16 Questions To Make You Fall Back In Love - Part 1

0:28Hey guys, if you're listening to this podcast on audio, but yeah men are disgusting stayed in got on the couch he sobbed to Britain's Got Talent what? and then went to bed so you've waited 20 years to tell me you fell in love with me on the first date I think you know I think you know straight away I'm going on a date with Peter Crouch you might be wearing a pair of flats aren't I? it's 9 foot 3 it's a valid point it's a valid point hello and welcome to the therapy crouch with me Abbey Clancy and me Peter Crouch how you doing? I'm good babe yeah double denim today oh gosh Canadian sucks you though?

0:58I'm waiting to go out to get my pants taken in. So I'm ready to leg out the door as soon as we're done. That's a nice problem at all. Is this new? It's not new, no. It looks cool. I'm just, yeah, an oversized jacket looks cool on you. We're going to a cowboy party next week. I feel like you're just getting in the string of things. Shut up. Are you going to a cowboy party? Yeah, we are. No, you are not. It's my friend's 30th and it's like Yellowstone themed. At least you've got the rig out. You've got proper rig outs. Are you going to bring the chaps? No, they've all gone. We both split our chaps, didn't we?

1:28Oh, yeah, of course. In Yellowstone. So, no, I've got an incredible outfit from Cavalli. Have you got a cowboy hat? You've got the cowboy hat? She's got a cowboy hat making station. I don't think cowboys wear Cavalli, do they? Cowboys do bloody wear Cavalli. Really? Cowgirls do. Oh, that's great. I'm wearing suede fringe flares. Who the hell do you know turning 30? All my friends are 30. 30 or 50. There's no one my age. It's terrible. Yeah, they're like 30 or 60. they're not 60 they're 50 once she's texting you crying today it's my last day in my 20s I just said oh fuck off who said that last day in her 20s imagine being my age so we've been planning for this cowboy Pete bought himself his own outfit oh love to see it love to see it is it Gucci is it Gucci it was so funny I was laughing my head off last night he was looking for these cowboy boots and I was like these are nice people no I don't need a heel I don't need a heel I don't need any extra height I was like oh my god he's not wrong to be fair he's showing me boots right and they've got like a big heel on them and I was like I think I'm covered with that he's bought an American flag you don't see flat cowboys do you no so what are you going to wear yeah but you can have a get an heel they don't make cowboys like me anyway no they don't they do you look good as a cowboy you did look good as a cowboy thanks guys you don't have to take that did you see that thing forget elf on a shelf I just want rip with a whip no on Instagram yeah loads of our listeners have sent it to me going oh saw this thought of you rip with a whip rip with a whip all a little turn yeah so we've been planning that we've been to Legoland this week with the kids how was that they were so excited they had a great time they loved it I've never done Legoland but it's quite for younger kids is it a little bit youngish yeah it's good it's great I mean we loved it we had a great time kids had an absolute ball I got my sugar donut which is an absolute must when we go to the fairground is it like those The ones that you get in town, like the green van ones, the hot ones.

3:29Yeah, Pete got thrown on every ride. Because I don't like that butterflies in my stomach. I've just been hypnotised to get rid of that. Oh, yeah. So, well, anxiety. So I don't like anything that resembles that feeling. There was one amazing ride that you did go on. What was that one that Johnny wanted to go on the whole time? Oh, that was phenomenal. You were crying in that? Rainbow something? Lion, lion something. Was it really scary? No, crying was emotional. No, because he was looking at the kids' faces. Yeah. They were like... That kind of thing does me. Have you ever been on Ratatouille? I wasn't crying, by the way.

4:00You were, Pete. It's called Lion something. Sky Lion. Sky Lion. Yeah. And it's like a simulator thing. So you're sitting around, then it turns around, and then you're just immersed into this whole new world. It's been like Avatar. A whole new... You know that Avatar when they go underwater? Oh, yeah, yeah, yeah. I've been on that one. I've been on that one. And then you're out, and then you're just kind of flying. I get you at a monitor. I'm on it. and then like the baddies are trying to get you and then it's just beautiful paradise with crystal blue waters and rain, but the sky and animals. The kids were like...

4:34They were mesmerised. It was fantastic, wasn't it? It was a good ride, that. Yeah, I liked that. That was worth doing because there was a bit of a queue for that, wasn't it? It was worth doing. Nice. I went to Poulton's Park not long ago. Have you ever been there? Oh, yeah, I have. Belter. It used to be Peppa Pig World, but now I was thinking, oh my God, we're taking our baby, weren't we? I was thinking that this will be rubbish, this. Oh, thanks for the invite. Yeah, sorry. And it was on my day off. And it was... She's a lot of us. I could have got... Yeah, but I could have brought my kids. It was unreal.

5:00Mine would have loved that. I'll invite you next time we go. It was phenomenal. I would definitely recommend that. But they've basically expanded it now. So they've got like Blackpool Pleasure Beach level rides. It's not just for kids. Is it Pleasure Beach? Yeah. The big one. Yeah. You'd know. I used to love that. I'm scared of heights though, aren't I? I'm so pathetic now. I don't mind the fast roller coasters do you get like a vertigo thing or whatever no I just don't like butterflies like that pirate ship I thought I was gonna die that was a horrible feeling you like that feeling I like it yeah you took a you took a remember you there's a little horse ride right where you sit on a horse you're facing forward and it traps you in at the back yes yeah but I'm on this little horse and I was taking videos and photos and me on this little horse you can set me rip with a whip now I know I got friggin and he said fucking whip with a rip look what I've got here a big blank strider on a tiny little horse no you look gorgeous and you're a good sport you were looking after the kids Jack had to stop the whole ride to get off because he started crying did he?

6:04he was scared of it but he did get on it in the end yeah Matt that's good we brought his little mate Matt and the mum was like oh he's a bit scared of the big ride so and he went on everything and Jack cried but it was lovely so we had a lovely day and then you went to do the last game of the season and I did a wholesome day I made a roast and made cakes and went to feed the ducks and that's lovely that sounds really positive so I don't think you've got any weekly wines considering how good your week was Sophia came back from a camping trip so we just all stayed in got on the couch Pete sobbed to Britain's Got Talent what?

6:37and I went to bed crying his eyes out no you didn't and I thought something about Britain's Got Talent and X Factor you did say this didn't you I don't know what it is it gets me I don't know I think they know what they're doing it's the music and the build up, the crescendo and then when they do well, I'm in bits. It was the magician. I don't know if you've seen it. No, I haven't. It's worth a watch. He's in the final. You tell me that this magician doesn't get you. Yeah, but it's, for me, it's like, it's obviously not real. It's all been set up. Well, I know, but he did it very well and I was in.

7:11Well, don't spoil the check for me because I'll give it a little goo gal after. Let me just tell you this. I love that show. I think Bruno Tognoli is phenomenal on it. Obviously, Amanda, Alicia, I want to do that show with them. Just to hang out with them. Yeah, yeah. Because I love Bruno on Strictly. He's just my favourite, him and Len. Is Simon Castle on it? Simon. I love Simon, obviously. Yeah, KSI was on it as well. But I've genuinely, I was watching it and obviously at first it was a bit shit. He was going, oh yeah, seat number. He kept calling the woman and it was Constance and he kept going to a concert.

7:43Yeah, but I genuinely thought, you know, and then he pulled it round and then he blew my mind at the end. Really? I don't know yeah I came in Ab caught me and I was wiping his hair away I was emptying the dishwasher Britain's Got Talent I've got video evidence I'm going to post it on our own the thing is I'm not a crier I'm not like a nothing phases me really I would say apart from the X Factor apart from the X Factor or Britain's Got Talent yeah I don't know what it is about it that's me every time does he give you the a cab no I quite like him being like that because normally he's a heart stone he's got a heart Heart of stone all the time.

8:20Yeah, yeah, yeah. No, because you haven't got a heart of stone. I'm joking saying that, but you don't show any emotion. I don't show emotion. I try not to. I try, I've been brought up to not. No, but even like, it's like, geezer. Geezer. No, but it's like, you don't show any interest or emotion. Like the only thing that. No interest or emotion. Yeah. You're telling me you don't cry out of Titanic? Cold. Do you watch the Titanic? Cold like a fish. No. No, I don't, I don't cry out of Titanic. I cry out of Titanic. I was like, why did Jack have to die? why couldn't it be Rose? Oh, I used to stop with that.

8:49No. No, film, genuinely films, it's mainly X Factor. It is. It is. You fucking witty. I don't want it, I don't fucking, it's mental. Any weekly lines for that? Pete up? Yeah, it's basically her exposing me for showing my emotions. It's no wonder I don't show any. That's not fair. I was trying to film and crying. She filmed me, she was filming me and I said that goes on Instagram I said that's not it's done we're done that's not fair we're done I've just cried at a magician on go on then I'm talking about it now but I'm I'm so in tune with my feelings that I feel able to do that that's good and I'm feeling we've always called this a safe space to speak yeah

9:36have we got any audience wines then yes we have my darling I'm gonna have to take this jacket it has do do do do do do do

9:48James zoned in again. I see you didn't have your eyes closed that time though. Come on, kids. Grow up. You're hot, babe, aren't you? I am hot. As in million degrees. Me and my wife love the pod. We started playing... Don't even say it. We started playing the anal caravan game. on the motorway after hearing it on a recent episode. However, we are lucky enough to have a boat. And on a recent trip, we found the game works with boats too. Brilliant. There are some great ones like Anal Sunseeker, Anal Trawler, Anal Windy, and Anal Cigarette. Is that what I called a boat cigarette? That's a bit weird.

10:36I wouldn't call it beer. Anyway, going on. Anyway. But my personal favourites are Anal Princess, Anal Lagoon, but most of all anal cougar keep up the good work 50

10:54great fun so it's brilliant how it works for boats you honestly don't find that game remotely funny come on I just think anal cougar he just doesn't make me laugh it's like a ride on that I think it's just like toilet humour isn't it yeah it's very boy human why don't you change this game and put it on the Peter Crouch pod nah we could do but it's kind of originated here it's bony and I bony stay strong keep quiet you've got to admit it's funny if you don't laugh you'll cry it's not funny at all when has a caravan ever been funny apart from this podcast exactly caravans just aren't funny you can't not say that anal explorer is not a funny phrase that is hilarious no I'd love a caravan I'm always quite jealous when you see them go by I used to love doing those trips did you go to the Stasic ones in North Wales yeah good little old dude okay love the pod Abby talks so much sense and I love a Scouser I'm behind I'm behind as I'm a busy working mum and I don't get much time just listening to the episode with the Sidwells and thought the friendship was very sweet however I have a weekly whine Abby dissed Burnley when referencing Peter's career imagine my horror as a lifelong fan Abby you need to write this wrong Burnley is the amazing family club who I'm sure think the world of you and your husband up the mighty clarets do you know what back in the big time in the Premier League and Scott Parker's the manager if you didn't know that I did know that and I love Scott and Carly and that's fantastic news back in the Prem glad to see him doing well at managing as well Scott Parker he's brought so many teams up Scott yes third one I think yeah he's so good at it and Burnley is that was my last ever game of football at the Arsenal Gage room but and how nice do you know that flashed up bizarrely you know we were talking about on deja vu vibes yeah no when you were talking about when memories flash up on your phone oh yeah sorry that was six years ago a couple of days ago your last gig I sent it to you remember I sent you that Burnley pic I feel as long as that doesn't it six years no because you retired when we had Jack and he's six in June yeah so I can just measure when I've retired from Jack I suppose yeah that's amazing but that flash to be honest I was only joking yeah it's all tongue in cheek I was talking more about the fact that it wasn't a Liverpool kit as opposed to Burnley not being a good club like you know I had the most amazing time there people were great we were always well looked after so no just a bit of tongue in cheek they loved they loved they were so nice up there oh yeah as a club the fan basically they are very friendly people yeah I find that kind of up there in general really yeah yeah so yeah good club that it's good to see them back but Liverpool's still gonna beat them this next season hi Abby Pete and Ross long-time listener and a big fan of the podcast recently catching up on episodes listening to the podcast where Pete is having trouble with snoring due to his polyps to then follow into the night where Abby sticking the elbow into his ribs when you're finally getting a good sleep on that theme I feel I should offer an apology to my girlfriend for my recent few nights of sleep talking something which i would never consider myself to do but has recently become a theme throughout the night the first night began with me waking my girlfriend shouting tom middleton later to be questioned on this and i've absolutely no clue who tom is never had come across such a person in my life it gets better the following night this happens again um this time a different scenario multiple sentences of absolute gibberish i proceed to wake up my girlfriend at 3am nearly kicking her out of bed shouting at her to get up to work five hours before she utterly needed to wake up 4am I wake her again ripping the bed sheets off her having an urgent need to wash them by this point she's not best pleased of course I'm still completely fast asleep and have no recollection of any of the events given the above my personal favourite then I turn into a modern day Johnny Bravo 4.30am she's woken again I grabbed both sides of the sheets bolted them up with straight arms turned her and said look at that safe to say any more antics and I'm in the spare room all the best to the families Dominic 27 from Lee wow it's a funny thing that sleep talking thing isn't it just didn't you say I did it the other night yeah yeah yeah you did you said a few things recently weird little things like what I can't remember now but it was like just very kind of like something you've got to sort you know like oh I'll do that and it makes no sense but see I don't even switch off when I'm asleep always on that's what I'm saying like our friend Jordan remember this Jesus Christ he woke up he said oh that's a lovely set of balls sorry Jordan Jordan like dreaming about men's balls in his face like his girlfriend started recording them and it gets worse oh it did get well worse yeah some of them are unbroadcastable yeah very funny though yeah very very amusing very funny but I don't know what you do with that because it's not his fault is it no what do you do and you're not meant to wake people up who are asleep doing anything are you because you can give them a fright like heart attack apparently I don't know scares me though people are asleep walking or stuff could be dangerous there's some mad ones out there well good luck with it let us know how you get one good luck there let us know how you get one so today's episode Abi kind of brought to my odd attention didn't you you saw something on Instagram 16 questions to fall in love with your partner again it was called if you're in a bit of a rut in a bit of a scenario with your partner were we in a rut?

16:38no we weren't I just thought I just thought you know our main objective on this pod is to help people and there are a lot of people who message in with their love life scenarios and problems dilemmas so I thought I just thought it was a really nice sentiment it was these 16 questions to ask your partner and to make them fall in love with you again do you want to ask me or do you want to What do I ask you? Let's do a bit of both. Yeah. See how well you're doing your answers before we start? I'm nervous now. This isn't going to go well. Okay. First question. First of our falling in love question.

17:18What was the first moment you realised you were falling for me? I would say probably first date. But then it would have been... First date? Before that. Yeah, like I knew straight away. You didn't tell me that, bloody hell. No, I've got to keep you... Waited 20 years to tell me this? You've got a string of the lungs, haven't you? So you've waited 20 years to tell me you fell in love with me on the first date? I think you know. I think you know straight away. I think there's podcast evidence to suggest, to prove that you've never said that before. No, I've never told you. I've never told you this, though.

17:50Why not? Well, you never asked me. The 16 questions weren't out there. No, yeah, generally. No, because you just... Obviously, there's an initial attraction where you're so beautiful and you seemed fun and funny when we were out for the first time, we first met her. And then, obviously, when I meet you kind of cold like a day sober, I think you were better than I even would have hoped for. Nice. That's a good answer. I think you nailed that one pick. Yeah. Lovely. No, genuinely. Can you remember what I wore? You had jeans and like a boot on. No. Yeah, like a heely boot. No, I had leopard print high heels on.

18:31Oh, yeah. But they hid the heels on, though, weren't they? Well, I'm going on a date with Peter Crouch. I'm not going to wear a pair of flats, am I? It's nine foot three. It's a valid point. It's a valid point. Very good. No, yeah. So then, obviously, I kind of knew that then, really, and you're just like, you know, I hope you haven't got hidden traits. But from what I saw, it was true love, baby. Nice. I actually agree with that. Yeah, you feel the same? I do, yeah. Nice. I think it kind of happened instant when we... You're crying a little bit. No, you are. You are. You're crying. No, I'm not crying.

19:09X-factor my ass. I can see it. I know your eyes. No, I'm looking at your eyes. I'm looking at your eyes. I'm fully watering. You wouldn't let it fully well out. I don't know why you're lying. Dry your eyes. Dry your eyes. You're not. You're crying. I'm not. Zoom into his eyes. The panties. I can see him in a glass. I'm genuinely not. Zoom into your eye. I don't know why you're denying it. I'm just yours. That's a nice thing if you want to be emotional over that. I'm not crying at all. So guys, this seems like the perfect place to take a break and hear from our sponsors and take this time to send this podcast to someone who you think will love it and needs it in their lives.

19:48Yeah, someone who needs a giggle as an issue of their own and may want to submit into the podcast to see what all the fuss is about. Don't forget, if you haven't already, hit the subscribe or follow button. Shabba. Don't forget to subscribe. Hit that subscribe button wherever you get your podcasts and can hear more of this incredible content. And keep sending in your questions because we love them. Our favourite memory together so far. Our favourite memory. So many, isn't there? Yeah, there is a lot of good memories. I reckon I know Abby's answer to this question. Do you? I reckon I do. Go on.

20:22What? When you first brought it up for your home and you're in the house and it was all the quiet people. That's my favourite memory ever, that yeah i think that's lovely i do think that's lovely but it's it's not of you and peter's maybe specifically oh shut up just because you're crying i'm not crying but then why are you at the 90s you've got a full tear go on tell me tell me your favorite memory of me um yeah no we've been on amazing holidays together we've been on amazing family holidays together but my favorite ones are the ones where it's just me and you, Ian, like, I remember going to Mexico.

20:59Remember we had a laugh? We tried to gatecrash that wedding. Yeah, like, we turned our own balcony light on, right? And the wedding was on the beach and there was no other lights on. And then we were just dancing to their music. And then finally someone caved in and goes, do you want to come in this? And we went, yes! What were we thinking then? No idea. Are we actually thinking? We'd had a future drink. Yeah. and little things like that and being at St Barts we had that little shack on the beach and it was just so lovely and just kind of having a laugh with just us and we've been on great group holidays as well but like being just us and realising we can have a laugh and not needing anyone is special yeah I agree I even like just when we had our little flat and it was just me and you genuinely didn't need anyone else because we just had so much fun yeah but we don't need anyone else anyway I know I know I don't know why you brought these fuckers into our lives

22:02we were solid it's got to be so annoying though like next time just saying I do love them next time we're on our own we'll be like really wrinkly and saggy and what do you mean we need to go on our own away at least once a year I'm available at least once a month I'd say once a year once a year I loved it so much we'll go once a year talking about a holiday obviously you need a date but you can't go away every month can you? mine are yeah why not because I'm going to ask you one now I feel under pressure I'm going to ask you one okay the third one what's the biggest strength of our relationship?

22:39I think the biggest strength of our relationship is that we are still in love after all these years we let each other be who we naturally are I think that's it that's a big thing I think and your ability to like I feel like you two laugh a lot as a couple oh yeah normally because I'm around but like you still you seem to bounce off each other like a lot we get on like as as friends as well as lovers I hate saying that word but you know we can be ourselves we support each other we're both reliable for each other we laugh a lot and there's a real deep love I think I agree what's yours? no, one question each because you're going to stop it again I'm going to ask yours how did you feel when we were apart?

23:39oh horrible I can't bear you're not good at that are you? no I want you with me at all times you don't have to talk to me but as long as you're in eyesight Why is that? Does it make it calmer if I'm there? I just like, I like you. I know, I know you like me, but I just mean, is it, is it, do you feel safer or not? Well, no, because you can't even catch a spider. I don't feel safer. I just like being around you. Oh, right, fair enough. Yeah, that's nice. No, I'm just trying to get deeper into it. I just like you around me. You like me around. That's a really good sign. Like you're me bestie as well?

24:14Yeah, yeah, no, I agree with that as well. What about you? No, no, I hate being apart like I like listen five golf trips this week no I think it's good you can cope being away from me more than like yeah probably than I can cope being away from you like if I go up with the girls I'll call them ten times just to tell them how I am yeah and he'll go out and just blank me until he gets home I think that's I think not to be male female stereotypes or dare anything but I feel like that's been a dynamic for me in previous relationships as well I think that just is a thing But I don't think that, like, I still miss you.

24:50What's the most unforgettable moment in our relationship? I forgot. Yeah, I forgot. Can't remember. You answer that one. It's a bit similar to a favourite memory, that, I suppose. You know, I regret not keeping a diary. Like, in my life, like, my dad knows what he's done, like, every single day. Is my memory shocking? Would you be referring to a diary? If a piece just asked that question, are you going to go, okay, let me get my 20 years worth of diaries, and just flip through? You know, just, it's a shame how you forget. like how you felt in that moment and where you were and what you were doing yeah you know a lot of my memories are jigged jigged jogged by seeing a photograph of something or something or a song and then you and then you can put yourself back in that place there's so many no like when you're just like barely laughing yeah like i'd like to remember all all those and the thing is with questions like this you don't want to give the wrong answer like well the easy thing to say is like your wedding day, which is obviously a special moment.

25:46When we renewed our vows would have been one of the most memorable moments. And I think, you know, having the children, like when you announced that you're pregnant. Even like pregnancies. That kind of thing. There's so many landmark moments. you were pregnant again and again and again. You know, I think there's too many to answer that. I think there was something special about when we renewed our vows, right? We were lucky enough to go to an island. Yeah. kind of private island yeah we got a boat over and I think I was up there I was over with the lads beforehand and I remember seeing my my girls and you get off the boat and and Johnny and Jack were there as well and I think that it's something you can't replicate right oh that's nice Pete yeah you know what I mean like I've got my whole family here you know we're privileged enough to be on an island here he's like carry on yeah next Champions League family honestly next time And when it didn't sink, that was the moment I thought, I'm going to really remember this.

26:49No, you know what I'm trying to say. No, I do, I do, I do. I was saying like, my beautiful family got off the boat and I thought, well, you know, we've been together 10 years and I'm happier now than when I married you. No, we haven't been together 10 years. In that, when we got renewed our hearts. We were married 10 years, we've been together 20. Oh, sorry. Yeah, but we're married 10 years. That's very nice. That's very sincere. Oh my God, it's our anniversary. yeah it is soon when end of next month nice she doesn't even know I was just testing I was just testing you she misses it every year and I love it because because you go cash in the bank that's a golf trip because I know I'll need one but I forgot to remember when you did you forgot that I'd like to do something special for our anniversary this year just me and you I'd love to do something is it wedding or thingy so we did it must be wedding one because that was it was 29th of June yeah but the wedding was the 30th of June we've officially got married on the 29th officially so we can have a little two day yeah yeah two day vibe yeah what would that be 13 years I don't know 2011 we were married in 2011 didn't we 14 what was the reason you did that the day before because one was legal no but why would because it wasn't it wasn't legally the church wasn't the church you need to do the registry oh sorry okay okay okay so we had to do the we had to register it properly because we I wanted like the church wedding but yeah the church wasn't a legal place sorry I get you I get you three words to describe me.

28:15Go on. Go on. Don't even use the B word. Because I don't want this to be funny. You know about the B word? The B word? Yeah, I know about the B word. One of our friends said that Ab was brash. Yeah. He said, I think it was kind, loyal, brash. No, he said kind, loyal, funny and brash. Stuff like mud. Oh, it's the best because I googled it. I am brash, but I don't want to be brash. I had to google it for the actual, the actual and I googled it it was noisy and rude in an overbearing manner I'm not rude I am noisy and I am overbearing but I'm not rude in an overbearing manner that's the cherry on top an overbearing manner that's accurate one of the funniest things I've ever heard I'm not going to say brush no I'm going to say this is the questions fall in love again by the way yeah so don't be messing around.

29:10No, no, no. I'm falling in love with you again, babe. I think loyal, like, when I say loyal though, it's like, it's not just loyal. Do you know what I mean? Like, I don't want that word just to be, anyone could be loyal, couldn't they? You're fiercely loyal to like your friends and family. It's beyond that. If you're in our tribe, if you're in Abbey's tribe, if you're in... I don't want this one though anymore. It's so special. It's too much of a burden. But I just think it's special for everyone around you to have a, that kind of like love is for someone that you fight them to death that whatever that word is yeah right because loyal doesn't doesn't do it justice very funny i know that's two words but funny is definitely hilarious yeah and i'm not going to describe like physical because that's just yeah to see loving but again that doesn't do it justice because you know like how i see you with the kids and you know the love that you have to give is like beyond loving yeah you know like just to to have that kind of these are all sitting there like what a load of shit love no for something is no it is it is it is special because it's beyond the words that can describe it really we should make our own words up then to describe me

30:35and brash as fuck with a little sprinkling of brash. That's lovely, Pete. Thank you. It's made me feel a bit soppy looking at you, is there? I actually agree. The pain is crying your eyes. I was on the fucking couch. We'll move on to the agony. Maybe we should do a couple more next week. We'll do part two next week before everyone vomits. But this isn't actually... How great are we? I love me. I love you. It's about falling in love again. All our listeners could do this. Agreed. You can take these questions. You can get the kids babysat her or get them to bed, open a bottle of wine and talk about the nice things and why you're together and why you love each other and the best bits.

31:19Yeah, yeah. I think it is good because there's no way we'd sit down and go, right, tell me your feelings. You go, shut up, you twirl. You're like, shut up, Pete. Whereas things like this, it makes you do it. Yeah. And actually, that is actually really nice. Yeah, because you're going to - And you start thinking about nice things. Are you all going to go away now thinking, oh God, I love her so much. I'm going to buy her something amazing for our anniversary. No, but yeah, it does. It does make you think like that. And it makes you think, because you never sit down and go, right, why do I love Abby?

31:48What, you mean you don't do that? No, he normally sits down and goes, what the hell have I done? Why am I with this girl? No, he goes, why do I love Abby? That's how he says. It's like the same sentence. We're in a different sentiment. All right, give us some agony absinthe. Let's help some other people. Hi, I used to be bad for binge drinking when I was younger. It was a way of escaping a lot of my childhood trauma. I had relating to my now dead brother who was a drug addict. I never really learned how to deal with it in my early 20s, so I turned to alcohol. I would only drink once a week, but I would do the typical not coming home trick to my now wife.

32:28Obviously, over time, this has got to a now fast forward to now. I don't drink at all. And we are in a much better place. As a now 32-year-old man, and I have been together with my wife for 13 years, I was wondering what you think about this. We're going on holiday, and I have suggested, asked, if she would be okay with me having a few drinks on holiday. I genuinely feel like I am in a lot more mature now, and I could drink responsibly. We're taking our one-year-old daughter away with us, and I would never dream of getting drunk whilst I'm with her. My wife is uneasy about this, and she said she would think about it.

33:01do you think I am being stupid the fact that I think I should have be able to make that decision myself and she should respect and trust that I've changed even though my track record over the last five years proved that wrong I'm at an age now where I would love to sit on holiday and enjoy a few quiet glasses of wine on the balcony with my wife but I feel like because of my younger past I've potentially tarnished this forever and I'll never be able to have this scenario again that is a tricky tricky tricky one sad so sad I just wouldn't I just wouldn't I think if your life's on track you're happy why you know having a glass of wine is not going to make you happy why upset the apple cart and also if you're one or two you don't really feel maybe a glass of wine but one or two pints do you know what I mean like you're not really feeling that you're going to want four or five to get drunk when you have two or three you know one two your ability to make decisions is impaired it's like well I could have another one exactly and then you become more impaired then you're in yeah and I think I just wouldn't do it if you've managed to go this long it sounds like a few years he's been off the source like it's clearly not adding anything to your life the things that are adding to your life are your wife and your daughter and you've got the potential to lose them if you become a binge drinker again so why would you yeah I just yeah I understand how he's got himself in that you know he's trying to take the pain away brother i understand why that happened and i think yeah he probably needs to understand that that happened for that for that reason um so you know there's no kind of judgment for that but that's happened you've come out of it and now you're in such a good place don't ruin it a lot of people turn to alcohol to you know solve the problems to mute out things to blank out to pass out to escape um and use it as a kind of healing method and it's not it'll only make things worse you know especially if you do suffer with addiction or trauma and you want to blank it out but I feel like he's done such a good job from this message I just would not risk it especially being on holiday with your wife your first holiday with your new family is not the time to run this gauntlet I think if you're going to do it and you feel that strongly about it you're probably best sitting in your living room exactly on a Friday night when the baby's getting minded don't do it on your first friggin family holiday because that's yeah no agreed agreed but but you know our advice would be to to not try not to do agreed agreed because it caused so much trouble last time my only worry is if he's thinking about that he's not over whatever it is he's he was going through yeah he needs to he needs to speak to someone because that's kind of right i'm going to go on holiday i'm going to have this drink that there's a law there's a law that I think he may have actually got through that and now he's thinking where he is in the place where he can go do you know what?

35:58No because if he was through it it'd be like fucking hell that alcohol's ruined my life I'm not touching another drop again. No but I think the fact that he wants to drink no the fact that he wants to drink again knowing how much of a bad time he was having that to me is the start of the slippery slope. I think he needs to speak to someone and get help because a professional because that to me is not people I know who have been alcoholics they recognise that it caused so much destruction in their lives they would rather die than have a sip of alcohol they're not like oh I'm better now I should have a little glass so that's what worries me there so I think you should seek professional help good advice we can only do we're not professionals at all hi Abby and Pete love the pod So my boyfriend and I have moved in together after two years of dating.

36:49I was genuinely excited. The fact that he says I was genuinely excited to start this new chapter until I met his underwear. I don't know how to say this delicately, but he's allergic to wiping his ass properly. Oh, my God. Wow. I do most of the laundry because I work from home and every wash feels like a forensic investigation. I don't want to shame him because he's a good bloke, but come on we're not in year six anymore yeah way people I think a lot of men suffer with that how do I how do I raise it without totally destroying him or do I just start buying him black boxes and hope for the best from a woman on the brink or a non but you know who you are if you're listening Dave look at Dave Dave's been exposed the thing Pete's Pete's been on a an underpants frenzy lately.

37:47So he doesn't want the Calvins anymore, like the tighter ones. He wants a loose cotton. So he bought himself... I've got a bit of both. I think it's a time and a place for both. I agree. I agree. It's like, you know, you men have a go at women when it's like, why aren't you wearing all the lacy, sexy bloody thongs anymore? But do you find them really unattractive? The cotton boxer? Well, the first round I did, yeah? Yeah. He bought himself 64 pairs. 64 He's even got more pairs Than for one day a year Yeah because I didn't think 64 from Amazon It was It was that big They were so cheap That I thought They can't That can't be right They were so cheap But I realised When they came They were fucking Can't rent I mean you can't even wear them I thought I'd send them back You didn't send them back Well I've given them to charity I just had one For each day of the year I was thinking There's more than one I was thinking There's more than 64 days a year No I was That'd be fancy maths I thought you No because I was thinking 52 weeks and I got confused So then he bought another round of cotton briefs Nice Ralph Lauren ones I don't think they fit too badly Are you happy with them or not?

38:53Because I'll just bin them if you don't like them No but you take them off before I can see them I feel Yeah maybe I was a lot more confident in my Calvins I like them I like the cotton one I think they're alright I do They're the blue ones I've got a pair on now they're like little cottony kind of polo ones I just find they ride off a little bit more than a boxer than a trunk happy I'll show you them properly later prefer them on my bedroom floor that can be arranged but yeah men are disgusting I think yeah but men are disgusting I think you should definitely if he can't wipe his arse he needs a black boxer yeah end of agreed black box I would only buy black anyway really yeah or a navy do you buy I'm thinking you buy other gloves I quite like a grey boxer I do like a white boxer you're just asking for trouble if the man's tanned you're just asking for trouble aren't you yeah I've got some white boxers haven't I you had till I had to bid them till I swapped them all out with black ones she's had this problem CSI Miami Miami that's a great shout out by the way CSI Miami Oh, very good.

40:09That was good. That was very good. Okay. Well, we've helped. Have you fallen back in love? I wasn't out of love. It's nice to... It's nice to hear that kind of stuff, isn't it? Yeah. And I think that's worked for us. I can see why that would work. And obviously, let's be honest, we're doing this on a podcast with, you know, you three numpties sitting in front of us. Which is a bit orcs. Could have been a lot more romantic if we'd have done this behind closed doors. Yeah, if you did it at home, you might find yourselves reconnecting afterwards. Yeah. Absolutely. That's the whole point. Brilliant.

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