if i'm jumping off the fucking walls i'm gassed that's my dinner sorted yeah good luck sarah dinner dessert and breakfast

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47:27equality this is giving shakespeare to be or not we are the montagues and we Royal Verona We need to go Verona I want to go so bad And put our letters In the wall Yeah We're gonna do that last year Juliet's balcony We're gonna do that last year Yeah Fell through Fell through girl Yeah But we need to Always got 2026 Letters of Juliet Classic film Shout out Amanda Seyfried Equality or chivalry Am I asking for too much? No What's the definition Of chivalry? Sylvia I don't know should we get the oxford dictionary um thingy just to make sure chivalry is oh my lady through the door for you yeah yeah well let me let me oh chivalry really is dead yeah i love saying that chivalry must be dead in this restaurant no that was it what happened to me it's when all the men look at the pregnant girls on the tube and don't get up well i had it you know my friend is like she's about to pop oh my and she said it'll make me upset men don't get up for me on the tube she gets tube to work every single day and she's like men never get up for me she's even got a badge saying like baby yeah big belly on board yeah she's got a big belly and men don't get up on tube how bad is that well obviously this is incomparable i was walking into the gym right and this man just lets himself through the door like i didn't even have opens the door for himself and walks his way through wow shiver must be dead then shiver must be dead then over my shoulder like like i would probably hold the door open for you in it like yeah masculine energy hey right so sarah here says equality or shivery am i asking i feel like we're about to lead the debate team yeah yeah we're on shakespeare's panel well i feel really connected to shakespeare after watching hamnet you need to watch hamnet yeah you can just tell me about it yeah right yeah Well, basically his child dies.

49:23Oh, yeah. Hi, girls. Love the pod. My dilemma relates to my boyfriend of three years. For some background, I'm 23 and he is 25. We had a breakup recently for a couple of months due to me feeling as though he just wasn't putting in the effort. Well, I'm glad that you cut him loose. Acted accordingly. Would prioritize boys' nights. No little surprises or meaningful conversations. Sounds like the guy from the last dilemma. after a few months he reached out and long story short we ended up back together so i'm sure he groveled says i've changed made a bit of a few months yeah he's been putting an effort making me feel loved and appreciated and all has been great nice but valentine's day is coming up i mentioned previously how i wanted him to plan things more what is right why do these men why can't they make a plan because i'm sure if it was fucking fucking what's his name's twat's birthday you'd all make a big old plan yeah i'm sure yeah yeah yeah but we'd all be on the plane off to benedorm with all these plans and dinners can't wait magaloof lads here we go you can plan what you're gonna wear and what you're gonna eat and drink and where you're gonna go but you can't for the love of your life you can't on the local pizza restaurant you can't book yeah a fucking pizza at seven o 'clock like a tripsy hamlet afterwards absolutely slash wuthering heights like you're incapable of that it's just make it make sense mental men tool yeah because all men are mental oh my god wow yeah didn't even realize the oxford dictionary for you mental so we're back together so i mentioned previously how i wanted him to plan things small i'm a type of girl who loves you know get ready at eight i'll pick you up of course so you just want to be you want him to say no brain cells needed saturday night sorted you just worry about what you're gonna wear so we've spoken about our plans for valentine's day a couple of times me bringing it up sending tiktoks hinting at him booking somewhere so that he doesn't leave it too last minute okay so you're really trying to give him the benefit of the doubt heavy hintage bearing in mind we have had a breakup due to your lack of effort and lack of consideration yeah yeah yeah this is real like come on first test because also you're aware that i will leave like you know i'm not scared to leave if you start slipping back and he initiated a conversation the other day about whether we should do a lodge somewhere for the night or just go for a nice dinner okay he's thinking.

51:58Nice. Wow. A lodge. You're thinking for yourself. I like that. Round of applause. Yeah, a lodge is a nice little romantic little trip to the... That's really nice, actually. I like that. Light the fire. Get cozy. Get cozy in the hot tub. Undress, you know. I said, I wouldn't be able to afford a lodge. I've been off sick recently with work and have not long finished uni. To which she said, don't worry, he'll sort it. In brackets, he earns a lot of money and lives at home with his parents yeah you can pay for the lodge okay but he said i'll sort it don't worry about that lodge is on me nice the love nest lodge here we come yeah the lover's lodge i've got you two in the lover's lodge second one on the left you'll be making love tonight uh i guess so i guess it's weird that you know that yeah i hate that it's kind of makes me at the lover's lunch.

52:58So we're checking into the lover's lunch. Well, actually, we're not sure because he's just mentioned, oh, well, I can sort it. I can sort it. Okay, yeah, yeah, yeah. Because also, Brian, making a suggestion and making a plan is two very different things. And you don't get prizes for, oh, we're speaking about booking. You don't get prizes for ideas and thinking of things. No. You get prizes when action is done. For action. Okay. And she's expressing that he earns a lot more than her. Yeah. And he lives at home. And he lives rent free. Board free. She says. Food free. Laundry's done. Shopping's done.

53:31Fridge is full. Food's on the table. Even more reason why he's got more time to plan a dinner. Yeah, because no chores. A singular dinner. A singular dinner at the lover's lodge. So she said, so I started to get excited. I would be too. Yeah, like the lodge has been mentioned. Yeah. Also like free of charge for myself. Your perks. You know, nice. When it came to actually deciding, he said, if I couldn't pay half then we should just do dinner oh well that's not really the Valentine spirit I was expecting the lovers large lovemaking you just told me not to worry about it and now you're saying you just told me not to worry I'm a student you're a full-time employed man yeah who lives at home by the way like you can splash I bet your mum pays your phone bill as well so you've really got a zero overhead yeah I know he does I know she does like you can't splash the cash on the lover's lodge on the lover's lodge one night okay so now it's like downgrading it oh okay well if you can't pay half what well now dinner's shit compared to the lover's lodge i know and am i paying half for this dinner as well because also like actually i've been having to go and sleep at your fucking family home yeah you know get me a making it's not our passionate love making i want to get to that lover's fucking large.

54:47And let loose. And let loose. And do you want that for yourself too? Yeah. You want to have this weird, quiet sex while your parents are in the other door? Like, no. Right, anyway, so he's letting us down slowly, unfortunately. So we said, we should just eat dinner. And when discussing dinner, I said, I'd like for him to sort it, you know, plan it. You know, as it makes me feel good. Oh, this is like a horror movie. What? To which his reply was, and in quotes, It's my Valentine's Day too. Are you joking? I don't think Sir Valentine. Are you joking? Sir, sir. I don't think Sir Valentine in 20 AD.

55:26Newsflash, babes. It ain't your Valentine's Day. It ain't for you, you twats. All right, just let the girls have one day for goodness sake. You want a pair of panties and a little flange ray to put on? A little anal bead up your bum, idiot. Anyway. Like, do you want some fucking roses, you fucking idiot? It's my Valentine's Day too. Please. Do you actually see the lengths they will go to for the excuses? Resistance is wild. It's a mental. You live at home. You have a high paid job. I've already fucking broken up with you for lack of effort. And now you're fighting me. You tease me with the lover's lodge, you twat.

56:03That was all talk. That was all talk. We were never going to the lover's lodge. And I'm just saying, oh, well, I'd love for you to plan that. Well, it's my day too. oh my god are you fucking joking oh my god are you fucking are you joking are you fucking joking well some roses as well like get over it it's my valentine's day and we both know it and she said this lady is lovely this is mental she said look I completely if any boy said to me it's my valentine's day too I'd be like what are you on get over yourself just it's just a resistance to the cause like she said look I completely appreciate that valentine's day is for the both of us you're better than me sarah i think it's yeah and i always make him feel so loved through thoughtful gifts reassuring messages and conversations about our future however i can't help but feel so deflated by this yeah this is he's taking the piss at this point to me this feels as though he's gone back to being low effort yeah this is this is this is beyond low effort and maybe i am being too high maintenance no you're not too high he's just trying to make you feel like that he's trying to make you feel like that so you drop it he's trying to make you feel like fucking hell you're expecting a lot of me what going on opentable.com you knob head like booking zz's for the two of us 8 p.m that's all i'm asking for like no he's got in your head he's got in your head so it's my day too please that's it for me what are you on about what are you on about you know we it sounds like you don't want a girlfriend yeah because having a girlfriend you've got to put in some levels of effort if you're too lazy for that fine go go be with your mother and live at home and have a nice time single day but don't act like you want a girlfriend yeah so that's why we ended up booking somewhere for food which i realized i was really I was already going to the week before so this is somewhere I frequent this isn't a special valentine like this is ZZ's it's Carluccio's I've been there last week what was that restaurant what yeah Carluccio's classic girl what San Carlo San Carlo we've never been San Carlo shout out sounds nice um so she said I am actually going there the week prior um could we could we change the location he said too late i pay the deposit now like please oh god i'm not sure pulling teeth if i'm either being why'd you hate me well i know also i thought you would have learned yeah i broke up with you for this reason so i'm not sure if i'm either being too picky or whether it's a valid reason to feel disappointed it's very valid very valid truly like because it's not just it's just laziness i don't want a lazy boyfriend i don't want a boyfriend who's just ignoring me lack of consideration like it do it i don't want to have to use my brain i use my brain at work i'm just exactly it speaks so much louder than just like than it feels like like due to the recent breakup i also feel as though i'm hyper vigilant of anything wrong that he does sorry for the rambly email but i'd love to hear your girl's thoughts on the situation i'm just worried that i'll spend my whole life with someone who simply can't give me what i need you've said it there you go sarah you've said lots of love sarah cut him loose you've said it's like he's slipping back into old habits yeah you said at the start he was putting in more effort this is valentine's day and he can't even seem to make this is like big test number one you know and i don't be investing in the lodge people can change and i think it's great that you've thought you know what yeah i do want to get back with you and it's working out well and this was a great time for him to be like you know what it's valentine's day i have learned from my mistakes i wasn't all talk i have grown i have changed i'm gonna book the lover's lodge and i'm gonna make sure i'm taking making lunch and a few balloons yeah and some chocolates maybe even throwing some banana bread like this was his first big moment to prove to you that he you should have got back with him all it is it just shows he cares he has grown he did realize what he did wrong last time and he is what trying to do better this was his first big moment to do that and he hasn't and yeah it does sound like he's slipping back into that old habit doesn't care he's got comfortable again in the relationship and he's but you're back where you were before and he thinks i've got her back now yeah oh effort can subside i can just cruise along now i'm sorry it's my valentine's day too is but i just don't know why he's fighting fighting you for the sake of fighting you no like the fact that he couldn't even barely make the book i know it's true i'm gonna get you a card i'm gonna write a lovely message exactly because i do actually show you every day that i do appreciate you and love you because it took me a lot to get back here to get back with you yeah i fucking broke up with you yeah it took me a lot a lot to trust you again and get back with you so i do let you know that i do love you but you can't even do the same in return that makes me feel loved i'd sack it off i think you're back where you started or you're getting very close i think and i think he's wasting your time i think he's never gonna fully you know settle that like i've made the right decision of being with him like you're like oh this isn't this doesn't feel right i don't i don't feel like i feel loved i feel like it's like pulling blood from a fucking stone like it doesn't sound easy and like you don't sound relaxed and i think when you're questioning if you're asking for too much yeah like you're questioning am i high maintenance no you've just asked for a dinner you just want to go out you just want to go out for dinner and observe the valentine's day data yeah that's all you've asked for and maybe the lodge you didn't even ask for the lodge he fucking bought the lodge you got me excited about the lodge and then you pulled away from me.

1:01:51I don't think we were ever going to the lovers watch. He was chatting shit. I think he was chatting shit to try and so get you thinking, oh my God, he is like trying. Yeah. Like, but really. Efforts. When really they do love to be like, oh, well I was thinking about maybe a trip to Australia. I was also thinking about maybe a safari. I was also thinking about Michelin star. But how about we just go to ZZ's tonight? Like, you can't dangle that in front of my face. You can't dangle. Then take me to ZZ's. No hate on ZZ's. We used to love ZZs. Never any ZZs. They were the first people to do the vegan cheese.

1:02:23No, ZZs. We'd always hit up ZZs and get the vegan cheese. I stand by ZZs. I've had birthday parties at ZZs. We have. I've had dates at ZZs. Yeah. ZZs Nottingham. Shout out. I've had a date at ZZs. I did. Did you? Yeah. Which one was that? The love of my life. That one. Yeah. Oh. No. Yeah. No, obviously not. But yeah, ZZs shout out. We used to hit up ZZs a lot. Never disappointed. Never got it wrong, did they? Nope. did that delicious vegan cheese I would eat that vegan cheese now yeah me too that was so good that would be my hangover food order that fucking pizza and they had some nice fries I love ZZ's yeah

1:03:10okay last one here today she's kept it quite vague Valentine's dilemma okay okay she's hit the mark she's hit the brief Absolutely load us in. So me and my boyfriend have been together for four years. We get on so well. He's so lovely. We never argue. Apart from when Valentine's comes around. Oh, fucking hell. Some Valentine. What are you doing? My boyfriend's birthday is on Valentine's Day. Oh, so he doesn't have a birthday then. Yeah. Oh, so he's actually one years old. Yeah, like he's on a leap year. It's like a leap year. Yeah. And at first, I saw... We don't celebrate his birthday, no. It's Valentine's Day, so he doesn't get one.

1:03:45When's his birthday? He doesn't have one. at first I thought it's so cute and romantic but no the whole day is about his birthday and not valentine's oh so he makes sure it's just gets his day yeah I know that probably makes me sound so selfish but I feel like these kind of things is what girls look forward to he does make me feel loved all year round and he is very generous so I don't care about not getting valentine's gifts but every year we have to have our valentine's day meal with all of his family because it's his birthday right right right however this year is a bit different this year his birthday has fallen on a saturday and he wants to go out with the boys

1:04:30that night that's gonna sting and then you're thinking it's actually valentine's day as well and also it's your birthday you want to spend it with me boys like why do you want to that's no So spend it with your boyfriends instead. Me and my boyfriend are currently training for a 10K. Oh. Nice. I like that joint hobby. And have made a pact to not drink until after the race. Very cool. That's a lovely little couple's hobby, guys. Which is in a few weeks. So on his birthday, he wants to use it as a big blowout and break his drinking ban. I am obviously raging. I said, absolutely not. Number one. Because I can't break it together with a lovely little Aperol.

1:05:11You share a glass of wine. wine a bottle of wine sorry number one it's valentine's day yeah number two i want to spend your birthday with you yeah i would say we could spend all day together and he go out the night but he has football all day of course he does but playing it or watching i don't know so it literally be the whole day he said he'll take me out for a valentine's day meal on the friday night and then he'll go football and go out on the saturday which i'm not happy with yeah let's just like switch it around he said why does it matter what day we go out as long as we do something for valentine's but i feel like it defeats the whole object of the day i think i'm more annoyed because if it was me i'd rather spend the day with him than go out with my friends yeah i really don't want to have to argue about this especially because at the end of the day it's still his birthday but i'm not spending valentine's day at home alone when my boyfriend of four years is in the club i feel like also that it's just embarrassing if people see him out on instagram and not posting a nice picture of me.

1:06:12I'd really appreciate your girl's opinion. I feel like one minute I'm being really selfish, but on the other hand, I get really angry and can't believe the audacity of him. I mean, this is the lovely couple. He looks like a party boy. He wants to go out with his mates. Oh, yeah. It's giving club blessings. Oh, he does. Yeah, it's giving Ibiza rocks. It's giving man back, like, you know. But beautiful looking couple. But gorgeous couple. Sarah, you're a blonde bomb show. Yeah. I mean, yeah, I would be also just like annoyed for the sake of being annoyed. Like, okay, no. It's Valentine's Day. It's your birthday.

1:06:40I want to spend it with you. You go out on Friday and I'll see you on your birthday. Yeah. And for Valentine's Day. But I guess he's thinking I don't want to be hungover for football. Right. He's thinking he wants to break his sobriety for this 10K with the boys. The boys. Not with you. And that's what pisses me off. Yeah. You don't want to have a drink with me? Oh, you want to have a drink with your boys? Oh, okay. You don't want to do it with me? Well, just the sheer fact that he's chosen them over you is what's triggering you but then it's like oh they are you know they are allowed to have friends as are we why can't you go though I know well it's the boys we don't want to have all the boys single Liam are all the boys single if the boys not got girlfriends they might be they might be there might be all these they might be like oh don't bring her this is difficult because it's his birthday and yada yada yada do is she being selfish no I mean, let's think if it was the other way around.

1:07:38I do genuinely appreciate his Friday suggestion. Me too. Like he's not wanting to forget about Valentine's Day. I do appreciate him saying to you, look, why don't we do dinner on Friday, just the two of us? Have a romantic meal. That would mean that that meal is just for Valentine's Day, not his birthday and Valentine's Day. Yeah. And it would genuinely just be a Valentine's meal. Your birthday's tomorrow. Yeah. We ain't talking about that. Don't get too excited. It's Valentine's Day. It's 11pm. You've got another hour of Valentine's Day. Yeah, because like you said, when you do those dinners on Valentine's Day, it's happy birthday and a bit of Valentine's Day.

1:08:14Yeah. Yeah, so maybe it's not so bad of a suggestion, but I think her main point is that she doesn't want to be at home alone on Valentine's Day. Right, where are the girls? Oh, I'm going out too with the girls. See you there. See, yeah, oh, where are you going? Oh, we don't really, we might be going here, here and here. We'll get free entry as well. All of a sudden he's like, well, why are you going out? It's my birthday. Well, I've got friends too. Sarah and Susan are on it. They're on it tonight. And they're single. They're on it and they're sexy and single. Yeah, so I'm going to be with them while they're chatting to boys.

1:08:42But obviously, I won't be chatting to the boys. But I think you should go with your friends. I do. So you're not sat at home alone. Yeah, you shouldn't be sat at home alone. And then you can mark the occasion, the Valentine's Day on the Friday. You can post it on your Instagram. Let the world know we did do something for it. And we do love each other still. No breakup rumors. Rumors. Thank you. In the press. In the press. Thank you. And then you go out with your girls. And maybe it's just a thought going forward that you guys have Valentine's Day on the 13th and his birthday is the 14th. And that is your Valentine's Day.

1:09:13There are two significant, you know, what's the word? Occasions. Occasions that you celebrate and it's not this combined thing with his family. Yeah. Yeah. Good luck, Sarah. I think the Friday's not, but I understand also why you're triggered and upset. But should we have a star of the week? Yes. That would be nice. We've had quite a bit of disappointment this week. a week haven't we quite a bit of disappointment for us all okay star of the week this week we've got elizabeth she would love to nominate her brian to be star of the week i'm 37 weeks pregnant and this week i was taken into hospital and i wasn't too well my brian victor

1:09:54who's victor crumb who's that i don't know but i know victor from preso victor and he comes down from the spaceship Victor in the play wait who was I who's that Victor Crumb what Harry Potter's dad is that his name when it's the when it's the Goblin of Fire wait what Goblin of Fire Goblin who's the Goblin there is a Goblin though isn't there in Harry Potter I don't think yeah there's that little Goblin that little Goblin man that's Yoda from Star Wars no Dobby but there's also that little goblin oh he's a dobby elf as well though um he's the same teacher oh yeah it's like like yeah and that little creature yeah the yeah and isn't he he's a wizard yeah right okay yeah anyway victor i like that name victor i'm thinking of victor yeah victor and elizabeth very cool what a power couple yeah um so victor was amazing he kept me calm and asked excuse me like regal what are you gonna name a child victoring queen elizabeth a lot of responsibility for this child's name he's gonna have to really live up um he kept me calm ask all the right questions to the doctor just what i need to relax yeah thank god this week i've been treated to massages my favorite snacks drinks to the hospital and a perfectly packed overnight bag you see this is this is what we I bet Victor's doing a good Valentine's Day for Elizabeth, isn't he?

1:11:24Victor's got it on lock. I know he has. I have faith in Victor. He's got his tray for his breakfast in bed. He's got his pancakes. Yeah, not these boys who can't even make a reservation. When I was better and could go home, the house was spotless. Good. And Amazon delivery arrived full of my wish list. Good. Not only has this man picked up more hours to provide for myself and our heavenly sent daughter, but he also got us our new family home and car. Victor is king. Yeah. He's worked so hard. Victor is Victor is king I'm sorry but after talking for an hour about men who can't buy cards it's nice to have Victor sounds like the king of the world like fucking hell has Victor got a brother or anything like yeah we love Victor Victor what a nice name like it's strong I love it it's so strong powerful man powerful man who knows what he wants he's worked so hard to provide for us yes emotionally mentally and physically we this is Elizabeth's husband as well he built our home he's so physical brick by brick he built our home yeah I wouldn't put it past Victor we are still waiting on our daughter's arrival but I just know he'll be the greatest dad I know it I know it Elizabeth has won wishing you all the very best you girls deserve it I hope you choose my incredible Victor as the star of the week because it truly is what I wish for whoa yeah here's Elizabeth you're gonna like me no I'm gonna scream does she look like Queen Elizabeth does she look regal it's giving regal is it actually oh they're really cute look how cool Victor looks in his jacket it's like the jacket you had on today I love Victor Elizabeth chintzy a one-string man Victor we love you oh we love you Victor oh look at them studious you see this is a message to these other ladies this is a great lesson this is the bare minimum Victor is merely giving Elizabeth just the bare minimum the bare minimum you know that's it these men can't even make a reservation we need men like Victor buy a card Victor has bought 30 cards Victor's bought all the cards and built the home and bought the car and clean top to bottom he's got it and bought the car yeah Victor's got it figured out boys yeah right guys we're wishing you the best we on your valentine's day endeavors we are absolutely we wish you luck we wish you strength we wish you peace absolutely if you have no one to spend valentine's with I hope you are eating your favorite food, watching your favorite shows, maybe doing your favorite hobby.

1:13:53Kicking back, relaxing. Kicking back, relaxing, relaxing all cool. Smoking some beatball outside of the school. I don't actually know where the lines are. It wasn't that. A couple of guys said they're up to no good. If you would like to email in your dilemmas, guys, you can do that too. Hello at thegirlsbathroom.com. Com? Com? Not a gong. I've been smoking some weed. If you're calm. Along with your Star of the Week. You can follow us on Instagram and TikTok. Although Victor's going to be a hard act to follow guys victor is one 2026 follow us on youtube instagram and tiktok thank you we'll see you next week or my day

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