X-RATED: I can’t stand the TASTE of him

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1:55and then don't let it get the best of you welcome back oh god welcome back to you sofia how are you

2:04Sophia Lee: doing cheers cheers how are you doing god i'm doing well thank you this is my second match of the day my second tease keeping them in business as usual yeah as we do oh it really hits welcome back everyone this is our first episode back post bieber cellar Be Bechella I was going to wear the merch today but I didn't know if you were on that vibe and we didn't communicate I was going to wear it you know my favourite hoodie is that big slouchy I'm so glad we got that one it's so fucking nice I'm so glad the one with like the seam down the front have you deep there's a seam in the pocket as well I no that front pocket there's two sides oh my god I'm not deep that at all yeah we I travelled in that and that was the comfiest hoodie a lot of cash on some Bechella merch We can't speak of that.

2:54We usually just get one hoodie. We got about three hoodies each. Two phone cases, two long sleeve tops. I got a t-shirt. I even got some joggers. We bought like the whole stand. We just, it was all just so cute. We just kept going back. We couldn't, and I've seen those Justin Bieber sales.

3:12Sophia Lee: And I thought, yeah, I've got no doubt. We contributed heavily to that big number. We absolutely did. Because on average, yeah, we get one hoodie. We get one hoodie. Yeah. but with the extra Justin Bieber merch we were out of control we just and then the girls behind the till were like fueling us because they were like well yeah you know this is limited guys you're never going to get this again and we were like you're so right if you got that in a small can you get that in the next because it's like we're not getting restocked next week and we were like and then Sabia like we've done our we checked out we got the bags she was like I need that top I need that top she was like I think I need it I think I need it excuse me can I get that top please before I lost my place in the queue I was like fucking born at the top and then I was I've still not worn that t-shirt yet because I went to Vipo at the top I was like I think I need it and I was like I think I need it I think I need it but then I was like no I don't need it but and it was just selling out at left, right and centre you know so it was just right at smalls you know you had to be so quick it was like it was like we were at an auction you know it was like a frantic midnight like stomp over to Skylark 10 but it was worthwhile it was so worth it yeah clock it we should have actually worn it today well why don't we wear it next week Yeah, I would like.

4:14Should we wear a snot clocking to you next week? Absolutely. I'm down for that. I'm so down for that. So we had the best time ever. We hope you guys enjoyed last week's episode on the bathroom floor. I enjoyed that very much.

4:27Sophia Lee: I enjoyed it very much. Everyone says they're saying helch and hersey. Oh, honey. Honey, you hersey. You hersey. Hersey is the word of the week. Let's try and incorporate it as many times as we can today. Hersey. But we're bringing a X-rated episode to you today, which is good. It's going to energize me. I think so. It's going to bring us back to life because, you know, we're a little bit jet lagged and we just need this like zing, you know. We've got our maginas and willies. It's not as good as the La La Land Reserve magia. Or the carrot cake. Seriously. We only had that once, but that wasn't it.

5:05And you know, when I was editing our Coachella vlog yesterday, I was watching back the clips of us eating that vanilla sheet cake and i'm just like why didn't we eat that whole thing like the fact that i watched myself you know only have three forkfuls i just thought i'm so disappointed in you because now you're here and you know you're never going to get that again like what

5:29Sophia Lee: some people are not food motivated and it scares me because i don't know what they're doing what But what are you doing when you go away? Like, what is the plan of the day? Like, how are you not planning your, like, we're planning our Coachella days around food, when we're getting our food. And like, wait, but when do we get pizza? But also, like, we're planning any trip, any day, around the meals. The food. Okay, so do we have time to get in here enough restaurants? Do we have time to go to, like, because, you know, we only got to go to our favorite lunch in LA once. I know, that's killing me.

6:03Which was so stupid of us. But you know where me and Lydia went? You know where it really struck? Yeah. First morning in LA, we hit the road, hit the streets at about 6am in the jet lag. We had three matches before half eight. Yeah. It's that serious. It's that serious because there are spots to hit and there's only a certain amount of time to hit them. And yeah, our day does revolve around food and for some people it just doesn't and for those people.

6:27Sophia Lee: But I don't know what they're doing. I don't know what you're doing either. I don't know what you're doing. I don't. Because now we've got a new added thing that we need to consume, juice. carrot juice like clock it clock it but not pure carrot it needs some apple and ginger in there so we were having the 24 carrot gold juice from Beverly Hills Hotel clock it no it was stunning it was carrot orange ginger that's it apple it was listen but it was sweet but it was honestly I want to say it was like$30 no it's not right can't talk about it but it was we can't talk about it but it was cold phenomenal it was cold i should hope so it was you know it was smooth never one bit never one lump no pulp no pulp oh my god it was so fucking smooth yeah so carrot juice so yes yeah so i found some pure carrot juice i was like you know what i just i need a juice where'd you find that can i waitrose i took a sip i was i'm gonna pour it over ice put it in my cup i was like this is delicious the color was vibrant i was like this is what i need this is what i need sipped it that's gonna send you west and then it was like it was just like big troops like earth and then i was like look just down i just get it down just down i was literally like gagging and then it honestly made me feel really queasy for the rest of the day so yeah we're not quite there yet but we just need a bit i've got the m &s one it's got a bit more in there it doesn't feel uh it's not as good as 24 karat gold of course nothing's gonna be that good nothing's gonna be nothing's gonna be as good as that 30 pound juice but uh yeah it did the job it did the job now we're trying i'm like what time is my juicing hour yes i'm trying to say it's my regular day i think i think juicing hour is about 10 30 so you're thinking it is in the morning yes okay i think it's i think it's like you know my matcha and my breakfast i'm also having a juice yes i think it's like 10 30 you know when it's like a little bit peckish you know but it's not quite time yet to have another a meal.

8:25So let's just fill the gap.

8:27Sophia Lee: Yes. Okay. Cause I'm seeing it as an afternoon delight. Yeah. Well, it could also be like a two 30 situation. I'm seeing it as a little pick me up in the afternoon, a little bit of vitamins injected in. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. I mean, if we were really going to go hard, we could do carrot juice in the morning, green juice in the afternoon, but I mean, how much are we willing to spend on these juices? You know, well, if we were smart, we'd do it at home. Yeah. But I'm not, I'm not going to do that. Well, I've just heard that they're a nightmare to clean. That's all I've heard. And also I'm just going to be left with moldy carrots in the bottom of my fridge.

8:56And it's just not going to go down well. And I need all the ingredients.

9:01Sophia Lee: It's like when you're in a farmer's market ahead. Yeah. Because you know what was the laziest snack that I was having yesterday and this morning? Cheese cubes. Cheese cubes, yes. Cornish cheese cubes from Evidence. Cubes and... It's like a baby bell essentially. Pre-sliced apple. Oh wow, that's lazy. But delicious. there's something about and do you ever eat apple and cheese did you do that combo no thanks it's a really good combo you should try yeah um and i was like wow this is great because you know i'm not really buying apples like that but i've gone through like two two parts of the pre-sliced apple because the convenience i just can't help it and i'm just sat on the sofa with my box of apple it's really crunchy it's really fresh a few cheese cubes cold yeah no prep i like it because when I was at home in Nottingham Marianne I had like four pears that she was saving for her lunches I mean pear juice as well let's talk about it give me a fucking pear like she wouldn't let me eat the pears and I was like Marianne I'll give you 20 quid if you eat this pear and I also like a pear when it's not ripe you know super crunchy me too that's how I want it crunchy I love a pear I need to start buying pears me too I need to start buying pears and kiwi oh my god kiwi is good kiwi but again I like it pre-chopped of course right should we dive into some willies and vagines let's dive into some Let's switch up the vibes.

10:22Okay. So our question of the week. This week is, what is the wildest thing someone has said to you in the bedroom?

10:35Sophia Lee: Something you're asking, no doubt. Should we blow our pants off? He would literally. Wow. I've got no knickers on today. Whoa. I mean, leggings. Yeah. So like, I can't. You don't need to wear them with leggings. I can't have a thong on and leggings. like it's too much tight tight. I don't think people are wearing pants with leggings. In the gym I see it. No way. Why? I can see them. What's the point? Obviously they just feel more screwed. But I see ladies all have full briefs on under their leggings in the gym. I always go pantless in a legging. Yeah, me too. But obviously not everyone is. Okay, that's interesting.

11:12He would always ask me to marry him during sex.

11:16Sophia Lee: That's crazy. Wow, it's just blowing his mind. he's just like I need this for a life. He said he needed to think about his teacher so he didn't finish quick. Okay, you could have just kept that internal. You don't need to vocalise that at all. We don't need to verbalise everything, Brian. Oh my God. See, this would, I could never actually sleep with a man again if he said this. One minute, I need to check the score.

11:44Sophia Lee: This football is getting to these boys' minds too much. I think. pass my vape oh my god okay so we're checking the football school we're vaping called me his twins girlfriend's name his twins oh my god so his brother's girlfriend girlfriend and you're thinking and he's thinking i really fancy her and she obviously fancies me with my brother. Yeah, this is the problem with twins. That's the problem with twins. Call me Superman.

12:24Call me Freak of the Week, my friend. That he had just broken up with his fiancé that day.

12:30Sophia Lee: Oh my God, and how on earth are you guys in bed so promptly? He asked to lick my dirty shoes.

12:41Can I eat you like a dairy milk chocolate bar.

12:49Ooh, ooh. Also like, are you thinking of that line in advance? Like, cause that, where's that coming from is my question.

12:58Sophia Lee: I think they, I think he is thinking like, I think that's in his notes app. I think he's thinking, yeah, that's sexy and that's a good line. Yeah. You taste spicy. He had just eaten a jalapeno pizza. ow ow oh i was thinking oh ow yeah ow i was thinking like any spice on a vagina like that's gonna like cause some concern like that's gonna linger as well that well that's just you're just gonna be on fire not in a good way not in a good way we've got here oh my god i call him tiny tim he licked my face and purred like a cat we've got can i lick your armpit that's niche that's giving like he have you seen those people who like eat deodorant they go no and eat it on my weird thingy it's giving he likes a taste of like deodorant have you not seen And those ladies and they're just spraying deodorant on my tongue.

14:05Sophia Lee: No. Oh my God. I'm missing out. He called me mum. Oh my goodness. That's not right. I wonder if these are like one time offenses. Like, do you think he said that before? Or like, like, what are you thinking about? Where's your head at right now? He's definitely said that with a, with a other sexual partner. With a past lover. Because that's not. Like, are we speaking about what you've said afterwards? Like, are we grinding to a halt? it's like where are we going from here is my question i think things are just continuing but in like uh you're just in your head and like uh you're clocking like oh my god did you actually just say that like that was kind of weird like yeah you're trying to forget about it but you calm oh we've got here not a word but he kept farting during missionary oh my god like what's wrong with you clench for goodness sake like actually clench that's not okay that's also just like rude really rude can we role play gladiator so what's that then horse and car like what's that that's I mean I'm picturing Jarrah Butler in that film yeah he's riding the horse I think so they've got those or when they're fighting he wants to fight he wants to fight you you or maybe he wants to rescue you is that what happens I don't know I've never seen it I've seen it I've seen the new one with Paul Paul very good couldn't tell you the storyline though but it was very good that's good to know you know obviously I'm Italian it's you know Rome of course of course resonates quite deep of course we've got here started barking like a dog yikes his kid oh my god his kid FaceTimed him and he answered and he said out loud, daddy's busy.

15:58I mean, he takes his role as a father seriously. You know, we have to commend that to a certain degree. Yes, yes. He's not ignoring his child, but. Yeah, I respect that.

16:11Sophia Lee: Yeah, okay. Okay, yeah, that's interesting. He wanted me to call him Mr. Accountant. You see, now that just makes me think of our accountant and I don't like that. Yeah, I don't like that. So now I'm picturing our accountant Mark. I don't like that. We respect you, Mark, but we're not picturing you in that light. No. We've got hairdresser Mark, lawyer Mark, and accountant Mark. There's too many Marks. They follow us around. Have we got another Mark? Let me think. I don't think so. Those are our three. But three important people in our lives all call Mark. Necessary. But yeah, I don't want to think about that Mark.

16:46I don't want to think about any Marks in that context.

16:49Sophia Lee: He sang Cotton-Eyed Joe. Okay. he moaned my mom's name what the fuck what's happening guys sue sue sue dylan sue he asked me to fart in his face stuff like that you're gonna get pink eye you need to be careful i've never experienced such a request no like stuff like that like does that happen i think i think stuff like this happens on like one night stands where like we don't know each other we're never going to see each other again i've got this weird like fantasy kink and i'm going to ask this stranger because i don't care because i don't care i think that's when this type of shit happens or is this not or is this not a man you know in a deep connection and he's trying this is my truest form i i want you to fight in my mouth every single time and i need to let you know now These are my desires I mean yeah It could well be It could well be God What pleasure would he get out of that Honestly I couldn't tell you It's perplexing Yeah We need to Phone a friend for that Because then that leads on to other things That leads on to We want to eat my poo Well some people do like being shat on Don't they Like it's a request Finally here You can get paid a lot of money To poo on someone Yeah Wouldn't appear no better Wouldn't appear no better All those trips to Dubai babes This is a nice one Okay he told me i had a good ph balance oh i respect that medical but i respect that i appreciate that because it's like oh things are healthy things are flowing thank you things are you know just healthy down yeah the carrot juice is working wonders absolutely you know the uh the lemmy purrs are working yes there she goes just before we get into it quick disclaimer just we are not doctors we are not professionals we do not actually know what we are talking about this is a light hearted space okay don't take what we say literally because we could be wrong yeah and if there's anything serious if there's anything you feel like you're seriously struggling with please contact a GP a professional because that is not us we're just girls girls and boys just like you we're just trying to get through life as well not professionals enjoy the episode

19:09Sophia Lee: Right, okay Here we go We've got the first dilemma today This might put you off your juice Whoa, you finished yours already She's a quick drinker today I am, I think I'm quite dehydrated actually Need to have your electrolytes We've got here His cum Makes me gag I think Blueberry needs to leave the room This is so inappropriate she sat on the viewing couch today. She is. Which is cute. She's observing us both from afar. New seat unlocked. His cum makes me gag. This just reminds me of those girls that I see playing our audio when they're sat at their desk. Yes. And it's like, what's in my headphones at work?

19:52I'm very sorry, girls. Wait. She's an accountant. And you know what else I saw as well? I fear this is a new location unlocked. Someone was playing us on their fridge. we're on someone's fridge on the screen on the screen so high tech some people are living so

20:07Sophia Lee: high tech my dream is to have one of those big fridges me too she had a whole i was like what is that whole screen on the fridge we're on it love that that's so cool isn't it really cool i really want that really cool so while sarah here she's really in a pickle you know obviously she and i things aren't tasting too nice hi girls get the spit bowl oh I mean some people's gaggery for I mean I guess it depends what your tolerance is I would say so yeah to just like flavor things yeah hi girls this feels funny writing to you about something like this but I really need some advice so I'm rather inexperienced in the whole different tastes and smells of men what does that mean they shouldn't smell though Yeah.

21:01Sophia Lee: Like, we shouldn't be down there and smelling horrible things. That's just a hygiene. Hygiene is polite, you know? Exactly. Due to only having one long-term relationship, which ended terribly last year. Okay. However, since being back in the dating pool again, I've been seeing this one boy, Brian, for a while now. And there's one thing I cannot get past, and it's a shame, as he's perfect in every way, but I can't make him my boyfriend for this very reason. He's come. It smells and tastes like cleaning products. Like what? Like grapefruit? No, she said bleach. What? Citrus squirt? No, like grapefruit to me tastes like cleaning.

21:43It tastes like soap. Grapefruit. Yeah.

21:46Sophia Lee: Interesting. Yeah. Grapefruit to me is soap. I hate it. Interesting. To me, like that citrusy, like squirt. Isn't it called squirt? What? Is there something called citrus? Where are we going? A citrus word. She says it tastes like bleach. Okay. So it's acidic. Okay. Maybe he's eating too many lemons. Yeah, how does that happen? Seriously, let's look at his diet, I think. Genuinely. It's diet related. Because where is the, how does it form? I'm not sure. Should I Google it? Is it all in the balls? Should we ask Chattu City? Or is it, yeah, ask. Google it, Google it. Okay, I'll Google it. she's yeah because it tastes like actual blitz i don't know adding to the interesting search she says i don't know if this is normal and all men have different tastes and smells but i'm very sensitive to smells and will gag at most bad smells so as you can imagine this is a nightmare i used to love giving head to my ex-boyfriend and now with brian i live in fear of it well we will bang on the money here because we've got from google semen taste is heavily influenced by diet, hydration, and lifestyle with bitter, salty, or sour.

23:06Sophia Lee: I'm getting full body chills. I feel not well. It can be to do with coffee, alcohol, tobacco, red meat, strong vegetables like garlic or asparagus. Maybe he's eating a lot of garlic and also a lot of processed foods. So that makes it worse. It smells worse. Yeah, yeah, yeah. Dietary choices substances poor hydration poor hygiene so i think he just needs to come tasting like bleach okay but i guess it's like us as well our diet you know can affect the smell and things yeah that's why all the girls are drinking the cranberry juice before they go to the boyfriend's house so we're smashing the lemmy purse it's often normal resulting from its slightly alkaline ph bleach.

23:51God, it's like we're back at school. Wait, so it's normal. While common, this taste and smell can be influenced by diet. What? In particular, to make it taste like bleach? What we've already said. Coffee, alcohol, garlic, processed foods, asparagus. Sarah, you're going to have to switch up the diet, I'm afraid.

24:12Sophia Lee: How? Fucking, because she's not saying his dick stinks. No, no. It's the produce. Which is at least - The produce is off. Yeah, the produce is off. At least the whole Willie isn't stinking enough. Yeah, he is clean, but it's not sitting right with you. It's his produce. I mean, maybe this is a sign that you're just not meant to be. Yes. Like maybe someone else would quite enjoy that. Yes, exactly. You know, maybe this is just a lack of compatibility. It's like sometimes some people just give you UTIs and it's like, maybe we're just not that compatible. Honestly, that is the truest telltale that you're not compatible is if you're just getting UTIs, seriously.

24:49Sophia Lee: I try to avoid it like the plague and it's starting to make me feel bad and becoming quite noticeable that I don't want to go down there in fear of him finishing do I speak to him about it but how would I even go about that is this potentially a normal smell and maybe it was my ex that was weird for having no smell slash taste I'm not even on any birth control and I'm just letting him finish inside me whoa Sarah you're playing a risky little game so that I don't have to smell it All right, so you're going to end up with triplets, Sarah. Okay, so you're going to be your mama. Yeah. Congratulations.

25:23Sophia Lee: From your fear of smell, you're going to end up being a mother very soon. Be careful, Sarah. Oh my gosh. I also can't smell bleachy cleaning products in my day-to-day life anymore without gagging. Okay, yeah. So this is serious. Thanks, girls. Love you. Okay, my advice would be maybe let's start wearing some condoms. If we don't want to get pregnant and we're having unprotected sex, Yes. That would be my first step. Or we, you know, get on some birth control just so that we're, you know, at least protecting ourselves from, you know, having babies. I mean, Google said it's normal. I'm not. I don't know.

26:03Sophia Lee: Do you think she could say something to him? Or do you think that's just like not like, because would you want your partner saying to you? Sorry, Sarah. Why don't you? You know, it's nasty down there. Like, why don't you? now we know the causes like what is his diet like is he a pretty like healthy guy is he like a gym freak does he eat all these clean foods or does he eat a lot of processed stuff like is he not very healthy like things like that and then maybe that could kind of steer you which way he'll start noticing it in your sex life anyway and he might bring up the lack of oral stuff anyway soon probably will.

26:43Sophia Lee: Because you don't want to offend. You want to tread lightly, especially if you really like this guy. I think I would say something in this instance. Like, this is your new boyfriend. Well, it's not yet. Oh. But she wants it to be. But she's saying, I can't have a boyfriend like this. So that's what I'm saying. If he's eating a lot of like, processed foods, why don't you encourage, like, let's have a bit of a health kick and let's have some carrot juice, you know? And then the problem might be solved. Yeah, I think. And if he took it seriously, he's gonna he's gonna want to help his produce taste and smell better and so he will implement these new lifestyle decisions i think i think he could say something and just say let us know how you get on have you noticed i've not been you know doing that recently it's because honestly it smells like bleach like just laugh like laugh that it smells like bleach there's worse things to smell like Has he noticed it?

27:38Sophia Lee: Has he had a comment like this before? I bet you he has, seriously. It might ring a bell. And I bet he's maybe noticed it when he's, if he's ever, you know, masturbating and it's on his hand and he's, like surely if it's that strong of a smell, Sarah. If it's that pungent. I think he's aware of the issue at hand. And like this guy could be like baby daddy so we need to sort this out. Well, we need to sort this out. Yeah. And we should sort out the contraception too. You're saying you're avoiding it like the plague. Yeah. don't want to be saying that about your boyfriend okay next dilemma watching him with her made me feral do oh okay watching him do what sarah that's my question this is reminding me of Max and Gia finding those pictures of his ex-girlfriend in lingerie that he wouldn't delete.

28:39Max this season has been insane. Insane in the mania. Insane.

28:45Sophia Lee: Because you know who's shocking me? Juliet. What her name is? Julieta. Who's Juliet? Remind me. He's with that funny man. The new couple. Juliet? Yes, yes, yes. She's going mental. I know she's going mental. She's just like, I'm like where's this couple from? I know she's so angry. I don't know she's just upset and angry yeah I know like he's just pissing her off but the thing about maths is like they're all allowed their like phones and shit aren't they so they're still because they're still going to work and stuff yeah it's not like Love Island when they're all like recluse so I think they're like texting their mates talking about stuff and then I think we miss a lot because of like things because they're all like I saw on social media and I'm like oh yeah you guys can actually still use social media they can all stalk each other Yeah, they're still doing daily life.

29:33Sophia Lee: Yeah. Which I think affects the relationships. Because she said, I've seen that video of you playing the drums and dildos and that just sent her sideways. I thought it was quite funny. It's not turning chintzy off. But that was the straw. She hated that. She hated it. She did not find that funny at all. She did not find that funny. But then we don't know the context. Like maybe one of her friends sent her it and was like, ooh. and then it's like changed her whole thing. Because your friend's opinions change everything. Yes. Especially when you don't even really care about this man yet. Exactly.

30:06Yeah. Okay, so my Brian and I have been dating for four years, are both in our late 20s and have both been absolutely sure of our relationship for a very long time. The sex between us has always been great and in the bedroom, my horny self takes over and I'm able to forget all my past insecurities. Me?

30:24Sophia Lee: That's nice. You've got your confidence. You're feeling good. Love that for you, Sarah. On our last anniversary, we made a sexual bucket list together. During this conversation, Brian told me that his number one fantasy would be a threesome with me and one other girl. But he would totally understand if that wasn't something I was interested in. In any previous relationship, I would have shot this idea down straight away. But since Brian and I are so solid, I agreed we could add it at the end of the list. Okay, so you're thinking I'm considering this, pop it on the end of the list. We'll get to it one day.

31:02Sophia Lee: Yeah. I have always felt I was bisexual, but before meeting Brian, I didn't have the confidence to explore that side of myself. So maybe a threesome would be a good opportunity to do so. Yes, okay. Stars are aligning. After this conversation, the idea of the threesome continued to grow on me. Until two months ago, I told Brian that I wanted to move the threesome to the top of the list. Sarah get it girl okay nice fast forward let's do this okay and that I'd start looking into it for us on a dating app when work got less busy so you'd maybe find the woman I think so yeah I think that's the right way to go as well I agree it's like look I'm in control I'm gonna search I'm gonna choose yeah you're not presenting the woman to me no no no Brian was obviously excited but again reiterated that he only wanted to do it if I was 100 % this is good communication about it a few weeks ago at a house party with our friends, the subject of sexual fantasies came up and Brian and I admitted that we were interested in having a threesome with another girl.

32:01Our friendship group is very open to discussing anything and everything. So this was actually quite normal. A few days later, we got a text that read, I think I may be able to help you out with something.

32:13Sophia Lee: But she's a mutual friend of ours. From a friend of a friend. Okay. We'll call this girl Susan. Okay. We learned that Susan also fantasized about having a threesome, that she thought we were an attractive couple and that she'd be interested in meeting for a drink to discuss further. Lovely. Okay, this is nice. This is nice. Nice. In many ways, Susan was an ideal threesome partner for us. We've met her a few times, so we'd both be more comfortable with her than a complete stranger. But she's also not a close friend, so, you know, could be avoided if things didn't go well. Yeah, that's kind of the sweet spot, actually.

32:47there was only one problem Susan is absolutely stunning

32:55Sophia Lee: but so are you Sarah so are you Sarah I would be thinking the same thing I'd be thinking those nipples are way higher than mine she is the type of girl I used to compare myself to I was flattered that someone so attractive was interested but my old negative self-talk was also getting to me. I didn't tell this to Brian, which I now think was a mistake. We agreed to meet with Susan that weekend for drinks and despite my mixed feelings, it went very well. She was easy to talk to, very flirtatious with both of us. One thing led to another and we all wound up in bed at Susan's flat. My God, okay. We've gotten capitals here.

33:39Wow.

33:40Sophia Lee: Wow. Wow. Was it explosive? It was undoubtedly the most exciting experience of my entire life. Wow, Sarah. She's put, I came harder and more times than I thought was possible. Sarah's had a great time. I really enjoyed everything I did with Susan. But if I'm honest with myself, it was seeing Brian with Susan that made me absolutely feral. Really? I have never felt anything like it. So it was a positive experience seeing him with her in this experience. This is where the dilemma comes in. I do want to experience the excitement of the threesome again. During sex with Brian, my horny self sometimes takes over.

34:25I now start talking about what we do with Susan if she were there. But I feel like I'm being held back from it because of my old insecurities. And I don't want to let those insecurities win. Both Brian and Susan have told me they had a great time and would love to do it again. but would also be happy to keep it a one-time thing if that's what I would want.

34:43Sophia Lee: Okay. This is great, Sarah. So like Brian's just like checking in on you, being like, look. You're calling the shops here, which I really like. Me too. It's not like him leading the conversation. Like we need to get Susan back. We need to get Susan back. Brian has also told me he would be okay if I had sex with Susan on my own. Shut up. Thank you, Brian. Wow, Brian. I am tempted by this option, but I'm worried Brian wouldn't actually be that thrilled about it and it maybe is a little bit self-sacrificing from him. Right. I mean, he did offer it though. I know. What do I do? Do I go through with the threesome again and hope my confidence grows with experience?

35:21Yeah. Do I take Brian up on the offer of sleeping with Susan on my own? Okay, okay. Do Brian and I forget the whole thing and move on? Susan is on a trip for over a month, so I do have some time to make my decision. But I want to have a firm answer when she gets back. sincerely a confused but horny Sarah pics of Brian I and Susan Oh you hersey You hersey You damn hersey You damn hersey This is her and Brian Lovely couple Zoom in

35:48Sophia Lee: Oh yeah Yeah the long hair on Brian I can see this now Yeah Yeah And this is Susan Shit Yeah Shit Beautiful Everyone's stunning This is a beautiful trio Of people This is a perfect trio Absolutely gorge which I think, right, this sounds pretty positive to me. And I think you're checking yourself. You're trying not to let your old insecurities win and you just need to keep doing that. Yeah. And I also think like you're reflecting, you had the best experience ever. You obviously lent in. Like I know when you're thinking about now, like I don't want to let my insecurities win, but it doesn't sound like they did because you enjoyed it.

36:27You had a good time. You let your guard down. Like I think you have to have a lot of confidence to be able to do that. We were having fun. So like believe in yourself

36:36Sophia Lee: because like that takes a lot, you know? You know, both parties said, wow, Sarah had a great time with you. That was explosive. Brian, you've got Brian in the perfect position. You're calling the shots. He's checking in on you. It's not like he's trying to sneak off with Susan. No, no, no. He's even being so forthcoming. He's happy for you to go with Susan on your own. My advice would be though, keep it to the three. Me too. I think lovely offer from Brian. Thank you. Would look, you know, nice. but you are my partner you're my priority I don't want to be off I mean I do but I don't I don't want to be off having sex without you this is something for us to do together you know we're a couple of four years like we're trying something new let's just like let's not go too yes and I think just keep checking yourself with your insecurities all you can do when these thoughts crop up is just say no that's ridiculous I'm gorgeous I'm sexy I saw this girl no one's comparing us I saw this girl on TikTok and she said like her therapist told her, it's actually quite a good tactic.

37:36Sophia Lee: Here we go, here we go, straight from the source. So her therapist told her, like we all have these like intrusive thoughts or like these negative thoughts or these like over like analyzing spiraling thoughts. And her therapist told her, when you think those things, like you have to give them a name. So like, say it's like Linda. Oh, Linda, you bitch. Okay. So then all you say to yourself is, oh, that's Linda. Like go away, Linda. Like, oh, Linda's being dramatic again. Like, oh, that's Linda. Like picture a little person in your head that's like say who's the one that says all this like shit say it's karen yeah and it's like oh that's just karen like she'll shit up in a minute like oh go away karen like not right now like give it give it a name and then like be like oh that's them like it's not you like oh that's them in your head like that's not me like that's them oh i really like that that's perfect advice for sarah yeah so it's like oh linda's just like over analyzing again like forget about it linda go away that kind of vibe i love that a lot good advice isn't it i think you go for the threesome again and look you guys are checking in every time so do it do it again you and brian sit down talk about it discuss it how did it go shall we do it again yeah i think as long as you guys are communicating you guys have got this i think look you had fun it was amazing i don't see i don't see a reason why not to do it again do you um as long as we're staying open and We're talking about it.

38:58Sophia Lee: We're communicating. I can see both sides because I think like this threesome, you guys have a sexual bucket list, right? This threesome was an idea for the list. Oh yeah, true. I guess it's been ticked off now. We've done it. I guess. We've done it. We've had an amazing experience. Everyone's enjoyed it, which doesn't always happen with threesomes. Like our relationship has not been - Jeopardized. Yeah, like we're stronger than ever. Do we stop while we're ahead? That would also, that would be my only other thought. Like you've done it. You've ticked it off. You both had a great time. Do you want to make this a regular habit?

39:35I don't know. Like, do we stop while we're ahead whilst it's all good? True. But I guess that's how much you got, that's up for you to decide.

39:43Sophia Lee: But then there are couples who just swing forever. Yes, exactly. You know? So what are you, what are you feeling? What are you leaning towards? I think these two are enjoying it. I think it's opening things up. Brian sounds great to me. I mean, treat to know what else is on this list. to you guys. Me too. Like, should we just get through the list first? Yeah. Like, do we just start ticking a bit more off? Yeah. But then Sarah sounds like a great... This Susan's a great candidate. She could help us tick off other things on the list, I'm sure. Yeah. I wonder what else is on the list. I know. But I think go for it another time.

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41:58Sophia Lee: okay next element he's my dream man but he can't get it hard medical emergency severe medical emergency 101 hi girls i love the pod and have been an avid listener right from the very beginning and obsessed with you both thank you sarah thanks sarah i'd love to say i never thought i'd be writing in but my love life has been a shambles and i'm sure if you scroll there'll be multiple emails but this is the problem at hand so let's stick with this so sarah's sixth email i've been single for nearly two years now this is august 2024 after a really toxic horrible three and a half year relationship with a narcissist liar and cheat oh sorry that was heavy i have always been someone who's never single for long but this time since becoming single i haven't cared for dating or finding someone i love that that's important the gym it's really important especially after such a tumultuous relationship.

42:51Sophia Lee: Good word. I stuck to the gym, focused on myself and I've been happy, thriving, being on my own. However, I thought maybe it's time to dip my toe back into the water and download Hinge. Nice. I'll be honest, it is hell out here trying to find a normal guy and I believe a lot in the universe. So if something doesn't feel quite right, I always trust my gut. So since being single, I've only been on one date. The rest, I have ignored or blew it off even before it started. However, I matched with Brian on Hinge and straight away we had great banter. He's cute, really good job, six foot one, kind and funny.

43:30Sophia Lee: So after about a week of talking, he asked me on a date and I agree. He says he'll sort it out. Nice. That was lovely energy. Bare minimum, but we love it. Absolutely. The day before the date, he texts me this plan for going for food at a really nice restaurant and a cocktail bar afterwards. So I'm quite blown away. Nice. he's got this amount of effort in. This is amazing. Yeah. Moving quick. I'm not wasting too much time. I'm going to get to see you, figure out if I like you. Yes or no. Especially after the energy that's been presented to you on the dating apps. It's lovely. This is very refreshing for you.

44:04Sophia Lee: She says bare minimum, I know, but it's really, it's a trenches out here. So this is like, she's really grateful for this experience. I agree to the date and it's amazing. We spend the whole night laughing and being idiots and then we don't make it back to his until 4am. whoa and we went out at nine wow so we had dinner cocktails all night long love it great first date so we're in bed together kissing and cuddling of course and he starts with foreplay okay I'm having a great time brilliant but I'm thinking in the back of my mind why hasn't he put it in yet okay and then I catch a glimpse of his willy okay so boxers were off we're naked we're naked i think like she's naked why haven't you put it like we're naked we're naked we're kissing we're cuddling yeah she's thinking why are you putting in here she caught a glimpse of his willy and it's not really hard so i'm confused but i don't say anything obviously yeah yeah right now he carries on like i did this time yesterday i didn't know you exactly like i didn't know you and now i'm looking at your your p.i so i don't say anything he carries on pleasuring me and he says he's struggling to get it up okay so now he's vocalized yeah okay well i appreciate the vocal me too so i said also like we've been drinking for like hours yeah and this is the thing with men like it's that's medical when they're drunk that's medical so he says look i can't get it up and she says look i say so interesting like why does it stop working it's i don't get inhibitions are low it's like the blood isn't it the blood i don't know because isn't it like because they're drunk like the blood something in their blood not working the same blood isn't pumping the pressure is not there she says look i say don't worry about it i'm good yeah and we just cuddle and fall asleep okay oh i see where this is because you're thinking that was just a drunken night thing Yeah, wait till he wakes me up.

46:04Sophia Lee: Yeah, like next day, whatever. He'll rock my world. So we fall asleep. I don't think too much of it. I put it as like he was drunk, whatever. The next day I go home. We're still chatting. Oh, you go home? Did you clock that? Yeah, she went home. Obviously, nothing happened in the morning. I gotta go. I've got work. Let's go. Okay. But we're still chatting and he wants to see me again. So I go back the next day at 9pm. Shit. Wow. It's a busy week. So he, so in that instance, I'm saying that he's confident that he's going to rock your world this time. He's ready to rock your world. Yeah, like he's saying, come back.

46:37Yeah, come back. I'm ready now. It's showtime.

46:40Sophia Lee: Yeah, like it's showtime now. Like that was just, that was the warm up. And you're thinking, okay, let me just scrub up and I'll be there. Yeah, so you're not thinking that this is an issue of any kind. No issue needed. Because he's invited you back. This isn't a problem for him. No. And also like, I'm not catching you off guard. You're inviting me. Exactly. Exactly. No alcohol. No alcohol. Sober as a judge. It's 9pm, it's early, like whatever. You know, I've ate light all day. Yes, absolutely. He's ready. He's stuck to protein and carrot juice and he is ready. Yeah. His product is going to taste delicious.

47:10Sophia Lee: He's been to the gym, he's got a little pump on and he's feeling good. Absolutely. He's under eye patches, he's ready to go. He washed the bedsheets, he's ready. Yeah, I hope he did. That would be nice. I hope we iron them as well because that'd be real nice. Wow. So, I'm back. We watch a film and we kiss and cuddle and then we start getting frisky again. Shock. but again he's struggling to get it up and now we're completely sober I'm so confused as Dave Frank this has never happened to me before and last night I just passed it off as him being drunk yes I'm sure he's in shock too because he invited you round this is my thing I don't think he saw this happening whatsoever if he thought this was an issue he's not going to be there saying Sarah come straight back to me no let me rock you world he's not he's going to be scared he's not going to text you yeah so this is interesting actually from his perspective I think he's I wonder what's going through in his brain panic it's performance anxiety performance anxiety he's in his head thinking oh my god last night this is what happened last night and it's happening again is it that I think so I think it's just in his head I think so I think it's medical it's a new medical emergency for our brain yeah so now she's thinking whoa you're not drunk we're sober what's happening here this has never happened to me before however because we're sober but he explains that he's started taking new tablets to help with hair growth and he's been struggling to get it hard.

48:35Sophia Lee: So obviously these tablets might be affecting his hormones. His testosterone. Testosterone. I tell him again, look, don't worry about it. I'm happy just to cuddle. But, you know, come on, there's only so many times we can go through this process. Yeah, cuddle, schmuddle, you know, let's just do what I'm here to do. Okay, right, here we go. Now I'm home and I've had a good time to process this.

49:00Sophia Lee: yeah all right zara i don't know what to think or do yeah i'd be interesting to see because also like for me even though it's not that's going to be a huge confidence knock well yes of course even though like it's nothing to do with me we've tried to have sex twice now twice i'm thinking that like i've turned you off you don't like something you're not like a trap i'm i'm in my head now thinking that it's me well yeah now i've turned it on to myself yeah because i've been naked in front of you twice twice and this is as good as it gets yeah this is really like this is my best matching set that i've got in the draw and like i don't know what else to do at this point you know you've seen it all you've seen the juice you know you've seen it all and you're still saying sorry sorry like yeah the wheel ain't turning she hit google up so he said these tablets these tablets i mean was his hair looking thick and luscious like are these tablets working Because if they're not, then let's come off them.

49:57Sophia Lee: He's wearing a hat. So it's still not performing as well as he would hope. Okay. So she said, I got to Google. I Googled about the hair growth tablets and they can cause erectile dysfunction. So Google has confirmed. Erectile dysfunction, medical term, medical term. ED, she said. Yeah. It's good lingo. So I know he's not lying. This is good because it is a medical emergency. I never thought he was lying. Yes. Because he was so confident he invited you back. I think this is new to him too with these new tablets. he wants long luscious hair but he can't have both yeah he can't it's either functioning willy or hair I think just go bold shave it all off me too rock it do the buzz cut I think honestly that is David Beckham buzz cut what's not to like bold head and a big beard I think is a look it's a look but I know that can be a shock for a man going from long luscious hair to bold yeah definitely but you know that's just a part of the male species this is what they've got to go through isn't it nothing wrong with bold head just rock it off now and then you'll at least have a functioning willy like make your choices there's picky battles, Brian.

50:54Sophia Lee: So she said, I know he's not lying. I don't know how we combat this. He goes bold. That's how you combat this, Sarah. Or along with his ED pills, he's taking a bit of Viagra. I fear that's a bad combination. Now we're like getting relied on too many drugs. What? Air growth tablets and Viagra. That is like... Well, I'm just trying to counteract the side effects. Yes. Yes. I mean, I've heard these men, they can take Viagra and they can be hard for hours and hours and hours and hours and they don't know when it's going to go down. That's scary. And it can become a medical emergency. Like they sometimes have to go to the hospital because it's like, this has been pumped up for hours.

51:37And it's just not releasing.

51:38Sophia Lee: And like, there's no rest. Like, I don't know, I'm tired. Yeah. So I just, that scares me as well. The Viagra scares me. So she's saying, I don't know how we're going to combat this because we're only two weeks in. Yet. and also like I'm young I'm single like do I need to be do I need to be dealing with this like maybe not you know she's saying we had so much fun we were laughing yeah we had a day that just that's how we think as women it's like well we were laughing we had a great time we were bantering yeah it's true look we're only two weeks in and I don't really want to be too invasive and ask loads of questions and say say that it's an issue but it's left me feeling unsure he's my type to a t and i don't want this minor thing is is it minor i don't think it's minor sarah that's pretty like but i do think it's something we can get through because it's literally just his tablets it's gonna have to be a medication change yeah but but all we need is one good sexual experience and then it's forgotten about i think do you know what i mean like how are we gonna get this positive sexual experience we need to drink again but then then it's not it's going to be shut down even more.

52:47Sophia Lee: I know. It's never going to wake up. I know. Well, he needs to get off these tablets is what I'm telling him. I'm left, I'm unsure. I know, Sarah. He's my type to a team. I've got the cure. I know what you're going to do. Go on, doctor. You're going to say... It's either me or the hair. No, you're going to say... It's either me or the tablets. Who can we see? We've got to see someone in a film who's bold and you're going to be like, Dwayne. I just love a bold guy. Yeah. I love a bold man. Isn't he fresh and fresh? He's got no facial. he's just shiny shiny bold head and shiny and shiny and beautiful about that actually like stunning yeah rock like he is the rock yeah yeah yeah he resembles a shiny rock yeah he's you know and he keeps it moisturized and glowing yes beautiful who else so i think you start leaning in to you know boldness and how you really like it yeah he was also just should we just get through were thinking that we could google some sexy girl got by yeah bold guys but i understand men don't have a lot all they've got is their hair yeah and it's precious men just have their hair and their facial hair and muscles yes we'll speak about this the other day so like if you don't want to go bold as a man and then you are balding like that is confidence destroying yeah they haven't got makeup yeah they haven't got lip filler yeah well they could absolutely so she's saying he's my type to a t and i don't want this minor thing to get in the way of possibly something amazing but the same time i'm 24 and he's 25 um honey oh honey and surely we should go be a hersey go be go out there be a hersey you're 24 uh we shouldn't be experiencing this problem so early on yeah because what happens when we're like 49 you know what happens then well yeah what happens when he's on some other pills or something else do you know i mean everything's gonna be affecting it it's all going to be a mess you know it's yeah help me girls what do i do do i get him some viagra and tell him to try that i fear this is just gonna this is a lot for a man you met two weeks ago this is a lot for a 24 year old woman to be dealing with i don't think we need to be going up to the dark web buying viagra i don't think so either save it for our 60s you know do i sack it off and cut my losses sooner rather than later do i bring it up randomly or just yeah because we've not spoken about we've only spoken about it in the moment but oh it's fine it's fine I don't even think I know what your parents names are yet and we're already speaking about like medical help you know it's been two weeks yes I think it's got one more chance to rock your world if he can't we've got to go yeah he's got to get his medication I don't think he can though well he just didn't stop taking the tablets yeah how bad can his hair be I don't know I don't know he's got a hat on he looks fine just keep the hat on like I don't care keep the hat on you can leave your hair what's that I don't know it's a country song yeah just leave the hat on I actually saw a TikTok of a man he just had his cap on in the shower I think it was a skit but this is obviously what men do they hide behind the hat do you think people have sex in hats probably yeah fully naked just hat probably yeah some of the cool guys you know who rocks with backwards cap yeah I could see that actually definitely the cowboys definitely the cowboys yee-haw yee-haw all the men in stagecoach all the men in stagecoach she's saying do I just cut my losses you know sooner or other later do I bring it up randomly or do I speak to him more about how serious this is or do I wait and see if it happens again and bring it up then I don't want to risk throwing something beautiful out over something so small pics attached to me and then one of him love you girls thank you he is the tall one in the white of course I knew there's three men in this image he's the one in the middle with the hat on and I just knew he was the one with the hat on she knew it this is him I mean he's got a beard so he could definitely go bald yeah I agree zoom in a bit more but you see his friends have all got this fringe thing yeah I see that he's going to feel the pressure from the friends I see that they've all got full fringes yeah and I know like they're going to give him a hard time about going bald could you zoom in on that image a little bit yeah I mean what's the zoom we're going to get yeah I mean he's got a lot of leg hair so yeah I'm sure he's fully full on the chest and on the back I think so too so he's probably quite sad that his hair is going lacking in that I'm sure his armpits are full as well like yeah but yeah he's not used to this either Sarah I can tell yeah I don't think so this is our Sarah bombshell oh Sarah bombshell yeah stunning stunning Sarah not much not to like yeah little Hilsie Sarah I think this is tricky because I think we can get one more shot I appreciate it's rough out there it's hard to find a good date it's hard to go on a great date and you have had a great date.

57:36And you're thinking, this doesn't happen every week. This doesn't happen every Friday night. Like this guy, we spoke very briefly. He asked me out straight away. He arranged a great date. Nice dinner. Like he put a lot of effort in. He's ticked every single box when it comes to like a first date. And yeah, you met him at what? Four, did she say? Nine?

57:58Sophia Lee: 9 p.m. till 4 a.m. 9 p.m. till 4 a.m. Or till the morning. till the morning till the next day yeah and I do think that's rare so I would be I'd be inclined to give it one more shot I would be inclined to give it one more shot and just say because you can go on a lot of shit dates and like that's a really good date and you don't get those very often so I would be inclined to give it one more shot and I think I mean if he's confident enough to ask you out again because he's had two situations where he's not been able to rock your world but then also like I think if you show that you're still like here and like willing leaning in, it might give him like a bit of more confidence.

58:38Yeah.

58:38Sophia Lee: And maybe just say something like, get off those mats. Because what else are we going to do? Maybe if it's third time failure, you know, third time could be a charm. It might just pop out of nowhere. But if we have a third time failure, then I think we can talk about it. Seriously. Yeah. And just be like, I really like you like it's but this is gonna be an issue but you know as you know brian yeah because you know we're not rocking each other's worlds right now no but i like that you're still having a good time like you're still getting all your action absolutely he's still invested in the situation yeah you know i like him i think he's just yeah i like him and i appreciate that he said i'm on this medication yeah yeah and i appreciate that he invited you back that second time me too like Like he's got a bit of confidence.

59:28Sophia Lee: Me too. He just needs a little bit more for this third time around and let's get through it. Third time's a charm. You've got this, Brian. Don't cut him off just yet, but if it happens again, then obviously this is going to be a whole issue into the relationship. Yeah, and like we're 24. Like we will go on other great dates, you know. And there are men, you know, who are functioning things. Paralyzing every pore. Oh, you feel it taking over you.

59:59okay right our final one here i want to spice things up but what if he thinks i'm weird he will not then he's not your person sarah hey girls love you both so much so he will not he will not he'll be like oh my god wow i love this lady yes he's going oh my god i can't believe it's my lucky day yes my fantasies you have been with me through college uni breakups and breakdowns So I'm 24. I've been with Brian for six years. Sarah, let's get freaky. We got together when we were super young. So we have basically grown up together. He is my best friend. I love him with my whole heart. Our relationship is great.

1:00:38Our sex life is good. Like really good. We are at the point where we know exactly what the other person wants. Nice. And not bragging. Entered flow state.

1:00:48Sophia Lee: Not bragging, but he is a real one. Do I want to know this about Brian? Do I want to know this, Sarah? He is a real eater. Wow. We love that for you, Sally. Thank you for the details, Sarah. We appreciate that. I'm happy for you six years in that he still is doing that. But lately, I've been feeling like I want to explore a little bit more. I feel like after six years, it's normal to be curious and want to try new things. Yeah. Six years. We have used toys, but I really like to invest in a few new pieces. It's going to be more high tech. Oh, okay. We're spending a bit more money on the devices.

1:01:23I mean, you can get things that are like 20K. Remember that show we watched and it was like saddle. It was like 15 grand.

1:01:30Sophia Lee: I know. But I'm not sure how to bring this up. I also really like the idea of watching porn together, but I really worry about making him feel uncomfortable. I don't think he's going to feel uncomfortable, Zara. he is not gonna feel uncomfortable about that no the thing is he's actually quite open-minded he's never given me a reason to think that he would judge me yeah and i'm pretty sure if i brought it up he'd at least be willing to try but for some reason i'm so nervous he's gonna think i'm weird or unsatisfied no but i i understand yeah i understand but that's just linda talking you know that's just Karen babes I have a rabbit vibrator that I've hidden from him okay whoa where where oh so you're using this in your own time because I don't want him to be upset that I'm using it when he isn't here interesting which is ridiculous because I bet he'd find it hot but I just can't own up to it okay so my dilemma is do I bring it up or do I just leave good things as they are?

1:02:34And if I do bring it up, how do I even start that conversation without it sounding like I'm bored or unhappy? This is them after just purchasing their new home. It's very blurry, but congratulations. It's too pixelated. You're like two giant pixels.

1:02:53Sophia Lee: Gorgeous couple. Love me couple. Gorgeous couple. Look, you're in a committed long term. Sarah, I think this man's going to be very happy. After seeing that man's face. He's going to be chuffed with that. And he's not going to think you're weird. No. You're in a committed long-term relationship where you guys have sex. He wants to know what your sexual desires are. And vice versa. And also, you both have a very happy sex life. Exactly. He knows that. You know that. We both know exactly what our sex life is like. It's not like you aren't really having sex and it's a little bit like a taboo topic.

1:03:30pick and all of a sudden you want to bring in these new toys like then i could understand being like i don't want it to sound like i'm not you know blah blah blah but like you both know like you're all really good you just want to switch it up a little bit exactly and i think he's going to

1:03:42Sophia Lee: really appreciate you being like and i think that if he takes it in a negative way then i don't think then i don't think he would i don't think he will but you're six years and you know each other like oh sarah okay yeah we can try that we can try that yeah and then if you ask him what is or anything you want to try let us be open right now yeah like we've been at this for six years there's some things on my mind that I want to share with you let's keep it pushing and I don't think you should keep them to yourself because you're in a committed relationship with this man who you have sex with who you have been having sex with for six years for six years you are allowed to express your wants and desires to this man who you have sex with about other things you want to do while you're having sex do you know what I mean and I think he's going to lap it up he is going to eat it up literally literally alright like I think he's only going to take this in like whoa yes absolutely yeah i think it's gonna give him a new lisa life he's gonna love his life and he's gonna be bop it he's gonna be skipping through these streets yes i think he's gonna be bounding through that front door when he gets home you want to use and try all these yeah you know this is lucky day to it this is lucky day so i think just be confident back yourself this isn't weird you're a woman with desires it's normal it's fun it's fun it's not weird at all you're a lady who has sex with a man and you've got like it's normal to have other desires.

1:04:59Sophia Lee: Don't see it. Good luck, Sarah. Be confident. Right. It is time for our star of the week. This week. I wanted to send in my star of the week and it has to be my Brian, Matty. Shout out Matty. Because honestly, I don't think I could have done this marathon without him. For the last few months, he has put up with everything. The early alarms, the long runs, me talking about kilometers like it's a personality trait and all the times I fully spiraled and convinced myself I wasn't ready. Not wanting to tell me to shut up, he just kept backing me and telling me I could do it. He came out on my runs with me in the cold, in the wind, probably questioning his life choices the whole time, but still there.

1:05:44Race weekend as well. He drove me four hours to Brighton and back, made signs, tracked me, cheered me on and basically acted like my personal assistant coach nutritionist he was making me food making sure i was carb loading properly the day before i had a full support crew and it was just him it wasn't just one thing it was everything over months he's genuinely been my biggest supporter through the whole thing and it felt so much on race day he also just genuinely is amazing outside of all of this the love of my life pure green flags and proof that you should not settle for less we love star of the week is matty look at her and Mattie Prince Harry whoa Prince Harry's in the house

1:06:28Sophia Lee: Prince Harry's in the house gorgeous Mattie gorgeous couple Sarah you look incredible in that dress bombshell insane wow we appreciate Shout out Mattie and Sarah congratulations on your marathon fantastic well that concludes another X rated episode Into the Box another one in the tank absolutely thank you very much for listening everyone if you would like a bonus episode you can get them every single week over on our Patreon. We do two episodes a week. And if you have a dilemma or a star of the week entry, you can email it to hello at the girlsbattery.com. Follow us on Instagram, YouTube and TikTok.

1:07:02Sophia Lee: Thank you. We'll see you next week, Monday and Wednesday. Love you. Bye.

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