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16 Apr 2026 · 32m · 15 chapters

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“That Crossed The Line” This Message Changes Everything | Ask Me Anything!

In short

Episode topic: “Ask Me Anything” with Abby Clancy, Peter Crouch, and Gaz; relationship “icks” and etiquette, plus three listener scenarios: (1) a boyfriend’s WhatsApp “carpets will match the drapes” flirt message seen on a shared laptop, (2) a listener who asked directly for marriage and was surprised with a proposal in Rio during Valentine’s week, and (3) a breakup letter about a best mate’s boyfriend possibly being on Grindr and whether to tell the friend.

Guests/backgrounds

Abby Clancy (model/TV presenter), Peter Crouch (former footballer), Gaz (co-host; comedian/TV personality). No other guests appear.

Key claims

The “drapes/pubes” message is a red flag; bring it up rather than ignore. Cheating is cheating even if Grindr use is about sexuality. For weddings: do it your way, don’t over-invite, enjoy the day.

Notable examples

Rio cruise proposal logistics; Carnival; “ick” examples include flinching at noises, burping/farting; a bar-table slip leading to a boyfriend face-plant and a stranger catching the girlfriend.

Written by AI. May contain mistakes.

Chapters

3:35

Casual Conversations on Fashion

The hosts discuss their matching outfits and personal fashion choices.

“Did you decide what you're going to wear today?”
6:01

Home Organization Challenges

The hosts share their experiences with home organization and packing.

“I had some memories in my drawer as well.”
7:21

Discussing Relationship Boundaries

The hosts delve into boundaries in relationships and work interactions.

“just like thinking about bone paint colours.”
9:01

Responding to Inappropriate Messages

The hosts analyze a listener's dilemma about a concerning message from a boyfriend.

“So thanks for always being a good crack.”
10:39

Advice on Navigating Trust Issues

The hosts discuss how to address trust issues and potential red flags.

14:01

Addressing Relationship Concerns

Discussion on how to handle relationship issues and assert oneself.

“I think I think within your rights definitely to bring that up and have a word should get rid get rid well I don't know get rid I mean for just you can definitely raise the situation and find out more.”
15:01

Engagement Story: A Surprise Proposal

A listener shares her proposal story and seeks wedding advice.

“In Rio with the most beautiful ring I've ever seen.”
16:07

Wedding Planning Tips

Advice on how to plan a wedding focused on personal happiness.

“Well, I'll tell you what, he needs to give some tips on the proposal.”
21:24

Navigating Friendships and Trust

Discussion on the complexities of friendships after a breakup.

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23:21

Cheating and Relationship Boundaries

Exploring the implications of cheating and communication in relationships.

“Okay, I think if we go to point number one.”
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28:00

Heroic Rescue from the Sea

Learn about a dramatic account of a rescue involving children swept out to sea.

“Of all the things that are doing here today.”
28:55

A Funny Lift Gone Wrong

Hear a humorous story about a failed Dirty Dancing lift attempt at a barbecue.

“So they were getting pulled by the boat.”
30:09

The Dads Who Save the Day

Discussing fathers who manage to catch babies while juggling drinks and sports.

“He kind of like, caught it, caught the beer and catches the baby in one hit.”
31:31

The Concept of the 'Ick'

Explore what behaviors can give partners the 'ick' in relationships.

33:09

Men's 'Ick' List Requests

A call for listeners to share their experiences of icks from women.

“That's a great question because I don't think I've ever thought about that.”
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3:09Peter Crouch? Too much. Daddy, come on, calm down. That was cheeky from Daddy, that. Remember, guys, if you're really enjoying this top quality content that we're producing, hit subscribe. It helps. Ask me anything. Hello, and welcome to the Therapy Crouch. Ask me anything with me, Abby Clancy. Me, Peter Crouch. And me, Gaz. How are we? You and Pete have got the... Did you decide what you're going to wear today? because you're both in like cream cashmere. We are a little bit. We're in a tiny bit matching. Although I'm in the skinny jeans. What have you got there? You got a little Chino vibe. It's just kind of what I wear every day.

3:46I thought you said that was on your girlfriend's ick list, a skinny jean. White skinny jeans. Yeah, yeah. But I still think, I don't know. I need to outgrow these black ones. Outgrow. I think I've lived in them since I was like 15 years old. It's shameful, isn't it? No, it's not. It's good. I've actually just emptied a box of jeans. Have you? That I kept 20 pairs of jeans in. all skinnies and they're about that big because I remember you used to pull them in and they'd suck you in to death it's like they look like they'd fit liberty now which is 10 you're always doing something though aren't you what you're always doing something like packing or not packing so obviously we're packing up and there was one cupboard in the office which I said to Pete can you empty that because it's adult officey stuff and wires bits of his crap and I said can you empty this cupboard for me because I don't know what to do with any of it and he said yeah so he did empty the cupboard but he just moved all the contents out of the cupboard and left them on the floor on the floor yeah but to me it was totally organised it was like I'm going to throw that out I'm going to maneuver that upstairs and then I went to get a bin bag for the stuff that I was going to throw and I couldn't find it so then I ended up lying on the bed on his phone doing something else just going to bed so for the untrained eye that looks like I've just thrown stuff out the untrained eye yeah I've been in the loft for like three days like organising Pete just goes swimming it's just ridiculous you love organising I love swim club you know I don't love organising I have to do it I feel like you really enjoy it I want to leave you to it and let you enjoy but I can't if it's if it I have to do it otherwise it's not going to get done I'm going to help you you are you freaking well are I did today I did help you today I did I did.

5:34You didn't? I did, I got the bin bag. I'd finished my job. You got the bin bag? You didn't, Maddy? Do you know how much stuff I had to go through in there? All letters, everything, files, each piece of paper was like, you know, I had to go through all of it. Well, do you know what I did yesterday? Ten years worth of every child's school books through every page. If there was a picture of them, then I ripped the picture and I kept the books, all their memory boxes. That's cute. Yeah, I had some of that. So don't talk to me about that. I had some memories in my drawer as well. Oh, wow. Just loads of little, like, we love you, Daddy, and we love you, Mummy things.

6:11Cheeky Bailey's in that, Pedro. I just had to surprise you. It's actually, oh, nice, Irish coffee. I just threw a little Bailey's in instead of the milk. You trying to get me drunk, you filthy dog? Daddy, come on, calm down. Here we go. That was cheeky from Daddy, that. Oh, my God. Well, I just thought I'd give a nice little surprise, eh? Nice. Bit of a kicker. On the topic of booze, my mates asked me this. They said you used to do for weekly wine, you'd have wine. Why did you lose that? Where did that go? Because we're alcoholics. Yeah, yeah. You can't be drinking all hours of the day. Yeah, basically we're recording quite early in the day.

6:48Yeah. We're kind of five-ish. It's four more time to start. Just like... Not midday. Uncork. Not home. I normally like having a glass of wine around dinner time, making the kids dinner. Yeah. Just to get through it. It's not an 11am drink, is it? No. No. And then bed for nine. We've been going to bed every night. This week we've been asleep at 9pm and I've been waking up at 5.40 every day. Blimey. That's why I'm doing that. Fair play. I know. Yeah, we were both up at six this morning. It was good. Well, I was up for an hour earlier just like thinking about bone paint colours. Fuck. How many different shades of bone.

7:30There are some are green, some are more yellow, some are more pink it's just wrecking my head yeah well it would wreck mine if I cared bones just I've never heard of the colour never heard it so much I think in the last is this bone? I was going to say is this no this is Portland Stone Portland Stone Monument Grey what have we got we've got a whole selection in here Monument Grey what have we got so many different like this is just cream isn't it I think beige it's just cream beige looks nice though your teeth are beige you should know exactly what that colour a bit hard savage right I spy I spy Jesus now insult me and I'll insult you back I didn't insult you you did you just said it looks beige you're mocking you are mocking I'm not mocking you am I you I'm looking at the wall and seeing what colour it is you mocked me personally I was that mine was a joke though it was a personal slight one of those it's just a joke it was darling you look gorgeous I've told you all day you look gorgeous it's fine I said I love your hair thanks unlike mine my effing sister has stolen my tongs and my hair so I couldn't even and my hair dryer so I couldn't even do my hair today it looks nice don't give me that look shut up Gary it does look nice I mean it I'm about to just put a whole bottle of dry shampoo in there never mind fair play you look nice babe Bailey M's got in touch alright On the Ask Us Anythings.

9:02Abby, Pete and Gaz. Firstly, absolutely love the podcast. You get me through the commute. So thanks for always being a good crack. Don't judge, but I accidentally read a message on my boyfriend's WhatsApp from a girl at work yesterday. I didn't go through his phone, but his WhatsApp was open on our shared laptop, which I was using. And I saw she said something about she was getting her hair done. to which he replied so the carpets will match the drapes oh god that was bad what does that mean? that was bad enough in itself is that a euphemism? would you like to explain Pete?

9:42I mean how do you explain I would yeah I imagine it all just tallies up colour wise as in that's a great way of putting it that's a really good way as in as in you're same on top as you are below in your hair colour yeah okay there you go it all tallies up oh my god there's something fishy going on then she replied with a winky face and something to the effect there's only one way to find out i felt guilty for looking but i also like i've seen something i can't ignore do i have legs to stand on when i bring it up or do you think it will open a can of worms and should i act like i never saw it i can't actually gauge if the message crossed the line or if i'm overreacting um i already know your answer she's so calm i know i would have got that laptop and threw it at him that laptop i don't think there would have been any thought process behind that that laptop would have gone straight my in my face we don't come and don't violence on here we don't we don't um no he's cheating simple us or at least flirting that is okay what how would you feel if you find that message on my phone from a guy at work would you think it was um was your haircut gonna match your balls no like you know if it if it was if it was the other way around it wouldn't be ideal you don't say that to somebody you're not flirting with or got a thing with i don't think totally agree but all these young people are gonna disagree yeah i mean half our listener base yeah I think I think it's totally wrong you know it can't happen can it that can't happen can it like winking and stuff like that no thanks yeah I don't know what the etiquette is in office jobs anymore do you have like work wives and stuff that you're a bit pally with in the office I don't know is that a common thing he shouldn't have seen you know her vagina no no he shouldn't know shouldn't know what that's not even you don't say that to someone you work with do you unless it's something else going on we're not we're not missing something here he is saying like it's so it matches yeah is that what he's saying so he's made from work regardless of regardless of the drapes and the bloody curtains she shouldn't be telling him she's getting his hair done and her hair done anyway yeah number one the red flag is i don't give a shit if you're getting your hair done yeah like yeah but that's that's like i'd say that to you i'm getting my hair you don't tell a stranger you're getting your hair done or your work colleague if a girl said to me by the way i'm getting my hair done i'd think oh like why do you want it why is she telling me that yeah yeah because they're obviously you want some sort of obviously quite far down the line with this relationship it looks that way doesn't it if so if a lad came over to you and went, I'm going to get my hair done today.

12:45You go, I give a fuck. You just did say that to me. Yeah, but you should care about me. what day's Alfie coming? I really need a hairdresser. Yeah, but that's different. That's because we're close. Exactly. That's what I'm saying. It's like, you know, I wouldn't say to a random woman, I wouldn't say to James, I'm getting my hair done today. I wouldn't say to James, I'm getting my hair done today. I would go, no interest whatsoever if you get your hair done or not. But if he was my boyfriend, he would have a slight interest. Of course. exactly right that's a it's a partner situation yeah it's almost like it's that's been going on a while i think she needs to get rid and it's as simple as that well listen don't question yourself about you know whether you should ignore it's morally incorrect you definitely have legs to stand on and you shouldn't act like you never saw it no if he says if he says what are you doing route me through my phone I'd be like are you joking what are you doing telling your work colleague that a hair's gonna match her pubes get a grip don't you dare come back at me that's what I'd say and while you're at it pack your things and get out and delete my number loser loser that's what I'd say I love it fair play I think I think within your rights definitely to bring that up and have a word should get rid get rid well I don't know get rid I mean for just you can definitely raise the situation and find out more.

14:13They totally get rid. Totally get rid. I think, you know, getting rid is an easy throwaway thing. No, girl, know your worth. Don't take no shit. Yeah, but you know, like, let's bring it up. Okay, speak to him, listen to his lame ass excuse and lie and then get rid. There you go. It's the agony abs. You're Charlie. It's your name on the door. Hello, you gorgeous lot. not sure if I remember but I wrote in a while back asking for advice on how to get my boyfriend to pop the question oh yes Millie Pedro and Tudor Bob advised me to play it cool and maybe drop the odd subtle hint here and there so I naturally ignored that and went full abbey and just straight up asked are you ever going to fucking marry me after a romantic birthday weekend away and with still no ring oh anyway two days later it's Valentine's Day I'm on a cruise in Rio with my mum, there's a knock at the door and I answer it to find my boyfriend who had flown over just for the weekend to propose to me.

15:19I'm crying. In Rio with the most beautiful ring I've ever seen. You are crying. I know, I'm emotional. Are you alright? You are crying. I know, that's so nice. He and my mum had been in cahoots for months. Needless to say, I was absolutely mortified and I ugly cried. Obviously I said yes because I do not deserve this absolute unicorn of a man. We partied at Carnival all weekend to celebrate and now I cannot wait to marry him. Anyway, seeing as you guys have steered me right so far and you played such a part in us finally getting engaged, we would love it if you'd give us any pearls of wisdom so we can enjoy them on our wedding day.

15:59Thank you for being such a gorgeous couple to look up to and for all the laughs, lots of love, the soon-to-be Mr. and Mrs. Rigby. Oh, that's lovely. Congratulations. Congratulations. Oh God, top tips for wedding. Well, I'll tell you what, he needs to give some tips on the proposal. He needs to give some tips to you. That's what I mean. Yeah, like that, like for men. That is. Surprised that in Rio, like not expecting to see him. On a cruise ship as well though. Unbelievable, yeah. On rail. Logistics to do that. The logistics. Is this Rio de Janeiro as well? Are we talking, is this Brazil? Oh my goodness.

16:30Brazil, they went to Carnival after. I imagine him like flying up like James Bond on a little dinghy, leaving a dinghy and abseiling up the cruise ship. What a hero. That is so nice. But thank God she asked him. Or at least told him how she feels. But you know what, you were correct. It could have given just a little kick up the arse he needed to do it. He's probably going to do it anyway. Yeah, yeah, he would have done, yeah. You brought arse forward probably a couple of years. Me? Shut up. You said I drew my ring. You did, yeah. Such a lie. You did draw it. It's an absolute lie. I kept the drawing.

17:05scale as well like the five carrots bit of arts and crafts when you're just designing i love that um i think with regards to the wedding do it your way don't worry too much about everyone else because everyone's going to be in such good spirits and happy to be there and excited for you so do what you want to do not in like a nasty way and just enjoy every second because it goes like that, doesn't it? Yeah, I would try and keep it down. I know it's hard, but just get the people that you spend time with. Yeah. You know, you don't have to invite. It's not necessary to invite people you see once every 10 years.

17:48In hindsight, we should have just eloped. I think so. That's what I would do. But we should do that next. Yeah. We've done the big wedding. We did a 10-year wedding anniversary with our family and kids. Varanol. And now the next one is me and you. Yeah. On our own. We should go to Vegas. Love to. It's one of those Elvis chapels. My dad did that, didn't he? Yeah. Did he actually? I think that's quite rock and roll. I've always wanted to do something like that. Yeah. Yeah. That was a bit like fucking old dad. We're 13 years, aren't we? 20 really now? 25? I think 15. Yeah, why not? It's fun, isn't it?

18:26Yeah, well, we could do it in our garden. Get Elvis in the garden. Yes. Uh-huh, uh-huh. Why not, eh? That's lovely. Do you want to read one, babe? I'm actually glad that you want to marry me again. I love you more than anything in the world. And I mean that. Oh, you guys. So, yeah, 15 years it is. Let's do that. That's not far. So, are we 14 years coming up in June? We've been together 21 years, though. Yeah. It's a bloody long time, hasn't it? Yeah, it's a really long time. What would that be? Would that be paper? Is it paper? Diamond. Diamond, 15 years. Shut up. It's paper. Paper as in cash.

19:09That's a card. No, it's paper as in 50s. 50s. I'm joking. I wonder what it actually is. Shall we pull it up? 15 years. It'll be something stupid like copper. Let's have a look. 15 year wedding anniversary is... Cotton. it's crystal or glass is it yeah oh yes i think lovely glasses for our house little pot glass anniversary just sounds weird crystal sounds nicer crystal sounds nicer but you could get a lovely set of like lead crystal glasses wine glasses some finery that'd be nice or you could build like a big glass extension on the back of the house you're such a knob aren't you aim high aim high you've got to you've got to or I could just go for a pint

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22:41Are you aware of Grindr, Pete? Is that a gay website? It is, yeah. It's a gay dating app. I'm aware of it. We'll unpack that later. Yeah, a few of my friends are on that. He has a full account and it's being passed around the friendship group like crazy. Someone must have found it originally and then shared it and now it's spread like wildfire. We're not sure if we should tell her or could this just be a catfish account? I know you have to be sensitive with things like this because you don't want the guy to feel he can't come out or be himself. But why then is he still dating my friend? Keep up the great work.

23:20Love the show, Ali. That's a pretty intense one. Okay, I think if we go to point number one. Yeah. I do think it's a bit dodged that she's split up with her boyfriend and gone, by the way, he told me that your fella cheats on me. Yeah. like the timing yeah she should if she knew that she should have told her when she was still dating the friend if she was a real friend yeah 100 % me and my friends have like a policy like if we ever found out anything no matter how much it had hurt us we must say okay like if it was bad I think that's good do you? what I want to know is why is the best mate telling telling her why is the best mate snitching on his best mate?

24:02yeah there's loads of I see what you're saying I see what you're saying bro code Broke the bro code Yeah it's tricky that I thought it was all bros before hoes 100 % You've got to live and die by it That's what I actually thought Like men Men are tight-lipped aren't they In these scenarios Oh yeah Just living is hard You don't want to ruffle feathers I don't get that It's tricky so then to point number two he's on Grindr or he might be on Grindr well if he's on Grindr he's on Grindr totally yeah that's fine he needs to come out he needs to come say it to her doesn't he cheating isn't it it's like you know it's still cheating whether he's gay or straight yeah exactly so that's the wrong thing it's not wrong per se in being on Grindr if he's gay or bisexual whoever you are be whoever you are absolutely but the problem is that he's still cheating on this girl or attempting ding to a friend of ours was with a fella and found out that he was cheating on with someone who was gay oh wow who's that someone well known as well yeah that was a bad one yeah it is tough that is a tough one what would you do okay let's say hypothetical scenario right someone sends you Pete is all over Grindr and they're like pretty sure Pete might be on there what would you do would you broach it with him well that's a tricky one because I know Pete's not gay yeah so let's let's hypothetically say it was my friend who's dating someone okay and we found him on Grindr I would say it to her would you?

25:43I'd have to oh yeah yeah absolutely oh you'd have to you'd have to go like look at you just have to go you've got evidence someone sent me this and I don't know what to do with it I don't want to hurt your feelings but you know we don't know we don't know if it's real we don't know if he's been like stitched up or you know but either way it's cheating so I think that's gotta be that's gotta be how it's done and then what would she do with that information what do you think she'd do just go and ask him straight away do you reckon yeah just go like look what's this I think you can tell straight away if you don't warn him you can tell straight away yeah if it's true or not yeah agreed fair sage advice okay Cardi P in the Clance Olivia from Birmingham here just want to say I absolutely agree with the listener the other week that said her boyfriend gave her the ick when she watched him land.

26:37I laughed so much. You loved that. I loved it. I couldn't think of anything worse. Well, actually I have. The other week I was at a bar with some of my mates and one of the bars where you're allowed to dance on the tables, Archer Street, great vibe. Anyway, my best friend Holly was on the table and her boyfriend was coming back from the bar with a pint in his hand. She's dancing on the table and slips. Her boyfriend is just too many steps back to catch her. He also had drinks in his hand? Yeah. But full respect to the man, he goes for it anyway. He totally fucked it. He face-planted the floor and spilled his pint on top of him.

27:13God bless him. But that's not the end of it. Some other guy who stood right next to us has seen her slip and caught her instead. Oh, good Samaritan. I was lost for words. The boyfriend was understandably upset. His girlfriend was blushing and the fellow who caught her must have felt like Prince Charming and he looked like him too. Oh, God. Now the boyfriend's whole demeanour has changed.

27:38Totally agree. That is a shocker. It's a bit. So he's fell on his arse, beers all over him, and she's fell into this fella's arms. She's obviously looked at him and gone, thank you so much, my hero. Oh, God. And he's just felt like a right type. Actual nightmare. I don't think you've ever had any when you've been my hero moments. What about when I saved the kids? from the, in the sea. Oh yeah, that was a good one. You were frothing at the **** there. Oh my God. Peter Crouch? Of all the things that are doing here today. What is wrong with you? Frothing at the gash. Too much. It was very heroic of you.

28:21All these kids got swept out to sea on like one of those big giant floaties. You know, that gets pulled by the boat. Yeah. And the boat wasn't able to move. The rope snapped. Oh my God. there was all these little kids. Thankfully, they had life jackets on as well. But Pete swam out. He's such a strong swimmer, like an incredible swimmer. Swim cover. Yep. And he saved them and dragged them back to safety. And the dad just said, thanks. And took the kids away. And I was like, fucking hell. My husband's like, wrist is alive. Swallowed half the Atlantic. Oh my God. And yeah, he just went, cheers, man.

28:56Hang on. So a rope had cut. They were what? Casted in a wind. So they were getting pulled by the boat. It was mental wind. The rope snapped. The waves were big. The waves were going over the inflatable. All the kids were screaming. They were getting swept out to the ocean. Pete swam. Oh my God. But they were actually all right. They were fine. They were fine. But it was, watching it from the shore was petrifying. Jeez. Yeah, that is. That's horrifying. Daddy saved the day. Well done, Daddy. Got to give myself the ick there. Daddy. Daddy, we all. But yeah, with regards to you, there's not been like any, you're not really in real danger.

29:37No, you dropped me when we were doing the Dirty Dancing lift in our friend's barbecue. No, no, no. Yeah, you picked me up and it just went straight over your head and landed on the floor. Thankfully, Pete's friend was behind us to catch me. Neat. That's the situation. That's pretty much the situation. Yeah, Pete picked me up and just the force is that strong. I just flew over his head and did a backflip and landed. who caught me it was Ollie or Tim maybe caught me and got my heroes it's a difficult move yeah we've done it so many times I know but I've over I've overdone it haven't I I think it was excitement because it's got to be up and you went over I went over you went over the back Jesus and it's a long drop coming from Pete's head height that's what I was going to say 2.7 metre drop yeah it is but I totally understand I mean his demeanour I mean that's a shocker isn't it he's tried to save her as well like he's not he's not I think it's worse if he didn't even try he's went oh god at least he's had a go so he should feel proud about that he just suddenly slipped that could happen to anyone spilling a pint it's a bit weak there isn't it I've seen some great ones with the babies have you seen when the dads have got the babies have you seen the guy where he's got he's got a pint at the baseball and a baby and the ball comes you know a baseball yeah and he he catches the baseball and doesn't spill his pint and doesn't drop the baby.

31:02Oh my God. It's phenomenal. Hero, hero. That is actually phenomenal. Yeah. Unreal. He kind of like, caught it, caught the beer and catches the baby in one hit. You'd become like an urban legend. Yeah, yeah, yeah. I'm going to get it up. Yeah. I'll get it up for you. Yeah, yeah, yeah. You want a man in that situation. You don't want someone who flinches. And I know that's really hard. That's like a massive ick for me. A flincher. A flincher. yeah like someone who flinches I agree it's different if like sometimes I'll like scare Pete in the room and he'll go that's different but no if like you hear a bang or something and you flinch I just can't deal with it I want my man to like hear a noise and like run to the window like who's that yeah yeah yeah do you know what I mean here's the sledge of dude that's it the beer the child and the foul ball my goodness it's three hands wow that's it How about this one?

32:01The beer, the child, and the foul ball. It's three hands. How on earth? Absolutely legend. Oh, God, let's get him on the pod. Who is that man? The beer, the child, and the foul ball. My goodness. The beer, the child, and the ball. The foul ball. It's all you need? Brilliant. That's all you need. Amazing. That's absolutely amazing. Yeah. interesting interesting I need to get you back in the house doing more jobs I know it's a real ache a man who doesn't help you know I do it's a massive ache you can't keep saying that because you know you're trying to get into my psyche I'm not you are a man who can't help a house pack is an ache it's a huge ache it like really put me off a guy I love it I know what you're doing it works every time as well you play into it like a man who doesn't buy you're not a real man his wives miniature donkeys is a real ick it's a low blow it's not nice that you've got to work so hard as a man to not give you mrs the ick yeah but I think ick's a lot we're even flying on a plane now you know what I mean I've ruined flying for you now but it's it's more men who give women the ick not I don't think men are that yeah I don't think it's it's the no but there are certain things like there are there are certain what would be on your ick list for what because we often talk about the men.

33:27That's a great question because I don't think I've ever thought about that. Is there anything a woman does that gives you... There's a few things, you know, like... Yeah. I know you're just going to be horrible now and just describe me. No, no, no. I think like a run, a funny run, a stupid run. That's me. You've got a good run. You're fine at running. You're good running. I'm fast. You are fast. I beat you in a race. I beat you in a race. I have. Absolutely. I've got it on camera. You wonder why you always say this? We ran in the garden. I had a slight head start, but I still beat you. You could never beat me.

34:08I did. I'm trying to think. It's not, it's not, I think, nothing awful. I think like burping and stuff like that you don't like do. It's not really icky, is it? It's just like. It's not very pleasant. No, I think it could be. It could be, no. Like if Ab's constantly like farted, burped. every day you'd be like Jesus it could be worse than a Nick wouldn't it it'd be a bit more like repulsed it's just unladylike isn't it you'd be repulsed no I wouldn't be repulsed I'd just be like oh it's not a Nick do you know what I mean a Nick is like I'm embarrassed for you but I don't like girls burping and farting it either I've never been embarrassed like kind of for you and for me oh you have so many times no no so many nights out yeah but that stuff that you think's embarrassing I've like never been more proud When I'm doing like the worm and stuff?

34:56I've never been more proud. It makes me so proud. And when you go like, give me that mic and sing, I'll go like, that's my girl. Oh, shut up. I do. It makes me really, it gives me immense pride. Because you're deluded.

35:13You just love me, that's why. To everyone else, that's like a huge ick. Do you reckon? God. All those things that you think are an ick, actually, I really love. I'd love for our next episode to get some men writing in to us with icks for women because we are quite heavy on the female icks for men yeah yeah I mean listen there's a fella there that can't even you know he's tried to save his missus and you know yeah but that's a female ick we need some men icks yeah but what I'm saying is you know like and even you know there's a guy flying on a plane like every other human that flies or every day there's loads up there now yeah their wife can't get the ick from that.

35:55You know what I mean? That's how hard you've got to work to not have the ick. So let's spin it around and get your icks in for your partners. For your female partners. For your female partners. Fantastic. All right, thank you guys. Well, we'll see you next week and I'm looking forward to reading some of those. Yeah. See you next time. Bye. Ask me anything. Sure, bye.

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On today’s episode of The Therapy Crouch, Abbey, Peter and Gaz are back answering your dilemmas and things get very real, very quickly.


The gang react to a shocking message between a boyfriend and his coworker that has Abbey firmly calling it out as cheating, while Pete questions whether there’s any grey area at all. It sparks a heated debate on boundaries, flirting and when it’s time to walk away.


We also hear an incredible proposal story involving a surprise appearance in Rio that feels straight out of a film, before Abbey and Pete share their honest advice on weddings, relationships and what actually matters after years together.


Elsewhere, there’s plenty of chaos as the team unpack “icks,” awkward public fails, and the moments that can instantly change how you see your partner. From heroic saves to total disasters, it’s safe to say not everyone comes out looking good…


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