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30 Jul 2026 · 26m · 14 chapters

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The Story We Probably Shouldn't Have Read...

In short

This episode of Therapy Crouch is an “Ask Us Anything” chat hosted by Abby Clancy, Peter Crouch, and Gaz, with frequent digressions. Topic highlights: their trip to the World Cup final in New York/New Jersey (atmosphere, half-time show, ticket cost, and Argentina “cheating”/brawls), then rapid-fire “would you rather” questions, then explicit listener relationship questions about sex/porn and post-kids intimacy.

Guests

no guest interviewees; only the three hosts plus listener callers/emails.

Key claims

SkyRizzy (rizankizumab-rza) can deliver ~90% head-to-toe clearance and many 100% plaque-free at 4 months for moderate-to-severe plaque psoriasis; Experian Boost can raise FICO by ~14 points on average.

Notable examples

Jack finding $100 on the floor at the final; discussion of pausing a porn video for “half-time analysis”; empty-nester couples still “finishing in under four minutes” and feeling grief about losing the pre-kids pace.

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Chapters

0:02

World Cup Final Experience

The hosts discuss their experiences at the World Cup final, including the atmosphere and personal challenges faced.

“I'm ready to make a splash with clearer skin thanks to SkyRizzy, Rizinkizumab RZA.”
3:25

World Cup Final Experience

The hosts discuss their experiences at the World Cup final, including the atmosphere and personal challenges faced.

“How was, we said last week about the World Cup and you guys going there.”
5:48

Half-Time Show Reactions

The hosts share their thoughts on the half-time show and notable performances.

“with a bit of football in between Shakira, Shakira She was good, wasn't she?”
6:46

Discussion on World Cup Teams

A conversation about various teams' performances and the competitive nature of the World Cup.

“Justin Bieber slowly walked with his guitar across.”
9:23

Family Dynamics and World Cup Memories

The hosts reflect on family experiences during the World Cup and share personal anecdotes.

“The biggest frustration is, I think we're actually a better team than Argentina as well.”
11:15

Ask Us Anything Segment

The hosts engage with listeners' questions and share light-hearted discussions.

“I just remember when we lost, Jack was like, because obviously Pete's got the England players' phone numbers, and Jack was like, Dad, do you think I can just call Harry Kane and just tell him he did so well?”
14:06

Would You Rather: Fun Scenarios

Hosts engage in a lighthearted game of 'Would You Rather'.

“I was listening to an old episode last night, and it was Would You Rather?”
17:40

Adventures with Geese

A humorous story about an encounter with geese leading to an injury.

“So one of the geese attacked him and he broke his arm.”
18:48

Education and Life Skills

Discussion on what children learn in school and useful life skills.

“You don't learn what capital cities are in geography?”
19:51

Concerns about AI and Life Skills

Hosts express concerns about reliance on AI and lack of life education.

“How do you walk away from schooling life not knowing mortgages, overdrafts, bank accounts?”
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21:07

A Surprising Date Night Request

A listener shares a humorous yet awkward experience with their spouse.

“OK, I'll move on to Aaron from Nottingham.”
22:39

Navigating Intimacy After Kids

Discussion on intimacy challenges after becoming parents.

“Do you want to do that to it in your own time?”
24:47

Reflection on Parenthood

Hosts reflect on the selflessness of parenthood and its impact.

“I just don't like talking about this type of stuff it's horrible it's like a pillow so if you're in various positions you're comfortable whilst doing it, so it makes some of these positions, scenarios, more comfortable.”
28:00

The Balance of Self and Parenthood

Explore the challenges of maintaining individuality while parenting.

“Yeah, it is really, because you do give up part of you, don't you?”
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Transcript

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0:01I love days like these at the pool, but my moderate to severe plaque psoriasis can sometimes take me out of the moment. I'm ready to make a splash with clearer skin thanks to SkyRizzy, Rizinkizumab RZA. SkyRizzy is a prescription-only injection for adults who are candidates for systemic or phototherapy. At four months, most people saw 90 % clearer skin when measured from head to toe, and many were even 100 % plaque-free. People also saw significant improvement in psoriasis symptoms of pain, redness, itching, and burning. Don't use if allergic to SkyRizzy. Serious allergic reactions, increased infections, or lower ability to fight them may occur.

0:37Abbey Clancy: Before treatment, get checked for infections and tuberculosis. Tell your doctor about any flu-like symptoms or vaccines. Now there's nothing on my skin, thanks to SkyRizzy. And that means everything. Ask your doctor about SkyRizzy, the number one dermatologist prescribed biologic and psoriasis. Visit SkyRizzy.com or call 1-866-SKY-Rizzy to learn more.

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2:25See Experian.com for details.

2:50Yeah, try it.

2:51Abbey Clancy: If you want to try it, then bend over. All right, zoom in, cameramen, zoom in. Hello, and welcome to the Therapy Crouch. Ask us anything with me, Abby Clancy. Me, Peter Crouch. And me, Gaz. Hey, guys, how are you? We're still in the Big Apple. Still in the Big Apple. You suit it. You suit it. I miss it. I miss it, genuinely. I've been home a few days, and I miss it so much. See, I thought I was a bit of a country bumpkin, but I'm going to find it hard to leave here. I absolutely love it. I could live here tomorrow. It takes over. You've had such a good time. How was, we said last week about the World Cup and you guys going there.

3:29Should we talk about that a little bit more? How was that for you guys?

3:32Abbey Clancy: It was just phenomenal. You know, I've actually overcome so many personal obstacles, I'd say. Well done. You know, normally I'm scared of my own shadow. You know, I'm very, very dependent on Peter. Like, I can't sleep till he's with me. I can't put the TV on without him. I can't follow a map. You know? Fair enough. I just, like, follow, and I've had to do so many things. So for me to drive to New Jersey, well, get driven to New Jersey, walk through a crowd of thousands of people, Argentinians, Spanish. I was so worried, like, the whole day, you know. I know, I can imagine. But I was absolutely revelling in the atmosphere.

4:23Abbey Clancy: I absolutely loved it. You know, the vibe, it wasn't scary at all, and it was just like a once-in-a-lifetime opportunity for the kids. You know, people were fabulous. The atmosphere was electric. I saw a few people that I knew there. I saw Ben, a friend of mine, Jordana. we had Klopp behind us a little wave to Klopp and Zlatan and Henri but it was just we made friends with the Spanish people in front of us, they were just fabulous I had the loudest Argentinian fans screaming every song which was mainly profanities but I understood them because I've heard you sing a few Spanish say a few Spanish swear words in your time.

5:10The only thing I've got in my locker really we saw French and Spanish

5:15Abbey Clancy: but you know getting to see the half time show Post Malone Justin Bieber and Jack said to me mum I thought Justin Bieber had orange hair and I said no that's Ed Sheer and he went oh yeah so I text Lib because obviously my best friend manages Ed and I texted and said that and she was hysterical laughing but it was just amazing, it was just phenomenal I think having the kids went to the World Cup final to see a gig with a bit of football in between Shakira, Shakira She was good, wasn't she? Can I ask you about that half-time show because I was quite hyped for Madonna as any 33-year-old straight man could be and I didn't actually see her, I couldn't tell what she was doing I thought Liam Gallagher's tweet about it It was hysterical because Ronaldinho and Ronaldo and everyone was in, like, multicoloured and there's Madonna in, like, fishnets and a pair of hot pants in the middle.

6:18Abbey Clancy: And he's like, this is like some bad trip. But, look, I am a huge Madonna fan. I thought... I was quite surprised at Wayne Rooney's comments and saying it was... Crap. Crap. It wasn't. Well... It was phenomenal. He was in the stadium, wasn't he? He was, yeah. It was amazing. It was absolutely amazing. Babs, could you follow it? Because it was so massive. The pitch was so huge. And they were all coming on from different corners. Yeah. And then like running across. Justin Bieber slowly walked with his guitar across. He was amazing. Yeah. But I just found the whole thing so big. I couldn't really focus on one thing going on.

6:55Abbey Clancy: Well, it was a bit of a medley of superstars. Because I totally miss Chris Martin. I didn't even know he was playing. No, well, I didn't see any of it. He did the kids song. Robbie Williams was good. I didn't see any of it I was doing a half time show for Fox Oh Pete Post Malone was amazing I wasn't bothered

7:22What were you doing then at half time Were you in a box somewhere doing a link Yeah we were on the platform just chatting Just chatting

7:30Abbey Clancy: We had a great day I had the best hot dog of my entire life I was drinking beer eating hot dogs. Jack found$100 on the floor. I did. That was amazing. I'll tell this story. This is a great story. Do you know what? I feel like that might be, you know, a sign of kind of the overpricing of the tickets is the fact that there was$100 on the floor. You know, and Jack found it, didn't he? Yeah. Like, it was a joke, really, that World Cup final, how much those tickets were. I had bought them face value from FIFA and, you know, I've freaking had to remortgage my house. yeah I was like you know when Pete said I've bought you a ticket to the World Cup final I was like Pete are you fucking joking we're doing a house renovation this is like basically this price of like six bathrooms in the kitchen also though I said obviously I would rather have a bathroom than have seen that but for kids it's a World Cup final this is potentially Messi's last ever game.

8:37Yeah. You know, in an Argentina shirt. You know, Lamin, Yamal is like the kids love him. Spain, it's a World Cup. I'd never been to a World Cup final in my life. And the kids have the opportunity to go in New York.

8:49Abbey Clancy: I was crying. I was so emotional. It was just phenomenal. I didn't realise there's little stars on the world teams means how many. You've won. Yeah. Yeah. I didn't know that. Yeah, so Spain now have got two. Yeah. Yeah, Brazil's got five. Brazil leading, yeah. Yeah, we've only got the one, unfortunately. We were so close. We are apparently the ranked bottom. There's eight teams that have won it over the 100 years, and we're one of the eight teams, but we're the last now. We're rock bottom. We've only got the one star. Have you ever got two? I think they have. Let me just double-check that. I was devastated for our team.

9:26Abbey Clancy: They did so well, didn't they? They did so well. And what's the frustration? The biggest frustration is, I think we're actually a better team than Argentina as well. I'll tell you what the biggest frustration was, that they were just cheating the whole time, Argentina. They were literally having brawls and getting away with it. Like, when you looked, obviously when you watch, like, a live game, you don't really see it, but when you see all those clips afterwards. And, you know, I saw this one thing where it was like, I thought I was watching a WWF wrestling match. You know, they were literally, like, throat-dropping people, left, right and centre.

10:01The old throat drop.

10:02Abbey Clancy: Whatever it's... The throat drop. Steve Stone Cold Steve Austin and people. No, I agree. I agree. Listen, you know, your opinion is correct. Well, I can't wait for the next World Cup already. Can you believe those words are coming out of my mouth? I can't believe that you're like... And let's be honest, the start of it, when you weren't out, you were saying, like, you want this over. The minute you felt a bit of fever... You know what I mean? It's special. It was only because I missed you, and I had to make a sacrifice to, like, keep my kids in school. and give them some kind of routine, which I think was the right decision.

10:37Abbey Clancy: You know, it was hard being a part, but, you know, your schedule, you know, you weren't even based in L.A. You were here, there and everywhere. It just wouldn't have been feasible to have the kids there that whole time. So I think we definitely made the right decision, even though we missed you so much. And I think just coming for this New York stint has been, you know, it's been a holiday of a lifetime for the kids. And me. I've loved it. Yeah, it is special. We forgot that this is an Ask Us Anything episode. Okay, Ask Us, Ask Us, Ask Us. It's gone straight into, like, the US final. World Cup analysis.

11:13All good. I like Ab's analysis on the World Cup. Yeah. Spot on. Jules says, guys, Pete and Abbie.

11:19Abbey Clancy: I just remember when we lost, Jack was like, because obviously Pete's got the England players' phone numbers, and Jack was like, Dad, do you think I can just call Harry Kane and just tell him he did so well? And it was like... Johnny wanted to do that. It was Johnny, and they'd just lost. And Pete was like, I don't think I can call Haz now. I'll have to, you know, give him a couple of days. Yeah, let's give him a little bit of time to show. Can we FaceTime Harry Kane and just tell him, well done. He said, I thought he was brilliant. I just think you'd appreciate it if we give him a call. That's precious.

11:54There's nothing just yet. It's a bit too raw. Give him a couple of days. Give him a couple of days. No, that's really sweet. That was nice. Maybe you should. Come from a nice place. Give it a few weeks.

12:07I love days like these at the pool, but my moderate to severe plaque psoriasis can sometimes take me out of the moment. I'm ready to make a splash with clearer skin thanks to SkyRizzy, Rizinkizumab RZA. SkyRizzy is a prescription-only injection for adults who are candidates for systemic or phototherapy. At four months, most people saw 90 % clearer skin when measured from head to toe, And many were even 100 % plaque-free. People also saw significant improvement in psoriasis symptoms of pain, redness, itching, and burning. Don't use if allergic to SkyRizzy. Serious allergic reactions, increased infections, or lower ability to fight them may occur.

12:42Abbey Clancy: Before treatment, get checked for infections and tuberculosis. Tell your doctor about any flu-like symptoms or vaccines. Now there's nothing on my skin, thanks to SkyRizzy. And that means everything. Ask your doctor about SkyRizzy, the number one dermatologist prescribed biologic and psoriasis. Visit SkyRizzy.com or call 1-866-SKY-Rizzy to learn more.

13:22dating kind of worked like that. Connect your bank account, add those on-time payments to your Experian credit file, and your FICO score updates right away. You could instantly raise your FICO score by an average of 14 points with Experian Boost. Download the Experian app for free today. Results will vary. Users who received a boost improved their FICO score 8 from Experian by an average of 14 points. See App Store or Experian.com for details. Results will vary. Not all payments are Boost eligible. Users who received a Boost improved their FICO score rate from Experian by an average of 14 points.

13:54Some may not see improved scores or approval odds. Not all lenders use Experian credit files. And not all lenders use scores impacted by Experian Boost. See Experian.com for details.

14:06I was listening to an old episode last night, and it was Would You Rather? And it was the one with the orangutan and chicken. Here's some for you guys. Pete, would you rather be in the Masters final at Augusta? Or the World Cup final at Anfield. To what is that? Would you rather be in the Masters final? Like, play in the Masters final?

14:29Abbey Clancy: Oh, definitely World Cup Anfield. Frigging hell. I mean, a World Cup final. I mean, listen, the Masters.

14:37Abbey Clancy: Babe, you can't even play golf. No, but if I was in the final day at Augusta, then I could certainly play golf. No, listen, there's no question that it would be World Cup final. There's no denying that. It's my game. But... It's what I do. Also, watching-wise, though, would be amazing, wouldn't it? But, no, it'd be World Cup. Abi, would you rather an episode of the Dutton Ranch or headline Glastonbury? Oh, so you're beaten in an episode of the Dutton Ranch or headline Glastonbury? I think I'm going to have to say Dutton Ranch. Think about the young... I don't know what this is. What is that? Think about the young you.

15:20Well, it's Yellowstone.

15:21Abbey Clancy: It's the Yellowstone. Oh, got you, got you. Think about the young you. I think I'm more Capital Summertime Bull. Oh, yeah. Kind of artist. You are, definitely. You are. You are like a Zara Larsson. Oh, I love Zara Larsson! I love her. Oh, do you know what? Do you know who I sat next to at the World Cup final? I didn't even know. Oh, yeah. Jess Glynn. Didn't even realise. Yeah, she's cool. She's great. She's got the Jet 2 advert, isn't she? Is that her? Jet 2. Darling, hold my hand. Darling, hold my hand. Yeah. What would you have to do then? Would you... Think about this carefully. Being in an episode...

15:59Abbey Clancy: Okay, my episode in the Dutton show could be me in, like, you know, a country bar singing. Rain me in. Oh, so what you're saying, you're incorporating them both. I'm incorporating them both. So you're going to sing a country song in the bar that they go to. Yeah, and then Rip falls in love with me. me and runs away with me and leaves Beth. I'm joking. You're very similar to Beth, I think. I know that's not even a nice thing. No, you are. She knows her own mind. She's beautiful. She's a strong woman, actually. I wasn't saying she was an arsehole. I don't think I'm a strong woman. You are a strong woman.

16:36Of course you are. So it wasn't a negative connotation. I think she's great, Beth. I love Beth.

16:42Abbey Clancy: Thank you very much. um gaz would you rather walk around for a day naked yeah i reckon he does that anyway in the mirror not burning one of those balls uh or wrestler goose can i just say before i answer this i mean is that why wrestler goose i don't know you guys have got glastonbury tutton ranch world cup final in augusta i've got wrestler goose that's my great achievement in life it's probably got to be the walk around naked isn't it? I think free the nip, free the dick what am I saying? fucking hell anyway, goose wrestling is not my dad was riding his bike along a tow path once right and there was a flock of geese and you know like pigeons a gaggle of geese sorry, a gaggle of geese you know when you say you drive into a load of pigeons, you know they scatter Right?

17:39Fucking geese. Let me tell you what they do. They do not scatter. They stay. They just stay. They're very protective.

17:47Abbey Clancy: They must have had babies with them. So they stood on... They just sat on a towpath. My dad just drove straight into them. And one of the... That's the swear of my life. So one of the geese attacked him and he broke his arm. Your dad broke his arm? Broke his arm. Riding in... The moral of the story is, dude, never ride into geese. Never ride into geese. They're not like pigeons. I've just thought of another great game to play with the kids. It's what my dad used to play with us when we were kids. It would be, you know, what you would call multiple animals. Oh, yeah. A pride of lions. A gaggle of geese.

18:26Murder of crows.

18:27Abbey Clancy: Yeah.

18:31Abbey Clancy: Herd of cows. Cows. Herd of cattle. What's elephant? Is it a herd of elephant? A herd, yeah. The Vultures one, it's called Awake. Awake. About Parliament of Owls. Parliament of Owls, yeah. That's a good one, that. We could do a whole episode on that. We could. And the Capital of Countries, which we played at a restaurant the other night with our kids to try and, you know, the no device saga continues, and, you know, it turns out we've been paying for their education for fucking nothing. Yeah. Were they as competitive as you guys? I remember when I came round yours. You don't learn what capital cities are in geography?

19:07Abbey Clancy: She should be. I mean, well, you should. She can tell me, you know, how a grain of sand fucking, you know, erodes, but she can't tell me what the capital of France is. She knew that one, but she didn't know the capital of Australia. You go anywhere out of Europe, like close Europe as well, then, you know, South America's just, you might as well be on Mars. It's insane. I don't know what they're learning. Like, seriously, surely it's important to learn. capital cities and countries and continents. Absolutely. More so than... She knows their continents, because you used to do that with them when she was little, I remember now.

19:43But rock formations and...

19:46Abbey Clancy: But she can tell you how to... I just don't get it. What skincare to use. I've got a problem with the curriculum. Yeah, in general. How do you walk away from schooling life not knowing mortgages, overdrafts, bank accounts? True. how to use the tube. You know Pythagoras theory? Yeah, that's what I mean. Why, though? I actually don't. I know what you mean. You know why, but people do. Yeah, but why on earth would you need to know that? I just think there's so many life skills. Shouldn't there be a lesson called life skills? Well, there used to be home economics where you'd learn how to cook and sew, but that got abolished because it was sexist.

20:30Abbey Clancy: I think that would be a great asset. I think language, you know, how to invest your money, mortgage, taxes. Taxes? Is there a tax? There should be a tax list. How to read a map, which is hard. Imagine coming out of school, right, and not needing kind of tax advice. Just having your advice at school. Coming out and going, da, tax, da, da, da, and different locations. But we won't need all of this now because of AI. Maybe. But I get what you're saying. Even like pension, boring as it is. But you don't need like a lawyer now because you just asked Chachi BT to do it. That's a scary thought, though, isn't it?

21:02You're just handing over your whole life to AI to sort it all out for you. I guess it frees you up. Yeah. OK, I'll move on to Aaron from Nottingham. He says, hi, team. Going to keep this punchy because I'm still processing it. I've been married six years. Good marriage. My wife suggested completely out of the blue on a Sunday that we should watch something together.

21:21Abbey Clancy: Oh, God. I said, sure. What are you thinking? She said she'd sort it. I assumed a box set. It was not a box set. What was it? If you catch my drift. Oh, God. Now, I'm no prude. I'm a grown man. But what I was not prepared for was the critical commentary. Because my wife, it turns out, watches this sort of thing the way my dad watches the football. Fully engaged, loud opinions. Well, that's not going to work. Oh, the poor girl. At one point, she paused it to explain what she'd have done differently. Like a pundit at half time. Oh, my God. What are we talking about here? Am I being stupid? I've never felt less...

21:56Abbey Clancy: Is it P-O-R-N? It is P-O-R-N. I have never felt less romantic in my life, and I've never laughed so hard, and I don't know what it says about us. So my ask is anything is, has an attempt to spice things up ever taken a hard left into pure comedy for you? And is it a good sign or a bad sign when the funniest person in your relationship is funniest at the worst possible moment? Abby, I feel you'll have thoughts. From Aaron. Well, I am a prude, and I've got no comment to make. That half-time analysis is phenomenal. The half-time analysis. Pause it and then analyse it. That's not for me. Not for you.

22:40Abbey Clancy: It's not for me. Do you want to do that to it in your own time? I think you've got to be trisexual. Oh, shut up. Trisexual? Yeah, try anything once. Oh, right, got you. Well, OK. That's good. I think you should try things. OK, if you want to try everything, then bend over.

22:57zoom in cameramen zoom in there is a line there is a line yeah that's that's just the point

23:03Abbey Clancy: because you know men would be like oh you should be trisexual try everything but you wouldn't well yeah there's a you're allowed to have boundaries okay no i don't try everything certain things i don't certain things i don't want to try and i'm sure you're the same you know most things but i i wouldn't i wouldn't rule things out i think i think conversations should happen and you go like you know what about this and i think those things can be what about fuck i think in a healthy marriage i think you know discussions are to you know should take place i I think I... Look, I'm no prude, and whatever floats your boat, and I don't judge people, whatever people want to do, they can do.

23:50Abbey Clancy: But, you know, that scenario, what they're doing is not for me. If I banged on, you know, pornography, for instance... Pete, I just don't even want to have that image in my head. No, but what I'm saying, this is the discussion, baby. It's an open, honest forum, the therapy crouch. If I did that... It is. That, I don't think you would... I wouldn't ask it, because I know you wouldn't be comfortable with that. But she's just banged it on. Stop saying banged on. Well, put it on. Why are you being so weird for? As soon as there's a discussion to have, you're being so strange. Strange? I haven't done it.

24:29She's doing it. We're discussing it.

24:30Abbey Clancy: I wouldn't care. I think whatever floats your boat, people shouldn't be ashamed. But that specific scenario is not up my street at all. what about you guys I feel like it takes me back to like my first girlfriend I had her for like 10 years and then we were like I had her for 10 years I had I owned her for 10 years sold her for magic beans I know we got this we got this karma suture whatever 100 things in it oh god guys I was like why does that not surprise me are you trying to work through it well I said why don't we just flick through and just stop on the page stop point your finger whatever comes up we'll do see I think it's quite common spice it up the thing for acrobats it's just not for me if it's like a workout it's just a hell no my friend got this SEX pillow the other day SEX?

25:28Abbey Clancy: I just don't like talking about this type of stuff it's horrible it's like a pillow so if you're in various positions you're comfortable whilst doing it, so it makes some of these positions, scenarios, more comfortable. She's very spiritual and into healing and being free and whatever, but she got this pillow to make manoeuvres more sustainable, I guess. Oh, what a lovely... You made it sound like climate change there. Put me in touch with her, would you mind? I know, I know. No, it's good. Well, you can get them off Amazon. All right, guys, let's just do one more, Oboe. You've been going for a while here.

26:16I'll try and keep this dignified, although I appreciate that ship may have already sailed, given the subject matter. My wife and I are both in our early 50s, empty nesters, as of last September. God, that'd be sad, wouldn't it? When our youngest went off to Manchester. Now, everyone told us this would be a golden era. You left the run of the house, they said. It'll be like being 25 again. What nobody warned us about is that after 20-odd years of doing everything quietly, quickly behind a locked door with one ear on the landing, we've completely forgot how to do it any other way. We now have an entirely empty house all the time in the world and we are still finishing in under four minutes with the lights off.

26:58Four minutes?

26:58Abbey Clancy: That's not fucking much. Jesus Christ. It's an all-nighter. Four minutes with the lights off like a pair of teenagers on borrowed time. Last Tuesday, I actually said out loud, mid-shag, we don't have to rush. And we both sort of stopped. Said no woman ever.

27:19Preach sister. Preach sister. And we both sort of stopped and looked at each other. Honestly, it was a bit sad. 20 years of conditioning doesn't undo itself on a Tuesday. So my last question to you is this. how do you unlearn the habits that raising children imposes on marriage is there a way to reintroduce leisure to something that's been an emergency operation for two decades and is it normal to feel slightly grief-stricken about it with genuine affection and mild

27:47Abbey Clancy: embarrassment oh that's a nice message but it's i think it's a a common problem that most um families have you know everything is behind a locked door quick in out without being graphic and you know always putting others first before you say I read this quote in bed last night to the girls and it was a bit like if you could go back in time it was a daughter to a mother and it was like if I could go back in time I wouldn't kind of have my time with my mum again I'd see what she would was like before me where she put herself first like what her you know passions where, and it was really, it was like a really nice sentiment.

28:31Yeah, it is really, because you do give up part of you, don't you?

28:36Abbey Clancy: Well, you do, because you're not, when you become a parent, you become selfless. You can't be selfish. You can't stay in bed. You can't go out at the drop of a hat. You can't, you know, your kind of hopes, dreams, aspirations do get put on hold or get put to bed, if you like, and that's not a negative because, you know, we all would, you know, being a parent is the ultimate gift. You know, it's phenomenal. But you do, there is a part of yourself that gets lost along the way. There is, but I think you always need to keep that because you've got to remember you are a person. And without doing you, you can't be good for the children.

29:16And I think that's certainly mothers in general, I think, need to put themselves first sometimes. And I think husbands need to facilitate that as well and make sure you do have time for you.

29:28Abbey Clancy: But that's what I was about to say. I think to avoid that kind of scenario, you need to keep a bit of you along the way when you're being a parent. So when they do fly the nest, you still have got your interest, you're still excited to go on a date night or you have these provisions in place to make sure when you're left together, you're not like, oh, fuck, what do we do? because when I look back to us before having kids, you know, making dinner, I'd look forward to that all day. We do it together. We do it together. We put the music on. We'd open a bottle of wine and we went in a rush and we'd make gorgeous meals and then we'd sit down and enjoy it.

30:06Abbey Clancy: Now we're like, this one doesn't want a roast dinner. This one doesn't want, you know, sausage and mash. It's hectic. And it's sit down, shut up, eat your vegetables. You know, it's not, there's no romance in dinner time anymore. Well, let's sort that. I mean, we'll go back to Hotel now. I'll book a room. We'll get the Kama Sutra book out. Okay. Excellent. All right, and that's just time for you, babe. Okay, darling. That's not for me. That's for you. Look at all me. See you next time. Bye. Ask me anything. Sure, bye.

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