The Future You Is Tougher Than You Think

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0:54Maya Shankar:you will be a different person on the other side of change in ways that might be hard to appreciate right now but also in ways that you can actually shape and this is a very empowering realization for a lot of people and actually boosts their resilience because if you're feeling really daunted at the outset of a change like you can't possibly navigate it with any equanimity or wisdom it's helpful to remind yourself that the person you're going to become on the other side will have new abilities, new perspectives, new values, new beliefs about themselves and the world around them that might actually make them far more capable of navigating the change.

1:29Maya Shankar:There's one relevant insight from behavioral science here, which is called the end of history illusion. And what it says is that while we fully acknowledge that we've changed considerably in the past, so if you were to show me pictures of Maya from 10 or 20 years ago, I would try to forge as much psychological distance as I could between present-day Maya and that person. But then if you were to ask me, well, how much do you anticipate that you'll change moving forward? My brain will play a trick on me and I'll think, no, no, no, no, no. I'm more or less done changing. Like what you see is what you get.

2:03Maya Shankar:This is the finished product. And so the researchers, one of them is from Harvard, Dan Gilbert, they say that our brains believe that the present moment is this watershed moment in which we have become the person we will be for the rest of our lives. And we want to do everything we can as individuals to overcome this bias when we are facing hardship.