You Had Fun? Now You’re In Trouble… Relationship Truths Get REAL

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1:31When I hear someone say oat milk, it makes me want to just down four pints of fresh cow's milk. I don't know what's going on with the world. What's love bombing? I don't know what that is. Love bomb, love bomb. Am I the f***ing of helping my son name your stuffed tiger? Tig Bitties? Do you know Tig Old Bitties? Well, I've heard of big titties. You are a different breed. Game's gone. Game's gone.

1:58Obligado! Hello and welcome to The Therapy Crouch with me, Abbey Clancy. Me, Pia Crouch. And me, Gaz. How are we all feeling? Yeah, all good, thanks. How are you feeling? I've got bamboo on my neck. It's the question. I know. Oh, here we are. Come here, little bamboozle. How are you feeling, Gaz? I felt fresher, but I'm okay. I'm surviving. So the boys came in, you know, ready to go and had a few beverages. Chris looks lime green. I was up to Chris. Oh, poor cameraman. He has vomited five times. What I found. I think Tali's now seven. We're up to seven now. He's up to seven. Can't take it, can they?

2:38Just don't breed them like they used to, do they? I know. It was quite a sesh. Thoroughly enjoyable, though. But it's classic Brits, isn't it? Oh, yeah. First day on holiday, you always have too much to drink. My God, yeah. And I literally said it here. I was like, you know, we've got two big days. Let's take it sensible. didn't I say in the airport I did it when I went to Liverpool Legends the night before our cameraman there was like let's go hand pie I was like no no it's a big day tomorrow let's take it and before you know it 10 pints later oh Jesus Christ so yeah drink responsibly I think is the is the lesson here it's the tagline yeah how are you sweetheart I'm just hungry are you hangry hangry I'm hangry if you could eat anything right now what would you have sausage egg McMuffin no I want I want a real sausage and egg muffin yeah a homemade one oh okay yeah or like a bougie one I don't really like eating like mass produced stuff shit food with a hangover yeah and it needs to be I need to put some goodness in yeah yeah yeah that's psychological must be I've always wondered that with service stations every time you go there's never a nice option as far as I can see I've said this before have you this is a kind of a problem for me.

3:54Yeah. I don't understand why it has to be like fast food, like junk. Why can't you have a nice, why couldn't you have a nice, like healthy restaurant? Like a poke bowl thing. Don't ever say that word. I hate poke bowls. Just don't even say that word to me. I can't deal with them. It's words that are creeping into society, like matcha, acai bowl, poke bowls. Acai. Whatever. but they need to just be erased from society. Come out of nowhere. Yeah. Not for me. Matcha. That word. If I hear that, it's a teenage vibe, isn't it? Oat milk as well is up there. Oat milk. I can't bear it. It's full fat or semi-skinned.

4:34When I hear someone say oat milk, it makes me want to just down four pints of fresh cow's milk just to piss them off. Do you know what I mean? It's just... It's not the buzzwords now. Yeah. I don't know what's going on with the world. It's all these dairy intolerant people though, isn't it? Have a way. But we must have had them back in the day as well. But don't people just go on with it?

5:03It's like your friend who was like 60 and decided he was gluten free. I said to him, I said, mate, he's 60, what is he, 55 or something? He's like, I can't be gluten intolerant now. You've made it this long in your life. Do you know you actually can develop allergies? No, I'm sure you can. Yeah, I'm sure you can. I'm not making light of allergies. I'm not making light of allergies. I'm just saying, you know, I don't know. There's a lot of words these days. I don't know, maybe because I'm getting old. Rub me up the wrong way. If I could eat anything now, does this cross over to the junk section?

5:38A wonton soup? No. There's no way that's junk. It's clear broth. It's broth. A nice bone broth. That'd be nice with some spring onion and bok choy. You can have a bone broth right now. Yeah. For brekkie. Oh, my God. Sochirite. Oh, Peter's a bovril then. I think saltiness is good for hangover. So I think bovril encapsulates everything you need. Heat, salt, water. He's a great advert for bovril. The gravy drink. I am happy to endorse bovril at any point of the day. I like bovril. Bovril and marmite. What's the difference between bovril and marmite? Well, marmites are spreadable on toast. So you can't spread Bovril?

6:18You can. People do. You could have a Bovril on toast. Spread Bovril. Imagine that. Spreading it. Yeah, I think you could. I don't think I've ever taken Bovril out of a jar because you do that yourself. I don't think I've ever made you one. Because they love them at football games, don't they, Bovril? It's synonymous with football. I used to always go with my dad to watch football when I was young and always have a Bovril. But could you bring it? So I got my missus on recently at a Birmingham game and half-time got her a bovril. She was so excited to try it and couldn't take it into the ground because it's red-hot liquid.

6:50You could throw it at a player and hurt them. So you had to stay in the wings, but no one can drink it. No one can drink it. That's what happens now. You can't drink it. You can't take a bovril in. It's a bloody world coming to. So you have to scold your mouth. The game's gone. The game's gone. Get that on the game's gamble. First VA fucking R and now bloody no bovril's in the stand. That's bad. Oh, it's terrible. You can't take handbags in, which I get. Can you not? No. Really? No, but terrorism. Oh, right, okay. Which I do get. What do you have to do? Do you have to do? Terrorism. Well, you just said terrorism.

7:25No, but that's the reason. Is it really? Yeah. I was so annoyed when I went to a concert and I had to throw away a brand new perfume, a full bottle of perfume. Yeah. What it's like, so you go to a concert, you can't take perfume in? No. Yeah, I had that as well. Yeah, the missus got stopped and they were like, you can't have it. It's a tiny little miniature perfume thing. She'd just bought it. And then all the Brummies, to be fair, got round and like, let her have it. She dragged her inside. Let her have it. So she managed to get in with it. But like, oh my God. Yeah. God, I didn't realise that.

7:55Strict on it. Strict on it. Game's gone, Pedro. Really has. Right, what are we talking about today, sister? I've got any wines for me. Yes, you haven't fed me. I need food. I'll get you food. It's 10 past 10 and I haven't had anything to eat. That's my wine. My wine. All right. Yeah, I've got wine for you, if you don't mind. Go on, do you again? It's just your lack of effort when you're slightly hungover with the children in the morning. No, but that wasn't due to the hangover. That was because I did it the day before when you went to golf. Oh, so you're just being an arsehole. It's deliberate.

8:33It's deliberate. Okay. Ploy. One, one. One, all. What I don't understand in life, in relationships as well, is if you do something fun one day, you know, why do you have to be punished the next? Yeah, yeah. I just think that's a very, it's a kind of wife vibe, isn't it? You know, like, oh, you had fun today, did you? I'll show you. Do you know what I mean? Why can't we have fun every day? I can't help it. What was that all about? Pete, I'm not hard to live with, bloody hell. You've got it easy. You know that, was it the Muller Light advert? Do you remember that? Which one? First comes to pleasure.

9:10and then comes the pain. Yeah, yeah. When you have something like as nice as a blue light, you then get like, you know, fall into, fall down some stairs or something. A trap door. It's like you go play golf, here's the pain. Yeah. What is that though? What is that? Repercussions. It's just a... It's just how it is. It's just a one-one. It's just how it is. It's just a one-one. If you had a really fun day, I wouldn't go like, right, I'll show you. You do. I would do it. You absolutely do. If you came over and went, I had a really fun day there, I'll go, well, should you just wait for tomorrow? Imagine that.

9:47Do you know what I mean? I know what you mean. You know, like, even, say, lads go for, like, a golf trip, whatever, come home. Oh, don't. And then, like, it's like, right, kids, or you, you know, you'll be punished. You have to pretend you're not tired. That is so true. Pretend you're not tired. No, but the thing is about, like, the golf trips and stuff, wives have to just put up with boring husbands. and you know if I went on holiday with you you'd be sitting there reading a book where if you go on holiday with the boys you'd be having like the 6am pint and be like the life and soul of the party and then I'd just get bored and pedra so that would be normal I think in a lot of relationships but not in ours I would say because you'd have an airport pint with me I would not, I don't drink pints No, but what I'm saying is that we have the same amount of fun, I would say, on a golf trip.

10:41He's gone to be sick. He's been sick. Has he gone to be sick again? He's just not built correctly these days. No. But you is superhuman. I don't know how you've done it. I don't know how you've done it. I heard you guys go to bed singing Dirty Dancing, and then you're half one, two. You're up at five, six. It's unbelievable. Machines. The machines, yeah. Well, we do pride ourselves on it, don't we, mate? No, we don't condone drinking. Oh, God, no, please, don't try it at home, kids. Not for the faint of heart. No. Well, we haven't drank all week. No, we haven't, you know. Have you not? We're not pissheads, we just...

11:15We're not pissheads. We function in the mornings. A man in the evening is a man... Must be a man in the morning. A man in the evening is a man in the morning. It's a good saying, man. That's a great... Where does that come from, is that? Well, my dad just said that. Really? Yeah, well, he said, you know, like, if you go out and have a good time, have a party, yeah, that's great, that you've got to do what you were going to do the next day. Don't give it large if you can't do your work tomorrow. Yeah. That feels like something. Look at his direction. Case in point. Case in point. Sick boy over there.

11:47Oh, it's just unbelievable. Let's see some audience. Okay, let's do that. Hi guys, love the pod, especially your chat about X. That made me laugh, that play Nick, you know, really does make me laugh. It doesn't make me laugh. I just find it so funny. It doesn't affect me that much. Just the same way as the bloody camper van chat. Oh, really? How can you not laugh at the camper van chat? I just don't find it. And you're an explorer. I just don't find it funny at all. I think it's childish. Oh, yeah, it is. Okay, well, not so much of a whine, but I wanted to share. Best ick I heard was a girl at work said she couldn't look at a guy she was seeing anymore because she went to the barbers with him and she got the ick when he had the gown on.

12:32I started getting pumped up in the chair.

12:40That might be the best one I've ever heard. Why do we get pumped up? Why do men get pumped? Why do we get... No. Or inflated upwards. Yeah, yeah, yeah. They press the pedal. Why do men get... Do you get that in their hairdressers? Do they pump you up? No. It's more elegant, isn't it? Why do women get... Do you get pumped up? No.

13:03No. Why is the only man that gets pumped up? We're just getting pumped up constantly. Span around and pumped up. Yeah. Oh, my God. With your little gown on as well. It's quite a bit of a... The gown on, yeah. God. Why is it only women? Why is it women? No. I knew it was going to be a woman who had nick for a man. It's always that way. How did we get on with the... We've had one. We've had one come in. So it's clearly not a common thing. Only one? Yeah, a man's nick to a woman. To be fair, like, it's more like... You all right? Borgummy? Oh, there's some bugs out here. Here you go. This is from John.

13:35John. John John. John John John. Great name. And Mayer Lick, if you want one. I love John John. The little boy on the Furies is called John Boy. I love John Boy. John Boy. That's what we call our John, is it John Boy? You call him John Boy? Yeah. Great name. Johnny Boy. Mayer Lick, if you want one, would be lip fillers. Subtle ones are fine, but when it's too much and it looks like she's got giant slugs on her face, it's just erg. Love the pod and how hilarious you guys are. So there you go. It's more serious, like the men's icks to women. Yeah, I don't think that's an ick. That's just like a preference.

14:05Yeah, I don't particularly like that. Do you know what I mean? Like an ick is like, ooh, cringey. Yeah, but I think... It's not cringey, is it? I don't think men have many icks to women because men will just go with any woman. Do you know what I mean? You know, they're not as critical as females. They just take whatever they can. I think that... I'll tell you what it can. You know, a guy's not going to not cop off with a girl because she's wearing white skinny jeans, but a girl would not cop off with a guy because he is wearing white skinny jeans. Yeah, I've got guys like that. Men couldn't care less, could they?

14:43Oh, he's done me again. You know, or like if you could... Because she fell over or something. If you did like a walk into the dance floor dance, a girl would just go, hell no. But if a guy would just, wouldn't even notice and go still try and cop off with her. I think there's... I think there's the truth in that. I think you'd go, cool, that was embarrassing. In your head. yeah yeah you just go cool have I ever given you a call that emotion no I genuinely can't think of one and the worst thing is I know there's loads you've got I've got loads for you yeah loads my worst one is when you say that's what I do to children you try and impress teenagers that's what I do is all your catchphrase that's what I do I was pissed once and I nailed I nailed it or something I don't know what I did but I did something really good That's just what I'd do.

15:30You guessed a song that was in the charts. You sang it because we were listening to you, me and Lucinda, out the window. Oh, look at the sand. Oh, you see the sand coming in there. Jeez. It's all in the trees. Oh, my God. It's like the film The Mummy. No normal person's ever watched that film, guys. The Mummy? The Mummy. Brendan Fraser, you never saw that? Where he gets locked in the pyramid. You've seen The Mummy. I know what it is. It's BC and Dad, watch him now. What do you mean? No. It was a blockbuster. It was a big summer. The Mummy isn't like The Rock in there or something. He was in the sequel.

16:05No, it's Brendan Fraser, isn't it? It's Brendan Fraser. He was in the sequel, The Rock. He was, yeah, he played the villain. I don't really know him from anything else other than The Mummy. Oh, you guys have got to watch The Mummy. I think the kids would like that. The Mummy? Yeah, I'm a certain age. That's a Nick, a grown man watching The Mummy. It's just a nerve. What do you think about getting pumped up in the chair? Would you? That's hysterical. If you think about it. I actually wouldn't even... Think about it? No. I just don't understand the concepts of why it's only men getting pumped up.

16:38No, because the men... The only logical thing I can think about is a man... A male would be taller than a female hairdresser, so he needs to raise them up so he can... You raise me, yeah. Yeah, I know what you mean. Yeah, logically it makes sense. But it's quite demoralising when you see just other men around. Can you imagine your wife, can you imagine your missus left you because she got pumped up? In a barbers. Oh, mate. I think that's along the same lines as the pilot. You get pumped down. I do, yeah. Yeah, I think that all that is is like the lack of control. It's like the pilot. I think the pilot's driving and, you know, the ick is someone who doesn't take charge.

17:17And I think the barbers is, you know, so vulnerable. I had an ick. I had an ick with that estate agent we went to this house we viewed this house but it was a derelict house okay and he was scared to go in and it like and he wouldn't step on like the floorboards and stuff and I was just like is that for real? it gave me such an ick he was like going through the door it's like like it's haunted he was just like no just he was too scared to step on the and I was like come on like I don't know what you mean do you know what I mean? that is icky yeah Yeah, yeah. Okay, got one here from Corey. I like that name, Corey.

17:58It's a good name, actually, isn't it? Yeah, it's lovely. For girls or boys. Can you give me some advice on keeping yourself busy when you're newly single? I split up my long-term partner last year and recently started seeing someone new. It's ended up not working out for me because he was very emotionally unavailable. I'm trying to find things to do to keep me busy and enjoy spending all time on my own. I run a cleaning company, so that does take a lot of work but I want to maybe find a new hobby etc okay yeah listen I think enjoy being on your own you know like it's great being in a relationship and you know you can do things together that's great but I also think there's great things you can do on your own you know you can travel I think you can travel you can do things that you know there's no one to say no just go and do it but I think some people kind of feel if they're not in a relationship, they're kind of failing or lacking in something.

18:55You're not. Which is not true. Being in a relationship doesn't define you as a person or who you are. I think if you work on yourself and you're comfortable in your own skin, she will attract the right person. But she shouldn't let being single define who she is. And I think... You sound like you and everybody's... No, no, no. I found the one, haven't I, babe? I'm totally happy. I don't feel like you're taking the piss, are we today? I'm not taking the piss, I mean that. But I also think... You should have a great time on your own.

19:32If I hadn't found the one, then there's loads of stuff that I would be doing. Like what? Fucking loads of stuff, loads of stuff. I'd be all over the world. I'd be... It'd be new adventures all the time. I think I'd explore. Well, that's really offensive. No, it's not offensive at all. It is. It's not offensive. Because I couldn't even imagine my life without you and I wouldn't... Not saying that. I would say that my life without you would be horrible. I'm not saying my life would be horrible. I'm saying my life, if I was single, I would do things. What? Are you missing out on being married? It's not saying that.

20:11It isn't about me, this is about Corey. Corey is single and I'm starting to say to her that it can be a good thing. Not me. I'm happy. But I'm talking about... Tell your face. I'm talking about... Okay, Peter. If you want to do stuff on your own, you crack on. You crack on. Next one. Okay. I think she should go out there and explore. Go travel for a bit. Explore what? Give her a hobby then. Give her a hobby. Depends what you're into, isn't it? Horse riding. Golf's a great hobby. you know you could travel if you're football orientated you could do like derbies all around the world like Buenos Aires go to River Plate Boca Juniors there you go Corey go to River Plate Boca Juniors what is that?

21:02I'd love to do that what even is that? it's just a massive Argentinian game of football I'll buy you a ticket for that and hopefully you don't come back Gone. Right, it's the perfect time to hear from our sponsors. And if you're enjoying this, then please like and subscribe.

21:2648 million people in the United States are adolescents between the ages of 14 and 24. They're working, parenting, leading, sometimes all at once. I'm balancing work and being a mom at the same time. And I'm still on track to graduate with my bachelor's next year. So what do today's young people need to truly thrive? Tune in to good things from Lemonada Media to hear the six-part Thrive series.

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22:26hey shall we get into the main bod of the episode yeah this is i am the arsehole part two oh do Remember last time we did it? It's had a good reaction. People loved it. People like weighing in on these. It is good. So we've got a few more for everyone. Yeah, it was like, was it a month or so? We had the maddest stories from Reddit's Am I the Arsehole. We heard about the woman. I like this. We heard about the woman who wanted to be called Granny in bed. Do you remember that? That's because the fellow was making her call her daddy. That was it. Someone was flashing his privates to his housemate's girlfriend.

23:00Do you remember that? Yes. we thought we'd look at some more babe am I the arsehole for winning the lottery no I recently won I recently won a fuck you amount I love it when people win the lottery I think it's great how often do people actually win the lottery though every week every week every week there's a new there's the odd rollover I love a rollover how often do people win the lottery? Every week? Does it know? You never hear about it? Or do they purposefully keep it under the radar? You do hear about it every week. I never see anyone. Has anyone won it twice? Do we know that? I know someone who won the lottery.

23:44Yeah, you do. Me. When I met you, baby. No. Smooth. No, the actual lottery. I know, I know. I know what you mean. There was a rumour, massive rumour. Still tight as a duck's arse. There was a rumour that Jermaine Defoe won the lottery. Did you hear this? I think, yeah, I've heard this been spoken about. I came out and asked him. And he said, I don't know where that's going. Someone's just spread that. Who's come up with Jermaine Defoe's won the lottery? And then it's just spread everywhere. It's like you loving your nachos or whatever it says. You loving the nachos. Yeah, that's a bumbo not getting into that.

24:22Just Google Peter Crouch and nachos and see what comes up. I think I love those memes on Instagram where it's like, if I won the lottery, I wouldn't tell anyone, but there will be signs. And there's like a woman with like a million puppies. All the dogs, do you know what I mean? Crabtree's having his nachos. Yeah, that nacho story's mental. I won't say exactly how much, but it's in the millions. It makes me feel funny even typing. It's enough to change the life of myself and my family. My ex-wife is the mother of my two kids. She's an amazing woman. Good to the bone. We divorced six years ago.

24:59Good to the bone. Because I had an affair with my current partner. Oh, what a 20. I was in a low place in my life and I screwed up. She was in incredible pain. Like a saint, she allowed me to see our kids. You mean the world to me. He wants this woman back. Allowed our divorce to be as pain-free as possible, despite the fact that I know she was hurting. She's still close to my parents. She's respectful to me, even though she refuses to talk to my girlfriend. She's actually the first person I phoned after I found out I won the lottery. She was pleased for me. Joked that I could take the kids on a round-the-world trip.

25:30And that was that. Nothing else. As soon as I won, I knew I wanted to give her a significant amount. I love this one where she's so nice. She's the mother of my babies, and I feel like this is in some small, tiny way I can show her that I'm not a complete screw-up. She deserves to know that I care despite my mistakes. with the money she would actually be able to pursue our hobbies and give our kids a better life etc long story short when i told my girlfriend she was livid screaming that i'm disrespecting her accusing me of still being in love with my ex-wife i'm not in love with her we've both grown apart but of course i still love her for being an excellent co-pairing partner and mother to my kids my girlfriend is threatening to break up with me and to be honest i'm feeling incredibly relieved over the threats.

26:17Wow. I don't change, I don't plan on changing my habits, but am I the arsehole? That's an interesting story. That is a really interesting story, yeah. He speaks nicely about his ex. Well, yeah. They sound like they should get back together and just go and spend some dollar together. Well, he says he's relieved over the threats that his current girlfriend might leave, so maybe. That whole thing, when you read it out, seems like he's desperate to go back to his ex, no? I know. The only problem with this story is that, you know, how many, you know, millionaires are deliberate in giving their ex-wife money?

26:55I imagine it's only one. So if his current missus is listening to this, you know she's about to be chipped. Yeah. That's true. Yeah, because most ex-husband millionaires are trying not to give the ex-wife a payout. Two for nail. Yeah. Yeah. it's uh yeah it's a funny one it's a really hard one because like i don't know can you be the arsehole when you're being generous but should you favor your current thing is if i was giving my ex-girlfriend money how would your reaction be you can look at it both ways but i just like the ex-wife more than the girlfriend yeah because she sounds nice yeah if that was you you wouldn't be But she broke up the marriage.

27:39He had an affair with her, Anna's wife. Yeah. So she can just do one. I get rid of her, get back with the ex and have a lovely time spending the millions. Fair play. It kind of feels that way. Yeah. Okay, so not the arsehole. He's not an arsehole. Nice. Well, he is an arsehole for having an affair, but... Yeah. That's a blot. Yeah, on his record. I think that's a nice thing to do. You know, the mother of his kids is giving her some help. Yeah. Financially. Yeah. Yeah, Sam. Okay, we'll move on. Am I the arsehole for helping my son name his stuffed tiger Tigg Bitties? Do you know Tigg old Bitties?

28:24No. It's Big Titties, Tigg Bitties. Yeah. Do you ever say that? No, I've never heard that. You've never heard that? Well, I've heard of Big Titties. They're not Tick Bitties. Tick Bitties? I don't know where that started, Tick Old Bitties. You are a different breed. Don't lie. It's Gaz or Men. Just worlds apart. The things he knows and doesn't know flabbergasts me. Honestly, it's so funny. It's so funny. It works both ways. I thought you'd be all over that. Tick Bitties? I thought you'd know what cucks were. I thought you'd know. No. No. Have I heard these things? Why should you? Well, yes, fair.

29:06My son won a stuffed tiger at the fair, and he wanted to name it Tig. He asked me what the last name should be, and I instantly replied, Bitties. Then I turned to my wife to share a smirk, and she was pissed. I quickly suggested we try a few different last names, but it was too late. My son liked Bitties, so insisted. isn't Bitty the thing that they say on oh you're Little Britain yeah oh my god that's where it must come from I think you've got it that must be it because I did think why Bitty yeah it's Titty it's Tig Bitty yeah obviously he's laughing obviously David Walliams knows what a Tig Bitty is I have to call him up so now his favourite toy tiger is called Mr Tig Bitty my wife says I've been completely inappropriate whereas I think it's just a silly joke that went over his head and we'll have no ramifications am I the arsehole I think that's a flippant funny gag that's gone probably on a bit too long I don't mean you should be you know you'd laugh at that have you ever like named toys with the kids and all that stuff do they all have names and things and is it ever inappropriate they've said inappropriate things without knowing what they're saying Oh yeah, the classic.

30:30And it's so hard not to laugh, isn't it? You can't say that, but we're looking at each other, trying to laugh. But you can't say those words. Yeah. That's happened a few times. So not the arsehole in that scenario. No, I don't think he's an arsehole. Bit of harmless fun. Yeah, a bit of harmless fun. I think it's cute. Am I the arsehole for calling my co-worker Chunky when she calls me slim? I have a female co-worker who repeatedly calls me out regarding my weight. I'm female, 5 '9", 115 pounds and very thin. She's very overweight. All the time she makes comments about my weight. She doesn't call me by my name.

31:11She calls me slim. And I even heard her say one time, go ask toothpick. And she said stuff like, you need some meat on your bones and you need to eat. I have only worked there eight days and I've asked her very nicely to stop. Yesterday, I asked her to stop calling me Slim again and she basically said it's her mouth and she can say what she wants. It's her mouth. And she can eat what she wants? We don't have HR. There's only six of us working here in a cupcake shop. Oh, God. We're all regular employees and when I try and speak to my owner manager, he completely ignores the situation, says it's a high school issue and we should figure it out.

31:53So I did. today when she said morning slim I replied morning chunky and she got upset and started crying everybody here at work only six years in total are saying I'm wrong and I should apologise because being called fat is different than being called skinny because being called skinny is a compliment I said as long as she calls me slim I'll call her chunky and now I'm the bad person am I the arsehole no she's not an arsehole but it's like a thing you know you're not allowed to fat shame people you're not really supposed to comment on people's appearance but if you if you're tall you can go wow look at you you're so lanky what's the air like up there and can you touch the sun and all that jazz that you get or you know you're so skinny you're so skinny and that you know you shouldn't be be able to to do that yeah i do find because i've had it my whole life right but you know if i went over to someone there's certain things that you can't say like people seem to think that you can say that to people right yeah you know if i went over to someone and said look at the size of your nose i mean that is massive you know that wouldn't be acceptable look how fat you are look how short you are but you could go wow you're so tall you're so skinny yeah but i mean maybe it's seen like i don't know like a good thing but you know still you know you can be too skinny and too tall kind of you know what I mean I know what you mean of an animal now but I have been in my life has it ever got on your nerves because I yeah listen you know like throughout my childhood it It was, it was, I was different, right?

33:41So it's like, you get, you get a bit of grief. But I've dealt with it over the years. Yeah. You've done very well. But, yeah, if someone, but I think I'm within my rights if someone said, oh, skinny, pass us a cup of tea or something. I'll go, all right, Porky. I think that's tip to tip. I don't think she's the arsehole. It's clearly upsetting her to be called slim and twiggy and whatever. but she's politely asked her to stop doing it can't be double standards it can't be double standards that toothpick shout is an is a nasty shout do you know what i mean like oh slim that you know that you can kind of it's almost like a nickname now isn't it but go and ask the toothpick is a bit it's outrageous actually yeah derogatory yeah so i don't think she's the arseholder I don't but would you ever retaliate yourself by saying morning chunky would you ever because I think there's a real there's much more of a stigma associated to that isn't there there is yeah we wouldn't do it to their face would we no I'd just do that all behind their back yeah I wouldn't want to offend her no of course not or I am or I am

34:58I'd probably just say morning bellend or something you know what I mean I just feel like yeah Yeah, you're such a dick. Morning knobhead. Yeah. Yeah, I think when you go personal, though, you're such a knob. Yeah, but she's been personal to her. I know, I know. So she can't have her cake and eat it, should we say? Great choice, great choice of an allergenus. Can't have a cupcake. Can't go have a cupcake and eat it. But I agree. I think it's a bit much, you know. You know, if someone's really nasty to you, the first thing you do is pick something on them to have a cover, I think. Maybe it shouldn't be that way, but that's...

35:31It's kind of how bullying works, isn't it? An eye for an eye makes us all blind. Exactly right. Well, good saying. Did you just make that up or was that saying? I think that's a saying, yeah. I've heard that before, yeah. An eye for an eye makes us all blind. A gentleman in the evening, gentleman in the morning. We're learning on this pod. Okay, so not... How are you feeling, Chris? You do look green. You just look green. Have you all got a bug? No, I know what I did. I know what I did. I'm a 28-year-old man planning on proposing to my girlfriend of three years. Now, I suck at picking out jewellery.

36:10I guess these are American ready. I think they must be. I suck. She was pissed. I suck at jewellery. I'm the type of guy. Guy as well. I'm the type of guy that doesn't see a problem with heart-shaped jewellery. Guy, you'd say guy. I wouldn't say I'm the type of guy. What would you say then? Type of man. You wouldn't. Type of fella. You'd say guy. I'm the type of guy that doesn't see a problem with heart-shaped jewellery. Seriously, why is it considered so ugly? So every time I want to buy something for my girl, I usually consult one of our mutual friends. My girl's best friends are all friends with me as well, and we get along.

36:47So asking them for help picking out jewellery is something I'm used to. I like the heart-shaped diamonds. I think they're nice. Maybe not in the US. Maybe they don't rate it over there. I consulted my best friend's, my girlfriend's best friend, Justine. Justine and I are quite close, and she knows my girlfriend better than anyone, including me. So when my girlfriend went out to visit her sister and baby nephew, I invited Justine over to the house to help pick out a ring. I feel like cut to the chase. Justine and I looked through a few catalogues, but decided it was a dead end, and we'd better if we go to professionals at the jewellery store.

37:21I didn't know when my girlfriend would be coming home, So Justine and I thought of a clever text to gauge how much time we had. I asked her when she'd be coming home as I was ordering takeout and wanted to know when to tell her to have the food. He needs to hurry up with the story. She responded by saying, you're so impatient with stories. She just want to know the punchline. I don't want to know that he was ordering a takeout and he got in the cab and he looked through a brochure. Come on. She responded by saying it would be a few hours because she'd just met up with Justine to go shopping. Ooh.

37:55What? Now, obviously, this took me by surprise since Justine was standing inside my house. Oh, no. I showed Justine the text and she looked as confused as I was. See, this is what was worth the wait. Juicy. When she came home, she acted like everything was completely normal. I played along, but it's been really hard to act like everything's fine. We got the takeout, or takeaway. We ate together. We cuddled on the couch after. So far, she's caught on a little that something's upsetting me, but I can't tell her what. Looking at her kills me. So did she carry it on like she was out with Justine? I don't know what to do.

38:39My girlfriend and I have zero trust issues, and we tell each other everything, so this is killing me. I want to ask her about it. It's so bad. But if I tell her I knew she was lying, I'd have to explain why. and I don't want to do that. Am I the arsehole for letting this one go? Yeah. You are an arsehole for letting this go, yeah. Unfortunately, you are. How the hell should you let that go? Oh, it's tough, that. Yeah, but he could just say, he doesn't have to say he was getting engaged during it. He could just say, I was planning something nice for you with Justine's help. So I know you weren't with Justine.

39:12So where were you? Yeah. Yeah, yeah, yeah. Unless there's two Justines. no no that's fuck me that's a that's hurtful that's outright yeah but he must be worried to death but is he he's getting he's out there buying jewellery oh no engagement ring shocker well she's obviously having an affair I mean that's where I'd just be like that's a definite affair yeah because if she was meeting one of her girlfriends she wouldn't lie would she no you wouldn't have to would you no Unless it's something completely innocent Like she's just done Pilates She's buying him something nice Imagine that That would be a great film That would be a good plot Be a good film Like that, you think they're having an affair She's doing something nice for him at the end And you're like, oh we both got it, cross wires I just want everyone to be happy I don't like all that heartache Heartbreak, it's just horrid It's the worst feeling in the world It's no good, that.

40:15It's no good. Get rid. Don't play. Don't wish your money, son. Well, at least find out. Find out, at least. Yeah. Yeah. Well, then you're going to hate agony abs in that case. It's a lot of heartbreak in these. Oh, bless you. Is there heartbreak in these? Well, yeah, they listen to dilemmas, aren't they? Go on, both. Give us an agony ab. Hi, Abby, Peter and the wider mega team. Please help with your honest, neutral viewpoint. I've been married for 20 years. We have a great family home and just four years left on the mortgage. Over the last year, I have come to hate, as in really hate, the street we live in.

40:52I put my dog in the car and drive out of the area to walk him. We live opposite a known drug dealer who is just vile, but clever enough the police can't catch. While my husband appreciates why I hate the road, he doesn't appreciate quite my level. And while he can turn a blind eye and thinks I should grin and bear the walk past the local oxygen thieves who are ruining our nice home. While I don't want to split from my husband as he is in the issue, I'm willing to divorce and move elsewhere alone. I don't think he believes my intentions but honestly, I'm done. He is super stubborn and thinks A, I'm not being serious, B, I'm being unreasonable and C, I just won't go through with it, D, moving will add 20 years to the mortgage.

41:33I would downsize in order to keep the mortgage down. What should I do? Is my desire to enjoy life worth more than a few extra mortgage years. I'm already resenting my hubby for not agreeing. I love him, but despise my home environment for factors outside of our control. Wow. Please keep me anonymous. Wow. Well, that is a serious problem. It is. The fact that she is willing to divorce the husband that she loves, because she hates it there so much. Surely, I don't know, if it's almost your duty as a husband and father. I think happy wife, happy life. No, I don't, I do think that. And I think if I was so unhappy in our home, you would change it for me.

42:16I think, you know, I can only speak for you because I'd only be married to you. But I just think, you know, women, i.e. you, you're so very particular about where you live and your home. I think men are kind of, you know, it's not, I could be happy. You've already said you can pretty travel on your own and do that. I'm just saying, like, I'm not getting that point across properly, but I just think the home is very sacred for a woman. It's the kind of nesting thing is a real thing, I think. It is for you. I think if you weren't happy in your home, I would do everything in my power to move you. Well, when we got our new house, I viewed it without Peter.

43:00And I said, I'll take it. And the guy was like, do you not need to ask your husband first? and I was like, no, because he'll be happy if I'm happy. Aw. Which is just incredible, isn't it? What a great husband you've got. You're the best. You're the best. But, you know, that sounds really brattish, but I know Pete and I love the same thing. So I just knew he would die when he saw it and love it. No, I know that the house is going to be nice, right? And, like, you know, I'll have my opinion, but ultimately I want you to be happy in the home. Yeah. Mainly. I think, of course I'm going to be happy in it and I love it as well, but I think if your wife and kids are happy, that is kind of like what we're doing it all for, isn't it?

43:50That's what we're striving for, isn't it? Yeah. So when she's not like that, I do think he has to maybe, you know, at least look at some options. Yeah, I think there needs to be a discussion here. he needs to take her feelings seriously because obviously it is a financial headache you know swapping your mortgage over and maybe adding on to your mortgage so there is a conversation to be had there but if she's really that unhappy he should listen because I think there's an element like she'll resent him in the future I've had people who've gone like she wants to move again I'm like you know and they're like fuming about it and I can understand you're digging the ears again I'm not moving again that's it but when you're that unhappy I think that's a different story yeah yeah agreed must be some bad neighbourhood to want to divorce over it that must be awful over there I wonder Anon if you can write in just let us know where you are that'd be that'd be great to know cool hi guys love you all genuinely you are my happy place and keep me sane Abby is Abby however is my idol oh she's total goals I've recently lost weight I'm a tall girl like Abby but in height only my boobs have sadly gone like spaniel's ears and so I wondered what boob size is Abby I don't want to look big if I have a boob job and Abby has lovely boobs and still looks uber slim and fit please share the size before my husband pumps me up to double D thank you Sarah well they're definitely not a double D they were but those slippery little suckers suck the lip out of me

45:38I don't even know my comfy bras don't come in sizes now what size are you? because they're elasticated

45:48I don't know see you've got lovely boobs this is so bizarre I just don't want to have this conversation feeling very vulnerable right now I'm feeling vulnerable. Yeah. I can understand why you're feeling vulnerable. Yeah, they are nice. Shall we give us a size before we move on or not? No, I'll text her. Okay, we'll let you know. Okay, well, Stacey from Newcastle says, Hi, Abby, Pete and Gaz. Absolutely love the pod. Always listen to it on the morning while I'm doing my hair and make up for work. I need help. I've started dating a guy from work. No one at work knows yet, which is exciting. and means no drama.

46:30But I also don't want it to, I don't want to be used. Is this that office husband thing? Oh, yeah, work wives, office husbands. She's saying I also don't want to just be used, which I'll explain now. We have worked together for a few years and we spoke here and there, nothing major. Then a few weeks ago, he started talking to me more, added me on Facebook, and now we message nonstop. He's very complimentary, which is lovely because I have low confidence. But I'm stuck between, is he just being nice? or is this a love bomb? We've only gone out twice and already he's on about going away to hotels for the night.

47:08Dirty bugger. Saying he misses me when we aren't together. But what threw me off is when he joked about living together. I have my own house, a two-bed semi with my dogs. It's nothing fancy, but it's good enough for us. Whereas he lives in a shared house where he's been living to save money after his breakup. do you think it is normal for someone to be so full on this early? And am I just overthinking? Or do you think he is love bombing me as an easy target? Because I'm a low confidence girl for somewhere better to live. I'm 31, nearly 32. I really don't have another four years to waste on someone.

47:45Thanks in advance. If this gets read, keep doing what you're doing with the pod and smashing it. It makes my mornings better. Stacey in Newcastle. Oh, no. What's love bombing? love bombing so do you want to explain do you know I don't know what that is you guys I've only just got over bloody photobombing it's kind of a similar concept in a way love bombing is someone who just inundates you so much with love up front to kind of get your guard down and then has like nefarious kind of means for it has an ulterior motive ulterior motive but they'll be fantastic for like a month they'll be like literally amazing and then we'll just turn and that's a love bomb

48:25love bomb love bomb cock bomb cock bomb oh that's not nice yeah I just don't let it move in just shower take the gifts take the compliments wait it make it wait five years yeah sensible job done I think it's a sensible outcome it's not nice to have those thoughts though is it but that's it if you're starting having those thoughts already it's not a good place to be they stay there won't they it's not a nice you don't want to be going into a new relationship with those kind of feelings but I think there is trust your gut if a gut's saying that I think just to try and enjoy it enjoy it and give it time and see what happens if he starts to mention living in just she should just bat it off oh god I'm not having any men in here I just like I just like being me and my dogs that's great yeah that's great you know and make light of the situation and put it to bed don't you think 100 % and then she should just because if he's a rat rat yeah if he's a rat why does that have to be a rat no but if he's a rat it'll come out well you know no I think that's good yeah play it off lightly and if he keeps mentioning about it you're like oh something's up here then it's just more red flags isn't it Yeah.

49:51Yeah. Fair play. Sound. All right, some good advice there. Well done, babe. Well done to you. Well done, guys. Just give ourselves a pat on the back. Well done, Chris. How many times are we on now, Chris? Nine. Nine. You're making me feel sick looking at you. I want to be sick. I can't. I can't. I don't want to vomit. No, neither do I. Lucy's little boy calls it vomitating. Vomitating? He said, Mom, I vomitated last night. That's great. Well, yeah, that's all, folks. See you next week. Enjoyed that. See you next time.

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