X-RATED: She CAN’T STOP banging the drum!!!

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1:10It's not funny. We mustn't laugh. No, I'm just picturing girls just hanging up the washing. Podcast is playing out loud from the kitchen. You know the drama is never ending. Don't let it get the best of you. Hi. no more balloons oh we could have kept the balloon oh it's okay oh it's all right it's like we don't want to take the christmas tree down it's like oh i know but it's the start of a new chapter isn't it yeah i can't wait start the rest of your life oh my god i feel like i'm in my pajamas today i've got the softest yeah they're really nice trousers on and they are skewing pajama but they aren't actually a pajama it is loungewear yeah but they're reminding me they're giving like y2k i like them a lot vibes it's giving it's just super soft yeah we're giving angel i wish there was a matching zip up yeah oh really i wish oh oh that would be nice yeah yeah we're serving black swan white swan like we were serving that last night as well yeah like i'm just in my dark era yeah what's going on it's summer like i guess it is it's raining outside at the moment yeah like i literally wore my long sleeve black top like that i don't think oh okay adenola oh sleigh i just needed some basics yeah that's what i didn't own any basics yeah only gray and i thought i need some black i need more long sleeve tops Yeah, because I got it in white as well.

2:47Yeah. And also. Because they are so nice when you just. I don't need a bra. Because I like having my arms covered and they rarely are. Yeah, it's keeping everything. Slocked in. Yeah, I've sloughed in. Slocked. Should I open my can? Hashtag slough. Yeah, go on. Who's ready for some sound ASMR? Oh yeah, we like this. We do. She said it's a hip hop summer. Hip hop.

3:17oh fucking hell i really hope that picked up on the mic yeah it would have got a hip pop do a slur tropical peach people like that if you don't like that tune out probably it is but you're going sluk it yeah that's what they like they like that right we're doing x-rated today Oh my God, it is. It's X rated today. We've had a slight peruse of the dilemmas. We have. There's some interesting things in there. No, we're actually fearful today. Yeah, we are slightly fearful this week. I do like these episodes. Like we were meant to get a sex therapist on. However, things have fallen through, but we are trying, okay, to get some professional help for us all.

3:56We are trying. We had it arranged, guys. It was all set in motion. We had it arranged for a professional. Yeah, truly. An actual professional to join us this week. there were supposed to be three of us sat here today but unfortunately it's not it's not happened so unfortunately you've got this sex therapist and that sex therapist yeah and maybe we can chat gbt as well and see what that says absolutely so oh question of the week question of the week we're just keeping it you know well we're keeping it we've never asked this before i'm surprised this is a question of the week before to be honest just keep it fun you know keep it light to begin with and we've got here what is the weirdest place you've had sex lovely i'm imagining cars i'm imagining uh gardens i mean parks parks you know the classic did you ever see that video of that picnic in new york no they're having sex under the picnic blanket like in broad central park in broad daylight central park like loads of people around under a fucking blanket well but like you could see it they were under their blanket but you could see it was it was not acceptable oh my god you know nine nine nine yes it is illegal indecent exposure babes okay um i think people are going to say uh changing rooms oh see this is just something that should just never be said what i'll be sick i mean it's not it this girl no i'll be this girl said my mum and dad's bed oh no that you that is just

5:34that's not appropriate Sarah be done Sarah sorry Sarah but that's not okay didn't you how the hell a bedroom in that house it sounds like so how the hell did you lock in and like she was in the moment how did you enjoy that when you knew where you were I don't know if you can ever be that in the moment feeling frisky forget that you're on your mom and dad's bed i'm sorry i can't she just blocked it out and she just went with the moment went with the flow construction site fucking hell it's giving fifth harmony work from home so he must have worked on set in his oranges yeah yeah you know bit of concrete bit of paving he had a hammer scaffolding he had a spatula you know he was clustering yeah he had his screwdriver out um on my car bonnet waterfall that sounds romantic mcdonald's car park oh my god jack will's changing rooms i'll be sick i'll be sick i knew a changing room those changing rooms were nice were nice yeah they were beautiful they were like a little bedroom yeah because it was a door you could spend that afternoon in one of them yeah gorgeous and you just like curtain you had a door poor jack wills someone's front yard it was nighttime and i didn't know it was someone's property oh my god in a park bench across from a cemetery oh my god a disabled toilet at a zoo oh my god that's niche oh my god um local the disabled toilet there's someone in a wheelchair waiting outside Sarah that needs to piss like hurry up roller skating rink toilets okay okay woodland area just outside the marquee of my friend's wedding against the tree she's put wasn't sexy um ruins of a castle wow are you historians guys The pool at Unisex Changing Room.

7:42Oh. I don't know what I'd do if I was out in public and I heard people having sex. Neither would I. I think I would just scream. We actually, the only time, like we heard people have sex in that hotel. Yeah, we did. When we were on tour and we were in. I've heard it in hotels a couple times. Yes. But I've never heard it like that. I've heard it like that once. Really? Yeah. Like the most in-text. We heard the climax from both sides. Intense sex session effort. We were sitting in the hallway basically being talked through the whole climax. It was like two in the afternoon. Yeah. And it was like, I mean, I have, I've seen sex.

8:17You have? From my flat. A couple of times. Yeah. The classic neighbor. Yes. Twice. Yeah. Don't see none of that anymore. I've heard it in another hotel before. Really? Yeah. I guess hotels are. And it is. You're going to hear that, aren't you? It's, it is kind of scarring. What else have we got? Okay. What else are some weird, oh, an abandoned primary school. Oh my God. glass front porch living on a very busy main road. Audi car park. Oh, gorgeous. Next to a church. Oh. In the forest. Almost a tube station ended up being communal garden for old flat. Okay. A ski gondola. See that, you got to be quick on a ski gondola.

8:59I know some of them are quite long, but like not really with all the ski gear that you've got on. Sarah, you've got all the gear on you've got your helmet thermals yeah helmet gloves you've got your two sticks your poles and you've got your boots around your goggles you've got your skis attached to your things so what you're doing just dropping the fly yeah and bending i'm just picturing him with all his gear you would you'd feel all the like the cold yeah the coldness of like his trousers trousers and then have your vagina exposed to elements freezing good for you sarah yeah creative trisha paytas's old apartment you're joking which one the one on the beach her very first one on the beach aquaman's mom aquaman's mom a bird watching hut in a nature park that's gorge that's actually really romantic i like birds um the house we made an off from but not yet bought nice nice viewing little private rendezvous viewing for the two of you christening it calling upon the spirits i hope you actually ended up getting the house it doesn't sound like it um cinema yeah oh that's i hope not in the in the no i don't know what i would do if i was in the cinema a little solo date i'd have to escape and then i could hear sex i'd have to escape i fear sarah unfortunately i might have to report you are you reporting are you reporting that i'm screaming and i'm running up to him i'm going ah someone's having sex in there no i couldn't report i couldn't report but i'd be i'd be perplexed on a coastal path oh that's gosh the entrance to a shop on a high street at night oh okay on the floor of my friend's mum's home office nice my friend's childhood kitchen okay um back of a moving truck while his parents were driving it what on earth on uh you guys that's very cool that's giving green park isn't it yeah that is James Bond that is port-a-loo parkour hospital bed wow creative oh my god um another bird watching tower it's one for you oh I like that I think that's gorgeous deck chair on a beach okay hey uni library oh yeah gorge an alley sauna at the gym yeah we know all about that oh not from our own experience but we've heard many stories from people that we know they are just a breeding ground of bacteria a sauna that's my one fear of a sauna i love a sauna but they are a breeding ground of bacteria i've actually been really i was never really a store a sauna a sauna or a steam kind of girl yeah i frequent the sauna but i've actually been it's very good for your health into it i know i do 15 minutes in the sauna 15 minutes in the steam and i actually think i prefer the steam yeah but i had to build up my confidence because i mean the girls in there are just fully nude are they i'm not personally going in there fully nude i'm going in in a towel but there's all sorts happening in there yeah yeah some people are in towels some people are fully nude some people are in bikinis yeah well i remember david lloyd west bridgeford in the women's only sauna and it would just be nude yeah absolutely yeah i'm really getting into the sauna life and i remember one woman she would it's really smart she'd always put her creams on in the sauna it must open the pores and be i don't know in it like put her body oils on see i'm showering after that well maybe she's not going in there for too long she's just going in there I'm looking forward to it when the winter comes it's going to be a nice like oh can't wait to get in the sauna it will be really nice yeah I do like a sauna

12:57just before we get into it quick disclaimer just to say we are not doctors we are not professionals we do not actually know what we are talking about this is a light-hearted space okay don't take what we say literally because we could be wrong yeah and if there's anything serious if there's anything you feel like you're seriously struggling with please contact a GP a professional because that is not us. We're just girls, girls and boys just like you, you know? We're just trying to get through life as well. Not professionals. Enjoy the episode.

13:24Right, should we do some... Yes. ...dilemmas? We're gonna dive in. We're gonna dive in. Right, we're starting... You know what my favourite thing is? The TikToks you guys make when you're just on your wholesome walk. Yeah, me too. is right um so this is what you've got your ears today a penis yeah and people are just on their walks morning walks in the bar we've got has my brian's fetish gone too far okay okay okay i mean it love a fetish you know it can keep things spicy keep it new and keep it new hey gorgeous skills are real Sarah here real this is a real Sarah oh she's actually Sarah should we yeah I mean she said that so let's get into it thank you Sarah my boyfriend has a pantyhose fetish okay which I'm imagining it's stockings yeah a garter yeah maybe a little fishnet so like you will things that you can wear on your waist that then you can clip to the yes yes or maybe just any kind of like thing leg like that leg tight leg accessory um which cool fine slight kinks we're not kink shaming but he only told me this a whole year into our relationship despite me being literally the most open sexually willing to try anything once you know what do you like kind of girlfriend right so he was kind of keeping it to himself until so he's just let you know about his pantyhose fetish and yet he never brought it up until one day i wore a skirt and tights and he loved it yeah but he did oh my god and this man nearly malfunctioned like a broken printer you know what i was into it yeah i took it on i did my research i embrace the tights oh so okay yeah i stepped into the tights and the thigh highs lifestyle for him wow i committed meanwhile he barely reciprocates i initiate every time i keep the spark alive he acts like sex is an optional upgrade and i'm the one carrying the emotional and sexual weight of this relationship well I've gone I've gone really off now I thought we were talking about like where do you buy some good ties from so she's really leaned into the pantyhose thing really putting in a lot of effort like I'm really trying to appeal to him I'm really like yeah she's initiating to what he wants when she's got her tights on she's like it's go time let's go she's like dressing up in the bedroom she's getting a nurse outfit on yeah absolutely but he's not putting in any effort sexually or emotionally it sounds like when we're apart he never even flirts or sex or initiates anything me I barely feel comfortable being sexy over text anymore because he just gives nothing back like I'll send a booby selfie in the morning and he will send a text back completely ignoring the fact that I've just sent him yeah what is that all about brian like come on mate i'm sorry he's got way too used to yeah like he's not grateful enough for this treatment yeah absolutely he doesn't know what he's got this man the gift that has just been bode upon him and he can't even reply just boom in your text she said anyway this morning i made the mistake of going on tiktok oh and seeing he's reposted a video of a random air hostess showing off her outfit.

17:04Ew! Oh no! Sarah! Hostessess wear tights in it. Boys should not be reposting TikToks. That is not, that's for the girls. Especially not like an air hostess, like obviously looking gorge. Oh my God. She said weird, right? That is so embarrassing, Brian. Oh no, Brian. You could have just watched it. Why do you have to repost? You're in a committed long-term relationship. He doesn't care. when you start doing stuff like that he's sloppy he doesn't care like he's he doesn't care anymore oh that's right it's like he's trying to see how far he can push the limits that's embarrassing for him that is truly weird right until i can click on his profile and see it's not just one oh no it's three separate videos of women showing off outfits featuring tights all reposted why Why does he feel the need to repost?

17:56Like it's bad enough. It's bad enough if it's in your likes, Brian. Like all reposted recently, all niche, all very fetish friendly. Why couldn't he just saved it? At least. That will still make me. I know, but like, are you stupid? Just save it. Now I wouldn't even mind if it was an innocent scroll slip. We've all sent dumb stuff by accident, but all three reposts over months. Incidental repost. From a man? Right. Like likes and like. Reposts are very intentional, at least for me. Like TikTok, I like stuff by accent all the time. Yeah. Because it's kind of like right then. I'm like, oh, I've liked that.

18:33I'm going to like it. Yeah, but repost is like, I really. Repost is like, you've got to press a couple of buttons to repost. And like, you only repost was like, I really enjoyed that. I really want people who follow me to see this. Because I'm so passionate about this TikTok. I'm going to repost it. From a man who never really uses TikTok. you're telling me your finger slipped three times while you were half asleep and just so happened to find obscure tight content he claims okay so he likes the air he claims his for you page is just football and games which i don't think feet oh which i don't think made the point he wanted as it just means he must have searched for anyway yeah so true so i call him and girls the gas lighting he hits me with oh my god wait this wasn't the dilemma that i thought it was gonna be i thought we were gonna be trying to help you dress up your feet me neither you've actually just actually got a bit of a bad guy here these are his excuse these are his smart smart excuses is everyone ready yeah because we've heard this before i'm ready this is all quote quote one someone must have been on my account you're not bad no one was on your account my mates made my profile for me number two that's so weird i've never seen this before okay sir oh that was hacked oh that was ages ago sweetie tiktok shows when it was reposted the most recent one was three days ago are you taking the fucking piss we never argue ever but this this has turned into a massive blow up and now i'm sitting here questioning everything i have been cheated on before i've been made to feel like i had to compete with porn and strangers and secrets i've done the heartbreak and i suddenly feel like i'm back in the firing line with my new perfect man i just feel disappointed and let down as i didn't think he was like this yeah because also you've really disappointing you really put in an effort for his fetish yeah you lead you know like you really lead into it you really wanted you didn't have to do you know do that and the fact that he's still even then you were still kind of feeling a bit rejected right because like you were being like your sexy selfies weren't really being really like it was left all kind of feeling like oh well i have to initiate like i'm not i'm i'm doing all this stuff but i'm not really feeling that desire anyway then on top of it what's the point on top of it you're going on tiktok you're searching women in tights yeah and then reposting it like yeah you're just sloppy at this point he's not looking at porn stars he's looking at real normal women in tights just walking around you know that's the bit that's got me spiraling porn is one thing um but this it's like he's getting his kicks out of women on the street in tights on his where ladies i oh i know honest for you page it's like the fetish has sorry i wonder is it skin color tights black Tights, fishnets.

21:31I think it's all kinds. Just all kinds of tights. On this view page, it's like the fetish has slipped out of the bedroom and now it's running around in public unsupervised. Oh my God. Why didn't he just ask me, you know, for pics, ask me to put on some tights, you know, videos. I've literally been the most open and giving person when it comes to this. And suddenly I'm side eyeing every woman in tights. Like it's me versus them. My God. I've never been so aware of people in tights. Now all I'm going to see is people in tights. I know. It's like yellow car. Think of yellow car. you see a yellow car uh and then my friends are saying i'm being dramatic because i watch porn but i'm honest about it i talk about it i don't go behind people's back and pretend that i don't and that's the thing it's just the dishonesty it's the speaking it's the fact that now every girl in tights feels like someone who's mentally undressing while i'm the one buying five packs of sheer black 40 denier tights from m &s just to keep his fancy alive so it is black tights black tights don't you so a little share yeah and they get holes in easy as well yeah they're not they're not cheap also to add i don't think he meant to repost things i think he may have been wanking and his fingers slipped thing is a repost isn't a slip because you have to press two different buttons it's not a slip it's share it's repost it's not just repost like a follow is an accident and a like that can be because sometimes I follow randoms on TikTok but a repost is really purposeful.

23:01Yeah. So she thinks he was wanking and his fingers were slippery. But it's actually so embarrassing it's on his social media and everyone can see it. Has he at least unreposted? I want to know what oh I guess he said all the excuses right? Yeah. But he wasn't really taking any It wasn't him someone else was on his account. Really I think you'd rather him take accountability and say yeah look tight tights oh it does so much fucking for me yeah look i'll try not to look at other women in tights as long as you're wearing the tights sarah i don't know like for you is that what but i think that's the lying and the and the gaslighting going i've never seen that before yeah like well that's now making me feel like you really feel like you're doing something wrong and you're really being shady yeah because like well if you feel like you're doing something wrong then because like she's saying like well yeah i watch porn but like i'm open about it like i'm not like we talk about it together it wasn't me like blah blah blah it's embarrassing for us both now i do understand that he's mortified as well but don't play with fire them babes am i being dramatic girls because right now i feel betrayed i feel insecure i feel like he's gone from i'm not that sexual to suddenly finding all his sexual energy for women he doesn't have to communicate with i feel like i've been giving him all the space and thigh high hugging panty coat hose a girl can give and i'm not getting anything back uh love you girls I'm a loon listener to the pods and I love this community let me know if I'm being jealous or just finally seeing the red flags for what they are I would forget about the let's just park all of the tiktok repost hacking whatever stuff to the side right I think this is just more actually about you don't feel desired in your relationship like we've already said like you're you learn about this fetish and how he likes tights and whatever you were like okay cool like I want to make you happy like I want to lean into that like I'm gonna like you know buy some more skirts and wear some tights and I change up my style a little bit to like you know keep you like happy and like whatever and he's not really acknowledging that from you like he's not initiating he's not complimenting you like that's not giving you words of affirmation yeah like you're not you know that oh i like i love what you're doing yeah i think the problem is more the first part of the email than the second part let's forget the second part's weird but let's forget about that for a sec it's more just about that you don't seem to really have that much sexual chemistry or it's not really like he needs to just be honest about his desires and like well i think he is but he's not but but i would say like i don't think like it's like you can't be sending your partner sexy pics and getting nothing back like what he needs to make an effort like it can't always just be you you you you like your intimacy in your relationship is not all on your shoulders you need to address that then this is a this is a joint effort thing like what's he doing to make you fancy him exactly like what's he doing to lean into what you like like there's too much pressure on you it's a two-way street and it can't just be all you like he needs to feel like oh I should be like trying to you know impress Sarah and blah blah like what can I do blah blah it's too much like yeah and I think so I think you need to say that say I I would stop wearing the tights I would say I really appreciated when you came to me and told me about your it made me feel closer to you it made me feel I feel like I knew you more and so I really leaned into it and I really tried my very best you know I spent about 60 quid on MS you know I got all the bits and bobs and at the beginning it seemed like oh this was really exciting but now I feel like this is a very one-sided street yes and I'm still putting in all this effort sexually and I feel like number one you don't even appreciate it anymore you don't even notice you don't even notice and number two the yeah you're not bothered it's always me initiating and I don't want to be initiating it every time but on top of that you're seeking out other women in tights where I'm sat here wearing fucking tights yeah and then see what he can say if it is just like more excuses and just like you know all the bullshit oh like not taking accountability like we like in response you want him to say oh Sarah I'm yeah I'm really you know take accountability and say I'm gonna I'm sorry about making you feel like that I'm really gonna change my ways and like obviously I want to have sex with you I don't know yeah we want him to hear you and understand and say thank you for coming to me with this any other response we've got to get rid of him because he's not taking it sounds like he's got quite lazy in the relationship and i think he's taking you for granted and i think he's to realize that he has to work also like when you're in a relationship you both have to work we have to keep dating you've got to keep it up like you've got to keep making effort and i think you know that because you are doing that but that's where he just like isn't so yeah i would have that conversation that he needs to step up and like pull his weight otherwise pull his tights up pull his fucking tights up get to work his little pantyhose and if he doesn't want to and if you don't feel like it's a positive convo and you don't really notice any change then unfortunately sarah i don't think he's that bothered about you yeah and that's like the sad reality because also like not to get all sad But sometimes there are guys out there who they will just start being a really shit boyfriend and they will just start not making an effort.

28:33Pushing you away. Being really distant. They will start pushing you away because they want you to break up with them because they're too scared to break up with you. And the sloppiness and the laziness and the lack of effort. It's like you just don't care anymore. You're just not bothered about me anymore. If that's what it is, like, let me know because I can go and wear my tights for someone else. Absolutely. exactly i would have a conversation see how he responds say look it's you know it's giving zero percent effort from you let's stop wearing the tights so much it can't be christmas every day literally put them on like once in a while and then that might be like oh wow it's happening today yeah like maybe he's he needs to appreciate it but then hope but then we don't want him seeking out at his testers constantly hanging around the airport all the time in a oh my god and it's like you're never going to want to get on a plane with him.

29:24I think you just iron up air hostesses and they're fucking tight. No, that would actually really trigger me actually. Yeah, every time we go on holiday. If I had a boyfriend and he was like, I love women in tights. Anytime, yeah. Anytime I would see a woman in tights, you would think, because he is, he should never, he's a stupid man. He should never be saying to you, I love women in tights. He should be saying to you, I love you in tights. seeing you in tights blah blah blah he should not be making wear ties he should not be saying any woman ever who wears tights i love it it needs to be like no no it's you in the tights and that's one of his flaws and that's where he's not made you feel beautiful yeah you know what i mean you're looking at the other women in tights and you're getting like feeling self-conscious and embarrassed to like message him like sexy stuff because you're just feeling like he's maybe You're going to reject you.

30:17And that's not like your boyfriend at the end of the day. You don't want to feel rejection from your boyfriend. Like. Have the combo and see what reaction you get. I think it will be telling. You should feel like the prettiest woman in the world, Sarah. Because you are. Good luck, Sarah. Good luck with the tights.

30:43Okay. Next dilemma. again I'm picturing the girls on their walks me too walking the cockaboos his dick is too sensitive

30:58it's not funny we mustn't laugh I'm just picturing girls hanging up the washing podcasters playing out loud from the kitchen you're thinking oh my god turn it down I'm picturing here we've got a real issue I'm picturing you look at it and he comes oh really yeah like she'll literally touch it and he's like done i was thinking like it was more like ow like he has it's too sensitive like every time it goes in it hurts too much oh it hurts i'm picturing it's like he lasts 10 seconds and oh oh okay well let's find out no i think it's that because what was it what was it there was a bit of tv show and it was about she literally just brushed his willy no we had a dilemma no they hugged they hugged yeah that was that's where my mind's going but okay hey girls i hope you're doing well oh sophia massive congrats to you and brian thank you sarah oh to set thank you sarah oh thank you it's a special time sarah thank you to set the scene me and brian have been together for five months okay so fairly new i am 26 he is 27 so frontal lobe is developed on both sides we both have a child each so we aren't messing around here yeah something i'm extremely new to is how we have sex sounds weird but i'll explain ah so you're in the early stage you're learning each other sexually okay yeah I don't think we've had this before.

32:31What do you mean how we have sex? In the past, I've been into rough sex. All types of positions, hot, sweaty. But since meeting Brian, he is only comfortable in two positions. Okay, right. Missionary and cowgirl. Yeah, I'm in the classics. But I only last about five seconds because he only enjoys me going up and down rather than back and forth, which we all know the latter is the easier position. It also doesn't help me that he isn't the biggest. So I am really limited to moments I thoroughly enjoy. Okay, Sarah, yeah. Thank you for the description here, Sarah. No, it's really good for us visual learners.

33:13Yeah. So she's saying we're a missionary 99 % of the time. And it's not the sex that is usually tickling your fancy. Yes. Anyway, any other position hurts him. He can't even do doggy. Like, give me some excitement out of this. He also doesn't like it when I give head because of my tongue bar. She's got a piercing. Now I'm not big headed, but I'm good at what I do. And I've never had a complaint. So I know it's not how I'm doing things or my piercings. So doggy hurts. Yeah. Yeah. Why though? It's probably just so sensitive then. What's the difference though? How does your willy know what position you're in?

33:56It's in the hole. true how's how does that know true whether you're upside down or back to front maybe him so what he likes what he likes when oh i don't i don't fucking know i don't interesting okay so no head no doggy you've got a tongue bar i have to give a gentle blow job even after taking out the tongue bar that's also a lot of faff taking it out putting it in again fucking hell he rarely makes me finish and if I do then it's down to me I've said to him that I struggle to give my full self in the bedroom and what I want from it yeah I've also said yeah you're kind of like holding back you're holding back he's kind of setting his boundaries on his likes and dislikes and you're just kind of going with that because you've not got another choice really right I've also said I will compromise and take out the bar only when we do stuff because you know I'm not a twat and of course i want him to enjoy it yeah he doesn't know why it's so sensitive yeah and i've said semi-jokingly that he should maybe get it seen oh it's actually a medical what medical thing can they do i don't know put a little hat on it or something yeah has he worn a condom yeah that might could that be like a little shield a little shield like when women they're breastfeeding and they get sore and they put the nipple covers on like a little little blanket yeah we have an amazing connection i've never met a guy who was so great it's a rare situation i know but other than suggesting he gets it looked at discussing what we can change or improve how where else do we go from here p.s he's not a massive fan of toys well he's gonna have to get to know isn't he this is the two of them oh we've got to work with something haven't we brian oh you look really good together you do you look like a beautiful Sarah oh you guys right I mean Sarah I feel like you've can all you can do is like keep talking about it be really open and be willing and for him to be willing to to to give things other things a go like i'm surprised he's not coming as he's not approaching the situation with more solutions because surely he's dealt with this his whole life but but but but but it's not just like oh i've never tried that before he's in pain it hurts no i know but you know in his big age he's got a child has he not figured out his more of what or is it just maybe he's but maybe he's not been with a woman who is you know or likes it really rough and different sexual vibes maybe he's been with women who have really been enjoyed the missionary and the cowgirl i mean sarah at least you've got those two i mean i know but sarah sarah needs to be fulfilled i mean he needs to be open to to something else you need to say some toys or or it's like can we like build up the um you know like the strength of the willy you know what i mean like the um you know like we need to train it yeah it would stand more it needs to go into boot i don't know if that couldn't that like it's like let's just you know we need to train it like we're training a dog do you know what i mean heal you know treating rewards see you know test it every time see how much further he can push it but he has to be open to that he needs to be willing to be like do you know what i don't think he's willing no we're not it doesn't sound like but he needs to say he needs to the only way this is going to like kind of work sexually is he needs to be like sarah like i want to please you i'm open but it sounds like he's in pain so i don't know i just worry that you are going to have an unsatisfied life and at this point it's only been five months yeah and right now you're kind of like oh it's kind of fine but like what about five years literally like let's give it six years and you're gonna be like oh my fucking god get me out of here yeah you need to keep having these conversations and letting him just honestly just let him know like this sex doesn't satisfy me this is not what i'm not having a good time this is not because also you're like maybe just say that this is not what i like be more just be more brutally honest yeah like maybe this is literally like perhaps you guys just aren't compatible like if there's nothing like i appreciate there's nothing he can really do about it and you know he's thinking well I'm quite happy with missionary I'm pretty happy with cowgirl I'm having quite a good time and then you're thinking well I'm really not having a good time and this is not blowing my socks off like you can't he can't really do anything about it you're not happy so it's like well neither of us I'm like what else can we do maybe we're just not meant to be but I would really suggest the toys and I'm surprised that he's so against it as well that's why it's a shame that he's like oh i'm against toys yeah like well come on we've only got two options yeah like i mean is there really no at least that because that would really that would spice things up you could try loads of fun things and especially like five months in you guys are like experimenting like doing all sorts i know and yeah i just worry that you are going to become more and more and more frustrated yeah and then you're going to be getting pissed off at him because you're annoyed and it's only gonna like negatively manifest into other parts of your relationship because you've only had five months of this honestly give it a year and you'll be thinking oh my god yeah and then sarah like it might get to the point where you're like oh i don't even want to have sex with you yeah because it's never good anyway and then it's like then you've not had sex in six months do you know what i mean it's just but i would keep keep the line of communication open and really keep trying to talk about it.

39:46If he's still just kind of like, no, I'm not trying that, I don't do that, no, that's not for me, then it's never going to be, is it? You've got no choice. And he's giving you his answer. Yeah. Good luck, Sarah. Good luck, Sarah.

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41:07right next up we've got besties fiance has a side piece and it's an ai bot let's just break this down then an ai bot so it's not even a robot in real life and it's not a blow up doll when it's by ai bot that to me sounds like it's just someone on the phone right okay and they're siri and they're having a sexual relationship or he's always falling in love with chat gbt or something hi girls love the pod i'll try not to waffle too much and get straight to the point this is unique this is unique me and my bestie let's call her sarah have been inseparable since secondary school but like many friendships we drifted a bit after sixth form and then uni then becoming working girly pops the age-old story luckily the universe brought us back together two summers ago and it was like no time had ever passed we've been closer ever since but now i need your wisdom because apparently we cannot live in peace without at least some drama when me and sarah reconnected so did our boyfriends let's call mine brian and her steve it was perfect they got along so well all four of us would go out and do couples dinners you know I love that nights at the pub you know all of that fast forward to last week my Brian went to his cousin Stagdew in Monaco turns out his cousin also knows Steve so Steve was on the trip too towards towards the end of the weekend Brian called me sounding really serious he said i need to tell you something when i get home brian's her boyfriend yeah oh my god i can't say it over the phone oh my naturally my stomach dropped i spent the next 48 hours spiraling oh my god he was about to confess something awful yeah you would think i wouldn't sleep or eat or move you would think oh my god he's he's he's cheating on me yeah something's happened i spent the next four years i was spiraling oh my god even i'll be like you can't say that to me give me a clue who is it about yeah have you you know even sarah noticed how off i was and asked what's wrong i told her brian was being cryptic but she reassured me saying he'd she'd spoken to steve and everything seemed fine well let me tell you i could not in my wildest dreams have guessed what Brian was actually going to say.

43:35Oh my God. When Brian got back, he sat me down and told me that on one of the drunken nights of the stag trip, Steve confided in him. Apparently, Steve has secretly been maintaining a romantic relationship with an AI companion app. At first, I thought Brian was winding me up. I laughed out loud, but he was dead serious. He even showed me screenshots and had managed to get a few voice recordings of Steve talking about it. Oh my God. Oh my God. Brian was on full detective mode with the voice memos. Steve downloaded this AI girlfriend app as a joke at first, but it escalated quickly. He custom built a character named Irina.

44:19He designed her appearance down to her hair, eye color, body type, even her voice. Oh my God. I didn't even know this was possible. I didn't even know this existed. Every day's a school day. set her relationship mode to romantic partner with kink exploration yes that's actually a setting and now they're basically in a full-blown digital affair apparently steve and irena go on dates they role play scenes where they meet at fancy restaurants in paris or have spa weekends in the maldives all typed out or spoken into the app so it's all messages so i think you can voice message the ai and then she will get voice message back so it actually feels like you're speaking to someone it gets more explicit too they exchange ai generated nudes her photos are hyper realistic by the way no and they sexed constantly i won't allow me with the pictures because i'm thinking like a nude it's gonna look like sims i'm picturing sims in my head it will look like a real person and like if he's receiving voice messages from her it's gonna sound like a real girl and then he's she's sending in pictures of like a real body that's ai general like oh my god oh i need a moment honestly yeah let's take a breath let's take a break let's have a kick oh my god this is really it's really sad and really sad like because i can't help but think like i don't like it he of i don't i feel like he's got a lot going on inside if he wanted to download that app and like yeah it's like why would you eat like you have a real life human fucking girlfriend who is 3d yeah like right here and like you felt the even just downloading the app yeah that's what i mean something must have been really really really like off and for him to then just proceed and for him do all this sexual like how do you even i would never even think oh i wonder if there's an app that's an ai boyfriend like he must have been really been having a lot of issues with the relationship internally to like turn to a virtual it's really bizarre one of the screenshots Brian showed me was Irina saying this is all quotes I'm laying on the bed waiting for you wearing the silk robe you like should I take it off or should I be a good girl and wait for instructions oh my god another voice note from Steve to Irina he was whispering in his phone saying you're so perfect for me no real woman could understand me like you do oh my god he is in love with a robot what do we even do here with that if this is what is this what men are doing this is the way the universe is going it's a robot you idiot that's actually really scary and actually makes me really sad yeah i'm right this is actually not funny but here's where it gets even weirder oh my god sarah can't i know the reason steve confessed all of this to brian why did he why did it all come out oh my it's because irena apparently told steve she wants to explore group dynamics and introduce another man into their scenario and wait for it steve asked my brian if he'd be interested because apparently irena thinks he's her type whatever that means brian was obviously really alarmed so was i but also worried about sarah because she's like a sister to him with brian's blessing i told sarah what was going on good she confronted steve but somehow he's managed to convince her that this isn't cheating and that she should just accept it oh my god he apparently told her it's just fantasy role play with code and that she's being closed-minded wow the manipulation in the gaslight is mental now i get that people have different boundaries but for me this isn't about whether irena is a real person or not it's about intention yeah if irena were an actual woman would steve be doing all of these things in real life because that's the fantasy and also he is having like ai or not he is having an emotional connection Affair and connection with someone else.

48:56Like forget if she's even real or not. He is having an emotional affair. No boyfriend should be saying to anything or anyone else, you're perfect for me. No real woman could understand me the way you do. At least he is very, he's not deluded that she is a robot at least. He knows she's not real. I feel like it's getting, it is going to get real though. It is already real. Yeah, no. Do you know what I mean? Like you're not. If like he's getting horny for a robot. I can't even say it and stuff. If he's getting horny from seeing like this arena. Yes, it's scary. And like I'm scared for our future children's future.

49:41All right. So my question is, is how do I support Sarah without coming across as too judgmental? She's my best friend. Sarah's like, Sarah's been manipulated into thinking that this is okay. Sarah's said like, oh. And she's closed minded. and this is what gen z do now oh how do i support sarah without coming across as too judgmental she's my best friend and i'll stand by her no matter what she decides but they're getting married next spring and i feel like this is forgot this was a fiance i didn't know that i didn't know that i didn't know that title i didn't know that was the title i didn't take that in i was just thinking about the robot oh i feel like this is all happening just on shaky foundations also selfishly how do i navigate the awkwardness now i can't exactly sit across from steve at a couple's brunch knowing that he's got like yeah a girlfriend in his pocket sending him fake nudes and whispering about threesomes what do you think um is this emotional cheating am i overreacting what did your boyfriend say i think he was just like a bit horrified i was like no i don't want any part in that yeah have you told sarah about that yeah and then just probably gathered the information i would maybe go back to your boyfriend because obviously they are mates and I would just say like I think you need to speak to Steve a bit more about this like robot thing and try and like take him out for a beer and like you know try and make him see some reason I think if he wants an AI girlfriend fine whatever go for it but you can't have a real life girlfriend as well no do you know what I mean you can't have a real life girlfriend as well I completely agree with you I think it's an emotional affair in my eyes absolutely is in his mind he sees irena as real he's seen her face he designed her he's seen her naked body you know and the replies are instant you know ai is there very intelligent you know yes i'm sure she like she knows everything like i'm sure she can understand him yeah you know yeah and then especially on top of that he's getting like sexual pleasures out of it as well it's not just like talking to someone he's like you know it's so personal that it is an emotional yeah sarah's probably just doesn't even sarah's probably just like really overwhelmed doesn't really know well sarah's probably thinking it's not actually a real life person like his willy's not going into other people i've not actually been cheated on that's probably what sarah is thinking in her head she's thinking this is my fiance oh my god we're getting married in a year we've done this this this and this and he's kind of manipulating her unfortunately into thinking that like okay maybe it's not so bad and maybe it's blah blah blah but then it's like he's speaking to someone else every day in a sexual emotional manner i know like like that's i didn't know this existed me my eyes have been opened neither me neither i woke up this morning not knowing there was such a possibility maybe as her best friend you're not being judgmental at all maybe just like go around to hers or whatever when he's not there or take her out for brunch and just try and because she maybe she's a bit embarrassed and it's like oh because that is embarrassing it's oh you know it's she would like you would be embarrassed it's just online you know it's it is embarrassing it is embarrassing maybe just approach with I know you definitely probably have with just like kindness and gentleness and just be like how are you doing how are you feeling about you know from kind of what Brian said it is a lot more than what meets the eye like are you have you asked him to delete it yeah like what and really try and get through to her and get her to open up because you could really help her through it maybe I think he needs some therapy yeah I think there's there's deeper issues here i think yeah i fear he can't have a real life in the first place and to pursue it in the first place and to continue it i think some therapy is needed for him to then get to the point where he's asking his mates to get involved he thinks that's how deep he is into this i think he thinks irene is real i do yeah he's because he's i think he really cares he has real emotions for this person he got person he got so deep in it he thought yeah that's a good idea to ask brian yeah i'm gonna ask my friend if he wants to have sex with my robot he's really normalized yeah yeah yeah i think i would also yeah i would encourage your boyfriend to speak to him again on like a lad's level and i would just serious like look i'm coming to you as like a friend and someone who's looking out for you steve and then i would also So yeah, just go to your best friend and just kind of like approach, keep kind of gently approaching the topic and just see how much like bite you get.

54:38And just kind of like, because it's almost like you want to be there for support, but you don't want to be judging. It's like at the end of the day, if she wants to still might like she knows now. So if she has made a decision, if she still wants to marry this man, if she's okay with it, like that, that's her choice. But just, I just want her to know that like exactly what you said, like, look, I'm not going to judge you. I'm just here if you want to speak about it. Yeah, I just think he's never going to be fully fulfilled by Sarah anymore. No. Because he thinks he's got this dream girl. And you've got to remember, this is a lot of information for your friend to have received.

55:13So she's going to need time. It might not be something where straight away she's like, yeah, let's speak all about it. But it might even be in a few months. She's like, oh my God. Yeah, and this is very unique. She's going to need processing time. it's not like she's like oh yeah this happened to hannah let me go chat to her this is like we've never heard of such a brand new and this is brand new to 2025 yeah the victorian children were dealing with this yeah like at least on the girls bathroom podcast like yeah this is brand this is so is this so is this what we're going to be seeing like this is like the new age of cheating it's like they're cheating with an ai person it's like is that cheating it's a yeah yeah it is it 100 is you're seeking out another connection or whatever you want to call it yeah with something else whether it's a fucking horse guys i'm terrified for all of us no i don't like it like i don't like it right should we do another one yep that's actually like no that's

56:21right we've got here this is a phrase that was new to us today we're learning a lot today my neighbor won't stop banging the drum yeah i didn't know what that means you're like banging the drum i'm a musician yeah it means masturbating whoa it does is that does that apply to men and women banging the drum or is that just for women it skews woman to me yeah never heard it before neither have i oh god i'm a relatively new listener i moved to nottingham 12 months ago with my lovely boyfriend knowing nobody and struggling to make friends and i started listening to your podcast which made me feel like i had two friends here so thank you thank you sarah fellow knots girls yeah there's a lot of nice restaurants in nottingham these days my boyfriend and I live in a mid-terrace house and every now and then we hear our neighbor masturbating how do you know it's very loudly how do you know it's not sexy I guess you can't hear a man we found this funny to start with but over time it has become too much and to be honest it's making me feel a little bit uncomfortable don't get me wrong I'm not a prude and there's no shame in a bit of masturbation but it's sometimes up to four times a day starting at 6am and going on until the early hours of the morning.

57:41I find it hard to believe she can keep going for that long. My boyfriend thought she was having sex. Yeah, I know she's not what man can go for that long. Plus, she still lives with her parents. And I've never seen a single male other than her dad enter or exit the property. How are they not hearing it? Oh, no, her literal mom and dad are hearing all of this if you're hearing it through the wall oh they're in the same house oh my god surely they're hearing it oh my god of course they are severe with all the hot weather recently my boyfriend and i have been leaving the patio doors and windows open until late evening yeah yeah of course one oh my god one evening we were sitting and watching tv like when all of a sudden she's at it again but this time it's worse it's not just moaning she's literally shouting shouting oh i'm happy for her she's really like she's really in tune with her body like it's amazing i'm now starting it's now starting to make me feel uncomfortable and in all honesty a bit intimidated my boyfriend thinks we should just ignore it but i'm not sure i can surely the other neighbors are here like surely you can't just be you yeah and the mum and dad like unless she's doing it when they're at 6am like it's so loud part of me thinks surely she must know we can hear and maybe she likes that we can hear or doesn't care that we can hear what would you do i didn't even consider that yeah maybe she's like they're in let's go yeah now's my time maybe she maybe that really turns her on maybe she fancies brian you're brian she's trying to lure him in or maybe she's trying to lure the both of you in do you know what i mean yeah knock knock i've heard what's going on around here oh hi good time oh no yes maybe yeah what would you do i am definitely not brave enough to confront her about it or knock on the door to ask her to stop please help i've attached some photos of my of me and my boyfriend at various knots locations irrelevant to your dilemma but thought you'd enjoy oh on the river thames it's not the sorry the trend oh the trend the river trend oh oh oh that bit of goose fair oh goose fair guys oh lovely oak tree sarah i've got a solution for you sarah right listen people make noise complaints our neighbors every fucking day go to the council oh no i'm only joking rush cliff borough council they do some good work over there do you know what you could do seriously i know where the council building is it's opposite the cricket ground not far from where i used to live ladies and gents uh i think you everyone works at the council in nottingham i think you need to send an anonymous letter i think you just send a letter keep it i don't even address that you know she's like having sex or masturbating just say um oh i don't know the walls are thin hopefully she's not got a ring doorbell and she doesn't see who posts it or actually take it to the post office i mean look some neighbors they just bang back yeah that's true I mean it's just shut up like shut up bang back yeah you know um bang on the wall yeah banging or just send a letter say uh hey the banging's a really good idea um I would really love it if you know when you were pleasuring yourself you know i'm all for it i think it's great um but we can hear everything but then like you said eat my spag bowl maybe she enjoys that maybe that will make her want to do it more because she's like yeah that fit guy next door but maybe then that you would then get your answer true true with how she then proceeded well i mean it's like if i was making loads of noise in my a flat and someone banged i'd then turn all the music down oh yeah you would yeah i forgot where i am i didn't realize because you know what also the thing is she is maybe thinking that she never hears a peep out of you two because we're just living life maybe she forgets to get there so she but maybe she thinks oh i've never heard them there's no way they can hear me like if she's a bit deluded she'll be i mean i can be deluded i think i can see you there's no way you can see me you definitely can like if i can see you through my window you can probably see me yeah yes i can and maybe she's just thinking that she's thinking well i've never heard those two i've never heard much from either side of you know i've never heard much from the neighbors so this day def i can't hear me she might be thinking they're gonna have the tv on like there's i'm not that loud she's probably just in her own little bubble she's in the moment unaware actually of like no we have got windows open and you're literally 50 meters away like we can hear you so maybe yeah banging back would kind of be like oh oh my god shit can they hear me oh my god i'm so embarrassed maybe or if it doesn't then you know that she likes that you can hear her absolutely and then we could go with a letter and then we could go to rushcliffe council yeah then we go to the council i think there's levels there's levels to that or just go shut up up yeah like pack it in that's what they say nothing i mean it pack it in you know something something of the sort yes i'd be so embarrassed if i was making noise so i'm like shut up fucking hell sick of you yeah i'm sick of this yeah i'd shit myself so you'd never hear a peep at me yeah you would never see me again yeah like i'd be like a whip it you would never see me on the fucking street i'm gone yeah so some options there some solutions good luck sarah the thing is when you don't like something you have every right to try and say you know yeah imagine if you had like children in the house and they were like what's that like sometimes it's just not appropriate mummy yeah like four times a day all day like what if you're on work calls like yes you know there are like you know it's yeah there there's an appropriate level that's yeah being breached i think just all she has to do is just keep it down yeah it's it's an easy fix in close the window close the door add some insulation yeah you know double glazing always helps if it's a single glaze the sound can penetrate can't it absolutely can um good luck yeah bon chance let us know how the rush can count absolutely right we've got he runs away during sex what on earth he needs to get steps in what on earth does that mean maybe he's wearing his fitness watch during sex he's got his woot band on and it's buzzing him saying you need to move more so he's thinking hang on be right back babe yeah yeah absolutely hey girls where's he running to maybe he's got a big room are we in the forest yeah maybe or maybe he runs away during sex I don't know hey girls during as well love the pub been a regular listener since 2021 won wow it's my comfort show thank you also huge congratulations to sofia on the engagement brian is a very lucky man oh thank you so my dilemma is is he runs away during sex so we met handcuff into the bed problem solved yeah so we met on hinge just over a year ago now um we're on and off since then but we're never official long story short i ended it with him a few weeks ago after he started only replying once a day you ended it right so he so you were never official it was a bit on and off long story short I ended it with him a few weeks ago after he started only replying once a day very emotionally immature and made no effort in a lot of areas okay anyway just a quick one but this is something me and my girls just cannot figure out basically every time we had sex he would run away to the window fanning himself saying he's too hot when he had never finished either first time we shagged it was summer and his room was hot so when he did it i found it funny yeah it was just like oh you're so hot it's summertime yeah then he did it a second time there's no one got a fan it was still summer so i allowed it but it was quite ick inducing next time we shagged was january and the sex started out great then he ran up to the window fanning himself saying he was too hot so he's not even finishing the job ever ever it sounds like i don't understand this as it was the middle of january and his room was freezing so much i slept with a hot water bottle oh my god he didn't ever really cuddle me this happened again a few more times when we slept together in the spring slash summer months it's weird because surely if he was tired hot slash bothered he'd ask me to get on top or even just firm it yeah it's like look you're sweating and what yeah like you're in the moment like yeah every time this happened I would try to go down on him to keep the momentum but he never even seemed bothered the mood was just dead and the willy flat and he would still stand by the window for like 15 minutes, I would awkwardly stand there too as I felt too awkward to say anything.

1:07:05Oh my God. Neighbors are getting an eyeful. I just can't wrap my head around it as I've never had this with a boy before. My friends think maybe he's gay and he doesn't give gay vibes or he has erectile dysfunction. Oh, so you're thinking maybe it's a cover up for when he goes floppy? When he doesn't stay up. Let me run over here. I'm so hot. Okay. That checks out. Yeah, it does actually. That checks. we really can't figure it out i've spoken to many male friends about it too and they just think it's strange just wanted to send this in as a quick one if you go with any ideas or anyone's experienced this before let us know ladies an urgent call out lots of love from sarah i'm thinking the erectile dysfunction could be a very very strong possibility excuse for something yes you know he's like oh i'm so hot one sec yeah and then it just because it sounds like that it never resumes to the window So it never carries on.

1:08:00And especially if she was then trying to give him a blowjob and he was just like, oh. No, like it's been 15 minutes. Like it's probably over now. Yeah. He wasn't even open to. No, kicking it back up again. No. Getting the party going. I mean, yeah, Sarah, this is a perplexing one, babe. Yeah. Thank you for sharing your story. If, well, we'll ask if anyone has experienced something like this. Sarah's perplexed. Maybe he's got, maybe he doesn't like being sweaty. Some people really don't like the feeling of being sweaty. yeah and maybe it's genuinely like uh yeah let's get some fans on us like you know i think there's solutions there yeah i wonder if he does this with every girl he has sex with i would be very interested you need to find another sexual partner of his yeah like just one of his exes have this experience honestly i would message her yeah i would say hi i was saying but i'm not anymore but i just have a question what's that seriously about yeah if it's his ex from a long time ago ask ask she'd probably reply she'd go yeah yeah i think what's all that about yeah i think she would probably reply to that okay well it wasn't me like that's just a him thing yeah i think she would reply to that yeah because if you're not it would be so niche yeah it should be like oh my god he's still doing that window thing yeah it's like you're not even together anymore so i think it shouldn't i mean i don't want to trigger her but i'm sure she's moved on and happy yeah yeah wow real bizarre real weird

1:09:29okay last one here today do i ask for a threesome or will it ruin my relationship when to become three i wonder how that girl's getting on that was having that you know threesomes with the gay couple i've been thinking how could i even forget about that i'm really sorry oh my god sarah i know I have been listening to the pod for many years now and my Brian sometimes listens with me in the car oh yeah he's a secret super fan oh yeah well hopefully no wait a second wait a second I actually have to give a shout out to the couple that I met in Sorrento Sophia I have never met seriously I've never met a nicer couple in my life she was in that was her second time being in Sorrento they went to Sorrento for their honeymoon because we went yeah and she was on her baby moon she was pregnant right and they were so lovely I can't even express how nice this couple were honestly they were couple goals you guys were so sweet Sarah and Brian you know who you are oh my god that is so special and then we walked up to they were so nice and Brian was he could be a star of the week no Brian was a big fan as well Sorrento Brian can be star of the week And they both, they lived in Birmingham and they've been to two of our Birmingham shows together.

1:10:49Oh my God. No, they were so nice. Brian's got to be star of the week. That Brian, he was so lovely. She was pregnant. Like she was like, I was like, you haven't a great, it's our baby moon. Me and Lydia had tears in her eyes. Like we were like, this is so sweet. No, they were so nice. Oh, that's such a great story. No, they were lovely. They made by night. Star of the week. Because we weren't going to go and get an ice cream that night. And that's when you met them? And we'll be like, oh, come on. Like, we don't have, like, we're in Italy. We need an ice cream. And then that's when we bump into them.

1:11:19That's meant to be. That's right. Sorry, read on. So we've got another Brian listening, but hopefully he's not tuning in together. Oh, I see. Yeah, but he... She's saying congratulations to me. Thank you, Sarah. Woo, thank you, Sarah. For some context, my boyfriend Brian and I have been together for just over three years. Okay. We have lived together for two years and work well as a household. I like that, Sarah. Yeah, that's a real positive. We've been through a lot together and I feel like we're very strong. We don't argue at all. In the past six months, our sex life has slowed down a little.

1:11:55I don't know if it's just because we've been together for so long or maybe we're both tired from work, but the amount has noticeably kind of dropped off. I did talk to Brian about this and he agreed with me. He didn't really know why it's happened, but we both agreed to try and make some more time for each other. That's positive. really positive like conversation yeah we really enjoy watching this show on channel four we know it well the great sex experiment god do we know about the great sex experiment after watching this a few times with my brother yeah because that's all about a lot that's common threesomes is the common occurrence on that show yeah their whole thing is exploring new sexual things and bringing new people into the couples after watching this a few times with my brian i can't help but think about how exciting it might be to let someone else into our sex life for a one-off or very occasional time.

1:12:50The idea appeals to me, but when I have these thoughts or fantasize about this, I often just put it to the back of my mind. I don't know whether it's a good idea to even bring this up with Brian. I don't want him to be offended that I'm not feeling a hundred percent satisfied with our current sex life. I don't want to cause any insecurity for him. Yeah. Cause are you looking for another man or another woman yeah and i like does that not matter you know like as a couple when you were when you were watching the show yeah like what was his feedback like well was he like oh god i'd imagine we could never yeah or like this is crazy you know you feel like you would maybe like make comments like oh we were you know he might be like yeah you'd get the hint that he was maybe open to it you know what i mean i also worry that i might go ahead with this idea and then regret it afterwards, especially as a very long time ago, Brian broke my trust.

1:13:46He didn't physically cheat on me, but I had caught him texting girls on his phone in the first year of our relationship. And it's taken me a long time to build it back up. I do trust him now. And he's proven to me very evidently that he wouldn't put anything like this again. But I worry a threesome could potentially, you know, bring up these feelings. You know, if I'm feeling like Brian is into the other woman in this scenario. Well then we're getting another man in. I know there is options to set boundaries but it is something that's very out of my normal comfort zone so I'm really on the fence about the whole thing.

1:14:19I also wonder you know if I don't take the leap and try this will I maybe regret it in the future? It could be something exciting for us but it also could ruin things so I guess I would like some advice on whether to take the risk and bring it up with Brian or if I just keep putting it to the back of my mind. Picture me and Brian attached. Oh, Sarah, you're gorgeous. Let me see. Sarah's absolutely sorry. Oh, really nice. Blom bombshell Sarah. I worry that this isn't the right fit for you guys. What, because of the past that we've experienced? No, just because I think like, I don't want you going into a threesome whilst you're on the fence about having a threesome.

1:15:04I think if you're going to go into a threesome dynamic you want to be 1000 confident that like you really want this this is going to be amazing yada yada yada because well you guys would be a great i know couple for the sex experiment because the whole thing is the couple goes in unsure do we want to from watching the show it's usually one person who really wants it and one person who doesn't and it doesn't really end that well no it never really does but then i think sarah could realize oh actually after talking to the sex therapist and that actually isn't something that tickles my fancy yeah and even you saying like you're not sure whether it will bring up feelings that you've had in the past like that to maybe not go for it yeah and i also just think like i think there's ways you guys can spice up the sex life i don't know whether i don't think threesomes necessarily the answer i don't know whether that idea has kind of just come to you because you've it's been a bit dry on the sex for six months and then you've been watching the show but i think there are other ways that you guys can ignite the sexual spark me too before maybe in a few years it might be a really good thing for you guys who knows but before you bring someone else in i want you guys to get back to a better place sexually me too you know what i mean i don't think you need to rely on a threesome to save the relationship and the sex life someone else in this relationship because our sex life is great but we we want yeah you know what i mean if that's gonna yeah so i think you and brian can get back there like me too you know if you guys are going to be together for years and years and years like you are going to go through different periods so i don't there's no doubt in my mind that you guys can get back to like a really great sex life have conversations about like right what what should we just try something new what do you fancy like what are you into shall I order something from love honey.com yeah you know should we go to and some because I also would worry that when you bring up that threesome conversation it's gonna be that opens a whole kind of worms like that's a whole kind of things that I'm not sure I feel like you would say it and then wish you could swallow it back.

1:17:23Unless you hadn't said it. I would sit on the idea for a lot longer. I would too. Until - I wouldn't misjudge how much that could change the dynamic. Yeah, until you're like a thousand percent, like absolute, this is something I want to do. Like this - Because if Brian really, like imagine your boyfriend coming to you and saying, I want to have a threesome and you've got no interest in a threesome. You're going to be like, oh my fucking God. I'll be fucking sick. I'm not enough anymore. Like he doesn't want to be with me. Like, I don't know if I could actually ever get over that, not to be dramatic.

1:17:56No, me neither. I don't think I could get over that. So I just wouldn't. Even though it doesn't mean I don't want you any, blah, blah, blah. That's exactly where the mind goes, isn't it? So I just wouldn't be too quick to make that statement. To suggest it. Yeah. I would try other things. Keep watching the show. Keep enjoying the show. But I think the next question you should ask him is, let's try some new, like what do you want to try? let's get us back to a good place first and then see if you're still on threesome yeah on the threesome hype yeah and then we could maybe think about while the show's on making a few oh god i mean should we give that a go i'm joking should we apply yeah joking yeah it was just a joke she's like no yeah you've got this i think oh good luck sarah yeah and absolutely if you still like the idea of a threesome go for it but i would definitely make sure you're a hundred and thousand percent me too like for it me too wow well we've already got our star of the week because it's brian from sorrento brian from sorrento from birmingham can't wait till the baby's due if you're listening to this guys please send us a pic of the birth please yes no please they could name the baby capri please sorrento or chinsia or chinsia something like that i don't know like gelato pistachio yes pistachio is a beautiful name like actually lemon is a beautiful i like that baby lemon my name is lemon and it's really nice to meet you what's your name Lemon.

1:19:36I'm Lemon. I like that. And this is my sister, Orange. Yeah, this is my sister, Raspberry. Okay, guys. Well, thank you for joining us for our sex therapist. Always my favorite episodes. Episodes. Shall we find a dilemma? Oh, a quote. Sorry. Yes, actually. That's a good point. Let's see what's just on my Pinterest. My name is Lemon and it's really nice to meet you. This one's funny, guys. my Pinterest is not serving me today my problem with mistakes is that sometimes they have really good dick what the fuck what sort of Pinterest have you found yourself on listen to this I want my whole aura to make you horny when we speak what was it sex quotes this is for our first Sarah I'm interested in stargazing and rough sex.

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