Gym Guilt, Dry Jan & Unrealistic Resolutions - Why January Is the Most Emotionally INTENSE Month...

0:28I have got more. content and I do hate these little bits where everyone goes oh please subscribe we really need it but it just does make a difference so if you like it then please hit the button yeah like link and subscribe you can never say that it's great like link and subscribe that's staying in hello and welcome to the therapy crouch with me abby clancy me peter crouch oh so this is our new ross hey guys how we doing i just cut out our ross is like that then this is our first time we've met since before christmas so we've got a lot to talk about christmas new year new year's resolutions all of that jazz that's what we'll talk about on today's podcast and then obviously me turning 40 which was two days ago hence the no voice well kind of i have got a chest infection um but we'll talk about that on next week's part because there's a hell of a lot to get off our chest there yes but the boy did good if you want a little sneak peek he did good okay well with Christmas I think you did very well congratulations I did do very well yeah on the present front for once no but you also you know I think you did well with regards to organising Christmas for us you know because we all had such a good time didn't we yeah it was a chilled Christmas what was yours like to us it was nice it was okay no drama no fights this year which is quite unusual it felt weird not having a fight on Christmas day but yeah it was pretty chill okay so many people out there doing how they did each other's pockets going I fucking I hate these people ours was so chill wasn't it no wonder we don't meet up ever during the year now I remember why I moved away before we get into that though have you got a weekly wine well my weekly wine was if we're on the Christmas front I mean there was no Yorkshire pudding I can't believe it that my whole family had not let me live this down.

2:19You know. Couldn't believe it. I said, you know what I mean? It's not as if she's got light loads to remember. You're brave. But the thing is, I would have normally had spares in the freezer. Yeah. But I didn't even have any ingredients to make my own. I just forgot. It's the one thing I forgot. I was absolutely gutted. And beans. I forgot to buy beans. You have beans on the roast? No, not on the roast. What? Some sort of cereal killer. No, beans. to the brekkie in the morning. I only had sausage and beans, which I absolutely love. Yeah, me too. My friend Riley thinks I am a weirder that I like beans.

2:55She thinks it's revolting. Yeah, I know what she means. Sausage does not better than sausage and beans. I'm a toast, but a toast. Richmond sausage. I think the beans, beans is quite, I love beans on toast. Jamie's shaking his head. No, like beans on toast. I didn't know so many people were against beans. Yeah, that's why in posh places they put them in the little pot you can't have bean juice creeping into egg I don't mind the guy can't mix it up I mix it up what have you ever seen what's the film was it layer cake yeah yeah you know is it Monty when he sees Monty in the greasy spoon and he smashes it no Monty is the guy who smashes his head he went away for 10 years oh yeah and the guy he buys him a breakfast and he eats it in front of him oh yeah and he pours the tea on him and he pours the tea on him yeah yeah I love you near that scene well that reminds me of the type of people will have beans and eggs together.

3:47You're terrible. There's only one scene I remember in Lake Hake and that's Sienna Miller with the Asian-focused knickers on. I don't remember that scene. No, me neither. That's glazed totally over my head. Great film, though. So, Abby, have you got any weekly wines? Do you think that's a fair wine to me? It's a fair wine. Okay. Can I just say, I'm going to go strong on that. It's actually unacceptable. I won't be tolerating it next year. my wine is you know and I think most mums feel this way you know I bought 7 million presents to the kids and everybody wrapped 7 million presents to everybody and every time the kids opened one they were like thanks dad and I was like dad hasn't got a fucking clue like I said what's that son what have you got there mate oh yeah thanks that's not a problem thanks dad Johnny's getting on the stepladder to his bike yeah like I didn't even get one thank you and they did well this year because I don't know if it's my age but like I was buying things wrapping them and then forgetting yeah there was a few duplicates yeah a couple of double whammy's on the old Amazon because I knew they wanted things and I was like Pete did you get them and Pete's obviously gone yeah and no and bought them and forgotten then bought them again and I've wrapped them again forgetting that I'd wrapped them tidy and there's a couple of like oh that's not for you what is Santa doing what's he done Santa put it in the wrong pile but no like with that I did say as well like you know and your mum I didn't want to leave me out so then thank your mum as well no you did you did amazingly well you did yeah it's often a thankless task have you seen that I think it was like I don't know on Twitter or somewhere and it's the dads rolling in not knowing what the kids have got have we got any audience wines I bet there are I bet there's a load hi guys happy Christmas and New Year to the Therapy Crouch family the genie queen speech you guys forgot about that I really really enjoyed that me too it really made me laugh you know Pete and I Friday night I said you know it was the day before my birthday I'm not gonna we were supposed to have a meal I've cancelled it because I was like just have an early night let's face mask on chill I had my spray tan blah blah blah didn't get my eyelash done though unfortunately anyway think of that loud no because I didn't know how it's going anywhere so I was gutted about that so me and Pete just opened a bottle of champagne and was like watching our own pod going we're hilarious you are you do it we do I've never watched it I don't watch it so when people go oh my god when you said that on the pod I'm like fucking hell no I can't remember me and Pete were like we're so funny do you watch the Queen you're so funny witty as anything you are but yet you did a good you do a good job guys well done guys really appreciate it anyway the genie queen speech over Christmas was genuinely a work of art anyway my wine is my girlfriend choosing January to suddenly want deep serious chats about our future we are two weeks into Jan and already we have some draining DMCs.

7:11Deep meaningful conversations. Oh, God, what shows you how much I know. Do me DMC, I know. Run, fucking run. Run from them. I'm talking budgets, goals, five-year plans, kids and lifestyle choices. Girls do like, they enjoy these, don't they? Yeah, I was just, I just said this this morning to Kaz and Lucinda, actually. They were like, oh God, you know what you're doing and this, this and that. And I said, well, I just talk at Pete like are you any further with the house or this or plans and i'm like i just talk at pete and nothing ever he's a soundboard i'm so good at yeah but you don't know things off me and i'll i'll just keep quiet yeah but nothing ever gets resolved or fixed or changed or the plans don't happen new year new me i thought this today i thought did you not see how proactive i was this morning just saying I think we need to move on with certain things that we're doing in our life yeah did you see that or not I haven't done anything about it but I have asked you to provide me with phone numbers so I can try and make that better gonna be a right geezer this year

8:23don't worry about it I'm talking budgets goals five year plans kids and lifestyle choices fucking hell babe it gets dark at three and I'm still emotionally physical, still emotionally and physically digesting Christmas. Honest to God, if she asked me one more question about where we're heading, I'm half replied to reply Tinder. He's half tempted to reply. That's a bell to that. Where are we heading? Oh, good luck. I can imagine if he said that. But yeah, I do think it's very much. But I do like that New Year clear out. Where are we going? I'm not one for plans, like five-year plan. see where the day takes you yeah i'm a i'm a kind of suck it and see kind of you like you like you like um plans you like i like plans but recent like near near plans i think five-year plans no one has a clue because i'm trying to plan some certain things in our life and you know when i speak to claire she's like well what if this what if that what and i'm like but what if it is great and what if we love it and what if there isn't a problem if there is a problem we change it you know yeah i think you should do stuff and i had a fabulous quote about this actually you'd love a quote now don't you know it's just been an ongoing thing no no but you've always liked a quote let me try and find you can't only plan so much can't you what's the saying if you life if you want to make god laugh show him your plans life gets in the way not in the way life is too short to be realistic be delusional of be delusional enough to make miracles happen I love that you can be too overcautious shoot for the stars what is it shoot for the moon you're still in amongst the stars exactly that you can have that do you believe that we went on the moon erm there is there's some shady things about the moon and I do believe the lighting have you seen the lighting I do believe that we rehearsed landing on the moon and there's some videos of them doing rehearsals for it however I think the Russians would have exposed that they didn't land on the moon if because they were in an arms race I think they would have exposed it and they know more than me.

10:31So yeah, ultimately, yeah. It's a bit dodgy. But they went there in the 60s and haven't been there since. And we can, you know, take a photograph and it's in the phone and call people in Australia. But the payoff wasn't worth it. It's cost millions of pounds to get to think. A good example, I've just said. You know, but like, there's amazing technology, isn't there? Yeah. Not like, Well, I just think if Elon Musk is struggling in 2026, right? How the hell did they? Why is Elon trying to get on the moon? Well, he's sending rockets all over the place, isn't he? Is it reusable? I thought Lady Gaga went there.

11:10No, I think you're thinking of Katy Perry when they went into the thing. Katy Perry. They went to space, they didn't go to the moon. That was the firework video, if you were rolling out. Baby, I'm a fire. No. But there's loads of, because there's a conspiracy theory about Katy Perry, have you seen it? She's like robbing all old people or something. I can't wait to hear this one. Oh, mate, we're going to be doing another conspiracy. I didn't read it. Can someone Google it for me? It said, like, Katie Perry. I think it was, like, Katie Perry's, like, swindling pensioners from their money. Why? Has she got enough?

11:47I don't know. I don't know why. Has it come off? Or have I just dreamt this? I just had a vision of my couple people's idea. Put it up there. With a belly on. Is she asleep? I think she was like buying properties or getting them out or something I don't know maybe we need a fact check on that let us know in the comments what a bitch well you know let us know awful sounds awful yeah it does okay let's move on I hope you guys had a lovely break and Peter pulled something out of the bag this year on the present front but don't worry Ab if he did fuck up you haven't got to wait you haven't got to wait long for him to redeem himself with your birthday of course so my wine is my mum's annual January check in which is code for analysing our life choices it's very similar to the wife one isn't it but for a for a child yeah so son what are your plans is everything going how you're going are you happy are you happy living in our upstairs bedroom yeah there's loads of tissues on your floor you've been crying a lot you're happy in our in our spare room at 30

12:57i don't want my kids to move out i know you don't you want the compound yeah i live away from home i'll even go at the moment and i only really see the fat family uh around big annual occasions uh that's christmas easter birthdays with the odd christening wedding funeral thrown in for good measure these typically involved copious amounts of drinking eating and general partying which results in my yearly motherly intervention um come fifth of jim feel that are you happy are you eating properly uh have you thought about where your life's going well i was until this phone call i'm joking i love you um um yeah i understand i think that is a thing yeah people take stock right you know of certainly around christmas time you have a period there where you go like well look back at the at the year you've just had and i i said i used to do it when i to be fair i used to do it when i was playing football in the summer i'd look about my season yeah um but now i think most people look back on the thing what have i achieved what have i done and our year think of the things that we've so many things we've done you know and think i look back quite fondly on it you know but like certainly i think when you're a young person trying to make your way in the world yeah you can yeah because we're on the other end you can look at it like you know what have i done and what where do i want to get to yeah but you can look at it like how can I improve but you also should look back and go that was great look what I achieved this was amazing that was a great day you need to look at some positives yeah look at the positives and I think your mum's only coming from a place of love with that isn't she as well she's seen you few and far between and you know my daughter went to the gym this morning at 8am yeah and Luke the personal trainer was like where the hell are you Abbey thought you've got to be fit at 14 I just I was like lying pretending I was sick but I was literally still in bed eating a Terry's chocolate orange but I was so tired from my birthday and Johnny was up all night with the vomit bug so I've had zero sleep I woke up this morning I was like pig strotters but everyone has to lie to the personal trainer I know I sound ill I'm not ill it's just my voice is gone but I my daughter went and I didn't it's like I'm hoping to see you tomorrow she'll be having an annual checking with you soon I know is everything okay mum analysing your lifestyle choices Sophia's on it isn't she no she is yeah she's laser focused she's on it yes I've decided to do dry Jan I'm starting at 12th of Jan and I'm going to finish just before the end of Jan yeah you've heard that you've done two weeks for two weeks if you can do that bloody hell some go yeah a dry couple of weeks a dry fortnight You're having a moist, Jan.

15:45It's been pretty moist. It has, it has. It's been, you know. Dump. I hate that word, moist. Moist, lubricated. Oh, well. Right, this is one of those call to arms little interludes in the podcast, which I hate, and I'm sure you hate as well, but it actually does make a huge difference if you subscribe because we're making top quality content and if you want more of it, We need you to subscribe, so hit the button. So, guys, how was your Crimbo? I haven't really caught up with you since. Did that even go to plan? What did you get for starters? Did you do well or what not? I think this is the best one yet.

16:25Wow. Wow. Yeah? To be honest. But you have employed a new elf. Got some good elves. Have you? Yeah. No, because, you know, I said to him, you know, I've got my friends. Kaz, my sister, my mum, Lucinda. He could ask for gifts, but he won't ask them because... He knows they'll feed back to you. Yeah. Well, Becky, my stylist to work with, she's the new recruited elf. Oh, okay. So she does not fail. Okay, good. And she doesn't leak? She doesn't leak. She doesn't leak either. Well, I didn't know this, obviously, so I wouldn't even think. Yeah. So. I shouldn't have really revealed it. Did you tell her?

17:02Well, I've told her. Becky's going to be getting cased every time she comes around. Becky's getting pecky. No, because I've had, I've had a few surprises. Yeah. Like, obviously, Christmas and my birthday, and I've never had a surprise before. Yeah. So, and I actually love them, and I want more of them. Yeah. I think you've been quite, obviously, we're going to get into the birthday next time, but the surprise stuff is, I think you've realised it's nice. You know, like, before you were just on me, on me, on me, and you always, like, you always wanted to find out no, and then ruin it. Yeah. I think now you realise that it is actually better just have a surprise.

17:39Yeah. just what you need to do is just chill out relax daddy's got this oh no disgusting oh god and what about you Pete how does that be for you oh she does fantastic everything I can't deny she's you know I've got to give her a flower she's just the whole thing the Christmas I can't have any more flowers have you seen my house yeah like a florist like a florist and I've had to put them in every single room because there's just millions well that's you're well loved don't you you know and she did the dinner was beautiful brekkie was fantastic the kids even the wrapping everything you did was first class and we had a gorgeous Christmas Eve we went Nick and Carly oh okay yeah and my mum and the kids took the kids ice skating and had a few drinks and it was just great and chilled was the no presents policy a ruse or was that legit because you know no because obviously not no that was that was a game she was playing no presents on Christmas morning imagine but you know the only the only thing that happened when I went to Bista I forgot to collect the socks it's all he wanted black socks and I went to Calvin Klein at Bista and bought him alone I've got a hole in this one and I left the bag there when I was putting everything in there so it was like the only thing he wanted was socks but they came they sent them out to me so I haven't got any Have I got them?

19:09I think they must be in there. Yeah, but I bought you navy. Is all your clothes a bloody navy? I didn't buy you any black. No, I want navy ones. That's what I want to. I got you navy. Thank you. I can't remember that one. I got you like 10 pairs of these. I can't remember opening those. Yeah. Okay. I've just found it because I didn't have them in my drawer today. Just get on that today, yeah? We'll look into that, Pete. We'll look into that. Just get on that. Make sure they're in the drawer today, all right? The dinner was incredible. Kids loved it. it was a really really wholesome christmas day we spent it just as a family everyone behaved everyone was behaved um my sister and scott oh lovely so it was just really low key because the next day we went to dubai yes how was you tripping away lucinda and james it was just mega i heard a lot of big events happen whilst you're out there oh we had such a good time yeah i mean i i i did um the world sports summit in dubai which was amazing it was incredible like i was invited to this thing and i you know some of the players there were like my heroes yeah um I walked in and it was like where all the players were sat and they were all already sat there.

20:13But you were doing the same thing as them. It's like the way you say it, it's like you're gagging in. Just think there's some of them we're meeting Crouchy. Do you know what I mean? Ian Rush is looking fucking out. There's P there, you know. Did you see his brace? Sophia said Brazilian Ronaldo asked you for a photo in the tennis. No, no. Are you lying again? You're lying about Iniesta. I didn't lie. He saw Iniesta. Didn't I have Iniesta? And Iniesta said, I didn't ask you to be a voter. That is not true. That is not true. You might need to get Abbie down to the Peter Crouch podcast because that's a different story than the one he told.

20:49No, he said. I sat next to him. He said, what are you doing? Telling everyone I should be a voter. No, no. Didn't know she's lying. No, I sat next to him, which was mad. And I chatted to him and I was like, sorry about that, the podcast thing and all that. He said, yeah. Sorry, I lied. Do you want to give a bit of context for anyone who's not a cross star? we were away in Sardinia alright and if you haven't heard this Andres Iniesta you know Spanish World Cup winner asked said can I have a picture and he did no our John wanted a photo no no no he asked me he asked me I said no problem I had a photo right and then why is it on your phone then so then I said do you mind having one with John I had one with John and I went look I'd like one as well you know I know you know I know I'm your hero but I'd still want one with you that didn't happen I like that but yeah he did ask me before didn't you play with Eniesta I played against him lots of times didn't you play for Liverpool was he across that story when you sat next to him yeah yeah he knew all about it that's funny because he said why are you lying do you want to phone out anyway I've walked into this room and I'm listen I'm not on the level of these players unfortunately unfortunately not.

22:03I've played against some of them. You've got more Premier League goals than Ronaldo. No, but these are like epic. I have got more. I've got more than Cristiano. And Messi combined. Brazilian and Messi combined. Exactly. More Premier League goals. Exactly. Yeah. Fact. Stats don't lie. Facts don't lie. They don't lie. And anyway, so I've walked into this room and I'm like, oh my God, this is absolutely incredible. The reason, I was there to interview the PSG owner, Nasser Al-Khalifi, which is amazing. and what a great guy by the way I mean the in the green room before just chatting away you know you see the people on TV whatever never met before just have a maybe a perception of him just lovely really nice yeah you loved him didn't you yeah I really got well with him and that just made the interview better because we were in the green room we were chatting and then I went on stage and said is there anything you want to talk about or yeah so on the Peter Crouch pub you were calling me the Dubai Des what's that goodbye des linem goodbye

23:06goodbye des but anyway I walked into this room all my all my heroes were there like oh wow and you know just one of them play it cool yeah yeah yeah I sat with Ian Rush because I know Ian Rush so thankfully I was just chatting with him and then obviously you've got Iniesta Ronaldo Puyol Maldini Kaka Maldini amazing what an experience Roberto Baggio what did you tell him about Miles Cade the Baggio do you know what I didn't see Baggio when I looked at the photo I was like no one told me Baggio was there I would have got the UQIO oh my UQIO Ria Ria was there I didn't see he did the second day I didn't see him but like you know Manny Pacquiao Usyk wow Khabib like the UFC fighter God the president of FIFA ah just who's who who's who of football sport really and it was a pleasure to be invited.

24:02And it was a lot of fun for me. Oh, mate, I'm made up for that. Minute, babe. Meanwhile, I'm on the water slide for the 10th time with the kids, no tell. But what about New Year's in Dubai? What was that? I imagine that's off the scale. That was only one day, like two days, wasn't it? And then we had... It was just a really wholesome family holiday. Yeah. We'd been so busy the run up to Christmas. We just wanted to obviously see our friends. You know, I haven't seen Lucinda for like six weeks. And she sort of... Six weeks? yeah I can't believe that I know but I see it every day so you know I was desperate to see her and our kids are all best friends so for them to all get together Tom and Kaz came with us yeah which was amazing I had a serious injury and ended up in hospital oh fuck alcohol poisoning no I broke my nail you broke your nail and you went to Aussie you know what this sounds ridiculous this sounds insane and I was so embarrassed going to hospital but um Tom and Kaz we'd been out for a lovely meal Tom and Kaz came back to our room had a quick glass of wine kids played and then as she was going to bed 11pm at night I gave her a hug and my acrylic nail bent right back my whole nail came off your whole fingernail yeah so it was pouring with blood and I was like the pain and then it kind of stopped and then this nerve throb which was going down my whole arm down my shoulder up my neck so I stayed up from 11 p.m.

25:31till 7 a.m. didn't I Pete crying in pain and obviously all the kids are in bed so I couldn't go anywhere and I was like what do we do the doctor came to the room at 3 a.m. put me on a drip for painkillers because they wouldn't when we were calling down I was like can we have some paracetamol they were like we can't give you paracetamol we can't give you ibuprofen yeah and I don't take stuff like that so I yeah so we had to wait for a doctor that was two hours then the doctor came then he's like I'm gonna put you on a drip then And that was another two hours. That's like a form of torture when people rip fingernails.

26:01Yeah. Ross, I can't, so then Lucinda picked me up at 8am, took me to the hospital and the doc, I met the most phenomenal doctor. He was fabulous because I've got a phobia of hospitals. Yeah. And he was just wonderful in the, what was it? The Saudi German hospitals. They were amazing. And they injected all my hand, had to numb it and that relief. I was just like, because I've been up 11 till 7am. It was the whole night. Crying, I have a hand under hot water, cold water, arm up, arm down. Fair play. It was, you know, like, but when you say to people, I broke a nail. I broke a nail. Yeah, yeah, yeah.

26:44Everyone goes like, so I had golf the next day, right? And genuinely, and I went, lads, I'm not going to be able to, we've been up all night. I said, there's no way we can come. I said, Absinthe Hospital. They said, oh my God, what's up? I said, she's broken a nail. they were like are you actually joking I was like no I said it was well it was looked horrendous that's horrific they had to inject my hand and that stopped this nerve pain the doctor was like no form of painkiller would stop this you needed this nerve blocker and then he removed my whole nail oh have you stopped so look at my nail now that's kind of funny it's horrible gross yeah so that wasn't girls acrylic nails do not wear them so now I'm going au naturel with a little short nail with shellac on nice Sophia and Pete went to see Sabalenka and Kyrgios oh really at the Battle of the Sexes and they were they were on court with Sabalenka and Nick yeah I read them up how was it it was really good it was amazing you were on TV weren't you eating popcorn yes I didn't realise this but I was sitting there right and then obviously you know I should have known that the cameras are going to be near us because Brazilian Ronaldo came in and Kaka and sat on our on our row because obviously they were there for the World Sports Summit which I just mentioned and they got their tickets as well through them so they're on our bit right so then they get announced and then they come in and the crowd's cheering and whatever and then I'm thinking right so the whole game I'm thinking they could be on camera because there's you know there's people like they all know that they're there so I said that's just fine I'll just keep looking forward you're there as well yeah but anyway so Sophia's gone about halfway through I thought it's the tiniest little bit of popcorn I thought I'd be sweet I'll just eat this now bang as soon as I do that I see a big screen I'm like eating popcorn like a big gawp like a big gawp I was like ah nice one killed me there and everyone was going put the popcorn I was getting views on Twitter all the text messages and everything like crouching over to the popcorn crouching same as nachos absolutely I was so jealous he went there because I wanted to go as well why didn't you because you nailed because no because of all the kids it's too long the tennis match yeah it is to be fair because Sabalenka is Sophia's icon isn't she yeah Sophia's the same size of us now isn't she not quite but she's got to she got to meet her on the court which was amazing I love her yeah she's great isn't she really good she was flirting with you wasn't she yeah she's only human she was like oh I love looking up to a man first time because she's like don't tell she didn't say it like that at all do you like popcorn?

29:27she just there's popcorn left did you like no just flirting at all no she just said oh it's like nice to look up to someone

29:42so yeah it was an incredible holiday we got to see my brother who lives there we went to his new wellness centre rejuvenated oh yeah how was that? oh wonderful yeah we did like the saunas and the cold plunges yeah it was just gorgeous so yeah it was a top top top class Christmas well in well in but back to reality what about how's January shaping up for it already Pete said he's doing damp Jan he's doing any resolutions or yeah drizzly Jan yeah

30:15I just want to be a better version of myself I want to be healthier I'm 40 now I need I've got responsibility to look after you know four kids I had my full body scan with Ezra which is so interesting I want longevity I want to stay on this earth as long as I can so I want to be healthier be active because we were so busy up to Christmas you know but I think everyone feels the same don't they there's loads of parties meeting up meeting friends meeting family so food, drink food, drink no time to go to the gym so I just want to crack on with that what about you sister? you know I don't like I I'm reading a book at the moment right no not this I'm all over it not this again and yeah it's just it changed my perspective on death believe it or not what book is it?

31:07it's just another Dan Brown one you know one of the ones but all these books are a little bit factual aren't they? okay yeah so well they are factual yeah not a little bit factual well no the people and the places are factual yeah it's like the real world but there's a fictional story within it yeah yeah and the organizations are are correct and things like that um but yeah it just it's it's someone developing a uh a kind of a consciousness about the brain yeah but anyway what happened i've heard this for three weeks he's only read like 14 pages 16 pages in now he's been reading it for i've read three books in the time he's only a third of the way through.

31:48It's about that. Yeah, I've seen the third one. And it's, yeah, basically, so when you're, without your consciousness, so when you die, there are levels of GABA, right? So it's saying that the brain is that powerful that when the GABA level is lower, your brain increases its capacity. So basically, our brains can do anything. We can speak Chinese, we can speak, you know, but we just don't need that part of the brain so the GABA level's increased to stop us from accessing that part of our brain. Yeah. Yeah? and when you need it, you can learn it. So at the moment, we're living in a three-dimensional world.

32:20However, we can progress into the four-dimensional realm. And when you die, the GABA levels are lower right down. Your brain is then opened to... And when people are saying that they can see the light... What waste that is though? So people with autism, for instance, like that, you know, their brain, it actually might be lower, you know, and they're taking on so much information, you know, more than us, which is why quite often people, you know, who are geniuses have that form on the spectrum. Because their levels are, and they can access it, and we can't understand it. And it's like a superpower almost, isn't it?

32:54Yeah. Okay, okay, okay. I see, I see, I see. Also, that is the quickest explanation ever. Yeah, yeah. Yeah, I could talk this for three hours, which I have done to her. Hence the reason she's born stiff. No, I'm very interested in it. I want to read it myself. When you die, that light, and what I'm saying is, it feels like there's an absolute calmness and serenity, because you actually remember everything that you've done in your life. Yeah. Because your brain, the levels have gone lower and you're accessing all parts of your brain. All the information you've ever absorbed. Then you kind of float away.

33:25I like that perspective. So anyway, back to real life, it made me think differently about dying and it actually being a nice experience. More of a part of life rather than the end of life type of thing. Yeah. And also you were saying about psychedelic drugs or things like that, you know, mushrooms or whatever. DLT. DMC yeah and obviously we don't recommend that at all but it's an interesting topic of conversation I wonder why there is that block on letting the brain because I think it's too much and also I think it's something like 60-70 % of the energy we use in our body is from the brain so you're telling me there's not more in there do you know what I mean we're not accessing all of our brain yeah I've heard that in the past as well you use like 10-20 % of your brain capacity or something like that the rest is untapped yeah yeah and so there's five I think five you know episodes in the book you know where people bang they have a car crash wake up speaking Chinese yeah or playing piano how can you tell me that that's not in there anyway yeah you've knocked it something's happened and now you're speaking Chinese yeah yeah yeah when you had no clue about doing that before that's fact that's happened yeah and people I've seen that with people waking up the artist they can see musical notes and stuff like that that's it right so what they're saying is that we're connected to a greater thing I really desperately want to lower my gamma.

34:48How do you do it? I don't know. Well, Fringy, what's his name, man? Bradley Cooper did it in Limitless, didn't he? Yeah, I watched that film not long ago. What about that? It's like a tablet that lowers whatever and you can just do stuff. It's a boss film, look. Because when you try and learn a language, because that's actually on my list to do, I'm going to pick my French back up. Pick your French back up. You know, they're in the locker. Excuse me? pick your French back up no because I can understand from bonjour can I get au revoir I started it with bonjour and I'm really going to go for the rest of it that's how I can say there used to be a runner she's in hurdles at school no yeah no I can understand French oui and I can speak it you know l 'hôtel c 'est loin 30 minutes

35:43pick off fuck off Peter but that's the problem when someone tries to learn a language you take the piss no you don't you both have just took the piss no because you said you're going to pick it back up if you had said I'd like to learn French it wouldn't have been as funny but you said I'm going to pick my French back up like you used to speak French I told that child in the hotel I was 14 in German do you remember I told that woman at the it was at the station or the airport to Fermi de Bouche and I said to you Le Petit Chat he went shut your mouth and I went you little dog well that's you know it was a lovely Christmas anyway that was fabulous yeah I think what I want to do is more quality time things that's why I want to end it I just want to be in the moment yeah more present I could possibly be any more present but you know just want to enjoy the simple pleasures that's what I've taken from last year more of that nice yeah okay have you got any agony absolutely I'll have that to me babe if you don't mind uh hi guys happy new year I'm just catching up on some eps I missed over the Christmas period and felt in I had to write uh I had to write in with the absolute shocker I had a while back a few years ago we'd been getting our three children presents from October and hiding them way in the shed as you do can I just interrupt there there's still presents that I've hidden that I can't remember where I've put them I got Jack that necklace didn't I with my son thing he saw this necklace on Instagram it was like champion son or something and he wanted it it made him cry when he read it it was like about a mum loving it it's a little gold book it's just utter tat yeah and I bought it and I don't know where it is sounds like a nice present as well you should find that when his birthday comes around hopefully yes I hope so yeah weird woman have a limit of£150 each and we knew what they wanted.

37:42Timberland boots, Nike trainers, hair straighteners, aftershave, perfume, designer clothing, etc. I might not have to raise that under quick. I was just about to say. That's going on the Timberlands lots. Should have just stopped at Timberlands. Yeah. That sounds like a good Christmas to me. Yeah, big time. We probably went a little bit over. There you go. I thought you might. as it's Christmas and they're great kids. About a week before the big day, late at night, I brought the presents in. I put them in a black sack in the kitchen under the table. Ready for wrapping. The next day was bin day.

38:22I didn't know what you meant. Oh God. You are joking. And there were black sacks at the other end of the kitchen by the back door next to the bins. So like I do every bin day, I put them out the front with the rest of the rubbish and went to work. Around lunchtime, I had a call from the wife asked where the presents. I said under the table in the kitchen, she said she moved them and put them by the back door near the bins. I said, I put all the black sacks out for the rubbish. Yes, you've guessed it. I had a week to replace all the presents, which I did. I took the blame and paid for them all again.

38:58If this happened to you, who would have taken the blame? I still to this day believe it wasn't my fault. Love you guys. This is Clint from Clint. well it was his fault Tilly Tilly's dad yeah yeah do you remember that Tilly Tilly wrote in a few weeks ago yeah no way whose fault Abbey well I think it's his fault she's moved to where he would take them out for the bins I just think it's risky putting them in a black bag on the day before bin day yeah I think it's a bit of a joint I think it's a joint one but to answer your question there it would have been my fault that's heartbreaking would have been wouldn't it yeah a million percent yeah but in this case in their case it was a joy I think as well I don't understand why you'd bring them from the shed into the kitchen and then leave them there for like a day or two surely you'd bring them in the shed and then wrap them immediately do you know what I mean like if you were to about them rooting yeah do you know what I mean lessons to be learned my kids are so on top when they've been rooting because they think clearly I'm stupid like Lib like she's so innocent but then you know I'll get her some like really random present and then she'll just come back and say mum so mum I was thinking for Christmas I'd like this like you know pink lip gloss with like a little strawberry lid you know the exact same thing is what it is and I'm just like oh really that's good to say that don't you so she's like you got me here do you know what I mean that's cute but it's when they go silent Sienna's like always playing with the dolls or whatever and then you know it just goes silent for like 10-15 minutes and you go shit what you doing and then you come down nothing nothing like that and you go you've been rooting no way I catch Abby doing that I didn't I didn't ruin any of my surprises for Christmas and birthday and it was fantastic nicely done okay hi Abby and Pete hope your holes was better than mine the slow realisation that I've outgrew my home my home friends was a bit weird a pill to swallow but I'll go into some more detail during the Christmas catch ups I realised I don't actually enjoy spending time with one of my oldest friends anymore we've grown apart their energy is exhausting their jokes aren't funny to me anymore and three hours I feel completely drained.

41:07Sounds like an hotel with you. I was going to say, it's similar to our relationship. They haven't done anything wrong, but I can't fake the enjoyment anymore. How do I slowly step back without hurting them or being judged as a bad friend? And is it normal to feel like the person you've been closest to for years has suddenly become emotionally exhausting? I get this because I think... like it it just happens right and it does you know it can happen with um you know even going back you know when you people have moved away and then they go back to their home city and you think i love my home city and i'll always be from there but i don't have anything does not in common with it anymore yeah you know what i mean yeah the people around are doing the same things that they've always done and you know people change them people grow it doesn't mean it's a negative you know we've had it loads of times you know various years and people in our lives like it does happen they might feel the same about you as well they might go oh god our band you know when there's a bit awkward energy between people don't you I know with a couple of my mates I'm guaranteed to see them every Christmas I'm guaranteed to have the exact same conversation with them do you know what I mean and it's not bad about it but we know the score between us they don't listen to this pod do they that's the problem wankers don't need them fuck them off with my pals as well I'll go and we'll meet up but I know we'll have the same crack I might not see them for five years and I know I'll be barely laughing with them yeah that's it I'm like some of my friends from school I don't see them every day I'll speak to them but I know when we meet up it'll be lovely it's great you know but it's okay to change and move on and navigating the kind of not going round there anymore what if they still like you and you decided you don't like them how would you navigate that because if she goes why don't you sex with me I just block them you can't block you're always straight ghost your best mate it's so funny because you know when I had a row with Arjan and he blocked me and unfollowed me on Instagram did he unfollow you yeah so he said I don't know so when we were out for my birthday he was like he said oh do you mind if i post no he said oh i'm gonna post this picture he said i can't believe you're 40 look this photo something and i said yeah and he was like looking for me oh and and then he went on to me and it went follow back and then and then he was and then we had this row because it said abby clancy's just started following you so he was like well you must have unfollowed me and i said well you block made and it was so funny.

43:53So hold on, did you unfollow him or did he unfollow you? I bet I said, I don't even know your name on it. It's not John. Something else. That's hilarious. That's like sort of Real Housewives. I know, I know, it was that petty, he blocked me. That's the modern day. No, sorry. That's the modern day, like not calling someone. No, sorry, I said, he said, I'm going to post this and I said, I didn't even know you were on Instagram because I can't find you. And it was like, follow, but I'm like, unblock. You blocked me and unfollowed me? No way. Stupid route. That is funny. Family's in. Hysterical. So good luck with that one.

44:28Yeah. I think that's a tough one because I think you just, you can't. I think you just need to subtly. Don't be rude. Don't bear and bridge. It's like a thing. Don't bear and bridge. It's just subtly fade out. Yeah. You subtly fade out. Okay. Love the pod. Very happy new year to you all. It's only the first week of January and I'm filled with regret and shame. So to anyone else listening who's in a similar plight, you're not alone. this year I decided to be productive and bought a gym membership starting in January. Anyone who buys a gym membership in January, it's not going to work, unfortunately, because in February, you're not going to go.

45:00You need a bit of time. January, you actually need a bit of chill time because the lead up to Christmas is so full on. Don't beat yourself up if you have that little glass of wine in Jan or if you're too tired to go to the gym. It's a big month. It's a big month. Let's ease ourselves in. Yeah. You know, like me, for instance. You know, I'm on dry Jan or drizzly Jan. I'm starting at the 12th and finishing at 29th. Are you doing dry Jan? Ross? Yeah, yeah, yeah, we are. But I started, because my mum's birthday is the 7th, so I started after that. So you're on a drizzly one. I'm going to do it longer than that.

45:34I'm going to do it longer than that. Oh, okay, fair enough. What about Pete's birthday? My birthday. Can't wait for the invite.

45:43Okay, now. Okay, first day in, I realised that this is not for me. the classes clash with work the machines are terrifying and everyone's terrifyingly fit I lasted 20 minutes and I felt like I'd been physically assaulted by my own legs and snuck out before anyone noticed now the gendered guilt is real do I keep paying for the gym in shame or cancelling admit defeat before February I think give it another go I think going to the gym at any time of the year starting the gym if you know you're not in the best shape you can be but you have to start somewhere you do and I think she should be patting herself on the back she's made the effort she's been in there for 20 minutes go again stay there for 30 I think the gym I think it's definitely like the first one is the most daunting first cut is the deepest the second one's slightly better I just think once you get into it you actually love it and you see the progress as well you get stronger or whatever there's this lady I follow on Instagram she's like an ex-model she's in her 40s now and she's like always been a total babe but she's completely changed like what she eats how she trains blah blah blah and she talks about like how addictive it is and how you get like addicted to how good you feel and when you're taking care of your body definitely you do but also if she's not enjoying the gym she could pick up like a sporting hobby or something yeah that's what I'm gonna do some people aren't always like into the gym you know Riley got tennis lessons for Christmas it's a good one yeah the trouble is you don't want to do that in January no it was very much a summer actually unless you've got indoor courses and I want to be good by summer that's the thing that's what I thought I'd have graft all the way through winter at my golf and fucking have a nightmare in the summer yeah but I think stick with it I mean listen if the clash of work there's no point is there you know just do something else do something on the weekend I cancelled my gym membership because I'll just pay and go because there was a point where I was going every single day but you do more horse and it's worth it and then I've booked it back in because I thought I'm going again I've been getting up earlier and going for a swim there's an outdoor swimming pool yeah on my golf club and then me and Sophia got up like half seven and did a it's freezing obviously yeah but like oh my god how good do you feel after that I hate the cold though I'm going to keep doing I'm going to do that two three times a week I'm just going to do that you should be in the gym every day yeah what so should you no no no like so should everyone what are you fucking putting on me for because you need to strengthen your back I know I do but I want to go every day you've got to sort back you've got to strengthen it yeah yeah it's just it's hard you know getting ready kids ready for school and stuff like taking them to school no what I'm saying is it's I will be going anyway health is wealth certainly is stay tuned for next week guys thoughts?

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