Podcast · 65 episodes

Respectful Parenting: Janet Lansbury Unruffled

by JLML Press · English

In the 25+ years Janet Lansbury has worked with children and parents, she's learned a lot. She's here to share it with you. Each episode of Unruffled addresses a reader's parenting issue through the lens of Janet's respectful parenting approach, consistently offering a perspective shift that ultimately frees parents of the need for scripts, strategies, tricks, and tactics. Janet is a parenting author and consultant whose website (JanetLansbury.com) is visited by millions of readers annually. Her work informs, inspires, and supports caregivers of infants and toddlers across the globe, helping to create authentic relationships of respect, trust, and love. Janet's "No Bad Kids Master Course" is available at NoBadKidsCourse and JanetLansbury. Her best-selling books “No Bad Kids: Toddler Discipline without Shame” and "Elevating Child Care: A Guide to Respectful Parenting" are available in all formats at Amazon, Barnes & Noble, or wherever you buy your books. Featured in The New Yorker, recommended 'Best Parenting Podcast' by The Washington Post, The New York Times, USA Today, The Cut, Fatherly, Today's Parent, and many, many more. Please note: This podcast is for informational and entertainment purposes only. The views and advice presented on this podcast by Janet Lansbury and her guests are based on their training and experience. Opinions are offered in good faith but do not constitute professional, psychiatric, or medical advice, neither are they intended to be. You do not have to use this information, and it should not be substituted for qualified medical expertise. Copyright JLML Press (2026) All Rights Reserved

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Does This Stuff Actually Work? Parents Write BackJanet Lansbury shares positive parent follow-ups to her advice on (1) meltdowns at drop-off and hard transitions, and (2) a toddler scared of everything.29 Sep 2026 · 23 min

Connecting with Kids Shouldn't Be a PerformanceJanet Lansbury (Unruffled) argues that “connecting with kids” should never mean making them perform or imitate adults for entertainment.22 Sep 2026 · 23 min

Don’t Let School Be the End of PlayTransition to kindergarten/public school while protecting children’s independent, unstructured play; parenting as “holding on and letting go”; how to structure after-school time for play and downtime.15 Sep 2026 · 24 min

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End of the Day Crazies With KidsEnd-of-day “crazies” in parenting—how to handle kids’ dysregulation after school/childcare using expectations, routines, boundary-setting, and “professional hat” quality time; includes practical…8 Sep 2026 · 28 min · 9 chapters

The Counterintuitive Fix for Meltdowns at Drop-Off (and Other Hard Feelings) Janet Lansbury (Unruffled) addresses difficult drop-offs and other “hard feelings” in young children, arguing for a counterintuitive approach: stop trying to “fix” the behavior in the moment and…1 Sep 2026 · 24 min · 7 chapters

Handling Our Kids' Explosive Anger (with Loryn Brantz)Parenting intense “explosive anger” by letting children have emotional meltdowns, not intervening during dysregulation, and using a calm adult mindset to wait until the child can self-regulate.25 Aug 2026 · 29 min · 10 chapters

My Toddler Is Scared of EverythingResponding to a 2.5-year-old’s escalating fears (vacuum, dishwasher, birds, cars, even bath/house) without “rescuing” or trying to reason her out of it.18 Aug 2026 · 32 min · 8 chapters

Your Toddler Isn’t Listening. Here’s Why.Toddler “not listening” at ~13.5–15 months; how to set boundaries by understanding the child’s perspective and stopping early without lots of verbal reasoning.11 Aug 2026 · 29 min · 10 chapters

The Scary Things Kids Need to Tell UsJanet Lansbury (Unruffled) responds to a parent whose highly sensitive 5.5-year-old daughter repeatedly expresses fear of dying and “wanting to die,” especially after a major move and upcoming school.4 Aug 2026 · 23 min · 7 chapters

Painfully Shy in Public, Spirited at Home (What's Up with That?)Parenting a 3.5-year-old who appears “painfully shy” with other kids and in gymnastics, but is strong-willed and opinionated at home.28 Jul 2026 · 26 min · 6 chapters

Can We Overcome Our Upbringing?Parenting and healing from upbringing to set firm, gentle boundaries—especially around screen time—without lecturing, negotiating, or yelling.21 Jul 2026 · 26 min · 7 chapters

A Child's Rocky Transition (Why It Means She's Doing Her Job)Janet Lansbury (Unruffled) responds to a stay-at-home mom running an in-home learning group and struggling with a 2.5-year-old girl who cries often, rapidly switches activities, and repeatedly asks…14 Jul 2026 · 24 min · 8 chapters

Gentle Parenting is Failing Parents. Here's Why.Janet Lansbury argues that “gentle parenting” is often misunderstood and therefore “fails” parents—mainly because it’s framed as being gentle/over-explaining rather than confident, respectful…7 Jul 2026 · 38 min · 15 chapters

Being Authentic When It Feels MeanHow to stay authentic with children when your feelings (especially anger/annoyance) make you feel like your boundaries will “feel mean.” Janet Lansbury argues that authenticity doesn’t mean…30 Jun 2026 · 27 min · 7 chapters

When Daily Tasks Turn Into Daily Battles: Transitions, Conflict, and Real ConnectionJanet Lansbury (Unruffled) responds to a single mom about daily “battles” during transitions—getting dressed, brushing hair, bathing, and teeth brushing—especially since age three.23 Jun 2026 · 30 min · 9 chapters

Peer Play. Using Our Power to Help Kids Thrive SociallyThe episode “Peer Play” (Unruffled) focuses on how kids develop social skills through respectful parenting—especially via parental boundaries and trust, not direct instruction.16 Jun 2026 · 28 min · 13 chapters

How to Stop Kids from InterruptingHow to handle a toddler interrupting adult conversations—especially at family dinner—using clear boundaries, realistic expectations, and “readiness” rather than constant inclusion.9 Jun 2026 · 29 min · 7 chapters

The Answer to HittingHow to respond when a toddler talks about or attempts hitting, framing it as dysregulation and a bid for help during major transitions (especially pregnancy/new sibling), not “badness.”2 Jun 2026 · 23 min · 13 chapters

Dealing with Judgmental Comments About Our ParentingHow to handle judgmental, shaming comments from grandparents/relatives about parenting, and how to prevent “outside noise” from confusing or harming children.26 May 2026 · 26 min · 10 chapters

Potty Learning: How and Why to Let Children Lead the WayChild-led “potty learning” (toilet training) using Janet Lansbury’s perspective aligned with Magda Gerber: children should direct the process while parents provide a supportive, low-pressure…19 May 2026 · 26 min · 10 chapters

How to Truly Connect When You CorrectParenting “connect when you correct” during a child’s dysregulated, impulsive moments; distinguishing clear boundaries from shame; aligning co-parents’ responses.12 May 2026 · 26 min · 6 chapters

How to Survive an Upset ChildHow to “survive” a child’s upset/meltdown while keeping calm, holding boundaries, and not absorbing the child’s emotions—so the child can process feelings and build resilience.5 May 2026 · 33 min · 8 chapters

We Can't Make Them ShareHow to teach a 2.5-year-old to share without forcing it, using respect, clear boundaries, and modeling generosity.28 Apr 2026 · 24 min · 4 chapters

3 Reasons Your Toddler Rejects You for Their Other ParentWhy toddlers sometimes reject one parent and prefer the other, and how the rejected parent should respond.21 Apr 2026 · 27 min · 10 chapters